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Issue 3 | <strong>November</strong> 2018<br />
M om Warrior<br />
An Empowering PREMIUM Magazine<br />
How To<br />
Safely<br />
Break<br />
Free<br />
From<br />
Energy<br />
" Vam pires"<br />
For The Tired, Stressed But Loving Mom<br />
Nicole!<br />
World's Coolest<br />
Hula-Hooper!<br />
H er Fl at Stom ach<br />
AND<br />
Str ess-Bu sti n g<br />
Secr et!<br />
The Mist ake<br />
of Telling<br />
Your Child...<br />
"I LOVE YOU<br />
ALL THE<br />
SAME" ...<br />
That Adds<br />
To Their<br />
Sibling<br />
Rivalry &<br />
Fight ing<br />
YOUR GUIDE TO<br />
St ress-Free<br />
7 Easy Tricks<br />
For POWER-UP<br />
Energy When<br />
Tiredness Hit s<br />
How To Beat<br />
Holiday<br />
Burnout !<br />
Holidays!<br />
1
CONTENTS<br />
Our Cover Model Mom Hero...<br />
M om Warrior<br />
17<br />
Your Featured Presentations...<br />
7<br />
Nicole,Who just happens to be my little sister!... is one of the most<br />
charming, enduring persons ever! Her world is awash in stress and<br />
overwhelm, being a single Mom and all. And yet the stress bounces off of<br />
her as if she was BULLETPROOF! Check out her reason on how she's<br />
doing it!<br />
Your Fighting Tiredness Weapon<br />
"How To Safely Break Free From Energy<br />
" Vam pires"<br />
Coach Spiegel, BTSM<br />
30<br />
7 Easy Tricks For POWER-UP ENERGY<br />
Coach Spiegel, BTSM<br />
Fighting H oliday Stress<br />
36 34<br />
How To Beat Holiday Burnout<br />
Coach Spiegel, BTSM<br />
Your Weapon To Fight Parenting Stress<br />
5<br />
The Mistake Of The "I LOVE YOU ALL THE SAME"<br />
Coach Spiegel, BTSM<br />
2
FOUNDER'S NOTE<br />
Tis The Season, To Be a Mom Warrior!<br />
Click Here To<br />
List en To It !<br />
Have you seen<br />
Incredibles 2 yet?<br />
What did you think?<br />
Your Coach here LOVED<br />
it! And it?s such a great<br />
indication of the<br />
changing times?<br />
? a showing of the<br />
?covered-up? potential<br />
that is the woman of<br />
today.<br />
That is YOU!<br />
It?s cool because you<br />
are finally being<br />
recognized and getting<br />
light shown on all that<br />
you do. I hope you are<br />
given recognition for it<br />
by those around you.<br />
and all that non-stop<br />
cleaning!<br />
Dad helped out too in<br />
equally important ways,<br />
only it seemed more<br />
overlooked and<br />
therefore taken for<br />
granted.<br />
A bit more ?behind the<br />
scenes? if you will...<br />
- bringing home<br />
f not, you at least have<br />
the bacon<br />
me, Mom Warrior!<br />
- Fixing the cars<br />
- Building the<br />
Even though in that<br />
house and fixing<br />
movie it was Elasti-girl<br />
EVERYTHING<br />
that was off saving the<br />
when it broke<br />
world while Dad stayed<br />
- Keeping the roof<br />
home and kept things<br />
from leaking<br />
in check, for me that<br />
- Made sure his<br />
seemed like my Mom<br />
guns were<br />
growing up. Only she<br />
running good to<br />
did the home stuff too!<br />
protect us from<br />
bears, burglars,<br />
Brought us to all our<br />
or zombies! ;)<br />
games and<br />
extra-curricular<br />
activities.<br />
Helped us out with our<br />
homework, cooked<br />
meals, paid the bills,<br />
laundry, took us clothes<br />
and school shopping? 7<br />
3<br />
It?s kinda like Batman<br />
gets all the glory for<br />
defeating the bad guys,<br />
while Alfred, his butler<br />
stays home, keeps<br />
Batman fed, pays the<br />
bills, and fixes and<br />
maintains all his<br />
gadgets, Batmobile,<br />
Bat-cycle, and Bat-wing.<br />
(you should start<br />
naming all your stuff<br />
after ?Mom? since<br />
you?re a superhero too!<br />
Like, Mom-mobile,<br />
Mom-cycle, and<br />
Mom-wing? . Although<br />
that last one sounds a<br />
little iffy. :)<br />
You certainly deserve<br />
the spotlight and<br />
appreciation for all that<br />
you do, Mom?<br />
especially with how
EASY you make it look!<br />
Please point it out to your kiddos all those that are<br />
helping them succeed that aren?t as obvious.<br />
"<br />
(I like that line in that in that Incredibles 2 movie<br />
that showed a tv commercial for some recipe and<br />
the lady goes<br />
"<br />
?So easy, even HE can do it!)<br />
So as we venture forth, let?s not only give thanks for<br />
the obvious contributors in our life, but also for the<br />
quiet ones.<br />
With tiredness taking over and stress having control<br />
of your thoughts and emotions, it makes it all but<br />
impossible to see these hidden contributors.<br />
ESPECIALLY this time of year.<br />
That?s why this issue is action-packed with easy<br />
hacks and how-to?s to win this war at this most<br />
vulnerable time.<br />
Mr. Incredible actually gave you a HUGE hint as to<br />
one of the most effective things you can do to keep<br />
holiday stress at bay.<br />
After finishing this issue, see if you can guess what<br />
that secret is!<br />
See you on the inside, Momma Dearest!<br />
4
When Your Child Asks:<br />
?Who do you love BEST??...<br />
... The Dam aging Mist ake<br />
of Answ ering Wit h?<br />
? ?I Love You All The Same?<br />
Click Here If<br />
You'd Rat her<br />
List en To It !<br />
She couldn?t believe Our Mom Hero was<br />
w hat just cam e out an only child.<br />
of her daught er ?s<br />
m out h.<br />
It was one of her<br />
biggest pains not<br />
It took everything she having a brother or<br />
had to keep her sister growing up.<br />
?horrify-ness? from<br />
She would see the<br />
showing. (that?s a<br />
relationships others<br />
word now)<br />
had and she longed<br />
for that.<br />
So upon finding her<br />
true love and having<br />
their first child,<br />
Dana?<br />
? she thought she<br />
was doing her a big<br />
favor by having little<br />
Kelly.<br />
She couldn?t believe<br />
that she was naive<br />
enough to think they<br />
would automatically<br />
get along.<br />
7<br />
5<br />
And they actually did<br />
-- for a bit. Until Kelly<br />
started walking and<br />
talking and more able<br />
to interact with their<br />
world.<br />
The moment the two<br />
woke up, until they<br />
went to bed, they<br />
both seemed<br />
destined for one<br />
purpose?<br />
? MAKE EACH<br />
OTHER?S LIVES<br />
MISERABLE!
Not with your big ugly teeth<br />
and fat body. How can anyone<br />
love someone so ugly??<br />
Mom was mortified.<br />
Our Mom Hero kept telling<br />
herself, ?it?ll get better as they<br />
get older? . it?ll get better as<br />
they get older? . They?ll grow out<br />
of it?<br />
If anything, it?s only gotten<br />
worse. :(<br />
Kelly is now 5 and Dana is 8.<br />
Everything that Kelly has,<br />
Dana wants.<br />
If Kelly notices that Mom<br />
spent 1 extra minute with<br />
Kelly reading her a bedtime<br />
story, she hears about it.<br />
They can?t get within 2 feet of<br />
each other without kicking,<br />
hitting, bickering, whining,<br />
complaining, tattling, or<br />
screaming...<br />
?MOOOOM! She w on?t let<br />
m e ____ (fill in t he blank!) __"<br />
They both kept coming up to<br />
their Mom and asking,<br />
?Why did you have to have<br />
her? Why couldn?t I have been<br />
an only child? I wish that she<br />
had never been born!?<br />
And that evening just as there<br />
was a break in the fighting as<br />
they were brushing their teeth<br />
getting ready for bed,<br />
...that?s when Dana said<br />
something to her sister that<br />
broke her Mom?s heart?<br />
? Kelly had just finished<br />
brushing her teeth and was<br />
putting her toothbrush back.<br />
With that Dana snapped...<br />
?Why don?t you take your<br />
toothbrush and leave.<br />
Nobody here loves you<br />
anyhow.<br />
6<br />
Where did such<br />
cruelt y com e from ?<br />
Where did she learn such<br />
meanness!? Certainly not from<br />
her!<br />
She paid extra effort to being<br />
as equal as she could.<br />
Our Mom Hero was at her<br />
wit?s end. Chaos filled the day.<br />
She was feeling like she was<br />
failing her children.<br />
No matter what she did, what<br />
she said, they would use it as<br />
ammo to attack the other.<br />
All she wanted was peace.<br />
Peace and to have her kiddos<br />
get along. To not be messed<br />
up for the rest of their<br />
respective lives.<br />
Our Mom Hero remembered<br />
watching one of her favorite<br />
shows growing up called
?Sisters?.<br />
What amazing relationships<br />
and best friends all those<br />
sisters became when they<br />
were all grown up.<br />
She feared that that will<br />
never happen with her girls<br />
at their current rate.<br />
She just didn?t know what to<br />
do anymore. She would<br />
separate them when it got<br />
out of hand.<br />
But that only seemed to<br />
temporarily take care of the<br />
problem as it was<br />
impossible to keep them<br />
away from each other<br />
forever.<br />
She just didn?t know what<br />
the appropriate discipline<br />
should be. She<br />
remembered when she was<br />
little with her brother. When<br />
they were caught fighting and<br />
her mother would simply make<br />
them ?kiss and make up?.<br />
Which seemed to do nothing.<br />
She had enough. Her children<br />
deserved more. They deserved<br />
to grow up with loving<br />
relationships all around? not in<br />
fear and conflict of their<br />
siblings.<br />
She thought of how much<br />
better she could parent and<br />
love without so much stress<br />
and chaos going on.<br />
Ever the action taker, our Mom<br />
Hero set out on a Mission.<br />
- She bought every book<br />
she could find on the<br />
7<br />
7<br />
subject<br />
- She mailed in<br />
questions to ?Experts?<br />
in magazines and<br />
newspapers<br />
- She talked to any friend<br />
of hers whose kids<br />
never seemed to fight.<br />
- She pulled up good ol?<br />
Google and set off<br />
down the fun Internet<br />
rabbit trail.<br />
Mom on a Mission!... on a<br />
Mission to save her children!<br />
Nothing is sweeter nor more<br />
beautiful!<br />
What a sight you are to<br />
behold when you are in that<br />
action-taking awesomeness,<br />
my dear Mom Warrior<br />
Reader! :)<br />
In her search she came
"<br />
"<br />
OUR MOM HERO<br />
LOVES PIZZA...<br />
across a very<br />
interesting secret. A<br />
secret about this<br />
?stuff? we call LOVE.<br />
And that secret is:<br />
There Is No One<br />
LOVE.<br />
LOVE is not the same.<br />
There are many<br />
forms of it. Our Mom<br />
Hero Loves pizza. It?s<br />
not the same Love<br />
she has for her<br />
daughters.<br />
Our Mom Hero Loves<br />
the movie ?Mamma<br />
Mia?.<br />
That?s not the same<br />
Love she has for her<br />
husband.<br />
The Love she has for<br />
her own Mother, the<br />
kids?Grandma, that<br />
Love is different than<br />
the Love she feels for<br />
her kiddos.<br />
Even her own<br />
husband? that Love<br />
she has for him has<br />
changed and<br />
morphed as the years<br />
wore on.<br />
No, Love is not equal.<br />
Because Love is<br />
unique. It?s like it has<br />
its own unique<br />
algorithmic code<br />
depending on the<br />
8<br />
...IT'S NOT THE SAME<br />
LOVE SHE HAS FOR<br />
HER DAUGHTERS<br />
"<br />
person and situation.<br />
That?s the secret.<br />
There is no ONE Love.<br />
To attempt to show<br />
Love to each of her<br />
children EQUALLY, is<br />
a gross<br />
misunderstanding of<br />
Love.<br />
Just as is her Love for<br />
her husband varies<br />
greatly from her<br />
children, so does the<br />
Love differ from one<br />
child to the next.<br />
As she discovered this<br />
secret and applied it<br />
to her parenting?<br />
? . it made all sorts of<br />
"<br />
differences in how<br />
she responded to<br />
their attempts to<br />
?One-up? the other in<br />
the competition for<br />
their Mother?s Love.<br />
?Who do you Love<br />
more, Mommy? Me or<br />
her?? her daughter<br />
would ask.<br />
Before she discovered<br />
this secret she would<br />
respond with<br />
?I love you all t he<br />
sam e.?<br />
Or<br />
?You?re all my<br />
favorite?<br />
-or-
?I?ve told you a hundred times<br />
that I love you all equally?<br />
And it did little to appease<br />
either one of them.<br />
Sometimes it even made<br />
matters worse.<br />
Now she discovered this<br />
Secret about Love.<br />
When her child asks that now,<br />
with confidence and full belief<br />
in the Power of Her Love? she<br />
expertly responds with:<br />
?I love you all UNIQUELY.?<br />
than me!? she screamed<br />
?No I didn?t. I gave her 3 and I<br />
gave you 3! Keep complaining<br />
and you?ll get ZERO!?<br />
?But her strips are BIGGER!<br />
You love her more than me,<br />
don?t you!??<br />
?That?s not true at all! You know<br />
better! I made sure to make<br />
them all the same length. And<br />
you know I love you all the<br />
same!<br />
I?ve told you a million times!<br />
Now eat your breakfast before it<br />
gets cold!?<br />
Opport unit ies t o<br />
becom e a m ore<br />
loving, connect ed,<br />
happy Family were stolen<br />
from them.<br />
"<br />
A chance to make a fun, fond<br />
memory for Dana, Kelly, or<br />
their brave Mom Hero were<br />
whisked away like a thief in<br />
the night?<br />
To Love equally and try to be<br />
?fair? with her Love and<br />
interactions before was<br />
stressful.<br />
She spent so much of her<br />
waking efforts trying to be<br />
?equal and fair?. At lunchtime<br />
the other day, before she<br />
discovered this Secret?<br />
? Kelly would look at Dana?s<br />
plate and see that she had<br />
MORE strips of bacon?<br />
?MOM! You gave her more<br />
Yup, my dear Reader. This was<br />
a pretty typical exchange. The<br />
kind that before would drive<br />
our poor Mom Hero NUTS!<br />
7<br />
9<br />
? because she didn?t know<br />
about this Secret about Love.<br />
Each Mother?s love for her<br />
child exists in a VACUUM all on<br />
its own, seperate and away<br />
from any other outside<br />
factors?<br />
? including the other Loves<br />
for any other child...
? ? ? Husband,<br />
? ? . Pizza :)<br />
? . Or Mamma Mia<br />
movies<br />
And that Love comes<br />
from a Source that is<br />
Unlimited. There?s no<br />
?battery? on the<br />
power of that Love.<br />
Now after discovering<br />
this Secret, she looks<br />
at each of her<br />
children as<br />
individuals.<br />
Not Love that comes<br />
from the big same<br />
pot and flows to<br />
another like a stream<br />
tethered to other<br />
streams.<br />
But rather Love that is<br />
unique and special<br />
only for them. Flows<br />
on it?s own path from<br />
that limitless pot.<br />
Our Mom Hero, now<br />
armed with this<br />
Secret, sat next to her<br />
Kelly having just<br />
finished up reading a<br />
bedtime story to her,<br />
when the Little one<br />
asked?<br />
?I?m your favorit e,<br />
aren?t I, Mom ??<br />
Our Mom Hero<br />
replied with,<br />
?Each of you is<br />
special to me. In the<br />
whole wide world, all<br />
the billions of people.<br />
You are the only<br />
Kelly.<br />
Your face.<br />
"<br />
Your feelings.<br />
Your wonderful smile.<br />
Your thoughts.<br />
The good, kind, giving<br />
person you are<br />
becoming.<br />
You are the only you,<br />
Kelly.<br />
I?m so honored and<br />
glad that you?re my<br />
daughter. And I feel<br />
so blessed to be your<br />
Mother.?<br />
Beautiful words,<br />
aren?t they, my<br />
Reader?<br />
Words that serve as<br />
signals to her<br />
UNIQUE Love she<br />
has for Kelly.<br />
She steps on over to<br />
Dana?s bed and<br />
shares much the<br />
?same? thing she just<br />
did with Kelly.<br />
Only it?s Dana?s<br />
unique Love that she<br />
describes.<br />
10<br />
From one of her<br />
books she discovered<br />
on her Mission, she<br />
came across this<br />
exercise that I?ll share<br />
"<br />
with you here.<br />
Us humans are<br />
SUPER visual learners,<br />
so to really hit this<br />
Secret home in her<br />
kiddos?brains, they<br />
together did this:<br />
Our Mom Hero<br />
brought home 5<br />
candles. A big one<br />
and then 4 smaller<br />
ones.<br />
She gave each<br />
member of their<br />
Family a smaller one.<br />
One for her, one for<br />
Dad, and one for each<br />
of the girls.<br />
Then Mom lit the big<br />
one.<br />
Our Mom Hero said:<br />
?These candles<br />
represent our family,
still has all my Love too!<br />
Just like that fire you see<br />
dancing on that candle is<br />
unique, so is the Love you<br />
have from me is Special and<br />
unique just for you, Dana.<br />
and that big one there<br />
represents God?s love?<br />
(you can replace ?God?with<br />
the Universe or whatever<br />
Higher Power you believe in,<br />
Mom Warrior? this story?s<br />
Mom Hero happens to be<br />
Christian)<br />
Mom Hero then took her<br />
candle and said<br />
?When I married your<br />
handsome Father here...<br />
(Dad liked being called<br />
?handsome? by his beautiful<br />
wife, so she made it a point to<br />
work it in whenever she could )<br />
:)<br />
? I gave him all of my Love --<br />
and look! I still have ALL of my<br />
love left!?<br />
And if you want the truth, my<br />
Little One, my candle should<br />
have grown BIGGER the more<br />
Love I give you, your sister,<br />
and your Daddy?<br />
but they don?t make magic<br />
candles that do that.?<br />
To that all the family giggled.<br />
? :)<br />
Holding now her candle to<br />
her second daughter, our<br />
Mom Hero said this,<br />
?this is the Mommy<br />
Candle.?<br />
Then set it to the big one<br />
and lit it.<br />
?This flame represents my<br />
Love.?<br />
She then went over to<br />
Daddy and as she lit his<br />
candle with hers she said,<br />
Dad smiled and Mom Hero<br />
then went to Dana?s candle she<br />
was holding. As she was lighting<br />
Dana?s candle, she said to her<br />
?When you were born, I gave<br />
you all of my love. My candle is<br />
just fine. I still have all of my<br />
love.<br />
And see over there?... 7 Daddy<br />
11<br />
?Then your sister was born. I<br />
gave her all of my love too.<br />
But Look! -- you still have all<br />
of my Love.<br />
Daddy still has all of my<br />
Love.<br />
And I still have all of my<br />
Love.
Her Love from me became unique and special too! Just like it has for you and Daddy!<br />
Now imagine this, Dana, you now have your candle representing your Love.<br />
If you give it to your sister. Give it to me or your Father, as I have for you? YOUR candle will<br />
only grow bigger!<br />
Because that?s how Love works!<br />
Isn?t it FUN to have so much Love? Doesn?t it feel good!??<br />
Both Dana and Kelly nodded along with big smiles on their faces as Mom Hero asked.<br />
Even Husband nodded along a bit, watching his wife and feeling so thankful for the<br />
magnificent woman he married.<br />
He was so proud of the amazing Mother she has become for their children.<br />
Our Mom Hero continued...<br />
?Love never runs out. We?ll still have all of our Love left no matter how much we give it<br />
because that?s the way love is.?<br />
Now your turn, dear Mom Warrior Reader. Go give of your Love UNIQUELY.<br />
This Secret you just discovered, although a VERY POWERFUL piece,<br />
? is a part of this revolutionary new method I accidentily discovered that ends the sibling<br />
bickering,<br />
fighting,<br />
arguing,<br />
12
complaining and chaos FAST...<br />
"<br />
...Without needing to have a child psychology degree. :)<br />
Called the Sibling Sanity & Peace Protocol?<br />
This Is That Better Way You<br />
Are Looking For, Mom<br />
"<br />
If you would like a free look at how this entire magical Method goes down, I recommend you<br />
click below or go to<br />
www.happyhomesecret.com/peace<br />
And claim your free ?mini-workbook? - a 61 page guide through using this Protocol to help<br />
your kids STOP bickering, fighting and arguing and have more Sanity & Peace for you!<br />
Yes! Give Me My Free Workbook!<br />
7<br />
13
Nicole!<br />
The Hula-Hooping<br />
Goddess Mom Her o!<br />
Her Secret On How She<br />
Stays So Thin, Healthy, &<br />
Stress Free Through The<br />
A dventure Of Single<br />
Parenting<br />
14
L isten To The<br />
I nterview H ere!<br />
- hula-hooping for the last 13 years.<br />
- Mom of 2<br />
- And divorced now for 5 years<br />
1:40 - This Mom Hero reveals her first secret<br />
to being a Stress-Busting Master? found a<br />
healt hy dist ract ion. Took it up,<br />
(hula-hooping), enjoyed it, and never looked<br />
back!<br />
3:45 - She mentions when her brother (me!)<br />
was last with her visiting in Seattle<br />
Nicole is a bright shining star of this world. A<br />
beacon of unbridled energy and smiles.<br />
She also just happens to be my SISTER!<br />
I?m super excited for you to experience her<br />
awesomeness, my Mom Warrior reader!<br />
Despite living in a constant spin of stress<br />
thanks to 2 kiddos in their element and<br />
going at it as a single parent? stress seems<br />
to bounce off of as if she is bulletproof.<br />
4:50 - Amazing Mom Hero quote time!.... ?All<br />
Learning And Growing & Facing Challenges?<br />
5:47 - ?Encourage Them To Enjoy Life, Work<br />
Hard, and Be Who They Are? -- LOVE this<br />
perspective and approach about Parenting!<br />
6:18 - Her first bit of struggle! Something to<br />
laugh about YEARS from now. How her littlest<br />
one struggles a bit taking ?forever? to get out<br />
the door in the morning!<br />
She shares a few of her secrets and how she<br />
does it here! Prepare yourself though, Mom<br />
Warrior, her words will rock you and leave<br />
you proud to be a Mom!<br />
Her int erview 's play by play<br />
breakdow n!:<br />
First couple of minutes: her backstory?<br />
7<br />
15
"<br />
A ll L earning &<br />
Growing & Facing<br />
Challenges<br />
"<br />
Oh, those morning<br />
out the door routines!<br />
7:33 - Our first<br />
Coaching moment! I<br />
know you worry<br />
about them<br />
?negative?<br />
interactions with your<br />
child like yelling and<br />
scolding. As long as<br />
the good you do<br />
outnumbers the<br />
?bad? 5:1, your kiddo<br />
will be okay! And<br />
chances are will NOT<br />
be screwed up for life<br />
;)<br />
There?s no QUALITY of<br />
interaction? it is all<br />
QUANTITY. All<br />
interactions are<br />
created the same.<br />
Whether it is an<br />
awesome vacation, or<br />
a drive to school, they<br />
are weighted the<br />
same in their cute<br />
little brains.<br />
8:29 - ?Oh yeah, she?s<br />
got some spunk and<br />
spirit? Great quote by<br />
Nicole the Great<br />
about her Johannah!<br />
8:44 - This Mom Hero<br />
shares one of her<br />
coolest secrets for<br />
helping with her<br />
?spirited? child!<br />
9:51 - Nicole shares<br />
her thoughts on what<br />
it?s like going at it<br />
single parent style!<br />
10:33 - I ask, ?What<br />
was it like growing up<br />
with me as your big<br />
brother??<br />
11:59 - Johannah is<br />
turning into a little<br />
roller skating<br />
princess!<br />
12:32 - She doesn?t<br />
remember me being<br />
16<br />
cruel to her! Yay! (I<br />
"<br />
was a little bit, just big<br />
brother picking-ons<br />
stuff, nothing too<br />
serious) :)<br />
13:45 - this Mom<br />
Hero?s biggest<br />
stressors these<br />
days!? .<br />
15:46 - how she has<br />
so much ENERGY!...<br />
16:44 - ?My body has<br />
a go-mode, and I just<br />
KEEP GOING!?<br />
17:50 - ?I want them<br />
to have good coping<br />
mechanisms?<br />
amazing Mom Hero<br />
quote!... then follows<br />
for the next few<br />
minutes on all her<br />
tools she uses to keep<br />
teaching them<br />
awesome coping<br />
skills!<br />
20:40 - Nicole reveals<br />
one of the<br />
foundational TRUTHS<br />
"<br />
of what it means to<br />
be a Mom?<br />
?They Look Up To<br />
Me? they are into<br />
what I am into?<br />
That is just pure gold<br />
TRUTH, Mom Warrior!<br />
Your kiddos will more<br />
about how to show<br />
up in life based on<br />
how you are showing<br />
up! They model after<br />
you!<br />
21:02 - One of my<br />
favorite parts of this<br />
interview? Our Mom<br />
Hero Nicole talks<br />
about what her<br />
kiddos do that make<br />
her PROUD!<br />
22:22 - Another<br />
Coaching moment<br />
from your Coach<br />
here!... Listen up if<br />
your child struggles<br />
with any sort of<br />
?disability? because
"<br />
They L ook Up To<br />
M e... They are<br />
I nto What I A m<br />
I nto<br />
"<br />
everyone should read<br />
"<br />
at least once?<br />
>> The Secret<br />
Teaching Of Plants<br />
A book you?d like your<br />
kids to read! >><br />
Bearenstein Bears!<br />
this is NOT the last 29:59 - here?s how she<br />
time you?ll hear about makes it through the<br />
2.) You open up your<br />
me talk about this big day!<br />
car, and there?s bags<br />
mistake we are doing<br />
of cash sitting there,<br />
when it comes to 30:18 - she focuses and a note which says<br />
?disabilities? on what she DOES ?Enjoy?... what do you<br />
have, not on what she do?<br />
23:56 - ?They may be doesn?t, Mom. A not<br />
different but they are so cool way to have >>> TRAVEL! And buy<br />
not alone?<br />
LOTS of stress is to go<br />
a house!<br />
about your day and<br />
24:14 - I ask, ?What let your thoughts<br />
kind of people do you wander towards<br />
think they will grow everything you DON?T<br />
up to become?? You?ll have. Not cool!<br />
LOVE her answer!<br />
31:28 - how she<br />
25:48 - She shares her defeated depression!<br />
best tips for STRESS<br />
RELIEF!<br />
33:48? thus begins<br />
the Rapid Mom<br />
27:44 - Dare I say this Warrior 7 Round!<br />
is one of Nicole?s<br />
SUPER POWERS! She 1.) A book that has<br />
has THIS as her made the most<br />
default setting each difference in your<br />
day!<br />
world you believe 7<br />
17<br />
3.) Your flat is on fire,<br />
kids and everyone is<br />
safe, but you have<br />
enough time to run in<br />
and get one thing.<br />
What is it?<br />
"<br />
>>> My clothes, my<br />
laptop, my journals!<br />
4.) You?re sitting on a<br />
bench overlooking<br />
the beach. Someone<br />
sitting next to you<br />
that you can have a<br />
conversation with. It<br />
can be anybody living<br />
or dead. Who is that<br />
person?
The Love Poet, Rumi? ?love is such an interesting thing to me? -she says<br />
"<br />
DID I DO GOOD<br />
WITH THE POWERS<br />
& GIFTS OUR<br />
MAKER ENTRUSTED<br />
ME WITH?<br />
5.) You?re kidnapped, and you can send one letter back home towards your kids? what?s on it?<br />
>>> I Love You, and be brave and strong, and everything will work out.<br />
"<br />
6.) You get to go back in time and give your 20 year old self some advice, what do you say to<br />
I tell them each day how much they mean to me.<br />
her?<br />
>>> That everything will be okay. Just be it. Travel more and not rush things.<br />
7.) All great people can have their life summed up in 1 sentence? what?s yours?<br />
Focus on t he joy. Let the ebb n flow happen. Find the juicy parts of life and just be there!<br />
Me: Your kids are listening to this years from now, what would you like to say to them?<br />
Mom Hero Nicole: They are amazing. I am so proud of them. We are growing together as a<br />
Family.<br />
And we make mistakes and we learn from them. And I won?t ever stop learning and growing<br />
they shouldn?t either.<br />
And if you fall down, you get back up.<br />
* - great job, Nicole! Thank you for passing on your Greatness to your fellow Mom Warriors and<br />
loving and caring for your kiddos like you do!<br />
Keep fighting on, their futures are worth it!<br />
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HOW TO SAFELY BREAK FREE<br />
FROM ...<br />
... ENERGY VAMPIRES<br />
Click Here If You'd<br />
Rat her List en To This<br />
...Here's Your Part 2!<br />
LOVE or are okay with? but feel<br />
FORCED to interact with. Think<br />
on Everybody<br />
Loves Raymond and her Mother<br />
in law.<br />
And when interacting with these<br />
You have 4 cat egories of<br />
people in your life, Mom<br />
Warrior.<br />
with and you?d be just fine<br />
NEVER seeing them again!<br />
Maybe it?s a boss letting you<br />
people? afterwards we just feel<br />
completely drained and<br />
exhausted.<br />
1.) There?s people you love, and<br />
love to be around MOST of the<br />
time.<br />
2.) Then there?s people that are<br />
okay. Just sort of there, if you<br />
catch my meaning.<br />
3.) Then there?s the <br />
holes.<br />
People you want NOTHING to do<br />
have it and throwing you under<br />
the bus. (I can totally relate with<br />
you if that?s the case)<br />
But it?s actually this LAST<br />
category you need to be wary of<br />
if you value having your energy<br />
to play with your kids and<br />
protect your family? .<br />
4.) there?s people that we like,<br />
7<br />
19<br />
Oh Mom , w hat a<br />
w onderful being<br />
you are.
You?re so magnificent<br />
beautiful, you feel<br />
compliment<br />
(Being YOUNG<br />
and amazing. People<br />
obligated to oblige.<br />
LOOKING is one of the<br />
should be feeling<br />
(whoa, good play on<br />
benefits of breaking<br />
LUCKY to even be in<br />
words there, don?t you<br />
free from these Energy<br />
your presence!<br />
think?)<br />
Vampires.)<br />
You deserve to be<br />
surrounded by those<br />
encourage you.<br />
That champion you.<br />
That cherish your<br />
efforts and<br />
awesomeness. You?re<br />
such a good person.<br />
And I so appreciate<br />
that love and care you<br />
put towards your<br />
family. It will be okay.<br />
This 4th category of<br />
People are USING you,<br />
Mom Warrior.<br />
Using you for their own<br />
selfish gains.<br />
And because you?re so<br />
wonderful and<br />
Think on your life now, ? .Hey! Do you think<br />
there?s people that this whole turning<br />
leave you feeling monsters into ?sexy<br />
Exhausted. Hurt. cool? symbols will<br />
Disappointed.<br />
transfer over to<br />
Frustrated.<br />
ZOMBIES?.... yeah,<br />
maybe not) :)<br />
They are probably<br />
good people but<br />
there?s these certain<br />
people that<br />
tend to leave you These Energy Vampires<br />
feeling depleted and<br />
are people that FEED<br />
thinking twice about<br />
on empathetic<br />
answering them the attention, explains the<br />
next time they call.<br />
young-looking<br />
Christiane Northup,<br />
M.D., author of<br />
No offense to them, we<br />
Dodging Energy<br />
call these people<br />
Vampires.<br />
Energy Vampires?<br />
(although with how<br />
sexy and cool vampires<br />
have become, maybe<br />
that?s more of a<br />
20<br />
?Energy vampires<br />
target empaths and<br />
caring people because<br />
they carry a lot of<br />
LIGHT from traits like<br />
compassion, loyalty<br />
and a desire to be of<br />
service and make the<br />
world a better place?<br />
(I?d say that?s totally<br />
YOU, Mom Warrior!)<br />
For whatever<br />
complicated reasons,<br />
they can?t manufacture<br />
this Light on their own,<br />
so they FEED off of<br />
yours.<br />
And because you care<br />
so much for everyone<br />
around you, it?s tough<br />
to walk away ? even<br />
from those who
epeatedly cause you<br />
pain.?<br />
? the good Doctor<br />
goes on to explain.<br />
Good.<br />
Awareness of these<br />
Vamps is the first step,<br />
and the GREAT news is<br />
I LOVE this analogy she<br />
that experts like your<br />
paints for you here:<br />
Coach here postulate...<br />
your Family safe,<br />
The weather. The<br />
?Think of your body as<br />
a battery with a<br />
powerful electrical<br />
signal coming from<br />
your big,<br />
compassionate heart,?<br />
she says.<br />
?Your battery is literally<br />
(that?s what us experts<br />
do, is we say ?smart<br />
sounding words? like<br />
?postulate?so that you?ll<br />
think us real smart,<br />
even though I?m not!<br />
Just a guy with an<br />
empathetic heart like<br />
channel your inner Van<br />
Helsing and use any<br />
one of these 4<br />
?weapons?.<br />
Your 4 Easy-To-Wield<br />
?Weapons? Fight ing<br />
off t hese Energy<br />
Vam ps:<br />
Packers.<br />
The good Doctor<br />
Northrup adds:<br />
?This is different than<br />
from someone else<br />
that is depressed or is<br />
reaching out for help.<br />
being drained over and<br />
over because these<br />
people do not change?<br />
yours that believes<br />
Moms & Grandmas are<br />
the best!)<br />
1.) How To Make like<br />
Neo & ?bullet dodge?<br />
a Debbie-Dow ner<br />
It?s a CHRONIC pattern<br />
where you?re always<br />
there for them, but<br />
As I explain this to you,<br />
You don?t think badly<br />
they never change the<br />
you already have<br />
SOMEONE in mind,<br />
don?t you, Mom<br />
? have postulated that<br />
its totally POSSIBLE to<br />
be authentic to your<br />
of your friend, but she?s<br />
always complaining<br />
about EVERYTHING!<br />
behavior, never take<br />
your advice (and I bet<br />
its some AWESOME<br />
Warrior?<br />
kind nature AND<br />
ADVICE! ) and never lift<br />
protect yourself and<br />
It?s her health. Her<br />
a finger to improve<br />
Maybe smiling a bit<br />
your Family from<br />
friends. Her job. Her<br />
and nodding along?<br />
unnecessary drama.<br />
Husband. (boy do I feel<br />
They can?t be stopped<br />
for THAT guy!)<br />
with Garlic or sunlight,<br />
so to keep you and<br />
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their situation.?<br />
You?re probably all like,<br />
?C?MON! what?s wrong with<br />
you! Just do _______!?<br />
and it leaves you feeling<br />
frustrated and ARRRRRRRR!<br />
(I guess that?s the technical<br />
term for it)<br />
The answer?<br />
?Just become like a gray<br />
rock,? advices the beautiful<br />
and compassionate Doctor.<br />
(hmmmm she must have<br />
had plenty of experience<br />
with these Energy Vamps.)<br />
When your Energy Vamp<br />
starts going on and on<br />
about negativity stuff and<br />
just brushes off your<br />
attempts to comfort her?<br />
? be as dull and<br />
uninteresting as possible<br />
* (I?m sorry, this is going to<br />
be VERY HARD for you to do,<br />
because you are SUPER<br />
exciting and interesting)<br />
?This can be very<br />
challenging at first,? admits<br />
the Doctor, who<br />
understands that it?s<br />
common to have a Family<br />
member who is the E.V.<br />
(what we?ll be calling these<br />
Energy Vamps from now,<br />
since you know how much<br />
we like acronyms) :)<br />
?But you cannot help<br />
anybody from an empty<br />
tank.? Boy, isn?t that the<br />
truth!<br />
2.) How To Have Hat ers<br />
Bounce Right Off Of You<br />
By being ?judo-like?<br />
Susan Forward, PhD, author<br />
of Emotional Blackmail,<br />
says:<br />
?There are many reasons<br />
22<br />
we keep people in our lives who tear<br />
us down or are competitive with us in<br />
a negative way.<br />
But it?s important to STOP<br />
rationalizing that she?s only behaving<br />
that way because she?s stressed or<br />
upset.?<br />
Listen Mom, if her behavior threatens<br />
your dignity, there are no excuses.<br />
Because this ends up affecting your<br />
children as well. And you know that<br />
I?m not cool with that!<br />
Think of your life and how you?re<br />
showing up as one big blueprint for<br />
them to follow for theirs.<br />
How they see YOU absorbing threats<br />
and letting your dignity fall? letting it<br />
steal YOUR joy & love flow?<br />
? is like teaching your children to do<br />
the same.<br />
So w hat do you do?<br />
?Your heart will be pounding, your<br />
palms will be sweating, but next time
negative self-talk, simply ask<br />
yourself ?if I caught someone<br />
else saying this to my child, how<br />
would I react??<br />
If the answer is NOT GOOD, or<br />
all of a sudden the protective<br />
"...I'm going t o do som e<br />
separat ing from you for m y<br />
w ell-being"<br />
Mama Bear comes out? . Then<br />
DON?T SAY IT TO YOURSELF!<br />
No good comes about from it,<br />
my dear!<br />
she dishes it out, garner your<br />
courage and say,<br />
?It?s not okay to talk to me that<br />
way, ? encourages Susan<br />
Forward, PhD.<br />
?Say, ?I?ll give you a chance to<br />
change this behavior, but<br />
failing that, I?m going to have<br />
to do some separating from<br />
you for my well-being. ?<br />
Write that one down and have<br />
that statement handy, okay?<br />
Forward gives one more piece<br />
of advice?<br />
Pay attention to your self-talk<br />
too:<br />
?Negative self-talk like: I won?t<br />
have any friends if I end this<br />
relationship, keeps you from<br />
getting to a healthier place of I<br />
don?t need her approval.?<br />
This ?negative lady-voice within?<br />
seems to be another battle a<br />
Mom Warrior seems destined to<br />
contend with? so stay tuned for<br />
further help on that front.<br />
But let your Coach here give you<br />
this quick tip.<br />
Whenever you ?hear? 7 that<br />
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3.) How To Fight The TRUST<br />
BREAKER Vam pires w it hout<br />
looking foolish.<br />
You?ve got that one friend who?s<br />
always bailing. Always ?busy?<br />
and always something ?coming<br />
up? that she can?t help you out<br />
with or support you on.<br />
Betraying your confidence and<br />
bailing on plans ? yet, you in<br />
your infinite understanding and<br />
caring?<br />
...(that?s one of your awesome<br />
SUPERPOWERS, Mom Warrior!<br />
Don?t let it become one of your
"<br />
"<br />
YOU BEGIN TO BLAME<br />
YOURSELF INTO A PRETZEL<br />
TO TRY TO MAKE IT OKAY<br />
"<br />
undoings! )<br />
You?ll want to open up<br />
book.?<br />
You?re Nervous!<br />
? you keep giving her<br />
second chances.<br />
to this person and<br />
describe how they?ve<br />
hurt you.<br />
It may feel<br />
uncomfortable to stick<br />
to the surface, but its<br />
One of the coolest<br />
lessons my dad<br />
imparted to me was?<br />
Forward chimes in with<br />
her brilliant self,<br />
?Many toxic people<br />
have perfected the art<br />
of seducing us into<br />
trusting them. When<br />
they start to show their<br />
true selves, you begin<br />
to blame yourself into<br />
a pretzel to try to make<br />
it okay.?<br />
They just let you down.<br />
Disappointed you for<br />
the umpteenth time.<br />
your best bet if you<br />
Forward suggests a can?t avoid this<br />
safer response: ?If you person.? (I?m sorry to<br />
keep this person in you for that)<br />
your life, it?s best not to<br />
open up to them or<br />
?You never get into<br />
share intimate details,?<br />
anything too deep, so<br />
she explains.<br />
you?re not telling them<br />
anything that they<br />
?Think of 2 people, could use to disappoint<br />
sitting together, you or break your<br />
drinking tea, discussing trust.?<br />
non-vunerable topics:<br />
?I saw a wonderful 4.) How To St and Up<br />
movie the other night.? To The TAKER<br />
?I just read a great<br />
Vam pires Even If<br />
24<br />
?Son, there?s 2 kinds of<br />
people out there,<br />
givers and takers.<br />
Look to have more<br />
GIVERS in your life, like<br />
your Mother and<br />
Grandmother?<br />
-> and less TAKERS like<br />
(oh? I better not say, I<br />
might get some people<br />
in trouble) ;)<br />
That Daddio of mine<br />
was, and still is, pretty<br />
smart!
to be of service, but then they?re never there for<br />
You know who the takers are in your world, my<br />
you in return.?<br />
brave Mom Warrior: that person who only<br />
appears when she wants something.<br />
Then when you?re ?sucked in? and have your<br />
defenses down?<br />
Favors, advice, m oney, t im e.<br />
? like a Dracula seduction?<br />
they POUNCE and attack!<br />
Maybe that ex from the past that only seemed<br />
to show up when he wanted some.<br />
Whether it?s in the Family, or at a work. Or in<br />
your circle of acquaintances.<br />
(good thing for spell check, I REALLY messed<br />
up that word)<br />
What should you say when she?s coming at you<br />
next time, Mom Warrior?<br />
?These people have ?malignant intuition?,? Says<br />
Dr. Northrup.<br />
?First, state a preferred future,? suggests Shasta<br />
Nelson, author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen<br />
Friendships for Lifelong Health & Happiness.<br />
?They know exactly what you?re longing to hear.<br />
It can be anything from ?you?re such a good<br />
listener!?<br />
to<br />
?I appreciate you looking out for me!?<br />
Or<br />
?I?m so lucky to have you as a friend?<br />
?First, state a preferred future,? suggests Shasta<br />
Nelson<br />
(side note: how AWESOME is that name? ..?Shasta!?<br />
I?m keeping that one in mind for what to name our<br />
daughter! That is if my beautiful bride Bethany<br />
approves)<br />
?They pull you in with a sob story and you want<br />
7 ?For example, you could say, ?I want to feel like<br />
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our relationship has<br />
respect!<br />
Okay, back to SHASTA!<br />
It?s off of you. You?re<br />
equal give-and-take.?<br />
The best way to GET<br />
"<br />
(see, fun to say isn?t it?)<br />
now free of the<br />
burden.<br />
Then express what you<br />
RESPECT is to show<br />
?I have found few<br />
need and invite her to<br />
problem-solve.?<br />
Try: ?I don?t want to be<br />
put in this position<br />
anymore. What can we<br />
do to make our<br />
RESPECT for them?<br />
? and by asking for<br />
their feedback and<br />
thoughts on how to<br />
problem solve,<br />
"<br />
people out there<br />
wanting to maliciously<br />
hurt others, so the<br />
challenge is stating<br />
what you need in a<br />
kind way.?<br />
You don?t control her<br />
"<br />
response, but you CAN<br />
walk away with your<br />
beautiful heart still<br />
open,<br />
"<br />
knowing you just<br />
became your own<br />
hero.<br />
interactions more<br />
balanced?? Says<br />
Nelson.<br />
your loving home<br />
becomes a RESPECT<br />
GROWING GARDEN!<br />
I can?t tell you how<br />
brilliant advice this is<br />
from SHASTA! (oh man,<br />
I want to repeat her<br />
Do you think those 4<br />
weapons will help<br />
against these EV?s?<br />
By the way, with your<br />
Coach here, who here<br />
literally wrote the<br />
Yay!<br />
name 40 more times<br />
and add a little tune<br />
with it)<br />
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Grab your free<br />
share with me what<br />
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sam ple of t his book<br />
After clearly stating<br />
you think of this.<br />
at t he end of t his<br />
where you stand, (this<br />
? that little line works<br />
WONDERS with your<br />
kids! Especially if you<br />
art icle for more key<br />
insights into this 4-part<br />
Magical Parenting<br />
Method I accidentely<br />
discovered that makes<br />
Parenting Peaceful and<br />
Fun!<br />
---<br />
alone is incredible<br />
empowering and<br />
should give you an<br />
energy jolt like drinking<br />
a red bull!)<br />
? the ball is now in her<br />
court.<br />
or if you found some<br />
other ?weapons? that<br />
work, would love to<br />
hear it and share it<br />
with the rest of your<br />
Mom Warriors!<br />
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Thr oughout The Holidays:<br />
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?Tis the season to have<br />
WAY MORE TO DO<br />
than you have energy<br />
for! Worry not...<br />
? your ?energy-expertextraordinaire?Coach<br />
Spiegel here has got<br />
you covered!<br />
Here?s 7 tried and true<br />
?bio-hacks? that will<br />
get you rocking and<br />
revving and getting<br />
people to ask you?<br />
?I don?t know how you<br />
do it all and still have<br />
so much energy!<br />
You?re my hero! :)<br />
1. The m yt h of<br />
t he alm ight y<br />
?w orkout ?<br />
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This<br />
For w hen you need a quick<br />
burst t o get you t hrough<br />
your day!...<br />
Gyms and workouts<br />
and Personal Trainers<br />
standing over you<br />
screaming at you to do<br />
5 more is awesome. For<br />
the vast majority of<br />
people though...<br />
? you don?t need all of<br />
that and to do hours<br />
and hours of cardio and<br />
lifting weights can be<br />
counter-productive if<br />
your body's not used to<br />
it.<br />
Even a short stroll can<br />
give you an extra boost.<br />
In fact, if you?re not<br />
working out now,<br />
starting off walking is<br />
where I recommend<br />
you begin!<br />
Researchers at the<br />
University of Georgia<br />
found that sedentary<br />
people raised their<br />
energy levels by as<br />
much as 20%, and<br />
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DECREASED their<br />
fatigue by 65% after<br />
starting walking just 20<br />
minutes 3 days a week.<br />
Talk about a win-win,<br />
am I right, Mom<br />
Warrior!? And that?s just<br />
3 days a week!<br />
There?s more for you if<br />
you do it DAILY! (Plus,<br />
that walk gives you that<br />
extra boost because<br />
your brain counts it as a<br />
BREAK from the home<br />
tasks) :)<br />
Listen, my brave one,<br />
even if 20 minutes<br />
seems like too much,<br />
something is better<br />
than nothing. Do 15, 10,<br />
or even 5. Go for<br />
whatever you can!<br />
2. You w ere up<br />
lat e last night ,<br />
and it ?s an early<br />
rise t o your day<br />
as usual?<br />
Go on and take your<br />
nice warm shower as<br />
usual? but halfway<br />
through turn that bad<br />
? get that arctic blast<br />
hitting you for a few<br />
seconds and then turn<br />
it back to WARM!<br />
Should be around 30<br />
seconds of pure WHOA<br />
and that?s all it takes!<br />
Once the shock wears<br />
off (just keep breathing<br />
deep and grow some<br />
toughness, Mom<br />
Warrior),<br />
...you?ll feel an<br />
invigorating burst of<br />
energy as blood flows<br />
from your skin surface<br />
to your core to<br />
conserve your vitals<br />
with heat.<br />
This kicks your<br />
circulation into high<br />
gear!<br />
And as an ext ra<br />
bonus, the arctic cold<br />
blast releases a bunch
of endorphins with the increased energy blast!<br />
Which works wonders for your mood and NOT<br />
feeling negative!<br />
Your Coach actually does this daily to build<br />
discipline. Eleanor Roosevelt famously said:<br />
?Do one thing each day that scares you (aka: you<br />
don?t want to do) and that?s how you build<br />
discipline.?<br />
I hop in the shower and go COLD right away with<br />
about 30 seconds. Then turn it to HOT (it feels so<br />
good!) Then before it?s time to leave, I turn it to<br />
cold for about 30 seconds again, and that?s how<br />
the shower ends.<br />
like that to prove a point? the more<br />
GROUNDED they become in their beliefs. But if<br />
it feels good to speak your mind and get it off<br />
your chest? then more POWER to you, Mom<br />
Warrior!<br />
Anyways, here?s what you do: Press your left<br />
nostril with your finger and breath in deep with<br />
your right nostril.<br />
This stimulates blood and oxygen flow to your<br />
LEFT side of your brain, which awakens and<br />
nourishes your brain?s verbal and critical<br />
thinking centers of your brain that reside there.<br />
Good luck! :)<br />
The energy blast and feel good is almost like a<br />
BONUS for me! :)<br />
3.) Your hub?s sibling loves t o t alk polit ics and<br />
everyt hing t hat is w rong w it h societ y and t his<br />
count ry? and you just can?t ?<br />
4.) All t hat sit t ing and<br />
t raveling has w iped you<br />
out !...<br />
Your body was meant to be ?stretched? out and<br />
...First up, way to go on a head?s up play to avoid a<br />
serious energy draining stressful situation! (high<br />
five!)<br />
That?s one of the building blocks in our So Long<br />
Stress Protocol!<br />
Here, this breathing trick will help you feel sharper,<br />
alert and more confident in your beliefs. I adore<br />
how you step up to challenges like this?<br />
? be warned though, today?s political climate is<br />
TOXIC and the more it seems we argue with stuff<br />
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lengthened. To participate in<br />
full motion activities. Not<br />
sitting and tightening all the<br />
time.<br />
This leads to tightness of your<br />
vital movement muscles and<br />
saps your vigor.<br />
?I recommend yoga poses that<br />
lengthen overactive, tight<br />
muscles in the back, sides, and<br />
chest,?says Dana Santas, a<br />
yoga coach and consultant for<br />
elite athletes.<br />
Try this one, which is a favorite<br />
of your Coach?s here (not only<br />
for its benefits but because it?s<br />
tied to a memory of how me<br />
and my beautiful wife met? a<br />
story I?ll tell you about some<br />
other time) ;)<br />
1. Lie flat on your back,<br />
then bring right knee to<br />
your chest.<br />
2. Take your left hand and<br />
pull it to your left and<br />
lay it down there,<br />
feeling the tugs from<br />
your hips to your back.<br />
3. Hold for 5 breaths, release,<br />
and rinse and repeat for the<br />
other side.<br />
5.) Mom needs her<br />
nap and t here?s no<br />
t im e!<br />
? . Stand for a few minutes at a<br />
bright desk lamp or even better,<br />
go outside for a hit of natural light.<br />
?Light is a lot like food,? explains<br />
Norman Rosenthal, M.D. ?You can<br />
only go so long without eating<br />
before you poop out. Similarly,<br />
with light, when you?re feeling<br />
slumpy, you get a boost,? he says.<br />
6.) So m uch dram a<br />
and it ?s so<br />
exhaust ing! Help!<br />
Yup, totally feel you, Mom Warrior.<br />
Here?s what the best do, and you<br />
certainly are no exception to that!<br />
Thank you for NOT adding to the<br />
drama and doing what you can to<br />
bring Peace, Healing, and Light to<br />
the world! Starting with your<br />
Family, of course!<br />
Here?s the simple strategy on what<br />
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to do: Turn off the news. Treat<br />
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negative news and<br />
sensationalist stuff like that like<br />
poison!<br />
Just like you would put big<br />
WARNING labels on bottles of<br />
bleach and instruct your kids<br />
that this isn?t Kool-aid!... the<br />
same you must do with the<br />
stimuli that you?re feeding your<br />
MIND!<br />
Input = Output<br />
People always ask me how I am<br />
always chipper and in a good<br />
mood? it?s because instead of<br />
focusing on everything that is:<br />
WRONG with the world?<br />
? . WRONG with people<br />
? ? . WRONG with their actions<br />
I focus on everything that is<br />
RIGHT and GOOD! (like you!) :)<br />
Turn off the news, watch a goofy<br />
Christmas show instead!
Snuggle with your kids for that 20 minutes and<br />
share with them all your beliefs and stories of<br />
how awesome their future is going to become.<br />
We only have so many minutes of the day and<br />
even one minute that is wasted on getting<br />
sucked into others?reporting of the negatives of<br />
the world just to increase viewership?<br />
...affecting your mood and thoughts from that<br />
point on and how you view the world?<br />
...is a minute that got stolen from your chance<br />
to share your love and joy with your Family and<br />
see the goodness in THEM!<br />
You?ll continue to do what?s right, Mom Warrior,<br />
I believe in you!<br />
7.) Scrooge-like people are a<br />
m orale drain?<br />
"...IS A MINUTE THAT<br />
GOT STOLEN FROM<br />
YOUR CHANCE TO<br />
SHARE YOUR LOVE<br />
AND JOY WITH<br />
YOUR FAMILY...<br />
"<br />
Not calling them names and saying stuff like<br />
?You're such a whiner. You're so dumb! ?<br />
Something happens when we become adults and<br />
it is other adults that are doing their version of<br />
?crying.?<br />
Like in this case, being a scrooge. We blame the<br />
person.<br />
?Wow, what a hole.? or<br />
?That person is MEAN!?<br />
Sometimes we don?t get the full picture. When<br />
my sister had her daughter, Zayah, and she was<br />
a little baby, Zayah did what babies do and she<br />
cried.<br />
Immediatly, Momma-mode kicks in and my Sis<br />
was there to see what was wrong.<br />
Maybe it?s just the situation. Maybe they are just<br />
tired. If they cut you off at the exit, maybe they are<br />
just late for work.<br />
Blame the situation. Maybe they have been<br />
treated like crap their whole life. Blame their past,<br />
if you want.<br />
?Are you hungry? Are you tired? Did you miss<br />
Daddy? Do you have a full diaper??<br />
-- You know the drill. :)<br />
In the meantime, do something considerate, which<br />
gives you an instant feel-good bump and wipes<br />
away energy-sapping stress.<br />
In other words, you as Mother, are blaming<br />
situations and causes for your kiddo?s crying?<br />
...not putting it on the child himself/herself.<br />
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Let a person with only one-item go in front of you<br />
at the grocery check out.
Go help a VINTAGE lady (we don?t call them<br />
?elderly? or ?old? anymore! ) carry her groceries.<br />
That lady with an awesome haircut or beautiful<br />
shoes? .<br />
Love you some lots more in the next one!<br />
-Coach Spiegel<br />
..walk up to her and compliment her on it!<br />
If you?re standing witness to somebody that just<br />
did that, make a mental note of it and say<br />
something to yourself like?<br />
?Wow, there?s good people out there.?<br />
You won?t see stuff like that on the news, but it?s<br />
the POSITIVE stimuli that you choose to let in!<br />
Wow, that was a good article, Mom Warrior. Lots<br />
of cool tricks and hacks to keep your energy going<br />
smoothly this Holiday Season.<br />
Thank you for being great and loving your Family<br />
like you do. To care enough about yourself to give<br />
yourself an energy boost to keep on being the<br />
awesome Warrior you are for your Family.<br />
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HOW TO BEAT<br />
HOLIDAY<br />
STRESS<br />
BURNOUT IN 5<br />
EASY STEPS<br />
By Coach Spiegel<br />
With an ever growing<br />
list of work and family<br />
obligations this time of<br />
year, it?s easy to put<br />
yourself last, my Mom<br />
Warrior.<br />
Well, that?s stopping<br />
right here and now!<br />
Turns out, since you?re<br />
so amazing, you only<br />
need a little bit of time<br />
set aside to<br />
decompress, unwind,<br />
and kick stress to the<br />
curb!<br />
After years and decades<br />
of sacrificing and Moms<br />
mis-believing that the<br />
BEST way to show their So to make ?Me-Time?<br />
love and commitment even more accessible<br />
was through sacrificing this Holiday Season,<br />
their time, happiness, here?s 5 easy ?me-time?<br />
and well-being?<br />
hacks to keep your<br />
energy up and stress<br />
? and seeing the DIRE, down! Keep that Light<br />
burnt-out, sabotaged, that?s in you shining<br />
overwhelming negative ever so bright for your<br />
effects...<br />
friends, family, and<br />
company and keep<br />
kicking butt, Mom<br />
? .. The pendulum is<br />
Warrior!<br />
now swinging the other<br />
way - hence this<br />
Mommy ?Me-time? 1. Take 1 of t hese for<br />
revolution we find your SAWD, and call<br />
ourselves in! Yay for m e in t he m orning!<br />
you!<br />
SAWD = Seasonal Angry<br />
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Woman Disorder :)<br />
Your cure? Mindful<br />
BREATHING!<br />
Isn?t it something that<br />
this is something we all<br />
know intuitively, yet<br />
never really go to as the<br />
first line of defense<br />
when bombarded with<br />
holiday stress?<br />
Even 30 seconds is<br />
huge! Just don?t do this<br />
simple 3 step process<br />
whilst driving!<br />
1.) Place the palms of
"<br />
your hands together in<br />
typical ?prayer? format<br />
(hmmmm, you think<br />
religions know a thing<br />
or 2 about this? )<br />
and bring to center of<br />
your chest so you can<br />
feel your rejuvenating<br />
breath coming in an out<br />
1. Slow breath in, think<br />
of all sorts of healing<br />
colors (like yellow and<br />
purple) coming in.<br />
2.) Sit for a second with<br />
that breath once its in<br />
you, and grab one thing<br />
you?re thankful for with<br />
that awesome brain of<br />
yours.<br />
(need help on that? ?<br />
just imagine some sort<br />
of ?pain? that you USED<br />
to have that no longer<br />
you do? . For example: I<br />
used to be 80 pounds<br />
overweight and<br />
disgusted with myself in<br />
front of mirrors. Now<br />
no longer the case! :)<br />
3. Exhale out, and with<br />
that leaving breath goes<br />
your worry, stress, and<br />
overwhelm.<br />
Rinse and repeat!<br />
2. Priorit ize your<br />
recharge!<br />
You?ve got one for your<br />
phone and you freak<br />
out when the battery<br />
starts blinking low! So<br />
how about you do the<br />
same for you!<br />
That would be your<br />
sleep cycle and it?s one<br />
of your best friends to<br />
continue to fight this<br />
"<br />
...THINK OF ALL<br />
SORTS OF HEALING<br />
COLORS COMING IN<br />
WHEN YOU BREATH<br />
"<br />
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battle and WIN! Set<br />
some hard rules around<br />
your sleep schedule<br />
and stick to it!<br />
3. You?re already<br />
fun so fun<br />
already!...<br />
Our first instinct when<br />
we hear about doing<br />
some ?me-timing? is<br />
typically go party, hang<br />
out with friends, or do<br />
some shopping.<br />
When it should be what<br />
you put into your sleep!<br />
Nothing else will give<br />
you instant payoffs and<br />
"<br />
returns on your<br />
?me-time? investments!<br />
So it?s cool to have a<br />
few drinks this time of<br />
year to be social and all<br />
that. Just do the best<br />
you can to limit your<br />
drinks before bed if you<br />
can.<br />
When alcohol gets<br />
metabolized quickly<br />
before bed, it tosses all<br />
sorts of wrenches in<br />
your sleeping cycle.<br />
Often waking you up<br />
many times throughout<br />
the night without you<br />
even realizing it.<br />
Causing you to feel<br />
zonked the next day.
4. When sugar is not so sw eet<br />
Yikes, there?s those nighttime sugar cravings<br />
again! One small Columbia University study<br />
found that people that consumed a lot of sugar<br />
before bed experienced more nighttime<br />
wake-ups than those who didn?t.<br />
If you have the urge for snack attacks before<br />
bed, shoot for something that doesn?t have such<br />
a high sugar hit. (pun intended) :)<br />
5. Your ?w orry? journal<br />
You know how the mind likes to wonder and<br />
keep buzzing away with all sorts of chatter as we<br />
lay there ready to get to sleep!...<br />
? . Get those thoughts off your awesome mind<br />
and down onto paper!<br />
It?s the strangest thing, Mom, but it?s like those<br />
thoughts are living things.<br />
Living things are at first ?born? in your mind, but<br />
no longer want to stay there. (kinda like a<br />
teenager living at home) :)<br />
and they won?t let you rest easy unless they are<br />
?ALIVE? in the outside world, ESPECIALLY stuff<br />
you?re worried about!<br />
The way they become ?alive? in this regard is<br />
simply to exist on paper or recording of some<br />
sort.<br />
Grab a notebook and pen or pencil and just<br />
unload it all down there.<br />
This isn?t your book.<br />
This isn?t a novel.<br />
This doesn?t need to be some fantastic piece of art<br />
that sets the world on fire with awesomeness<br />
Just get it out of your awesome brain and down on<br />
paper.<br />
All your worries. Big or small. All your holiday<br />
tasks. All your stressors. All your dislikes<br />
PRO TIP: Be sure to put a ?next step? next to each<br />
item. It doesn?t have to be any kind of rock solid<br />
plan, either. Just some sort of ?next step? action to<br />
take one step closer to getting it done.<br />
?Our brains are wired to remember tasks that are<br />
incomplete,? says Shelby Harris Psy.D., director of<br />
behavioral sleep medicine program at the<br />
Sleep-Wake Disorders Center.<br />
Writing down even one TEENY-TINY thing you can<br />
do takes those thoughts and worries off of repeat.<br />
Now off you go to crush that worry, avoid that<br />
burnout and better enjoy this time of the year<br />
when feel good and happy memories are to be<br />
made! :)<br />
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M other On,<br />
M ighty M om Warrior!<br />
M other On!<br />
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Special Thanks & Special Place In Our<br />
Hearts To:<br />
Nicole!<br />
...For loving her kiddos like you do!<br />
..... for being brave and courageous when in<br />
the face of doing what is right!<br />
....... and sharing your talents and gifts with<br />
the world!<br />
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