Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

people discover the utility of certain internet sites in a certain sequence, starting
with the simpler ones and graduating over time to the more complex. It’s
relatively rare for anyone to start out with complex photo sharing site without
having first tried out more user-friendly social media sites, such as Facebook or
Tumblr. In other words, someone with a Flickr photo-sharing account almost
certainly has a Facebook or similar account. So, why might someone want to
conceal his Facebook page from someone with whom he is in a committed
relationship?
He doesn’t have a phone. Really? We live in an age where elementary schools
have to establish rules forbidding 8-year-olds from taking their cell phones to
school, but he doesn’t have a phone. Your friendly neighborhood Wal~Mart
sells pre-paid cellular phones for $10, but he doesn’t have a phone. It’s far, far
more likely that he does have a phone; he simply doesn’t want to give you his
number. You probably won’t even need to use up all three of your guesses to
figure out why not.
He’s only online very, very late at night, and into the wee hours. Translation:
He has to wait until his wife is asleep. Award yourself extra points if he has to
log off unexpectedly and without warning for no apparent reason, or because
“something came up” at 3 AM. I don’t know about you, but there’s not a whole
lot going on in my life at 3 AM. Here’s what that abrupt late-night log-off really
means: “Whoops. Accidentally woke up my wife.”
He isn’t involved in any significant way with real-life local BDSM groups or
activities. And what a surprise, he doesn’t want you to get involved in any,
either! Typically, he will justify this restriction by characterizing everyone in
these groups as jerks and phonies, and claiming that he simply doesn’t want
them to teach you any bad habits or take advantage of you. Translation: “I have
no idea what I’m doing, and if you start hanging out with people who do, you
might figure that out. If anyone is going to take advantage of you, it should be
me.”
He has long spells - some lasting weeks or longer - where he simply seems to
drop off the face of the earth. There’s never any warning before it happens, and
nothing at all during the dry-spell. No phone calls, text messages, nor even an
email. When he returns, the explanation strains credulity. It’s usually
something like his laptop stopped working, or his grandmother died. The
explanation makes very little sense, since most people these days have multiple