2020 Optimal Living Magazine Christian Women in Business Issue
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Join us in celebrating our 2020 Christian Women in Business Women - East Orange, NJ Councilwoman Brittany D. Claybrooks, DeShuna Spencer, Toshauna Giddings & Kiyonda Powell! Support more women in business as they share the #1 Thing They've Learned in Business! Boost your immune system with our Spices of Life Recipes + Much More!
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When I first encountered my husband,<br />
he was a freshly orda<strong>in</strong>ed m<strong>in</strong>ister and a<br />
sophomore <strong>in</strong> college. At the time, he was<br />
look<strong>in</strong>g for a wife, which was why he began<br />
a conversation with my girlfriend I was<br />
walk<strong>in</strong>g with!<br />
As I look back on that season of my life,<br />
I laugh about how God worked <strong>in</strong> us, to<br />
prepare us for each other. At the time, I<br />
didn’t know that my soul was search<strong>in</strong>g for<br />
Jesus! Ernst was settl<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong>to His call as a<br />
young Pastor. We became friends, bump<strong>in</strong>g<br />
<strong>in</strong>to each other once a semester. We would<br />
talk about many th<strong>in</strong>gs, <strong>in</strong>clud<strong>in</strong>g Jesus<br />
once he found out I wasn’t saved. I wasn’t<br />
<strong>in</strong>terested at first, try<strong>in</strong>g to figure out my<br />
own life. But, then one day it clicked and I<br />
knew I needed Jesus to figure out my life.<br />
My then friend led me to Christ.<br />
Jesus began stripp<strong>in</strong>g me of unhealthy<br />
relationships, establish<strong>in</strong>g His love and<br />
acceptance of me. I was excited about<br />
trust<strong>in</strong>g Him with my love life. As a newly<br />
saved young woman, I was plead<strong>in</strong>g with<br />
God to get closer to Him and the very first<br />
clear direction He gave me was to break<br />
up with my boyfriend. One of the hardest<br />
th<strong>in</strong>gs I had to do was to break up with my<br />
boyfriend of 5 years. I loved him. He was<br />
a good guy but he wasn’t a saved guy. I<br />
had to trust God with my love life, even if<br />
that meant I wasn’t go<strong>in</strong>g to get married<br />
at 25 (or so I thought). The breakup was<br />
hard and emotional but despite the tears<br />
and moments of lonel<strong>in</strong>ess, at the center I<br />
felt the peace of God. I knew I did the right<br />
th<strong>in</strong>g and that susta<strong>in</strong>ed me. After a while I<br />
was enjoy<strong>in</strong>g my s<strong>in</strong>gle life. I was gett<strong>in</strong>g to<br />
know my God better, no <strong>in</strong>terruptions, no<br />
h<strong>in</strong>drances.<br />
Ernst was a good friend encourag<strong>in</strong>g me to<br />
press deeper <strong>in</strong>to Jesus. Months went by<br />
until the Lord showed me <strong>in</strong> a dream that<br />
Ernst had the Lords approval. I remember<br />
wak<strong>in</strong>g up from that dream th<strong>in</strong>k<strong>in</strong>g, “ Lord,<br />
I’m not try<strong>in</strong>g to get <strong>in</strong>to a relationship”. I<br />
was enjoy<strong>in</strong>g my s<strong>in</strong>gle season with God.<br />
But soon after my feel<strong>in</strong>gs started to change<br />
towards him, and came to the surface, I<br />
loved him and wanted to marry him. I knew<br />
Ernst was different because I never had<br />
the desire to be married or thought to stay<br />
married to any other man.<br />
One year after be<strong>in</strong>g friends, we were<br />
court<strong>in</strong>g. One and half years after court<strong>in</strong>g<br />
he proposed to me after a New York City<br />
Broadway play, d<strong>in</strong>ner and a limo ride.<br />
One and half years later, we were married<br />
at the tender age of 25. After 16 years of<br />
marriage, I have learned one th<strong>in</strong>g that<br />
rema<strong>in</strong>s true. Let God lead you <strong>in</strong> your<br />
marriage and your s<strong>in</strong>gle life! There were<br />
many th<strong>in</strong>gs we needed to grow <strong>in</strong> and are<br />
still grow<strong>in</strong>g <strong>in</strong> <strong>in</strong>dividually and together;<br />
from communication to sex. Marriage is a<br />
liv<strong>in</strong>g breath<strong>in</strong>g relationship that grows and<br />
evolves with unique nuances <strong>in</strong> respect to<br />
each couple. The Holy Spirit can show you<br />
what to do and how, but we need to keep<br />
our hearts constantly open and engaged to<br />
hear him.<br />
First Lady Cochy is a lov<strong>in</strong>g wife, mother<br />
of 3 beautiful children and a native New<br />
Yorker. She is a graduate of New York<br />
bus<strong>in</strong>ess school at Baruch City University of<br />
New York. Today, she co- pastors alongside<br />
her husband Ernst Cochy at Life Church <strong>in</strong><br />
Brooklyn, NY, which they launched <strong>in</strong> 2010.<br />
She will release her first book entitled “He<br />
Sees You” <strong>in</strong> <strong>2020</strong>.<br />
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