Beauty Edition (November/December 2018) EXTRA ARTICLE EDITION
A list of beautiful things. The impact your words can have on people. Hair hacks. The pressure to choose your aesthetic. How to have your own spa day.
A list of beautiful things. The impact your words can have on people. Hair hacks. The pressure to choose your aesthetic. How to have your own spa day.
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november/december <strong>2018</strong>
NOVEMBER - DECEMBER <strong>2018</strong><br />
CONTRIBUTORS<br />
- writers -<br />
REBECCA CARAWAY / ROSE DICKENSEN /<br />
AMANDA BROWN / OLIVIA NICKERSON /<br />
JULIA FINDLEY / SARAH CNOSSEN / LISA ELIS<br />
- photography -<br />
LEAH BUFFALINO / RACHEL BROWN /<br />
AMANDA BROWN<br />
- design -<br />
AMANDA BROWN<br />
Volume No. 7, Issue No. 6<br />
WWW.OHBELOVEDONE.COM
TABLE OF CONTENTS<br />
THEME: PURPOSE<br />
living yellow 04<br />
a collection of 05<br />
beautiful things<br />
JOURNAL ENTRY 07<br />
4 reasons i don’t 09<br />
wear makeup<br />
words like rubies 19<br />
cleopatra + confidence 28<br />
whitewashed tombs,<br />
beautiful heart<br />
30<br />
choosing your style 34<br />
JOURNAL ENTRY 36<br />
credits 37<br />
impact<br />
11<br />
JOURNAL ENTRY 13<br />
hair help 16<br />
spa day<br />
14<br />
cover: Leah Buffalino<br />
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EDITOR’S NOTE<br />
Amanda Brown<br />
EDITOR - IN - CHIEF<br />
<strong>Beauty</strong> is something that has really been on my mind as of late.<br />
So here’s the story: coming into this semester, I felt really out of<br />
my league and unconfident. To help myself “fake it ‘til I make it,”<br />
I (almost without thinking) tried to always look really put together.<br />
Somehow, this managed to up my confidence.<br />
After people kept commenting on how I looked, I really started<br />
thinking about this. I searched my heart: was I doing this because<br />
of vanity? People suggested I start an Instagram fashion account,<br />
but I always shied away from the idea because, seriously:<br />
who wants to follow an account of me posting pictures of myself?<br />
Finally, though, I figured it out. Looking your best can, of course,<br />
turn into vanity. However, if you’re dressing your best because<br />
you’re trying to take daily steps to choose joy and confidence; if<br />
you’re dressing your best because you want to look professional<br />
and show teachers you’re serious about your education; if you<br />
want to wear yellow because people tell you it makes them happy<br />
. . . do it!<br />
So, I went ahead and started that Instagram account. With each<br />
picture, I try to include a practical, inspirational note to encourage<br />
you to live a yellow life. What is a yellow life? Glad you asked.<br />
Check page four to find out. And, follow me @TheGirlWhoWoreYellow<br />
to discover how to daily choose a lifestyle full of joy,<br />
confidence . . . a little bit of yellow.<br />
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“shoulder grace<br />
train wild beauty<br />
rear majestic transition<br />
and break off from cold love.”<br />
— julia ryan<br />
from pngtree.com<br />
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/ living yellow /<br />
i will say no to negative or untrue thoughts<br />
i will allow myself to be sad<br />
(but i promise to find a reason to smile)<br />
i will always get back up after falling<br />
i will look past the bad and envision better<br />
i will do everything i can to achieve crazy dreams<br />
i will daily encourage others<br />
i will think of others before myself<br />
i will be okay with indulging, but with self control<br />
i will live in light of eternity<br />
i will learn as much as i can in the time given to me<br />
i will give even when i know i won’t receive<br />
i will love even the darkest of people<br />
i will remember that i am beloved<br />
i will take risks, even if i’m scared<br />
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a collection<br />
of beautiful things<br />
windex droplets sparkling in the sun<br />
the liberating feeling of finishing a project<br />
inside jokes<br />
furious pastel skies<br />
car rides filled with sing-a-longs<br />
trips to new places<br />
the wind whipping through your hair<br />
little kids waving at you<br />
freshly baked pastries<br />
getting that I’M AN ADULT feeling<br />
seeing in full color<br />
verses that speak to the soul<br />
friends that text just in time<br />
giving the perfect gift<br />
making someone smile<br />
reminiscing the hellos that started it all<br />
being at peace with the goodbyes that ended it<br />
discovering a new favorite blog<br />
kindred spirits<br />
books that make you cry<br />
movies that change your perspective<br />
but, most of all . . . (flip the page, beloved)<br />
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JANUARY/FEBRUARY 2019 OHBELOVEDONE.COM <strong>ARTICLE</strong> TITLE HERE<br />
journal entry<br />
What everyday things do you think are beautiful? Make them really specific and unique. Just<br />
start writing without thinking and see what happens.<br />
insert photo of<br />
everyday beautiful<br />
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4<br />
reasons i<br />
DON’T<br />
WEAR MAKEUP<br />
by lisa ellis<br />
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NOV/DEC <strong>2018</strong> OHBELOVEDONE.COM REASONS I DON’T WEAR MAKEUP<br />
If you’d told my younger self that I’d be writing an article<br />
on makeup today, I would have laughed.<br />
Makeup image created by Freepik<br />
I assumed that because I have<br />
been completely inexperienced<br />
on the subject of makeup for<br />
all of my existence, there would<br />
never be a need for me to write<br />
about it. But as I’ve learned,<br />
just<br />
because you take a different<br />
view point to things doesn’t<br />
mean that you don’t have an<br />
opinion worth sharing.<br />
Perhaps it’s odd that a seventeen-year-old<br />
girl like me has<br />
never tried on makeup in her<br />
life, but it’s true and I don’t<br />
regret it in the least. It isn’t that<br />
I have anything against it—on<br />
the contrary, I think it’s cool<br />
how others wear and use it.<br />
Maybe someday I shall too. But<br />
for now,<br />
this is why I haven’t and why I<br />
don’t.<br />
1<br />
I’ve been influenced<br />
by family.<br />
As with pretty much everything,<br />
we are highly influenced<br />
by the people around<br />
us— and in my case, that<br />
would be my family. Since<br />
I’ve been homeschooled<br />
most of my life and never<br />
had a lot of friends, it’s<br />
been my parents who’ve<br />
been my role models and<br />
my younger sisters, my<br />
peer pressure.<br />
While other girls may<br />
learn to wear make up<br />
from their mothers,<br />
sisters, or friends (and<br />
even if they “learned” it<br />
themselves, chances are<br />
they picked it up because<br />
they saw other people<br />
close to them doing so),<br />
I’ve learned not to wear it<br />
from similar influences.<br />
It isn’t that I, or those<br />
near me, really dislike<br />
makeup—it’s just that for<br />
certain reasons, they don’t<br />
wear it, and therefore, I<br />
never learned to either.<br />
2<br />
Maybe that’s unusual, but<br />
I’ve always been quite satisfied<br />
with how I look. I’ve<br />
been happy with my face,<br />
my skin, my eyebrows, my<br />
lashes, everything. That’s<br />
why I’ve never needed to<br />
wear makeup on a daily<br />
basis. And as for special<br />
occasions – so far I haven’t<br />
yet been to an event<br />
where<br />
I needed it. Call it a reclusive<br />
homeschooler’s life,<br />
but that’s how it’s been.<br />
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3<br />
It takes time that I<br />
don’t have right now.<br />
This may sound like a<br />
lame excuse, but hear me<br />
out. Learning anything<br />
from scratch does take<br />
time, whatever it is. If I,<br />
being so ignorant and<br />
inexperienced in this area,<br />
wanted to start wearing<br />
makeup, I’d have to<br />
learn quite a few things<br />
- including what various<br />
cosmetic products are<br />
used for, what to buy,<br />
where to get it, and how<br />
to use it.<br />
While learning something<br />
like this may really,<br />
really be worth it to some<br />
people, I doubt it would<br />
be so for me—I don’t have<br />
much interest right now,<br />
and I don’t have much of a<br />
need. I feel like<br />
my time can be used for<br />
more important things.<br />
4<br />
The environmental<br />
consequences<br />
This is one reason my<br />
mom never encouraged<br />
me to use makeup. I<br />
learned this from her, that<br />
cosmetic products create a<br />
lot of plastic waste.<br />
Since my family tries to<br />
be aware of these kinds of<br />
things and we try to do<br />
our part, it’s kind of a big<br />
deal. It’s important to me<br />
to do my best to reduce<br />
the amount of garbage I<br />
throw out, and in my case,<br />
makeup is something<br />
I’m more than willing to<br />
sacrifice for that cause. It’s<br />
not the same for everyone<br />
and that’s okay, but in this<br />
was I can reducing my<br />
ecological footprint by a<br />
little bit.<br />
THESE ARE THE<br />
MAIN REASONS<br />
I don’t wear makeup<br />
right now. Maybe that’ll<br />
change someday—I<br />
don’t know. And whether<br />
you use makeup or<br />
not, that’s one of those<br />
things that makes you<br />
you. So whichever it is,<br />
have fun with it. And<br />
remember that it’s the<br />
inside that really counts<br />
Makeup image created by Freepik<br />
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IMPACT<br />
by sarah cnossen<br />
Modesty can be a rather<br />
touchy subject among<br />
young ladies these days.<br />
The world teaches you to<br />
accept yourself for who<br />
you are and what you look<br />
like, and to then dress to<br />
impress—to feel good. But<br />
what does Scripture teach?<br />
And why should we have<br />
standards in regards to<br />
the biblical<br />
standard<br />
modesty? There are two<br />
valuable reasons as to why.<br />
As a follower of Christ, we<br />
are held to a Biblical standard<br />
in that our appearance<br />
should not draw attention to<br />
ourselves, but should reflect<br />
the Light of our Lord and<br />
Savior. Imagine this: you are<br />
an emissary of a great and<br />
beloved king. If you are sent<br />
by him to a distant kingdom<br />
to represent your king<br />
and country, would you be<br />
dressed in rags and dirt? Or<br />
in skimpy, revealing clothes<br />
and cake-y make-up?<br />
No!<br />
You would dress in respectable<br />
clothing befitting a<br />
faithful servant of the great<br />
king you serve. 1 Timothy<br />
2:9-10 addresses not only a<br />
woman’s outward appearance,<br />
but also that of her<br />
character.<br />
However, in this particular<br />
passage, Paul is NOT banning<br />
the use of make-up,<br />
jewelry, clothing, or hairstyle.<br />
He is merely pointing<br />
out that these things are not<br />
meant to be the obsession<br />
of your time and heart. A<br />
woman’s appearance is only<br />
a piece of who she is—not<br />
the whole puzzle! With<br />
that said, how does your<br />
reflection speak as to Who<br />
you serve? The Proverbs say<br />
it plainly, “As in water face<br />
reflects face, so the heart of<br />
man reflects man.” (27:19)<br />
Who you are on the inside<br />
will reflect who you are on<br />
“Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves<br />
with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly,<br />
not with braided hair and gold or pearls or<br />
costly garments, but rather by means of good<br />
works, as is proper for women making a claim<br />
to godliness.”<br />
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the outside, no matter how<br />
you try to suppress it. So,<br />
the physical<br />
standard<br />
take a page from the Biblical<br />
standard and be the same<br />
modest, kind, gentle spirit<br />
on the outside as well as on<br />
the inside.<br />
This particular standard affects<br />
your appearance AND<br />
your purity. You may not<br />
realize it, but as women—no<br />
matter the age—we hold a<br />
great deal of power over our<br />
male counterparts. How<br />
modestly we dress CAN impact<br />
a gentleman’s thoughts<br />
and character.<br />
That said, we have no control<br />
over how they think,<br />
nor what they do with their<br />
thoughts, but we can assist<br />
in doing our best to shine<br />
a pure Light that displays<br />
both an outward and an<br />
inward beauty.<br />
live in.<br />
Men and women<br />
were created differently<br />
for a purpose!<br />
Still, it doesn’t mean<br />
girls should be<br />
constantly covered head to<br />
toe, giving off what I call the<br />
“frumpy” look.<br />
Instead, they should be conscious<br />
(but not overly so) of<br />
the clothing they wear, so<br />
that the tops are not too low<br />
nor the bottoms too short,<br />
and that nothing is overall<br />
too tight—accentuating<br />
the lovely curves we were<br />
created with. It IS totally<br />
possible and incredibly true<br />
that a girl can dress modestly<br />
AND beautifully.<br />
Clothing plays a HUGE<br />
part in the topic of modesty.<br />
How we dress is just as<br />
important as how we act.<br />
Femininity is becoming a<br />
lost trait in this world we<br />
A resource I have relied on from my early teen<br />
years to a decade later is Dana Gresh’s Secret<br />
Keeper. The tips and tricks stored in that little<br />
book are lifesavers when it comes to dress!<br />
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journal entry<br />
Challenge yourself to explain why you dress the way you do. See if you can back it up with Bible.<br />
Then write a modesty manifesto below.<br />
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NOV/DEC <strong>2018</strong> OHBELOVEDONE.COM SPA DAY<br />
spa dayby rebecca<br />
caraway<br />
Want to have a fun relaxing spa day with your friends without leaving the house? Don’t worry!<br />
There are tons of fun and easy ways you can do this!<br />
set-up<br />
If you’re hosting this spa day in your room, make sure everything is clean and tidy. Light a candle<br />
and start playing soft music. Set up some pillows and blankets on the floor for you and your<br />
friends to sit and hang out. If you want to have some snacks, get some that don’t make a lot of<br />
mess. Things such as strawberries, grapes, cheese and crackers, and of course don’t forget the<br />
chocolate!<br />
face masks<br />
In preparation for this article I tried some homemade face masks and I found<br />
one that I really like! This is one of the simplest recipes and most effective:<br />
Pour three tablespoons of dried oats in a blender. Add one<br />
tablespoon of whole milk and mix until you have a paste.<br />
Mix in one tablespoon of organic honey. Let the mix dry on<br />
your face for fifteen minutes and then rinse off with warm<br />
water.<br />
clipart created by Freepik<br />
This mask makes your face feel really clean, refreshed, and smooth once you<br />
wash it off. Its tons of fun to make, super simple, and makes for some funny photos!<br />
paint your nails<br />
Painting your nails is a great activity for a spa day. Depending on what your friends like, you can<br />
get some pretty and sparkly colors, and paint each other’s nails. You can even play some jazzy<br />
music to create a relaxing background, as if you were in a real spa.<br />
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mess with makeup<br />
If you’re allowed to wear makeup practice with eye shadow, lip<br />
gloss, and blush! Remember makeup is just for fun; you don’t need<br />
it to be pretty because God had already made you perfect and beautiful<br />
in his image!<br />
relax!<br />
After a full day of makeovers just hang out and relax! You can do this by playing<br />
a game, watching a movie, or if you’re like me and my friends take a nap! Forget<br />
about everything else for awhile and enjoy some quality time with your friends.<br />
I hope these tips help you and your friends to have a fun and relaxing spa day.<br />
PSST!! If you do try this spa day or the face masks, make sure to post a picture on Insta and tag @OhBelovedOne!<br />
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NOV/DEC <strong>2018</strong> OHBELOVEDONE.COM HAIR HELP<br />
HAIR<br />
by amanda brown<br />
Hair upkeep is NOT easy. You have to wash it every other day, not to mention<br />
tackle dandruff, dryness, frizz, oily-ness, and deadends. And then,<br />
after that, you’re supposed to be able to braid it, curl it, or straighten it?!<br />
Forget it. I’m just cutting it all off.<br />
Before you grab the nearest pair of scissors, here’s a few of my favorite<br />
hairstyle resources. You can get really fancy with hair (hello intricate sixstrand<br />
braid), but honestly there are a lot of beautiful hairstyles out there<br />
that take less than 15 minutes.<br />
Luxy Hair<br />
A FRIENDLY SYNOPSIS: Video<br />
tutorials are my favorite because<br />
I’m a very visual person. Plus,<br />
Mimi (the girl who does most of<br />
the tutorials) is really cute and<br />
nice.<br />
FAVORITE HAIRSTYLES: Mermaid<br />
braid, 3 Insta-Worthy Travel<br />
Hairstyles, + their tutorials on<br />
basic braiding<br />
FIND HER AT: Luxy Hair on You-<br />
Tube<br />
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Kassinka<br />
A FRIENDLY SYNOPSIS: Usually<br />
I don’t like photo tutorials<br />
of hairstyles because I’m like a<br />
confused upside-down turtle and<br />
get very disoriented by the unexplained<br />
jumps in the pictures.<br />
All that to say . . . Kassinka does a<br />
great job with her photography<br />
and I’ve successfully recreated<br />
many of her hairstyles.<br />
FAVORITE HAIRSTYLES: Pullthrough<br />
Braid, Half Up Boho<br />
Braids, Twisted Braid Hair Tutorial<br />
FIND HER AT: Kassinka.com<br />
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Cinderella hair<br />
for reals<br />
I’m always very suspicious of the<br />
YouTube videos that promise<br />
Disney-princess-like hair . . . but<br />
this one actually delivered!<br />
You can find it on YouTube by<br />
looking up Houda Hourani’s Disney<br />
CINDERELLA (2015) Movie<br />
Hair Tutorials Updo and Curls.<br />
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words like<br />
rubies<br />
by olivia nickerson<br />
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I don’t know about you, but when<br />
someone encourages or compliments<br />
me, it makes me feel<br />
either really embarrassed or really<br />
happy. But overall, it makes you<br />
feel really happy, doesn’t it?<br />
On the flip side, words can also<br />
hurt very much. Bitter thoughts<br />
can turn into bitter words, hurting<br />
or breaking relationships.<br />
happy<br />
hurtful<br />
James 3 compares the tongue to<br />
a small rudder that steers a ship.<br />
What James is saying here when<br />
he compares the tongue to the<br />
rudder of a ship is that the tongue<br />
is like the rudder that steers what<br />
we say, and thus, what we do. In<br />
verses 5-8 (ESV) it says, “So also<br />
the tongue is a small member,<br />
yet it boasts of great things. How<br />
great a forest is set ablaze by<br />
such a small fire! And the tongue<br />
is a fire, a world of unrighteousness.<br />
The tongue is set among<br />
our members, staining the whole<br />
body, setting on fire the entire<br />
course of life, and set on fire by<br />
hell . . . no human being can tame<br />
the tongue. It is a restless evil,<br />
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full of deadly poison.”<br />
That passage shows just how<br />
powerful the tongue can be. It<br />
can be used for good, or it can be<br />
used for evil. When we go to the<br />
Word, God clearly states how He<br />
wants us to use our tongue.<br />
Ephesians 4:29 (ESV) says, “Let<br />
no corrupting talk come out of<br />
your mouths, but only such as is<br />
good for building up, as fits the<br />
occasion, that it may give grace to<br />
those who hear.”<br />
We are called, as Christians, to<br />
choose what we say wisely and<br />
to think about what we say before<br />
we say it, that we may bless,<br />
encourage, and edify others.<br />
You may be thinking,<br />
How on earth am I supposed to control<br />
something like my tongue??<br />
“That’s almost impossible.” And I<br />
know. It’s a constant battle. I still<br />
struggle with my response, my<br />
tone of voice, and my emotions<br />
(such as anger). It’s going to be a<br />
battle for the rest of my life.<br />
However, ultimately, it all comes<br />
down to your heart. Matthew<br />
12:34b (ESV) says, “For out of<br />
the abundance of the heart the<br />
mouth speaks.” That’s pretty<br />
scary, isn’t it? What you say and<br />
how you say it is what is really in<br />
your heart: an overflow from your<br />
heart’s condition that comes out<br />
through your mouth.<br />
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And you aren’t ever going to<br />
have a perfect heart condition. We<br />
can’t ever fix it on our own. But<br />
if we turn from our sins and trust<br />
in Christ, that He forgave us from<br />
our sins when He died on the<br />
cross, we are constantly growing<br />
and being molded by God’s<br />
loving hand.<br />
He is always making you to be<br />
more and more like Him when<br />
you are His. Sometimes, however,<br />
we stray, and we lose our goal<br />
in life. Sometimes it’s good just<br />
to question yourself: What is my<br />
passion in life? I ask myself the<br />
same question as I write this. Is<br />
it Jesus? If our passion is Jesus,<br />
we’ll desire to change and to do<br />
good, for His glory and not our<br />
own, to please and honor Him.<br />
And tying that all together, with<br />
what we say to one another and<br />
how we say it. The desire to<br />
honor Christ will effect a change<br />
in our speech.<br />
they’re down, compliment them,<br />
even just smile at them and show<br />
them God’s love, that is beautiful<br />
in God’s eyes. When we are<br />
choosing to use our words to<br />
uplift and help others, we please<br />
and honor God. And that is more<br />
beautiful and precious than anything<br />
else in the world.<br />
I know we’ve all made mistakes<br />
with our tones and words. Our<br />
old sinful nature is always in<br />
conflict with our new self, and we<br />
won’t always win the battle. So<br />
maybe you’re asking yourself, “Is<br />
it too late to turn around?” Never!<br />
When we encourage others when<br />
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Always run to God and cling<br />
to Him, dear girls. Don’t ever<br />
be afraid to ask for forgiveness<br />
of others and most importantly,<br />
of God. He is always ready to<br />
forgive us. As 1 John 1:9 says<br />
(ESV), “If we confess our sins,<br />
he is faithful and just to forgive<br />
us our sins and to cleanse us<br />
from all unrighteousness.”<br />
You’re never going to be perfect<br />
in what you say. But the good<br />
news is that God is with us. He<br />
will help us. Pray to Him for<br />
help. Never give up fighting for<br />
what is the right thing to say.<br />
Choose to encourage others<br />
instead of discourage. Choose<br />
words of life. And as always,<br />
rely on God’s strength, and not<br />
your own.<br />
choose<br />
words<br />
of life<br />
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This week, I’m going to use my words to build people up. Here’s a list of my<br />
favorite compliments I’ve received . . . and how I can return the favor.<br />
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cleopatra + confidence by julia findley<br />
These are things I have heard<br />
countless times.<br />
In our day and age, people are torn<br />
about whether or not you should<br />
wear makeup. Some say it’s unnecessary<br />
and a sign on vanity. Others<br />
say there is nothing wrong with it.<br />
HERE IS WHY I WEAR MAKEUP.<br />
It’s for me. I know that sounds conceited<br />
. . . because it is. I want to<br />
look my best, I want to hide the bags<br />
under my eyes because I selfishly<br />
stayed up too late. I want to pretend<br />
my skin looks clear even though I<br />
drink more coffee than water and<br />
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JANUARY/FEBRUARY 2019 OHBELOVEDONE.COM CLEOPATRA +<br />
CONFIDENCE<br />
eat my chips instead of kale. I want<br />
glittery eyes that sparkle.<br />
But makeup also has helped me<br />
grow in confidence. When I know<br />
I look my best—even if it’s not my<br />
natural state—I am bolder. I feel<br />
that my bags are distracting someone<br />
and they aren’t wondering why<br />
I don’t sleep. Instead, they see the<br />
sparkle in my eyes and they say I<br />
look awake.<br />
My confidence is what has lead me<br />
to be bold. It led me to inviting a<br />
coworker to church. It led me to explain<br />
to a customer why I believe in<br />
saying Merry Christmas. It led me<br />
to be able to connect with a customer<br />
who lost their house in fire.<br />
My confidence has lead me<br />
to be able to live my life<br />
boldly for Him who made<br />
me.<br />
While makeup is what helps me be<br />
bold in the face of the day, it doesn’t<br />
have to be that for you. In fact you<br />
shouldn’t lean on an earthly crutch.<br />
Instead you should call upon God to<br />
give you the confidence.<br />
<strong>Beauty</strong> comes from within . . . but<br />
sometimes it is nice to wing your eyeliner<br />
and pretend you’re Cleopatra for a<br />
day.<br />
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WHITEWASHED TOMBS<br />
beautiful heart<br />
by olivia nickerson<br />
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JANUARY/FEBRUARY 2019 OHBELOVEDONE.COM WHITEWASHED TOMBS<br />
We all have “under-confident” moments.<br />
Those kinds of moments<br />
where we are getting ready<br />
for church one day and just<br />
can’t find the right outfit<br />
to wear, just can’t get your<br />
hair right, just can’t stop<br />
thinking about what people<br />
might think of you and your<br />
outfit.<br />
I kind of had one of those<br />
moments before leaving for<br />
church recently one Sunday<br />
morning. I couldn’t figure<br />
out what to wear. I was<br />
thinking about what others<br />
would be thinking when<br />
they saw my outfit. That’s<br />
some serious fear of man,<br />
isn’t it?<br />
Have you ever had any of<br />
these moments?<br />
Let’s take a look at Addie’s<br />
and Ellen’s stories.<br />
Addie took a deep breath and<br />
stepped in front of the mirror. She<br />
sighed as soon as she saw her<br />
reflection.<br />
I can never look right. The blue<br />
long sleeve was a bad idea. The<br />
pants make me look… ah, I look<br />
so fat! She quickly spun around,<br />
hardly able to look at herself<br />
anymore.<br />
Marching back to her closet,<br />
she flipped through each outfit<br />
she owned. Long dresses, short<br />
dresses, dress shirts, sweatshirts,<br />
long skirts, short skirts, dress<br />
pants, jeans -- it was all too much.<br />
Addie felt tears rising to her eyes<br />
as she dejectedly pulled a cozy<br />
pumpkin sweater and a pair of<br />
black jeans off a hanger. She<br />
decided not to look in the mirror<br />
this time.<br />
“Addalyn!” Her mother was calling<br />
from the kitchen. “You’ll be<br />
late if you spend any more time<br />
on your outfit. The banquet isn’t<br />
supposed to be fancy. Come on,<br />
dear. We have to go.”<br />
Addie panicked. Was her outfit<br />
good enough? What will people<br />
think of me? Do I look too<br />
immature? Are these jeans too<br />
tight? Did I eat too much for<br />
lunch? People will think I look<br />
awful. Pumpkin doesn’t work with<br />
my hair color. Oh no! I forgot to<br />
work on my hair! It’s so plain.<br />
Quickly, Addie ran a brush<br />
through her hair and pinned it to<br />
the side with a bobby pin. Just as<br />
she was about to leave her room,<br />
Addie ran to the closet and pulled<br />
out a long-sleeved gray top and<br />
rushed to the bathroom to change.<br />
She ran downstairs after the quick<br />
detour and pulled on her shoes,<br />
hurrying out the door and into the<br />
waiting car.<br />
Ellen checked her watch for the<br />
fifteenth time that night. Where<br />
was Vincent? He was supposed<br />
to be at the banquet half an hour<br />
ago. She straightened her blazer<br />
and tried not to feel awkward.<br />
Maybe if I mingle with other<br />
people, that will help. She took<br />
a step and nearly knocked into a<br />
girl rushing in through the front<br />
door.<br />
The girl’s face flushed a bright<br />
red as she stammered, “I-I’m so<br />
sorry. Are you okay?”<br />
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Ellen steadied herself and smiled.<br />
“Yes, I’m just fine! Are you all<br />
right? I obviously wasn’t looking<br />
where I was going.”<br />
The girl finally cracked a small<br />
smile and appeared to be somewhat<br />
relieved. “I think I was<br />
really distracted too. We were<br />
almost late to the event, and I’ve<br />
had a rough last two hours. Outfit<br />
decisions and all that.”<br />
Ellen nodded understandingly.<br />
“I’m Ellen. What’s your name?”<br />
“Addie.”<br />
“Nice to meet you. By the way, I<br />
love your outfit! It goes so well<br />
with your hair and skin tone, and<br />
it all just goes so well together.<br />
Where’d you get it?”<br />
“I think I just got it from a thrift<br />
store somewhere. You actually<br />
like it?”<br />
“Yes, I do!”<br />
“Wow. Thanks. I’ve had so much<br />
trouble finding the right outfit to<br />
make me look nice.”<br />
“I know how that is, but honestly,<br />
if I could give you any advice at<br />
all, it would be to not worry so<br />
much about what clothes to wear,<br />
what shoes to put on, what hairstyle<br />
to do. So many years of my<br />
younger life were wasted because<br />
I spent so much time wondering<br />
what people would think of me<br />
and how I looked. It wasn’t until<br />
I heard a good mentor friend<br />
of mine speak about beauty on<br />
the inside, and how that is more<br />
important than beauty on the<br />
outside.”<br />
“You mean what God thinks of<br />
me?”<br />
“Yes! Exactly. God wants us ladies<br />
to not focus on the outside<br />
appearance more importantly<br />
than how the inside condition<br />
of our heart is. Yes, we should<br />
be modest and tasteful in our<br />
dress, being a good temple unto<br />
the Holy Spirit that lives inside<br />
us, but we should working most<br />
importantly on the beauty of our<br />
heart. Do you remember reading<br />
about the Pharisees in the Bible,<br />
Addie?”<br />
Addie nodded. “Yes, but not<br />
very much.”<br />
“Well, in one chapter of Matthew,<br />
Jesus says, ‘Woe to you, scribes<br />
and Pharisees, hypocrites! For<br />
you are like whitewashed tombs,<br />
which outwardly appear beautiful,<br />
but within are full of dead<br />
people’s bones and all uncleanness.’”<br />
“What does that mean?”<br />
“The Pharisees were Jewish<br />
I spent so much time wondering what people<br />
would think about how I looked . . .<br />
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Let your adorning be the imperishable beauty of a<br />
gentle and quiet spirit.<br />
leaders of the law. They knew the<br />
Old Testament inside and out. But<br />
despite that, they were hypocrites<br />
and didn’t practice what they<br />
preached. They were constantly<br />
reviling Jesus and despising Him.<br />
Jesus compared them to whitewashed<br />
tombs, which looked<br />
beautiful and white on the outside,<br />
but inside, their hearts were<br />
‘filled with dead people’s bones<br />
and all uncleanness’: black with<br />
sin and hypocrisy.”<br />
“I think I see what you’re getting<br />
at,” Addie said.<br />
Ellen smiled. “If we’re Christians,<br />
Christ will have taken our<br />
sins upon Himself when He died<br />
on the cross. But we still have to<br />
grow, and throughout our whole<br />
Christian life, sometimes it’s very<br />
easy to get caught up in things of<br />
the world, such as appearance.<br />
But God says to us ladies in 1<br />
Peter 3, ‘Do not let your adorning<br />
be external—the braiding of<br />
hair and the putting on of gold<br />
jewelry, or the clothing you<br />
wear— but let your adorning be<br />
the hidden person of the heart<br />
with the imperishable beauty of a<br />
gentle and quiet spirit, which in<br />
God’s sight is very precious.’<br />
appearance, but inside our heart<br />
is a mess, we become like those<br />
whitewashed tombs the Pharisees<br />
were compared to. God wants us<br />
to be beautiful in character.”<br />
“How on earth do I do that?”<br />
“Well, you can’t do it on your<br />
own, that’s for sure. Pray for<br />
God to work in your heart. I<br />
encourage you to look at Galatians<br />
5:23, which lists all of the<br />
fruits of the Spirit. Find one you<br />
struggle with, such as patience.<br />
Then focus on that one to work<br />
on, keeping in the Word of God to<br />
encourage, strengthen, and help<br />
you.”<br />
“Will you pray for me? I have<br />
a feeling this is not going to be<br />
easy.”<br />
Ellen gave Addie a hug. “Of<br />
course. Although that’s not to say<br />
I don’t still struggle with it. Why<br />
don’t we work on it together?”<br />
You see, Addie, what is most<br />
precious and beautiful in God’s<br />
sight is the beauty of your heart,<br />
which comes from Christ. If we<br />
focus too much on the outside<br />
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choosing<br />
your style<br />
by rose dickensen<br />
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JANUARY/FEBRUARY 2019 OHBELOVEDONE.COM CHOOSING YOUR STYLE<br />
I think it’s fascinating how everyone seems to have their own style. Even the people that<br />
don’t seem to care: they’re “Sloppy Chic.” (Well, maybe not the Chic part . . .)<br />
Lately, I felt like I needed to get my own style. But I became confused when I tried to define<br />
it. Some days I like being vintage. Others, I’d describe it as classy. Still other days, I’m<br />
more eccentric and graphic-designer-y. And during the summer, I don’t mind being a little<br />
boho.<br />
Some people have a whole color palette they stick to religiously: black and white; only<br />
yellow; stick to the wine reds and olives and purples.<br />
I’m here to tell you this: you don’t have to have one style. Really! Don’t wake up in the<br />
morning and decide not to wear that outfit because it doesn’t match your aesthetic.<br />
Some days, you might feel like dressing up a bit more. Wear that dress; rock those high<br />
heels; curl your hair for no reason. On days I’m staying home and studying like a crazy<br />
person, I always do my makeup and wear a cute outfit because it makes me feel confident<br />
(my dad is always like, “Where are you going?! On a date?!”).<br />
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Other days, you might be feeling a little sad, tired, or even cozy (especially when it comes<br />
to finals week!). Feel free to wear your favorite t-shirt, a comfy and chunky sweater, and<br />
those perfect-for-any-occasion Converse.<br />
It’s okay to be boho one day. It’s okay to be a little cozy, “I don’t care” another day.<br />
So: forget the aesthetic!<br />
go with your gut.<br />
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