Cult of fertility among the Bosnian People

21st century, we have the same
issues of the previous generations
which is the result of primitivism
which is, unfortunately
characteristic for the Balkan.
Though we're talking about a
relatively small geographical area
or Europe it abounds in pretty
much unhealthy family and
relations as well as nationalism,
which is mostly thanks to Serbia
and the Serbian people which
suffers from a deep historical
frustration and complex (4).
Desire for hegemony and
endangering surrounding peoples
actually always produced negative
effects to the consciousness of
neighbouring peoples which
couldn't develop internal social
and family relations, unlike many
European people, since they were
under a constant threat from
hegemony in all its forms (5). EU
has a great task in trying to
civilise that barbaric people and
force it to face their
catastrophic historical mistakes,
and crimes, which would definitely
have a positive effect on other
people in the region, that would
help in creating democracy and
advancement of the society as a
whole.
NOTE
(2) Patriarchal, and conservative society
such as Bosnia, imposed the fact that the
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father should be the leader of the
household, and that his wife is behind him,
i.e. the mother, they lead the family in
an authoritative way which was void of any
possibility of choice. As the
mother/mother in law was a victim of such
a system, she acted the same way towards
her daughter in law on purpose or not, and
with this she consciously or unconsciously
encourages and justifies mistreatment from
her son. Mothers of daughters in law
threatened their daughters that they have
to be hard working and obedient and that
if "your husband starts to hate you, so
will God!" They threatened that they won't
be able to return to their house, since
"you chose your own husband and now deal
with the consequences!" or they would say
a fairly familiar phrase at that time: "My
daughter, suffer, I also suffered!".
Of course, there were different parents
which didn't allow their daughters to be
tortured by their husbands in the husbands
home; there were families which were
harmonious and such things were rare.
Because of the disastrous position of
women in this part of our country in
central part of Bosnia, especially
Sarajevo, Tuzla, Zenica, Banja Luka,
people used to say "we wouldn't give our
cat, let alone our daughter to get married
in Cazinska krajina (Cazin boarder).
(3) Source of this aggressive behaviour
should be sought in historical misfortunes
and issues which were constantly present
in this area, Dr. Husein Dzanic wrote
about this in his work "Medicine and
healing practices of Muslims in Mala
Kladuša":
To go through all the things that the
Bosnian's of Cazin have gone through and
stay unschated is not a small matter. All
things which were ours meant that it was
owned by others for both kingdoms. Disease
and hunger were an everyday occurrence for
inhabitants of Cazin. The people remember,
and Bašagić wrote down in 1900 :"On June
Cult of fertility among the Bosnian People