Independence Edition (July/August 2019)
Life is not a solo show. It's not you on an island, totally capable. It's failing, miserably. It's uniting as a community, as a neighborhood, as a brother/sisterhood. It's you AND. You PLUS. You plus love, plus people, plus stories. So, tell me: are you really independent?
Life is not a solo show. It's not you on an island, totally capable. It's failing, miserably. It's uniting as a community, as a neighborhood, as a brother/sisterhood. It's you AND. You PLUS. You plus love, plus people, plus stories. So, tell me: are you really independent?
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volume 8, issue 4<br />
july/august <strong>2019</strong>
JULY - AUGUST <strong>2019</strong><br />
CONTRIBUTORS<br />
- writers -<br />
REBECCA CARAWAY / OLIVIA NICKERSON / SARAH CNOSSEN /<br />
LISA ELIS / EMILY SEAVER / MARY GRACE / KATIE FRENCH / JULIA<br />
FINDLEY / AMANDA BROWN<br />
- special contributor -<br />
ROBIN JONES GUNN<br />
- head photographer -<br />
LEAH BUFFALINO<br />
- illustrations -<br />
RACHEL BROWN / EMMA FORDHAM / CAMI FORDHAM<br />
- design -<br />
AMANDA BROWN<br />
Volume No. 8, Issue No. 4<br />
WWW.OHBELOVEDONE.COM
THEME: INDEPENDENCE<br />
kingdom creative: robin jones gunn 06<br />
self care 08<br />
strength in weakness 43<br />
JOURNAL ENTRY NO. 3 47<br />
made to 10<br />
a<br />
social<br />
situation<br />
26<br />
depend<br />
38<br />
appendix 48<br />
i can 17<br />
how to love being alone 20<br />
JOURNAL ENTRY NO. 1 25<br />
a social situation 26<br />
for the independent girl 32<br />
JOURNAL ENTRY NO. 2 37<br />
depend 38<br />
appendix<br />
cover: photo of Chloe Buffalino by Leah Buffalino<br />
48<br />
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WWW.OHBELOVEDONE.COM<br />
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EDITOR’S NOTE<br />
Amanda Brown<br />
EDITOR - IN - CHIEF<br />
I am a self-proclaimed independent person. I've always told myself I<br />
don't mind being by myself—EVER. I used to take great pride in this<br />
and saw any kind of “dependence” as an enemy.<br />
But sometimes we need people. Okay, a lot of times we need people.<br />
And people need us too! It's time for us to put aside our petty #bossbabe<br />
mantras and realize that yeah: I need you and you need me.<br />
God created us to be in a community. Creation was proclaimed to be<br />
"good," but Adam was missing something. All the other animals had<br />
friends, but Adam was all alone. That was “not good”!<br />
A big part of our testimony as Christians is that we do depend on each<br />
other. We are all so beautifully diverse yet unified in a supernatural<br />
way that brings the glory back to God. When tragedy strikes, we can<br />
know we always have a shoulder to cry on. We have a Netflix account<br />
to binge-watch movies, a buddy to sit with at required events, and a<br />
listening ear when we just need to talk it out.<br />
God does everything for a reason. There's a reason each of us were<br />
designed and then placed on ONE earth. Loving others isn't easy, but<br />
neither is anything important in life.<br />
So, discard the world's wrong take on independence. We can't hold<br />
our own! It's time to drop the egos and link arms in a community of<br />
encouragement.<br />
amanda brown + team
you have to be brave<br />
to let people in<br />
to trust them<br />
with your story<br />
and heart<br />
and love<br />
you can't just run away<br />
bc you are scared<br />
fear is real and terrifying<br />
yes<br />
but so is living alone<br />
for the rest of your life<br />
be brave<br />
trust in God<br />
and then<br />
my dear friend<br />
you will find beauty<br />
— julia ryan
JULY/AUGUST <strong>2019</strong> OHBELOVEDONE.COM KINGDOM CREATIVE<br />
k i n g d o m<br />
c r e a t i v e s<br />
meet robin jones gunn<br />
Author of “Becoming Us” (an extension of the Christy Miller Series)<br />
CREATIVE<br />
OUTLETS<br />
One of my outlets is journaling. That<br />
might sound odd since I’m a writer.<br />
But journaling feels different than<br />
storytelling and is a much different<br />
process than the skills used to write a<br />
novel. I love the rare mornings when<br />
I can sit outside and write heartfelt<br />
prayers and poems in my journal or<br />
explore verses that call out to me.<br />
I live in Hawaii so getting outside<br />
and enjoying the beauty of these<br />
extraordinary islands is always a<br />
favorite outlet.<br />
PERSONALITY TRAITS<br />
how God has<br />
prepped me for<br />
my purpose<br />
I call myself a high-functioning introvert.<br />
When I’m with people, I’m engaged and<br />
love the fellowship. When the visit is over,<br />
I need to be alone to get recharged. It’s<br />
during the alone times that I process the<br />
conversations and traits of the people I<br />
was just with. This has helped me write<br />
about a variety of personalities in a way<br />
that feels authentic to the reader.<br />
We are called to love others. To love<br />
deeply. To care for them. Writers who do<br />
this become more than just an observer<br />
and reporter of human nature. When a<br />
creative person invests in relationships,<br />
they become more intuitive about<br />
all the layers of human nature. The<br />
depth and dimension of understanding<br />
that comes from loving others and<br />
cultivating rich relationships shows in<br />
the art we create.<br />
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ADVICE<br />
for fellow<br />
creatives<br />
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The most necessary character qualities<br />
an artist needs to develop are tenacity<br />
and courage followed by humility and<br />
a teachable spirit. Do you see why? It’s<br />
because only the artist can do the hard<br />
work to create the art and not give up in the<br />
process. But, in order for it to be seen and<br />
enjoyed, the work must be entrusted to<br />
those who do a better job promoting than<br />
the artist ever could.<br />
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not a ONE WOMAN PROJECT<br />
Even though writing for a fulltime<br />
career might seem like an<br />
independent endeavor, it is not. I’m<br />
so grateful for the team I work with<br />
in order to do my job well.<br />
I have an agent, an editor, a<br />
publisher, a marketing director, a<br />
publicist, an assistant, a designer<br />
and an intern. I work with a<br />
fulfillment company because I have<br />
an online shop that sells my books.<br />
(ChristyMillerShop.com)<br />
When my Father Christmas books<br />
were made into 3 Hallmark<br />
Christmas movies, I began working<br />
with a screenwriter, an agent, a<br />
producer and executive producer,<br />
a director, the actors and the<br />
network’s publicity team. When<br />
the Christy Miller books went into<br />
audio book production, I worked<br />
with a narrator, a sound studio<br />
engineer, a distribution company<br />
and a designer.<br />
Telling a story – the process<br />
of getting an idea from my<br />
imagination into words on a page<br />
– is something only I can do. That<br />
process takes discipline. I must shut<br />
everything out in order to listen and<br />
write and get the book turned in on<br />
deadline to the publisher. Making<br />
that story available to others is not a<br />
one-woman project. obo<br />
Telling<br />
a story<br />
is something<br />
only I<br />
can do.<br />
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need this magazine<br />
in my life.<br />
buy other print<br />
editions of OBO<br />
by scanning this<br />
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JULY/AUGUST <strong>2019</strong> OHBELOVEDONE.COM SELF CARE<br />
self-care<br />
by rebecca caraway<br />
Self care is a phrase we hear<br />
a lot. There is a whole "self<br />
love, self care, be yourself"<br />
movement going on right now<br />
and has been for a while. When I<br />
hear the phrase “self care” I think<br />
of myself alone in my room eating<br />
pizza, watching Netflix, wearing<br />
a face mask, with a candle in the<br />
background. But the self care<br />
movement is a lot bigger than<br />
that.<br />
When I look at quotes about self<br />
care, the big thing that people<br />
say is that you need to put yourself<br />
before anything else. Let's be<br />
honest: I would love to wake<br />
up every morning and take care<br />
of myself, get breakfast, go on<br />
a walk; but in a family with ten<br />
other people that would honestly<br />
be selfish. A lot of people don’t<br />
have the luxury of putting<br />
themselves first, and that's okay.<br />
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Do nothing in<br />
selfish ambition<br />
or conceit, but<br />
in humility count<br />
others more<br />
significant than<br />
yourselves.<br />
Philippians 2:3<br />
This means that we shouldn’t<br />
think that we or our needs are<br />
more important than anyone else.<br />
Now I'm not saying you<br />
shouldn’t take care of yourself.<br />
You absolutely should, especially<br />
since the Bible says our bodies are<br />
a temple. If you struggle with<br />
with mental or physical health<br />
then please take care of yourself.<br />
This verse is about making sure<br />
you don’t think of yourself more<br />
important than others.<br />
James 3:16 says, “For where<br />
jealousy and selfish ambition<br />
exist, there will be disorder and<br />
every vile practice.”<br />
Let's be real for a moment: no<br />
one likes to think of themselves<br />
as selfish. But it's very easy to fall<br />
into selfish ambition. No one<br />
wants to be selfish but it just happens.<br />
The stress from everyday life can<br />
become to much to the point where<br />
we forget to care about the people<br />
around us. We’re all guilty of it. I’ll be<br />
the first to admit that after a long day,<br />
I’d rather sit alone in my room than<br />
help my mom around the house.<br />
I know it's hard but we can't let<br />
ourselves fall into selfish ambition.<br />
Mark 12:31 says “The second is<br />
this: ‘You shall love your neighbor<br />
as yourself.’ There is no other<br />
commandment greater than these.”<br />
Next time you're in a situation where<br />
you're struggling to put others needs<br />
before your own, ask yourself to<br />
treat that person as you want to treat<br />
yourself. I guarantee you if we treated<br />
others the way we’re told to treat<br />
ourselves, the world would be a much<br />
better place. obo<br />
meet the<br />
author<br />
Rebecca lives in Southern California with her eight younger siblings. She is currently a senior in high school and plans to study<br />
journalism and English in college. She loves spending time with friends, listening to music, and writing. You can often find her<br />
in a coffee shop hanging out with friends.<br />
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to<br />
by lisa elis<br />
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“Rock of Ages,<br />
cleft for me,<br />
let me hide<br />
myself in Thee”<br />
INDEPENDENCE. It’s the thing<br />
that teenagers are famous for<br />
wanting. We want to be free to do<br />
our own thing our own way. And for<br />
the most part, it’s all right. It’s part of<br />
growing up and becoming an adult.<br />
But as with all other things, there’s a<br />
balance to strike. Before you go on to<br />
become a fully functional grown-up,<br />
I want to tell you something. There’s<br />
one way in which we should never be<br />
independent: independent of God.<br />
Why not?<br />
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“Not the labor<br />
of my hands can<br />
fulfill Thy law’s<br />
demands”
JULY/AUGUST <strong>2019</strong> OHBELOVEDONE.COM MADE TO<br />
we<br />
are<br />
not<br />
First of all, WE<br />
ARE NOT ENOUGH<br />
by ourselves to<br />
do good or find<br />
meaning in life.<br />
“As the branch cannot bear<br />
fruit by itself, unless it<br />
abides in the vine, neither<br />
can you, unless you abide<br />
in me.” John 15:4 ESV<br />
These days, you see the<br />
message YOU ARE<br />
ENOUGH everywhere.<br />
I think that shows us<br />
something: how much<br />
people feel that they aren’t,<br />
and how much they need<br />
to be told they are before<br />
they start believing it.<br />
When humanity—or, to be<br />
precise, Adam and Eve—<br />
tried to be independent<br />
and define good and evil<br />
themselves, we discovered<br />
we were not enough.<br />
When Israel tried to be<br />
independent, abandoning<br />
God in order to rule and<br />
live their own way, they<br />
discovered they were not<br />
enough.<br />
When Solomon tried<br />
to find the meaning of<br />
life in every earthly thing<br />
possible, independent of<br />
God, he found it was not<br />
enough.<br />
enough<br />
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But that’s all right.<br />
Because God IS. That has<br />
been the whole idea since the<br />
beginning. We were meant<br />
to be connected to God in<br />
such a way that His fullness<br />
made us enough. That’s why<br />
Paul said, “I will boast of<br />
my weaknesses . . . that the<br />
power of Christ may rest<br />
upon me.” (2 Cor 12:9 ESV)<br />
We cannot be independent<br />
of God because we are not<br />
enough to save ourselves.<br />
We are not enough to follow<br />
the straight and narrow way<br />
of Jesus. We are not enough<br />
to accomplish the purpose<br />
that God has set before us.<br />
Only because of Him, only in<br />
Him, we CAN.<br />
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Secondly, we cannot be<br />
independent of God IF WE<br />
WANT TO KNOW HIM.<br />
“And this is eternal life, that<br />
they know you, the only true<br />
God, and Jesus Christ whom<br />
you have sent.” (John 17:3<br />
ESV)<br />
we<br />
want to<br />
knowHim<br />
There’s a difference between<br />
knowing ABOUT God and<br />
KNOWING God. Those<br />
who know God know Him<br />
by experience. But how can<br />
you obey, experience and know<br />
God if you are independent? If<br />
you can<br />
do everything you need to do<br />
have everything you need<br />
are enough for yourself<br />
how can you know him?<br />
When Moses led the children<br />
of Israel through the wilderness,<br />
they got to know God as their<br />
merciful provider because<br />
they were not enough to feed<br />
themselves.<br />
When the Assyrians attacked<br />
Israel in the days of Hezekiah,<br />
the people got to know God<br />
as their deliverer because they<br />
were not enough to defend<br />
themselves.<br />
When the rich young man came<br />
to Jesus and asked how to earn<br />
eternal life, he was told that he<br />
should, first, become poor and,<br />
second, follow Jesus—and I<br />
think it was so that in his new<br />
poverty he could get to know<br />
God and Jesus in person and<br />
therefore FIND ETERNAL<br />
LIFE.<br />
They say “a friend in need is a<br />
friend indeed.” I think that can<br />
be applied to God. He’s the<br />
ultimate friend, and the best<br />
time you can get to know Him<br />
is when you need Him.<br />
meet the<br />
author<br />
Lisa Elis is a busy high school junior from Canada who spends her free time chasing many literary interests. She's also into art<br />
and design, orchids and sunshine, plus all things that grow her wanderlust. Find her scrambling to post every week at<br />
www.thisinkwell.blogspot.com.<br />
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OHBELOVEDONE.COM<br />
ARTICLE TITLE HERE<br />
I<br />
can<br />
by olivia nickerson<br />
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JULY/AUGUST <strong>2019</strong> OHBELOVEDONE.COM I CAN<br />
There is a lot of talk about<br />
being independent. And<br />
yet some people argue<br />
that they ARE independent when,<br />
in fact, they don’t know how to<br />
do some of the simple things<br />
in life that can help grant their<br />
independence. Things such as<br />
changing a baby’s diaper, changing a<br />
flat tire, and learning how to cook<br />
and bake are great ways to prove<br />
that you can be independent and<br />
do thingson your own. It can also<br />
be a way to help others and spread<br />
the gospel. I’ll tell you how.<br />
No. 1 / change a baby's diaper<br />
What if one day you have to babysit a child who still needs diapers? Or<br />
think of it this way: you may get married in the future and have your own<br />
children. Knowing how to change a baby’s diaper would be an extremely<br />
useful skill. And it’s not hard. You can do it!<br />
No. 2 / change a tire<br />
My dad is a mechanic. Even so, I am not the biggest fan of cars or even<br />
very knowledgeable of them. I am slowly gaining more information about<br />
them, but it’s not something that is my passion or comfort zone. You may<br />
be the same way.<br />
It can be easy to avoid the things that we think we don’t need to learn<br />
about. However, changing a flat tire, though perhaps not the most<br />
interesting thing to learn, will be helpful and maybe even life-saving in<br />
certain situations.<br />
For example, when I visited a few states in the U.S. last year with some<br />
of my family, there was a day on which we traveled for miles and miles<br />
through Death Valley, in Arizona. There were no gas stations, no food<br />
stops—nothing. There were no signs warning people of the duration of the<br />
oncoming trek. An unprepared traveler could easily find themselves in a<br />
bad situation if they broke down or ran out of gas along the way. In that<br />
case, knowing how to change a flat tire could definitely be life-saving.<br />
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No. 3 / learn to bake and cook<br />
There are plenty of cases in which you will use this skill, such as living on<br />
your own one day, getting married, bringing something to an event or a<br />
friend’s house, making dinner for your family or a sick friend, preparing<br />
a meal for children whom you babysit, and so much more.<br />
From a young age, my mom let us help around the kitchen. She would let<br />
us watch her as she made dinner or a sweet treat, and she would allow us to<br />
pour things in and stir the food. She also taught us how to make the dishes<br />
and desserts, especially when we grew older. I am so glad that I was taught<br />
that knowledge as I grew up. It has never been something that has not been<br />
useful.<br />
Even if you have not had that opportunity growing up, I highly encourage<br />
every girl and guy to learn how to cook and bake now.<br />
a beloved bundle will have<br />
recipe cards {here}<br />
These three things that I’ve discussed<br />
are just a few of the things that I would<br />
encourage girls, especially as teenagers,<br />
to learn. There are so many people<br />
who don’t know how to do some of<br />
these things, and you never know<br />
when God will use those specific skills<br />
in a specific situation.<br />
For all you know, learning how to<br />
change a flat tire could grant you an<br />
opportunity to help someone in need,<br />
and in doing so, tell them about Jesus. Isn’t<br />
that cool?<br />
I hope you can go and accomplish some of<br />
these things today, and therefore become<br />
more independent in this world. But don’t<br />
forget! We can’t conquer daily challenges or <br />
anything really, without God. So continue<br />
to follow after Him, and remember to do<br />
things in His strength and not your own.<br />
meet the<br />
author<br />
Olivia Nickerson is a high-school student, growing writer, and a Christian saved by grace. She loves Lindt chocolate, being an<br />
aunt to little Jasper, spending time with her family and friends, and dreaming. Besides writing, Olivia loves spending time with<br />
her family and friends in almost any way, playing board games, sports, and music.<br />
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JULY/AUGUST <strong>2019</strong> OHBELOVEDONE.COM HOW TO ARTICLE LOVE BEING TITLE ALONE HERE<br />
how to<br />
love<br />
being alone<br />
by emily seaver<br />
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JULY/AUGUST <strong>2019</strong> OHBELOVEDONE.COM HOW TO LOVE BEING ALONE<br />
I'm a social introvert, basically<br />
meaning that I both love and am<br />
exhausted by being around people.<br />
I need my alone time, which can be<br />
tempting to use selfishly or to waste.<br />
When I give into those temptations, I'm<br />
forgetting a very important truth: our<br />
time is not our own. Time is a gift from<br />
God to be used for His glory. By using<br />
my time selfishly, I'm not protecting the<br />
gift He's given me. Sometimes all we<br />
need is a little reminder to use our time<br />
wisely, and sometimes we need to be<br />
told exactly how to do it.<br />
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JULY/AUGUST <strong>2019</strong> OHBELOVEDONE.COM HOW TO ARTICLE LOVE BEING TITLE ALONE HERE<br />
01. use your talents<br />
We all have talents, gifts given to us by<br />
our Creator, and we are called to use them<br />
wisely. While being around others is a great<br />
opportunity to use those talents, alone time<br />
can be used to develop those gifts. Do you<br />
love to be hospitable? Work on a new recipe<br />
or try making a new table arrangement. Enjoy<br />
arts and crafts? Hand letter a Bible verse. If<br />
you can't think of a specific way to use your<br />
giftings, attempt something new that you've<br />
never done before! You might just find that it's<br />
super fun.<br />
02. r e l a x<br />
You don't have to be constantly doing. Yes,<br />
our to-do list might be piling up, but as long<br />
as we're not simply procrastinating, there's<br />
nothing wrong with taking a break to read or<br />
listen to music. Sometimes the best thing after<br />
a busy day is to simply relax.<br />
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03. grow your relationship<br />
That sounds awfully strange, right? How<br />
could one use her alone time to grow her<br />
relationship? Well, I'm not talking about<br />
human relationships. I'm talking about our<br />
relationship with our Creator. Sometimes in<br />
the chaos of our daily lives, one of the most<br />
important relationships can get lost and<br />
forgotten. Use your alone time to pray and read<br />
the Bible. If you find your thoughts wandering<br />
during your prayer time, I've found it's often<br />
helpful to pray out loud. These simple times of<br />
investing in our relationship with God can be<br />
so impactful in your growth.<br />
04. let your thoughts drift<br />
I have to admit it: sometimes I have no idea<br />
how to use my alone time. Sometimes my<br />
thoughts wander too far to reign them back<br />
into whatever I'm attempting to do. That's<br />
honestly okay. When our thoughts wander, it<br />
gives us the opportunity to be creative or to<br />
think through problems we've been facing.<br />
Taking a walk in nature or exercising or<br />
journaling are all great ways to start letting<br />
your mind wander. I've even done a “stream<br />
of conscious” doodling game where I draw<br />
whatever I think of.<br />
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However you use your alone time, it<br />
can be used wisely or foolishly. While<br />
we all make mistakes and waste time,<br />
one of the most practical ways to not<br />
is to make a plan. You can have an<br />
idea of what you will use to make the<br />
most of your time, and before you<br />
know it you'll be refreshed and relaxed<br />
and using your alone time well. obo<br />
meet the<br />
author<br />
Emily lives in sunny, ever-humid South Carolina and co-blogs at growingintofriends.com. She spends her days being creative<br />
and dreaming up impractical yet exciting ideas when she doesn't have to deal with reality. She is a freshman in highschool, uses<br />
as many big words as she can find, and reads every book she can get her hands on.<br />
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journal entry<br />
It's time to make a plan, Sam! Write a litst below of THREE new skills you want to learn in<br />
the next month (check out our appendix for more ideas about skills to learn).<br />
life<br />
Well done. Now, make actionable steps. Plan out what courses you need to take, what time you<br />
is<br />
need to make, what money you need to save.<br />
background: vecteezy<br />
a<br />
group<br />
project<br />
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Picture this: you walk into a<br />
convention center for a friend’s<br />
anniversary celebration with<br />
your parents in tow, or rather, your<br />
parents enter with you in tow. That<br />
said, you still anticipated this event with<br />
excitement. I mean who doesn’t like a<br />
fun atmosphere, good food, and being<br />
with lots of people?<br />
While few would argue with the first<br />
two items I mentioned, it is likely that<br />
the latter is more controversial. For<br />
instance, perhaps the only reason you<br />
were willing to attend this event in the<br />
first place was because you were going<br />
there with your parents.<br />
In my opinion, this reason is completely<br />
legitimate, especially concerning the fact<br />
that I have used it myself.<br />
A SOCIAL<br />
SITUATION<br />
by katie french<br />
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Parents are great for providing<br />
introductions, starting<br />
conversations, and even serving<br />
as a shield that some choose<br />
to hide behind. However,<br />
regardless of whether or not<br />
you choose to use your parents<br />
as this so called “shield,” there<br />
is a day that comes (for pretty<br />
much every individual on the<br />
planet) when you no longer<br />
have to option to take your<br />
parents with you into the social<br />
sphere.<br />
For many, this occurs when<br />
they go to college. For some,<br />
earlier; for others, later.<br />
For me, loss of parental<br />
protection in the social sphere<br />
most definitely occurred when<br />
I started college at a university<br />
thousands of miles away from<br />
my home. While I was not<br />
one to hide behind my parents<br />
or fully rely on them in social<br />
situations growing up, I still<br />
had to adjust to life in the<br />
social sphere without them.<br />
They were no longer there<br />
to introduce me to people,<br />
clear an awkward pause in<br />
conversation, or maintain a<br />
conversation that I no longer<br />
wished to be a part of (selfish I<br />
know, but admittedly, I think<br />
most of us have been there).<br />
Let's learn how to enter the<br />
social sphere singlehandedly<br />
while communicating and<br />
interacting effectively.<br />
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1. Be open.<br />
By openness, I do not just mean that<br />
you must be willing to talk (that should<br />
be obvious *insert laughing emoji<br />
here*). Rather, be willing to talk to<br />
anyone. I can think of many instances<br />
in which I ended up conversing with<br />
people to whom I never expected, and<br />
I had to maintain openness to do so. A<br />
friend’s parent, a previous acquaintance<br />
who I never thought I would encounter<br />
again, a professor or someone else<br />
of higher authority, and even a<br />
transgender who stepped into a church<br />
I had the privilege of visiting.<br />
Obviously, you just never know who<br />
you might cross paths with or what<br />
conversations may come up (adults do<br />
talk about more than just the weather,<br />
folks), so be ready!<br />
2. Be resilient.<br />
Before explaining this, I will admit that<br />
I had to look up the definition of this<br />
word before using it to ensure that it<br />
was the right one.<br />
According to dictionary.com, “resilient”<br />
is an adjective that means “springing<br />
back; rebounding.” Other definitions<br />
define this word as returning to one’s<br />
original state after some kind of<br />
fluctuation.<br />
Ultimately, by saying “be resilient,” I<br />
mean that you should be able to stand<br />
up for what you believe, resist gossip,<br />
and avoid the negative influence of<br />
others. Yes, listen; yes, take advice. But<br />
don’t let others’ words get you down<br />
and have a greater affect on you than<br />
they should.<br />
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3. Be interesting . . .<br />
(but more importantly, be interested).<br />
Whether or not you are one to<br />
initiate conversation, you can always<br />
bring something to the table. Think<br />
creatively. Ask others about their life<br />
and what is going on in it. When they<br />
respond, listen carefully to what they<br />
are saying.<br />
Regardless of how much you may have<br />
in common with another person, you<br />
can always take interest in them. I have<br />
often found that just asking someone<br />
about their day or about a recent event<br />
in their life can produce oodles of<br />
conversation. Will this always work?<br />
No. But it’s a good start, a springboard<br />
for potential areas of subject matter<br />
that could be brought up later in the<br />
conversation.<br />
4. Be mindful<br />
When it comes to how long a<br />
conversation lasts or what impression<br />
it makes, this is probably the most vital<br />
aspect.<br />
Mindfulness is essential to conversation<br />
because it provides breadth and depth.<br />
When a person is not mindful, he<br />
tends to ignore how much he talks<br />
about himself, the length of time for<br />
which he talks, and perhaps even the<br />
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volume at which he is talking.<br />
On the other hand, when a<br />
person is mindful, all of these<br />
scenarios are flipped. And when<br />
consideration of the other person<br />
comes into play, both parties are<br />
refreshed after the conversation<br />
comes to a close.<br />
We have all been part of<br />
conversations that are selfcentered<br />
and obnoxious. We can<br />
all attest to the fact that they<br />
can leave people feeling quite<br />
miserable afterwards. So think<br />
and don’t fall into this trap.<br />
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All of this to say, I hope that my four “tips” have given<br />
you a glimpse of what I have learned from my first year<br />
of “social independence.”<br />
Surrounded by hundreds of unfamiliar faces, I definitely<br />
had to learn how to find my way through deep waters.<br />
However, in doing so, I was privileged to meet many<br />
great people and be part of conversations that I never<br />
would have expected to take place.<br />
So, what should you do? What is your next step towards<br />
“social independence?” Whether or not you are in a<br />
position that requires you to be completely socially<br />
independent, be willing to step out of your comfort<br />
zone. Be open, resilient, interesting, and mindful<br />
in order to effectively use your mouth, a powerful<br />
instrument that God has given you, to converse with<br />
others for His glory.<br />
After all, God independently spoke the world into<br />
existence, so why shouldn’t we be willing to step out<br />
independently and speak in a capacity that is minuscule<br />
compared to His?<br />
“O Lord, open my lips, and my mouth will declare your<br />
praise.” (Psalm 51:15)<br />
obo<br />
meet the<br />
author<br />
Katie French, a Washington state native, is currently a freshman at Bob Jones University in South Carolina with a<br />
major in Journalism and Mass Communication. She enjoys writing, and hopes that that may be a means by which<br />
she can relay truth to others.<br />
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for the<br />
independent<br />
girl<br />
by mary grace<br />
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Are you independent? I sure<br />
am! When I was a baby, I<br />
didn’t even want to be held,<br />
but instead I wanted to crawl<br />
around on the floor. How crazy<br />
is that? I’ve been pondering<br />
what being independent really<br />
means this past week so I<br />
looked up the definition of<br />
being independent on Google<br />
and this is what I came up with:<br />
1. Free from outside control;<br />
not depending on another's<br />
authority.<br />
2. Not depending on another<br />
for livelihood or subsistence.<br />
Being independent doesn't<br />
mean that you need to do<br />
everything alone. I would hate<br />
being independent if that's<br />
what being independent meant!<br />
A girl can be independent and<br />
like people at the same time.<br />
(That’s a good thing, right?)<br />
Our society is starting to<br />
realize that being independent<br />
is a good thing. Before, girls<br />
and women were expected to<br />
depend on men and boys. One<br />
of the reasons that society has<br />
started to realize that being<br />
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independent is good is that a<br />
lot of girls see their parents as<br />
people who just feed them, not<br />
a protector or a comforter.<br />
Fortunately, most Christian<br />
families are very protective<br />
and caring so as Christian<br />
girls we can dwell in that rich<br />
environment. However, that’s<br />
not always true, especially for<br />
non-Christian families.<br />
Society is finding out, however,<br />
that girls being dependent is a<br />
good thing.<br />
But, it’s also hard for us girls<br />
not to take being independent<br />
too far and tell ourselves that<br />
we don’t need anyone to be in<br />
control of us, inlucluding our<br />
parents (someone that Christ<br />
has set over) or even Christ<br />
himself!<br />
Sometimes we tell ourselves<br />
that being independent means<br />
that we can’t ask for help when<br />
we’re struggling. I was dealing<br />
I don’t want to ask for help, because<br />
if I don’t, I’m not being brave.<br />
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But it seemed to hurt<br />
worse because I’m a big<br />
talker, whether I’m hurting<br />
or not. I like to spill my<br />
feelings out to mentors and<br />
friends.<br />
But recently, my mom and<br />
I were talking about being<br />
independent and my mom<br />
mentioned how we can be<br />
independent, but we have<br />
to make sure that we are<br />
also remembering that we<br />
need to be dependent on<br />
God. I started to realize,<br />
the more we talked, that I<br />
have been trying to depend<br />
on myself and no one else.<br />
Psalm 37:5 says,<br />
Depend on<br />
the Lord;<br />
Trust him,<br />
And He will<br />
take care of<br />
you.<br />
Yes, it’s a pretty simple and<br />
short verse, but it makes<br />
you think a bit.<br />
Trust in the Lord<br />
means that you need to<br />
trust the Lord, no matter<br />
what is happening around<br />
you or who are you are.<br />
So, if you are independent<br />
(like me!) then that means<br />
that you need to seek and<br />
trust the Lord. You will not<br />
regret it!<br />
And the second part of the<br />
verse speaks a bit to me as<br />
well when it says, “With<br />
all your heart”. That<br />
means that you should be<br />
trying to set God first in<br />
your life, not yourself.<br />
Sometimes it’s really hard<br />
for me not to look at<br />
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family, friends or even God and<br />
put myself first in my mind. I often<br />
think about how much better I can<br />
do this or that.<br />
1 Peter 5:6-7 reminds me that I<br />
need to humble myself before God<br />
and others. (Family, friends, and<br />
even those we don’t know).<br />
Humble yourselves,<br />
Then, under God’s mighty hand,<br />
So that He will lift you<br />
Up in His own time.<br />
Leave all your worries with Him,<br />
Because He cares for you.<br />
We need to humble ourselves so that<br />
God can take us and mold us into<br />
who he wants us to be. If we act as<br />
though we don’t need anyone to<br />
help us and guide our lives, we are<br />
refusing God’s help automatically.<br />
We can be independent yet dependent<br />
on God at the same time. I<br />
love being independent, and being<br />
dependent obo on God . . . what about<br />
you?<br />
meet the<br />
author<br />
Mary Grace loves being an extroverted daughter and big sis to five (amazingly silly) siblings. When she isn't goofing off with<br />
her friends or family you can find her writing, reading, dancing, or exploring the big wide world. Visit her online at her blog<br />
https://hopesandjoys.wordpress.com/ to see how crazy this girl really is!<br />
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Read the statements below and circle them if they sound like you.<br />
I don't want to have to depend on someone else for anything.<br />
I don't want to look weak.<br />
I've been let down before so I just don't trust anyone anymore.<br />
No one can help me.<br />
If I ask for help, I'm not being brave.<br />
I'm strong and capable. I don't need a man.<br />
journal entry<br />
Do any of those sound familiar? Although there may be a thread of truth in each of these,<br />
ultimately, they're just wrong! We are in a community for a reason. You aren't weak if you ask<br />
a guy to carry something for you; you aren't pathetic if you have to have a cryfest in your<br />
bedroom. Use the space below to keep writing down these "independence lies" you've been harboring.<br />
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D<br />
EPEN<br />
D<br />
by sarah cnossen<br />
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w e a l l h a v e<br />
s o m e o n e w e<br />
t r u s t<br />
We are not guaranteed that person<br />
will never break our trust, however<br />
intentionally or unintentionally, but it’s<br />
safe to assume you have somebody (or<br />
many somebodies) you depend on.<br />
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Who are they? A best friend? A<br />
sibling? Your mom—dad? A<br />
grandparent?<br />
Is it good, is it<br />
okay to depend<br />
on such flawed,<br />
imperfect beings?<br />
Absolutely! God gives us such<br />
lovely people to aid in our<br />
life journey. If we did not<br />
have families and friends, our<br />
adventures would be incredibly<br />
dull and prone to failure.<br />
What would Frodo have been<br />
without the faithful Sam? Or<br />
Aragorn without Legolas and<br />
Gimli? How would the Pevensie<br />
children have succeeded in<br />
defeating the White Witch<br />
without the strengths (and<br />
weaknesses) they each brought to<br />
their family?<br />
Have you ever wondered why<br />
Aslan made each of them kings<br />
and queens of Narnia, and not<br />
simply the eldest, Peter? And<br />
what of the Avengers? Granted,<br />
even the lot of them had almost<br />
no hope of defeating Thanos, but<br />
there’s still more to the chapter.<br />
In their defeat and the grief of<br />
enormous loss, they step up and<br />
band together even stronger than<br />
before—with no guarantee of<br />
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victory, but the assurance<br />
that they must try.<br />
The people we depend on<br />
are certainly not perfect in<br />
any way. Neither are we!<br />
That’s how we work<br />
together so well—we build<br />
off of each other’s strengths<br />
and weaknesses to create<br />
a well-oiled machine. It is<br />
quite unfair to constantly<br />
expect such a lofty thing as<br />
perfection of them, but even<br />
in their failings and flaws,<br />
there is something rather<br />
beautiful about how they<br />
love us.<br />
It is the people we depend<br />
on the most who have seen<br />
us at our darkest—and yet,<br />
they never waver in their<br />
encouragement and support.<br />
I pray you are blessed to have<br />
someone like that. And if not,<br />
ask our King to send them to<br />
you. Frodo needs his Sam!<br />
I hail from a loving, Christian<br />
home where I never had to<br />
doubt the love of my mother<br />
and father, nor my siblings, or<br />
any of my extended family.<br />
As the eldest of four children, I<br />
felt the heavy burden of being<br />
a good example to my sisters<br />
and brother. I failed so very<br />
often. But they never gave up on<br />
me, and I’ve always seen them<br />
as being stronger of character<br />
in comparison—perhaps due<br />
to my failings. I love them all<br />
dearly and count them as my<br />
closest friends, both while we<br />
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were growing up and now that we<br />
are adults.<br />
Now, I am married to my amazing<br />
Mr. Darcy and we have a precious<br />
little boy. Come October, we will<br />
celebrate three years of depending<br />
on each other and the God who<br />
sustains us. In those near-three<br />
years, we have both learned SO<br />
MUCH.<br />
My husband is the person I depend<br />
on every day to love and encourage<br />
me as I tend to my duties as a wife<br />
and mama. In turn, he depends on<br />
me to have an orderly home, a joyful<br />
attitude, and a diligent heart. And<br />
more than anyone, he knows my<br />
failures and the simple fact I may let<br />
him down—often.<br />
I have learned he is not perfect,<br />
just as I am not, and that I cannot<br />
expect him to read my mind or agree<br />
with everything I want or say. It is<br />
imperative wives should not place<br />
their husbands on such a high<br />
pedestal that once they fall—and<br />
they will—the world goes to chaos<br />
in their minds.<br />
They are human, just as we are,<br />
and they can’t be expected to be<br />
a Superman, all-knowing and allseeing.<br />
Only One being<br />
is that.<br />
obo<br />
meet the<br />
author<br />
Sarah Cnossen is a stay-at-home wife to Evan & mama to Gabe. She’s a native Tennessean, a daughter of the King,<br />
an aspiring writer, and avid reader & reviewer of books. She blogs at sarah-plainandaverage.blogspot.com, and is<br />
99.9% sure she’s a Disney princess and that she married her Beast.<br />
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the room was full of<br />
people and yet i was<br />
completely alone.<br />
strength<br />
in<br />
weakness<br />
by julia findley<br />
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The room was full of sounds<br />
and yet I sat in utter silence.<br />
The room was brightly lit and<br />
yet I was in pitch blackness.<br />
My friends were talking to<br />
me and I couldn’t say a single<br />
word. It was summer and the<br />
room was warm, but I felt like<br />
it was winter. My phone was<br />
in my hands and yet I couldn’t<br />
even put in the passcode for a<br />
friend.<br />
I was scared.<br />
I was fearful.<br />
I was weak.<br />
This past summer I broke<br />
down. I shut down and I didn’t<br />
know what to do. After a day<br />
filled with fun with friends,<br />
when it came time to sit for<br />
a few hours, I got completely<br />
overwhelmed.<br />
I didn’t feel it coming. I had<br />
an ice cold drink in my hand<br />
and missed the warning signs.<br />
Instead I remember the little<br />
boy yelling. I asked him to stop<br />
but he didn’t.<br />
I remember the lady who sat in<br />
front of me opening a bottle of<br />
peppermint essential oil. The<br />
smell burned inside my nose.<br />
And then<br />
I started<br />
shutting<br />
down.<br />
All of the noise was muted. It<br />
was suddenly dark. I remember<br />
someone asking what was<br />
wrong, was I okay?<br />
No, no I wasn’t.<br />
And then I remember arms<br />
around me and a sweet voice<br />
praying for me, over and over<br />
again asking God to help<br />
me. Then the tears started, I<br />
couldn’t stop them. I realized I<br />
wasn’t alone.<br />
My phone started buzzing, my<br />
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friends sitting all around me<br />
who couldn’t reach me, asking<br />
if I was okay, saying they were<br />
there for me.<br />
Don’t be afraid, my friends!<br />
It’s okay to ask for help.<br />
It's scary, and it makes you<br />
vulnerable. But it is okay. We<br />
are not on this journey of life<br />
or Christianity alone. But as<br />
2 Corinthians 12:9 says “But<br />
he said to me, My grace is<br />
sufficient for you, for my power<br />
is made perfect in weakness.”<br />
Therefore I will boast all the<br />
more gladly of my weaknesses,<br />
so that the power of Christ may<br />
rest upon me.”<br />
But I’m<br />
bothering<br />
everyone…<br />
No one wants to be around<br />
someone who just wants to cry.<br />
Your friends are there to<br />
support you. Tell someone you<br />
trust.<br />
Find someone who will let you<br />
talk about what’s going on in<br />
your life—someone who will<br />
pray for you, someone who will<br />
send you text messages, who<br />
will send you a Bible verse they<br />
read and made them think of<br />
you. Find friends that will go<br />
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out for coffee, or ice cream or<br />
pizza; that will do a Bible study<br />
with you to show you God’s<br />
grace and strength and power.<br />
Our weakness isn’t something<br />
we should stay and hide in.<br />
It's hard, trust me I know. Be<br />
a phoenix and rise from the<br />
ashes. Or be a hermit crab that<br />
emerges from his shell.<br />
I stood up and walked for a<br />
bit to get some fresh air. As<br />
I walked, I thanked God for<br />
friends who were there for me<br />
in my weakness. It wasn’t easy<br />
but I found strength.<br />
And you can too.<br />
obo<br />
STRUGGLING<br />
WITH SADNESS?<br />
it's ok.<br />
get our free e-book "Low" by signing up for our mailing list by visiting<br />
www.ohbelovedone.com/magazine.<br />
meet the<br />
author<br />
Julia is a student who loves to travel and loves to use her words to impact others. When she is not working you can<br />
find her sipping coffee, strumming her ukulele Bucky, studying or napping.<br />
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a<br />
journal entry<br />
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Read Romans 8, Lamentations 3, and 2 Corinthians 4. Write out the parts that really speak to<br />
you. (These were some of my favorite verses to read when I was going through my own battle with<br />
depression)<br />
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ppendix<br />
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a list of sassy how-to's for the modern girl by amanda brown<br />
a list of sassy how-to's for the modern girl by amanda brown<br />
a list of sassy how-to's for the modern girl by amanda brown<br />
a list of sassy how-to's for the modern girl by amanda brown<br />
appendix<br />
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unclog a toilet<br />
1. Turn the water off by removing the lid from<br />
the top and closing the open flapper.<br />
2. If you can't find a plunger (or need help<br />
after), add hot water to the toilet bowl; this<br />
may unclog the toilet without you having to<br />
start to plunge. If that doesn't work, try adding<br />
dish detergent.<br />
3. Grab your handy dandy plunger. Run it<br />
under hot water if you need to unstiffen it, then<br />
begin plunging.<br />
4. If the water starts overflowing again, close<br />
the flapper and then try plunging again.<br />
cook like a boss<br />
1. Ask your mom, grandmother, or a friend to<br />
commit to teaching you just one simple recipe<br />
a week. Start with the basics, then go crazy!<br />
2. If you need extra motivation, grab a<br />
cookbook or follow someone you look up to<br />
(like Joanna Gaines) for recipe inspiration.<br />
3. Watch the cooking channel. You might pick<br />
up on interesting tips that'll make you feel like<br />
a pro.<br />
4. Make things you like. Write down your<br />
favorite dishes (maybe even restaurant dishes)<br />
and then find recipes to follow.<br />
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save a life<br />
1. If you are helping anyone with a<br />
cut, always wear gloves to help you<br />
prevent infection in you and the<br />
other person.<br />
2. If you are in an emergency situation,<br />
take charge. Instead of yelling<br />
for someone to call 911 and someone<br />
to bring you bandages, point at someone<br />
specific and tell them to call 911<br />
and point at specific people when you<br />
tell them to do tasks. Otherwise you<br />
will notice the bystander effect where<br />
every single person will assume others<br />
are doing the action. Take charge, be<br />
assertive.<br />
3. If you are waiting for EMS to<br />
arrive on the scene of an injured<br />
person, hold the person's hand and<br />
tell them to squeeze as tightly as they<br />
need to. Talk them through taking<br />
deep breaths and try to keep their<br />
mind of the injury. And while you are<br />
doing this, keep your other hand on<br />
their wrist to monitor their pulse, and<br />
take notice if there are drastic changes<br />
in their heart rate, as that is a vital<br />
piece of information.<br />
Special thanks to Steven Cross for<br />
submitting this information because,<br />
unfortunately, when it comes to saving<br />
people I am not quite in the know.<br />
speak with confidence<br />
1. Maintain eye contact. If the human folk are<br />
psyching you out, look above their heads.<br />
2. Don't start speaking until you get up to the<br />
podium or are facing people.<br />
3. Bring note cards or an outline, but don't<br />
read from a script if possible.<br />
4. I have a love-hate relationship with<br />
powerpoints. For one things, they get peoples'<br />
eyes off you . . . but, then again, how do you<br />
know they aren't just zoning you out?<br />
5. Speak on things you know about. If you<br />
don't know, do your research.<br />
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fix a flat tire<br />
You should have a jack, lug wrench, fully<br />
inflated spare tire, and a vehicle owner’s<br />
manual. Bridgestone suggests you keep<br />
these additional items in your car for a<br />
flat tire situation: flashlight with working<br />
batteries, small cut of 2"x6” wood to<br />
secure the jack, gloves, and wheel wedges<br />
(don't ask me what this is).<br />
1. Find a safe place to set up camp. Make<br />
sure to turn on your hazards and parking<br />
brake because you don't want this thing<br />
to roll away or for people to think you're<br />
sketchy.<br />
2. Put your wheel wedge in front of the<br />
front tires if you're fixing the back tires,<br />
or behind the back tires if you're fixing<br />
the front. You could also use bricks,<br />
stones, or a 24-pack of Pepsi.<br />
3. Remove the hubcap.<br />
4. Loosen the lug nuts with the—gasp—<br />
lug wrench. Helpful. Don't remove them<br />
all the way.<br />
5. Raise your car with the jack about six<br />
inches.<br />
6. Remove the lug nuts.<br />
7. Get that tire off the hub and replace<br />
with the spare tire.<br />
defend yourself<br />
from villains<br />
1. Scream and make as much<br />
noise as possible to disorient<br />
them.<br />
2. Use the butt of your palm<br />
for a hit to their chin or nose,<br />
your fingers to poke their eyes,<br />
or there's always the trusty<br />
knee to the groin.<br />
3. If they grab you, thrash side<br />
to side or drop your weight<br />
(like a mad toddler.)<br />
4. YouTube is your best friend.<br />
There's plenty of videos out<br />
there! I particularly like this<br />
one: https://www.youtube.<br />
com/watch?v=CKaa19kpqzM.<br />
8. Tighten the lug nuts twice: before and<br />
after you lower the car.<br />
9. Replace the hub cab. EASY, RIGHT?<br />
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write like dickens<br />
1. Take out uneccesary adjectives and<br />
annoyingly repetative adverbs.<br />
2. Watch your tricky words like their/there/<br />
they're and its/it's.<br />
3. Stay away from passive voice. You can usually<br />
spot it by finding a past tense helping verb<br />
with a word ending in -ing. Ex: That guy was<br />
helping her.<br />
4. Realize just how important good writing<br />
is. It's often a first impression! (I see you guys<br />
flinging tomatoes at me)<br />
5. Do it often. The best way to get better is to<br />
just do it!<br />
have a budget<br />
if you purchased our bundle this<br />
time 'round, you get access to a<br />
budget planner! The QR code will<br />
be HERE.<br />
1. Figure out your expenses for every six<br />
months. Make sure to add a buffer for those<br />
unexpected costs (use 10% of your actual<br />
expenses).<br />
2. Write down your income. This is the nice<br />
part.<br />
3. Start setting savings goals. What are you<br />
saving up for? New furniture? A trip? Make it<br />
something exciting to encourage yourself.<br />
4. Figure out a way to record your spending,<br />
saving, and income.<br />
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get healthy<br />
1. Write down weekly plans for food and<br />
workouts.<br />
2. Find your resources. We aren't born<br />
knowing how to perfectly implement a<br />
workout routine! There's plenty of free<br />
videos and tutorials online. some of my<br />
favorites are nourish move love, ballet<br />
beautiful, sweat love fitness CHECK ME,<br />
and popsugar fitness.<br />
3. Get familiar with types of workouts<br />
and what best fits your schedule/preference/body<br />
type. There are HIIT (high<br />
intensity interval training), ballet barre,<br />
cardio, and others. You can also target<br />
certain parts of the body (generally).<br />
write a resume<br />
1. Include all your contact information,<br />
previous work experience, relevant skills,<br />
information about your education, and<br />
anything else you think could give you a leg up<br />
on getting this job (like Fruit Loops for bribing<br />
purposes).<br />
2. Make it look good. You don't have to get<br />
fancy. There are plenty of online templates, and<br />
Microsoft Office Word even has decent ones.<br />
Check out Canva.com for really lovely free<br />
templates.<br />
3. For the experience or skills section, start<br />
each one with verbs. For example instead of<br />
"customer service rep," say "assisted customers<br />
in taking returns and listening to feedback."<br />
4. If this is your first job, for the previous<br />
experience section can instead include<br />
information about student organizations you<br />
were involved in, athletics, internships, or<br />
volunteer events. Also, put this section before<br />
the education section so they don't write you<br />
off.<br />
5. For the education section, place your highest<br />
degree first.<br />
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