INformed People Magazine draft 3

Now the key here is to check off any of these behaviors you have exhibited as grown
adult.
I rest my case.
We have all been hurt as children. There are many ways that can happen. Loss of
loved one early in life, all of the abuses, verbal, physical, sexual, emotional, neglect,
and the list goes on. Many of us never have an opportunity to heal from any of it
until later in life when things start falling apart like a three-dollar watch. That little
person inside, that hurt little boy or girl comes out fighting every time on our behalf.
So, let?s say boy meets girl, or girl meets girl, or boy meets boy and they are
expecting to have an intimate relationship, the most emotionally charged
relationship on the planet. One partner is six emotionally, and the other is nine.
What does a six-year-old or a nine-year-old know about having a relationship,
building a home, and even family? Does this in some way help to explain our family
dynamics of the 21st century?
Many of us carry that victim feeling and behaviors into our adult world. When we
have had traumatic events, we are impacted on many levels particularly
emotionally. It is not the incident itself that holds us back, it is the intense emotions
attached to it that we carry. To sooth the soul then becomes our mode of operation.
Addictions, overachieving, perfectionism, mental illness, and control are just a few of
the manifestations of a person who is not emotionally well and this all leads to a
lack of self-love and self-worth. We cannot reclaim it by constantly going outside of
our self. A new relationship, a renovated kitchen, a new vehicle, a new career will
never satisfy the healing that needs to be done. It is an inside job so lets roll up our
sleeves and do the personal work so we can move forward and approach all of our
situations from an emotionally mature stance.
Laurie Davis is the founder of Self Worth the Missing Link
Linkwww.selfworththemissinglink.com
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