Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

· The percentage of vanilla online dating profiles with a significant
number of lies in them was 81%. This suggests that the number for
anonymous BDSM chat room profiles is likely even higher.
· Just 4% of vanilla relationships that start online last two years or more,
which suggests that for BDSM relationships, that number is probably
closer to 2%.
· If you are age 40-69, you are 56% more likely to be in that semisuccessful
2% .
Depressed yet? If you aren’t, you haven’t been paying attention. If these
statistics and our estimates are accurate, then the odds of your online BDSM
relationship lasting over two years are roughly 50 to 1. On the bright side, your
odds of being killed by lightning are encouraging, at 2.3 million to 1. This
brings us back to the question we posed earlier, which is: What kinds of things
should be allowed to leak from one world to the other, and where should we
draw the line? If your online BDSM relationship has a very high probability of
failing in the not-too-distant future (and it does) then it may not be wise to hand
that person the potential ability to wreak havoc in your real-life circumstances,
relationships or career.
You may think you’re giving away meaningless snippets of personal information
that can’t be assembled into anything that can be used against you once the
relationship sours, but think again. One online submissive thought she was
being clever and careful by giving her online Master just her first name and the
state she lived in. She didn’t realize that a simple public records database search
would reveal that there were just three people in the entire state with the same
unique first name, and two of them were over seventy years old. After their
angry break-up, her spiteful former online Master needed just five minutes to
find her full name, home phone number, and her home address, where she lived
with her unsuspecting vanilla husband and three elementary school-aged
children. What followed was a month of harassing phone calls and even a
clumsy blackmail attempt, which finally led the beleaguered couple to seek a
restraining order.
There are lots of different ways that your expectations of anonymity can be
demolished in a heartbeat. If you’re one of those people who has nothing to
lose, or you simply aren’t worried about keeping your virtual life separate from