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<strong>Issue</strong> 6 <strong>Vol</strong>ume 2<br />

July 2020<br />

S1<br />

THE MIDDLE<br />

EAST’S<br />

VERY OWN<br />

KING<br />

OF<br />

POP<br />

VOICES:<br />

RABEAH<br />

RAHIMI<br />

A Refugee’s Story of<br />

Her Path to Success<br />

<strong>and</strong> Inner Peace<br />

8 MUST-VISIT<br />

UAE CULTURAL SITES<br />

BEHIND THE BRAND WITH<br />

GARFIELD<br />

KERR<br />

Owner <strong>and</strong> Entrepreneur,<br />

Mokha 1450 Coffee Boutique<br />

THE ABAYA<br />

ORIGINS AND FASHION<br />

INSPIRATION FOR SUMMER<br />

WHY YOU SHOULD PRACTISE<br />

SELF-CARE<br />

AS A LEADER<br />

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We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence,<br />

then, is not an act, but a habit.<br />

Aristotle<br />

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Editorial<br />

Editor in chief<br />

Marsha Fry<br />

marsha@out<strong>and</strong>aboutmag.com<br />

Editor<br />

Shella l<strong>and</strong>ayan<br />

info@out<strong>and</strong>aboutmag.com<br />

art<br />

advertising<br />

Art director<br />

nakul thanekar<br />

nakul.thanekar89@gmail.com<br />

sales & marketing director<br />

Andre Marshal<br />

+971 50 127 8820<br />

sales@out<strong>and</strong>aboutmag.com<br />

general enquiries<br />

On this<br />

month's<br />

cover<br />

Interview: S1, The Middle<br />

East’s Very Own<br />

King of Pop<br />

Photographer: TG Media<br />

Styling: S1<br />

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Editor’s<br />

Welcome<br />

Starting over requires no<br />

explanation to anyone,<br />

requires no specific date,<br />

requires nothing more than<br />

you saying, ‘It’s time’.<br />

~Anna Pereira<br />

Most of us experienced rebirth <strong>and</strong> a period of reinvention<br />

at one point in our lives. You might have asked yourself<br />

many times, “Can I carry on?” or “How can I begin<br />

again?”<br />

Continue, even though the road is difficult <strong>and</strong><br />

treacherous. Rainbows are a testament to a new beginning<br />

after torrential rains, <strong>and</strong> so is a sunrise after a long night.<br />

To give birth to a new you means being open to a whole<br />

new world of possibilities <strong>and</strong> positive changes. Get up<br />

<strong>and</strong> work hard again, <strong>and</strong> be a better you! With resilience,<br />

faith, <strong>and</strong> courage, you can go through everything!<br />

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A brief announcement to all our valued readers: starting<br />

this issue, we are now <strong>Out</strong> <strong>and</strong> <strong>About</strong> <strong>Mag</strong>azine—<strong>and</strong><br />

we still carry with us the vision to spread inspiration,<br />

encouragement, knowledge, <strong>and</strong> positivity wherever you<br />

are out <strong>and</strong> about!


Features <strong>and</strong> Highlights<br />

In our Fashion feature, we researched for the wonderful<br />

history of the ubiquitous abaya, adding styling tips as well<br />

to slay the summer with it. Check out The Abaya: Origins<br />

<strong>and</strong> Fashion Inspiration for Summer. Perseverance,<br />

creativity <strong>and</strong> authenticity: Dominique Devereaux<br />

Bedford reveals her story <strong>and</strong> passion as a stylist <strong>and</strong><br />

designer. Read her interview <strong>and</strong> be inspired!<br />

We are all beautiful <strong>and</strong> unique, a fact that we should<br />

be proud of. Love your skin inside <strong>and</strong> out through<br />

Underst<strong>and</strong>ing Shades <strong>and</strong> Undertones <strong>and</strong> Picking<br />

the Right Foundation for your Undertone! Do you want<br />

to save the planet while staying clean <strong>and</strong> glowing? Read<br />

on Reusable Makeup Removers: 7 Recommended<br />

Products to learn how. Find these articles in our Beauty<br />

section.<br />

Gracing our Behind the Br<strong>and</strong> feature is a passionate face<br />

of entrepreneurship: Garfield Kerr, CEO of Mokha 1450<br />

Coffee Boutique. He generously shared with us his love<br />

for coffee, to ‘always do what you love <strong>and</strong> never be afraid<br />

to fail’. We listened to his personal thoughts <strong>and</strong> insightful<br />

perspectives on success, failure <strong>and</strong> entrepreneurship.<br />

Reaching your dreams is not an easy journey. Actress<br />

Rabeah Rahimi fought her way to achieve her goals<br />

in life. Find her story in I brought My Dreams From<br />

Afghanistan To Berlin in Voices. In Taking Lessons, we<br />

meet the transformational CEO <strong>and</strong> entrepreneur, Asil<br />

Attar, who believes that “each one of us is unique <strong>and</strong><br />

has something special to offer”. She shares that one of<br />

her passions is enabling others to follow their dreams—<br />

to inspire, motivate <strong>and</strong> empower them. Feed your mind<br />

<strong>and</strong> soul with Rabeah <strong>and</strong> Asil’s stories of inspiration <strong>and</strong><br />

success.<br />

Working hard <strong>and</strong> reinventing one’s self from time to time:<br />

The Middle East’s Very own King of Pop, S1, says that<br />

this is the key to staying relevant <strong>and</strong> interesting. Meet<br />

S1 in our Talent Pool feature <strong>and</strong> find out more about<br />

his passion for music <strong>and</strong> journey in the entertainment<br />

industry.<br />

Underst<strong>and</strong>ing our personalities is important to assess<br />

our own behaviour <strong>and</strong> emotional responses. Do You<br />

Know Your Attachment Style? If you want to know,<br />

read on about this informative article in our Lifestyle<br />

feature. Learn new ways of dealing with anxiety <strong>and</strong> stress<br />

through Neuro-Linguistic Programming. To improve<br />

your leadership skills <strong>and</strong> gain productive habits, we’re<br />

here to tell you Why You Should Practise Self-Care as<br />

a Leader.<br />

If you want to make healthy <strong>and</strong> delicious food that you<br />

can easily store in the fridge, we’ve got you! Read our 5<br />

Mason Jar Recipes in our Food section. At this time, we<br />

all know that exercising in gyms is still not the best option<br />

to pursue your fitness goals. In our Fitness feature, we<br />

listed Absolute Home Fitness Essentials so you can stay<br />

fit in the comfort of your own home.<br />

You can plan your travel bucket list in advance, so if you’re<br />

looking for places to go where you can learn the UAE’s<br />

rich <strong>and</strong> beautiful culture, we recommend 8 Must-Visit<br />

UAE Cultural Sites in our Travel section.<br />

To continue to enrich your knowledge <strong>and</strong> build<br />

confidence, read our articles in For the Culture section.<br />

Check out Leisa Grace Wilson’s tips for aspiring <strong>and</strong><br />

bustling entrepreneurs in The Number One Reason Most<br />

Startups Fail <strong>and</strong> learn how to avoid the pitfalls. Yvonne<br />

Mtengwa’s regular column in The Reinvented Chronicles<br />

features 8 Hacks to Invoking Courage in Difficult<br />

Times, which is exactly what we need during these trying<br />

times. Jerome Douglas, on the other h<strong>and</strong>, encourages us<br />

to raise our own flags, to Be Proud of the Truth <strong>About</strong><br />

You. Finally, we feature Atomic Habits by James Clear in<br />

our Book Review feature. Atomic Habits discusses the<br />

power of letting go of old habits, developing new <strong>and</strong><br />

productive ones, <strong>and</strong> maintaining them on a regular basis.<br />

A Better You is a Happier You<br />

Remember not to be afraid to start again. This is your own<br />

fight <strong>and</strong> no one else can control it but you. The world<br />

welcomes <strong>and</strong> encourages those who wish <strong>and</strong> aim to be<br />

better <strong>and</strong> stronger. Know this: a better you is a happier you.<br />

<strong>Out</strong> <strong>and</strong> <strong>About</strong> <strong>Mag</strong>azine, with the team that made<br />

this Edition possible, would like to send you an infinite<br />

amount of encouragement <strong>and</strong> positivity to continue your<br />

journey to success <strong>and</strong> inner peace!<br />

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CONTENTS<br />

JULY 2020<br />

SECTION 1<br />

FASHION<br />

• Dominique Devereaux Bedford, Designer <strong>and</strong> Stylist, House of Devereaux<br />

• The Abaya: Origins <strong>and</strong> Fashion Inspiration for Summer<br />

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SECTION 2<br />

BEAUTY<br />

• Makeup Madness with Liv: Underst<strong>and</strong>ing Shades <strong>and</strong><br />

Undertones<br />

• Beauty Recommendations: Picking the Right Foundation<br />

for your Undertone!<br />

• Reusable Makeup Removers: 7 Recommended Products<br />

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SECTION 3<br />

BEHIND THE BRAND<br />

• Garfield Kerr, Owner <strong>and</strong> Entrepreneur, Mokha 1450<br />

Coffee Boutique<br />

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SECTION 4<br />

VOICES<br />

• Rabeah Rahimi, Actress<br />

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SECTION 5<br />

TAKING LESSONS<br />

• Asil Attar, CEO <strong>and</strong> Entrepreneur<br />

109<br />

SECTION 8<br />

TRAVEL<br />

• 8 Must-Visit UAE Cultural Sites<br />

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90<br />

SECTION 6<br />

TALENT POOL<br />

• S1, The Middle East’s Very Own<br />

King of Pop<br />

SECTION 7<br />

LIFESTYLE<br />

• Do You Know Your Attachment Style? The<br />

Psychology Behind Attachment Styles <strong>and</strong> their<br />

Associated Behaviours<br />

• Neuro Linguistic Programming: The Smart Way<br />

To Deal With Anxiety And Stress<br />

• Why You Should Practise Self-Care as a Leader<br />

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SECTION 9<br />

FOR THE CULTURE<br />

• The Number One Reason Most<br />

Startups Fail<br />

• The Reinvented Chronicles with<br />

Yvonne C. Mtengwa: 8 Hacks To<br />

Invoking Courage in Difficult Times<br />

• Be Proud of the Truth <strong>About</strong> You<br />

• Book Review: Atomic Habits by<br />

James Clear<br />

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FOOD<br />

• 5 Mason Jar Recipe Ideas<br />

106<br />

FITNESS<br />

• Absolute Home Fitness Essentials<br />

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<strong>Out</strong> <strong>and</strong> <strong>About</strong> <strong>Mag</strong>azine tasks no responsibility for unsolicited<br />

photographs or material. The photographs in this publication are for<br />

illustration purposes, unless otherwise specified.


FASHION<br />

FEATURE<br />

DOMINIQUE<br />

DEVEREAUX<br />

BEDFORD<br />

DESIGNER AND STYLIST,<br />

HOUSE OF DEVEREAUX<br />

HOUSE OF DEVEREAUX/<br />

DEVEREAUX LLC<br />

@houseofdevereaux<br />

@Devereaux LLC<br />

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1. TELL US A BIT ABOUT YOURSELF.<br />

I was born <strong>and</strong> raised in Texas. I have been a lover of fashion<br />

since I was a little girl. From paper dolls to designing <strong>and</strong><br />

recreating my clothing in high school, fashion <strong>and</strong> I have<br />

always shared a connection. My educational background<br />

includes both a Bachelor of Arts <strong>and</strong> Masters of Science<br />

in Fashion Merch<strong>and</strong>ising <strong>and</strong> Business. I have worked in<br />

almost every facet of the industry from interning in TV, film,<br />

fashion event production <strong>and</strong> sourcing, marketing, product<br />

development <strong>and</strong> retail operations.<br />

2. HOW DID YOU GET STARTED AS A CUSTOM<br />

FASHION DESIGNER?<br />

I truly began to take my craft seriously in college, creating<br />

collections of dresses <strong>and</strong> showcasing them in local pageants<br />

<strong>and</strong> on-campus programmes. I even started an on-campus<br />

organisation called FashioNation geared towards assisting<br />

students of all majors in their exploration of different industry<br />

avenues from makeup to photography to marketing <strong>and</strong>—<br />

of course—my speciality, design. Designing has always<br />

been an outlet for me, <strong>and</strong> I was fortunate to have a support<br />

system of family, friends, <strong>and</strong> colleagues who believed in<br />

my abilities early on.<br />

3. WHAT DOES STYLE MEAN TO YOU?<br />

Style is an outward reflection of inward confidence. It allows<br />

you to show up in the world <strong>and</strong> visually present yourself<br />

in the way you want people to perceive you. As a custom<br />

designer <strong>and</strong> a fashion stylist, I believe that style speaks<br />

volumes about who you are <strong>and</strong> who you want to become<br />

without having to say a word.<br />

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4. WHAT/WHO INSPIRES YOUR DESIGNS?<br />

I love this question—as I am inspired by powerful <strong>and</strong> influential<br />

women, both famous <strong>and</strong> those living their everyday lives. Influential<br />

women are not only icons like Josephine Baker <strong>and</strong> Jacqueline<br />

Kennedy Onassis who serve as my muses but the kind of women whose<br />

outlook on life has inspired <strong>and</strong> continues to inspire me to create, like<br />

my gr<strong>and</strong>mother <strong>and</strong> sister.<br />

I am especially inspired by TV <strong>and</strong> film, <strong>and</strong> many of the collections<br />

pay homage to dynamic women of the silver screen like the original<br />

Dominique Deveraux portrayed by Diahann Carroll <strong>and</strong> Alexis<br />

Carrington played by Joan Collins of the 1980s hit show Dynasty. I<br />

love this era because it represents a time where high glamour, style,<br />

power dressing <strong>and</strong> opulence were celebrated.<br />

Strength, courage, resilience <strong>and</strong> sheer determination are what these<br />

women represent <strong>and</strong> I am inspired by their journey. My pieces are<br />

used as storytelling platforms in which to share a bit of their history—<br />

both good <strong>and</strong> bad with the world.<br />

5. WHAT MAKES HOUSE OF THE<br />

DEVEREAUX’S CLOTHES DIFFERENT<br />

FROM OTHER FASHION DESIGNERS?<br />

The House of Devereaux specialises in power<br />

suiting but with a twist that I like to call the<br />

new classic. We take classic blazers <strong>and</strong> suiting<br />

silhouettes <strong>and</strong> turn them on their heads by<br />

paying attention to details. The mantra of the<br />

House is #ItsAllInTheDetails. Therefore, we<br />

utilise luxury fabrics like velvets, silks, satins<br />

<strong>and</strong> crepes with a smooth h<strong>and</strong>, in rich colours<br />

or tones like emerald green, cobalt blue <strong>and</strong><br />

metallics <strong>and</strong> then add texture with accents of<br />

fringe, leather <strong>and</strong> other trims.<br />

That’s just the bodice—the defining piece de<br />

resistance is the interior of each Devereaux<br />

design as they are specially lined with our<br />

signature leopard print pattern made of<br />

100% genuine Italian silk. Every piece that<br />

comes from The House will have an accent of<br />

leopard print throughout no matter what. For<br />

us, leopard print is not a trend or fading fad.<br />

One of my previous employers, Reginald,<br />

would wear a sport coat or blazer to work<br />

almost every day <strong>and</strong> tell us, “When you<br />

look good, you feel good—” <strong>and</strong> that’s so<br />

very true. I think my passion for wanting to<br />

make my clients feel good is what makes<br />

me different, as well. I live for the reaction<br />

of when someone first tries on one of my<br />

pieces <strong>and</strong> feels the silk lining against their<br />

skin. The House of Devereaux specialises in<br />

elegantly emotive fashion <strong>and</strong> that’s what<br />

differentiates us.<br />

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6. WHO WEARS HOUSE OF<br />

DEVEREAUX?<br />

This br<strong>and</strong> is created for the bold<br />

professional <strong>and</strong> I think that the term<br />

professional has been redefined. A<br />

modern-day professional is not just your<br />

typical 9 to 5 working woman, but also the<br />

entrepreneur looking to make waves in her<br />

industry, or the woman who wears many<br />

hats such as wife, mother <strong>and</strong> classroom<br />

volunteer at her kid’s school. However,<br />

she still underst<strong>and</strong>s the importance of<br />

carving out time to take care of herself.<br />

She appreciates being the only person<br />

wearing something in the room <strong>and</strong> people<br />

take notice. She values quality, luxury<br />

clothing with attention to detail that not<br />

only properly fits but can be transitional<br />

throughout her wardrobe.<br />

He is someone who is self-assured <strong>and</strong> likes<br />

for his personal style to be reflective of that.<br />

He takes pride in his appearance <strong>and</strong> also<br />

appreciates br<strong>and</strong>s that take pride in what<br />

they create as well. I say he, because The<br />

House has now branched into designing<br />

for men <strong>and</strong> we are so excited.<br />

7. WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE<br />

PART ABOUT BEING A DESIGNER?<br />

That’s a two-part answer: the first is when<br />

someone audibly gasps when they see<br />

or feel what I have created. That moment<br />

when they are left speechless is everything<br />

to me. It’s the feeling of knowing that some<br />

really appreciates <strong>and</strong> sees my hard work as<br />

beautiful that makes this profession great.<br />

Secondly, having full creative control over<br />

what I make. If something is too extra, as I<br />

call it, or not enough, I have the full power<br />

to alter, change <strong>and</strong> execute it in whichever<br />

way I wish, as long as the client <strong>and</strong> I are<br />

happy <strong>and</strong> that is an incredible feeling. My<br />

clients trust my ability to deliver beautiful<br />

<strong>and</strong> original pieces <strong>and</strong> that trust is truly<br />

valued.<br />

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8. DESCRIBE YOUR CREATIVE<br />

PROCESS?<br />

While creating for The House is fun, it’s still<br />

a business <strong>and</strong> so I have to treat it as such. I<br />

can’t just grab any kind of fabric <strong>and</strong> I have<br />

to remind myself that when creating for my<br />

br<strong>and</strong>—it’s not strictly based around my<br />

singular sense of style. Therefore, it cannot<br />

be one-note, <strong>and</strong> I must create a plan.<br />

When coming up with a piece for a<br />

collection, I first create a mood or inspiration<br />

board. This includes imagery, words,<br />

sketches, ideas as well as the muses that I<br />

am inspired by. My mood boards serve as<br />

a plan or road map by assisting me in my<br />

vision for what direction I see the collection<br />

taking. I began selecting the fabric, notions<br />

<strong>and</strong> trim that fit the look I am trying to<br />

achieve <strong>and</strong> then methodically add <strong>and</strong><br />

subtract from the board. Anything that<br />

seems forced is taken away until the board<br />

is complete. I liken it to being a puzzle—<br />

every piece must perfectly fit in order for<br />

the collection to create the perfect picture<br />

<strong>and</strong> tell a story.<br />

Then comes the sourcing of the materials,<br />

keeping in mind that not all pieces are<br />

created equal when it comes to cost,<br />

creation, <strong>and</strong> execution. The selection<br />

of fabric is probably the most important<br />

aspect because I want my clients to feel<br />

like they are receiving quality, <strong>and</strong> so that<br />

means that every dollar or dirham matters.<br />

When a fabric is right, I can’t contain my<br />

excitement because at that moment just<br />

from feeling that tiny swatch of fabric, I can<br />

envision a piece coming together.<br />

9. WHAT CHALLENGES HAVE<br />

YOU FACED AS A DESIGNER?<br />

I decided to step out on faith <strong>and</strong> become<br />

a full-time designer <strong>and</strong> stylist when I<br />

was struggling to find local employment<br />

here in the UAE. I had spent my first two<br />

years pounding the online pavement <strong>and</strong><br />

searching for a position where I felt my<br />

expertise would best be utilised <strong>and</strong> it<br />

was crickets. Pair that with the fact that<br />

I was an expat woman, newly married<br />

to an incredibly encouraging husb<strong>and</strong><br />

<strong>and</strong> now embarking on a journey to<br />

entrepreneurship in an entirely different<br />

country with different laws <strong>and</strong> regulations.<br />

At that time, everything in my life was new<br />

<strong>and</strong> so needless to say it required a lot of<br />

research <strong>and</strong> patience.<br />

With that research came learning about the<br />

trade licensing process, which can be costly.<br />

However, I want to be acknowledged, <strong>and</strong><br />

respected as a legal entity <strong>and</strong> I understood<br />

that necessary investments had to be made.<br />

The most recent challenge has been the<br />

p<strong>and</strong>emic <strong>and</strong> having to conduct business<br />

virtually when I am accustomed to offering<br />

in-person consultations. There is no greater<br />

joy than spending an afternoon with a<br />

client in their home or on a personal<br />

shopping excursion <strong>and</strong> getting to learn<br />

more about each other while grooming<br />

their confidence. There are just some<br />

things that virtual communication can’t<br />

capture or replicate. Now I am completely<br />

relegated to conducting business through<br />

virtual interfaces.<br />

Additionally, there were several in-person<br />

showcases I was set to participate in as<br />

well that have been cancelled <strong>and</strong> fabric<br />

vendors who have temporarily closed. My<br />

business is international <strong>and</strong> maintaining<br />

proper communication with clients <strong>and</strong><br />

vendors or logistics across time zones can<br />

also prove challenging. These unplanned<br />

circumstances have caused disruptions<br />

to my business operations, but there is<br />

nothing Devereaux can’t h<strong>and</strong>le.<br />

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10. TELL US ABOUT A PROJECT OR<br />

COLLECTION YOU CONSIDER YOUR<br />

GREATEST ACHIEVEMENT SO FAR.<br />

First, one of my greatest achievements<br />

is starting a business internationally—<br />

growing my support from a trunk show of<br />

15 women in my apartment in 2018—to<br />

being the featured designer at a showcase<br />

at Hakkasan Emirates Palace in November<br />

2019. Finally, hosting a virtual trunk show<br />

in June 2020, while not being the most<br />

technologically savvy has been my most<br />

recent success. The outpouring of support<br />

I have received from all over has been<br />

incredible.<br />

Secondly, both of my collections are amazing<br />

achievements because I completed them<br />

under two years of being in business, <strong>and</strong><br />

they not only represent parts of me but the<br />

women who inspire me. They are constant<br />

reminders of the sweat equity <strong>and</strong> the not<br />

so glamorous days when things aren’t going<br />

as planned <strong>and</strong> yet the satisfaction of how it<br />

all comes together so beautifully in the end.<br />

Each piece <strong>and</strong> every detail is a personal<br />

achievement that has allowed my creativity<br />

to be found <strong>and</strong> my confidence to flourish.<br />

11. WHAT’S THE BEST PIECE OF<br />

ADVICE YOU’VE EVER RECEIVED?<br />

The best advice to date comes from a<br />

fellow creative, Melarie Odelusi who often<br />

says, “If it’s not a hell yes, then hell no.”<br />

What I interpreted from that is everything I<br />

create <strong>and</strong> every decision I make regarding<br />

my business should speak to the soul <strong>and</strong><br />

voice of my br<strong>and</strong>, <strong>and</strong> that which doesn’t<br />

serve me must go. This really helps me trust<br />

my intuition <strong>and</strong> go with my gut.<br />

12. WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU<br />

GIVE TO SOMEONE STARTING OUT<br />

IN FASHION DESIGNING?<br />

No idea is a bad idea unless it’s prohibited<br />

by the law. Trust your instinct, carve out<br />

your own way <strong>and</strong> your own lane <strong>and</strong> once<br />

you are in cruise control, stay in your lane.<br />

Don’t try to be anything that you aren’t<br />

because authenticity is key to maintaining<br />

creative control. Identify your niche, really<br />

work on it <strong>and</strong> through it, <strong>and</strong> don’t be<br />

afraid to ask for help because you can’t<br />

do it all by yourself—trust me I have tried.<br />

Lastly, a support team or system is more<br />

than necessary: it’s invaluable.<br />

13. WHAT DO YOU DO OUTSIDE<br />

OF FASHION?<br />

Sleep. Exercise. Laugh. I love a good belly<br />

laugh, <strong>and</strong> I love to play games. I especially<br />

love to travel or go on an adventure. There<br />

is nothing like visiting a cool museum or<br />

exploring a cool piece of architecture to<br />

get my creative juices flowing. I love to eat<br />

hence why I mentioned exercise. Trying new<br />

foods, watching shows about exotic foods<br />

<strong>and</strong> restaurants or cultures is my thing.<br />

When I first moved to the UAE, I would<br />

watch Chopped marathons all day long. I<br />

also love dancing alone at home when no<br />

one’s watching—it’s good calorie burning<br />

<strong>and</strong> good for the soul.<br />

14. WHAT’S THAT ONE QUOTE<br />

YOU LIVE BY?<br />

Allow me to share three quotes instead of<br />

one:<br />

“Sometimes, God will break your heart to<br />

save your life.”<br />

-Pastor Kevin Brown<br />

“Experience is a hard teacher-because it<br />

gives you the test first <strong>and</strong> the lesson after.”<br />

- Unknown<br />

“Today you are you-that is truer than true.<br />

There is no one alive more ‘youer’ than<br />

you.”<br />

- Dr. Seuss<br />

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THE ABAYA:<br />

ORIGINS AND FASHION<br />

INSPIRATION FOR SUMMER<br />

Abaya is a flowing garment that reaches<br />

the feet <strong>and</strong> has long, loose sleeves. It’s<br />

loosely fitted to wear over regular clothes<br />

for complete body coverage. Abaya is an<br />

ancient garment dating 4,000 years back.<br />

Like most fashion garments, it carries<br />

an indistinct history in the pre-Islam era<br />

before it became synonymous with Islam<br />

<strong>and</strong> Muslim women, taking a more vivid<br />

proper body-concealing form followed<br />

with a niqab or burka to conceal the hair<br />

<strong>and</strong> face, except the eyes.<br />

You may have a typical image of abaya in<br />

your mind: all black, loose <strong>and</strong> shapeless,<br />

but due to modern fashion <strong>and</strong> intervention<br />

from various designers all over the world,<br />

abayas have become available in a variety<br />

of colours <strong>and</strong> styles. The concept of full<br />

body covering is the same, only the styles<br />

have changed with more focus on different<br />

fabric weights <strong>and</strong> adornment techniques.<br />

Abayas have seen modernisation on a<br />

larger scale <strong>and</strong> aren’t much similar to<br />

those of the yesteryears. Today, we’ll<br />

unravel the history <strong>and</strong> the evolution of<br />

abaya.<br />

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AMINA ALBAHRI<br />

@amina.albahri.beauty<br />

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BEFORE ISLAM<br />

It is alleged that Mesopotamians wore a<br />

loose garment, pretty much similar in style<br />

<strong>and</strong> length to an abaya, though it wasn’t<br />

termed as one before. Also, it came as a<br />

thought that pre-Islam abaya was not as<br />

skin-covering as the abaya that appeared<br />

in light of the rise in Islam <strong>and</strong> sketched a<br />

greater strict body-concealing image.<br />

Some scholars also put forward that during<br />

the pre-Islam era, abayas carried a status<br />

symbol <strong>and</strong> not simply a symbolic religious<br />

practice. Wealthy women would differentiate<br />

themselves from the women of the working<br />

class who couldn’t afford something as<br />

extravagant as a veil covering the face.<br />

THE ADVENT OF ISLAM<br />

The arrival of Islam in the 7th century<br />

cemented the idea that women should clothe<br />

themselves from head to toes, masking the<br />

face <strong>and</strong> concealing most of the skin. Such<br />

was not only to abide by the faith Muslim<br />

women belonged to, but part of it was for<br />

one’s own good to protect themselves from<br />

becoming the subject of lewd behaviour.<br />

Therefore, abaya earned an important<br />

reputation; it came to symbolise Arabic <strong>and</strong><br />

Muslim culture, just as how the kimono is a<br />

cultural object <strong>and</strong> symbol to the Japanese<br />

<strong>and</strong> the saris to the Hindus. Today, non-<br />

Muslims, wear abayas to blend in with the<br />

Arabic community, considering the act as an<br />

indication of cultural <strong>and</strong> religious respect.<br />

THE PRE-OIL ERA<br />

The typical bedouin abaya displayed a<br />

square-necked form with a gold-trimmed<br />

neckline <strong>and</strong> two holes meant for the<br />

arms. This was worn by the upper-class<br />

Arab women <strong>and</strong> those not belonging to a<br />

prestigious background opted for a simple<br />

abaya to cover their bodies. Black was the<br />

colour of choice. Today, the abaya has been<br />

reshaped into a fashionable guise offered<br />

in various styles <strong>and</strong> assortment of colours<br />

than we can possibly imagine.<br />

DISCOVERY OF OIL<br />

After oil was discovered in the Arab world,<br />

abaya experienced a transition, suddenly<br />

transforming from shapeless to shapely,<br />

wool to silk, <strong>and</strong> even the length has been<br />

adjusted to reach a little above the feet. As<br />

the 1970s drew to a close, abaya became<br />

more glamourous <strong>and</strong> was definitely made<br />

more obliging to one’s preferences.<br />

THE 1980S<br />

This was the period of the shoulder abaya<br />

taking the form of a long cloak-like robe with<br />

full proper sleeves <strong>and</strong> a complementing,<br />

shorter shayla as the head cover. Different<br />

fabrics, embroidery <strong>and</strong> ornamental<br />

decorations were put to test. The abaya<br />

became airier <strong>and</strong> more flowy owing to the<br />

use of georgettes, silks, crepes, <strong>and</strong> similar<br />

wispy materials.<br />

OMANIYAH ABAYA<br />

In the 1990s, omaniyah abaya was<br />

introduced, with its name inspired by the<br />

country it came from—Oman. This abaya<br />

style is closed in the front as opposed to<br />

the open-front version of the past. It also<br />

featured an opening for the head for ease of<br />

wear. During this time, experimentation was<br />

still on the rage <strong>and</strong> varieties of laces, ironedon<br />

stones <strong>and</strong> sparkles were brought to the<br />

picture. Now, the markets <strong>and</strong> souks sell sets<br />

of abaya <strong>and</strong> shayla pairings <strong>and</strong> matchings<br />

in a variety of sartorial embellishment.<br />

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THE 20TH CENTURY<br />

In the 20th century, experimentation<br />

with the abaya reached new heights—<br />

from beautiful cuts to gorgeous<br />

emblazonment, sparkly lines of work<br />

to flamboyant statements, <strong>and</strong> even<br />

those simply verging on the strange<br />

side of things. At this point, abaya<br />

was becoming a fashion statement<br />

in every form.<br />

The abaya is slowly drifting away from<br />

its original image <strong>and</strong> the message<br />

it portrayed. Many incoming abaya<br />

styles convey a narrower or a wider<br />

belt to enhance <strong>and</strong> promote<br />

waistlines.<br />

Today, the abaya has undergone<br />

a turn of events <strong>and</strong> experiments,<br />

more as a sign of functionality as it<br />

births one’s individualism. It’s not<br />

necessary that only a practicising<br />

Muslim woman can wear an abaya;<br />

there are those who wear it because<br />

they like it <strong>and</strong> will continue to do so.<br />

Just like any other traditional<br />

garment, it’s a garment for defining<br />

Muslims <strong>and</strong> thanks to the bevy<br />

of fashion designers in the world,<br />

they’ve globalised this ubiquitous<br />

piece to bring a change <strong>and</strong><br />

awareness to those with conflicting<br />

mindsets in the world.<br />

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SUMMER<br />

FASHION<br />

ABAYA<br />

LOOKS<br />

HIND AL MADANI @HINDALMADANI<br />

ROUA ALMAWALLY<br />

@ROUA_ALMAWALLY<br />

Light <strong>and</strong> pastel shades feel cooler on<br />

the skin. They throw off heat <strong>and</strong> keep<br />

the body well-ventilated to keep you<br />

dry <strong>and</strong> provide maximum comfort. If<br />

you want to opt for darker shades, find<br />

pieces that are lightweight <strong>and</strong> allow air<br />

ventilation like cotton <strong>and</strong> chiffon.<br />

@MODESTLYWRAPPED<br />

NOURHAN ELGOUHARY<br />

@NOURHANELGOUHARY<br />

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OPT FOR PRINTS<br />

There’s no compulsion on<br />

picking solids all the time,<br />

change up the typical look<br />

with floral-printed abayas or<br />

those with stripes for a summerappropriate<br />

look. Experiment<br />

with different fabrics <strong>and</strong> invest<br />

in lightweight materials to keep<br />

you breezy under the sweltering<br />

heat. There are even cottonmade<br />

abayas available that<br />

look like the modest version of<br />

summer dresses.<br />

FINCHITUA BY FEIRUZA @FINCHITUA<br />

CREATE A<br />

STATEMENT<br />

You can get more worth out<br />

of your abaya if you create a<br />

statement. In this case, neutrals<br />

are your best friend for a<br />

monotone or a monochrome<br />

approach. This is totally an eyecatching<br />

take on the abayas <strong>and</strong><br />

causes head-turning attention.<br />

Plus, we find this approach best<br />

for summer, it’s appropriate<br />

for daytime <strong>and</strong> perfect for<br />

attending parties.<br />

Make the most of this season<br />

by choosing the best weather<br />

appropriate abaya for you!.<br />

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ZAINAB ISKANDER @ZOZOKAHRAMANA<br />

ROUA ALMAWALLY<br />

@ROUA_ALMAWALLY


CHERRY BLOSSOM<br />

Model: Lili Nagy<br />

Hair <strong>and</strong> makeup: Liv Rideg<br />

Headpiece: Milla Sonja Couture - Eva Kelemen<br />

Photo: Jozsef Balogh<br />

Retouch: Anna Petrova<br />

Location: Studio Madison, Budapest, Hungary<br />

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FLORAL BEAUTY<br />

Model: Tatyana Gonzalez<br />

Photo: Jozsef Balogh<br />

Retouch: Anna Petrova<br />

Makeup: Liv Rideg<br />

Headpiece: Milla Sonja Couture - Eva Kelemen<br />

Assistant: Szabo Pal<br />

Location: Studio Madison, Budapest, Hungary<br />

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BEAUTY<br />

M A K E U P<br />

M A D N E S S<br />

WITH<br />

UNDERSTANDING<br />

SHADES AND<br />

UNDERTONES<br />

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NEUTRAL<br />

UNDERTONE<br />

NEUTRAL<br />

UNDERTONE<br />

34<br />

WARM<br />

UNDERTONE


COOL<br />

UNDERTONE<br />

Finding your perfect shade of<br />

foundation, knowing your skin tone,<br />

underst<strong>and</strong>ing what your undertone<br />

is, <strong>and</strong> what kind of makeup works for<br />

you are mostly every makeup users<br />

struggle, especially for those who<br />

are in the beginning of their makeup<br />

journey. For 21 years working in<br />

the makeup <strong>and</strong> fashion industry, I<br />

noticed that these are the things that<br />

people are having a hard time with.<br />

In this article we will give you very<br />

useful tips <strong>and</strong> tricks on how to<br />

underst<strong>and</strong> your skin tone, undertone<br />

<strong>and</strong> what makeup works for you.<br />

IDENTIFYING YOUR SKIN TONE<br />

Skin tone is the colour of your skin. The ranges vary: light,<br />

medium, dark. Choosing the right <strong>and</strong> exact shade of your<br />

foundation that is not lighter or darker than your skin will<br />

give you a fresh, beautiful look all day long. Your skin tone<br />

can change during summer <strong>and</strong> winter, it can go lighter or<br />

darker depending on the actual season.<br />

UNDERSTANDING AN UNDERTONE<br />

Undertone is the underlying hue of your skin. Knowing your<br />

undertone will make your life much easier when it comes to<br />

choosing the correct foundation shades. Your skin tone may<br />

change but your undertone will always be the same during<br />

all the seasons. There are three different undertones: warm,<br />

cool <strong>and</strong> neutral.<br />

• For people with WARM UNDERTONES, the<br />

underlying colours of their skin are peach, gold or<br />

yellow.<br />

• COOL UNDERTONE means the underneath colour<br />

of your skin is reddish <strong>and</strong> bluish.<br />

• People with NEUTRAL SKIN UNDERTONES have<br />

the mixture of both cool <strong>and</strong> warm tones.<br />

KNOWING YOUR UNDERTONE<br />

Grab a piece of silver <strong>and</strong> gold jewellery. Take a look at<br />

what looks good on you. If silver looks amazing on you,<br />

then you have a cool undertone. If gold looks better,<br />

then you have a warm undertone. If both look good on<br />

you, then you have a neutral undertone.<br />

MAKEUP BASICS<br />

When it comes to makeup application, I always advise my<br />

students to look at the face. Check out the skin, eye, hair,<br />

eyebrow <strong>and</strong> lip colour <strong>and</strong> apply the same colours on the<br />

face. When you do this, you will get beautiful <strong>and</strong> naturallooking<br />

makeup. If you want to go for a dramatic look,<br />

apply the darker shades of the colours you see on the face.<br />

If you want to go for a soft look, go with the lighter shades.<br />

Remember, if you are playing around with the same colours<br />

as you can see on the face, you can’t go wrong with it.<br />

Applying a beige, bronze, brown, taupe, <strong>and</strong> peach shades<br />

will always give you a lovely look.<br />

Every colour has its warm <strong>and</strong> cool tones. If you would like<br />

to add colours, like rose, pink, red, purple, green or blue to<br />

your eye makeup, the same rule applies. All you will need<br />

to do is to choose the right tones of colours <strong>and</strong> you will<br />

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WARM<br />

UNDERTONE<br />

have your beautiful makeup done.<br />

Experimenting <strong>and</strong> practising is the key. Of course, don’t<br />

forget to have fun while trying out these easy tips.<br />

HOW CAN WE KNOW WHEN WE ARE NOT USING<br />

THE RIGHT COLOURS, TONES OR TEXTURES?<br />

• You’re not using the right shade when your visage<br />

looks older in the mirror. This problem appears<br />

really often because of wrong shade <strong>and</strong> tone of<br />

the foundation, too much or wrong colour of the<br />

blush, heavy contours, wrong tones on the eyes, or<br />

using wrong colour of the lipstick<br />

• You look tired. Too much texture on the skin <strong>and</strong><br />

excessive makeup under the eyes gives you a tired<br />

<strong>and</strong> gloomy look.<br />

• You have a feeling that you are wearing a mask.<br />

Inappropriate texture of the foundation for your skin<br />

type or too much foundation <strong>and</strong> powder can give<br />

you a caked up look.<br />

• Your skin looks greyish or has an ashy colour. This is<br />

a nightmare for people who have bronze <strong>and</strong> darker<br />

skin tones. It happens if you choose a lighter <strong>and</strong><br />

light coverage foundation for deeper skin tones.<br />

There are some occasions when we have to give<br />

the skin a lighter colour, but in this case we have to<br />

choose a full coverage foundation to make sure it<br />

will give a healthy glowing beautiful skin colour <strong>and</strong><br />

not an ashy look.<br />

Makeup enhances our confidence <strong>and</strong> natural beauty.<br />

Keep in mind that we are all equally amazing <strong>and</strong> beautiful<br />

people<br />

Liv Rideg is an award-winning professional makeup<br />

artist <strong>and</strong> hairstylist with 21 years of experience in the<br />

beauty industry. She is currently based in Europe but<br />

has worked across the globe, including a spell in Dubai.<br />

Liv specialises in bridal, beauty, glamour, creative <strong>and</strong><br />

fantasy makeup. She has also been teaching makeup<br />

techniques <strong>and</strong> different styles since 2010.<br />

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BEAUTY<br />

RECOMMENDATIONS:<br />

PICKING<br />

THE RIGHT FOUNDATION<br />

FOR YOUR UNDERTONE!<br />

We celebrate beauty in diversity! Love<br />

your skin by picking the right foundation<br />

for your skin undertone. The perfect<br />

shade will reveal your skin’s natural<br />

beauty, <strong>and</strong> by staying true to your hue,<br />

your best self is going to shine through!<br />

Picking the Ideal Shade<br />

Sometimes, picking the ideal foundation<br />

shade is a tricky ordeal. The shade might<br />

look suitable at first glance or even on<br />

initial application. The mismatch is<br />

identified once it becomes apparent<br />

that your face is not giving that natural<br />

glow—either the shade is too pale or<br />

too dark, or even lifeless <strong>and</strong> boring!<br />

Hence, it is essential to identify your<br />

natural colour before splurging your cash<br />

in the nearest beauty bar. To accomplish<br />

this, determine your undertone. Your<br />

skin undertone is different from your<br />

skin tone as the former is the underlying<br />

hue or colour that your skin casts, while<br />

the latter is the range of darkness to<br />

lightness of the skin itself. Most people<br />

fall into one of the three undertones:<br />

• Cool, which means your skin is<br />

more blue, red, or pink.<br />

• Warm, which means your skin is<br />

more golden, yellow, or peach.<br />

• Neutral, which means your skin<br />

will have a combination of cool<br />

<strong>and</strong> warm colours.<br />

The classic rule applies: a warm<br />

undertone looks best with gold or<br />

yellow-based foundations, while shades<br />

with rose, red, or blue bases are suitable<br />

for those with a cool undertone. We<br />

listed different foundations for the three<br />

types of undertones—from lightweight<br />

foundations that will give you a natural,<br />

no-makeup look to full coverage ones<br />

for a longer staying, glam look!<br />

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FOUNDATIONS<br />

FOR WARM<br />

UNDERTONES<br />

1. NARS ALL DAY LUMINOUS<br />

WEIGHTLESS FOUNDATION<br />

A light foundation that can give<br />

you full coverage up to 16 hours.<br />

One drop goes a long way. A<br />

good shade for warm undertones<br />

is Barcelona, perfect for medium<br />

to medium-deep skin with a<br />

peachy undertone.<br />

3. BOBBI BROWN SKIN<br />

WEIGHTLESS LONG WEAR<br />

FOUNDATION SPF15<br />

This product is formulated with<br />

SPF 15 to give you additional<br />

protection from the sun. It feels<br />

light <strong>and</strong> airy but sports a medium<br />

to full coverage. Golden Beige is<br />

for people with light to medium<br />

skin with a gold undertone.<br />

2. FENTY BEAUTY PRO<br />

FILT’R HYDRATING LONG<br />

WEAR FOUNDATION<br />

This foundation is cruelty-free <strong>and</strong><br />

will give you a natural finish with<br />

instant hydration. It has 50 shades<br />

you can choose from. Shade<br />

No. 240 is perfect for people<br />

with medium skin with a yellow<br />

undertone.<br />

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4. L.A. GIRL PRO<br />

COVERAGE LIQUID<br />

FOUNDATION<br />

This is a lightweight foundation<br />

perfect for all-day wear. It is a full<br />

coverage foundation formulated<br />

without parabens, ideal for those<br />

who want to avoid synthetic<br />

chemicals in their cosmetics.<br />

Soft Honey is for medium skin<br />

suitable for warm undertones.<br />

5. MAYBELLINE NEW YORK<br />

SUPER STAY FULL COVERAGE<br />

LIQUID FOUNDATION<br />

Looking for a long-lasting<br />

foundation? This is perfect for<br />

you! Formulated to last for 24<br />

hours to give you a full coverage<br />

finish without the worry of pore<br />

clogging. Golden is a perfect<br />

shade for medium skin with warm<br />

undertones.<br />

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FOUNDATIONS<br />

FOR COOL<br />

UNDERTONES<br />

1. TOO FACED BORN THIS<br />

WAY FOUNDATION<br />

A flawless <strong>and</strong> natural finish<br />

foundation that can easily give<br />

you a no-makeup look, this<br />

foundation can give you a natural<br />

medium to full coverage. Golden<br />

is for medium skin with a rosy<br />

undertone.<br />

3. ESTEE LAUDER DOUBLE<br />

WEAR STAY IN PLACE MAKEUP<br />

A matte foundation that will last<br />

for 24 hours, waterproof <strong>and</strong> can<br />

withst<strong>and</strong> heat, Estee Lauder<br />

Double Wear is just perfect for any<br />

season. Auburn is a suitable shade<br />

for people with cool undertones.<br />

2. DIOR BACKSTAGE LIQUID<br />

FOUNDATION<br />

Dior Backstage promises a glowing<br />

look <strong>and</strong> perfect blending with the<br />

skin. You can sport a natural look<br />

with this foundation or you can<br />

opt to get full coverage. 3 Cool is<br />

for light to medium skin with cool<br />

undertones.<br />

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4. GIORGIO ARMANI<br />

LUMINOUS SILK<br />

FOUNDATION<br />

Many MUAs swear by Giorgio<br />

Armani for a lush, medium<br />

coverage that dramatically<br />

hides skin imperfections. It also<br />

applies easily <strong>and</strong> will give you<br />

a flawless <strong>and</strong> natural glow from<br />

within. Shade No. 8.25 will suit<br />

people with cool undertones.<br />

5. MAKEUP FOREVER<br />

REBOOT FOUNDATION<br />

Looking for a foundation that has a<br />

satin finish? This is the right one for<br />

you. It reduces the look of wrinkles,<br />

giving you a hydrated <strong>and</strong> glowing<br />

complexion. If you have medium<br />

skin with a red undertone, shade<br />

R370 will suit you.<br />

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FOUNDATIONS<br />

FOR NEUTRAL<br />

UNDERTONES<br />

1. CHARLOTTE TILBURY<br />

AIRBRUSH FLAWLESS<br />

FOUNDATION<br />

A lightweight <strong>and</strong> long lasting<br />

foundation that has heat-proof<br />

<strong>and</strong> waterproof formula. This<br />

foundation is promoted as crueltyfree<br />

<strong>and</strong> vegan. 5.5 Neutral will<br />

suit people with medium skin with<br />

olive neutral undertones.<br />

3. AQUA NUDE WATER-<br />

INFUSED PERFECTING FLUID<br />

GUERLAIN<br />

This foundation will give you<br />

hydrated <strong>and</strong> perfect skin. It<br />

contains SPF 20 for additional sun<br />

protection. 03N Natural is perfect<br />

for medium skin with neutral<br />

undertones.<br />

2. MARC JACOBS<br />

REMARKABLE FULL<br />

COVERAGE FOUNDATION<br />

This foundation is perfect for<br />

people with oily <strong>and</strong> combination<br />

skin types <strong>and</strong> provides longlasting<br />

wear up to 24 hours.<br />

Bisque Medium 26 is for fair with<br />

neutral undertones.<br />

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4. PAT MCGRATH<br />

SKIN FETISH SUBLIME<br />

PERFECTION FOUNDATION<br />

A liquid foundation that will give<br />

you a smooth-looking skin <strong>and</strong><br />

medium coverage, this product<br />

is suitable for dry, combination,<br />

oily <strong>and</strong> normal skin types. If you<br />

have medium skin with olive <strong>and</strong><br />

neutral undertones, Medium 21<br />

is for you.<br />

5. NAKED SKIN<br />

WEIGHTLESS ULTRA<br />

DEFINITION LIQUID MAKEUP<br />

Naked Skin promises a radiant,<br />

glowing look <strong>and</strong> long wear for<br />

up to 24 hours. This foundation<br />

will also help reduce wrinkles <strong>and</strong><br />

blurs skin imperfections. 6 Warm/<br />

Medium is for medium skin with<br />

olive undertone.<br />

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REUSABLE MAKEUP REMOVERS:<br />

7 RECOMMENDED<br />

PRODUCTS<br />

Cotton pads <strong>and</strong> face wipes are one of the most popular options when it comes to<br />

cleaning our faces <strong>and</strong> removing makeup. However, these products are not good for our<br />

environment. Disposable wipes <strong>and</strong> pads are filling our l<strong>and</strong>fills, clogging our sewers <strong>and</strong><br />

even polluting our oceans. Imagine if all of us use disposable pads <strong>and</strong> wipes: where do<br />

all the garbage go? Change starts with the small things that we are able to do. Purchasing<br />

biodegradable products <strong>and</strong> minimising the consumption of disposable products can<br />

definitely help the environment.<br />

Reusable makeup removers, as an eco-friendly alternative to disposable makeup<br />

removers, can massage your face <strong>and</strong> also remove dead skin cells, resulting in glowing<br />

<strong>and</strong> healthy skin. Most of these reusable removers are super absorbent <strong>and</strong> can remove<br />

your makeup using warm water, cleanser or your favourite makeup remover liquid or<br />

balm.<br />

We listed seven reusable makeup removers that are definitely worth adding to your<br />

beauty essentials!<br />

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1. NUGILLA MAKEUP REMOVER CLOTHS<br />

This eco-friendly makeup remover is made from<br />

finely woven fibre that is very gentle on the skin. It<br />

can be rewashed easily with warm water or you can<br />

just pop it in your washing machine.<br />

2. ORIGINAL PINK MAKEUP ERASER<br />

Waterproof mascara? Matte lipstick? These hardto-remove<br />

cosmetics can be easily removed with<br />

this cute, pink cloth using just plain water. This<br />

br<strong>and</strong> claims that one of this product is equal to<br />

3,600 face wipes!<br />

3. FACE HALO REUSABLE MAKEUP<br />

REMOVER PAD<br />

A product that is PETA Approved <strong>and</strong> 100 %<br />

cruelty-free: this tiny pad can easily fit your makeup<br />

bag <strong>and</strong> is perfect for your travel needs.<br />

4. JANE IREDALE MAGIC MITT MAKEUP<br />

REMOVER<br />

Jane Iredale created a makeup remover mitt<br />

that you can easily slide in your h<strong>and</strong>s <strong>and</strong> easily<br />

remove makeup even in those hard to reach<br />

areas.<br />

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5. ODOXIA REUSABLE MAKEUP<br />

REMOVER PADS<br />

This product is ideal for people with sensitive<br />

skin. These are natural bamboo pads which<br />

also makes it organic <strong>and</strong> super eco-friendly! 6. DANIELLE MAKEUP<br />

REMOVING CLOTHS<br />

These colourful reusable makeup<br />

remover cloths can be washed up<br />

7. BLOOMING BEE CHARCOAL BAMBOO<br />

REUSABLE MAKEUP REMOVER PADS<br />

This product is made from 100% plant material <strong>and</strong><br />

one pad can be used 1000 times. It is made from<br />

natural bamboo cotton that cleans the face gently<br />

<strong>and</strong> naturally.<br />

to 500 times. The material gives<br />

you that fresh <strong>and</strong> clean feeling<br />

after a makeup removal session.<br />

Opting for reusable products will help the<br />

environment <strong>and</strong> save money spent on<br />

disposable face wipes <strong>and</strong> cotton pads. Since<br />

these products can be used with warm water,<br />

you will also be able to cut down the cost of<br />

purchasing makeup remover liquids or balms.<br />

These are only product recommendations, <strong>and</strong><br />

you know what is best for your skin. Stay pretty<br />

<strong>and</strong> healthy while taking good care of nature<br />

with these amazing <strong>and</strong> helpful products!<br />

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COLOUR SHINE<br />

Model: Lili Labodi - White Model Management<br />

Photo: Jozsef Balogh<br />

Retouch: Anna Petrova<br />

Hair <strong>and</strong> makeup: Liv Rideg<br />

Location: Studio Madison, Budapest. Hungary<br />

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BRONZY<br />

GODDESS<br />

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Model: Eleni Balogh<br />

Photo, hair <strong>and</strong> makeup: Liv Rideg<br />

Retouch: Anna Petrova<br />

Location: Studio Madison, Budapest, Hungary


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GARFIELD KERR<br />

CEO of Mokha 1450 Coffee Boutique<br />

@mokha1450<br />

www.mokha1450.com<br />

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Tell us a bit about yourself.<br />

I have lived in Dubai for over five<br />

years. I had a career on Wall Street in<br />

corporate law before transitioning to<br />

working in private equity, which led me<br />

to the coffee industry. I enjoy working<br />

out <strong>and</strong> I’m very active in sports.<br />

How did you get started in business?<br />

I have always worked at varied<br />

business ventures throughout my<br />

undergraduate <strong>and</strong> postgraduate<br />

schooling <strong>and</strong> absorbed everything<br />

I could along the way. I have also<br />

been fortunate to have some amazing<br />

mentors early in my life from whom<br />

I learned as much as I could about<br />

corporate governance <strong>and</strong> leadership.<br />

Tell us about your business ventures<br />

to date<br />

Most of my business ventures involved<br />

executing the dreams of others—such<br />

is the life of a corporate lawyer or<br />

having a career in finance <strong>and</strong> private<br />

equity. My own business, Mokha 1450<br />

Coffee Boutique, is the first step<br />

forward to execute a vision that is my<br />

own.<br />

What is your vision for yourself as a<br />

br<strong>and</strong>?<br />

Mokha 1450 is a lifestyle br<strong>and</strong> that<br />

aims to be a leader in coffee culture.<br />

We actively nurture <strong>and</strong> cultivate longterm<br />

relationships that incorporate<br />

ethical, fair practices, which in turn,<br />

empower the farmers we work with to<br />

deliver exceptional coffee consistently.<br />

From sourcing <strong>and</strong> roasting rarefied<br />

single-origin coffees to pouring the<br />

ultimate cup, our expertise delivers a<br />

personal touch throughout the process<br />

to incorporate ‘The Heart of Coffee’ in<br />

everything we do.<br />

Mokha 1450 is committed to serving<br />

exceptionally rare <strong>and</strong> superior<br />

speciality coffee that remains faithful<br />

to the very origin of coffee culture.<br />

As connoisseurs, it is our obligation<br />

to deliver the finest coffee—from the<br />

most gifted growers from every part of<br />

the world.<br />

We achieve this through our dedication<br />

to echo the sincere traditions of early<br />

coffee culture <strong>and</strong> build long-st<strong>and</strong>ing<br />

relationships to help support the<br />

communities involved.<br />

What are your success habits?<br />

My successful habits involve always<br />

attempting to do things to the highest<br />

degree possible without settling. I try<br />

not to be average in pursuing <strong>and</strong><br />

executing my endeavours, <strong>and</strong> while I<br />

will often fail, at least I will have tried<br />

<strong>and</strong> given my best efforts to succeed<br />

at the highest level. I also try to be<br />

as inclusive as possible, to empower<br />

others, as well as interact with others<br />

with a strong moral code as my<br />

baseline.<br />

What are you passionate about?<br />

Coffee! I am very passionate about<br />

coffee <strong>and</strong> sharing the incredible<br />

sensory experience of drinking great<br />

coffee with others. I am also passionate<br />

about Mokha 1450’s incredible team<br />

<strong>and</strong> the pride they take in delivering a<br />

one-of-a-kind experience.<br />

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How do you determine if a business idea is<br />

going to be successful?<br />

There is really no way of telling if a business<br />

idea will be successful. Many times, you<br />

will have a brilliant idea that is not scalable<br />

<strong>and</strong> there is no way of knowing that prior to<br />

executing the business model. However, I will<br />

say that if you identify a product or service that<br />

meets a need, then this will more likely than<br />

not be successful if executed properly. As an<br />

old axiom goes, “There are no new ideas, just<br />

proper execution.”<br />

Do you believe there is some sort of<br />

pattern or formula to becoming a successful<br />

entrepreneur?<br />

I think true entrepreneurship has a small<br />

element of innateness to it. The kids that ran<br />

lemonade st<strong>and</strong>s, or did other things to raise<br />

money as kids, are generally on the fast track<br />

to being true entrepreneurs.<br />

However, for the rest of us, there are two<br />

worn-out clichés that have an element of<br />

truth to them, though not necessarily how<br />

they are meant. The first is that you should<br />

always do what you love—but what if I like<br />

eating chocolate cake <strong>and</strong> sitting on the<br />

couch? I can’t see how one could generate<br />

a steady revenue stream from doing that<br />

thing that I truly love. However, the element<br />

of truth to that cliché is that if a venture is<br />

truly interesting to you, then you will apply<br />

yourself more earnestly <strong>and</strong> enjoy working at<br />

it much more than attempting a project that<br />

you find uninteresting or are merely engaged<br />

in because others advised it as worthwhile or<br />

profitable.<br />

The second is that you should never be afraid<br />

to fail. I underst<strong>and</strong> what this is meant to get<br />

at, but I think you should be very afraid of<br />

failure. If you are not afraid to fail, then you will<br />

not commit maximally to anything. The fear of<br />

falling on your face makes for better decisionmaking<br />

<strong>and</strong> a higher level of concentration<br />

<strong>and</strong> execution. People who are fine with<br />

failure generally fail at things. I think the more<br />

accurate advice is that you should never let<br />

failure weigh too much on your self-esteem or<br />

be the sum value of your efforts. You should<br />

attempt to learn from your failures <strong>and</strong> try very<br />

hard not to make the same mistakes again,<br />

knowing well that you will fail at some point in<br />

the future but doing everything in your power<br />

to avoid it.<br />

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Tell us about a time you had to deal with<br />

failure <strong>and</strong> how you dealt with it.<br />

I once had to restructure a company whose<br />

business model I did not fully support. I<br />

worked hard at it as the delivery manager<br />

but failed at coming close to the desired<br />

end result. The more I failed, the more I<br />

blamed the business model instead of<br />

my efforts. I dealt with this initial failure<br />

by taking a step back <strong>and</strong> looking at the<br />

fact that the many hours I spent working<br />

on the matter at h<strong>and</strong> was not yielding<br />

anything close to the desired effect. I<br />

then asked for help <strong>and</strong> brought in a few<br />

experts in the field <strong>and</strong> only later realised<br />

that I never really understood the business<br />

model as well as I had assumed. It was only<br />

after being humbled <strong>and</strong> admitting my<br />

shortcomings that I was able to delegate<br />

to the right individuals <strong>and</strong> get the project<br />

back on track, but the entire experience<br />

was quite harrowing.<br />

If you could start all over again, what<br />

would you do differently?<br />

I would be much nicer to people.<br />

What advice would you give to someone<br />

starting out on their entrepreneurial<br />

journey?<br />

I would say be prepared to work harder<br />

than you would work for someone else;<br />

be driven by data <strong>and</strong> do your homework.<br />

Many ideas that seem brilliant on paper<br />

fall apart very soon once it makes contact<br />

with the real world. Know what the points<br />

of failure are <strong>and</strong> have a solution before<br />

moving forward. Any business plan that<br />

requires luck as a matter of necessity may<br />

not be the best plan.<br />

Know when to call it a day <strong>and</strong> try<br />

something else, especially when there is<br />

time <strong>and</strong> money involved. Many times,<br />

people believe they have put too much<br />

time, effort <strong>and</strong> money into an idea to give<br />

up, but putting even more time, effort <strong>and</strong><br />

money into a failing venture makes you feel<br />

even worse when you have to pull the plug<br />

much later. Furthermore, it violates the<br />

eternal law of the universe that says when<br />

you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.<br />

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve<br />

received?<br />

Always do what you love <strong>and</strong> never be<br />

afraid to fail. The ability to be self-aware,<br />

humble, <strong>and</strong> read people well are skill sets<br />

that complement each other, <strong>and</strong> when<br />

combined <strong>and</strong> practised frequently, it can<br />

take you far in life.<br />

If you were to write a book about<br />

yourself, how would you name it?<br />

When I die, people will all look back <strong>and</strong><br />

say, “He’s dead now.”<br />

How do you look after your mental<br />

health?<br />

I run a lot. Research shows that running<br />

<strong>and</strong> exercising makes you smarter. Studies<br />

also show that daily exercise improves<br />

life expectancy regardless of past activity<br />

levels. It is also a smart thing to run <strong>and</strong><br />

exercise with the people you love, in order<br />

to really enjoy the activity.<br />

What’s that one quote you live by?<br />

Generally, I'm not too fond of quotes as<br />

they encourage daydreaming more than<br />

doing. However, when I am stuck, I always<br />

tell myself that there is no problem in the<br />

universe that time <strong>and</strong> hard work can't<br />

solve. Even the most intractable problem<br />

will lose its hold over you with the passage<br />

of enough time.<br />

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VOICES<br />

I BROUGHT MY DREAMS<br />

FROM AFGHANISTAN TO BERLIN<br />

A Refugee’s Story of<br />

Her Path to Success<br />

<strong>and</strong> Inner Peace<br />

Rabeah<br />

RAHIMI ACTRESS<br />

@rabeah_r<br />

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Success means having inner satisfaction <strong>and</strong> pure calmness. You<br />

will know that you achieve it once you have peace in your heart <strong>and</strong><br />

mind. Inner peace is important to me as much as it is to everyone<br />

else. I’m proud of what I have accomplished through the years,<br />

despite the hardships <strong>and</strong> pain I sadly experienced. Hopefully, my<br />

work in the entertainment industry will give pleasure to others when<br />

they see it.<br />

Like everyone else, my life towards success isn't easy. I was a<br />

refugee from Afghanistan, <strong>and</strong> I was ten years old when I moved<br />

to Germany. It was a big culture shock for me. The people, their<br />

behaviour <strong>and</strong> everything were very different from what I knew<br />

<strong>and</strong> what I experienced. I had to learn to adapt. Berlin has a great<br />

culture—it's very green everywhere—parks are everywhere. I'm<br />

very grateful for the chance to have a new life here. Girls can go to<br />

school, enjoy free education, <strong>and</strong> achieve everything they dream of.<br />

I was traumatised because of the war in Afghanistan. If I don’t<br />

have a fundamentally positive attitude towards life <strong>and</strong> without<br />

the necessary support from people around me, I would certainly<br />

not achieve this point in my life. I can’t imagine my life without my<br />

friends <strong>and</strong> they make me very happy.<br />

Even though I have a dark past, I’m still a dreamer. I often lie in<br />

the grass with my dog, gaze at the blue, sunny sky <strong>and</strong> think of<br />

happy thoughts. I love cycling <strong>and</strong> discovering new streets, seeing<br />

beautiful <strong>and</strong> colourful buildings <strong>and</strong> meeting new people. I’m a<br />

happy-go-lucky person <strong>and</strong> I love everything about my life.<br />

I discovered that I love acting. I find it incredibly exciting to slip into<br />

different roles with different lives <strong>and</strong> characters. I feel alive through<br />

acting <strong>and</strong> it gives me great pleasure. Sometimes, when I’m sad<br />

<strong>and</strong> the haunting memories come back, acting helps me to process<br />

them <strong>and</strong> eventually calm me down.<br />

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So far, the biggest achievement in my life happened<br />

when I got a role in a film called ‘Twins’. I was with Gérard<br />

Depardieu who is incredibly talented <strong>and</strong> gave me<br />

important tips. He always reminds me with the words:<br />

“Don't play it—feel it.” In addition to my acting career, I’m<br />

currently studying directing at the film school in Berlin. I<br />

find it very exciting to get professional knowledge about<br />

film-making.<br />

My dream is to create my own film in which I can tell my<br />

personal story. I would like the film to encourage others<br />

to start a new, meaningful life: far from home, despite<br />

all the adversities. Sometime in the near future, I also<br />

believe it is wonderful to have my own family—a loving<br />

family to whom I can share my love, full support <strong>and</strong><br />

happiness.<br />

We all know that life is a series of ups <strong>and</strong> downs. Expect<br />

hardships <strong>and</strong> remember to learn from it. A painful past<br />

isn’t a great memory, <strong>and</strong> it is something that we can’t<br />

change. We can get courage from our darkest memories<br />

to continue life <strong>and</strong> make sure to do everything better<br />

for our own selves, our families <strong>and</strong> the world’s future.<br />

The most important thing we need to learn is to follow<br />

our hearts, try to realise your dreams, <strong>and</strong> most of all, to<br />

be proud of yourself.<br />

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TAKING<br />

LESSONS<br />

Asil<br />

Attar<br />

CEO AND ENTREPRENEUR<br />

www.asilattar.com<br />

www.turban-thinker.com<br />

www.salt-fashion.com<br />

@asil_attar<br />

@turbanthinker<br />

@saltfashionltd<br />

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Tell us a bit about yourself.<br />

I was born in Iraq <strong>and</strong> of mixed heritage: Iraqi<br />

<strong>and</strong> Indian. I left Iraq when I was about two years<br />

old <strong>and</strong> was brought up between the UK <strong>and</strong> the<br />

US. My parents left the Middle East in the 1950s<br />

<strong>and</strong> moved to the US. They later returned briefly<br />

at the time when I was born <strong>and</strong> eventually<br />

settled in the UK.<br />

I attended American curriculum schools in the<br />

UK <strong>and</strong> graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree<br />

in Interior Design. I’m proud to have built a<br />

successful career in fashion, luxury, retail, <strong>and</strong><br />

business—working incredibly hard throughout<br />

my 30-year journey.<br />

I'm known as the Hybrid. The first half of my<br />

career was spent working in creative roles—as<br />

a buyer, creative director, <strong>and</strong> br<strong>and</strong> director.<br />

I worked the second half of my career as a<br />

transformational leader in senior executive roles,<br />

for the later 11 years as CEO of fashion groups in<br />

the Middle East. My role as CEO has gained me<br />

a reputation for turning businesses around <strong>and</strong><br />

restructuring them, introducing new visionary<br />

strategies <strong>and</strong> bringing positive change. I would<br />

describe my leadership style as transformational<br />

<strong>and</strong> people-centred. I focus on my teams <strong>and</strong><br />

engage my business emotionally on the journey,<br />

leaving a lifetime impact.<br />

What does success mean to you?<br />

Success is reaching a position with positive<br />

influence—leaving a legacy through transferring<br />

knowledge to other people <strong>and</strong> creating social<br />

impact.<br />

What is your secret sauce?<br />

Hard work, passion, humility—leading <strong>and</strong><br />

driving everything through my ethics <strong>and</strong> values:<br />

this is uncompromisable <strong>and</strong> must be with me all<br />

the time.<br />

What are you passionate about?<br />

I'm definitely passionate about making a difference<br />

to people's lives, knowing that with the roles that<br />

I have gained come with a huge responsibility. I<br />

ensure that I'm mindful of each <strong>and</strong> every decision<br />

that I make, which affects other people; therefore,<br />

people are always on top of my mind.<br />

Another passion of mine is to enable others to<br />

follow their dreams—to inspire, motivate <strong>and</strong><br />

empower them. Each one of us is unique <strong>and</strong><br />

has something special to offer. You just have to<br />

bring their confidence to the forefront for them<br />

to realise that <strong>and</strong> in turn, this will eventually<br />

bring out their passion.<br />

You have had a lot of firsts, but what does<br />

it mean to be the first female CEO of Damas<br />

Jewellery in over 100 years?<br />

I'm very proud of my achievements, especially<br />

as a female, championing empowerment <strong>and</strong><br />

representing the potential of women. Having<br />

said that, I am passionate about empowering<br />

men <strong>and</strong> women as we all serve an example for<br />

each other.<br />

My achievements are the outcome of my hard<br />

work, passion, drive <strong>and</strong> continually being aware<br />

that we are constantly learning no matter what<br />

position we reach, which pushes me to keep<br />

going.<br />

Despite their potential, many women don’t<br />

see themselves as future CEOs. Why do you<br />

think this is so?<br />

The fact that a small single-digit representation<br />

of women in senior roles or on the board is a key<br />

factor; this, however, should motivate women<br />

more. It is up to us to change the mindset that<br />

we can't do it. We must see ourselves as capable<br />

of achieving anything we set our minds to.<br />

Without women driving this mindset, change will<br />

not happen. There are thous<strong>and</strong>s of women that<br />

will follow, <strong>and</strong> it's up to us to unite <strong>and</strong> empower<br />

them to do so.<br />

What would you say are some of the best<br />

strategies to promote diversity in the<br />

workplace?<br />

I always had a diverse workplace <strong>and</strong> I have hired<br />

people with different ethnicities <strong>and</strong> cultures. I<br />

represented a mini melting pot. It isn't something<br />

that is a strategy. It is part of who I am, how I was<br />

raised, my respect for humanity, <strong>and</strong> my stance<br />

that we are all capable no matter what. Promoting<br />

diversity in the workplace is an innate part of my<br />

leadership style <strong>and</strong> is definitely natural.<br />

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What is your advice to the next<br />

generation of female CEOs?<br />

Remember that it took you hard work <strong>and</strong><br />

a great deal of effort to reach the position<br />

that you are in. Stay true to yourself, be<br />

humble <strong>and</strong> underst<strong>and</strong> that you are an<br />

example which everyone is looking up<br />

to. Ensure that you use your status to<br />

promote positive change <strong>and</strong> impact, as<br />

well as inspire others, especially women.<br />

You have given a lot of years to the<br />

fashion industry <strong>and</strong> seen its growth<br />

over time. How would you describe the<br />

future of fashion?<br />

Fashion is an evolving field. I have<br />

been fortunate enough to survive three<br />

recessions <strong>and</strong> four amazing decades.<br />

Experiencing recession has taught me so<br />

much.<br />

One thing I do know that whilst we are<br />

currently going through an unusual<br />

<strong>and</strong> unprecedented global impact, this<br />

will bring many innovative <strong>and</strong> creative<br />

thinkers to the table, as well as gamechangers<br />

that will question the past <strong>and</strong><br />

look for a brighter, optimistic future.<br />

I believe that with so many people's<br />

priorities <strong>and</strong> focuses on reshifting,<br />

consumers are looking for unique,<br />

relatable, ethical, well-made products,<br />

<strong>and</strong> not simply fast fashion. They want the<br />

story-telling—the experience—to know<br />

who made the products <strong>and</strong> how they<br />

are made. This means that there will be a<br />

great shift towards ethical <strong>and</strong> sustainable<br />

products.<br />

This p<strong>and</strong>emic has propelled this trend to<br />

the forefront; whilst in the past, getting<br />

companies to champion sustainability in<br />

fashion churned slowly.<br />

What advice would you give your<br />

20-year-old self?<br />

I know its cliché, but cherish every<br />

moment. It goes by as fast as a flash.<br />

Remember, even though you think you<br />

know everything, you actually don't.<br />

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Name 2 books you recommend <strong>and</strong> why<br />

I don't read much 'cause I literally don't have the time. The only book I<br />

read is the Quran, that is what I make time for. My religion is the most<br />

important thing to me, grounding me <strong>and</strong> directing me.<br />

Who inspires you with awe <strong>and</strong> why?<br />

My mother <strong>and</strong> father inspire me so much. They were teenagers when<br />

they took a decision to leave Iraq <strong>and</strong> venture into the big wide world.<br />

My father worked incredibly hard <strong>and</strong> was a pioneer of solar energy<br />

in the 1970s. We grew up underst<strong>and</strong>ing the importance of the<br />

environment <strong>and</strong> respect for nature. He was so humble, charitable,<br />

uncompromisable in his ethics, <strong>and</strong> he never accepted wrong—no<br />

matter who or what. He taught me to st<strong>and</strong> up for my beliefs <strong>and</strong><br />

support others that were less fortunate, to do good <strong>and</strong> live a life of<br />

integrity.<br />

My mother was beautiful <strong>and</strong> creative. She taught me everything about<br />

fashion, colour, <strong>and</strong> art. She ensured that I would learn to read <strong>and</strong><br />

write Arabic, even though we lived away from our home country. She<br />

was an empowered, strong woman, hardworking while taking care of<br />

her family.<br />

My parents were both unwell from an early age <strong>and</strong> I never quite got to<br />

see them in their prime state. Despite that, they remained passionate,<br />

beautiful, <strong>and</strong> strong—inspiring <strong>and</strong> helping others. May they rest in<br />

peace.<br />

What are your top two strategies for dealing with difficult<br />

situations?<br />

For many years, working with thous<strong>and</strong>s of people <strong>and</strong> being<br />

responsible for many, I have learned that you must think before you<br />

react. You must never h<strong>and</strong>le situations when you are in the heat of<br />

the moment. Stay calm, be open-minded <strong>and</strong> be honest. My style is<br />

holding brutal but positive conversations, focusing on the solution<br />

instead of the problem itself.<br />

How do you look after your mental health?<br />

I am also known as the Turban Thinker because of the different heads<br />

that they claim I have under my turban. I have a blessed ability to<br />

multi-task <strong>and</strong> think in many different ways. However, this is mentally<br />

challenging for me: controlling my thoughts <strong>and</strong> managing the speed<br />

of my work.<br />

My faith is the foundation of my mental wellbeing. I pray, read the<br />

Quran, <strong>and</strong> ensure that a couple of hours at the start <strong>and</strong> end of the<br />

day is for some alone time.<br />

What’s that one quote you live by?<br />

My greatest gift is possessing the ability to see the spark of potential<br />

in everything <strong>and</strong> everyone, <strong>and</strong> to inspire others to see it too. This is<br />

a paradigm I live by.<br />

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S1<br />

THE MIDDLE<br />

EAST’S VERY OWN<br />

KING OF POP<br />

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Official_S1<br />

Uncut with S1<br />

S1<br />

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Being amongst the most successful English artists to come<br />

out of the region <strong>and</strong> making it internationally, what was the<br />

biggest challenge you faced?<br />

The biggest challenge was to get recognised in the industry<br />

internationally without staying in the US. It took a lot of proving<br />

my skills <strong>and</strong> collaborating with many international artists,<br />

producers, <strong>and</strong> songwriters. I had to show that I was capable of<br />

creating hit records.<br />

You have been a Recording Academy Member for the past 5<br />

years <strong>and</strong> have attended several Grammy Award shows, how<br />

was that experience?<br />

A lot of people underestimate the importance of the Recording<br />

Academy, thinking it is just about awards. Definitely, the Grammys<br />

is an important show <strong>and</strong> awarding body, having a long history of<br />

recognising music <strong>and</strong> artists’ successes, but the Academy plays<br />

an even bigger role behind the scenes. They fight for the rights<br />

<strong>and</strong> protection of musicians, producers, <strong>and</strong> writers.<br />

The Recording Academy also supports Musicares Foundation,<br />

which provides money <strong>and</strong> services to musicians in emergencies<br />

<strong>and</strong> crises. I have attended many award shows, but the times I<br />

attended the Grammys were all great experiences on another<br />

level. It is an unreal experience to see all the glamour, the talent,<br />

the variety of artists, the people behind the scenes of the biggest<br />

records <strong>and</strong> legends all under one roof. I was incredibly lucky to<br />

have had the opportunity to see Prince take the stage one of the<br />

times I attended. I am always proud to attend the Grammys <strong>and</strong><br />

represent the Middle East <strong>and</strong> Germany.<br />

How would you describe your musical style?<br />

I consider my style unique. It’s a combination of Pop <strong>and</strong> RnB, with<br />

a twist. It’s the S1 sound. You will always recognise the S1 sound<br />

because it is so different. I love exploring <strong>and</strong> experimenting so I<br />

don’t limit myself to sounding one particular way.<br />

What are you passionate about <strong>and</strong> why?<br />

My biggest passion is making music, whether it be a song for<br />

myself or for another artist. I love the entire process from finding<br />

a beat to creating a melody, writing the lyrics, <strong>and</strong> making a hit<br />

that will impact people in so many different ways. Once I start<br />

on new music, I get lost in that world <strong>and</strong> my creativity begins to<br />

flow. There is no greater feeling than hearing feedback from fans<br />

about a new song that I’ve released. They share their personal<br />

connection to my songs <strong>and</strong> how it either got them through a<br />

tough situation or that their kids memorised all the lyrics, or even<br />

that they danced to it at their parties! I have always been an<br />

entertainer <strong>and</strong> live for good vibes. After making a song in the<br />

studio, it is amazing to bring it to life on stage.<br />

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What do you do outside of<br />

music?<br />

I have a podcast called Uncut with<br />

S1. I have several businesses, my<br />

biggest being in entertainment,<br />

<strong>and</strong> at the moment I am working<br />

on a project. I can’t reveal too<br />

many details just yet, but it is a<br />

new show that I’m filming <strong>and</strong><br />

it’s going to be big <strong>and</strong> super<br />

entertaining!<br />

Tell us about Young Millionaire<br />

Entertainment <strong>and</strong> why you<br />

started it<br />

Young Millionaire Entertainment<br />

has been my baby for almost 10<br />

years. We’ve grown so much <strong>and</strong><br />

I am so proud of our team <strong>and</strong><br />

what we have accomplished. I<br />

started the company because<br />

I felt like my team <strong>and</strong> I could<br />

bring so much more creativity<br />

<strong>and</strong> quality to the market.<br />

Coming from the entertainment<br />

industry, I experienced going<br />

on tour <strong>and</strong> performing on so<br />

many different platforms all over<br />

the world, <strong>and</strong> so I wanted to<br />

bring back my expertise, share<br />

it with people in the region, <strong>and</strong><br />

perfect all the missing pieces.<br />

How has social media impacted<br />

your career?<br />

This is a great question because<br />

when I had my first big break at<br />

16 years old, the whole social<br />

media game wasn’t as relevant<br />

as it is today. When I would run<br />

into fans, they would tell me<br />

that they saw me on MTV, or<br />

that they heard my song on the<br />

radio, or saw my album in Virgin<br />

<strong>and</strong> my face in magazines <strong>and</strong><br />

newspapers—whereas now it’s<br />

all about Instagram, YouTube,<br />

Tiktok, Snapchat or any other<br />

platform. With time, I adapted.<br />

To answer your question, I think<br />

it has made a lot of things much<br />

easier <strong>and</strong> quicker to get things<br />

out there. Back then, it was<br />

m<strong>and</strong>atory to get your song on<br />

MTV heavy rotation to get any<br />

kind of exposure, but now, people<br />

themselves can just upload on<br />

YouTube <strong>and</strong> it is guaranteed to<br />

get some kind of exposure.<br />

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How do you see music events evolving as a<br />

result of the current situation with Covid-19?<br />

I see a current trend going around in Europe<br />

<strong>and</strong> the States where drive-thru cinemas are<br />

being converted into drive-thru music events<br />

or st<strong>and</strong>-up comedy events. Obviously, such<br />

experiences are only temporary as they are<br />

nowhere near as thrilling <strong>and</strong> exciting as a<br />

typical event; therefore, they aren’t a threat.<br />

Eventually, once a vaccine will be widely<br />

available, things will go back to normal.<br />

You started your music career at an early<br />

age, what advice would you give to young<br />

aspiring artists?<br />

My advice would simply be to believe in<br />

yourself, to set a goal, to chase that goal<br />

until you achieve it, despite what others may<br />

think or say. Always remember that anything is<br />

possible if you put your mind to it. You should<br />

look at things like a muscle: the more you keep<br />

working on it, the stronger it gets.<br />

People like Walt Disney, Oprah, Elvis, Lady<br />

Gaga, Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs, <strong>and</strong> Michael<br />

Jordan, though from different industries, all<br />

have something in common—they all got<br />

rejected before they made it big! Keep in<br />

mind, rejection should fuel your motivation.<br />

Why Dubai as a base?<br />

Dubai is the greatest city in the world. The<br />

food here is amazing <strong>and</strong> you have the perfect<br />

combination of city <strong>and</strong> beach. You have all the<br />

moods in one place.<br />

For my career, Dubai is well-situated<br />

geographically, making travel to most countries<br />

convenient. The service <strong>and</strong> hospitality in the<br />

UAE is unmatched <strong>and</strong> I realise that every<br />

time I leave. A major factor is that security<br />

is paramount here. I was born in beautiful<br />

Germany <strong>and</strong> moved to Dubai when I was<br />

8 years old. I have since then created such<br />

beautiful <strong>and</strong> memorable memories with my<br />

family, friends, <strong>and</strong> fans. Every time I fly back<br />

into Dubai, I feel like I missed it so much.<br />

Who do you admire with awe <strong>and</strong> why?<br />

I admire all the strong, determined <strong>and</strong><br />

hardworking women out there. Whether they<br />

leave the house to work or stay at home to care<br />

for their children, or even do both, women are to<br />

be praised, respected, <strong>and</strong> treasured worldwide.<br />

Having said that, I love my mom <strong>and</strong> appreciate<br />

everything she has done <strong>and</strong> is doing for me, my<br />

siblings, <strong>and</strong> family.<br />

Since you were one of the first Teen Stars in<br />

the Middle East <strong>and</strong> continue to stay on top<br />

of the game, how have you managed to stay<br />

so relevant?<br />

I think the quality of your work will always speak<br />

for itself. If you work hard, provide amazing<br />

content, <strong>and</strong> reinvent yourself from time to time,<br />

I would say that’s the key to staying relevant <strong>and</strong><br />

interesting. Always stay true to yourself <strong>and</strong> be<br />

honest with your fans <strong>and</strong> followers.<br />

What’s next for S1?<br />

New music <strong>and</strong> a new show coming soon too!<br />

Make sure you all follow me on my social media<br />

to stay updated <strong>and</strong> hear it first.<br />

What’s that one quote you live by?<br />

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish<br />

by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole<br />

life believing that it is stupid.”<br />

–Albert Einstein<br />

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LIFESTYLE<br />

DO YOU<br />

KNOW YOUR<br />

ATTACHMENT<br />

STYLE?<br />

THE PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND ATTACHMENT STYLES<br />

AND THEIR ASSOCIATED BEHAVIOURS<br />

What Are Attachment Styles?<br />

Attachment styles are the different ways we interact <strong>and</strong> behave in<br />

relationships. During early childhood, the interaction between the parent<br />

<strong>and</strong> child defines the child’s attachment style.<br />

While attachment styles can shift throughout the years, research shows<br />

that patterns established in childhood have a strong impact on adulthood<br />

relationships. Nevertheless, it is also common for adults to adopt a<br />

combination of traits as they go through different life experiences <strong>and</strong><br />

relationships.<br />

History<br />

These attachment styles are based on the attachment theory <strong>and</strong> research<br />

in the 1960s to 70s. John Bowlby did extensive research on the concept of<br />

attachment. His work was exp<strong>and</strong>ed by psychologist Mary Ainsworth who<br />

identified three attachment styles: secure, anxious, <strong>and</strong> avoidant. Later on,<br />

researchers Main <strong>and</strong> Solomon added a fourth style—the disorganised style.<br />

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THE 4 ATTACHMENT STYLES<br />

• Secure<br />

A secure attachment is developed in childhood when the child’s<br />

needs are regularly met. Children exhibiting a secure attachment<br />

style feel comfortable around their parents. They don’t feel<br />

separation anxiety when the parent leaves <strong>and</strong> they’re happy when<br />

they return. The child feels safe, nurtured, <strong>and</strong> in touch with their<br />

parents. They seek comfort from parents when frightened <strong>and</strong> have<br />

an easy time expressing emotions.<br />

Adults with a secure attachment style have low avoidance <strong>and</strong><br />

low anxiety when dealing with social interactions. They feel<br />

comfortable with their emotions <strong>and</strong> relationships. They know how<br />

to draw boundaries, express their emotions in a healthy manner,<br />

<strong>and</strong> feel secure, trusting, <strong>and</strong> connected to their partners. Overall,<br />

individuals with a secure attachment tend to have a positive view<br />

of self <strong>and</strong> others <strong>and</strong> form trusting <strong>and</strong> long-lasting relationships.<br />

• Anxious<br />

An anxious attachment style is developed in childhood when the<br />

child receives an inconsistent amount of love <strong>and</strong> care. Children<br />

who are anxiously attached tend to be apprehensive of strangers.<br />

They display considerable distress when separated from a parent or<br />

caregiver <strong>and</strong> do not seem reassured or comforted by their return.<br />

Adults with this attachment have low avoidance but high anxiety<br />

with social interactions. They are very concerned with what others<br />

feel about them, <strong>and</strong> because of this concern, they are dependent<br />

on others for feelings of validation <strong>and</strong> approval. They need<br />

constant reassurance <strong>and</strong> communication. In relationships, they<br />

want to feel a secure, safe, <strong>and</strong> loving bond with their partners but<br />

because of their desire for excessive intimacy, oftentimes they can<br />

become overly involved, clingy, <strong>and</strong> possessive. They tend to have<br />

a lack of trust <strong>and</strong> they have a difficult time believing that their<br />

partners actually love them. Overall, individuals with an anxious<br />

attachment style tend to idealise their relationships but live in<br />

constant fear of ab<strong>and</strong>onment <strong>and</strong> rejection.<br />

• Avoidant<br />

An avoidant attachment style is<br />

developed in childhood when only a<br />

portion of the child’s needs are met.<br />

For instance, the child may not be<br />

left hungry but are left emotionally<br />

dismissed. The parent may not give<br />

the child permission to cry or have<br />

little to no response when the child<br />

is hurting. This attachment style is<br />

almost the opposite of a preoccupied<br />

or anxious style.<br />

People in this category have high<br />

avoidance but low anxiety with social<br />

interactions. They are uncomfortable<br />

with intimacy, affection, <strong>and</strong> love. They<br />

generally feel that they are independent<br />

of everybody else <strong>and</strong> think that they<br />

do not need relationships. They do not<br />

invest much emotion in relationships<br />

<strong>and</strong> experience little sadness when<br />

a relationship ends. They can often<br />

appear distant as they do not share their<br />

feelings often. They tend to rationalise<br />

their emotions <strong>and</strong> deny their own<br />

feelings to avoid confrontation.<br />

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• Fearful/Disorganised<br />

A fearful or disorganised attachment is developed<br />

in childhood when the primary caregiver offers<br />

inconsistent emotional support <strong>and</strong>/or abuse<br />

or neglect. This attachment style is more of a<br />

combination of preoccupied <strong>and</strong> dismissive styles.<br />

Main <strong>and</strong> Solomon proposed that inconsistent<br />

behaviour on the part of parents might be a<br />

contributing factor. They also argued that parents<br />

who act as figures of both fear <strong>and</strong> reassurance<br />

to a child contribute to a disorganised attachment<br />

style.<br />

When the child feels both comforted <strong>and</strong><br />

frightened by the parent, confusion results.<br />

Despite craving intimacy, people with disorganised<br />

attachment style have a difficult time connecting<br />

with others while simultaneously wanting to<br />

remain independent <strong>and</strong> distant. These individuals<br />

usually get into very dysfunctional <strong>and</strong> unstable<br />

relationships. They have high avoidance along with<br />

high anxiety in social interactions. They generally<br />

see themselves as flawed <strong>and</strong> not worthy of loving<br />

<strong>and</strong> caring relationships. Overall, these individuals<br />

tend to have a “push-pull’’ dynamic where they<br />

want to feel close <strong>and</strong> loved but since they expect<br />

to get hurt, they want to avoid any feelings of<br />

intimacy at the same time.<br />

By underst<strong>and</strong>ing our attachment styles, we can<br />

shed more awareness on our thoughts <strong>and</strong> actions<br />

in our relationships. Furthermore, by underst<strong>and</strong>ing<br />

our partner’s attachment style, we can better<br />

underst<strong>and</strong> why they too act or think a certain<br />

way. Enhanced underst<strong>and</strong>ing <strong>and</strong> awareness can<br />

help partners have more compassion <strong>and</strong> better<br />

communicate with one another as they navigate<br />

through the ups <strong>and</strong> downs that come their way.<br />

TANNAZ<br />

HOSSEINPOUR<br />

<strong>About</strong> the author<br />

Tannaz Hosseinpour, founder of Minutes on Growth Coaching, is a Dubaibased<br />

certified life coach specialising in mindset <strong>and</strong> relationships. She<br />

helps millennials manifest <strong>and</strong> cultivate empowered lives through oneon-one<br />

coaching, online programs, podcast episodes <strong>and</strong> social media<br />

content. She is the host of her self-improvement podcast, Minutes on<br />

Growth, available on Spotify, Apple <strong>and</strong> Google Podcast. She holds a<br />

Masters of Law degree in alternative dispute resolution, specialising<br />

in family mediation. Since 2017, she is also the CEO <strong>and</strong> founder of<br />

TP Education Consultants, an educational consultancy firm based in<br />

Toronto, Tehran <strong>and</strong> Dubai.<br />

Website: www.minutesongrowth.com<br />

Facebook: www.facebook.com/minutesongrowth<br />

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NEURO LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING:<br />

THE SMART WAY TO DEAL WITH<br />

ANXIETY AND STRESS<br />

Nowadays, adapting to the new circumstances of life<br />

compels your brain to think <strong>and</strong> behave similarly to a<br />

first day at school scenario where you don’t know what<br />

to expect. You enter a new world with different sets of<br />

rules <strong>and</strong> guidelines that provoke naturally high levels<br />

of stress.<br />

I fell in love with Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP),<br />

a psychological methodology, when I was heartbroken<br />

<strong>and</strong> couldn’t deal with the emotional toll for over a year.<br />

I felt so emotional yet so angry for the fact that I have<br />

been left alone after years of promises for a lifetime<br />

commitment. Anxiety took over my health, <strong>and</strong> day after<br />

day, I got worse.<br />

I remember my NLP teacher inviting me to do a technique<br />

on a broken heart cure that I jumped into passionately<br />

as I was sick of being depressed. The technique we did<br />

on emotional freedom tapping enabled me to create<br />

a healthier <strong>and</strong> better-looking image of myself. It took<br />

me exactly 24 hours to throw away all the stuff I kept<br />

devotedly for over a year. I have reframed my statement<br />

from being left <strong>and</strong> lonely to living free <strong>and</strong> independent,<br />

<strong>and</strong> actually starting to enjoy it.<br />

It seemed a logically reasonable solution to stop the<br />

vicious <strong>and</strong> purposeless cycle of making the same<br />

mistakes in life over <strong>and</strong> over again <strong>and</strong> not being able<br />

to interpret the pattern. I guess the NLP course found<br />

me <strong>and</strong> offered itself to me as an instant gratification of<br />

my desire to get out of my painful body.<br />

NLP teaches us how to programme our linguistics aiming<br />

to change our neuronal network <strong>and</strong> communication. As<br />

my NLP teacher said: “Think of your mind as a flexible<br />

tool <strong>and</strong> not a fixed one; instead of a mindset, think of it<br />

as a mindflex.” Start looking at unconventional <strong>and</strong> outof-the-box<br />

ideas that are feasible now <strong>and</strong> implement<br />

them at the earliest rather than going through regrets<br />

over the lost reality. What she uses as an example is a<br />

jelly that adapts to the shape of the mould. Similarly,<br />

through powerful NLP techniques, you can shape your<br />

mind into a form to suit your desired outcomes.<br />

The basic internal protective mechanism of our brain is<br />

called the ‘fight-flight-freeze’: the response to threat,<br />

anxiety <strong>and</strong> fear. Dissect fear to underst<strong>and</strong> that it is not<br />

real <strong>and</strong> accept stress as a good stimulus in your life<br />

to promote growth, resilience, <strong>and</strong> strength of mind.<br />

Since you love your life, choose <strong>and</strong> work towards a<br />

flexible mind <strong>and</strong> learn new ways to move ahead on<br />

your journey.<br />

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Three Powerful Techniques to Deal with<br />

Anxiety <strong>and</strong> Stress<br />

Circle of Excellence<br />

This is an easy yet very powerful NLP<br />

technique that can help in times of inability to<br />

move ahead in life or when you’re missing a<br />

sense of direction.<br />

Think of the time when you felt best as an<br />

individual or a leader, or when you felt great<br />

at anything you do. Analyse the circumstances<br />

where <strong>and</strong> when you felt it, the colours<br />

associated with the scenario, the intensity of the<br />

achievement, the words that you remember,<br />

or even the taste or smell connected to that<br />

experience. Get all of your senses involved in<br />

that memory. All the collective experiences of<br />

these memories are what we are going to call<br />

your ‘excellent state’.<br />

Set up a ‘circle’ on the floor, one big<br />

enough where you can st<strong>and</strong>. Associate the<br />

experiences of excellence with st<strong>and</strong>ing on<br />

this circle: this is what you’re going to call<br />

your ‘circle of excellence’. Focus <strong>and</strong> let your<br />

senses flood your mind to effectively anchor<br />

the ‘excellent state’ to your circle.<br />

Imagine stepping inside your circle of<br />

excellence. Go back <strong>and</strong> forth <strong>and</strong> make<br />

observations. Evaluate all the feelings <strong>and</strong><br />

senses you had. The ‘excellent state’ should<br />

return whenever you go step into the circle.<br />

You can decide to put that ‘circle of excellence’<br />

in the chair where you study, work, or in the<br />

bed where you sleep. You will have a more<br />

productive or more tranquil state of mind.<br />

The Spinning Feeling<br />

This technique allows you to locate <strong>and</strong><br />

reshape a bodily feeling of stress <strong>and</strong> anxiety<br />

<strong>and</strong> give it a different positive sensation. This<br />

method works by lending a sense of direction<br />

<strong>and</strong> speed to negative feelings, such as<br />

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mentally ‘reversing’ the direction <strong>and</strong> spin of these<br />

feelings in the mind will also change or divert the<br />

negative feeling into positive ones.<br />

Think of a situation that caused you anxiety. Think<br />

about the feeling: what triggers it <strong>and</strong> what result it<br />

yields. Close your eyes <strong>and</strong> immerse yourself in that<br />

situation. Observe your own bodily responses: do<br />

your eyes go up <strong>and</strong> then down, or both ways? Where<br />

does the feeling originate—right, left, or centre of<br />

the body? Does your body clench or vibrate?<br />

Follow the path of the feeling in your mind <strong>and</strong><br />

notice its size: does it start small <strong>and</strong> grow big? Is<br />

it within the body or beyond the body? Track the<br />

path of the feeling as it enters <strong>and</strong> exits through the<br />

same points, making a ‘disk’ as it ‘spins’. Note the<br />

direction: is it clockwise or counterclockwise? You<br />

may even see that this ‘disk’ has a colour.<br />

To reshape the negative feeling into a positive one,<br />

the trick happens in the mind: this time, reverse the<br />

direction of the spin <strong>and</strong> change the colour of the<br />

‘disk’ to a pleasant one, add some sparkles to it, <strong>and</strong><br />

make it fun <strong>and</strong> amusing!<br />

Put yourself back in another situation where you<br />

most likely have the old response <strong>and</strong> see if you<br />

can get the old response again using the ‘spinning<br />

feeling’. You can try this method whenever you’re<br />

experiencing a stressful <strong>and</strong> anxiety-laden situation.<br />

Time Line Therapy®<br />

The Time Line Therapy® is anchored on the concept<br />

that memories are stored in a linear or chronistic<br />

manner in our brains. With this therapy, you will<br />

reframe your perspectives about an upcoming<br />

challenge <strong>and</strong> prepare yourself to perform at your<br />

best. An individual’s ‘timeline’ is the result of the<br />

unconscious process of storing his or her memories,<br />

as well as how he or she unconsciously distinguishes<br />

the difference between a past memory <strong>and</strong> a future<br />

projection.<br />

To apply this technique, imagine a timeline of your<br />

past, present <strong>and</strong> future. You should be able to point<br />

your past, present <strong>and</strong> future to any direction from<br />

your body. Visualise your timeline clearly.<br />

Think about an event that is causing you stress.<br />

Close your eyes <strong>and</strong> visualise that future situation<br />

playing out. Where do you feel that nervousness in<br />

your body? Rate the strength of the feeling from one<br />

to ten. Open your eyes <strong>and</strong> take a deep breath.<br />

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Take a moment to close your eyes <strong>and</strong> ask yourself for the<br />

opportunities of this future event that can benefit you. If<br />

things went better than you can ever imagine, what are<br />

the benefits of taking on this challenge <strong>and</strong> what could<br />

make you excited about this opportunity? See what you<br />

like to see, hear what you like to hear, <strong>and</strong> feel it.<br />

With your eyes closed, go back on your timeline. You<br />

are in the present moment of your timeline, facing the<br />

future. Imagine floating above the timeline until you are<br />

on a comfortable height looking from above. Gently turn<br />

into the direction of your future as far as you need to go.<br />

Float all the way in the future <strong>and</strong> go even further until<br />

you are an hour past the successful completion of that<br />

event. The event is completely over, <strong>and</strong> you made it<br />

through; you realise that everything turned out even<br />

better than you imagined. Gently turn <strong>and</strong> look back<br />

towards the now, from a safe place in your future back<br />

to your present moment. Notice that the anxiety you had<br />

before is completely gone.<br />

At the moment, you will come back to the present to<br />

prepare yourself for the success of that event. Your<br />

subconscious mind made all the adjustments you need<br />

for this event to happen with all its success. Take another<br />

deep breath in <strong>and</strong> all the way down to your belly <strong>and</strong><br />

wake up. Try to think about that event again. You might<br />

even realise that the anxious feeling has become more<br />

elusive.<br />

NLP to combat stress <strong>and</strong> anxiety<br />

Many recent studies suggest that NLP has potential<br />

as a therapeutic tool in the treatment of symptoms of<br />

anxiety <strong>and</strong> depression associated with post-traumatic<br />

stress disorder (PTSD). Studies also show that individuals<br />

who work with NLP experts experience a dramatic<br />

improvement in their emotional states.<br />

Much of our modern anxiety is based on the fear that<br />

we are not in control of our own minds. NLP takes a<br />

different approach to treating anxiety as it taps the<br />

power of the subconscious mind to make big changes<br />

within our consciousness. NLP also utilises the power<br />

of language to bridge our conscious <strong>and</strong> subconscious<br />

mind, using techniques that may help us feel better, be<br />

more resourceful, <strong>and</strong> be more empowered to live a life<br />

we appreciate <strong>and</strong> desire.<br />

ABOUT THE AUTHOR<br />

VYARA TOSHEVA<br />

Wellness, Spa <strong>and</strong> Retreats<br />

Business Consultant<br />

In over 19 years, Vyara Tosheva has gained professional<br />

experience in hospitality, leisure <strong>and</strong> wellbeing. Vyara<br />

graduated in Tourism Management <strong>and</strong> holds a Master’s<br />

Degree in Psychology <strong>and</strong> Sociology. She also holds a<br />

Bachelor’s Degree in Tourism, as well as internationallyaccredited<br />

certification courses in Hospitality <strong>and</strong> Spa<br />

Management. She travels the world to enhance her<br />

expertise through further certifications in Ayurveda,<br />

Wellness <strong>and</strong> Fitness Consultancy, Coaching <strong>and</strong><br />

Psychology.<br />

She is a certified NLP <strong>and</strong> EFT master coach <strong>and</strong> Reiki<br />

practitioner. She also led the opening of The Retreat<br />

Palm Dubai, the first wellness retreat resort in the UAE<br />

<strong>and</strong> GCC, as well as the Rayya Wellness <strong>and</strong> Poli-clinic<br />

Centre. She created <strong>and</strong> managed the first holistic<br />

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retreats in a hotel environment where in-house <strong>and</strong><br />

visiting master practitioners, energy workers <strong>and</strong> doctors<br />

combine their knowledge with fitness, spa <strong>and</strong> beauty<br />

professionals to deliver transformational retreats.<br />

As a consultant, she advises <strong>and</strong> consults hospitality <strong>and</strong><br />

spa executives on the creation of wellness projects <strong>and</strong><br />

their execution.<br />

Vyara’s mission is to empower busy executives to create or<br />

enhance their business models geared toward a wellness<br />

lifestyle on both professional <strong>and</strong> personal levels. Her<br />

vision, on the other h<strong>and</strong>, is to create worldwide wellness<br />

<strong>and</strong> health retreat centres that provide premium services<br />

for its employees, guests <strong>and</strong> visitors.


WHY YOU SHOULD<br />

PRACTISE<br />

SELF-CARE<br />

AS A LEADER<br />

Effective leaders are those who underst<strong>and</strong> the importance of their<br />

wellbeing <strong>and</strong> find ways to live a healthy, balanced life. It is important<br />

to point out that work-life balance does not exist as we imagine it. This<br />

I know as a senior leader: in most cases, it is impossible to balance work<br />

<strong>and</strong> life perfectly. The reality is that there will be days when you need<br />

to focus solely on work while personal time with family <strong>and</strong> loved ones<br />

take a backseat. Then, there are days when you must focus on family,<br />

<strong>and</strong> your work is likely to be on the sidelines. It is about prioritising<br />

each day, week, <strong>and</strong> month, <strong>and</strong> recognising when it is time to give for<br />

work <strong>and</strong> when it is time to give for family life <strong>and</strong> personal activities.<br />

So, let us call it prioritisation instead. Having the right partner by your<br />

side also makes a huge difference for many leaders, as leaders need<br />

support <strong>and</strong> underst<strong>and</strong>ing when they need to take time away from<br />

family commitments.<br />

Stress is one of the common symptoms of not practising self-care. When<br />

stress sweeps in, one is bound to fall sick. Being sick will not help you nor<br />

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your team. If you are to get one takeaway from this<br />

article, I hope it is the following statement: Ignoring<br />

self-care will send a message across your team that<br />

everything else is important other than you, <strong>and</strong><br />

they will be influenced to follow your example.<br />

Imagine the kind of loss an organisation can face<br />

when a leader’s productivity decreases, which is<br />

followed by a decrease in the productivity of his<br />

or her team members. In addition, this situation<br />

creates a company culture where it is a norm to<br />

work long hours, take little leave time, work on<br />

weekends, not take time for self-care, poor health<br />

habits, or whatever other trends that a leader may<br />

be setting for the organisation. Surely, there are<br />

times or ‘seasons’ in every business where the team<br />

members have to work late hours, but that should<br />

not be the norm.<br />

A leader’s job is to lead by example, by creating<br />

a productive <strong>and</strong> positive environment, as well as<br />

practise <strong>and</strong> promote self-care <strong>and</strong> wellbeing around<br />

them. The success of a team starts with a leader. A<br />

leader’s path to success starts with self-care. When<br />

you, as a leader, take care of your own self, you will<br />

have the energy <strong>and</strong> right frame of mind to support<br />

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<strong>and</strong> help others. As a leader, you are the role<br />

model for others. When you take care of yourself,<br />

others will do the same. By taking care of yourself,<br />

you are letting the world know that personal<br />

health is more important than continuous work<br />

<strong>and</strong> must be followed by everyone. As a result,<br />

positivity <strong>and</strong> overall performance are bound<br />

to increase. A leader who prioritises self-care<br />

<strong>and</strong> personal downtime can be noticed to have<br />

enhanced wellbeing <strong>and</strong> performance in multiple<br />

areas of professional <strong>and</strong> personal life.<br />

Leadership truly requires continuous effort <strong>and</strong><br />

long working hours, but relaxation <strong>and</strong> rest are<br />

equally important. Leaders need to underst<strong>and</strong><br />

that every minute is crucial, but working every<br />

minute of each day can take a toll on your body,<br />

ultimately affecting your productivity. You must<br />

make time for yourself <strong>and</strong> not feel guilty about<br />

it. A few ways leaders can include self-care in<br />

their daily lives are the following: practising<br />

meditation, exercising, getting quality sleep,<br />

planning a fun activity together with family, taking<br />

family vacations, implementing healthy eating<br />

habits, spending time with loved ones, creating<br />

a peaceful home atmosphere, maintaining a<br />

gratitude journal <strong>and</strong> surrounding yourself with a<br />

positive environment at work <strong>and</strong> at home.<br />

As long as your body <strong>and</strong> mind are healthy, the<br />

rest of the things can be sorted equally in work<br />

<strong>and</strong> in life. Make time to take care of yourself<br />

so that you can be a better you, a better family<br />

member, <strong>and</strong> a better leader.<br />

ABOUT THE AUTHOR<br />

ELENA AGARAGIMOVA<br />

Managing Partner at Bessern <strong>and</strong> Talent Development Specialist<br />

Elena is an entrepreneur, talent development specialist, <strong>and</strong> education advocate<br />

with a deep interest in neuro <strong>and</strong> behavioural sciences. She is known for her<br />

ability to drive change within individuals <strong>and</strong> organisations that are looking to<br />

reach their potential <strong>and</strong> maintain their competitive edge in the business world.<br />

She has started her career in higher education, having worked across various<br />

institutions, departments <strong>and</strong> regions. In her recent years, she dove into business<br />

<strong>and</strong> joined Bessern, as well as founded a learning <strong>and</strong> developing consultancy,<br />

as well as several other projects within the talent development arena.<br />

She is an engaging skilled trainer <strong>and</strong> talent development specialist, credited<br />

with combining operations, education, <strong>and</strong> international expertise to design<br />

<strong>and</strong> deliver programs for diverse audiences. Elena has a strong passion for<br />

L&D, promoting creative <strong>and</strong> engaging workplaces <strong>and</strong> all about optimising<br />

performance through the development of others. As a career coach, Elena has<br />

over ten years of experience working individuals across different generations,<br />

supporting them in achieving their professional <strong>and</strong> personal goals.<br />

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FOOD<br />

5 MASON JAR<br />

RECIPE IDEAS<br />

Summer is finally here! Aside from the sultry summer mornings, another thing to look<br />

forward to is the variety of food <strong>and</strong> drink that you can prepare <strong>and</strong> enjoy with your<br />

loved ones. Jumping on the recent trends, mason jar recipes are perfect for trying<br />

this summer. Not only are they chic <strong>and</strong> beautiful to look at, but these recipes are<br />

also quite convenient <strong>and</strong> easy to make. Here are five amazing <strong>and</strong> delicious mason<br />

jar recipes that you can easily try at home!<br />

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1. Fruit <strong>and</strong> Yogurt Breakfast Parfait<br />

What better way to start your morning than having a mouthwatering breakfast<br />

parfait? This easy-to-make, gluten-free breakfast provides more than enough<br />

fuel to start your day. To make this delightful treat, follow the steps below:<br />

• For the ingredients, you’ll be needing the following:<br />

• 170 grams of creamy Greek yoghurt<br />

• 1 teaspoon of chia seeds<br />

• ⅓ cup of oats<br />

• 2 tablespoons of milk<br />

• Preferred mixture of fruits <strong>and</strong> berries<br />

• Using a bowl, mix Greek yoghurt with oats, chia seeds <strong>and</strong> milk, <strong>and</strong> then stir it<br />

together.<br />

• Place your yoghurt mixture in the mason jar.<br />

• Add a half cup of your chosen fruit-<strong>and</strong>-berries mix. It’s recommended that you<br />

use frozen fruits <strong>and</strong> berries since they produce berry sauce that spreads in your<br />

parfait.<br />

• Place the remaining yoghurt mixture <strong>and</strong> stack it with the remaining berries <strong>and</strong><br />

fruits, then chill it overnight. In the next morning after waking up, you can enjoy<br />

a yummy <strong>and</strong> healthy breakfast-on-the-go.<br />

2. Oriental Chicken Pak Choi Mason Jar Salad<br />

For lunch or dinner, this oriental chicken pak choi salad recipe will make a big hit on<br />

the dining table. It is easy to make <strong>and</strong> is the perfect way to use leftover vegetables<br />

<strong>and</strong> stir-fried or grilled chicken.<br />

• Ingredients:<br />

• 170 - 220 grams sliced chicken breast<br />

• 1 tablespoon of sesame oil<br />

• 1 tablespoon of tamari soy sauce<br />

• 1 - 2 tablespoon of sesame seed<br />

• 1 tablespoon of slivered almonds<br />

• 1 teaspoon of honey<br />

• 1 teaspoon of chilli pepper flakes<br />

• 1 - 2 cups of chopped cabbage<br />

• 1 cup of shredded carrots<br />

• 1 small baby pak choi bunch<br />

• 1 small oriental or portabella mushroom<br />

• Sea salt <strong>and</strong> black pepper to taste<br />

• In a skillet, grill your chicken slices <strong>and</strong> season it with sesame oil, tamari, chilli<br />

flakes, honey <strong>and</strong> sesame seed. Set this aside in a bowl once cooked.<br />

• Mix the remaining sesame oil <strong>and</strong> tamari with mushrooms <strong>and</strong> then toss it to<br />

cook. If there’s any excess oil or tamari, set it aside in a bowl.<br />

• After cleaning <strong>and</strong> slicing the pak choi in half, lightly steam in a microwave for it<br />

to soften. Do this for about 30 seconds to a minute.<br />

• Next, you’ll have to layer the ingredients in the jar. Start by placing the cabbage,<br />

then mushrooms <strong>and</strong> some chicken. Wrap the sliced pak choi around the jar <strong>and</strong><br />

then add your carrots. If you want, you can pour the leftover oil <strong>and</strong>/or tamari<br />

you used earlier.<br />

• To top it off, sprinkle the almonds <strong>and</strong> the sesame seeds. You can then seal <strong>and</strong><br />

store it for later.<br />

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3. Vegan Red Curry Cup o’ Noodles<br />

A healthy alternative to a college favourite,<br />

this DIY ramen-in-a-jar packs a lot of flavour<br />

<strong>and</strong> is perfect for lunch.<br />

• Ingredients:<br />

• 2 teaspoons of red curry paste<br />

• 1 teaspoon of brown sugar<br />

• 1 teaspoon of soy sauce<br />

• 1 teaspoon of chilli-garlic sauce<br />

• ½ teaspoon vegetable bouillon paste<br />

• 1 cup of cooked ramen (or any noodle of your choice)<br />

• ½ cup of sliced spinach leaves<br />

• ½ cup of mixed frozen vegetables<br />

• ⅓ cup of coconut milk<br />

• 2 tablespoons of chopped scallions<br />

• Lime wedge <strong>and</strong> sesame seeds to taste<br />

• Optional: ⅓ cup of baked tofu for more flavour.<br />

• In a bowl, mix <strong>and</strong> whisk both the curry <strong>and</strong> bouillon paste as well<br />

as the chilli-garlic sauce, soy sauce, brown sugar <strong>and</strong> coconut<br />

milk. Then, pour this mixture into your jar.<br />

• Next, you’ll have to layer your noodles, vegetables, tofu <strong>and</strong><br />

spinach. Make sure to leave spaces for the water.<br />

• Place the scallions <strong>and</strong> lime wedge in a tiny plastic bag <strong>and</strong><br />

squeeze out the air. Place the plastic into the jar <strong>and</strong> seal it.<br />

• When ready to serve, remove the plastic bag <strong>and</strong> add boiling<br />

water. Seal the jar once again <strong>and</strong> let it sit for about 2 minutes.<br />

• After that, add in the lime <strong>and</strong> scallions.<br />

4. PB & J Mug Cake<br />

Of course, summer is not summer without<br />

desserts. This quick <strong>and</strong> easy recipe will surely<br />

satisfy your sweet tooth.<br />

• Ingredients:<br />

• 130 grams of plain all-purpose flour<br />

• 110 grams of light brown muscovado sugar<br />

• 90 grams of unsalted butter<br />

• 60 grams of peanut butter<br />

• 3 small eggs<br />

• 90 ml of milk<br />

• 6 tablespoons of the jelly of your choice<br />

• 1 tablespoon of baking powder<br />

• ¼ teaspoon of salt<br />

• ¾ teaspoon of vanilla extract.<br />

• To start, melt your butter in the microwave. Once melted, slowly add the<br />

peanut butter until it forms into a smooth mixture.<br />

• Then, add in the jam as well as baking powder, flour, milk, sugar, salt,<br />

vanilla extract <strong>and</strong> eggs into the mixture. Mix well.<br />

• Next, pour this mixture into the mason jars. This recipe can make 3<br />

servings. Add ½ tablespoon of jam on each jar.<br />

• After this, microwave the jar until the cake rises over their rims. Let it sink<br />

for a moment before quickly microwaving it again. Repeat this process<br />

until the cake is thoroughly baked.<br />

• Once out of the microwave, let the mugs cool for a few minutes. When<br />

you are serving the mug cake, make sure to have 1 tablespoon of<br />

chopped skinless peanuts (preferably unsalted) <strong>and</strong> 1 teaspoon of sifted<br />

confectioners’ or icing sugar to sprinkle on top.<br />

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5. Summer Tiramisu<br />

Another dessert that you can enjoy, this sweet<br />

tiramisu will leave you wanting more. Summer<br />

ain’t summer without tasting this classic dessert.<br />

This recipe makes 4 servings you can enjoy with<br />

your family <strong>and</strong> friends.<br />

• Ingredients:<br />

• 12 pieces of dried ladyfinger cookies<br />

• 1 cup of cold heavy cream<br />

• 1 cup of mascarpone cheese<br />

• 1 cup of cold, strong coffee<br />

• 1/3 cup of powdered sugar<br />

• 6 teaspoons of Kahlua (optional)<br />

• 1-2 ounces of dark chocolate.<br />

• To start, mix your cream <strong>and</strong> sugar <strong>and</strong> whip<br />

this combination until you see soft peaks.<br />

Add in the mascarpone cheese (make sure<br />

that it’s soft <strong>and</strong> has room temperature)<br />

<strong>and</strong> gently fold it in the mixture until these<br />

ingredients combine.<br />

• In another bowl, mix the cold coffee <strong>and</strong><br />

Kahlua.<br />

• Grabbing your ladyfingers, cut the biscuit<br />

into 2.5 cm pieces then dip it in the coffee-<br />

Kahlua mixture Then, place all of the pieces<br />

into each of the mason jars.<br />

• Add in a spoonful of the cream-mascarpone<br />

mixture into each biscuit layer. Layer it<br />

once again with another round of biscuits,<br />

followed by another layer of cream. Repeat<br />

until you’re satisfied. For the final touch,<br />

add in a generous amount of shaved<br />

chocolate.<br />

• It’s best to refrigerate the tiramisu for a few<br />

hours to allow the ingredients to mix <strong>and</strong><br />

settle fully.<br />

Which among these mason jar recipes would you<br />

try first? Undoubtedly, summer is one of the most<br />

exciting seasons to try <strong>and</strong> enjoy different treats!<br />

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FITNESS<br />

Being home for longer periods<br />

of time can make you feel<br />

lethargic <strong>and</strong> bored. Exercise<br />

makes your body work, <strong>and</strong><br />

it activates all your senses. It<br />

also releases dopamine <strong>and</strong><br />

adrenaline, both of which<br />

elevate your moods <strong>and</strong> add to<br />

your physical strength.<br />

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ESSENTIALS<br />

You don’t always need fancy<br />

<strong>and</strong> high-tech gym equipment<br />

to be on top of your fitness<br />

game. Few people realise that<br />

a fit <strong>and</strong> strong body can be<br />

created <strong>and</strong> maintained with<br />

just a few essentials. We have<br />

crafted for you a list of essential<br />

home exercise equipment that<br />

you need. They are easy to find,<br />

store, <strong>and</strong> won’t take much<br />

space in your home!<br />

1. Resistance B<strong>and</strong>s<br />

If you only ever purchase one piece of<br />

exercise gear in your life, let it be a pack of<br />

resistance b<strong>and</strong>s. They practically take up<br />

no space <strong>and</strong> are literally weightless. When<br />

you push against a resistance b<strong>and</strong>, your<br />

muscles must engage in fighting the tension.<br />

You have to press your legs against the b<strong>and</strong><br />

even when you are st<strong>and</strong>ing just for doing a<br />

simple squat. This means that your muscles<br />

are almost constantly at work when a<br />

resistance b<strong>and</strong> is involved in your workout.<br />

They are highly versatile <strong>and</strong> you can use<br />

them for an upper body or a lower body<br />

workout without ever touching a dumbbell.<br />

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2. Medicine Ball<br />

Medicine balls are an extremely efficient <strong>and</strong> fun<br />

tool for building your core strength. It is simply a<br />

ball with added weight ranging from 1 to 10 kgs.<br />

Not only is a medicine ball perfect for powering<br />

up your lower limbs, they’re also great for your<br />

abdominals. Medicine balls are used for a variety<br />

of movements ranging from squats to lunges with<br />

chest twists <strong>and</strong> can improve your response time<br />

<strong>and</strong> response intensity. Make sure you choose<br />

the right weight when picking a medicine ball.<br />

3. Skipping Rope<br />

The skipping rope is an evergreen piece of fitness<br />

equipment that is recommended by fitness<br />

gurus for conditioning <strong>and</strong> high-intensity interval<br />

training (HIIT). They are extremely affordable,<br />

<strong>and</strong> you need only a small space for jumping<br />

rope. It is a great way to get your heart pumping<br />

<strong>and</strong> ready for a hard-core workout!<br />

4. Exercise Mat<br />

Add an exercise mat to your home workout<br />

routine <strong>and</strong> feel the difference. A mat will give<br />

you a comfortable personal space to do your<br />

exercises. A mat stays put <strong>and</strong> allows you to do<br />

push-ups, planks, sit-ups, without the risk of your<br />

h<strong>and</strong>s or feet slipping away during a session.<br />

When you pick an exercise mat, make sure to<br />

check the material, so it is leak-free <strong>and</strong> easy<br />

to wipe down. Look for a length that is at least<br />

15 cm longer than your height. Usually, exercise<br />

mats are about 1.2 cm in thickness, which helps<br />

shield your body from the hard floor.<br />

5. Kettlebell<br />

These heavy-duty tools are perfect for functional<br />

exercises that combine cardio <strong>and</strong> strength<br />

exercises. Kettlebells are more preferred than<br />

barbells or dumbbells as they are off-centred<br />

in weight. Exercises done with kettlebells fix<br />

misalignments, asymmetries <strong>and</strong> weaknesses<br />

in the body. Kettlebells help build endurance.<br />

Some well-known exercises you can do with<br />

a kettlebell are the sumo squat, the kettlebell<br />

swing, the single-arm kettlebell row <strong>and</strong> the<br />

kettlebell windmill.<br />

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6. Foam Roller<br />

Foam rolling is a self-myofascial release technique.<br />

These amazing rollers made of foam help you cool<br />

down after a heavy-duty workout, relax the tension<br />

in your muscles <strong>and</strong> improve flexibility. A foam<br />

roller is lightweight <strong>and</strong> is a great addition to your<br />

home workouts. You can literally store it along with<br />

your rolled-up exercise mat in the corner of your<br />

room. Foam rollers are known for the treatment of<br />

fibromyalgia symptoms <strong>and</strong> also assist in reducing<br />

inflammation.<br />

7. Pull-up Bar<br />

Pull-up bars are the most effective exercise for toning<br />

your upper body. It is quite possibly also the hardest<br />

bodyweight exercise that you can do. It is easy to<br />

install bars that leverage on the doorframe. From<br />

there, you can do several exercises like the simple<br />

body pull up, a chin-up, a mixed grip pull up which<br />

uses an upper h<strong>and</strong> grip, <strong>and</strong> an underh<strong>and</strong> grip,<br />

among others. It tremendously strengthens your back<br />

muscles, your core power <strong>and</strong> helps target muscles<br />

from a different angle.<br />

8. Step Platform<br />

Step platforms are simply stepping stools that allow you<br />

to get all the benefits of a high-intensity cardio workout<br />

with less stress on your joints. It is ideal for burning those<br />

calories <strong>and</strong> reducing fat. Step aerobics performed on<br />

a step platform can also boost your mood <strong>and</strong> energy<br />

levels. People struggling with osteoporosis can enjoy step<br />

aerobics <strong>and</strong> find that it improves bone strength. There are<br />

several variations of exercises that you can try on the step<br />

platform like a simple right, a simple left, an A-step, a turnstep<br />

move <strong>and</strong> an across the top move. A step platform<br />

is easily available, budget-friendly <strong>and</strong> can be stored in<br />

limited spaces, like under your bed!<br />

9. Dumbbells<br />

Definitely one of the most commonly found exercise<br />

equipment, dumbbells are certainly a home fitness<br />

essential. Most of us grew up watching our older<br />

brothers flex those triceps with an heirloom dumbbell<br />

that belonged to our dads. Dumbbell exercises create<br />

both intra- <strong>and</strong> inter-muscular coordination that leads<br />

to greater levels of muscle activation. Whether you<br />

own one or a pair, dumbbells can be used to focus<br />

singularly at one set of muscles at a time. Reverse<br />

lunges <strong>and</strong> rotational presses are the most widely<br />

performed workout moves with dumbbells.<br />

No matter what your home workout routine is, or how much equipment you have with you, long term results only come with consistency<br />

<strong>and</strong> dedication. Watch your posture while you exercise <strong>and</strong> remember to have fun!<br />

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TRAVEL<br />

8 MUST-VISIT<br />

UAE CULTURAL SITES<br />

Well-known for its modern skyscrapers, luxury hotels, <strong>and</strong> fabulous<br />

beaches, UAE boasts a variety of must-visit cultural sites firmly rooted<br />

in Arab-Islamic traditions. While blending international influences<br />

<strong>and</strong> a strong dedication to local heritage, UAE’s cultural sites provide<br />

visitors with an interesting look into the past, present, <strong>and</strong> future of<br />

this magnificent country.<br />

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Heritage Village, Abu Dhabi<br />

Heritage Village, which was built in 1997, takes you back<br />

in time to relive Abu Dhabi’s history. Visitors are given a<br />

historical view of old traditions <strong>and</strong> customs, complete<br />

with photos <strong>and</strong> displays. During your visit to Heritage<br />

Village, you will have the opportunity to experience the<br />

traditional desert way of life with the simulation of an<br />

old souk, a mosque, <strong>and</strong> a pre-modernised Abu Dhabi.<br />

Featuring public workshops where craftsmen show<br />

traditional skills such as metalwork, pottery, weaving, <strong>and</strong><br />

spinning, Heritage Village provides an interesting glimpse<br />

into the Emirate’s past. The craftsmen at Heritage Village<br />

often interact with visitors, sharing their vast knowledge<br />

of the history of traditional Arab craftsmanship. The spice<br />

shop within the village offers a range of dried herbs,<br />

h<strong>and</strong>made soaps, <strong>and</strong> plenty of souvenirs to collect.<br />

Qasr Al Muwaiji<br />

Home to generations of the Al Nahyan family <strong>and</strong> the<br />

birthplace of Sheikh Khalifa in 1948, Qasr Al Muwaiji<br />

is one of the most prestigious historical places in the<br />

country. It is preserved by the Abu Dhabi Tourism<br />

<strong>and</strong> Culture Authority <strong>and</strong> built in the early years of<br />

the 20th. Qasr Al Muwaiji, also a UNESCO World<br />

Heritage Site, gives a picture of the lifestyle of the<br />

ruling family before the country became what it is<br />

today. The magnificent site functioned as both the<br />

home to an oasis in the desert, as well as a place<br />

of authority <strong>and</strong> focus for the community. Providing<br />

visitors with a variety of historical <strong>and</strong> traditional<br />

experiences, this architectural treasure includes oral<br />

narrations of important moments in Sheikh Khalifa’s<br />

life, from his early childhood to his leadership <strong>and</strong><br />

achievements. The museum located inside the<br />

property provides the public with the chronology of<br />

the members of Abu Dhabi’s ruling family connected<br />

to Qasr Al Muwaiji <strong>and</strong> the Al Nahyan Family.<br />

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Sharjah Art Museum<br />

Sharjah Art Museum offers art lovers a unique<br />

opportunity to admire the variety of collections<br />

<strong>and</strong> temporary installations in one of the largest art<br />

exhibitions in the Gulf region. Visitors can explore<br />

fascinating masterpieces of local painters <strong>and</strong> wellknown<br />

Arab artists who have contributed to the vast<br />

history of the Arab art world. Showcasing artistic<br />

creations <strong>and</strong> collections of more than 500 artworks<br />

of various mediums <strong>and</strong> techniques, this three-level<br />

museum holds a variety of temporary exhibitions <strong>and</strong><br />

art events throughout the year. The Art Library consists<br />

of over 4,000 titles in Arabic, English, <strong>and</strong> other<br />

languages, along with visual <strong>and</strong> audio materials.<br />

Umm Al Quwain Museum<br />

Built inside a fort that was once home to the<br />

Emirate’s ruling family, UAQ Museum is home to<br />

artefacts unearthed at Ed Duris. Known as one of<br />

the largest archaeological sites in the UAE, Ed Duris<br />

is slated among the most important lost cities of<br />

Arabia. At Umm Al Quwain Museum, you will also<br />

find exhibits showcasing the history of the war in<br />

the region <strong>and</strong> several artefacts from the excavated<br />

site Al Dur, a coastal city from 200 BCE to the third<br />

century CE. The museum is still one of the bestmaintained<br />

structures located in the old souk area<br />

of the Emirate known as Madeena Al Qadeema.<br />

With buildings over 150 years old, the area has the<br />

traditional look <strong>and</strong> feel of the city.<br />

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Al Qattara Arts Centre<br />

Al Qattara Arts Centre has been developed around the<br />

earlier Bayt Bin Ati Al-Darmaki <strong>and</strong> was opened in 2011.<br />

A traditional mud-brick tower <strong>and</strong> house located on a<br />

mound overlooking the date-palm gardens of Qattara<br />

Oasis, the Centre offers a variety of cultural <strong>and</strong> artistic<br />

programmes on local artistic traditions <strong>and</strong> practices. Al<br />

Qattara Arts Centre also offers a dry studio for a variety<br />

of activities such as music classes <strong>and</strong> art crafting, <strong>and</strong><br />

a wet studio available for drawing <strong>and</strong> painting classes.<br />

The Centre contains a fully equipped pottery studio, a<br />

digital room for photography <strong>and</strong> computer classes, a<br />

spacious calligraphy studio, an exhibition hall, <strong>and</strong> a café.<br />

Additionally, it includes a gallery, library, <strong>and</strong> a visitor’s<br />

reception area.<br />

Sheikh Zayed Gr<strong>and</strong> Mosque<br />

The iconic Sheikh Zayed Gr<strong>and</strong> Mosque is known as<br />

one of the world’s largest, most gorgeous mosques.<br />

Conceived from the vision of the late Sheikh Zayed<br />

bin Sultan Al Nahyan, the UAE’s first president <strong>and</strong><br />

the ruler of Abu Dhabi, the Sheikh Zayed Gr<strong>and</strong><br />

Mosque was created to celebrate cultural diversity<br />

while merging architectural styles from different<br />

Muslim civilisations. The mosque’s architects are<br />

British, Italian, <strong>and</strong> Emirati, <strong>and</strong> design inspirations<br />

were borrowed from other Islamic countries<br />

like Turkey, Morocco, Pakistan, <strong>and</strong> Egypt. This<br />

magnificent architectural monument with a capacity<br />

of 40,000 worshippers has an open-door policy that<br />

invites tourists <strong>and</strong> worshippers from all around the<br />

world to witness the spectacular onion-top domes,<br />

the reflective pools throughout the courtyard <strong>and</strong><br />

the renowned prayer hall, that not only overflows<br />

with blissful sunlight but also houses the world’s<br />

biggest h<strong>and</strong>made ch<strong>and</strong>elier <strong>and</strong> carpet.<br />

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Qasr Al Watan Presidential Palace<br />

The newest cultural l<strong>and</strong>mark in Abu Dhabi, Qasr Al<br />

Watan opened its doors to the public as an invitation<br />

to discover the exquisitely crafted tribute to the<br />

Arabian heritage <strong>and</strong> artistry through architecture<br />

<strong>and</strong> design. Visitors will see examples of Arabian<br />

craftsmanship <strong>and</strong> art as well as create traditional<br />

calligraphy on interactive screens <strong>and</strong> explore<br />

centuries of knowledge in books focusing on the<br />

UAE in the Qasr Al Watan library. In addition, Qasr<br />

Al Watan invites visitors to learn about the cultural<br />

traditions <strong>and</strong> values as well as explore a historical<br />

legacy of knowledge <strong>and</strong> underst<strong>and</strong>ing of the UAE.<br />

Those visiting at night will enjoy the light <strong>and</strong> sound<br />

show told in three acts covering the past, present,<br />

<strong>and</strong> future vision of the country.<br />

Louvre Abu Dhabi<br />

Louvre Abu Dhabi is an art lovers dream! The first<br />

museum of its kind in the Arab World, Louvre Abu<br />

Dhabi displays works of historical, cultural, <strong>and</strong><br />

sociological importance from ancient times to the<br />

contemporary era. Comprising 9,200 sq m of galleries<br />

including the Permanent Gallery <strong>and</strong> the Temporary<br />

Gallery, the Louvre Abu Dhabi was designed by<br />

Pritzker-prize winning architect Jean Nouvel. Nouvel<br />

designed a falaj-inspired water system running through<br />

the museum, inspired by ancient Arabian engineering,<br />

while the dome borrows inspiration from the palm<br />

leaves traditionally used as roofing material in many<br />

parts of the country—thus recreating parts of UAE’s<br />

integral cultural elements.<br />

ABOUT THE AUTHOR<br />

MONIQUE L. SPEARMAN is a freelance multi-faceted writer,<br />

curator <strong>and</strong> creator. Blending a passion for content creating,<br />

social media marketing, photography <strong>and</strong> travel, Monique<br />

created her blog website RaineyAmore.com in the spring<br />

of 2017 as a hobby. Raineyamore.com is a lifestyle, fashion,<br />

beauty <strong>and</strong> travel br<strong>and</strong> that encourages men <strong>and</strong> women<br />

from around the world to live their best lives, out-loud.<br />

Inspired by the aesthetics of different cultures, Monique<br />

wants to show the world, "Everything has beauty, but not<br />

everyone sees it!"<br />

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FOR THE CULTURE<br />

THE NUMBER ONE REASON<br />

MOST STARTUPS FAIL<br />

You may be new to business or have the greatest business idea that you<br />

are about to launch. Before you launch your business or even continue,<br />

take some time to read this article. It may save you a lot of time, money<br />

<strong>and</strong> heartache. In this article, I will outline some of the major reasons<br />

why many startups fail <strong>and</strong> what you can do to mitigate them.<br />

In a recent article by Denise Lee Yohn, an admired br<strong>and</strong> leadership<br />

expert, she outlined what she believes are the top reasons startups fail.<br />

She noted that many people get caught up with the well-publicised<br />

success stories of startups, especially tech startups. They will usually<br />

raise huge amounts of money <strong>and</strong> believe that they can become socalled<br />

‘unicorns’. There is nothing wrong with being optimistic when<br />

going into business, but the reality is that in the long run, about 97% of<br />

new businesses fail within the first five years.<br />

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GOING INTO BUSINESS FOR THE WRONG<br />

REASONS<br />

Why do you really want to start or run a business? Taking<br />

time to ask <strong>and</strong> answer this question could be the difference<br />

between success <strong>and</strong> failure. Business is hard, <strong>and</strong> many of<br />

us do not have the temperament to h<strong>and</strong>le the highs <strong>and</strong><br />

lows. We hardly hear of the struggles involved in starting<br />

<strong>and</strong> running a successful business. When the rose-coloured<br />

glasses are yanked from our faces, <strong>and</strong> we see the reality,<br />

many of us run for the hills. To be able to avoid this pitfall,<br />

take time to carefully examine your motives <strong>and</strong> resolve<br />

before going into business. Speak with other business<br />

owners. Get a mentor, if you can; this does not have to be<br />

a physical mentor, but it can be someone you admire in<br />

business whose story you can follow closely online. Learn<br />

from their mistakes <strong>and</strong> seek guidance.<br />

LACK OF FUNDING<br />

Not having enough capital will derail any good business<br />

or business idea. Although I am not a massive fan of going<br />

after venture capital funding immediately, you have to<br />

ensure that you have some capital to see you through the<br />

initial startup phase. Getting investments from family <strong>and</strong><br />

close friends might be the best option to start with if you<br />

do not have savings of your own. Now here is the clincher:<br />

don’t take other people’s money if you are not willing to<br />

invest your own. To help make the most of your funds, start<br />

small <strong>and</strong> test often. The advice given in The Lean Startup<br />

by Eric Ries, one of my favourite books, is to test, test, <strong>and</strong><br />

test. Do not add features or services without knowing if<br />

they will add value or revenue. Ensure that the money you<br />

are spending will yield the best results for your business.<br />

This will help you to conserve on your spending.<br />

NOT MEETING CUSTOMER’S NEEDS<br />

The customers you start with, or the ones you have, will<br />

change over time. They mature <strong>and</strong> their needs change<br />

so your company must keep up with them. Not staying<br />

abreast with your customer’s needs will cause you to go out<br />

of business faster. To mitigate this common mistake, make<br />

sure you communicate constantly with your customers, not<br />

just to tell them what you are offering, but to genuinely find<br />

out what they want from your business or company. The big<br />

mistake many companies make is not listening to what their<br />

customers are telling them. Sometimes, your customers will<br />

not verbalise what they want, but they will leave clues by<br />

showing you where they have moved to <strong>and</strong> what they are<br />

now doing or buying. If you see that your customers are<br />

moving to another business or service for something that<br />

you do not offer, pay attention. This might be a sign for you<br />

to add or subtract from what you are currently doing.<br />

THE NUMBER ONE REASON WHY STARTUPS<br />

FAIL<br />

According to Denise Lee Yohn, the number one reason why<br />

most startups fail is there is no market need. Yes, you read<br />

that right. We often have great ideas, enough money, did<br />

lots of market research, hired the best team <strong>and</strong> did the<br />

work but our businesses fail because not enough people<br />

are willing to pay for what we are offering. She said that<br />

startups fail when they are not solving a market problem.<br />

You may be wondering how this could happen if you have<br />

done good market research. Many people will give you<br />

buying intentions or show buying indications, but when it<br />

is time for them to part with their cash, they are no longer<br />

interested. The best way to test a product is to launch it<br />

<strong>and</strong> see if you get enough buyers on a consistent basis to<br />

support or even grow the business.<br />

Create shortages on purpose. Do people ring <strong>and</strong> ask when<br />

it will be available? Can you generate serious enquiries or<br />

even a waiting list? Can you get advanced orders? These<br />

are sure-fire ways of knowing whether or not you are on to<br />

success. Examine where your product or service lies in the<br />

order of needs. Is it considered a need or a want? Companies<br />

or services that fall into the ‘wants’ category may struggle<br />

when people are forced to make tough choices on how<br />

they spend their money. This is true, especially nowadays. If<br />

you have just started or about to start on the road to being<br />

a business owner, ask yourself which of these categories<br />

does your product or service fall in.<br />

Although many startups fail, many succeed, <strong>and</strong> you can be<br />

one of the success stories if you just take the time to do the<br />

necessary work. Good luck!<br />

ABOUT THE AUTHOR<br />

LEISA GRACE WILSON is an educator, entrepreneur <strong>and</strong><br />

blogger. She currently lives in Abu Dhabi with her seven-yearold<br />

twin boys <strong>and</strong> husb<strong>and</strong>. Leisa is passionate about personal<br />

development, entrepreneurship, finances <strong>and</strong> the world of<br />

education. You can connect with Leisa by visiting her blog www.<br />

leisagrace.com or connect with her on Linkedin https://www.<br />

linkedin.com/in/leisagrace/<br />

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THE REINVENTED CHRONICLES<br />

BY YVONNE MTENGWA:<br />

8 HACKS TO<br />

INVOKING COURAGE<br />

IN DIFFICULT TIMES<br />

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You’ve seen the headlines. You’ve been tuned in to<br />

news report after news report <strong>and</strong> opened just about<br />

every video that appears on your feed. Perhaps<br />

things haven’t been all that bad for you as much as<br />

they have been for others over the past few weeks,<br />

but still, your mind is clouded, <strong>and</strong> it almost feels like<br />

you are drowning under the weight of what’s going<br />

on outside your walls. Your family members, friends<br />

<strong>and</strong> coworkers have been affected by the perils of<br />

our times in one way or the other. There are so many<br />

things to say yet many in our midst are silent. Or are<br />

they? Maybe it’s us who are silent.<br />

What part can we play in being the change our world<br />

so desperately needs? What can one do to muster<br />

courage during difficult times?<br />

Courage is defined as the “mental or moral strength<br />

to venture, persevere, <strong>and</strong> withst<strong>and</strong> danger, fear,<br />

or difficulty”, according to the Merriam-Webster<br />

dictionary. The past few weeks have presented us<br />

all seemingly unending moments of reflection <strong>and</strong><br />

introspection. Courage, to me, has been something a<br />

little less bravado in definition, as I have come to view<br />

it as merely pushing through the pains <strong>and</strong> frustrations<br />

of difficult times.<br />

To be bold enough for change, either in our lives<br />

<strong>and</strong> for the sake of others, requires us to st<strong>and</strong> when<br />

others are running, to stare at fear in the face, or<br />

to choose to remain steadfast in your ethically <strong>and</strong><br />

morally acceptable beliefs. Having courage simply<br />

means going for it, or trying something different,<br />

when everything is telling you to quit or challenging<br />

you to do things the way you’ve always done them. If<br />

you are reading this <strong>and</strong> are struggling to figure out<br />

how to pick up the pieces during, or in the aftermath<br />

of troubled times, keep reading. I hope that as you<br />

do, you’ll find a few words to give you the courage to<br />

keep going.


1. LET YOUR FAITH GUIDE YOU.<br />

I am a God-fearing woman who believes that there is<br />

nothing I could ever experience that God hasn’t already<br />

equipped me for. It is part of His plan, <strong>and</strong> only He can give<br />

me the strength needed to push through the dark tunnels<br />

of life. In moments of weakness, I choose to believe that<br />

God is all-knowing; <strong>and</strong> because I was brought into this<br />

world by Him, He will be faithful to watch after all that<br />

concerns me. We’ve all experienced some loss–a loved<br />

one, a job or hard-earned money, opportunities <strong>and</strong> so<br />

on. But the truth of the matter is as long as we have breath<br />

in our being, we are to keep going for this thing called life<br />

to be worth our while. Turning to some form of inspiration<br />

in helping us do so is a must.<br />

Now, there are some in our midst that do not believe in<br />

religion or spirituality <strong>and</strong> that is a reality we must accept<br />

<strong>and</strong> live with. I am of the belief that times will arise when<br />

we’ll need inspiration from a higher power than ourselves.<br />

2. CHANNEL YOUR ENERGIES TOWARDS<br />

THE POSITIVE.<br />

We hear this so much that sometimes we skate right past<br />

this unshakeable truth. Trying times require us to fight the<br />

struggle by shining light on it. Open those books that<br />

inspire positivity <strong>and</strong> listen to those sermons or messages.<br />

Find <strong>and</strong> focus on pursuits that inspire positive outcomes.<br />

What’s that one thing you’ve always known you needed to<br />

do, but you blamed limited time for not doing? Could it<br />

be becoming a part of initiatives to build your community,<br />

volunteering with the nearest charitable organisation, or<br />

starting an exercise regime so you can feel better about<br />

your body? Maybe it’s just being more thankful for the<br />

things you do have because let’s face it, gratitude is an<br />

incredible ray of light on dark situations.<br />

3. THERE’S ALWAYS A LESSON IN THE<br />

MADNESS.<br />

It’s often when things go wrong that we learn how to be<br />

<strong>and</strong> do better. Recurring bouts of sickness led me to be<br />

more disciplined about what foods I ate, <strong>and</strong> that exercise<br />

<strong>and</strong> an apple a day would not simply keep the doctor away.<br />

Enduring copious amounts of stress at a job I didn’t enjoy<br />

but stayed at because I needed the salary taught me that<br />

there is more to developing a passion-filled career than<br />

money. Experiencing culture shock as a young immigrant<br />

living in America made me realise how culturally sheltered<br />

I was, <strong>and</strong> just how much I needed to learn how to foster<br />

friendships with people who I viewed to be far different<br />

from me. The lessons we learn during difficult seasons<br />

really do equip us for bigger <strong>and</strong> better. In the words of<br />

the great motivator Zig Ziglar, “Difficult roads often lead to<br />

beautiful destinations. The best is yet to come.”<br />

4. HARD TIMES INSPIRE CREATIVITY—<br />

AND CHANGE.<br />

There were times I had to figure out how to make a<br />

whole new meal out of a few dollars or leftovers. A life of<br />

gratitude is often inspired by having gone without. When<br />

we focus on what we have as opposed to what we do not,<br />

while still finding a way to communicate or activate the<br />

steps towards the change we need to see, we can usher in<br />

a new tide with time. You’ve heard the adage that nothing<br />

changes until we do, <strong>and</strong> oftentimes we need to be more<br />

creative in getting our point across or solving problems.<br />

Can you think of a time wherein you had to channel your<br />

inner creativity to keep things moving along?<br />

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5. THE GREAT QUESTION: WHAT’S<br />

WITHIN YOUR CONTROL?<br />

Being an adult will teach you this: there are many things<br />

we can control but there are also just as many we<br />

cannot. People are complicated. Hectic situations arise<br />

<strong>and</strong> some have nothing to do with human behaviour<br />

at all. A global p<strong>and</strong>emic at the onset of this decade<br />

is teaching us where to focus our energies, how to<br />

adapt to today’s norms, <strong>and</strong> what to do to keep from<br />

falling sick or putting ourselves at risk. Some have lost<br />

their jobs <strong>and</strong> are looking for a way out or into a whole<br />

new situation. Knowing what you can control is a good<br />

start towards appreciating the power you have to keep<br />

pressing in. Do what you can with what you have—<br />

materially <strong>and</strong> skillfully—<strong>and</strong> put all the other things<br />

aside. There are no spoils to concerning yourself with<br />

things that no strength or intellectual contribution of<br />

yours can change.<br />

6. REMEMBER THAT YOU’VE PROBABLY<br />

BEEN HERE BEFORE.<br />

No one’s life is void of drama. The challenges will come,<br />

<strong>and</strong> they come packaged differently for each person.<br />

And you know what? You’ve gone through some hard<br />

times before but you are still here. When you believe that<br />

you will get through this too, it shifts your perspective<br />

<strong>and</strong> ramps up your emotional intelligence to the levels<br />

needed to help you overcome the challenges you face.<br />

7. DON’T STAY IN THE CAVE.<br />

It’s very easy to close the world off when things go<br />

wrong. Somehow, we think we are the only ones<br />

going through hard times <strong>and</strong> no one gets our pain<br />

<strong>and</strong> frustrations. Friends or community circles are very<br />

important. Don’t let the devil have a party out of your<br />

thoughts. Rather, seek counsel from your relationship<br />

<strong>and</strong> social circles <strong>and</strong> talk to people you know you can<br />

trust to give you a needed word of encouragement <strong>and</strong><br />

practical support when you need it. No man is an isl<strong>and</strong><br />

<strong>and</strong> believe me when I say this: being vulnerable isn’t<br />

a weakness.<br />

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8. FORGIVE YOURSELF, THE SITUATION AND OTHERS.<br />

We have a tendency to blame ourselves or others when things go south. Sometimes it’s not us but<br />

them. They say bad things happen to good people, but then we still need to make peace with<br />

what is <strong>and</strong> not focus on what could have been. You are hurt <strong>and</strong> your feelings are valid, but real<br />

courage is acknowledging that sometimes life doesn’t work out as we thought it would <strong>and</strong> we<br />

are still required to move on because the world doesn’t stop for us to gather ourselves. Forgiving<br />

oneself <strong>and</strong> the situation wipes out the negative emotions that deter us from moving on. Don’t<br />

add internal luggage to an already heavy situation.<br />

Courage requires us to not only confront situations but accept the need to make or support<br />

changes. Difficult situations present an opportunity for us to dissect, discern, activate, <strong>and</strong> create,<br />

not only within ourselves alongside others. And so while it remains to be seen what the rest of this<br />

year will bring forth, I like to st<strong>and</strong> on the words of Joseph Fort Newton’s take, wherein he states:<br />

“We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life. But we can decide what<br />

happens in us, how we can take it, what we do with it—<strong>and</strong> that is what really counts in the end.”<br />

ABOUT THE AUTHOR<br />

Yvonne Chiedza Mtengwa is the author<br />

of “Reinvented: Challenging insecurity to<br />

live authentically through faith”, a book<br />

encouraging women to confront their<br />

issues with relationships, insecurities<br />

<strong>and</strong> self-fulfilling prophesies, in an effort<br />

to truly discover who they were created<br />

to be. It’s available for download on<br />

https://payhip.com/b/Oi7Y#!<br />

She is also a co-author of Amazon<br />

Bestseller “Dear Fear <strong>Vol</strong>ume 2: 18<br />

Powerful Lessons on Living your best life<br />

on the other side of Fear”- a compilation<br />

of short stories by American visionary<br />

author Tiana Patrice.<br />

Passionate about travelling, writing<br />

about <strong>and</strong> experiencing leisure <strong>and</strong><br />

lifestyle br<strong>and</strong>s, Yvonne is a marketing<br />

<strong>and</strong> communications strategist, is the Cofounder<br />

of www.Quintessentialf.com, a<br />

Christian lifestyle movement for women,<br />

<strong>and</strong> also runs www.yournarratives.com,<br />

a boutique communications agency<br />

specialising in entrepreneurial design<br />

<strong>and</strong> shaping the narrative of women-led<br />

lifestyle <strong>and</strong> social development br<strong>and</strong>s.<br />

Check her out on IG on @quintessentially_yvonne or visit <strong>and</strong> subscribe to her<br />

website on www.ReinventedToday.com for more tips on everyday reinvention.<br />

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BE PROUD OF THE<br />

TRUTH ABOUT YOU<br />

The world is our biggest classroom, <strong>and</strong> there are so many<br />

lessons to learn around us, inside us, <strong>and</strong> about us. Most of<br />

the time, other people’s perceptions about ourselves often<br />

depict the truth about our lives. We often see celebrities<br />

with their beautiful <strong>and</strong> inspiring stories <strong>and</strong> personalities,<br />

but what if those stories are not true? Should we learn how<br />

to balance living up to people’s expectations <strong>and</strong> sticking<br />

to the true version of ourselves?<br />

BE PROUD OF THE TRUTH ABOUT YOU.<br />

The truth is, whatever you believe is what makes you.<br />

‘Belief kills <strong>and</strong> belief cures’ is a well-known Jamaican<br />

saying which promotes the fact that the truth lives in your<br />

mind. Consider the inspiring life story of Barack Obama,<br />

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the former President of the United States of America.<br />

He believed he could be the first African-American to be<br />

elected in the office; however, he also knew that it would<br />

not be an easy journey. He believed in his desire to to help<br />

others, <strong>and</strong> eventually, he became a community organiser.<br />

He was proud of what he is <strong>and</strong> where he came from. It was<br />

the same belief in himself that helped him to grow into a<br />

figure he dreamed of being.<br />

We all have our own origins, backgrounds <strong>and</strong> beliefs,<br />

which collectively make us all unique. Be delighted by what<br />

you can bring to the table. Share everything that made you<br />

with confidence <strong>and</strong> smile. Cultivate that self-confidence<br />

<strong>and</strong> walk with the assurance that you are what you believe.


MANAGE SOCIETY’S EXPECTATIONS.<br />

Keep in mind that whatever people might think of<br />

you; it should bother them more than it should you.<br />

Never allow their opinions to dictate how you lead<br />

your life <strong>and</strong> express who you are. These should not<br />

distract you from sticking to the values <strong>and</strong> principles.<br />

However, keep in mind that the opinions <strong>and</strong><br />

expectations of others can be a gold mine for<br />

self-improvement: you can learn new lessons,<br />

perspectives, or hidden talents based on other<br />

people’s observations. Your values are constantly<br />

developing, <strong>and</strong> you may add or shed some of those<br />

as you move closer to reality.<br />

Society’s expectations are giving us so much<br />

pressure, <strong>and</strong> because of that, many people tend to<br />

lose their identities. Most of us want to satisfy what<br />

others want to see. We must learn how to draw the<br />

line between our own values <strong>and</strong> the desire to satisfy<br />

other people. As humans, we often need to go with<br />

the flow, but still, we need to keep our individuality<br />

<strong>and</strong> respect diversity <strong>and</strong> personal differences. Our<br />

main goal is to enjoy life while carrying our own<br />

unique selves.<br />

WHAT THE WORLD STATES AS TRUE IS<br />

NOT ALWAYS TRUE.<br />

What might be true is not true until you believe it.<br />

Subjective truths result from our personal perceptions<br />

<strong>and</strong> observations. In considering what others think<br />

about our lives, shield yourself from their version of<br />

truths that you honestly know to be untrue, <strong>and</strong> keep<br />

your head held high.<br />

We must strive to st<strong>and</strong> out <strong>and</strong> be proud of ourselves<br />

<strong>and</strong> our own values. Be proud of what you believe in,<br />

<strong>and</strong> dare to be proud of your own truth.<br />

ABOUT THE AUTHOR<br />

JEROME DOUGLAS<br />

Jerome Douglas is a 27-year old trained teacher, poet <strong>and</strong> writer from the<br />

beautiful isl<strong>and</strong> of Jamaica. His personal philosophy is “If it is for me to<br />

be, then it is up to me.” He attended the Catholic College of M<strong>and</strong>eville<br />

in Jamaica. Additionally, he is a community builder <strong>and</strong> humanitarian who<br />

volunteers his time to help with the academic <strong>and</strong> social well-being of<br />

people in his Central Jamaica community <strong>and</strong> surrounding areas.<br />

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BOOK REVIEW<br />

ATOMIC HABITS BY JAMES CLEAR<br />

In this month’s review, we dive into a book that talks about the power of letting go of old habits,<br />

developing new <strong>and</strong> productive ones, <strong>and</strong> maintaining them on a regular basis.<br />

James Clear is a stellar writer who tells us that improvements of a slight degree,<br />

which may not always be visible, show significant results in the long run. He<br />

terms this concept as the Law of 1%. Atomic Habits is about making atomic or<br />

minuscule changes for the better. The essence of the book is captured in the<br />

eight major questions that it poses to the reader.<br />

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1. WHAT ARE HABITS?<br />

A habit is essentially a routine or practise that is performed<br />

regularly. It’s an automatic response to a specific situation. Each<br />

habit can be broken down into a cue, a craving, a response,<br />

<strong>and</strong> a reward. With repetition, the responses that reap the<br />

maximum rewards tend to become habits.<br />

2. WHY IS HABIT BUILDING IMPORTANT?<br />

Firstly, the way we respond to our situations is a powerful<br />

method to change the outcomes. Habits make the process of<br />

taking action consistent <strong>and</strong> automatic. By building a healthy<br />

habit pattern, we will ultimately reach our goals. The thing<br />

about goals is that they are shared by winners <strong>and</strong> losers<br />

alike. While goals are about the destination, habits are what<br />

make the journey enjoyable. The writer believes that changing<br />

one’s habits can ultimately change a belief or beliefs, which<br />

consequently, will end up changing future outcomes.<br />

3. WHAT ARE SOME EXAMPLES OF GOOD HABITS?<br />

While the writer doesn’t list out a page of good habits<br />

anywhere in the book, the examples of good habits scattered<br />

through the chapters are:<br />

• Healthy habits on health <strong>and</strong> fitness: eating healthy,<br />

cooking at home, drinking enough water regularly,<br />

exercising, sleeping early<br />

• Habits to nurture the mind <strong>and</strong> promote relaxation:<br />

Journaling, meditating, relaxing, sending thank you notes<br />

• Habits to stimulate the mind: Learning or practising a<br />

skill, decluttering<br />

• The habit of promoting financial independence: Saving<br />

money<br />

4. WHAT ARE SOME EXAMPLES OF BAD HABITS?<br />

Atomic Habits talks about several bad habits that we struggle<br />

with, <strong>and</strong> how bad habits draw more energy from ourselves<br />

<strong>and</strong> can require extra efforts to get rid of. Some examples of<br />

bad habits mentioned in the book are:<br />

• Smoking, drinking alcoholic beverages, eating junk food<br />

• Negative thinking, having a short temper, stressing<br />

• Procrastination, watching too much TV, playing too<br />

many video games<br />

• Overworking or underworking<br />

• Overspending<br />

5. WHAT HABITS SHOULD I BUILD?<br />

The best approach to build a sustainable lifestyle is to accept who<br />

you are <strong>and</strong> what you love. Don’t fight your unique personality<br />

but leverage it to your advantage. Explore approaches <strong>and</strong> try<br />

to analyse what fits perfectly for you. Ask yourself:<br />

• What feels fun?<br />

• What gets you engrossed?<br />

• What comes naturally?<br />

• What gives more than average returns?<br />

Focus your efforts on habits that excite <strong>and</strong> engage you while<br />

being aligned with your personality <strong>and</strong> core strengths. You<br />

will still need to put in the hard work, but it’ll be much easier<br />

to build habits that are more enjoyable. This will also increase<br />

your odds of success.<br />

6. HOW TO BECOME AWARE OF YOUR HABITS?<br />

If you are a person who is habituated with picking on a pimple,<br />

you will be unaware of doing it unless somebody specifically<br />

points it out to you. The more you repeat this pattern, the<br />

less likely you are to ask yourself what you are doing or stop<br />

yourself from doing it.<br />

Over time, the cues that trigger our habits become so common<br />

that they begin to disappear; for example, the c<strong>and</strong>y on the<br />

table or the remote on the couch. To tackle this, we must first<br />

begin the process towards habitual change by developing our<br />

awareness.<br />

7. HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO BUILD A NEW HABIT?<br />

Every habit is different, but all of them depend on repetitive<br />

behaviours which grow progressively stronger with practice.<br />

It can take thous<strong>and</strong>s of repetitions to build a habit. The<br />

quality of behaviours may also affect the duration of building<br />

a habit. Take note that simple behaviours, which are easy to<br />

pick, remember <strong>and</strong> repeat, as well as connected behaviours<br />

which have a clear <strong>and</strong> quick cause <strong>and</strong> effect relationship with<br />

the reward, are easier to stick to <strong>and</strong> become habits. Strongly<br />

emotional behaviours trigger bigger <strong>and</strong> satisfying rewards<br />

which also require fewer repetitions until they become a habit.<br />

8. HOW CAN I BUILD AND BREAK HABITS<br />

EFFECTIVELY?<br />

To be able to change habits successfully, you must identify the<br />

wrong or unproductive habits <strong>and</strong> ought to change them the<br />

right way. To change the right habits, focus on:<br />

• What kind of outcomes do you want?<br />

• What kind of person are you aiming to become?<br />

• What quick habits can you work on to get to your goals?<br />

The writer goes on to explain how building a scorecard which<br />

lists one’s own habits makes one more self-aware. Write down<br />

a list of your daily habits. Label each habit as good, bad, or<br />

neutral. Lastly, rearrange the habits, <strong>and</strong> then add <strong>and</strong> design<br />

new habits you wish to develop.<br />

Set clear <strong>and</strong> doable implementation guides. Say, “I will go for<br />

a run on Sunday at 6 in the morning”. Stack your habits, such<br />

as, “After a run, I will have a glass of green juice”. Make your<br />

new habits as specific as possible as vague ideas will lead to<br />

procrastination.<br />

James Clear also encourages you to proactively join groups<br />

where your desired behaviour is already a norm, <strong>and</strong> you also<br />

have something common with the group. Since we have a<br />

strong natural desire to conform with the people around us,<br />

it is important to associate with people who already possess<br />

your goal habits.<br />

Atomic Habits is a book well worth a read, as it is written in<br />

a clear <strong>and</strong> encouraging way to influence readers. Since our<br />

habits reflect our inner personalities <strong>and</strong> eventually, our lives, it<br />

is necessary to have them aligned in the right direction.<br />

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