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Uncovering one family's secrets:<br />
Where are the grown-ups? by Ruth Badley<br />
age.<br />
Where are the Grown-ups? is a true story that takes the<br />
reader through three generations of an East End Jewish<br />
family. Part history, part memoir, Ruth's search to<br />
uncover long-buried secrets brings understanding and<br />
acceptance to what was a complex and often painful<br />
mother-daughter relationship. It deals with family<br />
dynamics, and how misunderstandings can shape<br />
us and leave their indelible mark to linger long after<br />
we've become adults.<br />
The book 'begins at the end,' as Ruth's mother<br />
lay dying in hospital, with Ruth reflecting on their<br />
fraught relationship and her childhood in 1960's<br />
Stepney. As often happens in these situations,<br />
she feels a need to delve into her family history to<br />
answer unspoken questions, and the book travels<br />
back to the 1930's, where family secrets are<br />
buried. Ruth's maternal grandmother had died in<br />
childbirth, yet no one talked about it. Why? The<br />
details are sketchy and now, there's no one who<br />
remembers what happened, or, if they do, they<br />
aren't saying.<br />
The characters are sharply etched and keenly<br />
observed, and there is a poignancy and rawness in the way Ruth<br />
describes her childhood, in particular, depicting the angst that accompanies one's coming of<br />
Ruth's search to uncover the mysteries of her family history takes the reader back in time to an East<br />
End that is very different from today, yet her story will resonate with those who have had difficult<br />
family relationships. It reminds us that our parents are not one-dimensional, as we so often assume,<br />
and that they have their own demons to conquer. It's also a testament to familial love, however<br />
convoluted that can be, and that, alongside age and the wisdom of experience, forgiveness and<br />
understanding often come late in the day.<br />
RUTH BADLEY<br />
W: ruthbadley.com<br />
T: @RuthBadleyPR<br />
I: @ruth.badley<br />
FB: @wherearethegrownups<br />
Where are the grown-ups? is available at the Brick Lane<br />
Bookshop and Newham Bookshop as well as online.<br />
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