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Now the key here is to check off any of these behaviors you have exhibited as grown<br />
adult.<br />
I rest my case.<br />
We have all been hurt as children. There are many ways that can happen. Loss of<br />
loved one early in life, all of the abuses, verbal, physical, sexual, emotional, neglect,<br />
and the list goes on. Many of us never have an opportunity to heal from any of it<br />
until later in life when things start falling apart like a three-dollar watch. That little<br />
person inside, that hurt little boy or girl comes out fighting every time on our behalf.<br />
So, let?s say boy meets girl, or girl meets girl, or boy meets boy and they are<br />
expecting to have an intimate relationship, the most emotionally charged<br />
relationship on the planet. One partner is six emotionally, and the other is nine.<br />
What does a six-year-old or a nine-year-old know about having a relationship,<br />
building a home, and even family? Does this in some way help to explain our family<br />
dynamics of the 21st century?<br />
Many of us carry that victim feeling and behaviors into our adult world. When we<br />
have had traumatic events, we are impacted on many levels particularly<br />
emotionally. It is not the incident itself that holds us back, it is the intense emotions<br />
attached to it that we carry. To sooth the soul then becomes our mode of operation.<br />
Addictions, overachieving, perfectionism, mental illness, and control are just a few of<br />
the manifestations of a person who is not emotionally well and this all leads to a<br />
lack of self-love and self-worth. We cannot reclaim it by constantly going outside of<br />
our self. A new relationship, a renovated kitchen, a new vehicle, a new career will<br />
never satisfy the healing that needs to be done. It is an inside job so lets roll up our<br />
sleeves and do the personal work so we can move forward and approach all of our<br />
situations from an emotionally mature stance.<br />
Laurie Davis is the founder of Self Worth the Missing Link<br />
Linkwww.selfworththemissinglink.com<br />
www.lauriehdavis.com