Domination & submission _ the BDSM relationship handbook ( PDFDrive )

like pit bulls until we were completely spent. Even then, he somehow managed
to pin me down until I stopped struggling. Then we just looked at each other
silently for a minute, and suddenly we couldn’t stop laughing. Then we had
what I can only describe as the most incredible sex, ever. We should have done
this a long, long time ago.”
Sometimes, a person may be fully aware of their primal nature, yet still be
unsure about how it can be expressed as part of a public scene. After all, it is
something that is often misunderstood, even within the BDSM lifestyle, and can
sometimes lead to potentially embarrassing or even dangerous situations.
Kevin P., a thirty-year-old living in Florida, described to me the first time he’d
allowed his primal side to come out at a public gathering:
“I was at one of our group’s monthly play parties, held at the spacious home of
one of our group members, watching a couple of friends do a knife play scene.
Across from me, I noticed Nora, one of the newer members of the group staring
directly at me. Once I noticed her, I just couldn’t take my eyes off of her. We
had chatted briefly at the last get-together, but it was just your typical smalltalk.
This was something completely different. We probably said more in those
few minutes of silently staring at each other than any conversation, no matter
how deep, ever could.
I walked around the group of people gathered to watch another couple doing a
scene. Her gaze never left me as I slowly circled around the group and around
her as well. I stopped between the kitchen and the living room. Then it was her
turn to circle me, I guess. She started to move past me, and as she did, she put
her face right up to my shirt and sniffed me, then moved on past me a few steps
and stopped, as if she were daring me to follow her. I moved past her towards
the door that led outside to the patio, and opened it. She stepped thru, and I
followed out onto the patio, where a few people were enjoying their cigarettes.
There, in the back yard, we both started silently circling each other, the way
boxers or MMA fighters do in the ring, completely oblivious to the other people
on the patio watching us. Our circling got tighter, and turned into touches,
pokes, and her raking her fingernails across my bare skin. I finally pulled her
close to kiss her, but when I did, she turned away from my kiss and sank her
teeth so hard into my jawline that it broke the skin! I was surprised, bleeding
and angry, and without even thinking, I just slapped her hard across the face.