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does depend on your<br />
history of them.<br />
When they are<br />
happening she doesn?t<br />
have the ability to<br />
?think? her way out of<br />
them.<br />
Let me give you an<br />
example?<br />
I was at a McDonalds<br />
Playplace the other day<br />
(don?t worry, I didn?t eat<br />
any of their food! I just<br />
camp out there<br />
sometimes to do some<br />
writing and laptop<br />
work)<br />
There I witnessed a<br />
tantrum go down when<br />
it was time to go and<br />
the child was<br />
understandably not<br />
wanting to. He wanted<br />
to keep playing and<br />
having fun.<br />
When he had himself a<br />
good fit over it, his<br />
Mom grabs him up and<br />
sits him down and<br />
starts asking all sorts of<br />
QUESTIONS:<br />
QUESTIONS she was<br />
expecting answers to.<br />
Do you remember we<br />
talked about this before<br />
we came here?<br />
· Aren?t you excited to<br />
go to Bible school? (I<br />
take it that?s where they<br />
were headed next)<br />
· You?re making Mom<br />
mad, you don?t want to<br />
make Mom mad, do all other functions. It?s a<br />
you?<br />
runaway freight train<br />
that can?t be derailed.<br />
I?ve seen Parents<br />
We can only wait until<br />
handle tantrums<br />
it?s done.<br />
HORRIBLY and this was<br />
nothing close to the When a child gets like<br />
worst I?ve seen.<br />
that, the only way<br />
What I wish she would through is to ride it out<br />
have known, and what I<br />
and help your child ride<br />
am passing onto you<br />
now about tantrums, is in out NOT alone.<br />
that they are out of the<br />
child?s control.<br />
Before we get to the 5,<br />
the ONE RULE THAT<br />
We have 3 brains..<br />
RULES THEM all,<br />
The first one is our though, Mom, is you.<br />
reptilian ?croc? brain..<br />
You control your<br />
We won?t get too much<br />
emotions. You take care<br />
into it now.<br />
of you first.<br />
One is responsible for<br />
Put plans in place for<br />
feelings emotions.<br />
you to cool down. Not<br />
The other is all about take things personally.<br />
logical, analyze and To not say or do<br />
thinking.<br />
something out of anger<br />
that you?ll regret.<br />
When the emotional<br />
side is lit up, it shuts off<br />
22<br />
You feel the hurt within<br />
you boiling up.<br />
You?re stressed. You?re<br />
overworked. You?re<br />
tired. Identify the weak<br />
points in your day.<br />
Worse comes to worse,<br />
and you feel the anger<br />
and your defense<br />
mechanisms start to<br />
overwhelm you?<br />
? you simply say: ?I<br />
don?t know how to<br />
RESPOND to this right<br />
now. So Mommy is<br />
going to leave the<br />
situation and collect<br />
her thoughts.?<br />
You?re capable of<br />
thinking. You?re capable<br />
of separating emotion<br />
from the behavior that<br />
typically arises from<br />
that emotion.
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