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smorgasboarder<br />
decades before is balancing out the line-ups a little<br />
more in certain places) there is always a moron in<br />
the water. A clear example of this sort of situation<br />
is that of male surfers vocalising their innermost<br />
primate thoughts in the lineup. Just google “sexist<br />
surfing lineup” and you’ll find countless examples,<br />
of creepy come-ons, derogatory jokes, and<br />
inappropriate comments.<br />
There is no grey area here. While we’re certainly<br />
not virtue signalling, this is one clear-cut example<br />
where men truly need to take responsibility. Talking<br />
about a girl’s body, or commenting on ‘how hot’<br />
someone is with your mates will inevitably make<br />
that girl feel uncomfortable, and you will be a<br />
dick. Pointing, laughing and being generally rude<br />
or disrespectful will do the same. Simple rules of<br />
respect that apply on land also apply here. What<br />
coping strategy can be used to deal with the need<br />
to say things out loud? Again, common manners,<br />
we would hope.<br />
However, a little more confusing to some is<br />
another form of sexism being highlighted. Anna,<br />
a comfortably competent recreational surfer and<br />
the blogger at 3rdculturekid.net, wrote a piece<br />
on her personal experiences of sexism in the<br />
water that were essentially all events where she<br />
felt patronised by guys offering to help her, either<br />
with advice, help in the water or “mansplaining”<br />
technical aspects of surfcraft. “Do you ever see<br />
one male surfer approach a total stranger of the<br />
same sex and offer to push him into waves?”<br />
she asked. The visceral argument here would be<br />
whether this is chivalry or sexism? What were the<br />
motives of the person offering help? Is it a poor<br />
attempt at befriending someone of the opposite<br />
sex through an awkward, ingrained gender<br />
stereotype, or is it a sinister attempt to belittle<br />
“the weaker sex”, one step from the cartoon of<br />
a Neanderthal dragging his mate into a cave?<br />
Applying our idealised concept of common<br />
manners to this particular example becomes more<br />
grey, as we’re dealing with so many assumptions of<br />
motive and how actions are being perceived. When<br />
is it even appropriate to start a conversation with<br />
someone of the opposite sex when in the water?<br />
Ever? Not at all? Is it about actual content of a<br />
conversation, or will assumptions of intent always<br />
cloud every situation? There is possibly no right<br />
or wrong answer for this one as every interaction<br />
comes with its own set of variables, personal<br />
history and possibility for interpretation.<br />
A great little article on theinertia.com gave 5 tips<br />
to dealing with sexism in the lineup, which pretty<br />
much all come down to the same thing: respect<br />
in both directions – essentially using common<br />
sense in not being patronising and not being rude.<br />
It would be fantastic if the solution to making all<br />
women/girls feel comfortable in the water was<br />
that simple and essentially the same as making<br />
all men/boys feel comfortable in the water. But<br />
we unfortunately are creatures of our own culture,<br />
history and understanding. We all have baggage.<br />
So we struggle.<br />
When it comes to a topic like sexism, picking sides<br />
and polarising is easy. It would be easy for us to<br />
say “We’re feminists! Death to all you misogynistic<br />
pigs.” It would also be just as easy to say “Lighten<br />
up ladies, you’re taking this too far”. Would either<br />
be appropriate, or useful? Picking a side allows<br />
us to throw stones at each other from a distance,<br />
where the so-called opponents are no longer<br />
human beings, but a giant homogenous mass of<br />
“those people”.<br />
So, the more difficult thing to say is “How do we<br />
genuinely take responsibility to make it better<br />
for all?” Maybe from both sides we’re better off<br />
focusing on every other person not as a set of<br />
genitalia, but as a complete human being with<br />
feelings, hopes, dreams and - at the heart of it<br />
all - the same core striving as you: to be happy.<br />
And how do we treat other people as humans?<br />
With respect. Common manners. The decency and<br />
dignity we expect to be treated with ourselves.<br />
Simply put, is this all as easy as just not being<br />
a dick (or dickette, to keep this sexism-free of<br />
course). Maybe, maybe not… In fact, almost<br />
certainly not, but it sure is a step in the right<br />
direction. words: mark chapman<br />
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