Counsels for the Church - Ellen G. White

accepted you as her husband, not that you might rule over her, but that you
might be her helper. Never be overbearing and dictatorial. Do not exert your
strong will power to compel your wife to do as you wish. Remember that she
has a will and that she may wish to have her way as much as you wish to
have yours. Remember, too, that you have the advantage of your wider
experience. Be considerate and courteous. "The wisdom that is from above is
first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and
good fruits." James 3:17.
Remember, my dear brother and sister, that God is love and that by His
grace you can succeed in making each other happy, as in your marriage
pledge you promised to do. And in the strength of the Redeemer you can
work with wisdom and power to help some crooked life to be straight in
God. What is there that Christ cannot do? He is perfect in wisdom, in
righteousness, in love. Do not shut yourselves up to yourselves, satisfied to
pour out all your affection upon each other. Seize every opportunity to
contribute to the happiness of those around you, sharing with them your
affection. Words of kindness, looks of sympathy, expressions of
appreciation, would to many a struggling, lonely one be as a cup of cold
water to a thirsty soul. A word of cheer, an act of kindness, would go far to
lighten the burdens that are resting heavily upon weary shoulders. It is in
unselfish ministry that true happiness is found. And every word and deed of
such service is recorded in the books of heaven as done for Christ.
"Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these My brethren," He
declares, "ye have done it unto Me." Matthew 25:40.
Live in the sunshine of the Saviour's love. Then your influence will bless
the world. Let the Spirit of Christ control you. Let the law of kindness be
ever on your lips. Forbearance and unselfishness mark the words and actions
of those who are born again, to live the new life in Christ.
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