Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

by a radioactive mule.” (Hat tip to author Shannon Hale. I just love this
description.)
The next step is where things get a little more complicated. Attempt to do the
very same thing for your potential
partner. While it would certainly be helpful at this point if you were a mindreader,
chances are pretty good that you aren’t. Therefore, the next best
strategy is to simply ask your potential love-interest. There are lots of different
ways you can phrase these questions, but the easiest is typically something like,
“Wow! So, you’re into foot-worship! Have all your past lovers been into that, as
well? Or is this something you are able to compromise on?” When you phrase it
that way, it just sounds more like rapt fascination and less like a job interview.
Once you are able to compare these two lists, noting your abilities to
compromise on key relationship issues, it becomes relatively easy to know if the
two of you are traveling along intersecting paths, or moving in opposite
directions. If it appears that the two of you are moving in opposite directions, it
doesn’t mean your potential mate is a bad person. It simply means that your
time would be better spent talking to someone with whom you actually have a
sliver of a chance of success at a lasting relationship. Focus your time and
energy where it
has the greatest potential for success.