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Liberate<br />

Gender violence edition


Content in this edition increases the voice and agency of people of<br />

color and their eperiences with sexual assualt and gender violence.<br />

Material may be especially triggering, please take the necessary<br />

measures to take care of yourself. In the back of this edition,<br />

there are<br />

resources should you want to seek help.


Gender Violence<br />

Gender violence includes rape, sexual assault, relationship violence<br />

in heterosexual and same sex partnerships, sexual harassment,<br />

stalking, prostitution and sex trafficking. The term “gender<br />

violence” reflects the idea that violence often serves to maintain<br />

structural gender inequalities, and includes all types of violence<br />

against men, women, children, adolescents, gay, transgender<br />

people and gender non conforming. This type of violence in some<br />

way influences or is influenced by gender relations. To adequately<br />

address this violence, we have to address cultural issues that<br />

encourage violence as part of masculinity.<br />

Sexual Harassment<br />

uninvited and unwelcome verbal or physical behavior of a sexual<br />

nature especially by a person in authority toward a subordinate<br />

(such as an employee or student)<br />

Sexual Assualt<br />

illegal sexual contact that usually involves force upon a person<br />

without consent or is inflicted upon a person who is incapable of<br />

giving consent (as because of age or physical or mental incapacity)<br />

or who places the assailant (such as a doctor) in a position of<br />

trust or authority


liberate<br />

verb lib-er-ate<br />

1 :to set free


Visual - Yemi Kolawole<br />

Visual - Ashleigh Smith<br />

Black Duke, We Need to do Better - Mumbi Kanyogo<br />

Visual - Naomi Lilly<br />

Done. - Anonymous<br />

A’s Story - Anonymous<br />

Poem - anonymous<br />

Standbys - Adriana Parker<br />

Resources<br />

A Word From Krystal George


ME TOO<br />

ME TOO<br />

ME TOO<br />

ME TOO<br />

ME TOO<br />

ME TOO<br />

ME TOO<br />

TIME’S UP<br />

TIME’S UP<br />

TIME’S UP<br />

TIME’S UP<br />

TIME’S UP<br />

TIME’S UP<br />

TIME’S UP<br />

BELIEVE HER<br />

BELIEVE HER<br />

BELIEVE HER<br />

BELIEVE HER<br />

BELIEVE HER<br />

BELIEVE HER<br />

BELIEVE HER<br />

Have A Nice Day


Black Duke, we need to do<br />

better<br />

“There is really no such thing as the ‘voiceless’. There are<br />

only the deliberately silenced, or the preferably unheard”<br />

Arundhati Roy<br />

Mumbi Kanyogo


The #Metoo Reckoning<br />

In a period of about 6 months we have witnessed numerous women come forward<br />

to publicly document their trauma and expose the abusers who have violated them.<br />

What began as Tarana Burke’s call for “mass healing” amongst sexual assault survivors<br />

almost 10 years ago has turned into a global reckoning with the pervasiveness<br />

of gender violence and societal complicity. We have been forced to contend with<br />

how rape culture penetrates both public andprivate life in ways that morph even our<br />

most intimate memories of family and childhood into painful reminders of the power<br />

structures that govern our quotidian existence. The #metoo movement has shown<br />

us that sexual abuse and rape are not faceless crimes with countless numbers of<br />

statistical victims. It has taught us that sexual abuse and rape DO have perpetrators<br />

who exist in the forms of both abusers and those who make their abuse possible.<br />

It names silences as violence - it implicates those who prefer to unsee abuse and<br />

promote a politics of respectability.<br />

Yet, even while the frequency with which these men’s abusive actions are being exposed<br />

appears to be high, these public revelations do not at all account for a statistic<br />

that documents 1 in 5 women as having been sexually violated in their lifetimes<br />

– it does not even dent it. And so we must ask ourselves: who is being deliberately<br />

silenced? Who are we rendering preferably<br />

unheard?


Some Black Lives Matter<br />

On my worst days here, the black community has been a source of joy and rejuvenation<br />

that has kept me sane in a fast-paced, emotionally draining environment.<br />

And on my best days, my black peers have celebrated me and loved me in ways<br />

that I am not even able to account for. At a predominantly white institution where<br />

blackness has been under threat from racist institutional violence and quotidian<br />

microaggressions since our forebears set foot on this campus in 1963, our excellence<br />

and happiness have always been our greatest offences against racist histories<br />

and realities that are constantly working to displace us.<br />

And yet it would be a lie for us to posit that the only threat to black life on this<br />

campus exists as a result of white racism; it would be facetious for us to say<br />

“Black lives matter” in opposition to racism, and not repeat the same for black<br />

women and black queer, trans, poor, and disabled people in opposition to the cisheterosexism,<br />

classism, and abelism that pervades this black community. And yet<br />

we do not say the latter nearly as much as the former.<br />

In the spring of 2016, the Chronicle published a statistical report on sexual violence,<br />

which reported that 42% of black women on campus had been the victims<br />

of some sort of sexual violence. In the aftermath of that release, I expected there<br />

to be a wave of indignant outrage within our community. Faced with the evidence<br />

that so many of our fellow black woman peers had been violated, I was waiting for<br />

our community leaders to mobilize - to be angry. Instead, only a handful of women<br />

made their outrage known in both online and physical spaces, and when I brought<br />

up the statistics with one black man he simply replied, “don’t you know that women<br />

will cry rape when a man so much as hugs them?”


Even though silence around sexual violence has always been pervasive in our<br />

community, the type of indifference and lack of concern that was displayed in the<br />

wake of that report has continued to astound me to this day. In a moment when<br />

we were presented with statistical evidence of black women’s pillaging; in a moment<br />

when we had the opportunity to begin a process of disavowing silence and<br />

creating safe spaces for the most vulnerable in our community, the prevailing instinct<br />

seemed to be to avoid responsibility and instead maintain silence.<br />

That gendered erasure served to remind me that the realities of rape have never<br />

been transformative or revolutionary for the majority of individuals. Afterall, we<br />

live on a campus where stories of rape are heard at spoken word events and then<br />

forgotten swiftly thereafter; on a campus where known abusers are permitted to<br />

earn degrees and thrive socially within our communities. We live and learn on a<br />

campus where sexual assault is a whitewashed idea – the archetypical victims<br />

framed as white, cis, straight, panhellenic women. Therefore, our black woman<br />

pain, laid out bare and raw on stages and blog posts, has never been enough to<br />

convince everyone around us that our bodies matter. That report, and the lack of<br />

action in its wake, served to make it abundantly clear that in the appraisal of reputation<br />

and power versus the safety of black women’s bodies, black women, more<br />

often than not, lose.<br />

Therefore, I want to interrogate why this type of silence and the larger structure of<br />

rape culture continue to exist within our community.


How does this erasure manifest?<br />

Embedded in this community is a dangerous desire to maintain black unity at all<br />

costs. It is almost impossible to critique certain organizations or individuals, and<br />

those who do so are often ostracized, even when one is rightfully criticizing the<br />

highly elitist, cisheteronormative, and sexist behaviors that push many of us further<br />

into the margins. It is uncritical and facetious to believe that we are all marginalized<br />

in the same ways – to ignore the fact that many of us cannot breathe in<br />

this community that is supposed to be our safest space.<br />

As black women, our genders and sexualities are treated as negligible and divisible<br />

from our experiences of blackness. The fact that we are the ones charged with<br />

both healing from trauma and then correcting the same violent behaviors that hurt<br />

and disrupt our lives is indication enough that a singular blackness that is detached<br />

from other manifestations of systemic violence, determines the disposition<br />

of black life on campus – the type of oppression that we are willing to mobilize<br />

against.<br />

This illogical approach to systemic violence results in the privileging of black,<br />

heterosexual men’s wellbeing and this has been prominently exposed in the few<br />

conversations around sexual assault that we have had. At one particular talk that<br />

I hosted, as the discussion progressed, it became clear that the central concern<br />

around sexual violence is how men can best avoid culpability as opposed to a<br />

victim-centered approach that encourages ethical and mutually beneficial sexual<br />

encounters. To put it more bluntly, the dominating concern seems to be “how<br />

much access men can get to black women’s bodies without being held legally accountable<br />

for their actions” when it should be “how best can we listen to women<br />

and ensure that we are making our community safe for them.” At worst, this is a<br />

violent erasure that sees black women’s bodies as collateral damage to men’s unnecessary<br />

technical gymnastics in negotiating the clearly outlined parameters of<br />

ethical sexual behavior.


At this critical moment when it is becoming painfully clear that this community<br />

is not safe for all of us, we need to engage in a process of constructive critique<br />

that ensures that those who are perpetuating violence, indirectly or directly, take<br />

responsibility for their actions or lack thereof. It is not enough to hold event after<br />

event about consent, even when we know that patriarchy is a fortuitous system<br />

that manifests in diverse and normative forms in our daily lives. Breaking down<br />

this system will require self-implication; it will require continued self-reflection<br />

and critique as well as sustained community dialogue focused on creating accountability<br />

and centering the voices of those who have been ravaged by sexual<br />

violence. We need to undermine the oppressive systems that make it possible for<br />

abuse to occur, the abnormal silence that makes it possible for men to pillage<br />

without any fear of consequence. As feminist scholar Pumla Dineo Gqola makes<br />

clear, this will require serious social sanctions that see us calling out violence just<br />

as much as we call it in. We cannot continue to negotiate our safety using gentle<br />

discourse when our loved ones continue to suffer silently. We cannot continue to<br />

engage in a politics of respectability when 42% of the black women in our midst<br />

exist on the margins, ignored and disrespected by a community that should be<br />

fighting for them relentlessly and fearlessly.<br />

Black Duke, we need to do better.


Video & Photography by<br />

Naomi Lilly


Done.<br />

Where do I begin?<br />

Thank you for saving me, time and time again<br />

Thank you for guiding me, for teaching me how to pray<br />

. But I can’t stand to watch you continue this way<br />

You stress and toil daily<br />

For a man who calls you“baby”<br />

Yet constantly treats you like a slave<br />

You slowly enter through the front door,


Knowing what little peace you had left is no more<br />

And the monster emerges from his cave<br />

He begins yelling and screaming, dragging you by your hair<br />

With all of his might, and he doesn’t care<br />

That two young children are broken, watching from the stairs<br />

Your eldest child dials 9-1-1<br />

Crying through the phone, “Please hurry, he has a gun.”<br />

Where do I begin?<br />

Please let this be the end.<br />

Anonymous


A’s Story<br />

A’s story begins in Europe, on a Duke sponsored research project last summer. She was<br />

the only Duke undergraduate student there with their research team, which included<br />

a doctor from Duke Medicine. During a cultural festival, A, the doctor, and a few other<br />

friends went to participate in the festivities—everyone was drunk, and the crowds<br />

were so big that A got separated from the people she went out with. As she were trying<br />

to make her way back to their friends, two local men groped her. She was shaken and<br />

afraid, and when she finally found everyone, she insisted on going home. When they<br />

questioned her, she told them what happened. Her European project partner didn’t believe<br />

her, saying that she was being overly sensitive and that the men hadn’t meant any<br />

harm. However, the doctor from her team believed her and insisted that the group should<br />

accompany her home. She was relieved and grateful for his support, and they went back<br />

home. When the group began to drink more, she thought, “Fuck it,” and got really, really<br />

drunk. She wanted an escape from what had happened earlier. She doesn’t remember<br />

much from the rest of the night, but later on began to remember flashes of the doctor<br />

kissing her on the forehead in a hotel room later that night —but she dismissed those<br />

memories, shaking them off.<br />

A week later, the doctor asked her to hang out. She said yes, remembering his kindness<br />

during the festival and nervous-excited to date an older man. They began seeing each,<br />

and things were shiny, new, bubbly in the way that new relationships are. They kept in<br />

touch other even after returning to Duke, but as the relationship progressed, A noticed<br />

some things about the doctor that made her uncomfortable: he was very pushy, physically.<br />

As their relationship became more physically intimate, she began to feel as though he<br />

was only interested in his own sexual satisfaction, and not in her as a person. They would<br />

have sex, and then he would sleep on the floor, saying he couldn’t sleep next to people.<br />

He began to go into depressive and full of rage, and she would urge him to consider his<br />

mental health. But when she brought up her concerns, he claimed he knew what he was<br />

doing. The age differential led her to accept what he said. One night, she told him she<br />

was having a rough time, and he invited her over to his apartment. He rolled a joint, and<br />

told her they would share it, but kept pushing it onto her, insisting she smoke more. She<br />

got so high she couldn’t move, uncomfortably high. He ignored her discomfort for two<br />

hours and then when she was falling asleep, the doctor took the opportunity to force<br />

himself on her, violating her body in new and painful ways.<br />

Afterwards, A began to distance herself from the doctor. He started gas-lighting her,<br />

telling her that she would fail in her career, that he was sleeping with other people anyways,<br />

that he was horrified by her and attracted to her at the same time. When she finally<br />

told him she wasn’t interested in hanging out with him anymore over dinner, with no<br />

explanation he dragged her to the rooftop of the building they were dining in, telling her<br />

there that she would regret leaving him, that she was the vindictive and defensive one.<br />

Even after she cut off contact, he kept texting her – to insult her, to demean her, and<br />

most often, to ask where she was.


A can’t tell her research team, because it would be her word<br />

against his.<br />

She also can’t share what happened to her with her family.<br />

They would probably blame her.<br />

So such things must remain secret.


I did not gift you my mind.<br />

In a perfect world, you<br />

would acknowledge that<br />

there is no home for you<br />

here—<br />

No pillow on which to lay<br />

your head,<br />

No mat for you at the<br />

head of the table—<br />

You would acknowledge<br />

the absence of welcome<br />

and<br />

You would not overstay<br />

your welcome.<br />

Instead,<br />

You gaze upon these<br />

brittle bones and you belly<br />

laugh.<br />

You plant your flag in the<br />

thin of my resistance.<br />

This is not the way to take<br />

up space, my love.<br />

This is not the way to love,<br />

my love.


Know that I gifted you my<br />

body in a<br />

self-celebratory<br />

practice.<br />

I presented you with my<br />

skins because<br />

I<br />

Am<br />

Woman<br />

And<br />

I<br />

Can<br />

Do<br />

That<br />

But this was never about<br />

you, my love.<br />

Why must you make it<br />

about you, my love?<br />

Why must you keep me<br />

enthralled by<br />

pretty-whispered lies,<br />

By soft-spoken<br />

insinuations that this was<br />

my fault?<br />

That is not the way to<br />

love, my love.<br />

Anonymous


STANDBYS<br />

By Adriana Parker<br />

Warning:<br />

This poem may contain vulgar language and references to sexual assault<br />

But don’t cover your ears<br />

Y’all need to hear this shit<br />

—<br />

To the room full of bystanders who just stood by:<br />

I hereby declare you garbage cans<br />

Cowardly<br />

And just downright disrespectful<br />

Fuck all y’all<br />

Ain’t no friends of mine<br />

As if I needed your protection<br />

I thought we been through this before<br />

When the real work starts y’all quiet<br />

I shouldn’t NEED your protection<br />

But your snake ass homeboys<br />

And one-off acquaintances should not try to slide their way between my legs<br />

I mean, best not to be so finger lickin’ good right?<br />

Best not to move too sexy and tickle his fancy<br />

Don’t give him. no twerk when your song is on<br />

Best not to have a drink<br />

Or two<br />

Or three<br />

Or however many<br />

I lost count<br />

Best not to go out<br />

Leave the comfort of my house<br />

Celebrate<br />

Just have a damn good time<br />

And y’all wonder why I’m always inside myself<br />

Lucky me I could fight it this time<br />

Lucky me the blood only rushed to his second head<br />

Lucky me I was only an almost not again<br />

I swear #MeToo JUST left my lips so why do the bodies keep rising?<br />

Now my curves feel more like curses<br />

Having a pussy is automatic invitation to fuck right?<br />

Let them prop you on a counter<br />

Feel you up<br />

Shake you down<br />

Don’t dare fight back


Swallow this objectification and may it not burn your throat<br />

May it be the sweetest sin you ever tasted<br />

Now how is that for justification?<br />

Well my ass was shaking I must have wanted it right?<br />

“Yo shit fat ma let me get inside / You making me hard / Let us see what you look like”<br />

Nigga your name ain’t Kanye<br />

I ain’t ask for these flashing lights<br />

Just trying to throw it back after a long week without you behind me<br />

I didn’t want this<br />

Bass too heavy like his hands around my neck<br />

Like his niggas creeping up behind me even though I said no all night<br />

But back to these bystanders<br />

Would you have seen it if I were your sister?<br />

Your Mother?<br />

Your Homie-lover-friend?<br />

Would you have checked it?<br />

Checked him?<br />

Would you have cast them out?<br />

And now here I am again<br />

Letting you know I’m fed the fuck up with smelling the bricks in this house named<br />

patriarchy<br />

Or rape culture<br />

But what’s really in a name?<br />

They all the same right?<br />

I mean, y’all befriend rapists every day<br />

Your girl probably a survivor and never told you<br />

And I’m sick of this silence<br />

Yours, theirs and even mine sometimes<br />

I’m tired of the all talk and no action<br />

No listen<br />

Of the “we support the 1 in 5” but you always on standby with clean hands<br />

Ain’t it funny?<br />

I feel safer in the company of strangers than this prison we call home sometimes<br />

Don’t you know I’ve worn tape around my body labelled trigger warning for years?<br />

Can’t wash off this stink of humiliation no matter how hard I try<br />

Tell me... can you smell it?<br />

Is the reek appealing?<br />

Or is it noseblind ignorance?<br />

Is rape too bitter a pill?<br />

Tell me... if for the first, second, almost third time around what would the bystanders do<br />

had it been...<br />

you?


If you or a loved one has experienced or is currently<br />

experiencing gender violence, the<br />

following resources are available.<br />

Dirham Crisis Response Center<br />

919.403.6562<br />

Orange County Crisis Center<br />

919.968.4647<br />

Durham Coalition Against Gender Violence<br />

919.956.9124<br />

National Sexual Assualt Hotline<br />

800.656.HOPE<br />

Cousenling and Psychological Services Duke<br />

919.660.1000<br />

Cousenling and Psychological Services UNC<br />

919.966.2281<br />

Duke Reach<br />

919.684.1161<br />

Visual By Asheligh Smith<br />

Women’s Cter Duke<br />

919.684.3897<br />

Women’s Center Chapel Hill<br />

919.962.8305


Shifting the Culture By: Krystal George, MPA, CHES<br />

What is sexual assault? What is consent? “Yes means Yes!” “Consent is<br />

Sexy!” These are all questions and phrases that we ask, answer, and shout in<br />

the world of gender violence prevention. On a college campus it is vital to educate<br />

and make students aware of gender violence, with the hopes of preventing<br />

it from occurring. Unfortunately, the national statistic “1 in 5 women and 1 in 16<br />

men are sexually assaulted while in college (Christopher P. Krebs, 2007) ” has<br />

not changed much in the last 20 years. Here at Duke, based on the most recent<br />

Student Experience Survey, “40% of undergraduate women reported they were<br />

sexually assaulted since enrolling” (Duke University, 2017). Also, based on this<br />

survey, “Black/African American and Hispanic female students reported higher<br />

percentages than other race/ethnic groups among undergraduates” (Duke University,<br />

2017). Women of color are often forgotten about in the discussions of gender<br />

violence prevention. Prevention has advanced tremendously; and while students<br />

understand sexual assault and consent and are aware that it happens, we still<br />

have practically the same amount of assaults happening on college campuses<br />

around the world.<br />

There is a need for the voices of women of color on campus to have a place<br />

at the table when discussing the issues of sexual violence, intimate partner violence,<br />

sexual harassment, and stalking. The prevention work that the Women’s<br />

Center does is steeped in intersectionality and Womanism; however nothing<br />

speaks volumes like the voices of the female students of color. Not only do we<br />

need the voices of the female students of color, but we also need for our male<br />

students of color to be a part of this movement as well. Discussions about gender<br />

violence are a great place to start, but we also need action on campus. This<br />

means taking a look at ourselves, and holding ourselves accountable for changing<br />

the culture on campus. Shifting the culture on campus for students of color<br />

comes in many forms. Here are a few to start with:<br />

1. Being an active bystander.<br />

2. Attending a sexual misconduct taskforce meeting, so that students of<br />

color are represented.<br />

3. Creating a taskforce within your organization.<br />

4. Collaborating with the Women’s Center.<br />

5. Calling out inappropriate behavior of peers.<br />

6. Using your voice!<br />

Works Cited<br />

Christopher P. Krebs, C. H. (2007). The Campus Sexual (CSA) Study: Final Report. National Institute of Justice.<br />

Emilie Buchwald, P. R. (1993). Transforming A Rape Culture. Minneapolis, MN, US: Milkweed Editions.<br />

University, D. (2017, February 20). Duke Student Affairs. Retrieved February 18, 2018, from Sexual Misconduct Prevention & Response:<br />

https://studentaffairs.duke.edu/sites/default/files/2017-07/Student_Experience_Survey_1.pdf

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