Counsels for the Church - Ellen G. White

Chapter 36
The Proper Discipline and Education of our
Children
The prevailing influence in the world is to suffer the youth to follow the
natural turn of their own minds. And if very wild in youth, parents say they
will come right after a while, and when sixteen or eighteen years of age, will
reason for themselves, and leave off their wrong habits, and become at last
useful men and women. What a mistake! For years they permit an enemy to
sow the garden of the heart; they suffer wrong principles to grow, and in
many cases all the labor afterward bestowed on that soil will avail nothing.
Satan is an artful, persevering workman, a deadly foe. Whenever an
incautious word is spoken to the injury of youth, whether in flattery or to
cause them to look upon some sin with less abhorrence, Satan takes
advantage of it and nourishes the evil seed that it may take root and yield a
bountiful harvest. Some parents have suffered their children to form wrong
habits, the marks of which may be seen all through life. Upon the parents lies
this sin. These children may profess to be Christians, yet without a special
work of grace upon the heart and a thorough reform in life their past habits
will be seen in all their experience, and they will exhibit just the character
which their parents allowed them to form.
Parents must govern their children, correct their passions, and subdue
them, or God will surely destroy the children in the day of His fierce anger,
and the parents who have not controlled their children will not be blameless.
Especially should the servants of God govern their own families and have
them in good subjection. I saw that they are not prepared to judge or decide
in matters of the church, unless they can rule well their own house. They
must first have order at home, and then their judgment and influence will tell
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