November '18

Issue 3 | November 2018
M om Warrior
An Empowering PREMIUM Magazine
How To
Safely
Break
Free
From
Energy
" Vam pires"
For The Tired, Stressed But Loving Mom
Nicole!
World's Coolest
Hula-Hooper!
H er Fl at Stom ach
AND
Str ess-Bu sti n g
Secr et!
The Mist ake
of Telling
Your Child...
"I LOVE YOU
ALL THE
SAME" ...
That Adds
To Their
Sibling
Rivalry &
Fight ing
YOUR GUIDE TO
St ress-Free
7 Easy Tricks
For POWER-UP
Energy When
Tiredness Hit s
How To Beat
Holiday
Burnout !
Holidays!
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CONTENTS
Our Cover Model Mom Hero...
M om Warrior
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Your Featured Presentations...
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Nicole,Who just happens to be my little sister!... is one of the most
charming, enduring persons ever! Her world is awash in stress and
overwhelm, being a single Mom and all. And yet the stress bounces off of
her as if she was BULLETPROOF! Check out her reason on how she's
doing it!
Your Fighting Tiredness Weapon
"How To Safely Break Free From Energy
" Vam pires"
Coach Spiegel, BTSM
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7 Easy Tricks For POWER-UP ENERGY
Coach Spiegel, BTSM
Fighting H oliday Stress
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How To Beat Holiday Burnout
Coach Spiegel, BTSM
Your Weapon To Fight Parenting Stress
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The Mistake Of The "I LOVE YOU ALL THE SAME"
Coach Spiegel, BTSM
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FOUNDER'S NOTE
Tis The Season, To Be a Mom Warrior!
Click Here To
List en To It !
Have you seen
Incredibles 2 yet?
What did you think?
Your Coach here LOVED
it! And it?s such a great
indication of the
changing times?
? a showing of the
?covered-up? potential
that is the woman of
today.
That is YOU!
It?s cool because you
are finally being
recognized and getting
light shown on all that
you do. I hope you are
given recognition for it
by those around you.
and all that non-stop
cleaning!
Dad helped out too in
equally important ways,
only it seemed more
overlooked and
therefore taken for
granted.
A bit more ?behind the
scenes? if you will...
- bringing home
f not, you at least have
the bacon
me, Mom Warrior!
- Fixing the cars
- Building the
Even though in that
house and fixing
movie it was Elasti-girl
EVERYTHING
that was off saving the
when it broke
world while Dad stayed
- Keeping the roof
home and kept things
from leaking
in check, for me that
- Made sure his
seemed like my Mom
guns were
growing up. Only she
running good to
did the home stuff too!
protect us from
bears, burglars,
Brought us to all our
or zombies! ;)
games and
extra-curricular
activities.
Helped us out with our
homework, cooked
meals, paid the bills,
laundry, took us clothes
and school shopping? 7
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It?s kinda like Batman
gets all the glory for
defeating the bad guys,
while Alfred, his butler
stays home, keeps
Batman fed, pays the
bills, and fixes and
maintains all his
gadgets, Batmobile,
Bat-cycle, and Bat-wing.
(you should start
naming all your stuff
after ?Mom? since
you?re a superhero too!
Like, Mom-mobile,
Mom-cycle, and
Mom-wing? . Although
that last one sounds a
little iffy. :)
You certainly deserve
the spotlight and
appreciation for all that
you do, Mom?
especially with how

EASY you make it look!
Please point it out to your kiddos all those that are
helping them succeed that aren?t as obvious.
"
(I like that line in that in that Incredibles 2 movie
that showed a tv commercial for some recipe and
the lady goes
"
?So easy, even HE can do it!)
So as we venture forth, let?s not only give thanks for
the obvious contributors in our life, but also for the
quiet ones.
With tiredness taking over and stress having control
of your thoughts and emotions, it makes it all but
impossible to see these hidden contributors.
ESPECIALLY this time of year.
That?s why this issue is action-packed with easy
hacks and how-to?s to win this war at this most
vulnerable time.
Mr. Incredible actually gave you a HUGE hint as to
one of the most effective things you can do to keep
holiday stress at bay.
After finishing this issue, see if you can guess what
that secret is!
See you on the inside, Momma Dearest!
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When Your Child Asks:
?Who do you love BEST??...
... The Dam aging Mist ake
of Answ ering Wit h?
? ?I Love You All The Same?
Click Here If
You'd Rat her
List en To It !
She couldn?t believe Our Mom Hero was
w hat just cam e out an only child.
of her daught er ?s
m out h.
It was one of her
biggest pains not
It took everything she having a brother or
had to keep her sister growing up.
?horrify-ness? from
She would see the
showing. (that?s a
relationships others
word now)
had and she longed
for that.
So upon finding her
true love and having
their first child,
Dana?
? she thought she
was doing her a big
favor by having little
Kelly.
She couldn?t believe
that she was naive
enough to think they
would automatically
get along.
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And they actually did
-- for a bit. Until Kelly
started walking and
talking and more able
to interact with their
world.
The moment the two
woke up, until they
went to bed, they
both seemed
destined for one
purpose?
? MAKE EACH
OTHER?S LIVES
MISERABLE!

Not with your big ugly teeth
and fat body. How can anyone
love someone so ugly??
Mom was mortified.
Our Mom Hero kept telling
herself, ?it?ll get better as they
get older? . it?ll get better as
they get older? . They?ll grow out
of it?
If anything, it?s only gotten
worse. :(
Kelly is now 5 and Dana is 8.
Everything that Kelly has,
Dana wants.
If Kelly notices that Mom
spent 1 extra minute with
Kelly reading her a bedtime
story, she hears about it.
They can?t get within 2 feet of
each other without kicking,
hitting, bickering, whining,
complaining, tattling, or
screaming...
?MOOOOM! She w on?t let
m e ____ (fill in t he blank!) __"
They both kept coming up to
their Mom and asking,
?Why did you have to have
her? Why couldn?t I have been
an only child? I wish that she
had never been born!?
And that evening just as there
was a break in the fighting as
they were brushing their teeth
getting ready for bed,
...that?s when Dana said
something to her sister that
broke her Mom?s heart?
? Kelly had just finished
brushing her teeth and was
putting her toothbrush back.
With that Dana snapped...
?Why don?t you take your
toothbrush and leave.
Nobody here loves you
anyhow.
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Where did such
cruelt y com e from ?
Where did she learn such
meanness!? Certainly not from
her!
She paid extra effort to being
as equal as she could.
Our Mom Hero was at her
wit?s end. Chaos filled the day.
She was feeling like she was
failing her children.
No matter what she did, what
she said, they would use it as
ammo to attack the other.
All she wanted was peace.
Peace and to have her kiddos
get along. To not be messed
up for the rest of their
respective lives.
Our Mom Hero remembered
watching one of her favorite
shows growing up called

?Sisters?.
What amazing relationships
and best friends all those
sisters became when they
were all grown up.
She feared that that will
never happen with her girls
at their current rate.
She just didn?t know what to
do anymore. She would
separate them when it got
out of hand.
But that only seemed to
temporarily take care of the
problem as it was
impossible to keep them
away from each other
forever.
She just didn?t know what
the appropriate discipline
should be. She
remembered when she was
little with her brother. When
they were caught fighting and
her mother would simply make
them ?kiss and make up?.
Which seemed to do nothing.
She had enough. Her children
deserved more. They deserved
to grow up with loving
relationships all around? not in
fear and conflict of their
siblings.
She thought of how much
better she could parent and
love without so much stress
and chaos going on.
Ever the action taker, our Mom
Hero set out on a Mission.
- She bought every book
she could find on the
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subject
- She mailed in
questions to ?Experts?
in magazines and
newspapers
- She talked to any friend
of hers whose kids
never seemed to fight.
- She pulled up good ol?
Google and set off
down the fun Internet
rabbit trail.
Mom on a Mission!... on a
Mission to save her children!
Nothing is sweeter nor more
beautiful!
What a sight you are to
behold when you are in that
action-taking awesomeness,
my dear Mom Warrior
Reader! :)
In her search she came

"
"
OUR MOM HERO
LOVES PIZZA...
across a very
interesting secret. A
secret about this
?stuff? we call LOVE.
And that secret is:
There Is No One
LOVE.
LOVE is not the same.
There are many
forms of it. Our Mom
Hero Loves pizza. It?s
not the same Love
she has for her
daughters.
Our Mom Hero Loves
the movie ?Mamma
Mia?.
That?s not the same
Love she has for her
husband.
The Love she has for
her own Mother, the
kids?Grandma, that
Love is different than
the Love she feels for
her kiddos.
Even her own
husband? that Love
she has for him has
changed and
morphed as the years
wore on.
No, Love is not equal.
Because Love is
unique. It?s like it has
its own unique
algorithmic code
depending on the
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...IT'S NOT THE SAME
LOVE SHE HAS FOR
HER DAUGHTERS
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person and situation.
That?s the secret.
There is no ONE Love.
To attempt to show
Love to each of her
children EQUALLY, is
a gross
misunderstanding of
Love.
Just as is her Love for
her husband varies
greatly from her
children, so does the
Love differ from one
child to the next.
As she discovered this
secret and applied it
to her parenting?
? . it made all sorts of
"
differences in how
she responded to
their attempts to
?One-up? the other in
the competition for
their Mother?s Love.
?Who do you Love
more, Mommy? Me or
her?? her daughter
would ask.
Before she discovered
this secret she would
respond with
?I love you all t he
sam e.?
Or
?You?re all my
favorite?
-or-

?I?ve told you a hundred times
that I love you all equally?
And it did little to appease
either one of them.
Sometimes it even made
matters worse.
Now she discovered this
Secret about Love.
When her child asks that now,
with confidence and full belief
in the Power of Her Love? she
expertly responds with:
?I love you all UNIQUELY.?
than me!? she screamed
?No I didn?t. I gave her 3 and I
gave you 3! Keep complaining
and you?ll get ZERO!?
?But her strips are BIGGER!
You love her more than me,
don?t you!??
?That?s not true at all! You know
better! I made sure to make
them all the same length. And
you know I love you all the
same!
I?ve told you a million times!
Now eat your breakfast before it
gets cold!?
Opport unit ies t o
becom e a m ore
loving, connect ed,
happy Family were stolen
from them.
"
A chance to make a fun, fond
memory for Dana, Kelly, or
their brave Mom Hero were
whisked away like a thief in
the night?
To Love equally and try to be
?fair? with her Love and
interactions before was
stressful.
She spent so much of her
waking efforts trying to be
?equal and fair?. At lunchtime
the other day, before she
discovered this Secret?
? Kelly would look at Dana?s
plate and see that she had
MORE strips of bacon?
?MOM! You gave her more
Yup, my dear Reader. This was
a pretty typical exchange. The
kind that before would drive
our poor Mom Hero NUTS!
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? because she didn?t know
about this Secret about Love.
Each Mother?s love for her
child exists in a VACUUM all on
its own, seperate and away
from any other outside
factors?
? including the other Loves
for any other child...

? ? ? Husband,
? ? . Pizza :)
? . Or Mamma Mia
movies
And that Love comes
from a Source that is
Unlimited. There?s no
?battery? on the
power of that Love.
Now after discovering
this Secret, she looks
at each of her
children as
individuals.
Not Love that comes
from the big same
pot and flows to
another like a stream
tethered to other
streams.
But rather Love that is
unique and special
only for them. Flows
on it?s own path from
that limitless pot.
Our Mom Hero, now
armed with this
Secret, sat next to her
Kelly having just
finished up reading a
bedtime story to her,
when the Little one
asked?
?I?m your favorit e,
aren?t I, Mom ??
Our Mom Hero
replied with,
?Each of you is
special to me. In the
whole wide world, all
the billions of people.
You are the only
Kelly.
Your face.
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Your feelings.
Your wonderful smile.
Your thoughts.
The good, kind, giving
person you are
becoming.
You are the only you,
Kelly.
I?m so honored and
glad that you?re my
daughter. And I feel
so blessed to be your
Mother.?
Beautiful words,
aren?t they, my
Reader?
Words that serve as
signals to her
UNIQUE Love she
has for Kelly.
She steps on over to
Dana?s bed and
shares much the
?same? thing she just
did with Kelly.
Only it?s Dana?s
unique Love that she
describes.
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From one of her
books she discovered
on her Mission, she
came across this
exercise that I?ll share
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with you here.
Us humans are
SUPER visual learners,
so to really hit this
Secret home in her
kiddos?brains, they
together did this:
Our Mom Hero
brought home 5
candles. A big one
and then 4 smaller
ones.
She gave each
member of their
Family a smaller one.
One for her, one for
Dad, and one for each
of the girls.
Then Mom lit the big
one.
Our Mom Hero said:
?These candles
represent our family,

still has all my Love too!
Just like that fire you see
dancing on that candle is
unique, so is the Love you
have from me is Special and
unique just for you, Dana.
and that big one there
represents God?s love?
(you can replace ?God?with
the Universe or whatever
Higher Power you believe in,
Mom Warrior? this story?s
Mom Hero happens to be
Christian)
Mom Hero then took her
candle and said
?When I married your
handsome Father here...
(Dad liked being called
?handsome? by his beautiful
wife, so she made it a point to
work it in whenever she could )
:)
? I gave him all of my Love --
and look! I still have ALL of my
love left!?
And if you want the truth, my
Little One, my candle should
have grown BIGGER the more
Love I give you, your sister,
and your Daddy?
but they don?t make magic
candles that do that.?
To that all the family giggled.
? :)
Holding now her candle to
her second daughter, our
Mom Hero said this,
?this is the Mommy
Candle.?
Then set it to the big one
and lit it.
?This flame represents my
Love.?
She then went over to
Daddy and as she lit his
candle with hers she said,
Dad smiled and Mom Hero
then went to Dana?s candle she
was holding. As she was lighting
Dana?s candle, she said to her
?When you were born, I gave
you all of my love. My candle is
just fine. I still have all of my
love.
And see over there?... 7 Daddy
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?Then your sister was born. I
gave her all of my love too.
But Look! -- you still have all
of my Love.
Daddy still has all of my
Love.
And I still have all of my
Love.

Her Love from me became unique and special too! Just like it has for you and Daddy!
Now imagine this, Dana, you now have your candle representing your Love.
If you give it to your sister. Give it to me or your Father, as I have for you? YOUR candle will
only grow bigger!
Because that?s how Love works!
Isn?t it FUN to have so much Love? Doesn?t it feel good!??
Both Dana and Kelly nodded along with big smiles on their faces as Mom Hero asked.
Even Husband nodded along a bit, watching his wife and feeling so thankful for the
magnificent woman he married.
He was so proud of the amazing Mother she has become for their children.
Our Mom Hero continued...
?Love never runs out. We?ll still have all of our Love left no matter how much we give it
because that?s the way love is.?
Now your turn, dear Mom Warrior Reader. Go give of your Love UNIQUELY.
This Secret you just discovered, although a VERY POWERFUL piece,
? is a part of this revolutionary new method I accidentily discovered that ends the sibling
bickering,
fighting,
arguing,
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complaining and chaos FAST...
"
...Without needing to have a child psychology degree. :)
Called the Sibling Sanity & Peace Protocol?
This Is That Better Way You
Are Looking For, Mom
"
If you would like a free look at how this entire magical Method goes down, I recommend you
click below or go to
www.happyhomesecret.com/peace
And claim your free ?mini-workbook? - a 61 page guide through using this Protocol to help
your kids STOP bickering, fighting and arguing and have more Sanity & Peace for you!
Yes! Give Me My Free Workbook!
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Nicole!
The Hula-Hooping
Goddess Mom Her o!
Her Secret On How She
Stays So Thin, Healthy, &
Stress Free Through The
A dventure Of Single
Parenting
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L isten To The
I nterview H ere!
- hula-hooping for the last 13 years.
- Mom of 2
- And divorced now for 5 years
1:40 - This Mom Hero reveals her first secret
to being a Stress-Busting Master? found a
healt hy dist ract ion. Took it up,
(hula-hooping), enjoyed it, and never looked
back!
3:45 - She mentions when her brother (me!)
was last with her visiting in Seattle
Nicole is a bright shining star of this world. A
beacon of unbridled energy and smiles.
She also just happens to be my SISTER!
I?m super excited for you to experience her
awesomeness, my Mom Warrior reader!
Despite living in a constant spin of stress
thanks to 2 kiddos in their element and
going at it as a single parent? stress seems
to bounce off of as if she is bulletproof.
4:50 - Amazing Mom Hero quote time!.... ?All
Learning And Growing & Facing Challenges?
5:47 - ?Encourage Them To Enjoy Life, Work
Hard, and Be Who They Are? -- LOVE this
perspective and approach about Parenting!
6:18 - Her first bit of struggle! Something to
laugh about YEARS from now. How her littlest
one struggles a bit taking ?forever? to get out
the door in the morning!
She shares a few of her secrets and how she
does it here! Prepare yourself though, Mom
Warrior, her words will rock you and leave
you proud to be a Mom!
Her int erview 's play by play
breakdow n!:
First couple of minutes: her backstory?
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"
A ll L earning &
Growing & Facing
Challenges
"
Oh, those morning
out the door routines!
7:33 - Our first
Coaching moment! I
know you worry
about them
?negative?
interactions with your
child like yelling and
scolding. As long as
the good you do
outnumbers the
?bad? 5:1, your kiddo
will be okay! And
chances are will NOT
be screwed up for life
;)
There?s no QUALITY of
interaction? it is all
QUANTITY. All
interactions are
created the same.
Whether it is an
awesome vacation, or
a drive to school, they
are weighted the
same in their cute
little brains.
8:29 - ?Oh yeah, she?s
got some spunk and
spirit? Great quote by
Nicole the Great
about her Johannah!
8:44 - This Mom Hero
shares one of her
coolest secrets for
helping with her
?spirited? child!
9:51 - Nicole shares
her thoughts on what
it?s like going at it
single parent style!
10:33 - I ask, ?What
was it like growing up
with me as your big
brother??
11:59 - Johannah is
turning into a little
roller skating
princess!
12:32 - She doesn?t
remember me being
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cruel to her! Yay! (I
"
was a little bit, just big
brother picking-ons
stuff, nothing too
serious) :)
13:45 - this Mom
Hero?s biggest
stressors these
days!? .
15:46 - how she has
so much ENERGY!...
16:44 - ?My body has
a go-mode, and I just
KEEP GOING!?
17:50 - ?I want them
to have good coping
mechanisms?
amazing Mom Hero
quote!... then follows
for the next few
minutes on all her
tools she uses to keep
teaching them
awesome coping
skills!
20:40 - Nicole reveals
one of the
foundational TRUTHS
"
of what it means to
be a Mom?
?They Look Up To
Me? they are into
what I am into?
That is just pure gold
TRUTH, Mom Warrior!
Your kiddos will more
about how to show
up in life based on
how you are showing
up! They model after
you!
21:02 - One of my
favorite parts of this
interview? Our Mom
Hero Nicole talks
about what her
kiddos do that make
her PROUD!
22:22 - Another
Coaching moment
from your Coach
here!... Listen up if
your child struggles
with any sort of
?disability? because

"
They L ook Up To
M e... They are
I nto What I A m
I nto
"
everyone should read
"
at least once?
>> The Secret
Teaching Of Plants
A book you?d like your
kids to read! >>
Bearenstein Bears!
this is NOT the last 29:59 - here?s how she
time you?ll hear about makes it through the
2.) You open up your
me talk about this big day!
car, and there?s bags
mistake we are doing
of cash sitting there,
when it comes to 30:18 - she focuses and a note which says
?disabilities? on what she DOES ?Enjoy?... what do you
have, not on what she do?
23:56 - ?They may be doesn?t, Mom. A not
different but they are so cool way to have >>> TRAVEL! And buy
not alone?
LOTS of stress is to go
a house!
about your day and
24:14 - I ask, ?What let your thoughts
kind of people do you wander towards
think they will grow everything you DON?T
up to become?? You?ll have. Not cool!
LOVE her answer!
31:28 - how she
25:48 - She shares her defeated depression!
best tips for STRESS
RELIEF!
33:48? thus begins
the Rapid Mom
27:44 - Dare I say this Warrior 7 Round!
is one of Nicole?s
SUPER POWERS! She 1.) A book that has
has THIS as her made the most
default setting each difference in your
day!
world you believe 7
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3.) Your flat is on fire,
kids and everyone is
safe, but you have
enough time to run in
and get one thing.
What is it?
"
>>> My clothes, my
laptop, my journals!
4.) You?re sitting on a
bench overlooking
the beach. Someone
sitting next to you
that you can have a
conversation with. It
can be anybody living
or dead. Who is that
person?

The Love Poet, Rumi? ?love is such an interesting thing to me? -she says
"
DID I DO GOOD
WITH THE POWERS
& GIFTS OUR
MAKER ENTRUSTED
ME WITH?
5.) You?re kidnapped, and you can send one letter back home towards your kids? what?s on it?
>>> I Love You, and be brave and strong, and everything will work out.
"
6.) You get to go back in time and give your 20 year old self some advice, what do you say to
I tell them each day how much they mean to me.
her?
>>> That everything will be okay. Just be it. Travel more and not rush things.
7.) All great people can have their life summed up in 1 sentence? what?s yours?
Focus on t he joy. Let the ebb n flow happen. Find the juicy parts of life and just be there!
Me: Your kids are listening to this years from now, what would you like to say to them?
Mom Hero Nicole: They are amazing. I am so proud of them. We are growing together as a
Family.
And we make mistakes and we learn from them. And I won?t ever stop learning and growing
they shouldn?t either.
And if you fall down, you get back up.
* - great job, Nicole! Thank you for passing on your Greatness to your fellow Mom Warriors and
loving and caring for your kiddos like you do!
Keep fighting on, their futures are worth it!
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LOVE or are okay with? but feel
FORCED to interact with. Think
on Everybody
Loves Raymond and her Mother
in law.
And when interacting with these
You have 4 cat egories of
people in your life, Mom
Warrior.
with and you?d be just fine
NEVER seeing them again!
Maybe it?s a boss letting you
people? afterwards we just feel
completely drained and
exhausted.
1.) There?s people you love, and
love to be around MOST of the
time.
2.) Then there?s people that are
okay. Just sort of there, if you
catch my meaning.
3.) Then there?s the
holes.
People you want NOTHING to do
have it and throwing you under
the bus. (I can totally relate with
you if that?s the case)
But it?s actually this LAST
category you need to be wary of
if you value having your energy
to play with your kids and
protect your family? .
4.) there?s people that we like,
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Oh Mom , w hat a
w onderful being
you are.

You?re so magnificent
beautiful, you feel
compliment
(Being YOUNG
and amazing. People
obligated to oblige.
LOOKING is one of the
should be feeling
(whoa, good play on
benefits of breaking
LUCKY to even be in
words there, don?t you
free from these Energy
your presence!
think?)
Vampires.)
You deserve to be
surrounded by those
encourage you.
That champion you.
That cherish your
efforts and
awesomeness. You?re
such a good person.
And I so appreciate
that love and care you
put towards your
family. It will be okay.
This 4th category of
People are USING you,
Mom Warrior.
Using you for their own
selfish gains.
And because you?re so
wonderful and
Think on your life now, ? .Hey! Do you think
there?s people that this whole turning
leave you feeling monsters into ?sexy
Exhausted. Hurt. cool? symbols will
Disappointed.
transfer over to
Frustrated.
ZOMBIES?.... yeah,
maybe not) :)
They are probably
good people but
there?s these certain
people that
tend to leave you These Energy Vampires
feeling depleted and
are people that FEED
thinking twice about
on empathetic
answering them the attention, explains the
next time they call.
young-looking
Christiane Northup,
M.D., author of
No offense to them, we
Dodging Energy
call these people
Vampires.
Energy Vampires?
(although with how
sexy and cool vampires
have become, maybe
that?s more of a
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?Energy vampires
target empaths and
caring people because
they carry a lot of
LIGHT from traits like
compassion, loyalty
and a desire to be of
service and make the
world a better place?
(I?d say that?s totally
YOU, Mom Warrior!)
For whatever
complicated reasons,
they can?t manufacture
this Light on their own,
so they FEED off of
yours.
And because you care
so much for everyone
around you, it?s tough
to walk away ? even
from those who

epeatedly cause you
pain.?
? the good Doctor
goes on to explain.
Good.
Awareness of these
Vamps is the first step,
and the GREAT news is
I LOVE this analogy she
that experts like your
paints for you here:
Coach here postulate...
your Family safe,
The weather. The
?Think of your body as
a battery with a
powerful electrical
signal coming from
your big,
compassionate heart,?
she says.
?Your battery is literally
(that?s what us experts
do, is we say ?smart
sounding words? like
?postulate?so that you?ll
think us real smart,
even though I?m not!
Just a guy with an
empathetic heart like
channel your inner Van
Helsing and use any
one of these 4
?weapons?.
Your 4 Easy-To-Wield
?Weapons? Fight ing
off t hese Energy
Vam ps:
Packers.
The good Doctor
Northrup adds:
?This is different than
from someone else
that is depressed or is
reaching out for help.
being drained over and
over because these
people do not change?
yours that believes
Moms & Grandmas are
the best!)
1.) How To Make like
Neo & ?bullet dodge?
a Debbie-Dow ner
It?s a CHRONIC pattern
where you?re always
there for them, but
As I explain this to you,
You don?t think badly
they never change the
you already have
SOMEONE in mind,
don?t you, Mom
? have postulated that
its totally POSSIBLE to
be authentic to your
of your friend, but she?s
always complaining
about EVERYTHING!
behavior, never take
your advice (and I bet
its some AWESOME
Warrior?
kind nature AND
ADVICE! ) and never lift
protect yourself and
It?s her health. Her
a finger to improve
Maybe smiling a bit
your Family from
friends. Her job. Her
and nodding along?
unnecessary drama.
Husband. (boy do I feel
They can?t be stopped
for THAT guy!)
with Garlic or sunlight,
so to keep you and
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their situation.?
You?re probably all like,
?C?MON! what?s wrong with
you! Just do _______!?
and it leaves you feeling
frustrated and ARRRRRRRR!
(I guess that?s the technical
term for it)
The answer?
?Just become like a gray
rock,? advices the beautiful
and compassionate Doctor.
(hmmmm she must have
had plenty of experience
with these Energy Vamps.)
When your Energy Vamp
starts going on and on
about negativity stuff and
just brushes off your
attempts to comfort her?
? be as dull and
uninteresting as possible
* (I?m sorry, this is going to
be VERY HARD for you to do,
because you are SUPER
exciting and interesting)
?This can be very
challenging at first,? admits
the Doctor, who
understands that it?s
common to have a Family
member who is the E.V.
(what we?ll be calling these
Energy Vamps from now,
since you know how much
we like acronyms) :)
?But you cannot help
anybody from an empty
tank.? Boy, isn?t that the
truth!
2.) How To Have Hat ers
Bounce Right Off Of You
By being ?judo-like?
Susan Forward, PhD, author
of Emotional Blackmail,
says:
?There are many reasons
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we keep people in our lives who tear
us down or are competitive with us in
a negative way.
But it?s important to STOP
rationalizing that she?s only behaving
that way because she?s stressed or
upset.?
Listen Mom, if her behavior threatens
your dignity, there are no excuses.
Because this ends up affecting your
children as well. And you know that
I?m not cool with that!
Think of your life and how you?re
showing up as one big blueprint for
them to follow for theirs.
How they see YOU absorbing threats
and letting your dignity fall? letting it
steal YOUR joy & love flow?
? is like teaching your children to do
the same.
So w hat do you do?
?Your heart will be pounding, your
palms will be sweating, but next time

negative self-talk, simply ask
yourself ?if I caught someone
else saying this to my child, how
would I react??
If the answer is NOT GOOD, or
all of a sudden the protective
"...I'm going t o do som e
separat ing from you for m y
w ell-being"
Mama Bear comes out? . Then
DON?T SAY IT TO YOURSELF!
No good comes about from it,
my dear!
she dishes it out, garner your
courage and say,
?It?s not okay to talk to me that
way, ? encourages Susan
Forward, PhD.
?Say, ?I?ll give you a chance to
change this behavior, but
failing that, I?m going to have
to do some separating from
you for my well-being. ?
Write that one down and have
that statement handy, okay?
Forward gives one more piece
of advice?
Pay attention to your self-talk
too:
?Negative self-talk like: I won?t
have any friends if I end this
relationship, keeps you from
getting to a healthier place of I
don?t need her approval.?
This ?negative lady-voice within?
seems to be another battle a
Mom Warrior seems destined to
contend with? so stay tuned for
further help on that front.
But let your Coach here give you
this quick tip.
Whenever you ?hear? 7 that
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3.) How To Fight The TRUST
BREAKER Vam pires w it hout
looking foolish.
You?ve got that one friend who?s
always bailing. Always ?busy?
and always something ?coming
up? that she can?t help you out
with or support you on.
Betraying your confidence and
bailing on plans ? yet, you in
your infinite understanding and
caring?
...(that?s one of your awesome
SUPERPOWERS, Mom Warrior!
Don?t let it become one of your

"
"
YOU BEGIN TO BLAME
YOURSELF INTO A PRETZEL
TO TRY TO MAKE IT OKAY
"
undoings! )
You?ll want to open up
book.?
You?re Nervous!
? you keep giving her
second chances.
to this person and
describe how they?ve
hurt you.
It may feel
uncomfortable to stick
to the surface, but its
One of the coolest
lessons my dad
imparted to me was?
Forward chimes in with
her brilliant self,
?Many toxic people
have perfected the art
of seducing us into
trusting them. When
they start to show their
true selves, you begin
to blame yourself into
a pretzel to try to make
it okay.?
They just let you down.
Disappointed you for
the umpteenth time.
your best bet if you
Forward suggests a can?t avoid this
safer response: ?If you person.? (I?m sorry to
keep this person in you for that)
your life, it?s best not to
open up to them or
?You never get into
share intimate details,?
anything too deep, so
she explains.
you?re not telling them
anything that they
?Think of 2 people, could use to disappoint
sitting together, you or break your
drinking tea, discussing trust.?
non-vunerable topics:
?I saw a wonderful 4.) How To St and Up
movie the other night.? To The TAKER
?I just read a great
Vam pires Even If
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?Son, there?s 2 kinds of
people out there,
givers and takers.
Look to have more
GIVERS in your life, like
your Mother and
Grandmother?
-> and less TAKERS like
(oh? I better not say, I
might get some people
in trouble) ;)
That Daddio of mine
was, and still is, pretty
smart!

to be of service, but then they?re never there for
You know who the takers are in your world, my
you in return.?
brave Mom Warrior: that person who only
appears when she wants something.
Then when you?re ?sucked in? and have your
defenses down?
Favors, advice, m oney, t im e.
? like a Dracula seduction?
they POUNCE and attack!
Maybe that ex from the past that only seemed
to show up when he wanted some.
Whether it?s in the Family, or at a work. Or in
your circle of acquaintances.
(good thing for spell check, I REALLY messed
up that word)
What should you say when she?s coming at you
next time, Mom Warrior?
?These people have ?malignant intuition?,? Says
Dr. Northrup.
?First, state a preferred future,? suggests Shasta
Nelson, author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen
Friendships for Lifelong Health & Happiness.
?They know exactly what you?re longing to hear.
It can be anything from ?you?re such a good
listener!?
to
?I appreciate you looking out for me!?
Or
?I?m so lucky to have you as a friend?
?First, state a preferred future,? suggests Shasta
Nelson
(side note: how AWESOME is that name? ..?Shasta!?
I?m keeping that one in mind for what to name our
daughter! That is if my beautiful bride Bethany
approves)
?They pull you in with a sob story and you want
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our relationship has
respect!
Okay, back to SHASTA!
It?s off of you. You?re
equal give-and-take.?
The best way to GET
"
(see, fun to say isn?t it?)
now free of the
burden.
Then express what you
RESPECT is to show
?I have found few
need and invite her to
problem-solve.?
Try: ?I don?t want to be
put in this position
anymore. What can we
do to make our
RESPECT for them?
? and by asking for
their feedback and
thoughts on how to
problem solve,
"
people out there
wanting to maliciously
hurt others, so the
challenge is stating
what you need in a
kind way.?
You don?t control her
"
response, but you CAN
walk away with your
beautiful heart still
open,
"
knowing you just
became your own
hero.
interactions more
balanced?? Says
Nelson.
your loving home
becomes a RESPECT
GROWING GARDEN!
I can?t tell you how
brilliant advice this is
from SHASTA! (oh man,
I want to repeat her
Do you think those 4
weapons will help
against these EV?s?
By the way, with your
Coach here, who here
literally wrote the
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Thr oughout The Holidays:
Your
Easy Ener gy Power -Ups!
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?Tis the season to have
WAY MORE TO DO
than you have energy
for! Worry not...
? your ?energy-expertextraordinaire?Coach
Spiegel here has got
you covered!
Here?s 7 tried and true
?bio-hacks? that will
get you rocking and
revving and getting
people to ask you?
?I don?t know how you
do it all and still have
so much energy!
You?re my hero! :)
1. The m yt h of
t he alm ight y
?w orkout ?
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This
For w hen you need a quick
burst t o get you t hrough
your day!...
Gyms and workouts
and Personal Trainers
standing over you
screaming at you to do
5 more is awesome. For
the vast majority of
people though...
? you don?t need all of
that and to do hours
and hours of cardio and
lifting weights can be
counter-productive if
your body's not used to
it.
Even a short stroll can
give you an extra boost.
In fact, if you?re not
working out now,
starting off walking is
where I recommend
you begin!
Researchers at the
University of Georgia
found that sedentary
people raised their
energy levels by as
much as 20%, and
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DECREASED their
fatigue by 65% after
starting walking just 20
minutes 3 days a week.
Talk about a win-win,
am I right, Mom
Warrior!? And that?s just
3 days a week!
There?s more for you if
you do it DAILY! (Plus,
that walk gives you that
extra boost because
your brain counts it as a
BREAK from the home
tasks) :)
Listen, my brave one,
even if 20 minutes
seems like too much,
something is better
than nothing. Do 15, 10,
or even 5. Go for
whatever you can!
2. You w ere up
lat e last night ,
and it ?s an early
rise t o your day
as usual?
Go on and take your
nice warm shower as
usual? but halfway
through turn that bad
? get that arctic blast
hitting you for a few
seconds and then turn
it back to WARM!
Should be around 30
seconds of pure WHOA
and that?s all it takes!
Once the shock wears
off (just keep breathing
deep and grow some
toughness, Mom
Warrior),
...you?ll feel an
invigorating burst of
energy as blood flows
from your skin surface
to your core to
conserve your vitals
with heat.
This kicks your
circulation into high
gear!
And as an ext ra
bonus, the arctic cold
blast releases a bunch

of endorphins with the increased energy blast!
Which works wonders for your mood and NOT
feeling negative!
Your Coach actually does this daily to build
discipline. Eleanor Roosevelt famously said:
?Do one thing each day that scares you (aka: you
don?t want to do) and that?s how you build
discipline.?
I hop in the shower and go COLD right away with
about 30 seconds. Then turn it to HOT (it feels so
good!) Then before it?s time to leave, I turn it to
cold for about 30 seconds again, and that?s how
the shower ends.
like that to prove a point? the more
GROUNDED they become in their beliefs. But if
it feels good to speak your mind and get it off
your chest? then more POWER to you, Mom
Warrior!
Anyways, here?s what you do: Press your left
nostril with your finger and breath in deep with
your right nostril.
This stimulates blood and oxygen flow to your
LEFT side of your brain, which awakens and
nourishes your brain?s verbal and critical
thinking centers of your brain that reside there.
Good luck! :)
The energy blast and feel good is almost like a
BONUS for me! :)
3.) Your hub?s sibling loves t o t alk polit ics and
everyt hing t hat is w rong w it h societ y and t his
count ry? and you just can?t ?
4.) All t hat sit t ing and
t raveling has w iped you
out !...
Your body was meant to be ?stretched? out and
...First up, way to go on a head?s up play to avoid a
serious energy draining stressful situation! (high
five!)
That?s one of the building blocks in our So Long
Stress Protocol!
Here, this breathing trick will help you feel sharper,
alert and more confident in your beliefs. I adore
how you step up to challenges like this?
? be warned though, today?s political climate is
TOXIC and the more it seems we argue with stuff
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lengthened. To participate in
full motion activities. Not
sitting and tightening all the
time.
This leads to tightness of your
vital movement muscles and
saps your vigor.
?I recommend yoga poses that
lengthen overactive, tight
muscles in the back, sides, and
chest,?says Dana Santas, a
yoga coach and consultant for
elite athletes.
Try this one, which is a favorite
of your Coach?s here (not only
for its benefits but because it?s
tied to a memory of how me
and my beautiful wife met? a
story I?ll tell you about some
other time) ;)
1. Lie flat on your back,
then bring right knee to
your chest.
2. Take your left hand and
pull it to your left and
lay it down there,
feeling the tugs from
your hips to your back.
3. Hold for 5 breaths, release,
and rinse and repeat for the
other side.
5.) Mom needs her
nap and t here?s no
t im e!
? . Stand for a few minutes at a
bright desk lamp or even better,
go outside for a hit of natural light.
?Light is a lot like food,? explains
Norman Rosenthal, M.D. ?You can
only go so long without eating
before you poop out. Similarly,
with light, when you?re feeling
slumpy, you get a boost,? he says.
6.) So m uch dram a
and it ?s so
exhaust ing! Help!
Yup, totally feel you, Mom Warrior.
Here?s what the best do, and you
certainly are no exception to that!
Thank you for NOT adding to the
drama and doing what you can to
bring Peace, Healing, and Light to
the world! Starting with your
Family, of course!
Here?s the simple strategy on what
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to do: Turn off the news. Treat
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negative news and
sensationalist stuff like that like
poison!
Just like you would put big
WARNING labels on bottles of
bleach and instruct your kids
that this isn?t Kool-aid!... the
same you must do with the
stimuli that you?re feeding your
MIND!
Input = Output
People always ask me how I am
always chipper and in a good
mood? it?s because instead of
focusing on everything that is:
WRONG with the world?
? . WRONG with people
? ? . WRONG with their actions
I focus on everything that is
RIGHT and GOOD! (like you!) :)
Turn off the news, watch a goofy
Christmas show instead!

Snuggle with your kids for that 20 minutes and
share with them all your beliefs and stories of
how awesome their future is going to become.
We only have so many minutes of the day and
even one minute that is wasted on getting
sucked into others?reporting of the negatives of
the world just to increase viewership?
...affecting your mood and thoughts from that
point on and how you view the world?
...is a minute that got stolen from your chance
to share your love and joy with your Family and
see the goodness in THEM!
You?ll continue to do what?s right, Mom Warrior,
I believe in you!
7.) Scrooge-like people are a
m orale drain?
"...IS A MINUTE THAT
GOT STOLEN FROM
YOUR CHANCE TO
SHARE YOUR LOVE
AND JOY WITH
YOUR FAMILY...
"
Not calling them names and saying stuff like
?You're such a whiner. You're so dumb! ?
Something happens when we become adults and
it is other adults that are doing their version of
?crying.?
Like in this case, being a scrooge. We blame the
person.
?Wow, what a hole.? or
?That person is MEAN!?
Sometimes we don?t get the full picture. When
my sister had her daughter, Zayah, and she was
a little baby, Zayah did what babies do and she
cried.
Immediatly, Momma-mode kicks in and my Sis
was there to see what was wrong.
Maybe it?s just the situation. Maybe they are just
tired. If they cut you off at the exit, maybe they are
just late for work.
Blame the situation. Maybe they have been
treated like crap their whole life. Blame their past,
if you want.
?Are you hungry? Are you tired? Did you miss
Daddy? Do you have a full diaper??
-- You know the drill. :)
In the meantime, do something considerate, which
gives you an instant feel-good bump and wipes
away energy-sapping stress.
In other words, you as Mother, are blaming
situations and causes for your kiddo?s crying?
...not putting it on the child himself/herself.
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Let a person with only one-item go in front of you
at the grocery check out.

Go help a VINTAGE lady (we don?t call them
?elderly? or ?old? anymore! ) carry her groceries.
That lady with an awesome haircut or beautiful
shoes? .
Love you some lots more in the next one!
-Coach Spiegel
..walk up to her and compliment her on it!
If you?re standing witness to somebody that just
did that, make a mental note of it and say
something to yourself like?
?Wow, there?s good people out there.?
You won?t see stuff like that on the news, but it?s
the POSITIVE stimuli that you choose to let in!
Wow, that was a good article, Mom Warrior. Lots
of cool tricks and hacks to keep your energy going
smoothly this Holiday Season.
Thank you for being great and loving your Family
like you do. To care enough about yourself to give
yourself an energy boost to keep on being the
awesome Warrior you are for your Family.
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HOW TO BEAT
HOLIDAY
STRESS
BURNOUT IN 5
EASY STEPS
By Coach Spiegel
With an ever growing
list of work and family
obligations this time of
year, it?s easy to put
yourself last, my Mom
Warrior.
Well, that?s stopping
right here and now!
Turns out, since you?re
so amazing, you only
need a little bit of time
set aside to
decompress, unwind,
and kick stress to the
curb!
After years and decades
of sacrificing and Moms
mis-believing that the
BEST way to show their So to make ?Me-Time?
love and commitment even more accessible
was through sacrificing this Holiday Season,
their time, happiness, here?s 5 easy ?me-time?
and well-being?
hacks to keep your
energy up and stress
? and seeing the DIRE, down! Keep that Light
burnt-out, sabotaged, that?s in you shining
overwhelming negative ever so bright for your
effects...
friends, family, and
company and keep
kicking butt, Mom
? .. The pendulum is
Warrior!
now swinging the other
way - hence this
Mommy ?Me-time? 1. Take 1 of t hese for
revolution we find your SAWD, and call
ourselves in! Yay for m e in t he m orning!
you!
SAWD = Seasonal Angry
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Woman Disorder :)
Your cure? Mindful
BREATHING!
Isn?t it something that
this is something we all
know intuitively, yet
never really go to as the
first line of defense
when bombarded with
holiday stress?
Even 30 seconds is
huge! Just don?t do this
simple 3 step process
whilst driving!
1.) Place the palms of

"
your hands together in
typical ?prayer? format
(hmmmm, you think
religions know a thing
or 2 about this? )
and bring to center of
your chest so you can
feel your rejuvenating
breath coming in an out
1. Slow breath in, think
of all sorts of healing
colors (like yellow and
purple) coming in.
2.) Sit for a second with
that breath once its in
you, and grab one thing
you?re thankful for with
that awesome brain of
yours.
(need help on that? ?
just imagine some sort
of ?pain? that you USED
to have that no longer
you do? . For example: I
used to be 80 pounds
overweight and
disgusted with myself in
front of mirrors. Now
no longer the case! :)
3. Exhale out, and with
that leaving breath goes
your worry, stress, and
overwhelm.
Rinse and repeat!
2. Priorit ize your
recharge!
You?ve got one for your
phone and you freak
out when the battery
starts blinking low! So
how about you do the
same for you!
That would be your
sleep cycle and it?s one
of your best friends to
continue to fight this
"
...THINK OF ALL
SORTS OF HEALING
COLORS COMING IN
WHEN YOU BREATH
"
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battle and WIN! Set
some hard rules around
your sleep schedule
and stick to it!
3. You?re already
fun so fun
already!...
Our first instinct when
we hear about doing
some ?me-timing? is
typically go party, hang
out with friends, or do
some shopping.
When it should be what
you put into your sleep!
Nothing else will give
you instant payoffs and
"
returns on your
?me-time? investments!
So it?s cool to have a
few drinks this time of
year to be social and all
that. Just do the best
you can to limit your
drinks before bed if you
can.
When alcohol gets
metabolized quickly
before bed, it tosses all
sorts of wrenches in
your sleeping cycle.
Often waking you up
many times throughout
the night without you
even realizing it.
Causing you to feel
zonked the next day.

4. When sugar is not so sw eet
Yikes, there?s those nighttime sugar cravings
again! One small Columbia University study
found that people that consumed a lot of sugar
before bed experienced more nighttime
wake-ups than those who didn?t.
If you have the urge for snack attacks before
bed, shoot for something that doesn?t have such
a high sugar hit. (pun intended) :)
5. Your ?w orry? journal
You know how the mind likes to wonder and
keep buzzing away with all sorts of chatter as we
lay there ready to get to sleep!...
? . Get those thoughts off your awesome mind
and down onto paper!
It?s the strangest thing, Mom, but it?s like those
thoughts are living things.
Living things are at first ?born? in your mind, but
no longer want to stay there. (kinda like a
teenager living at home) :)
and they won?t let you rest easy unless they are
?ALIVE? in the outside world, ESPECIALLY stuff
you?re worried about!
The way they become ?alive? in this regard is
simply to exist on paper or recording of some
sort.
Grab a notebook and pen or pencil and just
unload it all down there.
This isn?t your book.
This isn?t a novel.
This doesn?t need to be some fantastic piece of art
that sets the world on fire with awesomeness
Just get it out of your awesome brain and down on
paper.
All your worries. Big or small. All your holiday
tasks. All your stressors. All your dislikes
PRO TIP: Be sure to put a ?next step? next to each
item. It doesn?t have to be any kind of rock solid
plan, either. Just some sort of ?next step? action to
take one step closer to getting it done.
?Our brains are wired to remember tasks that are
incomplete,? says Shelby Harris Psy.D., director of
behavioral sleep medicine program at the
Sleep-Wake Disorders Center.
Writing down even one TEENY-TINY thing you can
do takes those thoughts and worries off of repeat.
Now off you go to crush that worry, avoid that
burnout and better enjoy this time of the year
when feel good and happy memories are to be
made! :)
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M ighty M om Warrior!
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Special Thanks & Special Place In Our
Hearts To:
Nicole!
...For loving her kiddos like you do!
..... for being brave and courageous when in
the face of doing what is right!
....... and sharing your talents and gifts with
the world!
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