Prevention and combating cyber bullying and internet violence among youth

Prevention and combating cyber bullying and internet violence among youth
– manual for youth workers –
Workshop 8 resource sheet 1 7
COMMUNICATION
SCENARIO
HOW DOES THE
HOW DOES THE
WHAT CAN THE
TYPE
COMMUNICATOR
RECEIVER ACT?
BYSTANDER DO
ACT?
OR SAY?
ASSERTIVE
The principal
Treating him with
Happy
Listen
Tending toward bold
or confident
declarations of
opinions and feelings
(Communicator) is
speaking to the student
(Receiver) in the hall
about the good job he
did on his science
respect
Acknowledging his hard
work
Paying attention to what
he is saying and what is
Wanted to share with
the principal how much
he liked the science
class and how he wants
to study science all the
Not interrupt
Offer words of
encouragement to the
Receiver
project.
going on in the hallway
time
Damir(Communicator)
and Jovana (Receiver)
Assess the safety of
have been dating for
Scared, unsure
confronting Damir
AGGRESSIVE
Tending toward or
exhibiting hostile,
forceful, or destructive
behaviour
about three months.
Damir gets angry when
Jovana has to go to class
without him and he
thinks other guys want
to get with Jovana. One
Superior and controlling
Like he owns Jovana
Without showing trust
or respect for Jovana
Silenced
Angry
Caught off guard
Unsure what to say but
wants him to stop
making a scene
Confront using “I”
statements such as “I
feel you are treating
Joavan poorly”
During or after the
incident, tell Jovana and
day when Jovana walks
Franja that you feel
back to her locker with
Damir treated them
Franjo (Receiver),
aggressively.
Jovana (arms folded, in
an angry voice) says,
“What exactly do you
two think you are
doing?
Ana (Communicator)
Not sure what Ana
PASSIVE
Receiving or enduring
something without
being active, open, or
direct
sits on the yearbook
committee. She works
on it after school and
over lunch. Ivana
(Receiver) offers to help
because she is supposed
Vague, unsure of
herself, seems a bit shy
Makes Ivana feel she
has to guess what Ana’s
needs are.
wants
Asking for clarification
Frustrated and wanting
to cut the conversation
short
As if Ana is
Listen
Try to assess what the
problems might be
Tell Ana that she
shouldn’t have to do the
work alone
to be working with Ana.
incompetent
However, Ana seems
aloof and just shrugs her
shoulders when Ivana
talks to her about it.
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