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Pain and frustration have led to many of our loved
ones to drown in alcohol, melt in drugs, or hide within
some other addiction. Initially the use of substances are
incredibly helpful. The numbing, escaping, and ability to
ignore the pain. However, the distractions and self medications
cease to work. We develop a tolerance that outperforms
our real ability to tolerate. By the time we realize
that the pain of the addiction is far worse than the pain we
are escaping from, it is often too late. We lay frozen on a
cold floor knowing that it’s finally over. Unfortunately we
often think it’s too late, when it’s actually not. Successful
recovery was one more attempt away. We are left torn
between the support we gave and what more we could’ve
done. The loss can cause a variety of emotions and again,
our pain continues or begins.
Sometimes the fight instinct is so strong and the pain
turns outward. This person makes the choice to pass the
pain on. Their best thinking and coping convinces them
that causing others pain will resolve or satisfy the deep
emotional baggage they carry. They don’t like to suffer
alone. They want to take others with them and/or make a
statement. We are left wondering how anyone could ever
do such deeds. We are angry and confused, but again, our
pain begins.
Everything made from man that contains pressure
comes with a pressure release valve. The gas can, propane
tank, nuclear reactor, etc. When we don’t learn how to
properly read our warnings and use our own release valves
the pressure not only builds, but will most definitely lead
to an explosion. The violence can erupt internally or outward,
but science has shown us that it will happen.
We have to reconsider blaming the objects we use at
this moment. It distracts us from the true problem. It also
allows people to politicize the tragedies caused by this
pain and frustration. It’s not the drugs and the guns. It’s not
the bridges and the razor blades. It’s the pain. The pain and
frustration that we think nobody understands. That nobody
cares. That it’s never going to get any better. Anything and
everything is a weapon towards self and others when this
emotional hurricane is driving the train.
Let’s not allow our personal agendas to lose this opportunity
in time to finally help our children more than
our parents could ever dream of helping us. We are the
most informed, evolved, and involved people this planet
has ever seen. So why do we point fingers and play the
same blame games that further polarize and paralyze us.
Could it be that this is how we express our own pain and
frustration?
I encourage us all to listen more. Listen not only to
those that repeat what you are thinking and agree with
you, but more importantly listen to those that think differently
than you. We all want to be heard, yet we practice
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