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10 UPFRONT & PERSONAL 

Started modeling at the age of (8). My 

parents enrolled me into a modelling school 

where I learnt the tricks and trades of this 

competitive industry. 

20 YOUR BEAUTY TUTORIAL 

As always, the beauty world can be a 

complex one, so you are certainly not alone 

if you feel bombarded and overwhelmed 

by the range of choices you have when it 

comes to products. 

34 HOW TO 

If you have ever received an invitation to a 

cocktail party, you may know how tough 

the preparation process can be, especially 

when you're trying to decipher what "cocktail 

attire" actually consists of. By learning 

how to narrow down the list of possibilities, 

you can save all of your energy for socializing 

and snacking. 

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with these easy tips! 

38 7 HEALTHY LIFESTYLE TIPS 

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40 EDU-TUTOR 

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time just get by, while others who don’t 

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UPFRONT & PERSONAL 

Nitisha Shanice 

Arujun (23) 

yrs old and 

currently 

completing 

her degree 

in BSc health 

and social 

science psychology Striving 

for success and love spending 

quality time with her family and 

her son. 

I am a bubbly person and I love 

spending time with my family 

and my son. For me a fun day 

is spending time indoors and 

playing with my son then 

ending of the day 

with a movie 

and popcorn. 

started modeling at the age 

of (8). My parents enrolled me 

into a modelling school where 

I learnt the tricks and trades 

of this competitive industry. 

However as I got older school 

became my number one 

priority and I decided to give 

my modelling a break. When I 

turned 22 I decided to revive my 

modelling career and embrace 

the gift i have in me. then i joined 

the Just You agency in 

Johannesburg 

as a 

commercial 

model. However I 

have started building my 

portfolio as a fashion model with 

many well-known photographers 

and look forward to Pursuing that 

part of the modelling career. The 

highlights of my career thus far has 

been acting in the New Edgar’s 

commercial with rapper Shoma 

jozi and featuring in my favorite TV 

soapie and getting to meet the 

cast of isidingo made me realise 

were my career is destined to. I’ve 

also featured in other TVCs such 

as meat world, Nedbank, Getroud 

met rugby and FNB that enhance 

my modeling skills. 

THE MODELLING 

INDUSTRY is definitely 

not a walk in the park. It is a very 

competitive industry and u have 

to give it your all if you want to 

succeed. There is always going to 

be people who are going to try to 

bring 

you 

down because of 

pure jealousy 

but as you model you need 

to stand your ground and never 

let your guard down. Do what you 

feel is right and you will be happy 

and succeed. 

MODEL I LOOK 

UP TO & LOVE TO 

WORK WITH 

I would love to work with actress 

and model. 

She inspires me as she is a model 

Naomi Campbell, actress and 

businesswomen. All the things I 

am working towards. 

MY MOTIVATION comes from my parents 

and my son. Seeing the smile and knowing 

that I’m making him proud makes me want 

to go out there and make myself successful 

more and more. I want to look back one 

day and say I’ve made it because I wasn’t 

afraid to follow my heart. 


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UPFRONT & PERSONAL

Everything you need to know about the 

5TYPES 

OF 

EYESHADOW 

and how to use them 

by Tamlyn Cumings 

1. POWDER EYESHADOW 

Also known as pressed powder 

since the pigment is pressed and 

compacted into containers, this is 

probably the most common of the 

types of eyeshadow, and the one 

everyone is familiar with. 

Pressed eyeshadow is great for 

beginners and those a bit more 

cautious when it comes to make-up 

as they are super forgiving, easy to 

blend, and come in various palette 

sizes and combinations, giving you 

the perfect shades to use together. 

Opt for a matte or shimmery finish 

(we recommend that more mature 

ladies stay away from ones that are 

super shimmery, as these highlight 

fine lines) and apply with your 

favorite make-up brush or your 

finger. Just remember to be gentle 

and not pull on the skin – and 

blend, blend, blend. 

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YOUR BEAUTY TUTORIAL 

2. LIQUID EYESHADOW 

You’d be forgiven for mistaking 

liquid eyeshadow for lip gloss, as the 

packaging and consistency is pretty 

much identical. While they may 

seem scary, they’re actually great 

for those without a flair for make-up 

as they are so easy to apply; simply 

swish the wand over the lid, and 

voila! 

Just be warned that it does dry 

pretty quickly, so you need to 

move fast. A great use for liquid 

eyeshadow is as the base for 

powder or pigments as they will 

stick to it, giving you a bolder look. 

WATCH: How to clean your make-up 

brushes 

3. CREAM EYESHADOW 

This versatile formula is a pretty 

great one as it offers bold hues that 

are super easy to blend – just get 

your finger out and go wild. 

Cream eyeshadow does tend to 

crease, so you need to be careful 

with where you place it on the lid. 

If you’re worried about this, apply a 

primer first. 

Again, they make a great base for 

your powder shadows, but you may 

want to avoid cream shadows in 

very hot weather, as they can melt 

– and make-up running down your 

face is certainly not a good look! 

As always, the beauty world 

can be a complex one, so 

you are certainly not alone 

if you feel bombarded and 

overwhelmed by the range 

of choices you have when it 

comes to products. 

4. STICK OR CRAYON 

EYESHADOW 

These are ideal for keeping in your 

handbag for touchups throughout 

the day, as you don’t need a brush 

to apply them, and they go on 

super easily. They’re generally super 

pigmented so the colour will really 

pop, and they can even double up 

as an eyeliner if you’re looking for 

just a small pop of colour. Genius! 

Just have a look at the eyeshadows out 

there; not only are you having to select the 

colours and brand you want, but they’ve also 

decided to make eyeshadow in a variety of 

consistencies, just to confuse us! Well, not 

quite – there actually are some valid uses for 

the different types of eyeshadow, and we’re 

here to tell you about them and how to use 

them. You’re welcome! 

Photography by 

Emmy 

5. EYESHADOW 

PIGMENTS 

These are fantastic for their colour 

range and boldness, but can be a 

bit trickier and messier to apply. This 

is similar to powder shadow, but is 

far looser, so you definitely need a 

primer for it to stick. Alternatively, 

wet your brush before applying. 

If you’re wanting to really stand 

out, pigments will give you the best 

colour intensity of the lot, but just 

be careful not to drop pigment all 

over the rest of your face! 



BEAUTY CORNER 

GET AHEAD OF THE PACK 

BY FINDING OUT THE TOP 

BEAUTY TRENDS FOR 2019 

STRANGEST 

BEAUTY 

TRENDS THAT 

CAME OUT OF 

2018 

T 

urn around, 

bright eyes 

After a few years of 

minimal, subtle or bronze and gold 

shades on the 

eyes, it’s time 

to let out your 

inner child 

and embrace 

the more-ismore 

ideal. 

Bright neon 

shades made 

a splash on 

just about all 

the runways 

in the run-up 

to 2019, with 

anything from 

green eyeliner 

and hot-pink 

mascara 

to orange 

and blue 

eyeshadow 

trending. 

2019 is 

definitely 

about having 

fun with your 

make-up 

looks. 

shimmery bronze make-up and 

fake it. 

All that glitters Love it or hate 

it, glitter make-up isn’t going 

anywhere just yet! Glitter 

eyeshadow is still going to be 

trending up a storm and so is 

making a hair statement with glitter 

– for those of us who are brave 

enough. 

The trend has evolved slightly, 

coming out in more jewel tones – 

especially emerald – and is even 

set to make appearances with foil 

the one that best suits your skin 

tone; you don’t want to look ill, but 

rather bright and beautiful. 

Heavenly hair 

Those grey and light pink washes 

are not going anywhere in 2019, 

but both are getting a bit of a 

Smokey make-over, giving the 

colours a slightly more grown-up 

look. 

And if colourful hair is your thing, 

balayage techniques will be seen 

with all sorts of colourful tips, so 

let your imagination run wild. For 

those wanting to 

stay more natural, 

make sure your 

hair looks ultraglossy 

to stay ontrend. 

Nutty nails 

Nail art will still 

be trending up 

a storm, with an 

added twist of 

nail jewellery. 

Yip, if loads of 

accessories is 

part of your look, 

add a little jewel 

or two to dangle 

off of the tip of 

your nail. If this 

sounds a bit OTT 

for you, just stick 

to the fab nail 

art you’ve been 

getting. 

It goes without saying that the new year always brings 

with it a range of new trends – and we all know 

HOW MUCH THE BEAUTY WORLD LOVES A NEW TREND! 

We love the chance to try out some new looks and products, and we love a fresh new rush of inspiration 

to get our creative juices flowing. Just remember: these trends generally come straight off 

the runway, so you’re going to need to tweak and tailor them to suit normal day-to-day life. 

Here are some of our favorite beauty trends for 2019 

Embrace the heat following the 

rising temperatures, beauty trends 

for 2019 are set to make things a bit 

easier for us, with sun-kissed and 

glowing skin and wind-swept, justshowered 

hair being all the rage. 

Known as ‘heatwave beauty’, this 

is all about natural, warm tones 

that make it look like you’ve just 

stepped off the beach… which 

is perfect, since this is true for 

many of us in January! No beach? 

No problem! Simply get out 

that bronzer, sea-salt spray and 

finishes on the likes of lips and 

eyes. 

Mellow yellow 

If you’ve been paying attention, 

you’ll notice that yellow make-up 

has been slowly sneaking into our 

lives. From nails to eyes, and even 

cheeks, yellow will certainly be 

around in a big way in 2019. 

Yellow can be a tricky make-up 

colour to master, so be sure to play 

around with various shades to find 


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KITCHEN CORNER 

Eat SMART PLCAE 

YOUR AD 

HERE 

Eat smaller 

ONLY FOR R85 pm 

portions of high-calorie foods 

INCLUDING PROTEIN-RICH 

FOODS IN YOUR SALAD 

CAN HELP YOU ACHIEVE YOUR 

WEIGHT-LOSS GOALS. 

You can keep yourself trim 

and still enjoy high-calorie 

foods by having smaller 

portions of it. 

It will help you to control how 

much food you are consuming. 

In addition, choose not to go for 

seconds as this may defeat the 

purpose of using smaller plates 

in the first place. 

Consult a professional 

Always consult a dietician if you 

require assistance in putting a 

meal plan together. In addition, 

you should always check with 

your doctor before making 

any drastic changes to your 

diet, especially if you are under 

medication or suffer from any 

medical condition that has an 

effect on your diet. 

WHO enjoy 

says you 

can’t 

have high-calorie foods at all, 

if you are weight watching? It 

may in fact not make much of a 

difference, providing that it does 

not get out of control and you 

don’t do it too often! 

Remember that it is okay to 

treat yourself once in a while 

and if it’s something delicious 

that you simply can’t resist, enjoy 

it. Just have smaller portions. 

Use smaller plates for 

high-calorie foods 

Ensure that you have smaller 

portions when consuming highcalorie 

foods. Making use of 

smaller plates or side plates will 

be very useful in this regard. 

Protein and 

weight loss 

Adding protein to your salad 

can not only make it more appetising 

and flavoursome, but it 

will also help you to build more 

muscle. Building muscle is great 

for weight loss as it can help you 

to burn more calories. 

Which protein-rich 

foods to add to salads? 

Consider adding thinly sliced 

pieces of roast chicken or 

perhaps even little blocks of 

smoked chicken to your salad. 

You can alternatively add some 

boiled eggs, salmon, tuna or 

even shrimp to your salad. You 

will be pleasantly surprised at 

how delicious these ingredients 

can taste in a salad if you have 

never tried them before! 

Vegetarian? 

If you are a vegetarian, don’t 

worry – there are options for you 

too! Simply try adding some 

cooked beans or perhaps even 

some tofu to your salad. You will 

not be able to resist the taste, 

absolutely delicious! 

Added bonus 

Apart from helping you to build 

muscle, protein will also help 

you to stay full for longer. This 

is great for weight loss as it will 

help keep cravings at bay. 


HOW TO 

DRESS FOR 

a Cocktail Party 

Co-authored by wikiHow Staff |23 References 

Parties scheduled during the 

day allow for a more relaxed, casual 

look. If the event is at night, 

you may want a more upscale 

garment and include more ornate 

accessories.[5] 

o For men, a white dress shirt 

under a solid-colored blazer 

gives off a more daytime feel.[6] 

o Wearing too much formal 

black outside during the day 

can often give off a solemn vibe. 

Wear a knee-length 

cocktail dress. Opt for one 

that is flattering to you. Since 

there is an overwhelming number 

of styles, a good rule of 

thumb is to choose simple, elegant 

styles over revealing ones. 

[7] 

Wear a suit. The best 

outfit will showcase 

your personality and 

confidence, and 

sometimes dresses 

don’t do that. Opt for 

a slimmer suit with a 

womenswear jacket, 

which will hit at your 

waist instead of below 

it. For a less fitted 

style, choose a relaxed, 

slouchy style instead of 

boxy.[13] 

o Alternatively, wear tailored 

pants with a detailed top, but 

avoid fabrics like jersey and 

denim, which can be too casual. 

Choose shoes for style and 

comfort. Unless the shoes are 

used to highlight or accent 

something, choose heels or 

boots that don’t distract from 

your outfit.[14] 

o If you don’t wear heels, 

try ballet flats, but don’t wear 

sneakers.[15] 

o If your outfit is black, choose 

colorful shoes for a pop of 

personality. 

Choose a minimal handbag. 

You should only bring the 

essentials to a cocktail party. 

Large purses packed full can 

both feel and look weighty.[16] 

Go easy on yourself and lighten 

your load. 

HOW TO 

Pick one standout 

accessory. 

Avoid over-accessorizing since 

it can be too distracting for 

people you’re talking to. Choose 

something that complements 

your clothing choices and your 

personality.[17] It could start a 

conversation. 

o Cocktail rings have colorful 

precious jewels (either real or 

reproductions) that make a bold 

statement. However, the size of 

the stone can look gaudy when 

combined with a necklace, 

earrings, and a bracelet.[18] 

In this Article:Following the General Cocktail EtiquetteChoosing an 

Outfit (for Women)Choosing an Outfit (for Men)Community Q&A23 

References 

If you have ever received an invitation to a cocktail party, you may 

know how tough the preparation process can be, especially when 

you're trying to decipher what "cocktail attire" actually consists of. 

By learning how to narrow down the list of possibilities, you can 

save all of your energy for socializing and snacking. 

Method 1 

Following the General Cocktail 

Etiquette 

Read the invite. Consider 

the details around the event itself, 

like where it’s located and 

who is hosting it. You can suss 

out proper attire by judging how 

upscale the event is, or by how 

well you know the host.[1] 

Dress for the season. Pastel 

colors and floral prints, which 

fit in with the spring, don’t have 

as much of a place in the fall. 

Likewise, consider the practicality 

of certain items from season 

to season. Open-toes shoes in 

the summer will have an entirely 

different feeling, both in comfort 

and style, in the winter.[3] 

o The little black dress (LBD) 

is usually a safe bet for cocktail 

parties due to its timeless look 

and conservative aesthetic.[8] 

Save the minidress for 

less formal parties. Before 

choosing a minidress, consider 

the event you are attending. 

Have you been acquainted 

with everyone? If not, you might 

opt for something longer.[9] 

o If you do choose a mini, pay 

attention that the hemline is not 

too short by standing straight 

up with your arms at your side. 

If your fingers pass the hemline, 

you should reconsider if it’s appropriate.[10] 

The meaning of "cocktail party" 

can change from city to city, so 

do some research if you’re traveling.[2] 

You may find that your 

prep is easier than you thought. 

Contact the host for details 

or recommendations. 

If you know who the host is, you 

may already know their aesthetic 

and can gear yours to what 

you know they would appreciate. 

If you still aren't sure, reach 

out to the host for clarification. 

o Keep in mind how adding 

layers might change what your 

original outfit says about you. If 

you add layers, add it for style 

and functionality. 

o If you’re traveling for an 

event during the wet season, 

bring along extra shoes. 

o For example, opt for booties 

over open-toe stilettos in the 

winter.[4] 

Dress for the time of day. 

Choose a midi dress as 

a longer option. Be careful 

with this dress because its hem, 

which sits between the ankle 

and knee, can appear unflattering 

on some people. To break 

the long lines up, add dressier 

accessories, like a large necklace. 

[11] 

o Dresses that drop below 

the ankles become gowns and 

should be saved for very formal 

events, like white tie parties.[12] 



UPFRONT & PERSONAL

7 HEALTHY 

Lifestyle Tips 

EVERYDAY! 

Children who eat a 

breakfast that contain 

foods from at least 3 

food groups: 

Have more energy 

Think better 

Get more nutrients 

Burn more calories 

7 Healthy 

Lifestyle 

Tips 

Keep you and your 

family’s health on track 

with these easy tips! 

servings a day. 

A serving of fruit is: 

Cup canned or cut up 

fruit Piece of whole 

fruit (about the size of 

a tennis ball) up dried 

fruit 

A serving of vegetables 

is: up of raw vegetables 

Cup cooked vegetables 

Make sure to eat lots of 

different colors of 

fruit and vegetables 

each day to be strong 

and healthy! 

6. Decrease screen 

LIFESTYLE 

active. So turn off 

the TV or computer and 

get out and play! 

7. Get plenty of sleep 

Sleep is your body’s time 

to rest and recover. 

Your mind needs that 

rest time to help you 

solve problems. Children 

who do not get 

at least 9 hours of sleep 

each night usually 

have the following 

problems: Irritability 

Problems focusing in 

school Higher chance of 

accidents & injury 

Keep 

you and your 

family’s health 

on track with 

these easy tips! 

Limit sugary drinks 

Drink More: Water 

% or Fat Free (Skim) Milk 

Drink Less: 

Soda or Pop 

Sports drinks (like 

GatoradeTM) 

Juice drinks & Kool-Aid 

TM 

Soda, sports drinks, and 

even juice have 

a lot of extra sugar. This 

is extra sugar 

that your body does not 

need! 

Eat more meals at home 

as a family. 

When families 

eat together 

Meals are more 

nutritious 

You eat more fruits and 

vegetables the portion 

sizes are smaller It costs 

less money more time 

to spend with each 

other & talk. 

Be more active 

The best types of 

activities are the ones 

you will 

actually do. Remember 

to get at least 60 

minutes 

of physical activity each 

day. Here are some of 

the 

benefits from regular 

activity: 

Better sleep at night 

Strong bones/muscles 

More energy Decrease 

in weight 

Healthier heart & lungs 

Better mood 

EAT A HEALTHY 

BREAKFAST 

5. Eat more fruits & 

vegetables 

Fruits and vegetables 

are high in vitamins, 

minerals, and fiber. They 

are also very low in 

fat, making them 

important to every diet 

no 

matter the age. 

Try and eat at least 5 

time to less than 2 

hours a day. 

What counts as screen 

time? 

Watching TV 

aying video games 

pending time on the 

computer 

Time spent in front of a 

screen is time not 

spent being physically 


EDU-TUTOR 

HOW TO 

STUDY 

SMART 

YOUR LEARNING 

PREFERENCE 

Knowing how you learn 

best is the first step in 

developing effective study 

habits. 

Every student approaches 

the task of learning 

differently. Every student 

has a 

unique and personal 

learning style or a 

preferred channel 

through which learning 

comes more easily. 

studying 

-use color in your 

notes (colored pens, 

highlighters, etc.) 

-visualize what the 

instructor is lecturing 

about 

-draw pictures and 

diagrams 

- use mind maps in your 

notes 

-use picture and graphics 

to reinforce learning 

- learn from videos 

TO IMPROVE AS AN 

AUDITORY LEARNER 

Did you ever stop 

to wonder what 

sets apart the really 

successful students 

from the average ones? 

Why do some students who 

appear to study all the time 

just get by, while others who 

don’t appear to put in as much 

time and effort do well? 

Is it all related to IQ and 

genetics or are some other 

factors involved? The truth 

is that success in school is 

not so much determined 

by 

sheer intelligence as 

knowing how to study. 

Studying is a skill. Being 

successful in school 

requires a high level of 

study 

skills. Students must first 

learn these skills, practice 

them and develop 

effective study habits in 

order to be successful. Very 

often the study habits 

and practices developed 

and used in high school do 

not work for students in 

college. 

Good study habits 

include many different 

skills: time management, 

selfdiscipline, 

concentration, 

memorization, 

organization, and effort. 

Desire 

to succeed is important, 

too. 

In this module you will 

discover your areas of 

strength and identify your 

weaknesses pertaining to 

studying. 

You will learn about your 

preferred 

learning channel, tips to 

organize your studies, and 

ways to help you 

remember what you study. 

The skills you will learn 

about in this module can 

be applied in other areas 

of your life as well: your job, 

your career, or any 

activity that requires 

thought, planning, 

information processing, 

and selfdiscipline. 

You’ll find that once you 

develop effective study 

habits, the job of studying 

and learning will become 

easier. Instead of working 

harder, you’ll be 

working smarter. 

Exercise: Discover your 

approach to studying. 

Circle the responses that 

apply to 

you. 

1. My study habits are... 

good fair poor 

2. For every hour in class, 

I study… a little 1 hr. 2 hrs. 

more than 2 hrs. 

3. I have an organized plan 

and schedule for study... 

true false 

4. I have a quiet place in 

which I study... true false 

5. I usually approach 

studying with a positive 

attitude. true false 

In what ways could you 

improve your study habits? 

_________________________ 

_________________________ 

_________________________ 

_________________ 

ASK YOURSELF 

THE FOLLOWING: 

Am I more inclined to 

remember something better 

when I see it, when I hear it, 

or when I experience it or do 

something active with it? 

Depending on how you 

learned the activity or game, 

you will have a fair idea of 

what learning channel – 

visual (by sight), auditory (by 

hearing), or hands on (by 

doing)—you prefer to use. 

We all use all three learning 

channels. In fact, we use all 

our senses in learning about 

the world around us, but 

each of us has a tendency to 

lean more heavily on one of 

the three learning channels 

– visual, auditory, or hands 

on. You can improve your 

study habits by developing 

all three learning channels. 

TO IMPROVE AS A VISUAL 

LEARNER 

-visualize what you are 

-listen to tapes of 

recorded assignments 

- tape record your own 

textbook reading 

- read out loud 

-talk over ideas from 

class and what you are 

studying with other 

students 

- participate in class 

discussions 

- listen to audiotapes on 

the subject 

TO IMPROVE AS A HANDS ON 

LEARNER 

-stand up and move around 

while you are studying 

- take frequent breaks while 

studying 

- make use of your hands 

and write things down as you 

study 

- use the computer to 

reinforce learning 

- be physically active; 

experiment with objects 

- memorize or drill while 

walking or exercising 


RELATIONSHIPS 

When we talk about affairs, we often categorize them as 

emotional, physical, or both. That’s helpful to some extent. Yet 

nowadays, there’s another category that we can loosely call the 

TEXTING AFFAIR. 

Unfortunately, there is no 

formula to determine when 

texting crosses the line into 

betrayal. In fact, those who are 

behaving in inappropriate ways 

quickly learn how to blur this 

line so that they can deflect and 

continue to do what they’re 

doing.In the end, you must 

learn to trust your gut. 

After all, no one knows your 

marriage or your spouse better 

communications strictly workrelated, 

being transparent 

in terms of cell phones and 

computers (those who have 

nothing to hide, hide nothing), 

and working together to 

improve your own marriage are 

all reasonable requests. 

To prevent and overcome 

infidelity, couples must learn to 

build a loving, respectful and 

protective “fortress” around 

that they have formed a deep 

bond. Too often what begins 

as a cautious “hi...was thinking 

of u” turns into “i miss u” 

and then “can you meet again 

tomorrow?” And when it gets to 

that point, well, the whole thing 

becomes a lot harder to “delete.” 

Visit Debra Macleod’s private 

practice at MarriageSOS.com 

there is a reasonable expectation 

of privacy in marriage. Of 

An like this: Your 

oversimplified 

scenario goes 

spouse strikes up an oppositesex 

friendship with a person 

at work, spin or yoga class, the 

gym, or through your child’s 

school or extra-curricular 

activities. For some reason, 

they feel compelled to exchange 

phone numbers. There’s no real 

need for this, although your 

spouse tells you that they need 

to stay in touch because of work 

or to coordinate fitness class, 

the kid’s activities, etc. 

Soon, their innocent texting 

about work or scheduling 

begins to escalate into personal, 

ever more intimate texting. 

Your spouse starts guarding 

their cellphone and going into 

the next room to text. They 

lock their phone, change their 

password and delete their text 

history. 

For a while, you bite your 

tongue. After all, nobody 

wants to be “that wife” or “that 

husband.” You look the other 

way and pretend not to notice 

or be bothered. You force 

yourself to not ask who your 

spouse is texting and not show 

how worried or hurt you are. 

You lay awake and stare at your 

partner’s phone, wishing you 

could look through it but not 

wanting to cross that line. 

Finally, you crack. 

Choosing your words 

carefully, you ask your 

partner who he or she 

is texting. If you already know 

who it is, you might tell your 

partner that you are concerned 

or feeling second-place. Or 

perhaps you wait until your 

partner is in the shower and 

give in to the urge to scroll 

through his or her phone. Either 

way, you hear or see something 

that makes your stomach sink. 

More from Debra Macleod: 

• Is A ‘Partner Predator’ 

Circling Your Husband Or 

Wife? 

• 10 Proactive Ways To Fix 

The Cracks Forming In Your 

Marriage 

• Your Marriage Will Fail For 

The Same Reasons Celebrity 

Couples Split Up 

Here’s where anything can 

happen. Your spouse may 

downplay the relationship and 

shrug off your concerns, saying 

“We’re just friends. You have to 

trust me.” Or your spouse may 

react with an angry, inflated 

display of wounded indignation 

by saying, “Oh, so I’m not 

allowed to have ANY friends?” 

He or she may turn the situation 

around so that it’s you who 

finds yourself explaining your 

behavior. He or she may make 

you feel paranoid, jealous, 

controlling, or pathetic. “You 

went through my phone! You’re 

crazy. That’s private!” 

Of course there are spouses who 

are unreasonably jealous and 

suspicious, and who behave in 

controlling ways. Of course 

than you do. Texting affairs are 

the gateway to emotional and 

physical affairs. Of the infidelity 

cases I’ve dealt with in the past 

several years, the vast majority 

started out as “innocent” texting 

between opposite-sex friends 

or acquaintances. You are 

not over-reacting by insisting 

that a spouse end a texting 

relationship that you feel in 

your heart is undermining your 

marriage, and you are not overreacting 

by treating it as a form 

of infidelity. 

Blocking the other 

person’s number, keeping 

their marriage, which includes 

insulating it from the invasive 

effects of technology. That’s 

something I talk a lot about in 

my Couples in Crisis book. 

Continued inaction or letting 

the texting continue -- perhaps 

out of fear of your partner’s 

reaction -- only increases the 

chances that your partner will 

begin to see you as a nagging 

barrier to the exciting and 

fresh-faced relationship that he 

or she enjoys via text messages. 

Texting creates a false sense 

of intimacy between texters. 

Within weeks, they may feel 

course some co-workers and 

friends need to communicate 

after-hours. Of course there 

are unhappy marriages that 

have deep problems. But that’s 

not always the case. Suspicions 

are often warranted. Anger, 

defensiveness and indignation 

may be covers for betrayal. 

Explanations may be just 

excuses. And all too often, a 

texting affair steals so much 

time, energy and emotion from 

a marriage that a rift forms -- or 

widens -- between spouses that 

otherwise would have worked 

through their marriage troubles. 


HASHTAG CELEB 

“I’M HAPPY FOR HER!” 

– Future backtracks on negative 

comments about ex Ciara 

Future has “no problems” with Ciara 

and her husband Russell Wilson 

The 35-year-old rapper – who has 

a four-year-old son, also called Future, 

with his former partner – has 

claimed he’s “happy” for the lovedup 

duo, despite recently accusing 

the NFL player of failing to act “like 

a man” in their relationship, but 

admitted he had a problem relating 

to his child. 

He said: “We don’t have no problems. 

It’s a social media problem. 

No, I don’t hate him. Totally not 

the deal. It was just the way we 

were carrying it, as far as being 

handled with baby Future.” 

Future added that, despite of his 

recent remarks, he doesn’t have 

any negative feelings towards Russell, 

who married Ciara in 2016 and 

has a 20-month-old daughter Sienna 

with her 

He told the Durtty Boyz Show: “I 

don’t have nothing against him, 

and I’m happy for them.” 

By contrast, Future previously 

slammed Russell for allowing himself 

to be dictated to by his wife. 

The rapper also argued that the 

NFL star ought to ban Ciara from 

mentioning her ex-fiancé on her 

social media accounts. 

He said: “He do exactly what she 

tell him to do. He’s not being a 

man in that position. He not tellin’ 

her, ‘Chill out with that on the internet. 

Don’t even talk to him, I’m 

your husband! You better not even 

bring Future’s name up!'” 

The Fine China hitmaker – who 

was engaged to Ciara at one point 

during their relationship – went 

on to say that if the situation were 

reversed and he were married to 

the singer, he would stop her from 

“bringing her exes’ names up”. 

He explained: “If that was me, she 

couldn’t even bring his name up. 

She know that. She couldn’t even 

bring her exes’ names up. Don’t 

give that s**t no energy.” 

Author: BANG Showbiz 


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