June's Mom Warrior Magazine

M om Warrior
Issue 2 | June 2018
An Empowering PREMIUM
Magazine For The Tired,
Stressed But Loving Mom
The Infamous
Alison!...
...H ow To Find
M e- Time
W ith A Diabetic
Child!
The Dirty Little Untold MYTH Of Child
Discipline
Husband Not Listening?
The "Weirdest" Wedding Vows
In History Hold About 13
Secrets To Getting Him To
Listen
Suzanne Somers'
Happy Energy
Secret
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CONTENTS
Our Cover Model Mom Hero...
M om Warrior
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Alison deals with some serious stress on a day to day basis. Her youngest
boy is Type 1 Diabetic which means each day brings a new adventure in
keeping his numbers in check. This Brave, Bold Beautiful mom what that's
like and how she keeps her sanity in check!
Your Featured Presentations...
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Fighting Parenting Stress
The Dirty Little, Untold Myth About Child
"Discipline"
Coach Spiegel, BTSM
Fighting H usband Stress
The Weirdest Wedding Vows Ever Hold The Key To
Getting The Hubs To Listen
Coach Spiegel, BTSM
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Fighting Tiredness
Suzanne Somer's Happy Energy Secret (& Her Secret
To Being A Very Young Looking 71!)
Coach Spiegel, BTSM
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Topanga's New Story: Chapter 1
An Ongoing Series Of A Mom Warrior Fight Through The
Horrible Cards Life Has Dealt Her & Where She Finds
The Strength To Carry On
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HEAD DREAMER'S NOTE
Summer I s Here! But Does I t Matter?
Why do you
think that we are
here on this
planet, Mom
Warrior?
What ?s t he point
of all of t his?
Do you realize that
there are literally
BILLIONS, maybe
TRILLIONS of living
species in the
world right now?
There?s those
immediate animal
species that first
come to mind: the
dogs, cats, the
birds, the
squirrels, the deer
(that hopefully you
didn?t hit if you?re
in Wisconsin here)
Then there are
them swimming
creatures in the
lakes, rivers, and
seas:
Fishes that my dad
likes to catch,
sharks, turtles,
Nemo, dolphins,
whales Mermaids
like Ariel from the
Little Mermaid.
Keep in mind,
kiddo, that these
are just the ones
we know about!
Don?t quote me on
this but isn?t there
like 80% of the
ocean we haven?t
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discovered yet and
have no idea of
what?s going on?
(so maybe
mermaids DO
exist!?)
Then there are the
BILLIONS of ?bugs?
that are cruising
around: ants,
bees, mosquitos,
spiders (which I
keep hoping to get
bit by a radioactive
one so that I can
have POWERS like
Spider-Man! )
There are millions
yet that aren?t
labeled that good
biologists just
don?t have the
time to get to. (I
blame Netflix)
I bet you didn?t
think about the
plants! They are
living creatures
too! Well, right up
to when we buy
some flowers to
give to the wifey to
show our love (or
when the MAN
screwed up) :)
Have you ever
been sick? Or seen
a zombie movie?
Did you realize
that it?s because a
virus or bacteria is
trying to TAKE
OVER!?
Claim it?s host
(your body) as its
own. Your internal
army, your
immune system, is
fighting day and
night to keep you
safe.
* and they do it
without complaint
or needing to get
paid! So take a

second and send
some love to your
immune system,
won?t you?
There are billions,
if not trillions of
these little
buggers that are
too tiny for our
naked eye to see.
What?s their deal?
What do they
want? To LIVE!
Of all the Trillions,
no scratch that,
what?s after
?trillion ? Is it
?gazillion ? Let?s say
it?s gazillion!...
? So of the
GAZILLION of
species that are
living on this
planet today.
You?ve been born
ONE of them!
A human being!
The DOMINANT,
most in control
species on this
planet now! (we
won?t get into the
Hitch Hiker?s Guide
To The Galaxy book
where we are
actually #3)
Want to know the
coolest part of
being a human
being, Mom
Warrior?
We are the only
species that has
this amazing gift
called FREE WILL.
We wake up and
we get to decide
what to do with
our day. We get to
choose.
All the other
GAZILLION species
I talked to you with
today are driven
by something else
akin to instinct.
The time given to
you is yours. You
can do with it
whatever you
want. You opened
up this magazine
today.
You didn?t have to
do that. You will be
better for it for
sure as I?ll help
Coach you in the
right direction to
kick
"
this beast of
an enemy that is
stress &
exhaustion. But
there?s likely a
thousand other
things you could
be doing in this
very moment
here.
That?s why you are
very bright and
good things will
continue to
happen for you,
my dear!
You have free will.
The ABILITY, the
opportunity, the
CHANCE to make
an actual choice.
Those choices
have
consequences for
sure. We have to
live with those
consequences.
Have you heard of
JAWS? He didn?t
have the choice to
not eat lonely little
human swimmers.
That sickness
"
you
just got done
with?... (or will be
soon if you listen
to my immune
boosting tips!)
? that
virus/bacteria
doesn?t get to
choose to be a
meany and bring
you down!
Maybe in other
parts of the world
it?s a little harder
to do for us
humans, but in
America here we
have the greatest
opportunity in
human history to
make like William
Thatcher of
Knight?s Tale fame
and?
? change our stars!
(or should I have
said that Zac Efron
guy & Zindaya in
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their song from
The Greatest
Showman, ?If I
can rewrite the
stars?)
I assume you?ve
played the lottery
or gambled
somehow?
You?ve already
WON, Mom! 1 in
GAZILLION odds!
You?ve been born
a human being,
with free will, in a
pretty awesome
country to have
the tech to read
this right now!
So as you go
about yourself
today, and all
subsequent
days?
? ask yourself,
?Why??
Why have you
been given this 1
in gazillion
chance?
?Why Me??
I?m thinking it?s
for a purpose.
And that purpose
lies in your
children. You have
a job to do with
them. A job that
requires you fill up
your cup first, so
that you don?t
have to parent
from a place of
worn-out empty.
Your mission is to
Love. When in
doubt about what
to do:
Just. Choose.
LOVE!
You are
experiencing what
I was put on this
planet to do. Why I
have been given
this 1 in gazillion
lottery ticket.
To serve you. To
aid you in your
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battle with stress
& exhaustion. To
be a trusty,
sometimes funny,
guide to the glory
your supposed to
pass on to your
Littles.
Whether that is
through this
magazine here.
The Show. The
Podcast, the Mom
Warrior Elites
Private Club, or
the various
programs that
were created for
you.
That?s my reason
for being. And that
choice was given
to me to follow
through on that
Calling or not. The
only reason I didn?t
screw my life up
more was because
of my own
Mother.
So don?t downplay
your Mission going
forward, Mom
Warrior. It?s a
beautiful
responsibility.
Remember, just
choose LOVE!
Even as it pertains
to your husband
or spouse. I
understand that
that is a different
feeling of love
going on, but you
shine it all the
same, okay?
This June here
marks the
anniversary of my
beautiful wifey
and I?s wedding.
So in true
self-claimed
?Husband
Whisperer?
status?
? there is
especially lots of
good stuff in it to
help your

elationship with him.
"
So that you two together can create something magical and pass on your
greatness to them!
"
Remember, you two are a team. (with you being the most important part of that
team, shhhhhhh, don?t tell).
Like that Aaron Rodgers always says in his ?Prevea? commercials?
?Let?s get after it!?
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The Dirty Little
Unknown Secret About
Child Discipline
ABOUT TO GET
CONTROVERSIAL!
What I did likely
could have made
my family
homeless and
maybe killed my
Mom?
Did I deserve to
get spanked for it?
For sure.
Did the spanking
help make sure
that I never did
that thing?
Nope.
? .Fear of
destroying our
house.
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? Fear of killing my
brother, my sister,
my own Mother.
That?s what kept 10
year old me from
doing it again. Or
anything remotely
close to it.
Not the fierce
spankings I
received after Dad
got home.
So Mom, where do
you stand on this
whole ?spanking?
thing?
Ahh, yeah, we?re
going to get
controversial in
this one here, so
buckle up!
Do you spank your
kids today? Have
you been
spanked? Where
do you stand on
this?
Is it only for
special occasions?
like when they did
something really
bad? Or is it when
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you are at the end of your
line and angry?
If nobody has ever talked
to you about this
spanking stuff before,
then you?re in for a treat
today, my enlightened,
brave Mom!
It?s not that spanking is a
unique
behavior-modification
?tool? on it?s own. It?s
more so it being in that
realm of PUNISHMENT.
And using PUNISHMENT
as a means to discipline.
There is one fact that has
shown up again and
again throughout all
aspects of getting
someone to do
something different than
what we?re seeing?
? ? ..whether it is
corporate settings, like at
work.
? .whether it is in school
...whether it is in your
own personal
relationships, like
marriage or being a Mom
? .or it?s the law and aims
to stop people from
littering, drunk driving, or
speeding
? .or aiming to get your
child to listen, to show
respect, to demonstrate
discipline?
That one fact is?
? PUNISHMENT DOES
NOT WORK!
They just finished up one
of the most complete
studies on this world of
spanking that is truly
eye-opening if you?ve ever
used it, or are thinking of
using it in the future.
They found that the more
a child is spanked, the
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more likely they are to
defy their parents, show
anti-social behavior and
experience mental health
& cognitive problems?
(well, that explains a lot for
me!) :)
Totally kidding, aside. ;)
Before we dive into the
study. If you were
spanked, and you didn?t
quite appreciate it.
There?s one thing we need
to do?
? w e need t o
forgive our
parent s.
They didn?t know all this
stuff we know today.
They, at LEAST, had no
idea about this world of
Emotional Control
Coaching, (like how to
NOT turn into the
stressed out monsters we
do when we are
experiencing high stress &
anxiety!)
They were just doing the
best they could. It?s on us
now, Mom.
To take responsibility for
our own life, our own

happiness.
My goal for you in this
article is to go into this
act of ?punishment?
with a little prior
thought.
Little more bit planning.
To know that there is a
better way.
To help you ask yourself
the question, Mom:
?How do I want to be
remembered by my
children when they are
adults themselves and
looking back on their
childhood experience.?
WHO do you want to be
in their eyes?
It may not be in today?s
article where I share with
you what I did that would
have been so disastrous
towards my family
growing up.
That one seemingly
?innocent? childhood
mistake that could have
been the end of us.
The one that brought that
wrath of my father?s
spankings upon me in
hopes and intentions of
me never doing it again.
That?s not the point of
today?s article.
The point is to ask you how
you wish to be
remembered.
As I talk to you about my
childhood and namely my
Father and his spankings.
And passing on this
unaware info to you,
? you might conclude him
of being mean. Of being
that disciplinarian.
My Father is a great man.
My only wish was that I
could have seen it sooner.
Instead I was living in fear
of him. It was always
walking on eggshells and
watching all of my words
My dad loved us kids more
than anything. Gave
everything he 7had to see
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us succeed. To give us
the life that he wished he
had.
To teach us as much as
he could so that we're
ready for adulthood
when our time being a
child was done.
To keep food on the
table. To keep the lights
on. To keep a roof over
our head.
The problem was, Mom, I
couldn?t see that growing
up. It wasn?t until growing
into an adult myself did I
see the Greatness that
was my Dad.
The good my dad did for
us EASILY outweighed
the punishment, the
yellings, the spankings,
the put-downs 1000 to 1.

"
The danger with
using punishment
techniques...
...whether it's the
more severe
physical stuff like
spankings?
? or seemingly
?okay? stuff like
yelling,
time-outs,
takeaways?
? ? groundings
? or even using
harmful words?
? t hat using
t hese
punishm ent s
has an effect .
And not the effect
you wish it had.
Rather than doing
the job of
correcting the
behavior that
brings said
punishments?
? it just brings a
whole bunch of
yucky feelings and
emotions towards
the
person/authority
that?s bringing the
punishment.
That little bit of
punishment casts
a dark shadow on
all the love, all the
good in their little
childhood brains.
Someone way
"
...IT JUST BRINGS A
WHOLE BUNCH OF
YUCKY FEELINGS
AND EMOTIONS
TOWARDS THE
PERSON DOING THE
PUNISHING
"
10
smarter than me
once asked:
?Why do people
remember the ONE
THING somebody
did wrong to them,
while leaving the
thousand good
things??
Good question,
right? It?s as an
adult that we ask
ourselves this. And
that?s when I
started realizing all
the thousand
good things our
Dad did.
I would start listing
all the good my
Dad brought, but
it needs its own
book (which is
"
coming!)
So if you?re like my
Dad, with love so
fierce. With a heart
of gold towards his
children.
...You want them
to know that you
love them.
...you don?t want
them to view you
as a monster.
...Don?t want them
to live in fear of
you.
...to Have them
see you for the
beautiful, loving,
caring being that
you are! (and don?t
think for a second
anything

different!)
BUT you still want to
correct their behavior,
don?t go anywhere
because I?ll share with you
the secret to doing just
that!
So t hat being said,
let ?s get back t o
t his sensat ional
st udy:
There is one underlining
truth to come out of it
regarding spankings and
punishment:
By using it, it damages the
relationship between you
two WAY more than
actually working to
correct the behavior.
As for t he
behavior it self?
? The lead author on the
study, and someone a
bagillion times smarter
than your Coach here (but
maybe not as funny)
came to these
conclusions:
?Spanking makes children?s
behavior worse,?Elizabeth
T. Gershoff says.
?It has the opposite effect
than what parents want: It
doesn?t make children
better-behaved,
and it doesn?t teach
children right from wrong.
It?s not related to
immediate compliance, and
it doesn?t make children
behave better in the
future.?
This Gershoff Hero
partnered with Andrew
Grogan-Kaylor to analyze
or 50 years of research on
spanking and found that
the evidence AGAINST
spanking is one of the
most consistent findings
in the field of psychology.
The findings were
reported in April?s Journal
of Family Psychology.
It is associated with
increased aggression,
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delinquent behaviors,
anxiety and depression.
That?s just the kiddos
point of view.
What about you? What
weight and burden
"
does
this put on you? Knowing
that not only does it not
WORK to correct the
behavior, but your
relationship suffers?
You?ve been through this
situation I?m about to tell
you before, maybe even
today?
You?re cruising down the
highway, going with the
flow of traffic. You?re
going about 5 over the
speed limit, because
that?s, well, what people
do!
You come up over the hill
and see a COP sitting
there, looking to nab
speeders.
Instinctively you let off the
pedal to put your speed
right at the limit.
You cruise past with your
eyes on the rearview
mirror to see if it worked.
Heart is pumping a little
bit because bills are tight

this month and
you would rather
not pay a fine.
About 20 seconds
go by and it looks
like the coast is
clear. You weren?t
nabbed for
speeding!
So with the cop no
longer around,
you speed back up
to your 5-10 over
because?
? w ell, t hat ?s
w hat people
do!
What were you
threatened with by
the Police in that
example? Loss of
money, right?
In other words, a
punishment.
Did it work? Well,
you modified your
behavior a little bit
(let off the gas)
when in the
presence of the
punisher.
In this case, cops.
With their tool of
choice in this
behavior
modification game
being
PUNISHMENT &
threats.
My initial instinct
whenever a cop is
around is,
?Uh-oh, what am I
doing wrong??
Even instances of
when you
WEREN?T
speeding, if you
were coming
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around the corner
and
"
saw a cop
there, you?re likely
first instinct is to
left off the gas!
In the world of
behavior
modification,
Mom, there?s really
only 2 routes to go
down (pun
intended) :)
Punishment or
rewards.
In ot her
w ords: fear or
love.
And you should
know where I
stand on that
choice, and where
I recommend you
should to.
Spankings,
yellings, time-outs,
takeaways,
threats, ?do this or
else??
? it all gets
categorized in
your child?s brain
as ?punishment?
You?ve seen
t he error of
punishm ent
t oday.
? ? ..It?s not all that
great at correcting
"
the behavior.
? ? when it does
work (like in that
speeding example)
it only works when
the punisher is
present (no
relation to
Marvel?s comic
book character)
? .PLUS brings a
whole bunch more
OTHER negative,
unwanted
behavior from
your child.
And The WORST
one yet?
? All sorts of yucky,
fearful, ?Mommy is
a mean monster?,
feelings they have
towards YOU.

Not to mention feelings
of revenge, retribution,
hate, and ?I?ll get you
back!?
PLUS,
? they could hold it
against you when they
become adults
themselves! And use
that as a negotiation
piece if they want
money from you!
?Hey Dad! You should
totally give me a
thousand dollars
because you spanked
me growing up and
that?s why I have so
many problems that I
do and I?m miserable
now and refuse to take
responsibility for my
own life and my own
happiness and so blame
everyone and everything
else.
And you?re an easy target.
So I am now making you
feel guilty for what you did
in the past even though the
good you did outweighed
the bad 1000 to 1 but that
would be putting the
blame on you rather than
myself and I?m not warrior
enough to do anything
about it!
So pay-up!?
Sarcasm with that one, in
case you didn?t pick up on
it. :)
(Can you tell what grinds
my gears about some
people, Mom?
People that aren?t
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awesome like you and
take self-responsibility
for their life?)
That ?s w hy I am
such of fan of you!
So if punishment doesn?t
work. What do you use to
modify behavior then??
You choose positive.
You choose rewards.
You choose Love.
It works a WHOLE lot
better. PLUS its just way
more fun!
Let me give you an
example from our
speeding story earlier to
really clear it up.
There was this one town
that had a problem with
speeders.
It was a little town in
Canada.
They kept hiking up the
tickets, aka, making the
PUNISHMENT more and
more severe? .
? but nothing was
working.
The head honcho of the
police had an idea. An

idea born from a thought.
?So much ATTENTION is paid to the bad apples ? the people that are breaking
the law ? and there?s really no attention given to the people obeying the law.?
So they put up a cool little speed camera and took pics of people and their
license plates that were obeying the speed limit.
Their name was then put in a lottery each week for them to win a bunch of
money?
And it worked beautifully! The speeding instances dropped and the average
driving speed for all drivers was BELOW the limit.
Hey, Mom, do you realize this was just the CHANCE to win?
Imagine if the drivers didn?t know where all these cameras were, and money was
no object to this police department.
For EACH TIME a driver was randomly picked and was going under the speed
limit, money would INSTANTLY show up in your account!
How awesome, and fun would that be!?
Imagine this is a rule that gets put into your local town and your police were told
that instead of ticketing people (PUNISHMENT) they would be giving money to
people caught obeying the law (REWARD).
Now you?re driving and you come over the hill and there?s a cop sitting there.
Speed limit is 65 and you?re going 65.
He pulls you over and hands you a hundred dollar bill and thanks you for not
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speeding?
Before we talk about how your future
behavior will now change towards
SPEEDING?
? how about we just give special
mention to now your FEELINGS and
EMOTIONS towards that police
officer!
Instead of ?Uh-oh, what am I doing
wrong!??
It is?
?WOW! THANK YOU!?
Which feelings w ould you rat her be
associat ed w it h in your child?s
m ind?
In case you don?t know, I created a
fun little game for how to best set up
this kind of thinking, preparing and
planning for your family.
THIS is that better way you?re looking
for, Mom.
You?ve likely secretly known that there
was this better, different way. Doing
that punishment stuff just never sat
right with you, did it?
But you had neither the patience or
"
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This Is That Better Way You
Are Looking For, Mom
"
time to pour through hours of books or
child psychologists. Or get a child
psychology degree, or who to turn to
for answers?
If you agree that punishment is not
cool, and you are open to a much
better, funner, and more BONDING
experience rather than
relationship-destroying.
If you can honestly say that you?ve
resorted to some form of Punishment
out of anger, stress, and lack of
knowing there?s a better way?
That you have such immense love, love
there?s no words for them.
Love that burns red hot and there?s
nothing you wouldn?t do to keep them
safe & growing into responsible,
successful adults.
And you desire for them to know that
you Love them so much. Not see you as
a monster like I used to with my Dad.
Then this fun little game will benefit you
and your family IMMENSELY in getting
them to listen more?
? ? create well-mannered, wonderful
disciplined behavior
? ..showing you love, affection and
respect

? no more yelling for you
"
I wrote a short little book about the fastest, easiest way to do this called...
? ..they are more disciplined
And All in a matter of days, mind you!
The "Jerry Maguire" Secret That Get s Your Kids To List en & Show Respect
"
Wit hout Yelling, Tim e-out s, Nagging, Tant rum s, Bribes, Threat s,
Count dow ns, or Violence
If you would like your free copy of this, just hit that link below and hear my student?s
story of what implementing this Game has meant for her little 8-year and his feelings
of what the home life used to be like in their home.
Remember, Mom, just choose Love. You can do this!
Take M e To M y Free B ook!
Coach "Rather Against Spanking" Spiegel, BTSM
World's Unlikeliest Parenting Stress Coach since he ins't even a Parent himself!
But he's knows stuff that can help you. And not letting a little thing like that
Impostor Syndrome stuff get in the way!
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A lison B icknell!
H ow To K eep Calm I n With The
*^&!(# Stress That I s Parenting
A Child With D iabetes :)
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L isten To The
I nterview H ere!
Welcom e t o a fant ast ic
int erview , Mom Warrior! Here?s a
lady w here each day is an
advent ure in t heir household!
Yet, she still finds time to exercise,
make wise eating decisions, and find
ways to connect deeper with her
children.
Her youngest, Caleb, aged 8, has been
diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes since
he was 2.
If you know anything about Diabetes
in children, it really sucks (in Alison?s
words)
Here?s your cheat sheet of highlights
and great quotes from her sharing
her Greatness and Courage via our
little talk!
At 2:45 ? Great Mom Warrior moment
by Alison.
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May not seem like much but she is
totally standing up for herself! Putting
an emphasis on self care. In this case,
it?s Mommy me-time!
She has a good talk with her kiddos.
Let?s them aware of all she does for
them and they can go ahead and let
Mom have her me-time!
4:30 ? as for her me-time, it can vary
from bath-time, to work outs, to walks,
to tv, to working in the garden. Her
husband, Shaun is such a wonderful
Husband and helps her out with the
kids so that Alison can have her
me-time!
Her favorite activity is watering the
plants and feeding the birds. It?s
relaxing to her!
Just like a regular, beautiful Snow
White!
8:30 ? 2 to 4pm is scheduled quiet time!
How awesome is that idea!
10:30 ? at this point Alison starts talking
about her daughter Kaelee (she's a little

"
I D o Squats So
That I Can
Sometimes Eat A
Cupcake!
"
awesome one like
her Mom!
11:19 ? Here?s a
cool idea from
Alison that she
does with her
family? Each of
her kiddos takes a
turn deciding what
to eat each week!
That right there
fulfills one of their
6 internal needs,
this one being
Freedom & Choice!
13:45 ? Alison got
most of her
cooking from Dad!
She noticed that if
she helped him
cook, he was less
grumpy.
* Let t hat lit t le t ip
help you out w it h
your children.
Remember, they
play off of your
emotions and
mood!
15:40 ? we get
growing up in their
household from
Alison?s point of
view! She knows
quite a bit about
her Dad?s history.
She explains what
he grew up with
and what it was
like for him.
17:55 ? Your
Coach drops a real
interesting
question: I asked
what the
relationship was
like between Mom
and Dad growing
up!
19:46 ? BIG reveal!
And classic what
our Parents went
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through, the usual
SAP
"
stuff...
Sacrificing on Altar
of Parenting!
A fabulous way to
avoid that is to,
again, focus on
that me-time!
25:10 ? That
seems to be a
common theme
amongst our
parents,
particularly our
Fathers.
So what do we do?
We forgive them.
And look at what
we WISH would
have been
different. Then
pass that onto our
kids.
28:10 ? We talk
about money and
our parents a little
bit!
Alison wanted
Love from her
Parents, from her
Dad. Wanted
"
to
hear the words.
Instead he bought
her stuff.
If only they knew
about Love
Languages sooner.
?
31:15 ? ?We always
ask ourselves we
are doing a good
job with this
Parenting stuff.
Then I see them
reading to each
other. Yup, I?m a
good parent.?
32:13 ? I ask,
?what are some
good markers of
progress that
we?re doing good
as a Parent??
This is what Alison
said back,
?if you don?t think
you?re doing a good
job, sometimes we
need to visit other?s

homes.
See the messes, see
the busyness, and
see that it's
NORMAL! "
Hmmmm, not too
bad of advice!
34:21 ? ?You can
never plan
diabetes. Being
stressed about it is
the norm. That?s
just your life.?
36:23 ? ?I come
from a fix-it family.
And there?s no way
to fix this?. She
grieved over the
diagnosis for a
while.
38:45 ? We begin
our little
discussion all
about STRESS!
"We blame
diabetes." She
says.
41:05 ? ?Is there a
good to come
from diabetes?? I
ask. Her response:
?She has discovered
how strong she is!
How strong her
little Caleb is! How
he is her Hero!?
45:54 ? Her go to
weapon against
STRESS!
51:34 ? Here's the
good she looks to
each day. How she
keeps it all
together!
53:10 ? "I do
squats so that
sometimes I can
eat a cupcake."
56:36 ? Alison gets
going about YOGA!
And Kaelee is
getting into it as
well and showing
mom how to do it!
57:47 ? ?They
pretty much just
do what they are
supposed to do!?
This is in regards
to the employ of
the Happy Home
20
Game that Alison
has
"
been using.
If getting your kids
to listen. Getting
them to do their
chores without
nagging. To
actually use EACH
day as an
opportunity to
grow closer.
To bring out the
best of them.
Then I totally
recommend you
get playing this
?Game? in your
household too.
Get yourself some
more information
on it by grabbing
your free
"
book all
about it.
Click at the end of
your article here
to grab it!
Let's continue...
1:00 ? ?Husband is
excited to be
coming home. And
Kaleigh says she is
feeling more

esponsible.?
1:02 ? It felt like we were treading
water before when now it is FUN!
1:03 ? ?The kids now know that I am
more appreciative to them. Instead of
complaining about taking out the
trash, they go ?Oh sure!?
How great was that!?
Isn?t this Alison awesome!?
May her Love and guidance help
you on your journey!
"
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WITH THE POWERS
& GIFTS OUR
MAKER ENTRUSTED
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"
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THE RISE OF
TOPANGA!
by Topanga
Chapter 1 of Her
NewStory...
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THE TEAR THAT LAY
UPON A MOTHER'S CHEEK,
IN DUE TO ANOTHER
MISPLACED CHILD IS AS
SALT IN WOUNDS THAT
LAY ON THE MOTHER
THAT WAS FORCED.
THE SECRET TITLE
SOLDIER, FROM
BATTLEFIELDS THAT WAS AS
THE DOCILE LAMB THAT
FELL INTO THE TRAP OF
MANY HUNGRY WOLVES.
To understand, to make
sense of all of this in our
time, is as a game of chess .
You will never know the
next move until the time
has come . I ponder on why
is it that there must be all
this pain in the test of time .
I feel as though my life is
going to be the next big hit
on Netflix.
It has so many obstacles,
trials, tribulations, and tests
of character. It is as though
I was placed in this life to
endure such extreme pain ,
torture, silence of hidden
wrongs for so many years.
My misunderstood tears
are for purpose of
influence. What does a
person do when faced with
choices, reason of question
of our actions and doings.
Reason and rhyme.
All for such greater good
than what meets the eye .
It is like the telephone
game, with every action ,
there is a equal or greater
reaction.
That first initial action
carries out so far into
future time , being positive
or negative. This is where
and why we see such
disasters in mankind.
This is why we see much
hate and lost love within so
many little children?s eyes.
This is why we must never
act out emotion.
Actions will only become
altered by emotion , a
feeling not a thought .
No logic behind that very
action. This is the rule of
respecting humanity.
How we grow to be
humble, gracious and
compassionate of
everyone?s struggle .
To be able to see that very
struggle by just a simple
glance of the eye. To see
the story of another .
This is t he st art of
7
m y st ory .
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A simple girl thrown into
this chaos called my life.
May you soon learn to
understand how a child
with so many tears that
were just her own.
No one else's.
No one to understand, no
one to give a loving hand to
lift me up.
It is I that endured stolen
innocence, made to carry
on. There was no other way
, ?they win when your soul
dies?.
So this is me.
Follow my words , to
understand how this local
girl turned mother has to
carry on every day.
Unt il next t im e, rise
above t oday for a bet t er
t om orrow.
Topanga: Where the
mountain meets the sea .

THE "WEIRDEST" WEDDING VOWS IN
HISTORY HOLD THE SECRET TO
GETTING YOUR HUSBAND TO LISTEN!
by This Goof Ball :)
Click Here To Watch
The Recording Of This
From Facebook!
Wow , are you in for
quit e t he t reat t oday!
Welcome to the month of
June, Mom Warrior! The
month of the anniversary of
when your Coach and his
lovely bride got married!
You probably weren?t at the
wedding, so you likely missed
the weirdest, most unique,
most funny, most DIFFERENT
vows ever given to another?
Afterwards everybody was
complimenting me on them
and quite a few of the wives
said that them vows need to
be put up on a plaque
somewhere.
Someplace where every man
should see it and live their
Marriage according to them
Vows.
It?s only been 2 years since I
said those words in front of
our family, friends, and good
Lord. However, saying those
vows to my Bethany has
certainly steered my life in a
whole new direction.
It was like the standard and
expectation to live up to that
has taken me to new heights.
When I said those vows, it
was before I had any idea
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about devoting my life to
serving Moms.
To w aging w ar on
st ress and t iredness.
In fact, I would say it?s a
pretty good conclusion that
this Magazine wouldn?t exist if
it wasn?t for them Vows.
In fact, Vow #14?
? which was to read at least
one book a month that makes
me a better husband?
It?s because of that Vow that
I have read lots of
?relationship?, self-help and
marriage books.
I would learn something
cool. A friend would complain
about their husband and I
would tell her it?s because of
yada yada yada guy thing that
I just learned?

Then their
relationship would all
of a sudden get
better!
Add that to the
other piles of
servitude of stress
abolishment we?re
devoted to. That led
to the idea of just
housing all this
helpful stuff for
Moms under this
magazine!
Isn?t it cool how life
works out like that
sometimes?!
So what you get
here is a play-by-play
rundown of them
vows and insight into
this guy?s brain for
each one.
I?ll be adding a bit
more to it with some
?husband-whisperer?
stuff and making it
into a BOOK before
long!
Go ahead and hit
that link below here
to get put on the
early notification list
when the book is
ready for you, okay?
Feel free to share it
with your husband if
you think he could
use a little help in
making YOU the
center of his universe.
He?s m arried
t o YOU so he
bet t er be
feeling
t hankful!
You?re as amazing,
brave, hard-working,
loving, and full of
dedication as they
come!
Now without further
adieu, (did I spell that
right?) here comes
them Vows!
June 25th, 2016
Coach Spiegel (before
he became Coach of
the Mom Warriors
and Publisher of the
Mom Warrior
Magazine) before
God, before his wife,
before the Pastor,
and in front of some
of the bestest people
on the planet?
? swore these
Promises over to his
beloved.
So far I am staying
true to them! :)
1. ?I promise to
have your well-being
in mind in every
major decision I
make.?
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2. ?I know I was put
on this planet to
benefit man and
womankind alike,
Bethany, and I
promise to give you
all the glory because
I am nothing without
you.
Whatever good I
bring to the world, it
will be done with you
by my side, not
behind me.?
> This one was
interesting, Mom
Warrior. As you
should know by now, I
have felt this Call
pretty much all of my
life. A Mission, a
charge, a purpose
given to be by my
Creator.
Given gifts to follow
through on that
Mission. To see it
succeed. Also given a
CHOICE whether to
do it or not.
I don?t know why
God picked me to one
to bring this
ambitious Mission of
stress kaboshment
and Love unleashed
for all the brave
Moms of the world
like you.
But she did. (I
imagine our Lord as a
female, just so you
know. When I think of
God, I think of Love.
When I think of Love, I
think of a Mother?s
Love.)
I tried ignoring it
because I figured the
Road ahead would be
difficult, painful, and
too outside my
comfort zone.
YIKES! Did that ever
turn out to be one of
the biggest mistakes
of my life!
Ignoring it built up a
corrosive plaque-like
?something? in me
that spilled over into
every aspect of my
life. Led to me losing
my self, losing my
Way, and leading to
self-destructive
behavior.
Led to what should
have been my
ultimate downfall if
God and Bethany
hadn?t intervened
with their Love and
saved me.
Part of that Vow I
made to Bethany in
that was also me
Vowing to never
ignore that Call ever
again! No matter how

fearful or
uncomfortable the
route would take me!
I had just began my
entrepreneurial
journey the year we
were married and I
was right in the
middle of creating my
?How To Lose The
Baby Weight?
Program for new
Moms..
? and Mom Warrior
came from about 18
iterations and pivots
from that point.
It?s from that Vow
That the Mom
Warrior was born!
Pretty cool, right?!
#3) "I promise to
sing all your favorite
songs to you really
off key, but still really
cute! "
> This got the first
laughs! It?s from this
moment on that our
guests knew they
were in for a bit of a
different experience
than other Vows
shared at other
weddings! ;)
#4 ?I promise to
stay faithful. To not
have eyes for any
other girl but you.
This one isn?t a
problem since you?re
already the most
beautiful woman I?ve
ever met.
You make me feel
thankful to be alive.?
> Totally meant this
one all the way! That?s
one of the best
compliments you can
ever give someone,
that they make you
feel glad to be alive.
Back in my single
days, I was pretty
miserable and lonely
each day. Each day
felt like a drag.
Each new
experience, like
Holidays and stuff, I
would imagine how
much better it would
be with my true love
by my side.
Being alive just
wasn?t that much fun.
I turned this pain into
progress.
Poured it into
workouts. Into doing
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Bodybuilding shows.
Became obsessed
with how I looked and
maintaining such a
low body fat
percentage.
Doubled down on
being a personal
trainer and continued
to work to benefit
others.
It was all meant to
keep that depression,
self-doubt, and low
self-worth at bay.
I may have looked
like a magazine cover
model on the outside,
but on the inside I
was ugly, scared, not
confident, and hated
myself.
I learned to be okay
on my own, but it
wasn?t until Bethany
came around and
accepted all of me
that I discovered what
an awesome gift it is
to be alive.
Look to your loved
one today. Thank
them for being in
your life. Let them
know that they make
YOU glad to be alive!
Got that done?
Good?
? Let?s move on!
#5: ?I promise to
always open the car
door for you. Should I
ever slip up, you have
full permission to go
ahead and WALE ON
THAT HORN!?
> So far so good at
this one! It?s part of
the ?Gentleman
Code? if you will that I
fully adhere to!
Bethany loves it each
time I do! :)
With M Y Coach, D awn!

#6: ?I promise to always
put the seat down on that
toilet?
> This one was already
so programmed in me,
that it tis such a total
no-brainer! Plus, how
awful would it be for her
to plop down into a butt
full of cold, toilet water!?
#7: ?I promise that if I
should ever let a fart go
in bed, to NOT hold you
underneath the covers!?
> My goal for this one
was to give the good
listeners something they
have never heard before,
nor will likely ever hear
again from a wedding!
Mission Accomplished! :)
Easily one of the more
controversial Vows I made
that day and certainly got
quite the laugh from our
guests!
#8: ?Whenever you walk
into a room, I promise to
be like ?gasp? and be all
like ?Bethany!? and let
there be that little flutter
in my heart and catch in
my breath a bit.
? and smile, since that?s
all you have to do to get
me to smile is enter the
room.?
Mom, can I get real with
you for a sec?
This Vow was like me
Vowing to God to keep
breathing each day. I can?t
really help this one from
happening or not. It just
does!
I am just so smitten with
this Bethany woman and
can?t believe that she feels
the same for me as I do
for her.
Its most days that I
thank her for being my
wife.
No reason you can?t do
that for your guy!
Put your ego aside and?
? Go THANK him for
being your husband. I
know, I know, he should
be thanking YOU, but you
can?t control him. You can
only control yourself.
That can be some of the
best advice I have for you
from these Vows?
? just LOOK for
reasons t o Love your
Man. (t hat is if you
Love him ) :)
Point that out to him.
How wonderful it is to
be loved by him, let that
Love through!
Today, after you?re done
reading this, go tell him
that you Love him, but
add a ?WHY? afterwards?
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? Add a ?Because? with it.
?I love you BECAUSE you?re so go
good with the kids.?
?I Love you because you came home
from work today.?
Set that expectation bar low and
JUST LOOK! As soon as it enters
your beautiful brain, let him know!
You promise to do that? Good. I
believe in you, Mom Warrior.
#9: "I promise to do the dishes on
Monday? (pause) too far? Okay, I?ll
do them tomorrow! "
> And I did! ;)
#10: ?I promise to support you in
whatever subject or endeavor you
go down.
You?re fabulous, therefore,
anything YOU get into has to be
fabulous as well!
For example, let?s say you start
getting into Roller Derby. And you
start wanting to be like one of the
cool, tough, bad(bleep) chicks?
? I?ll support you in that because
you?re amazing. Therefore, Roller
Derby must be amazing.?
> Oh, Mom! You should have seen
Bethany?s face when I was Vowing
this Promise over to her!
It was laughter, mixed with
confusion, mixed with love!
Wonderful moment!
So why Roller Derby? What made
me think of that? I had this friend I
used to work with and all of
sudden his wife comes home
having bought a whole bunch of

Roller Derby equipment.
She was so excited!
She was so fired up! She
had just joined the local
Roller Derby team and
going to start training and
kicking butt!
He was MAD! He thought
Roller Derby was the
dumbest thing ever. They
didn?t have the money to
invest in training and
equipment.
Plus, it was really
dangerous!
But she wanted to do it
with all her heart.
They argued and argued
about it for awhile and she
ended up getting her way.
But it became a huge
source of fights and
contention in their
relationship.
I remember observing this
going on and I made a decision
that if I was to ever get married,
if my wife found something like
that and got super passionate
about it?
? that I would put all my own
feelings and judgements aside
and just support hers.
Plus, using Roller Derby as an
example there in my Vow was
really DIFFERENT! Which means
memorable! :)
#11: "I promise to not post
pics of you on Facebook that I
don?t have your permission to."
> This was another easy one?
I got into trouble doing this
before, so I was just covering
my own butt! :)
#12: ?I promise to let you
have the last beer in the fridge
or at least ASK if you want the
last beer in the fridge!?
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> This was a tough one!
This one was the one that
got some of the most ?What
were you thinking!??responses
from (you guessed it!) many
of the males at the wedding!
Bethany likes beer more
than me, and since
recovering from alcoholism,
I?m not much of a drinker
anymore.
Still, being from Wisconsin,
this has been a tough one to
uphold. There have been
times when I opened the
fridge, saw the last beer
sitting there?
? thought how good a beer
would taste right now.
But then I thought of that
Vow, and I would feel better
knowing Bethany would have
it!
YES! A COACHING MOMENT
TO SHARE WITH YOU!
Do you see what I did there,
Dear Mom? All I did was
make a choice. If there is one
fundamental secret that all
my teachings & coachings
that I can pass onto you is?
? it?s that right there.
Make a Choice.
Even if it wasn?t for that Vow
right there, I would STILL
leave that last beer in the
fridge for my Mrs. Spiegel.
People ask me all the time,

"
"
KNOW THAT YOU HAVE A
CHOICE, MOM. JUST START
BECOMING AWARE OF THE
CHOICES AND MAKING THE
ONE THAT YOU WANT
"
MORE!
why I am so in a good
mood and full of
energy all the time.
It?s because of that
secret. It?s a choice.
So here?s the Choice
I make in my head
when I see the last
beer sitting there.
I have a choice
between two ?feel
goods?. The
?feel-good?from that
beer or the ?feel-good?
from knowing that my
Bethany WON?T be
feeling lack.
She WON?T be
opening the fridge
and seeing there?s no
more beer. She
WON?T be feeling
disappointed as I
know she would really
like that beer.
Knowing that
feel-good WON?T go
down in my beautiful
bride?s brain, that
feels me up with
MORE ?feel-good.?
So I close the fridge
door. :) Know that you
have a choice, Mom.
Just start becoming
aware of the choices
and making the one
that you want more!
#13: ?I promise to
give you a flower
each month, rather
than just a dozen on
Valentines. Because
my love for you
shouldn?t just be
shown once a year.
But rather
throughout the
WHOLE year.?
Now this has been
the closest one that I
have had in screwing
up! One month, it was
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the last day of the
month when I bought
her her flower!
Even though she
expects it and knows
her monthly flower is
coming, it still lights
her up!
All the reason for it
right there!
#14: I promise to
read at least one
book a month on how
to become a better
husband.
This one I am VERY
PASSIONATE about!
With marriage and
relationships being a
huge part of our
lives?
? with it being
sources of our
greatest happinesses
and lowest lows?
? why don?t more
"
people apply
themselves to getting
better at it!?
It?s like knowing that
there?s a Marathon to
run, and not training
and practicing for it!
Just expecting to
show up and that?s
enough to complete
it.
I trust you to share
this with your
husband and even if
they don?t action, at
least you can, Mom.
(which you?re doing
already by reading
this! Good for you!) :)
Let ?s t ake Aaron
Rodgers for
exam ple.
It?s no secret that he
LOVES playing the
game. LOVES football.
Loves being an
outstanding

quarterback and to be known as one of the
best.
To him, football is his feel-good.
Performing good on Sundays equals many
pleasures to him:
In the form of WINNING! In the form of
Ego-feeding (that whole ?I?m better than
you!? stuff).
? .. In the form of feeding his
Warrior-Champion nature.
In the form of helping his football brethren
out?
Oh, and of course the money is pretty cool
too! :)
So it w orks out in his favor t o show
up t o pract ice,
>>>>>>>Do his exercises and nutrition
>>>>>work hard,
>>> study the opponents that week (which
is kind of what I do when I read all those
?womens ? magazines and relationship
books, although I wouldn?t really call my
wife the OPPONENT! ) :)
Thereby by doing all of that, it gives Aaron
Rodgers the BEST chance to perform on
Gameday to get all of that feel good that
comes with a great performance and
hopefully winning!
That?s all I did with my Vow #14 there. No
reason you can?t do the same.
Just as Aaron Rodgers w ant s t o show up
t he BEST on t he field com e gam eday.
I want to show up as the BEST on the field of
marriage and relationship for my wife!
So that I can continue to get that ?feel-good?
that comes with that! Just as it is for Aaron
Rodgers.
Then this cool little thing like the Law of
Reciprocation kicks in. By me showing up as
the BEST husband I can, by knowing all about
relationships and the glorious female brain?
? she in turn works to make ME happy! See
how it happens!?
Starts with you first though, my dear!
Here?s also a cool side note for you. It?s from
this Vow here that this Mom Warrior brand
was born!
A few months after the wedding I started up
the Mom Warriors podcast, not sure where it
was going but still taking action anyway.
I was still reading my monthly relationship
books like, ?5 Love Languages? and ?Men are
from Mars?.
Then share what I learned on the podcast.
Moms really responded MORE to that than all
of my ?How to be healthy & happy? tips and
lessons!
Those would end up being the most popular
episodes!
I saw there was a huge need for you Moms
in this relationship world from the husband?s
perspective that wasn?t properly getting met!
Pretty cool, huh?! Do you see what?s possible
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when Love is your
answer!?
#15: I promise to
love your family as if
they were my own.
> Another easy one
as her family is so
awesome and
loveable! Sometimes
we just get super
lucky and blessed like
that!
#16: I promise to
keep working out and
work to have a hot
bod for you!
This is probably a
first in the history of
Marriage Vows!
Exercise and
working out is so
rooted in my DNA
now (I get that from
my Mom who hasn?t
stopped working out
since the 80?s) :)
But it?s always nice
to toss in a little extra
motivation for those
days when I?m just
feeling Netflix more
than the gym. :)
I?m all like ?Well, I
would love to watch
the next episode of
?House of Cards?but
it?s workout time and I
don?t want to break my
Vow and go to Hell!?
See Mom, choices.
That?s all it is. ;)
#17: ?I promise to
get you whatever you
need when sitting
down and have a lap
full of cute pets on
you. Whether it is a
sammich, water, or
the? ..last? ? beer??
This one got
another uproarous
laughter from the
audience! (maybe I
should have been a
comedian, I seem to
be pretty good at this
?making people
laugh? stuff!)
>>>Speaking of
pets, if your dog is
always growling
angrily, it must be
because he is a
cross-breed. :) (that
get you smiling?)
Anyways, this one is
just being mindful of
your sweety. Looking
for reasons and
?excuses? to serve
#19: To not be angry
with you and release
my anger upon you if
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them.
"
It goes right along
the lines with that
Acts Of Service Love
Language from that 5
Love Languages book
we?ve talked about
before.
Bethany?s love
language is Words.
But that doesn?t
mean she can?t
receive my love from
the other forms! So I
find it most beneficial
to hit on all 5 on a
regular basis.
(p.s. I didn?t even
know about the 5 love
languages when
doing these Vows, but
that?s how awesome
God works
sometimes) :)
#18: I promise to
hold your hand
whenever possible.
This one was more
for me than her, I am
proud to say!
I love hand holding!
I know she does too,
so might as well make
both of us feel good!
hurtful things.
Oh, by the way, I
take full
responsibility for it
all. Meaning it will
always be my fault.?
This one
"
got the
most blowback and
objections from my
Dad! He wanted to
speak up and say
something during the
wedding to make sure
that I wasn?t setting
the bar too high for
myself?
? and then fail and
go to Hell!
This is one of the
Vows I am most
proud of though!
It?s one of the
secrets to success in
this world, to take
100% full
responsibility for
whatever happens to
YOU in your life.
Like it or not ,
relat ionships
and m arriage
cert ainly
include ALL of
you!
When we take full
responsibility, it takes
the power away from
whatever is out there

and giving it back to us to
do something about it.
To make it better. To make
the bad stuff from not
happening again. To learn
what we could have done
different to change it to a
more preferential outcome
in the future.
With me going into this
marriage, accepting 100%
responsibility for the
success of it..
? I am leaving it up
t o ME t hat it w orks
out .
There?s no wiggle room
either. It?s either all in on
the responsibility or not. It?s
a much easier cognitive
load doing it that way.
It?s a final decision. Less
thinking and analyzing and
?yeah but?s? going on doing
it this way.
It?s like sticking to a strict
diet. It?s much easier for me
to say no to those sugary
temptations knowing that I
am committed.
Just knowing that I can do
better. Get better. Show up
better. Thinking through
solutions to problems and
potential problems...
? This gives me freedom,
dear Reader. Gives me
peace of mind. It gives me a
chance to make it right. To
improve our future and our
happiness together.
If it?s up to something that I
can?t control: like other people,
the weather, bosses, work,
society, t he President , what
the kids are going to do, the
schools, or Money?
? If you give control over the
happiness of the relationship
over to stuff like that, there isn?t
anything that can be done by
you to improve it!
If its up anything else besides
you, that feels like a trap then,
doesn?t it? And who likes feeling
trapped!? Certainly not this guy
and I?m thinking neither do you!
#20: I promise to
always love your
cooking!
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Another really safe Vow to
make for this guy! I actually
love to cook and do much of
the cooking in the household
anyway! :)
She doesn?t think she?s that
good of a cook, but really she
is an excellent cook!
Here?s a funny for you:
when I cook something, I just
pretend that she did it and
then I can compliment her on
it!
She thinks it?s so cute!
That?s another secret to
bashing Marriage stress,
LOOK OUT for (and
sometimes INVENT) reasons
to compliment the other
person!
#21: "I promise to

always let you pick the show."
Bethany has such excellent taste and really
it?s not about that at all. It?s giving control
over to her.
It?s not owning the remote control and
saying ?I?m the MAN, we are going to watch
what I WANT!?
This was a point of contention I saw in my
parents growing up. (of course, that was
when it was only ONE television for the
WHOLE HOUSE! Holy cow! How did we ever
do it!?) :)
So I resolved to not let that be the case for
marriage. Besides, no pleasure gleamed
from watching MY show would be worth
making my wife suffer and be disappointed.
(plus, I don?t watch much tv, too busy
reading books on HOW TO BE A BETTER
HUSBAND!) :)
#22: "I promise to put my phone
away and give you 1000% of my
focus and attention when you
are talking to me."
I personally LOVE this one. And this one
has really been the hardest to uphold!
Boy, are those phones addicting and
?suck-ya-right-in, aren?t they!?? Especially for
a guy like me that?s a bit on the ADD side! :)
I learned prior to getting married that to
Listen is to Love. I know it has always been
real off-putting when I am talking to
someone and they were playing on their
phone.
So when my wonderful wifey talks, I need
her to know that she is being heard.
That?s the thing about attention, dear
Reader, it can only be placed on one thing at
Be interested in his interests. So what if it
doesn?t get your excitement juices flowing like
it does his.
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"
once.
By me giving her all of mine in those
moments of talking, it shows her that she is
what?s most important.
For both of us, our Love Language is Words,
so adhering to this Vow has been VERY
beneficial to both of us.
To be perfectly honest, my cool Reader, I do
believe that these phones are one of the top
impediments to the happiness of a marriage
going on today.
It?s not that the phones that are the ?bad
guys? here, though.
They are making us very distractible.
AAAAAAND speeding up life and to-do?s way to
fast!
It is the fact that we can do so many things
with them, and allow someone else to have so
much access to us.
We?ll get into talking about these phones and
their contribution to our overall stress before
long, but for now, do what you can.
You love your Hubz, right? What?s he into
now? Just go out to him and give him 100% of
your attention.
Ask questions about what he?s working on.

It shows him that you
care!
Just like your children are
extensions and parts of
YOU?
? his projects, his
working-ons, his ?into?s? are
extensions of him. To love
and appreciate them are to
love and appreciate HIM!
As perfect as my Bethany
is, this is one area she could
use some work on. Part of
that is my fault for not
bringing it up with her.
So I?ll go do that when I?m
done with this, for sure
(shout out to my other Vow
about taking 100% full
responsibility for
everything! See how this
works!?) :)
#22: "I promise to
love you, to be
in-love with you. To
never stop working
to be the best
person I can for you.
Your love is the
truest, bluest,
sweetest love a
bloke like me could
ever be so lucky to
receive!"
This is a bit of a
summarization of
everything my now new
wife went through, with the
longest Vow speech ever, as did
our audience!
Even still, these words would
remain astute in keeping a
Marriage strong.
>> It?s about being grateful to
be with that one special person
FOR the other. Plus LOOK for
reasons to be thankful to be
WITH your One.
> It?s about not taking what
you?ve accomplished for
granted. Just because Aaron
Rodgers might win the
SuperBowl and MVP in a year
doesn?t mean that he?s going to
slack and rest on his laurels the
following year.
>> It?s that same perspective, I
believe, we should ALL have in
our relationships!
Then this last message is for
you, Mom, to point out any
wonderfulness you see in your
Hubz.
Us guys are tough. We have to
maintain that toughness and
?I?m a Man!? all the time.
Competition runs fierce in us.
We?ve grown up in a society to
be strangers to our own
feelings and emotions.
To stay guarded and
protective.
But t ruly on t he inside, w e
are just big soft ies and I w ant
you t o know t hat .
We crave love and attention
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from our Queen probably
more than anything.
We want to slay dragons,
fight bad guys, build castles
and win wars in the name of
your honor.
Current times and
domestication have stripped
us of our prowess.
We weren?t designed to sit
in office chairs and play on
computers.
We w ere designed t o
WIN BATTLES for
you.
To beat up a guy dumb
enough to call you a mean
name so we can defend your
honor.
The love William Wallace
had for his wrongfully killed
wife changed the history of a
nation.
That is the desire and drive
that is in our hearts to show
our Love for you.
Today we are expected to
show bring home some
money.

It?s like having a Ferrari and not allowed to
go over 10 mph.
We still do the things that hope to get your
shine showing on us more. Not totally
oblivious to the fact that hopefully it?ll lead
to getting some. :)
Hoping you will notice us. Hoping you will
see us. Hoping we are good enough for an
angel like you.
Inside, us guys are t ruly
vulnerable and insecure.
To know that we mean so much to the one
person that means so much to us.
Toss your man a few compliments today
about what a great protector he is?
? ? how much you appreciate his providing
ways.
? ..how lucky the kids are to have him.
...thank him for slaying them dragons (or
winning them fantasy football leagues) in
your honor.
Even if 95% of what he does you don?t care
for. Look at that 5% and toss all your Love
and affection at that!
That is if you think he deserves it!
If he?s mean to you and treats you horribly.
Well, never mind then. :)
Until we connect again, I wish your
Marriage many blessings and if ever you
need an ?insider? towards the mind of your
husband, you?ve got your very own Husband
Whisperer here!
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Suzanne Somer's Happy
Energy Secret
(& Her Secret To Being A Very Young
Looking 71!)
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Suzanne?s 4 secret s t o
Forever Young Happy Energy
WARNING: reading
this article might
magically slim your
thighs, drop a bunch
of pounds and
inches around your
midsection and
erase decades of
wrinkles ...
? just is the magic
and wonder of the
Forever Young
Suzanne Somers!
I bet you bought
yourself one of her
Thighmaster?s didn?t
you?
Maybe got ?duped?
into any of the other
late night
informercials and
promises of easy
fixes without doing
anything.
This Suzanne
Somers is the real
deal though, Mom
Warrior! Carry forth
to see her
slim-downing, and
how to keep smiling
strategies that has
her going strong,
beautiful and
unstoppable at 71.
Your Coach?s
favorite is number 4
because here I am
rounding out my
second year of
marriage and
Suzanne and her
humble husband just
shared their 50th!
She reveals one of
the keys to her
marriagerial success
(that?s a word now.
Kinda like ?managerial?
but pronounced with
?marriage?instead)
1.) Morning on t he
go energy t hat
m elt s t he m uffin
t op
?I eat a high fat, high
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protein, high vegetable,
organic only diet that?s
very low in sugar and
grains,?shares the
ageless One.
?A go-to meal for
energy is a morning
smoothie made from
fresh berries, yogurt,
kefir, and a spoonful
each of:
· honey,
· shredded coconut
· hemp seeds
· ground flaxseed
· chia seeds
?I whip it all up in my
blender. I also make a
green version with
spinach, kale and
ginger.?
2.) Her
Age-defying
secret !
?I do Yoga every
other day and I have
for the past 20 years.
It?s my luxury. It
makes me feels so
good and keeps my
body looking young,?
shares the eternal
Mrs. Somers.
3.) There?s
t hat
im port ance of
sleep again!
?Sleep is a
gamechanger ? getting
8 hours has given me
better skin, increased
vitality and a thinner
body,?beckons
Suzanne.
Want her secret to
getting the most
QUALITY for them
hours she invests into
it?
* (side note? that
line you just read is a
BRILLIANT way to
look at your sleep!
Instead of thinking
that its something
you HAVE to do. Think
of it as something you
get to do.
Think of it like an
investment. You?ve
worked a job before
right? Probably an 8
hour shift? You have
24 hours a day. You
invested 8 of them
into that work. Your
time. Your attention.
Your expertise. Your
brilliant brain and
knowledge.
All invested. You,
hopefully, got
something back for
your investment,
right? A nice looking

paycheck that you probably wish was more! ;)
Now with your returns of your investment
(aka MONEY!) you turn around and pay some
bills, buy some nice things for the family,
and probably would like to buy yourself
something but would feel just a bit guilty for
doing that.
We?ll talk about that ?guilty? feeling some
other time, but would you say that was a
worthy return on your investment?
Absolutely.
So start looking at your sleep in much the
same way. You?re not only going to invest your
8 hours. But you?re going to follow Suzanne?s
$3 tip you?ll learn about in a sec?
? as well as all the other sleep hacks that I,
your Coach, have been recommending to you.
(like found over in that imsomnia anxiety
article in next month's article!)
Start putting your focus on all that YOU GET,
all the returns you?ll experience?
? all the energy and feel goods?
? .when you invest in your sleep.
You promise you?ll do that? Good. Let?s get
back to what that Sleeping Pro Suzanna has to
say!...)
?I take 2 chewable GABA supplements nightly,
which turn off the noise in my brain. And several
times a week, I soak in a warm-to-hot bathtub
with 3 cups of Epsom salts.
The sleep that comes from the magnesium in
the Epsom salts is long and deep, natural and
dreamy.
It takes away aches and pains and as a side
benefit, you will have a great bowel movement in
the morning. (them are good to have, aren?t
they Moms? )
And it?s around $3 a bag!?
Holy Three?s Company, Mom! Isn?t that
brilliant! I know what I?m picking up on the
way home today!
PLUS, that bath time doubles as your
ME-TIME! Write it in your schedule, even if
it?s 5 minutes.
Let the kiddos know what?s in it for them
via the Happy Home Game when they leave
you alone for your soak.
Click below to discover more information
about this Happy Home Game that not only
lets you have your ME-TIME,
but also gets the kids to listen, get their
chores done, and show respect without
nagging, yelling, violence or threats?
? so you don?t end up turning into THAT
parent if you?re at your wit?s end.
You'll learn all about it via the free book
you can grab my clicking the link below...
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4.) 50 Years Of
Marriage!
You've had to have heard
of what Suzanne & her
husband, Alan Hamel, have
been up to these past
bunch of years, right?
Their secret to the
longevity of their marriage?.
It's because of 2 Reasons:
...Let's get the headline
stuff out of the way first:
Last year she revealed to
People Magazine,
" We Have Sex
Every Day -
Som et im es More"
That'll usually do it! ;)
She goes in more depth of
her relationship in her book
"Two's Company".
We'll talk about that there
many benefits to the
strength of a marriage
through them
wonderments of physical
intimacy more in depth
some other time.
For now let's get to that
second reason.
They dat e each w eek.
This one should come as no
surprise, am I right?
When enough successful
marriages recommend this one
thing, let's go ahead and listen,
shall we? :)
The question becomes, what
constitutes as a date?
That's a good discussion to
have with your betroved,
wouldn't you say?
Off you go now to take nice
warm, epson salt baths and
some true romance! ;)
...M other On, M ighty M om Warrior, M other OnOn!
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Look at this guy!
Putting a picture of
himself alongside
Suzanne! Never
thought that would
ever happen! :)
Anywoo... You now
know how to go be
awesome?
Good!
Don't forget to...

M om Warrior
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Special Thanks & Special Place In Our
Hearts To:
Alison!
...For being one of the first Mom Warriors and
showing us the way!
...For finding time for YOURSELF so that you
can parent from a full-cup!
...Finding strength to carry on from your Littles!
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