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If you feel up to it, feel free<br />
to turn this into a laughing<br />
matter for you two.<br />
Over-Exaggerate their facial<br />
and bodily manners. If they<br />
are whining, you go ahead<br />
and whine but whine louder<br />
and sound really silly.<br />
A great piece of parenting<br />
secret is to follow the<br />
laughter. The more smiles<br />
and laughter that are known<br />
to a child, the better it will be<br />
for them and the<br />
relationship between you<br />
two!<br />
St ep 4: NOW go ahead and<br />
redirect t heir energy<br />
:)<br />
?I see you?re so upset right<br />
now. I am going to help you<br />
calm down. Would you draw<br />
for me a picture that shows<br />
how mad you are.<br />
-or-<br />
?I see you?re so upset right<br />
now.<br />
Together we are going to do<br />
some angry push-ups and<br />
get ourselves so strong and<br />
tough!?<br />
(this one works great for us<br />
boys, obviously) ;)<br />
(WARNING: t he previous<br />
st eps m ight fizzle out t he<br />
t ant rum so t here m ight not<br />
be any need for st ep 5)<br />
St ep 5: Reassure your child.<br />
Let t hem know your Love is<br />
NEVER on t he line.<br />
?You get as angry as you want,<br />
sweetie, nothing you do will<br />
ever make me love you less.<br />
You have all of my love forever.<br />
You know that right? (wait for<br />
the nod) Good. Let?s take a<br />
break and since you?re such a<br />
good problem solver,<br />
you tell me what you could have<br />
done instead.?<br />
No matter what happened in<br />
Step 4, whether you are still<br />
riding out the emotion together<br />
or not, always reminding your<br />
child on where he stands with<br />
acceptance of your Love is<br />
ALWAYS a good idea.<br />
Remember, it?s just emotions<br />
and she just doesn?t understand<br />
them yet. She needs help<br />
getting guidance and she is<br />
calling to YOU for that help.<br />
Just as you were there for your<br />
best friend when she got her<br />
heart broke. It?s the same level<br />
of pain, fear, frustration, and<br />
not-knowing going on with your<br />
24<br />
Little one.<br />
You?ll do the right thing, I know how<br />
wonderful and great you are! :)<br />
Now , before you leave m e?<br />
? rem em ber, one of the biggest<br />
takeaways you can have from<br />
today?s learning experience about<br />
tantrums, Mom, is that they are a<br />
result of an EMOTION.<br />
The behavioral, physical<br />
manifestation of something they<br />
are experiencing on the inside.<br />
It?s important that you pass onto<br />
them that they aren?t wrong for<br />
feeling the emotion. If they start<br />
feeling that?s wrong to be angry and<br />
they start bottling up that emotion<br />
because it has led to behavior that<br />
led to pain given to them by you?<br />
? bottling up emotions and not<br />
letting those emotions get felt --<br />
has negative consequences all<br />
throughout the rest of their life.<br />
So it?s great of you to establish that<br />
healthy habit of accepting the<br />
emotions as they come.<br />
Loving the emotion of laughter,<br />
because it?s a behavioral<br />
manifestation of joy and happiness,<br />
just as much as meltdowns as a