Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

Where Is It Going?
Major League Baseball manager Yogi Berra once said, “If you don’t know
where you’re going... you might not get there.” This
is never truer than when it comes to online BDSM relationships. It’s
incredibly easy to find yourself entangled in an online relationship before you
even realize what has transpired. If you find yourself waking up or going to
sleep with thoughts of your online paramour, spending time online simply in the
hope of seeing that person log on, or putting real life responsibilities off to spend
time chatting with that person, it’s time to face the awful
truth: Surprise! You’re in an online relationship.
The question you should ask yourself is: Is this a relationship that is destined to
go anywhere I want to be? It
helps, of course, to have some idea where you want to eventually end up; the
operative word being eventually. You may not be able to make certain changes
in your life right now, but choosing any path that leads in a direction that doesn’t
move you closer to your goals would be counter-productive, at best.
It’s been said that men often marry expecting that their spouses will never
change, but women marry expecting that their spouses will.
Both strategies are completely unrealistic, but they handily demonstrate the
prevalence of denial and self-delusion that is common at the start of many
relationships. If you think online relationships are particularly
susceptible, you’re right. And online BDSM relationships are doubly so. As we
mentioned earlier in this chapter, the odds of your
online BDSM relationship lasting two years or more are roughly 1 in 50.
For the math-challenged, those are not great odds.