Always Abounding - Spring 2018 - Volume 2

A<br />

<strong>Always</strong><br />

<strong>Abounding</strong><br />

AFundamentalist<br />

Summer <strong>2018</strong><br />

COMMENCEMENT<br />

“. . . be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord” ” I Corinthians 15:58


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CONTENTS<br />

1 Commencement<br />

3 Guardrails Are Good<br />

Evangelist Eric Ramos<br />

5 Meet an FBC Student<br />

Kellie Rardin<br />

6 Recent Happenings<br />

8 The Lost Art of Kindness<br />

by Pastor Steve Damron<br />

12 Mike Pence Was Right After All<br />

by Pastor Rick DeMichele<br />

15 Bible College Prep<br />

by Pastor Dan Armacost<br />

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GUARDRAILS ARE GOOD<br />

Evangelist Eric Ramos<br />

I<br />

remember<br />

well<br />

the time I found<br />

myself with about<br />

70 others in our<br />

church hiking the<br />

trail down and back<br />

up the Grand Canyon<br />

in Arizona. What a scenic wonder the<br />

Canyon is, causing you to think of the<br />

magnificent creation of our mighty God!<br />

Just before our group began, we noticed<br />

a sign posted at the trailhead showing the<br />

picture of an elderly man who was missing<br />

from a few days previous. This was not a<br />

great encouragement for me and those<br />

in my group who had never before hiked<br />

this trail! A few times throughout the day,<br />

two or three of the young people felt dizzy,<br />

which is not a good thing because there<br />

are steep places and drop-offs along the<br />

entire trail. It would have been comforting<br />

to have “railings” to protect those who<br />

could fall off and be gone forever.<br />

Guardrails are strategically placed on<br />

roads that wind and curve and often in<br />

dimly-lit areas. They are put in place—<br />

not necessarily to protect from minor<br />

accidents but to prevent a major tragedy<br />

or even fatalities. As I think of the dangers<br />

that young people face in today’s society,<br />

I believe that there should be guardrails<br />

strategically placed to keep them from<br />

fatality. While parents should put up<br />

guardrails to secure the path of their<br />

little children, there comes a time when<br />

teenagers must make personal decisions<br />

and commitments to protect themselves<br />

from spiritual harm. A young person who<br />

is serious about serving the Lord will do<br />

whatever it takes to keep from “living on<br />

the edge.”<br />

TEEN CORNER<br />

Do you really want to live a pure life?<br />

So many “strong men” have been slain by<br />

the strange and foolish woman. No doubt<br />

they felt that they could handle going<br />

down the path of lust at full speed without<br />

fear of danger. This path is dimly lit, winds<br />

down to a life of misery, and ends in ruin;<br />

yet too many young men feel they can “put<br />

the pedal to the metal” and be just fine.<br />

Think of Samson, the man of God who<br />

could whip thousands of Philistine men.<br />

What led to his ruin? It was the passion<br />

of his lust which was out of control. What<br />

can a young person do to keep from this<br />

type of end?<br />

Accountability is a tremendous<br />

guardrail for your life. If you have a<br />

problem with a particular sin, go to<br />

someone (parents, pastor, teacher, godly<br />

friend, youth pastor), tell them about<br />

it, and then ask for their prayers. When<br />

Samson spoke to his parents about his love<br />

life, they were in disagreement with him.<br />

Had he submitted to their wisdom and<br />

their direction, he would have been much<br />

more effective for God (more than 20 years<br />

as a judge). Let these people know the<br />

decisions you have made to work on your<br />

problems and ask them to consistently<br />

check on you.<br />

Teenager, you must understand that<br />

God has placed people in your life who<br />

care about you—not to make your life<br />

miserable and restrictive but to keep<br />

you from tragedy. When you are serious<br />

about your Christian life, you will welcome<br />

accountability. How sad it is to see a cross<br />

or little memorial along a road of someone<br />

killed in an accident. Spiritually, let it not<br />

be yours!<br />

(Eric Ramos is a staff evangelist for Fairhaven Baptist<br />

College.)<br />

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BIBLE TRIVIA - When the unclean spirit left the man and went into the swine instead, how<br />

large was the herd of animals? (The first five people to email the correct answer to trivia@fbcmail.net will win a gift card!)<br />

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Mexico City,<br />

one of the<br />

world’s<br />

largest cities, is<br />

where I was born.<br />

My name is Kellie<br />

Rardin; my parents<br />

are called to be<br />

missionaries to Mexico. They attended<br />

Fairhaven Baptist College in the 1990s.<br />

It is a blessing to have been raised on<br />

the mission field with my three brothers.<br />

We grew up putting chili and lime on<br />

everything, and we still love it! All of us<br />

have helped our parents in any way we<br />

could. When I was 14, I started teaching<br />

a small children’s class. This provided<br />

me with great practice and knowledge in<br />

keeping the attention of the children while<br />

helping them learn the Bible.<br />

My entire family is involved with<br />

everything concerning the church.<br />

Vacation Bible School was always my<br />

favorite ministry. It is rewarding to see new<br />

children come and bring visitors, memorize<br />

verses, and, most importantly, come to<br />

know Jesus as their personal Savior. The<br />

skits, cheering, and even running to<br />

Walmart was great fun. I participated in<br />

the Saturday soulwinning until I came to<br />

college. I was also involved in the Tuesday<br />

soulwinning which focused on the Jews<br />

that lived just blocks from our house and<br />

church. Sometimes a Jewish person would<br />

question us about passing out tracts, but it<br />

was a joy to see them want to hear more<br />

after receiving one.<br />

The summer before going to college,<br />

I attended a teen camp with the church<br />

youth. God spoke to me about taking my<br />

Christian life more seriously. This changed<br />

the focus of my entire life. Attending<br />

Fairhaven Baptist College had always been<br />

my plan. What I was going to study was<br />

a little harder to decide. At first, I just<br />

wanted to take the secretarial program,<br />

since it would only take two years (I<br />

MEET AN FBC STUDENT<br />

wanted to go back home even before I left<br />

for college!). My parents encouraged me<br />

to work toward an elementary education<br />

degree. In time, God showed me that was<br />

His will. My parents have taught me to be<br />

willing to do whatever God wants of me.<br />

Before attending college, my Dad gave me<br />

the opportunity to teach English, music,<br />

and art in the Christian school; and since<br />

that time, I had an interest in teaching.<br />

While attending Fairhaven Baptist<br />

College, I have learned many necessary<br />

lessons and heard a lot of good preaching<br />

and essential teaching. I have had the<br />

opportunity to work in a nursing home,<br />

nursery, soulwinning efforts, and teen<br />

ministries. In each ministry there are so<br />

many opportunities to learn for the future.<br />

I am not sure what God wants after I finish<br />

college, but I know that He will show me in<br />

His time. I just need to be willing to do His<br />

will.<br />

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Sustainers’ Club Banquet<br />

Preaching Conference<br />

Mother’s Day Brunch<br />

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College Turkey Run State Park Activity<br />

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FROM THE PASTOR<br />

The Lost Art of Kindness<br />

Pastor Steve Damron<br />

“For I say, through<br />

the grace given unto<br />

me, to every man that<br />

is among you, not to<br />

think of himself more<br />

highly than he ought<br />

to think; but to think<br />

soberly, according as<br />

God hath dealt to every<br />

man the measure of faith” (Romans 12:3).<br />

“Be kindly affectioned one to another with<br />

brotherly love; in honour preferring one<br />

another” (Romans 12:10).<br />

“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you,<br />

live peaceably with all men” (Romans<br />

12:18).<br />

One day a great lion lay asleep in the<br />

sunshine. A little mouse ran across<br />

his paw and awakened him. The<br />

great lion was just going to eat him when<br />

the little mouse cried, “Oh, please, let me<br />

go, sir. Someday I may help you.” The<br />

lion laughed at the thought that the little<br />

mouse could be of any use to him. But he<br />

was a good-natured lion, and he set the<br />

mouse free.<br />

Not long after, the lion was caught in<br />

a net. He tugged and pulled with all his<br />

might, but the ropes were too strong.<br />

Then he roared loudly. The little mouse<br />

heard him and ran to the spot. “Be still,<br />

dear lion, and I will set you free. I will<br />

gnaw the ropes.” With his sharp teeth, the<br />

mouse cut the ropes, and the lion came<br />

out of the net.<br />

“You laughed at me once,” said the<br />

mouse, “You thought I was too little to do<br />

you a good turn. But see, you owe your life<br />

to a poor little mouse.”<br />

I share this story to illustrate that there<br />

is a measure of kindness that even the<br />

mighty, which seemingly need nothing,<br />

should show. We that hold to the mighty<br />

Scriptures need to apply this teaching of<br />

kindness in our ministries.<br />

The Bible has much to say about<br />

kindness, generosity, and caring. The<br />

following passages deal with kindness in a<br />

believer’s life:<br />

• Leviticus 19:34<br />

• Psalm 85:10<br />

• Proverbs 3:3-4<br />

• Proverbs 11:17<br />

• Proverbs 14:21-22<br />

• Matthew 5:7, 42<br />

• Matthew 25:34-36<br />

• Acts 20:35<br />

• Romans 12<br />

• Romans 15:1<br />

• I Corinthians 13<br />

• Galatians 6:10<br />

As you can see, numerous passages<br />

discuss kindness. As Christians, we should<br />

be exemplary in spreading abroad the<br />

love of God to those that have not been<br />

saved, but we should also be especially<br />

kind to our fellow brothers and sisters in<br />

Christ. Galatians 6:10 says that we should<br />

especially show love to those that are of<br />

the “household of faith.”<br />

Let’s consider Romans 12 to gain specific<br />

instruction for developing kindness.<br />

1. Let the Lord Transform Your Mind<br />

(Romans 12:1-2)<br />

Transformation is changing from<br />

the “old way” of doing things. The old<br />

nature is concerned primarily with selfgratification.<br />

It is not shocking when an<br />

unsaved person wants to cheat, push<br />

down, and connive to get ahead of others.<br />

However, once someone gets saved, this<br />

old nature should become a thing of the<br />

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past. The new nature takes charge. The<br />

Spirit of God has liberty in a believer’s life<br />

by residing within.<br />

This process of transformation will only<br />

come as we surrender<br />

ourselves to the Spirit’s<br />

leading. The old man<br />

will not surrender to<br />

the Spirit. Romans 12:1<br />

instructs the believer<br />

to place himself at the<br />

mercy of the Holy Spirit<br />

and let the process of<br />

transformation begin.<br />

2. Realize the Source<br />

of Your Gifts (Romans<br />

12:3-8)<br />

Commentator John Gill provided some<br />

interesting thoughts on this passage.<br />

Consider his statements:<br />

Not to think of himself more highly: that<br />

is, either not to arrogate to himself what<br />

does not belong to him, and detract from<br />

others, who may have equal, if not superior,<br />

abilities to him; or not to glory in what he<br />

has, as if he had not received it, and as if it<br />

was altogether owing to his own sagacity,<br />

penetration, diligence, and industry.<br />

But to think soberly, according as God hath<br />

dealt to every man the measure of faith:<br />

such ought to consider that what gifts,<br />

abilities, light, and knowledge they have,<br />

they have then, not of themselves, but<br />

from God.<br />

When we understand that God has<br />

given us the gifts we have, it is then hard to<br />

take credit for achievements and accolades<br />

bestowed on us. The worldly person lives<br />

for himself; so even his acts of kindness are<br />

an attempt to gain some type of favor or<br />

recognition. Our purpose as Christians is<br />

to bring glory to God. We have been given<br />

gifts to use for God’s glory.<br />

This mentality will also help us to<br />

better appreciate our fellow brethren. By<br />

gaining the right perspective of our Godgiven<br />

gifts, we will<br />

have the right opinion<br />

of ourselves. Not<br />

thinking too highly of<br />

ourselves is indicative<br />

of godly humility which<br />

portrays the spirit<br />

of Christ. Knowing<br />

from whom our gifts<br />

are given helps us<br />

to keep our pride in<br />

check. Remembering<br />

that God is the giver<br />

of the gifts helps us<br />

to love our fellow brethren. How? By<br />

understanding that God in His wisdom has<br />

given to each member of the body of Christ<br />

differing gifts within each local church so<br />

that we can accomplish His will and bring<br />

glory to our Savior.<br />

3. Develop a Genuine Love for Others<br />

(Romans 12:9)<br />

The word unfeigned means “without<br />

hypocrisy” or “having a genuine love.”<br />

Alexander Maclaren says the following<br />

about having genuine love:<br />

It means, hiding what one is; but there is<br />

simulation, or pretending to be what one is<br />

not. There are words of love which are like<br />

the iridescent scum on the surface veiling<br />

the black depths of a pool of hatred. A<br />

Psalmist complains of having to meet men<br />

whose words were “smoother than butter”<br />

and whose true feelings were as “drawn<br />

swords”; but, short of such consciously<br />

lying love, we must all recognize as a real<br />

danger besetting us all, and especially<br />

those of us who are naturally inclined<br />

to kindly relations with our fellows, the<br />

(cont., pg 10)<br />

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FROM THE PASTOR<br />

The Lost Art of Kindness<br />

(cont’d)<br />

tendency to use language just a little in<br />

excess of our feelings. The glove is slightly<br />

stretched, and the hand in it is not quite<br />

large enough to fill it. There is such a<br />

thing, not altogether unknown in Christian<br />

circles, as benevolence, which is largely<br />

cant, and words of conventional love about<br />

individuals which do not represent any<br />

corresponding emotion. Such effusive love<br />

pours itself in words, and is most generally<br />

the token of intense selfishness. Any man<br />

who seeks to make his words a true picture<br />

of his emotions must be aware that few<br />

harder precepts have ever been given than<br />

this brief one of the Apostle’s, “Let love be<br />

without hypocrisy.”<br />

Developing a kind heart is a process for<br />

the believer. It does not come naturally.<br />

Our natural man is self-centered,<br />

egotistical, and vengeful toward others.<br />

We, in our natural state, tend toward<br />

those that have similar<br />

ideas as we do. They<br />

bolster us; however, when<br />

someone opposes our<br />

ideas, we tend to malign<br />

and denigrate “their<br />

ideas.” A Christian works<br />

to transform his mind,<br />

surrenders to the leading<br />

of the Spirit, understands<br />

that God gives differing<br />

gifts, and then works at<br />

developing genuineness.<br />

Genuineness (some may call it<br />

transparency) is a characteristic that has<br />

to be developed all through one’s life.<br />

Many folks are scared to let others see<br />

who they really are because they may<br />

find flaws. This is silly because there are<br />

no “perfect” people. We all have flaws.<br />

Having transparency helps a person to feel<br />

comfortable among others.<br />

Christians should develop proper<br />

decorum. We should not be “a loud<br />

mouth,” rude, uncouth, or vulgar. We<br />

should have a “filter.” But, it is refreshing<br />

when you can sit down with someone that<br />

is not “prickly.” They make you relax, and<br />

you have a true sense that this person is<br />

genuine. A believer will have to work at<br />

this because we, like the Pharisees, want<br />

to have an air of superiority—an air of<br />

righteousness.<br />

4. Learn to Hate Evil and Love Good<br />

(Romans 12:10-16)<br />

I would like us to consider two words<br />

as we look at this idea of hating evil and<br />

loving good. The first is the word abhor;<br />

it is a verb meaning “to have an intense<br />

dislike.” This is the only time it is used in the<br />

New Testament. It is in the present tense<br />

which means that it is an ongoing action.<br />

Abhorring that which is evil must be at the<br />

forefront of daily life. Another word in the<br />

text is cleave. This same idea appears in<br />

I Corinthians 6 where the<br />

Bible says, “But he that<br />

is joined unto the Lord is<br />

one spirit.”<br />

So these two words<br />

(abhor and cleave)<br />

provide instruction as<br />

we pursue kindness. A<br />

Christian must have a<br />

disdain for evil. This<br />

disdain is an intense<br />

dislike. Evil must not be<br />

tolerated in our lives,<br />

and we must seek to rid our lives of its<br />

influence. To help us in the right hatred<br />

of evil, we are to cleave to that which is<br />

good. The word cleaving gives the idea of<br />

“super glue.” We are attached to truth and<br />

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ighteousness with a bond that cannot be<br />

separated. This attachment to that which<br />

is good will make the evil that we are<br />

active in abhorring unable to get hold of<br />

our lives.<br />

5. Avoid the Dangerous Trap of Revenge<br />

(Romans 12:17-21)<br />

One man said it this way, “Revenge is<br />

a cruel word: manhood, some call it; but<br />

it is rather doghood. The manlier any man<br />

is, the milder and more merciful, as Julius<br />

Caesar, who, when he had Pompey’s head<br />

presented to him, wept, and said, ‘I seek<br />

not revenge, but victory.’” (J. Trapp)<br />

Why would so much energy be put<br />

into the ruin of another? It sometimes<br />

might seem absurd to a person to see so<br />

much energy put into the tearing down<br />

of another, but we all seem to enjoy the<br />

toppling of a dynasty or a top-tier athlete,<br />

etc. There is a built-in envy in our natural<br />

man that does not like for another human<br />

being to gain notoriety above what we<br />

are able to achieve. Add to this natural<br />

tendency someone who is maligning and<br />

opposing us, and you have a very strong<br />

motive for revenge.<br />

Revenge and hate are very popular<br />

rhetoric today in America. Everyone is<br />

supposed to have a cause to fight for, and<br />

those that have been slighted somehow<br />

by somebody should gain a following and<br />

march. However, this passage has been<br />

building toward our having a right mindset<br />

toward our fellow brethren in Christ.<br />

What is this mindset? Lay yourself and<br />

your ambitions at the foot of the Savior;<br />

realize that God is the giver of talents and<br />

gifts; work at developing an unfeigned love<br />

for others; strive to hate evil and love right,<br />

and then leave “getting back at someone”<br />

to God. God knows what has happened<br />

to you. Maybe He has a lesson for you<br />

to learn through the disappointment<br />

and hurt. Don’t let the devil use outside<br />

circumstances that someone else is<br />

bringing into your life to gain an entrance<br />

into your heart.<br />

Flattery is not kindness. “He that rebuketh<br />

a man afterwards shall find more favour<br />

than he that flattereth with the tongue”<br />

(Proverbs 28:23).<br />

“A man that flattereth his neighbour<br />

spreadeth a net for his feet” (Proverbs<br />

29:5).<br />

These verses demonstrate that the<br />

use of flattery is not kindness. A flatterer<br />

is self-serving. The only reason that<br />

someone uses flattery is to gain something<br />

for themselves, not to prefer someone<br />

above himself.<br />

“But he said, I am not mad, most noble<br />

Festus; but speak forth the words of truth<br />

and soberness” (Acts 26:25).<br />

“Whereunto I am ordained a preacher, and<br />

an apostle, (I speak the truth in Christ, and<br />

lie not;) a teacher of the Gentiles in faith<br />

and verity” (I Timothy 2:7).<br />

We also see the example of the apostle<br />

Paul. The apostle Paul spoke the truth in<br />

love. He knew that he had to present the<br />

gospel and knew that it might be offensive.<br />

There are times when what you say may be<br />

offensive in its nature because the Word of<br />

God can be convicting. We need to be sure<br />

that our words are not offensive because<br />

of our carnal tendencies. Analyze your<br />

life to see if your life clearly reveals the<br />

kindness that the Bible indicates should be<br />

in a believer’s life. (Ephesians 4:15-16)<br />

Alexander Maclaren said, “Kindness<br />

does not require us to be blind to facts or<br />

to live in fancies, but it does require us to<br />

cherish a habit of goodwill, ready to show<br />

pity if sorrow appears, and slow to turn<br />

away even if hostility appears.”<br />

(Steve Damron is the pastor of Fairhaven Baptist<br />

Church and president of Fairhaven Baptist College.)<br />

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CURRENT EVENTS<br />

VICE PRESIDENT MIKE PENCE<br />

WAS RIGHT AFTER ALL<br />

Pastor Rick DeMichele<br />

Maybe it was during the last<br />

presidential election, or maybe<br />

after Mike Pence became the<br />

Vice President of the United States of<br />

America, that he offended the sensibilities<br />

of liberals and feminists everywhere when<br />

he said, in so many words:<br />

Because I’m a married man, I don’t date<br />

other women.<br />

Okay, he didn’t go that far in his<br />

statements, but the meaning was there. It<br />

was a simple statement of policy that he<br />

does not go out to lunch alone with other<br />

women.<br />

The media, fueled and egged on by<br />

reigning feminist leaders, went ballistic.<br />

“He’s a woman-hater, misogynistic, doesn’t<br />

trust women, blah, blah, blah.” You would<br />

have thought he suggested that women<br />

should no longer have the right to vote or<br />

drive an automobile.<br />

Fast-forward to the present apocalypse<br />

of sexual harassment, with its daily<br />

plethora of accusations, admissions,<br />

resignations, and shaming. Republicans<br />

rejoicing as Democrats fall and Democrats<br />

doing cartwheels as Republicans fall.<br />

Politicians, news anchormen, movie<br />

producers, actors, athletes, and captains<br />

of industry are all dropping like flies.<br />

The response of the media to all of this<br />

reminds me of the apostle Paul’s words:<br />

“If any man teach otherwise, and consent<br />

not to wholesome words, even the words<br />

of our Lord Jesus Christ, and to the doctrine<br />

which is according to godliness; He is<br />

proud, knowing nothing, but doting about<br />

questions and strifes of words, whereof<br />

cometh envy, strife, railings, evil surmisings,<br />

Perverse disputings of men of corrupt<br />

minds, and destitute of the truth, supposing<br />

that gain is godliness: from such withdraw<br />

thyself” (I Timothy 6:3-5).<br />

Discussion surrounding the current<br />

outbreak of sexual harassment has included,<br />

but has not been confined to:<br />

• The need for more moral and ethical<br />

training in Congress and corporate America.<br />

• Harsher penalties for workplace sexual<br />

harassment.<br />

• The need to further emasculate all boys<br />

in the public school system. Males are just<br />

too “aggressive” by their very nature, and<br />

need to be “sensitized.”<br />

• The suspending of due process of law<br />

by “guilty until proven innocent” of the<br />

accused. One feminist interviewed on Fox<br />

News said it doesn’t matter if innocent men<br />

are ruined by false accusations, so long as<br />

men feel some of the oppression women<br />

have felt for centuries.<br />

• A woman running for political office<br />

back East ran on the platform “Vote for me;<br />

I don’t have a (male organ).”<br />

• And finally, in the aggregate, “women<br />

are good (victims) and men are evil<br />

(predators).”<br />

“But evil men and seducers shall wax worse<br />

and worse, deceiving, and being deceived”<br />

(II Timothy 3:13).<br />

Hypocrisy<br />

The toxic masculinity on display in<br />

so many of these instances of sexual<br />

impropriety is something that has been<br />

promoted for decades by the liberal feminist<br />

left. Progressives defend with a religious zeal<br />

the feminist sacrament of abortion, where<br />

no less than half of the babies murdered<br />

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are female. The objectifying of women by<br />

men is sponsored by progressive feminist<br />

women who pose nude and defend it as<br />

an artistic first amendment right of free<br />

speech. Liberal progressive feminists were<br />

mute when Bill Clinton, decades ago, was a<br />

proven sexual predator. He received a free<br />

pass because he supported their agenda.<br />

Biblical Propriety and Decorum<br />

Back to our Vice President. How<br />

much of the moral carnage our country<br />

is currently experiencing could have been<br />

avoided if we simply got back to oldfashioned<br />

common sense and Biblical<br />

standards of conduct in our society<br />

between men and women?<br />

What Vice President Pence was<br />

advocating is simply some avoidance<br />

of compromising situations between<br />

members of the opposite sex, whether at<br />

the work place or the halls of Congress.<br />

In all the shrill clamoring hysteria, there<br />

has been a deafening silence regarding<br />

our Vice President’s stance. His Biblical<br />

wisdom has surely been vindicated.<br />

Biblical Masculinity<br />

There is no need for society to further<br />

emasculate an already effeminate-leaning<br />

male population. The need is to get back to<br />

Bible standards of conduct between men<br />

and women with both genders accepting<br />

their responsibility in this process. Yes,<br />

ladies, you have a responsibility in this<br />

as well. As one leader of Christian ladies<br />

recently said:<br />

The liberal news media has become a<br />

platform for a lot of rebellious, self-willed<br />

screeching little girls to point fingers at<br />

everyone’s sins but their own. While I am<br />

sure there are male sexual predators who<br />

do prey on naïve young women, there is<br />

also such a thing as willful flirting and<br />

dressing provocatively to advance one’s<br />

career. If a girl is not going to act like a lady,<br />

she is giving a signal to men that she doesn’t<br />

want to be treated like one. In other words, if<br />

it’s not for sale—don’t put up a sign.<br />

Men, especially Christian men, now is<br />

the time to step up and stand up for what<br />

is right and glorify our Savior, the greatest<br />

man among men, by modeling true Biblical<br />

manhood and not giving in to the current<br />

cultural trend of toxic masculinity.<br />

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ<br />

also loved the church, and gave himself for it;<br />

That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the<br />

washing of water by the word, That he might<br />

present it to himself a glorious church, not<br />

having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but<br />

that it should be holy and without blemish.<br />

So ought men to love their wives as their own<br />

bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.<br />

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but<br />

nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord<br />

the church” (Ephesians 5:25-29).<br />

Or as Joab said to the military troops of<br />

Israel in the heat of battle:<br />

“Be of good courage, and let us play the men<br />

for our people, and for the cities of our God:<br />

and the LORD do that which seemeth him<br />

good” (II Samuel 10:12).<br />

(Rick DeMichele is the pastor of Treasure Valley Baptist<br />

Church in Meridian, Idaho.)<br />

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BIBLE COLLEGE PREP<br />

Pastor Dan Armacost<br />

Commit Now to<br />

These Principles<br />

and Practices to<br />

Get the Most Out<br />

of Your Bible<br />

College Years<br />

1. Make personal devotions a daily habit.<br />

Open your Bible each morning with the<br />

purpose of saturating your mind with<br />

Scripture. Develop a prayer list and stick<br />

to it. If you have a mobile phone, decide<br />

that you will see the face of God before<br />

you see your screen.<br />

2. Prepare to handle discouragement.<br />

Since it is bound to come, study Bible<br />

passages that deal with it. Practice the<br />

spiritual discipline of “casting your care on<br />

Him.” This is vital when the “homesick”<br />

bug hits.<br />

3. Establish productive study habits.<br />

Learn to have a place and a time to<br />

study, and then “get at it” by eliminating<br />

distractions.<br />

4. Manage your time properly. Time<br />

management is the number-one issue that<br />

college freshmen must learn to master.<br />

Frequently students learn to manage<br />

their time the hard way, but it does not<br />

necessarily need to be so. Ask productive<br />

people you know how they handle their<br />

time.<br />

5. Work for your employer as though his<br />

salvation depends upon it. Christians will<br />

never win fellow workers unless they are<br />

prompt, honest, and transparent. Learn to<br />

“let your light so shine before men.” This<br />

Bible truth may have no greater application<br />

than at the workplace.<br />

6. Discipline your wallet. The second<br />

most common issue students face is<br />

money management. Too frequently<br />

discretionary money “burns a hole” in<br />

the pocket of a student. With no budget,<br />

plan, or accounting in place, poor money<br />

habits will continue as a life-long pattern.<br />

The college years and the spending they<br />

entail can either set a person on a path of<br />

financial stability or future ruin. Beware of<br />

credit cards.<br />

7. Manage friendships the Bible way.<br />

Bible college is a perfect time to develop a<br />

“ministry attitude” toward friendships. You<br />

may need to exercise extreme graciousness<br />

with a roommate, you must avoid cliques<br />

at all costs, and you will have God’s peace<br />

only as you surrender all relationships to<br />

godly authority. Before college begins,<br />

practice these principles.<br />

8. Propriety is a dying art; however, it is<br />

needed now more than ever. Learning<br />

mature conversation, treating others with<br />

the proper respect, speaking in a way that<br />

is not juvenile or inappropriate—all are<br />

part of a life of decorum and propriety.<br />

Successful people all understand and<br />

master proper manners.<br />

9. Gossip, disrespect, and complaints will<br />

ultimately be the undoing of a person.<br />

Instead, be generous with compliments<br />

and look for ways to encourage. A tongue<br />

controlled by the Spirit of God will exhibit<br />

these traits.<br />

10. The war on purity is at an all-time<br />

high. The lust of the flesh, the lust of<br />

the eyes, and the pride of life are all part<br />

and parcel of today’s popular culture.<br />

Maintaining purity will not happen by<br />

accident. Standards and convictions based<br />

on Bible truths are vital for a young person<br />

to enter God’s work pure. Establish these<br />

convictions now.<br />

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11. Work first and play second. This is<br />

not just a principle for children—it is a<br />

necessity of life. In college, students find<br />

themselves in charge of setting their own<br />

priorities. What a great time to learn to<br />

set a goal and reach it. The discipline of<br />

eliminating things that keep you from<br />

reaching goals is a tremendous trait to<br />

pocket. Practice now setting reasonable<br />

goals and reaching them.<br />

12. Procrastination is the enemy of every<br />

college student. There is something to<br />

the attitude of just starting—doing it<br />

now. Procrastination never moves an<br />

assignment closer to completion—it<br />

merely leaves loose ends to clog up the<br />

mind and cause worry. The do it now<br />

attitude, though uncommon, is a precursor<br />

to success.<br />

13. Finish your jobs. Mom always<br />

said, “Finish your food.” “Finish your<br />

homework.” “Finish your chores.” Starting<br />

is good, but finishing is best. There is a<br />

calm satisfaction, an inner peace, that<br />

comes only when a task has been seen<br />

through to final completion. If we allow<br />

the habit of not finishing, our life will be<br />

filled with uncompleted responsibilities.<br />

14. Determine that you will never cheat.<br />

When the pressure is on and it seems<br />

like it would be more beneficial to cheat,<br />

don’t. Take the consequences of doing<br />

your own work. No matter how bad you<br />

do on that test, or how poor the paper is,<br />

you will have the satisfaction that you did<br />

not cut corners or steal someone else’s<br />

answers. Living in truth is God’s handle on<br />

a man. Cheaters never win, and winners<br />

never cheat. Live in honesty, take your<br />

lumps, learn, and do better work the next<br />

time around.<br />

(Dan Armacost is the Dean of Students at<br />

Fairhaven Baptist College.)<br />

UPCOMING EVENTS<br />

August 5<br />

God & Country Sunday<br />

August 27<br />

College Opening Week<br />

September 23<br />

48th Anniversary Service<br />

November 5-8<br />

Empowered Youth<br />

December 18<br />

Glory of Christmas Concert<br />

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