Fertility Road Issue 14
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didn’t touch the ground when I walked;<br />
I floated. I was on top of the world. I felt<br />
as though we had finally been rewarded for<br />
all our hard work and now we would finally<br />
have our family and our IVF days would<br />
be over. I nurtured myself and my growing<br />
babies. I stayed fit and healthy, exercising<br />
regularly and ensuring I ate only the best<br />
food. I had waited so long to be pregnant<br />
and I was revelling in it. I loved telling people<br />
that I was expecting twins, they would<br />
all be so happy for me especially those who<br />
knew of our struggle. The prospect of welcoming<br />
two beautiful babies into our world<br />
consumed me. It became my every thought<br />
and filled my heart with such warmth.<br />
Finally our family would be complete.<br />
» What goes up must come down<br />
When I began bleeding at 19 weeks, I had<br />
no idea how my world was about to<br />
change. What started out as minor abdominal<br />
twinges, soon evolved into severe<br />
cramping and heavy bleeding. I managed<br />
to drive myself to hospital and was taken<br />
straight to emergency. By the time I was<br />
examined by a doctor I was fully dilated. I<br />
had gone into spontaneous labour and in<br />
the doctors own words, ‘there was nothing<br />
they could do’, I was going to have my<br />
babies that day. It wasn’t until Dale arrived<br />
at the hospital and I had to explain to him<br />
what was happening that the gravity of the<br />
situation hit me. We were about to endure<br />
the most harrowing and heartbreaking<br />
night of our lives and there was absolutely<br />
nothing we could do to stop it.<br />
“<br />
Even though we experienced immense<br />
heartache along the way, I look back at the<br />
journey as the most wonderful thing that ever<br />
happened to me. I guess I am a ‘glass half full’<br />
type of person and having that attitude got me<br />
As the babies were less than 20 weeks<br />
gestation, we were told there would be no<br />
medical intervention once they were born.<br />
When I asked the midwife if there was any<br />
chance my babies would survive the birth,<br />
she calmly replied, ‘No’. At that moment,<br />
I had two perfectly healthy babies inside<br />
me. My body was about to end their lives<br />
before they had a chance to take their first<br />
breath and it was out of my control.<br />
I begged the nursing staff to perform a<br />
caesarean, please don’t make me deliver<br />
them if it means they won’t survive, but<br />
that is not the way things are done. Six<br />
and a half hours after arriving at hospital<br />
I gave birth to our two little girls. So tiny,<br />
so perfect and so beautiful. As I held one<br />
of my babies in my arms, her tiny hand<br />
wrapped around my finger. I touched her<br />
skin and kissed and kissed and kissed her,<br />
telling her how sorry I was. This was all<br />
my fault. I looked over at my husband<br />
holding our second baby, he was crying so<br />
hard, it was the saddest moment of my life.<br />
My body had betrayed me, betrayed Dale,<br />
betrayed our babies and as a result we<br />
would never get the chance to know them.<br />
We would never hear them laugh or cry.<br />
We wouldn’t be able to watch them grow<br />
into little girls, or become young ladies or<br />
even hear them call us Mummy or Daddy.<br />
In that moment, all that we had struggled<br />
for had been ripped away. A little piece of<br />
us died that day along with our babies. We<br />
held them for a long time before we finally<br />
handed them over to the midwife for the<br />
last time. We named them Tia and Kirra.<br />
» Little Blessings<br />
We were emotionally shattered after the<br />
loss of our girls and found it difficult to<br />
think beyond that horrendous night, but<br />
we had to remain strong for each other<br />
and focus on the future. I yearned to be<br />
pregnant again. My body yearned for it and<br />
my heart yearned for it. Two months later I<br />
was back at my fertility clinic to try again<br />
using frozen embryos from the same ‘batch’<br />
as the twins. We couldn’t believe it when<br />
one month later we got the call from my<br />
clinic that my pregnancy test was positive!<br />
It was the longest nine months of my life.<br />
I couldn’t relax until I was able to hold that<br />
baby in my arms and I did just that nine<br />
months later when I gave birth to my first<br />
son, Taj. Four IVF cycles and 3 and a half<br />
years later, I gave birth to my second child,<br />
another beautiful little boy named Kai.<br />
Dale and I both learnt so much about<br />
ourselves and the type of people we really<br />
are. We grew as individuals and as a couple.<br />
We forged some great friendships along the<br />
way and allowed the people that we cared<br />
most about become part of our journey. I have<br />
gained so much from my quest to start a<br />
family. Even though we experienced immense<br />
heartache along the way, I look back at the<br />
journey as the most wonderful thing that<br />
ever happened to me. I guess I am a ‘glass half<br />
full’ type of person and having that attitude<br />
got me through the toughest nine years<br />
of my life. I now spend my time with my<br />
amazing boys and remind myself everyday<br />
that I am so blessed to have them in my life.<br />
For more information on Jenni's path to<br />
parenthood or to purchase a copy of her<br />
book, please visit myivfblessings.com<br />
through the toughest nine years of my life. ” 49<br />
APRIL - MAY 2013 | WWW.FERTILITYROAD.COM |