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Living with<br />
know-it-alls<br />
Get your<br />
twins to<br />
sleep<br />
longer<br />
at night<br />
<strong>February</strong> <strong>2018</strong><br />
www.twinsmagazine.com<br />
using<br />
stories<br />
to teach<br />
your twins<br />
five<br />
ways to help your<br />
twins’ get more<br />
exercise
table of<br />
contents<br />
<strong>February</strong> <strong>2018</strong><br />
In Every Issue<br />
Twins in the News _________4<br />
Double Takes ____________34<br />
Your adorable photos of twins<br />
Feature Articles<br />
Using stories_____________26<br />
to teach your twins<br />
Learning without the lectures<br />
by Aria Gunman<br />
Twins and kitchen _______ 28<br />
safety<br />
Keeping little hands out of trouble<br />
by Shane Borrowman<br />
It’s cold and flu___________ 30<br />
season<br />
Seven fever myths<br />
by Steven J. Sainsbury, M.D.<br />
Are your twins active _____ 32<br />
enough?<br />
Help them get more exercise<br />
by Aria Gunman<br />
Columns<br />
My twins have ____________ 5<br />
separate birthdays<br />
Neat, but what about birthday<br />
parties?<br />
by Chantal Meijer<br />
Mom2Mom ______________ 8<br />
Which one of your twins is the evil<br />
one?<br />
by Theresa Halvorsen<br />
The twin truth __________ 34<br />
Sharing bedrooms, a twin’s honest<br />
opinion<br />
by Jennifer Jordan<br />
Ages & Stages<br />
Pregnancy<br />
Over 35 and expecting: ____ 10<br />
your guide to expecting<br />
multiples<br />
by Dr. James Byrne<br />
Before you name them, ____ 12<br />
consider these tips<br />
by Ruby Coats Mosher<br />
Twinfants<br />
Monthly milestones _______ 14<br />
for multiples in the first year<br />
A simple way to get ________ 16<br />
your twins to sleep longer at<br />
night<br />
by Allison Randall Gatt<br />
Toddler Twins<br />
Chomp! Five tips for _______ 18<br />
dealing with children<br />
who bite<br />
by Laura Sky Brown<br />
Preschool Twins<br />
Babysitting your babies: ____ 20<br />
consider these tips<br />
by Patricia Edminster, Ph.D.<br />
School Age Twins<br />
Living with know-it-alls: ____ 22<br />
when your twins have all the<br />
answers<br />
by Katherine M. Carlman<br />
A self-confidence _________ 24<br />
check up<br />
by Judith O. Hooper<br />
24<br />
A self-confidence<br />
check up<br />
Twins and kitchen<br />
28 safety<br />
32<br />
Are your twins<br />
active enough?<br />
Cover Photography by Jenko Ataman
Volume 35 Number 1<br />
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ANOTEFROMTHEEDITOR<br />
It’s our birthday! <strong>TWINS</strong> is 34 years old!<br />
Hello and welcome to our first issue of <strong>2018</strong>! it’s<br />
a big edition for us... that’s right! <strong>TWINS</strong> Magazine<br />
is turning 34! We’re in good twin company, as<br />
celebrity twin Scarlett Johansson is also turning 34<br />
later this year. We’re sure that she and her co-twin,<br />
Hunter, will be celebrating in style.<br />
I’d like to take a moment to say thank you for<br />
helping us reach this birthday. Each and every one<br />
of our readers is the lifeblood that keeps us going,<br />
and we couldn’t do it without you. You’ve shown<br />
us so much support over the years, and nowhere<br />
is this shown more than through all your Double<br />
Takes submissions!<br />
We were overwhelmed this month with how<br />
many fantastic pictures you, the readers, sent in.<br />
It’s always a difficult task to choose which ones<br />
to put in, but this time it was almost impossible.<br />
The response to the call for Double Takes was the<br />
largest we have ever had, so to celebrate we’ve<br />
made the Double Takes section 50% bigger. If you<br />
entered, do take a look to see if your little ones<br />
made it in. Don’t be disheartened if they aren’t in<br />
this issue - keep submitting and hopefully they can<br />
be featured in the future!<br />
We hope you enjoy this issue of <strong>TWINS</strong> Magazine<br />
as much as we always enjoy putting it together.<br />
So much has changed since 1984 - here’s to<br />
another 34 years of all things <strong>TWINS</strong>!<br />
Sincerely,<br />
Laura Cunningham<br />
Laura Cunningham,<br />
Editor-in-Chief<br />
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<strong>February</strong> <strong>2018</strong> 3
<strong>TWINS</strong>INTHENEWS<br />
Bankrupted by giving<br />
birth to premature twins<br />
caps and pre-existing conditions<br />
ever become a limit to my children’s<br />
access to healthcare, I have<br />
no idea how we will navigate this<br />
system. This system is not set up to<br />
support families with catastrophic<br />
medical bills.”<br />
It’s twins! And again! And<br />
again!<br />
to go back to school to become an<br />
OB/GYN.<br />
Her advice to new twin moms<br />
is: “Accept any help you receive,<br />
ask for help, and make sure your<br />
husband or partner is contributing<br />
equally to the workload at home.<br />
And secondly, don’t take anything<br />
seriously - unless it’s actually serious,<br />
of course!”<br />
You can find out more about<br />
her life with three sets of twins and<br />
a singleton on her blog:<br />
www.tripletwinning.com.<br />
Jen Sinconis has opened up<br />
about her experience of having<br />
twins sixteen weeks early,<br />
and the millions of dollars it cost to<br />
save their lives.<br />
She writes: “It had never occurred<br />
to me the financial repercussions<br />
someone could encounter<br />
because of an ongoing medical<br />
situation. We were a middle-class<br />
family with college degrees and<br />
solid full-time jobs in marketing<br />
and construction management.<br />
We owned our house, had very<br />
little debt, a savings account,<br />
retirement accounts and comprehensive<br />
medical insurance.”<br />
Despite it all, Jen and her husband<br />
had to sell their house and<br />
ended up filing for bankruptcy just<br />
to pay for the medical bills. Eleven<br />
years later, her twins (Aidan and<br />
Ethan) are healthier than the doctors<br />
predicted, but it was a long<br />
road to solvency.<br />
Jen says: “When Trump was<br />
elected I cried myself to sleep,<br />
knowing that one of his first agenda<br />
items would be overturning<br />
the Affordable Care Act. If lifetime<br />
One mom has beaten one<br />
in 500,000 odds after<br />
giving birth to twins for<br />
the third time. Misty Lang, 35, is a<br />
twin herself, and imagined being<br />
a monther to one or two children.<br />
Instead she has ended up with<br />
seven children. She had her first<br />
set of twins (Alex and Lexie) nine<br />
years ago, then gave birth to a<br />
singleton (Calista) two years later.<br />
She then went on to have another<br />
set of twins, Lacie and Nash,<br />
who are five, and she has recently<br />
welcomed set three: Lana and<br />
Phoenix.<br />
Misty said she was “happy and<br />
scared all at once - we were going<br />
to have five kids under three. But<br />
once the initial shock passed, we<br />
were incredibly excited.” Once her<br />
children get a little older, she plans<br />
Just how heritable is<br />
autism? Twins research<br />
suggests it’s more than<br />
we think<br />
A<br />
team of researchers at<br />
King’s College London<br />
has been combing data<br />
from over 4,700 twin pairs in a<br />
Twins Early Development Study<br />
has found that the heritability of<br />
autism is 50%. This is inline with<br />
results from previous twin studies,<br />
but is far higher than the 6%<br />
estimate from single-nucleotide<br />
polymorphisms. A<br />
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My twins have separate birthdays<br />
by Chantal Meijer<br />
To some sharp-eyed person reading my family’s<br />
medical card, it looks like a typo—two<br />
kids with the same surname, born ONE day<br />
apart. That can’t be right, they invariably say.<br />
For years, I’ve been tickled pink to tell them—<br />
and anyone else who’ll listen to my tale—why isn’t<br />
a typo at all: They’re identical twin boys, born on<br />
either side of midnight.<br />
So, how did this birth happen—the timing,<br />
I mean—and just how did we handle our boys’<br />
birthdays over the years, as brand-new parents<br />
with everything to learn? Easy—we held one<br />
birthday party, with one double-sized cake. And<br />
we always celebrated on the first-born’s birthday.<br />
Why wait another day? At least, that was the plan.<br />
Most of the time.<br />
My boys rushed into this world after my water<br />
broke as I answered the front door one morning,<br />
three weeks before my due date. My startled dad,<br />
who had stopped by while on his way to a jobsite,<br />
stood transfixed. “Perfect,” I said, as I ruminated on<br />
the saying “the child born on the Sabbath day is<br />
bonnie and blight”, or words to that effect.<br />
My husband Rick was hundreds of miles away,<br />
not due back until the next day. “Phone Rick, Dad,”<br />
I blurted as I wobbled towards my suitcase.<br />
For the entire day, my eyes were riveted on the<br />
hospital-room clock, first at the small local facility<br />
where I was admitted, then at a larger regional<br />
hospital requiring an hour-long ambulance ride.<br />
As the hands closed in on midnight, the doctor<br />
called for forceps.<br />
I braced myself; sometime later I heard his<br />
voice ring out: “It’s a boy! Congratulations. Time of<br />
birth ... 11:59!”<br />
Moments later: “It’s another boy! Time of birth<br />
... 12:04!” My husband arrived the next day, after<br />
being grounded by fog for a day. He grinned from<br />
ear to ear.<br />
On our sons’ first birthday, I invited half the<br />
town—every mom from my prenatal group, every<br />
person I had ever met. The party was as much for<br />
me as for the boys; validation that I’d survived the<br />
Neat thing, but what about birthday parties?<br />
ordeal. The cake, awash with both names, was as<br />
big as the baker dared make it.<br />
Years later, one birthday party for the twins<br />
required two cakes, the exception to my birthday-party<br />
mantra. The boys, in Batman and Superman<br />
mode at the time, had individual Batman and<br />
Superman cakes.<br />
But in general, we stuck to my mantra: one<br />
party, one cake. Why mess with a good thing?<br />
Besides, the boys thought having one party was<br />
perfectly fine.<br />
Gigantic Cake<br />
Over the years, we took a gazillion photos—our<br />
twins and our other two (singletons), six and nine<br />
years younger. For the twins’ photos, I used a little<br />
trick: I positioned the first-born on the right, so<br />
over the years we’d always know who’s who in<br />
photos.<br />
For their 16th, each had a separate party. The<br />
first-born had his first, with his friends, and invited<br />
his twin brother, with the brother’s friends.<br />
The next day, the secondborn did the same thing<br />
again. Same group.<br />
We returned to the tried-and-true format.<br />
Recently, our sons graduated from university.<br />
As fate would have it, convocation ceremonies fell<br />
on the first-born’s birthday. Wow, try and beat that!<br />
My maternal antennae were twitching with<br />
double delight. Their cake, an impetus for the baker’s<br />
retirement, again was as big as he dared make<br />
it! It included everything: Congratulations for their<br />
birthdays, their graduations, their golden retrievers<br />
(that’s another story), and on and on.<br />
Every now and then, someone, someplace still<br />
asks me the timeless question about their separate<br />
birth-dates: “Is that a typo, ma’am?”<br />
My chest puffs, almost to its old nursing size.<br />
A smile spreads across my beatified face. My<br />
words flow sweet as chocolate syrup on vanilla ice<br />
cream: “They’re identical twins, born either side of<br />
midnight,” I gush. That won’t ever grow old. Unlike<br />
cake. A<br />
<strong>February</strong> <strong>2018</strong> 5
Which one of<br />
your twins is<br />
the evil one?<br />
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by Theresa Halvorsen
MOM2MOM<br />
boys must be twins,” a woman said to<br />
me in the Target check-out line. “Yep,” I<br />
“Your<br />
said. I kept my focus on unloading my cart<br />
and watching my eight-year old twins. One of<br />
them pulled a yo-yo off a display and begged for<br />
it (promising to clean the whole house if only he<br />
could have the toy), while the other ran up to push<br />
buttons on the registry kiosk.<br />
“How old are they?” the lady asked.<br />
“Eight,” I said stacking the two loaves of bread,<br />
four containers of juice, eight boxes of cereal,<br />
ten cans of peas and corn, and four packages of<br />
boy’s socks onto the conveyer belt. I sighed. They<br />
weren’t even teenagers and I could barely keep up<br />
with the food shopping.<br />
“They’re so handsome.”<br />
“Thank you,” I said automatically. This was nothing<br />
new. Older people often liked the looks of my<br />
identical tow-headed sons with their gap-toothed<br />
smiles.<br />
“Which one is the evil one?” the lady asked.<br />
“Excuse me?”<br />
“You know, which one is the bad one?” Of all<br />
the comments twin parents get from complete<br />
strangers, this is the one I hate the most. I can<br />
handle the identical or fraternal question (identical,<br />
even though their hair is cut differently—yes, they<br />
can still be identical twins with different haircuts),<br />
if I used fertility drugs (nope), if they’re in the<br />
same classroom (yep) and comments about how<br />
high-energy they are. But I can’t handle strangers<br />
asking me if one of my sons is evil. What parent<br />
could?<br />
But is one of my twins more of a challenge to<br />
raise than the other? Is there one I discipline more<br />
or is in more trouble at school? And the answer is<br />
yes, with a big asterisk next to it.<br />
One of my sons, Alex, does very well at school.<br />
He gets good grades, does his homework and is<br />
adored by his teachers and sports coaches. He’s<br />
rarely in trouble and if he is, he’s in trouble with<br />
a group of other kids. Conversely, my other son,<br />
Hunter, doesn’t like school. It’s a battle to get him<br />
to do homework and if he doesn’t enjoy a subject,<br />
he’s not going learn about it. In addition, if<br />
he doesn’t understand a rule, or why the rule is in<br />
place, he’s more likely to break it. According to this<br />
woman at Target, Hunter would be the evil one.<br />
But it’s not that easy. Alex is a people-pleaser.<br />
He follows the rules because it makes people<br />
happy with him. He works hard in school and on<br />
sporting teams because the adults like him better<br />
when he does. While this is a great trait, I’m concerned<br />
when he’s in high school he may want to<br />
please his friends more than teachers or his dad<br />
and I. As a teenager will he end up as the ‘evil’ one?<br />
And what about when he’s an adult? Is he going<br />
to be able to think outside the box and see things<br />
from different angles? Or is he going to be trapped<br />
in that box trying to make everyone like him? Is<br />
Alex going to be miserable as an adult because of<br />
his need to please everyone?<br />
Hunter, on the other hand, is my non-conformist.<br />
He’s the class clown, the weird one and he<br />
doesn’t care what anyone thinks about him. He’s<br />
swallowed a quarter (and gotten it lodged in his<br />
throat), needed stitches in his forehead after tying<br />
his jacket around his head so he couldn’t see where<br />
he was going and flooded the bathroom doing<br />
a science experiment. In school, his teachers find<br />
him challenging and his sports coaches tend to<br />
‘forget’ he’s there and not put him in during games.<br />
But Hunter has an amazing imagination and a<br />
unique way of looking at the world. He loves art,<br />
music and telling outrageous stories about places<br />
he’s never been (one time when I was sixteen<br />
and on Mars…) If he can get through school with<br />
that imagination intact, I know he won’t be doing<br />
drugs in high school because all of his friends are<br />
doing them. If I can get him through school as<br />
a non-conformist I’ll know when he tells me he’s<br />
dropped out of college to play his guitar, it was his<br />
choice and he’s doing what makes him happy.<br />
As I write this, I realize how happy I am they<br />
have each other, because they need the traits the<br />
other twin offers. Alex needs Hunter to help him<br />
use his imagination and see things outside of society’s<br />
rules. And Hunter needs Alex’s structure to<br />
help him learn about rules and the importance of<br />
obeying them. They’re the perfect twin team. So<br />
to answer that lady, neither of my sons are evil, but<br />
they do have traits that present challenges to their<br />
father and I. A<br />
<strong>February</strong> <strong>2018</strong> 7
Sharing bedrooms<br />
by Jennifer Jordan<br />
a twin’s honest opinion<br />
PARENTS ALWAYS ASK:<br />
I know a lot of twins who share a bedroom. This can<br />
often be difficult because twins are usually together<br />
so much anyway. Is there any advice that you can offer<br />
to help twins feel as if their shared bedroom is a place<br />
where they can express individuality?<br />
JENNIFER’S TAKE:<br />
For twins, sharing a room is almost as unavoidable as<br />
sharing a womb. It is as if there is an unwritten rule<br />
stating that twins must stay in the same place; bunk<br />
beds were made for us. This unwritten rule certainly<br />
applied to my twin sister and me.<br />
From the time we were born until we were 12, we<br />
shared a room. Even though our family had a spare<br />
bedroom in our house—one that either of us would<br />
have happily occupied—this room was used as a place<br />
to keep our toys. When we were 4, this spare room was<br />
given to the new addition in our family, our younger<br />
sister. The fact that she got her own room and my twin<br />
sister and I had to share one seemed, in our opinion, to<br />
go against everything good and pure in the world.<br />
Our parents, however, didn’t see it this way. Whenever<br />
we asked why we had to share a room, they<br />
would utter the monozygotic mantra, “Because you’re<br />
twins.” This, to them, was based on logic. To my twin<br />
and me it was based on lunacy: Each of us should have<br />
had our own room and our younger sister could go live<br />
in the garage.<br />
But, alas, our request wasn’t granted. At first,<br />
sharing a room was no big deal. However, at about<br />
age 5, when we started to develop our own identities,<br />
sharing a room seemed to hold us back from being<br />
individuals.<br />
Now, the fact that a room can hold back twins may<br />
seem odd. A lot of siblings, twins and otherwise, share<br />
a room when they’re young. But, for twins, sharing<br />
a room further compounds the lack of individualism<br />
they already face. For my twin and me, we could<br />
never get away from each other; we were each other’s<br />
stalkers. We went to school together, played together,<br />
had the same friends. Even when we fought—pulling<br />
each other’s hair or calling each other names—our<br />
parents would punish us by sending us to our room,<br />
where we would, once again, be stuck together. There<br />
was simply nowhere to go to be an individual. Kids use<br />
their rooms as a way to express themselves, hanging<br />
up pictures on the wall or arranging stuffed animals in<br />
a certain order. For my twin and me, however, we really<br />
could only express ourselves together, discarding<br />
completely any concept of selfexpression: We could<br />
only decorate our room in a manner upon which we<br />
both agreed.<br />
To this day, I can remember being 7 years old and<br />
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wanting to hang up a poster of Steve Watson, a Denver<br />
Bronco’s receiver. Because my sister hated sports, I<br />
wasn’t allowed to hang up my poster on our bedroom<br />
wall and instead had to hang Steve up in the corner of<br />
my closet, a crevice so dark I couldn’t even stare into<br />
his dreamy eyes. I remember thinking the only reason<br />
Steve was consigned to the closet was because my sister<br />
and I were twins and our room had to contain only<br />
things we both liked.<br />
For parents whose twins share a room, keep in<br />
mind that twins need their own space, probably even<br />
more than other siblings do. Some twins might be<br />
okay with sharing everything, and may even prefer<br />
it, but those who exhibit even the slightest desire for<br />
separation should not be ignored.<br />
One good thing to do is give each twin a corner<br />
of their room to use for whatever they want. Whether<br />
they want to decorate their corner with stuffed animals<br />
or decorate it with pictures they have drawn, their corner<br />
is where they are allowed to go for self-expression.<br />
This individual corner is each person’s “own room” in<br />
the room that they share.<br />
If twins ask why they need to share a room, avoid<br />
answering, “Because you’re twins.” This isn’t what twins<br />
want—or need—to hear. It’s a saying that makes twins<br />
feel as though they are being punished for something<br />
they can’t control, and didn’t ask for. Instead of uttering<br />
this statement, ask them what they think a good<br />
alternative to sharing a room would be. You might be<br />
surprised at what they come up with. If their alternative<br />
can’t be met (e.g., if the garage proves too cold for<br />
their younger sibling) ask them what can be done to<br />
make them happier with their rooming-in situation.<br />
Let your twins know they don’t have to agree on<br />
everything; if one twin wants a red comforter and one<br />
wants blue, let them know that’s okay. Twins are often<br />
geared to believe that they must do everything the<br />
same, in lockstep.<br />
It’s as if twins are taught that having differences<br />
will some how shatter their “twin pact.” However, twins<br />
who express differences and embrace these differences<br />
will have a much easier time than twins who are<br />
under the impression they must be identical in every<br />
aspect. If twins possess differences of opinions in how<br />
they want their room to look, allow them to express<br />
these differences in a positive manner.<br />
Teaching twins they don’t have to agree on<br />
everything is one of the most valuable lessons a parent<br />
can offer. A<br />
Coming next issue...<br />
Our April issue is full to the<br />
brim with all things <strong>TWINS</strong>,<br />
including adjusting to life with<br />
twins plus one, cloth diapers,<br />
communication tips and so<br />
much more!<br />
We’re now accepting your<br />
photos of your twins/multiples<br />
to run in our Double Takes<br />
section.<br />
Simply go to<br />
twinsmagazine.com/double-takes<br />
to submit your images.<br />
All<br />
ages and<br />
twin types<br />
welcome!<br />
Submit by:<br />
March 19,<br />
<strong>2018</strong><br />
Holiday 2017 9
PREGNANCY<br />
by Dr. James Byrne<br />
Clinical Professor of Obstetrics<br />
and Gynecology and Maternal<br />
Fetal Medicine at Stanford<br />
University School of Medicine<br />
This advice is intended<br />
as a guide. If you have<br />
any concerns, please discuss<br />
them directly with<br />
your doctor or other<br />
medical professional.<br />
Over 35<br />
& Expecting<br />
Your health guide to expecting multiples<br />
Congratulations! You’re embarking on<br />
what is arguably the most challenging<br />
and rewarding experience of your life. Just<br />
as you would not go into the wilderness unprepared<br />
— it’s important that you prepare for your<br />
upcoming adventure. By learning about possible<br />
medical challenges, you can better participate in<br />
obtaining the safest pregnancy possible for you<br />
and your new bundles of joy. Two major areas to<br />
explore are your health and common pregnancy<br />
complications.<br />
MATERNAL HEALTH FACTORS<br />
Ideally, women actively improve their lifestyle<br />
including a healthy diet and exercise to lose any<br />
excess weight even prior to getting pregnant.<br />
Given the obesity statistics in the U.S. you can<br />
see the value of pre-conception care and getting<br />
into the best physical shape possible. Pregnancy,<br />
particularly with twins, is a significant physical<br />
demand on your body including the heart and<br />
muscles. Unlike exercise, this demand continues<br />
around the clock for many months. Another<br />
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eason to improve your overall<br />
health is that being overweight is<br />
associated with increased risk of<br />
high blood pressure and diabetes.<br />
Lifestyle modifications often create<br />
the safest possible environment.<br />
Especially for women over<br />
the age of 35, pre-existing health<br />
conditions can result in increased<br />
medical problems during twin<br />
pregnancies. The most common<br />
are high blood pressure and diabetes.<br />
It’s important to recognize<br />
these risks and work proactively<br />
with your doctor in order to have<br />
the healthiest children. OB/GYN’s<br />
and other pregnancy professionals<br />
watch for signs of pre-existing<br />
hypertension and for new onset<br />
of pregnancy hypertension conditions<br />
(such as preeclampsia). These<br />
occur in about 1 in 5 pregnant<br />
women over 35 with twins and<br />
OB/GYN doctors are well skilled at<br />
this aspect of care.<br />
Diabetes is also very common<br />
in women over 35 who are pregnant<br />
with twins. In fact, diabetes<br />
affects approximately 1 in 3<br />
women in this group. Diabetes<br />
may have existed prior to the<br />
pregnancy or it may develop as a<br />
new condition (Gestational diabetes).<br />
Even Gestational diabetes<br />
can harm the unborn child if not<br />
identified and managed appropriately.<br />
Risk to the child can include<br />
being too large and result in birth<br />
injury. Poorly controlled diabetes<br />
can increase the long-term risks of<br />
pediatric and adult obesity, which<br />
harm your child for decades into<br />
the future.<br />
Fortunately, this common condition<br />
is typically managed successfully<br />
with proper diet and self<br />
testing of blood sugars at home.<br />
Occasionally some women will<br />
need to be on medications to control<br />
their blood sugar and protect<br />
their child. This can be achieved by<br />
taking oral pills or by injections of<br />
insulin. For women who need this<br />
special care, their OB/GYN doctor<br />
will usually work with either a Maternal<br />
Fetal Medicine (MFM) doctor<br />
or an endocrinologist. While this<br />
is a lot of work for most women,<br />
this additional care clearly benefits<br />
unborn children now and into the<br />
future.<br />
All medical conditions become<br />
more common as we age and<br />
pregnant women are not immune<br />
from this. So, it’s important to be<br />
proactive and be sure to have your<br />
health care provider check your<br />
overall health including your thyroid<br />
function. Also, let your provider<br />
know immediately if you have<br />
medical conditions such as lupus,<br />
asthma or any heart conditions.<br />
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COMMON PREGNANCY<br />
FACTORS<br />
It is well known that women<br />
carrying twins or other multiples<br />
are more likely to deliver prematurely.<br />
This rate is even higher in<br />
women who are over age 35 and<br />
in women with any of the medical<br />
conditions noted above. More<br />
than half of women with multiples<br />
who are older than 35 will deliver<br />
prematurely. Fortunately, the majority<br />
of these births occurs after<br />
34 weeks and is associated with<br />
only minor risk to the children.<br />
Their care can usually be provided<br />
in local community hospitals and<br />
consists of helping the newborns<br />
cope with issues such as jaundice<br />
and problems with feeding. However,<br />
there is also risk for births<br />
prior to 34 weeks. Twins born this<br />
early often need more advanced<br />
levels of medical care found in<br />
level 3 Neonatal Intensive Care<br />
Units (NICU). Due to prematurity,<br />
these babies face more challenges<br />
including risks related to their<br />
lungs and brains. Fortunately most<br />
will do well with modern medical<br />
care even though it is emotionally<br />
challenging for their parents.<br />
Fortunately, preterm labor<br />
can often be predicted by several<br />
factors including the mom’s medical<br />
status as well as with special tests.<br />
These tests include special ultrasounds<br />
of the cervix and a test for<br />
fetal fibronectin. The fetal fibronectin<br />
test (fFN Test) is performed much<br />
like a pap smear with a special swab<br />
and results are usually available<br />
within four hours. A negative test<br />
result means there is less than one<br />
percent chance of delivery from<br />
preterm labor in the next 14 days. If<br />
the test is positive it allows the OB/<br />
Gyn doctor to prepare for possible<br />
preterm birth. One of the most<br />
important interventions to protect<br />
preterm children involves medications<br />
(such as beta-methasone) that<br />
are given to the mother and then<br />
cross the placenta to strengthen<br />
the babies’ lungs and blood vessels.<br />
Preparation may also involve your<br />
doctor coordinating care with other<br />
physicians or hospitals skilled in the<br />
care of preemie babies. The March<br />
of Dimes is one organization with<br />
excellent website resources regarding<br />
preterm labor assessment tool<br />
kits as well as wonderful materials<br />
to help educate and support families<br />
with preterm birth (see www.<br />
marchofdimes.com).<br />
While this medical information<br />
can all seem overwhelming at first,<br />
the most important thing for any<br />
woman expecting twins is to be<br />
aware of what can occur and be<br />
proactive working with her doctor<br />
to improve the health outcomes<br />
for her children. After all, you are<br />
your best advocate for your health<br />
and the health of your children. Be<br />
proactive, educated, and enjoy! A<br />
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PREGNANCY<br />
Before you<br />
name them,<br />
consider<br />
these tips<br />
joseph<br />
karen<br />
daniel<br />
carl<br />
natalie<br />
roberta<br />
katie<br />
bradley<br />
by Ruby Coats Mosher<br />
Do you have names picked out yet? Every<br />
expectant parent hears that question<br />
dozens of times before their bundle (or<br />
bundles!) of joy arrives.<br />
Why is everyone so interested in “Baby’s”<br />
name? Because it gives him an identity, almost<br />
a personality, answers those who have<br />
studies the phenomenon. “Every name sends<br />
out signals,” say Linda Rosenkrantz and Pamela<br />
Redmond Satran, authors of the book, Beyond<br />
Jennifer and Jason: An Enlightened Guide to<br />
Naming Your Baby. “It transmits messages and<br />
reverberations of its own: a level of energy and<br />
intensity of color and sheen, and a texture.”<br />
Although it is often difficult to come up with<br />
a name for one baby, let alone two, three or<br />
more, the following are some basic questions<br />
expectant parents choosing multiple monikers<br />
are best advised to ask themselves.<br />
1. Is each easy to pronounce?<br />
Since your children’s names will be spoken many<br />
times over their lifetimes, try not to saddle any of<br />
them with a tongue-twister. Catch potential problems<br />
with pronunciation by repeating the name<br />
aloud several times in succession. Practice with and<br />
without the middle name. Zane Noble, for example,<br />
looks great in writing but when spoken, the repeating<br />
“n” sounds can fuse into something sounding<br />
like Zane Oble. If the speaker tried to pronounce<br />
each “n” separately, the name might then sound like<br />
Zana Noble.<br />
2. Does each have a pleasing rhythm?<br />
While practicing a name for pronunciation, also<br />
note the rhythmic quality. Does the name roll off<br />
your tongue like a melody or do you prefer it to<br />
sound more “sing-along”, as in the name “Mary Jane<br />
Rein?”<br />
3. Do the initials spell F.A.T.?<br />
Children can be charming, kind and innocent.<br />
They can also be thoughtlessly cruel. Historically, a<br />
schoolage “game” many children play is inspecting<br />
each other’s initials for dirty words or unflattering<br />
names, then taunting their owners. Think of the fun<br />
they’d have with Patrick Edward Eubanks, Frances<br />
Alice Tatman or Bradley Michael Wright? You<br />
can’t outsmart a child, but you can do your best<br />
to think like one. Examine the initials of a name in<br />
every combination of first, middle and last. Watch<br />
not only for words but also abbreviated sentences<br />
formed by letters that sound like words (a, b, c, I, m,<br />
n, p, r, u), Ida May Butts might not be happy with her<br />
initials when she goes to school.<br />
4. Is the spelling of each unusual?<br />
Rosenkrantz and Satran advise against deviating<br />
the spelling or pronunciation of a common name.<br />
For instance, you should think twice about changing<br />
the spelling of Cindy to Cyndi because of the<br />
potential confusion involved. Also, don’t expect<br />
others to pronounce Maria with a long “i”, no matter<br />
how clearly you explain it on a kindergarten form.<br />
Both Cyndi and Maria can expect to spend the rest<br />
of their lives correcting other people’s attempts at<br />
pronouncing and spelling their names.<br />
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There are many considerations<br />
when choosing names for your<br />
multiples. Some are more important<br />
than others, but more parents<br />
will agree that the following hint<br />
offered by Bill Cosby in his book,<br />
Fatherhood, is one to pay attention<br />
to: “Always end the name of your<br />
child with a vowel, so that when<br />
you yell, the name will carry…”<br />
Special dos and don’ts<br />
for naming multiples<br />
Don’t Rhyme.<br />
Resist the temptation to choose<br />
rhyming names. Twenty-two-yearold<br />
Karla remembers the confusion<br />
caused by her sister’s rhyming<br />
name. “At school, classmates and<br />
teachers would sometimes call me<br />
Marla, my sister’s name. That really<br />
bothered me. The only reason<br />
people were confused was because<br />
of our names. I mean, I had<br />
short brown hair and Marla’s hair<br />
was long and blonde—we were<br />
totally different.”<br />
Don’t Make A “Precious Pair”.<br />
To foster the individuality of your<br />
multiples, avoid the temptation<br />
to give them names that make it<br />
easy for others to lump them into<br />
a category; it will be hard enough<br />
to keep them from calling your<br />
children “the twins”. Naming your<br />
girls Heather and Daisy, for example,<br />
may forever brand them “the<br />
flower girls.”<br />
Don’t Fall Into the Same<br />
Initial Trap.<br />
If you cannot resist using same-initial<br />
first names, make sure the middle<br />
initials are different. There is<br />
too much potential for the mix-up<br />
of records and other information<br />
when there are two J.A. Smiths<br />
that went to the same school, have<br />
the same parents, same address,<br />
same birthday, etc.<br />
Don’t Forget Nicknames.<br />
We live in a society that loves to<br />
shorten names into nicknames.<br />
Be sure to consider all possible<br />
nicknames. Will it sound like fingernails<br />
scratching a chalkboard to<br />
you when your daughter, Elizabeth,<br />
is called Liz, Betsy or Libby by<br />
her friends?<br />
Also, avoid choosing names for<br />
your multiples that have the same<br />
nickname. Parings such as Robert<br />
and Roberta, or Christine and<br />
Christopher, offer the potential for<br />
mix-ups—some of them embarrassing.<br />
For example, does Gerald<br />
or Geraldine get to open a letter<br />
“To Gerry” marked “SWAK”?<br />
Do Maintain Consistency of<br />
Style and Tone.<br />
Names can be grouped into<br />
categories such as contemporary,<br />
classic, artistic, attractive and<br />
studious. Rosenkrantz and Satran<br />
recommend selecting family<br />
names out of one category or<br />
another. Keep in mind that some<br />
names such as Brittany, sound<br />
contemporary, while others, such<br />
as Pearl, have an old-fashioned<br />
ring to them.<br />
Do Choose Several Names for<br />
Each Sex.<br />
The ultrasound technician says,<br />
“Congrats! You are going to have<br />
twin girls.” Does that mean you<br />
can totally concentrate on names<br />
for girls? No way! These tests are<br />
not always 100 percent accurate in<br />
predicting babies’ sexes. Furthermore,<br />
there have been cases of a<br />
third baby remaining undetected<br />
by an ultrasound. Your best bet<br />
would be to have an extra name or<br />
two for each sex—just in case. A<br />
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Most popular names<br />
for twin pairings<br />
Girl/Girl Twins<br />
1. Ella & Emma<br />
2. Olivia & Sophia<br />
3. Gabriella & Isabella<br />
4. Faith & Hope<br />
5. Ava & Emma<br />
6. Isabella & Sophia<br />
7. Madison & Morgan<br />
8. Ava & Ella<br />
9. Ava & Olivia<br />
10. Mackenzie & Madison<br />
Girl/Boy Twins<br />
1. Madison & Mason<br />
2. Emma & Ethan<br />
3. Taylor & Tyler<br />
4. Madison & Michael<br />
5. Jayda & Jayden<br />
6. Madison & Matthew<br />
7. Samuel & Sophia<br />
8. Addison & Aiden<br />
9. Olivia & Owen<br />
10. Zachary & Zoe<br />
Boy/Boy Twins<br />
1. Jacob & Joshua<br />
2. Ethan & Evan<br />
3. Jayden & Jordan<br />
4. Daniel & David<br />
5. Matthew & Michael<br />
6. Landon & Logan<br />
7. Elijah & Isaiah<br />
8. Jacob & Joseph<br />
9. Jayden & Jaylen<br />
10. Isaac & Isaiah<br />
Source: Social Security Administration<br />
(SSA). Popular Baby Names. 2017.<br />
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Monthly-<br />
INFANTS<br />
MONTH 1<br />
Head flops back if unsupported • Strong<br />
reflex jerkiness • Roots to breast • Grasps<br />
rattle or finger briefly • Startles unexpectedly<br />
(Moro reflex) • “Molds” to person<br />
holding baby • Focuses on face within 6<br />
inches • Makes eye contact • Sees<br />
large black & white patterns •<br />
Prefers human face to other<br />
patterns • Cries for assistance<br />
• Turns head toward familiar<br />
sounds, voices<br />
MONTH 4<br />
Lifts head to 90 degrees • Supports<br />
upper body with arms briefly when on<br />
tummy • Rolls over one way • Grasps<br />
rattle or slim objects • Smiles at reflection<br />
in mirror • More able to self-soothe<br />
• Smiles and gurgles to gain attention •<br />
Makes consonant sounds • Reaches for<br />
objects • Responds to music • Begins to<br />
display memory<br />
MONTH 2 MONTH 5<br />
Lifts head at 45 degrees • Holds object<br />
for few seconds • Focuses on objects<br />
several feet away Bats hands at objects<br />
• Smiles at familiar sounds, voices, faces<br />
• Soothes self with sucking • Shows anticipation,<br />
excitement • Coos and gurgles<br />
when happy • Begins to recognize<br />
voices, faces, objects<br />
Holds head steady when sitting or held<br />
• Guides dangling toys to mouth • Sucks<br />
toes • Holds bottle w/one or both hands<br />
• Vocalizes more to gain attention •<br />
Responds to others’ emotions • Imitates<br />
sounds: vowels and consonants • Seeks<br />
fallen objects, reaches for objects • Curious<br />
about new environments • Protests if<br />
toy is taken away<br />
MONTH 3<br />
Raises head, chest when lying on tummy<br />
• Tracks moving objects side-to side<br />
• Puts both hands together • Laughs,<br />
squeals at play; cries when play stops •<br />
Distinguishes parents and familiar faces<br />
• Follows moving objects with eyes •<br />
Studies own hands, feet • Sees colors<br />
MONTH 6<br />
Bears some weight on legs when held •<br />
Turns head in both directions • “Swims” &<br />
pushes when on tummy • Wants to feed<br />
self, play with food • Expresses pleasure<br />
and displeasure • Shows anxiety at separating<br />
from mom • Reacts negatively to<br />
strangers • Recognizes own name • Combines<br />
sounds • Studies, compares objects<br />
• Twists & turns in all directions<br />
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Milestones<br />
4-Multiples in the 1st Year<br />
MONTH 7<br />
Sits without support • Rolls over in both<br />
directions • Rocks on hands and knees<br />
• May crawl, forward or backward • Balances<br />
head well • Eats a cracker without<br />
being fed • Shows sense of humor •<br />
Demonstrates social orientation Says<br />
“Mama” and “Dada” • Waves bye-bye<br />
Sits alone and plays by self • Pursues<br />
& picks up objects • Crawls forward or<br />
backward • Pulls self up on tables, chairs<br />
• Stands while holding onto something<br />
Demands attention • Pushes away<br />
unwanted objects such as toys and food<br />
• Smiles at own image in mirror • Claps<br />
hands, plays patty-cake • Recalls events,<br />
out-of-sight people, objects<br />
MONTH 10<br />
MONTH 8<br />
MONTH 11<br />
Walks around furniture • Sits in upright<br />
position • Carries objects in one hand<br />
• Dances to music • Plays peek-a-boo •<br />
Enjoys social interaction, attention • Becomes<br />
very self-aware • Displays moods<br />
• Babbles & chatters • Points to nose,<br />
mouth, ears on request • Likes to roll<br />
ball back to you, toss objects • Imitates<br />
gestures, face expressions, sounds •<br />
Understands meaning of “no” • Follows<br />
simple instructions, commands • Curious,<br />
wants to discover contents of drawers,<br />
cabinets, purses, boxes<br />
Becomes well-balanced • Squats<br />
and stoops • Stands on tiptoes • Sits<br />
intentionally without falling • Tastes,<br />
chews everything • Fits small objects<br />
inside larger ones • Expresses wants w/<br />
gestures & sounds • Pulls off socks, unties<br />
shoes • Seeks approval, shows stubbornness<br />
• Helps dress self • Describes<br />
objects, people, places • Drinks from a<br />
cup w/o assistance • Links words with<br />
objects, places • Recognizes &learns<br />
sexual identity<br />
MONTH 9<br />
Pulls to sitting position from stomach<br />
• Pulls to standing from sitting • Begins<br />
to climb • Cries simply because twin is<br />
crying • Passes toy from one hand to the<br />
other • Eats finger foods • Likes to perform<br />
for an audience • Wants to play near<br />
mother/father • Uses objects (telephone,<br />
hairbrush, spoon) appropriately • Locates<br />
lost or hidden objects easily • Gets bored<br />
with repetition of same game or activity<br />
• Begins to evaluate people’s moods •<br />
Performs for an audience and will repeat<br />
the act if applauded<br />
MONTH 12<br />
Crawls up & down stairs • Stands alone •<br />
May try to walk • May climb out of crib,<br />
highchair • Shows affection to favorite<br />
people, toys • Demonstrates needs w/o<br />
crying • Resists napping • Throws temper<br />
tantrums • May become picky eater • Imitates<br />
words • Identifies animals, objects,<br />
colors in picture books • Turns pages of<br />
books (sometimes in clumps) • Recalls<br />
objects, people for longer times<br />
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A Simple Way to<br />
INFANTS<br />
Get Your Twins<br />
to Sleep Longer<br />
at Night<br />
by Allison Randall Gatt<br />
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When you bring<br />
home those<br />
double (or triple)<br />
bundles of joy, you divide<br />
the amount of sleep you’re<br />
getting. Sleep and sanity<br />
were a big priority when we<br />
brought home our fraternal<br />
twin girls, so once we got<br />
through the first weeks of<br />
foot-dragging, gritty-eyed<br />
sleep deprivation, we knew<br />
it was time to work on<br />
getting everyone a good<br />
night’s sleep. Thank heaven;<br />
I had a friend who shared<br />
this simple and effective<br />
method to get her ‘twinfant’<br />
boys to sleep all night.<br />
Here’s how to do it:<br />
Bridget let me in on her<br />
little secret—with relatively<br />
little work ‘sleep-training’,<br />
she stretched out her boys’<br />
nighttime sleep little by<br />
little. She did it like this:<br />
when the first baby woke,<br />
she tucked him in the swing<br />
to rock for as long as she<br />
could (even ten minutes the<br />
first few times is sufficient)<br />
before she woke the other<br />
and feeding them both.<br />
By feeding your babies<br />
at the same time, you’ll be<br />
better able to get them to<br />
sleep at the same time. I was<br />
fortunate enough to be able<br />
to tuck the waking twin in<br />
her Boppy chair with a pacifier<br />
for 30-40 minutes before<br />
she started to really fuss, or<br />
her sister woke up. While<br />
I couldn’t go back to sleep<br />
during this time—leaving<br />
her in her chair would have<br />
been unsafe—I could at<br />
least catch up with my Facebook<br />
friends at 2am. The<br />
investment in sleep for the<br />
future, long-term, is what<br />
you’re aiming for.<br />
For example: After sleeping<br />
for four hours, Twin<br />
A wakes at 2am. Get her<br />
up and whisk her into the<br />
Boppy, the swing or the<br />
rocker. Try to maintain at<br />
least ten minutes of calm<br />
and then wake Twin B. Feed<br />
them both.<br />
The next night, when<br />
Twin B wakes at 2:30am,<br />
hold her off until 2:45, then<br />
wake Twin A and feed them<br />
both. Try to stretch this<br />
block of night sleep to six or<br />
seven hours. After a week of<br />
doing this, both of my little<br />
girls were sleeping at least<br />
eight hours, just a few days<br />
shy of ten weeks old.<br />
It might take a bit of work<br />
(get your partner involved,<br />
and make it teamwork) but<br />
when your twins are giving<br />
you a good night’s sleep, you<br />
can hi-five everyone in your<br />
family and smile, because<br />
you’re relatively well-rested.<br />
Before you start:<br />
Make sure your little critters<br />
are old enough and big<br />
enough. They should be<br />
between seven and eight<br />
pounds, and at least six<br />
weeks old. Preemies are a<br />
whole other ballgame, and<br />
they’ll take a little longer to<br />
adjust to this thing called<br />
life. Remember when a<br />
book or an expert says to<br />
start something at a certain<br />
age; you’re really counting<br />
from their due date, not their<br />
actual date of birth.<br />
I highly recommend<br />
getting your twins or multiples<br />
on a regular schedule<br />
of eating and sleeping. If<br />
you’re not ready to get that<br />
regimented, then try at least<br />
to feed them at the same<br />
time. Give them an extra<br />
feed or two in the evening<br />
to ‘top-up’ and make bedtime<br />
an especially calm and<br />
soothing with cozy pajamas<br />
and a quick story or a song.<br />
This will give them the idea<br />
that now is the time to relax<br />
and go to sleep for the night.<br />
Remember, it may be a<br />
bit of work, but with a plan<br />
in mind, you’re investing in<br />
a well-rested future — you<br />
and your children’s. A<br />
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TODDLERS<br />
CHOMP: Five tips for dealing<br />
with children who bite<br />
Few things can make a parent’s heart skip a beat<br />
like the sight of fresh teeth marks in skin. What<br />
makes toddlers bite, anyway, and what can you do<br />
about it? Parenting books and experiences parents agree<br />
that biting incidents usually start sometime soon after<br />
teething and peak at 15 to 18 months, when toddlers<br />
have teeth but don’t yet have the verbal skills they need<br />
to express themselves easily. The book Positive Discipline<br />
A to Z, revised and expended 2nd edition: From Toddlers to<br />
Teens, 1001 Solutions to Everyday Parenting Problems by<br />
Jane Nelson, Lynn Lott, and H. Stephen Glenn explains<br />
that “children who bite often do so when they become<br />
frustrated in social situations and do not know how to<br />
express themselves in acceptable ways. Children also may<br />
bite their parents and think it’s a game.”<br />
Stuart Kirsch of Middleborough, Mass., had that problem<br />
with twins Jason & Rina. “Jason would bully and push<br />
Rina around, and her response was to bite back.” At least<br />
they kept a sense of humor. “We used to joke that when it<br />
was time to go to the dentist we’d only have to take Jason<br />
because the dentist could see the imprint of Rina’s teeth<br />
on his arms.” If one of more of your children has started<br />
expressing themselves though biting, you may be tempted<br />
to bite back, but here are some better ideas to get you<br />
though this challenging stage.<br />
1. Watch for warning signs and plan<br />
ahead<br />
You can probably tell when your child is getting frustrated<br />
or on the edge of crankiness. It’s helpful to try to<br />
notice in advance when a biting incident may occur. Terry<br />
Kusche of Loudonville, NY, knows exactly what sets off<br />
her 16-month-old twins Sean & Matthew: frustration or<br />
fatigue. And she knows why. “The biting came on as a<br />
response to not being able to verbalize anything. Matthew<br />
would bite Sean when they are behind a [baby] gate<br />
and cannot get to me or one twin when the other has a<br />
toy he wants. Matthew will generally bite first because<br />
he gets frustrated more easily.” Think about how you can<br />
keep your children from becoming frustrated and over<br />
stimulated. IF they are in a crabby mood, maybe this is<br />
not the day to make them share their toys or wait too<br />
long for your attention. In What to Expect in the Toddler<br />
Years by Arlene Eisenberg, Heide E. Murkoff and Sandee E.<br />
Hathaway suggestions are given for curbing aggression:<br />
Supervise your toddlers’ play closely, take breaks each day<br />
for quiet time, avoid intense one-on-one play during your<br />
by Laura Sky Brown<br />
children’s most tired time of day and provide acceptable<br />
outlets like running, jumping, dancing, or even pillow<br />
fights for that pent-up energy.<br />
Kushe has learned a few things about planning ahead.<br />
“I have found if I keep the kids busy they are less likely<br />
to bite. My boys are very physical children, so they like<br />
to be very active. It helps to vary their days with outside<br />
time, errand and shopping time, and indoor time so they<br />
don’t get bored or stuck on the same things, which I have<br />
found leads to their getting frustrated more quickly. Toys<br />
that they seem to fight over I have two of, bit this is not<br />
always a solution because they will still want the other’s<br />
toy, even if it is the same.” Because Kusche knows how to<br />
predict a biting incident at her house, she can often stop<br />
it before it happens. “With a close eye” she says, “I can get<br />
though the day bite free.”<br />
2. Look for the good side of your kids<br />
It’s especially important for parents of multiples to avoid<br />
labeling one child good and the other bad, even though<br />
one child is usually the aggressor against the other. If you<br />
react too intensely, the aggressor may continue biting<br />
just to get your attention. In the words of radio psychologist<br />
Dr. Joy Brown, “Children would rather be praised<br />
that punished, but they would rather be punished that<br />
ignored.” Make sure you are giving positive attention to<br />
the easily frustrated child, praising things he does that<br />
you like. Don’t wait until he hurts the other child to offer<br />
one-on-one time with you. And don’t gush offer the<br />
injured child excessively, lest he take on the role of martyr<br />
and cause even more conflict in the long run.<br />
3. Be consistent with consequences<br />
When a biting incident happens, you need to be prepared<br />
with a response that is predictable and rational. Erin McKelvie<br />
of Cary NC had a problem with her daughter Emily<br />
frequently biting her twin brother Eric. “The biting began<br />
soon after they turned 1 and lasted for many anguished<br />
months,” she says. “Battles over toys or books were usually<br />
the trigger. I tried time-outs and they struck out. Eventually<br />
I followed our pediatrician’s advice. I sympathize<br />
with the victim and remove him from the room, thereby<br />
isolating the aggressor. When Emily bit her brother, I<br />
firmly told her Eric and I could not play with her when she<br />
was biting.”<br />
What to Expect in the Toddler Years offers similar advice:<br />
“Focus your immediate attention on rescuing the victim<br />
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rather than admonishing the perpetrator.” Once the victim<br />
has been reassured, turn your attention to the biter. “Calmly,<br />
and without anger, explain briefly that the behavior is<br />
unacceptable, and why.” McKelvie’s advice to parents of a<br />
biter is similar. “Tell the aggressor that it’s okay to be angry<br />
but try to use words, like that perennial toddler favorite −<br />
NO! − before baring teeth to resolve the argument.”<br />
4. Just remain calm<br />
If you have ever caught yourself throwing a book across<br />
the room in anger or slamming a plate down on the table<br />
− and who hasn’t − you understand frustration. You also<br />
know that is not the way to encourage rational behavior<br />
in children, so try to apologize soon afterward and explain<br />
that you were frustrated and your behavior was inappropriate.<br />
In the same way, when your child bites, an angry or<br />
violent response from you does not get across the message<br />
that aggressive acting out is wrong, it could backfire<br />
by encouraging more of the same. McKelvie received<br />
some misguided advice of that type.<br />
“Just bite her, urged her own mother.<br />
‘Shove a bar of soap in her mouth,’ advised<br />
a friend. I dismissed both ideas<br />
as too violent or too radical. What<br />
kind of role model would I be if I bit<br />
or tortured my child?” Dr. Benjamin<br />
Spock agrees, writing in Baby and<br />
Child Care “Parents can control their<br />
children better by staying in charge<br />
as a friendly boss than by descending<br />
to her age level to battle with<br />
bites, slaps, or shouts.”<br />
With patience and words, not<br />
anger, Lisa Edwards of Fargo ND was<br />
able to solve biting by her identical<br />
twins, Tyler and Chad, now 4 years old. “I<br />
tried everything in the book from spanking,<br />
which didn’t work, to time-outs,<br />
which only worked sometimes. They<br />
always seemed to bite one another<br />
when they fought over a toy, which<br />
was pretty often. It used to drive me<br />
nuts! I would always tell them that<br />
biting hurts, and then I would make<br />
them hug and comfort each other, and<br />
I would take away whatever they were<br />
fighting over. To this day, when one<br />
sees he has hurt his twin or they realize<br />
they have hurt each other, they<br />
comfort and hug one another without<br />
my encouraging them to do it.<br />
It makes me so proud that at such a<br />
young age they have learned how<br />
to be concerned and how to show<br />
affection toward each other.”<br />
5. Remember that time heals all<br />
wounds<br />
Eventually, Kirsh’s 2-year-old Rina got over her urge to bite<br />
her twin Jason. Her dad Stuart explains, “Stern rebukes and<br />
the occasional three-second time-out helped some, but<br />
she just seemed to outgrow the phase, as Jason did with<br />
his bullying.” McKelvie had the same experience. “We finally<br />
licked our biting problem with the only surefire method:<br />
time. Emily simply grew out of it. Most importantly, she<br />
gained language and could express her anger more effectively.<br />
I knew she had been biting out of frustration. Emily<br />
and Eric are 2 ½ now and I am happy to say the biting<br />
episodes are over, hopefully forever.”<br />
Keep talking to your children, help them learn to talk<br />
about their feelings and take a few deep breaths. Eventually,<br />
like so many other stages, this too shall pass. Before<br />
you know it your twins will be running to you with<br />
a long list of complaints about the other’s<br />
behavior- but at least they’ll be<br />
using their mouths in a more<br />
constructive way. A<br />
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Babysitting<br />
PRESCHOOL<br />
your<br />
babies<br />
Consider<br />
these tips &<br />
strategies<br />
by Patricia Edminster, Ph.D.<br />
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could<br />
all find Mary Poppins to care for our<br />
children? No worries about discipline,<br />
who is the one in charge, the children’s<br />
safety, cleanliness and health? Unfortunately,<br />
caregivers like Mary are few and far between.<br />
But leaving young youngsters in the care of<br />
others, whether it is full-time or just an occasional<br />
evening out doesn’t have to be a<br />
nightmare, either.<br />
Regardless of the amount of time the sitter<br />
will be watching your children, you can be<br />
more relaxed when you’re out and about if<br />
you are sure of the sitter’s qualifications, clear<br />
about your expectations in terms of house<br />
rules and how consequences should be<br />
applied, and thorough in your preparation of<br />
safety information (emergency numbers, cell<br />
phone numbers, a nearby neighbor that can<br />
help) and health products (first-aid kit, etc.)<br />
In addition, you need to be sensitive to<br />
both the sitter’s and your children’s needs.<br />
For the sitter’s benefit, you need to be clear<br />
on what the job entails. What will be the<br />
hours? What is the rate of pay? Is transportation<br />
provided or expected as part of the<br />
job? What are the children’s schedules? How<br />
closely should the sitter enforce them? What<br />
should the sitter do if the children don’t behave?<br />
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One of the best ways to train<br />
both the sitter and the children—<br />
and to evaluate whether or not<br />
a certain person is the one you<br />
want to have caring for your multiples—is<br />
to hold a trial run, giving<br />
the sitter a few hours or half a<br />
day with your children while you<br />
are in the house. You can show<br />
her the ropes, see how the children<br />
respond to her, model your<br />
discipline style for her (noting any<br />
modifications you make for each<br />
child), and have a chance to troubleshoot<br />
any problems that seem<br />
likely to arise.<br />
For the trial run, make it clear<br />
to the sitter as well as the children<br />
that you expect the sitter to ask<br />
you questions regarding how to<br />
handle situations, that you expect<br />
him or her to tell you if there are<br />
problems with misbehavior, and<br />
that you expect the children to<br />
obey the sitter or to expect the<br />
normal consequences for ignoring<br />
instructions.<br />
Again, it is critical that all<br />
concerned know what the house<br />
rules are, for although the sitter<br />
is in charge, your expectation is<br />
that he or she will manage things<br />
the way you want them managed.<br />
This does not mean that you<br />
cannot give them all some leeway<br />
in rules and scheduling. Many<br />
parents have established that having<br />
a sitter over for the evening is<br />
a special treat for the children—a<br />
time when they can stay up a little<br />
later, or have an extra story, or<br />
watch a special DVD, thus creating<br />
a positive reaction to those nights,<br />
as opposed to a feeling of abandonment,<br />
when parents take time<br />
for themselves. Parents should go<br />
over these expectations; however,<br />
with the sitter in the children’s<br />
presence, so all parties understand<br />
them.<br />
When yoUr MoM’s<br />
The sITTer<br />
Sometimes a family member, often<br />
a grandparent, may be the sitter.<br />
This can present its own special<br />
benefits, but also its own special<br />
problems. The expectation, of<br />
course, is that this is a person who<br />
really cares about the children,<br />
and that is wonderful! However,<br />
sometimes Grandma has her own<br />
opinions of what to do and how<br />
to do it, and her parenting style<br />
might not agree with yours. This<br />
situation requires the same type<br />
of discussion regarding child-rearing<br />
guidelines and house rules as<br />
required with any sitter, even if she<br />
is your own mother.<br />
One mom who was concerned<br />
about offending her mother with<br />
rules that differed from those<br />
enforced when she was a child,<br />
made up a chart of the house<br />
rules, which she posted on the<br />
refrigerator and went over with<br />
her mother and the children, just<br />
as she did with any other babysitter.<br />
This showed her mother that<br />
the children knew the rules and<br />
were accustomed to doing things<br />
a certain way.<br />
It also gave her a chance to<br />
explain to her mother what the<br />
rationale was behind the rules,<br />
which was helpful, for some of<br />
them were quite different from the<br />
rules in place when she had been<br />
growing up.<br />
Do keep in mind, however,<br />
that some grandparents have very<br />
definite ideas about how things<br />
should be done. If their ways are<br />
significantly different from yours<br />
and not likely to change, you<br />
need to be realistic, deciding for<br />
yourself how comfortable you are<br />
with their ignoring the rules for an<br />
entire evening, or, for that matter,<br />
being too strict. If you are not<br />
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comfortable with the possibility<br />
that they might just do their own<br />
thing, you may want to confine<br />
their visits to times when you<br />
are there, and use someone less<br />
connected to the family as your<br />
sitter. A<br />
When They don’T MInd<br />
The sITTer…<br />
With multiples, as with all other<br />
siblings, you may find that one<br />
child may be better behaved<br />
than another with a particular<br />
sitter. This can be due to many<br />
reasons. The child may have a<br />
pattern of provocative behavior<br />
with authority figures, perhaps<br />
even you; so you may need to<br />
give information, along with<br />
information about how you handle<br />
such behavior, to the sitter<br />
in preparation for the event.<br />
Another occurrence may be due<br />
to personality differences. We<br />
often find that some children<br />
respond better to one individual<br />
than do others.<br />
In this case, it is important to<br />
listen to the children’s feelings as<br />
well as the sitter’s explanation.<br />
Discuss what occurred, how it<br />
was handled, and what should<br />
happen next time, if there is one.<br />
Occasionally, you may find that<br />
a sitter plays favorites between<br />
or among the children, and that<br />
can provoke misbehavior on<br />
the part of one or more. The<br />
key here is to try to get accurate<br />
information so that it doesn’t<br />
happen again.<br />
If you hear from the children<br />
or a neighbor, or your own suspicions<br />
suggest that something is<br />
not right, investigate, or go with<br />
your intuition and find a different<br />
sitter. Your children’s health,<br />
safety and happiness are too<br />
important to risk taking chances.<br />
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SCHOOL<br />
Living with<br />
know-it-alls<br />
by Katherine M. Carlman<br />
We all know people who have answers for<br />
everything. But what happens when<br />
the know-it-alls in your life turn out to<br />
be your twins? It’s enough to make any self-respecting<br />
parent question both her sanity and her<br />
knowledge.<br />
“The problem is my twins know bits and pieces<br />
of things, but they don’t know it all,” says Lisa<br />
Villandry of Biddeford, Maine, mother of Alex and<br />
Erik, 6-year-old first graders*. “They think they do,<br />
but they don’t.”<br />
While the urge to inform twins that they don’t<br />
know it all may be overpowering, Constance Wood,<br />
Ph.D., a child psychologist in private practice in<br />
Houston, Texas points out that children just want to<br />
be respected as independent thinkers. Parents, she<br />
suggests, need to “recognize and praise their children<br />
for thinking as individuals.” Since children are<br />
taking steps to establish themselves as individuals<br />
apart from their parents, this advice is crucial to your<br />
child’s self-esteem. Lisa, however, is the first to admit<br />
that when it comes to dealing with know-it-all twins<br />
on a daily basis, it tries a parent’s patience. “The<br />
other day, for instance,” says Lisa, “one of my twins<br />
asked what day it was. ‘Wednesday’ I answered. He<br />
promptly responded, ‘No, it’s Tuesday.’”<br />
Such a response is typical of the know-it-all syndrome,<br />
but when a twin sibling steps in to back up<br />
the know-it-all, it can be difficult for parents. When<br />
Lisa’s son stepped in to agree with his twin, she<br />
admits that it caused her to doubt herself. “Two of<br />
them are saying the same thing, so does that make<br />
me right or wrong? They make you second-guess<br />
yourself.”<br />
While allowing kids to express their opinions<br />
is important, it’s just as important for children to<br />
know who’s in charge. Dr. Wood reminds us that the<br />
When your twins have<br />
all the answers<br />
parent has the right to make the final decision. “As<br />
they get older, they can have more input, but as the<br />
parents, you have the final say.”<br />
This can be a comforting fact for parents of twins<br />
who often feel overwhelmed by the demands their<br />
children place on them. When the know-it-all syndrome<br />
rears its ugly head, the main thing for parents<br />
to remember is not to turn it into a power struggle.<br />
“It is one way children try to express their own ideas,”<br />
Dr. Wood says, “and they need to be praised for<br />
doing do.”<br />
A STEP TOWARD GREATER UNDERSTANDING<br />
Timothy Dunnigan, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in<br />
San Diego, California, suggests parents should try to<br />
teach their child to view differences of opinion as an<br />
opportunity to achieve greater understanding of another<br />
person’s position. By approaching your child<br />
with questions like, “Tell me why you think that?” or<br />
“Well, what about this?” parents can help their children<br />
reconsider their initial position.<br />
With twins, however, not every situation will<br />
allow for such questioning. After a winter snowstorm<br />
closed Hartford, Connecticut area schools<br />
for two days before a long weekend, Janette Harris’<br />
twins Ashleigh and Alexander had been out of<br />
school for five days. With a science project due, her<br />
son was upset. Although Janette tried convincing<br />
her son that the teacher would allow extra time because<br />
of the weather, he could not be swayed.<br />
“No matter what I said, Alexander had it in his<br />
mind he was right, and that was that,” Janette said.<br />
Alexander convinced his ride home that he had permission<br />
to stay after school to work on the project<br />
and in doing so; he started a series of events that left<br />
his mother scrambling to track him down and his<br />
teacher driving him home.<br />
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“Through it all, his twin, Ashleigh, remained silent<br />
and let it all unfold,” Janette observed. “Later, I asked<br />
her, ‘If you knew the project date had changed, why<br />
didn’t you say something to your brother?’ but she<br />
said that she just wanted to see how far things would<br />
go.”<br />
While parents like to think they always have the<br />
right answers, sometimes we must admit we do not.<br />
There will be times when your children are right. By<br />
approaching know-it-alls with respect and questioning<br />
how they’re formulating certain ideas and answers,<br />
Dr. Dunnigan says parents are taking a positive<br />
approach.<br />
When Alexander did not go home with the carpool<br />
as planned, he put himself in a potentially dangerous<br />
situation. Although he believed he was right, his<br />
parents were unsure of his whereabouts. The entire<br />
event became a stressful situation.<br />
HOW SCHOOL IMPACTS THE SITUATION<br />
The know-it-all stage begins at about age 4 and<br />
continues until adulthood when children begin to<br />
view their parents as peers, says Nancy Eiswirth, Ph.D.,<br />
a child psychologist in private practice in Hartford,<br />
Connecticut. While school attendance does not mean<br />
children will have all the answers, it has a direct impact.<br />
Dr. Eiswrith goes on to say that, “being<br />
able to have answers to things in everyday<br />
life helps children to reaffirm that<br />
they’re able to master the information<br />
given to them in school.”<br />
Debbie Silvey, a teacher in Fayetteville,<br />
Tennessee, and mother<br />
of college-age twin daughters,<br />
agrees that school plays a role.<br />
When her daughters were<br />
younger and in separate classrooms,<br />
Debbie says they would<br />
return home from school each insisting<br />
her teacher was right about a<br />
certain subject or topic. “I had to let<br />
them know that there’s more than one<br />
way of looking at things and teachers<br />
can teach in different ways.”<br />
Debbie has had four or five sets<br />
of twins in her own classroom<br />
over the years and admits that<br />
know-it-alls can be challenging.<br />
Dr. Dunnigan agrees that because<br />
twins share so many experiences,<br />
they’re more likely to<br />
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believe the same things. “They reinforce each other’s<br />
beliefs.” So if one twin believes something, or states a<br />
‘fact’, the co-twin is likely to follow suit.<br />
REMEMBER YOUR FUNNY BONE<br />
All moms have experience with know-it-alls, but twins<br />
often team up to make life even more challenging for<br />
parents of multiples. Mary Pat Allen of Littleton, Colorado,<br />
is a mother of four, including 8-year-old twins*.<br />
She recalls one day when they were younger and she<br />
found her boy/girl twins naked in the shower stall. “I<br />
had followed the trail of clothes—first the shoes, then<br />
socks and overalls, to the bathroom door. I heard<br />
Annabelle and Christian giggling, opened the door,<br />
and found them slathering each other with shaving<br />
cream,” Mary says. “I was angry, and said to them, ‘This<br />
is naughty!’ ‘No, Mommy, they responded, ‘this is fun!’”<br />
Mary’s experience brings up the importance of<br />
humor in our lives. If your children seem to know all<br />
the answers, laughter can be a lifesaver. Dr. Eiswirth<br />
believes humor is a valuable tool in dealing with<br />
know-italls. “It’s important to diffuse the situations<br />
with humor whenever possible. You don’t want it to<br />
become a power struggle.” Remembering to smile<br />
when your twins are insisting the earth is flat will put<br />
you ahead of the game and keep everyone happier in<br />
the long run. A<br />
*At the time of writing.<br />
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A Self Confidence<br />
SCHOOL<br />
Check<br />
Up<br />
by Judith O. Hooper<br />
In today’s world, there’s probably nothing you<br />
can give each of your middle-years multiples<br />
that has greater value than self-confidence. A<br />
self-confident child is comfortable, secure and<br />
happy with herself and her world. She is not always<br />
right, sometimes makes mistakes and faces various<br />
difficulties, but, overall, she is OK and she knows it.<br />
It seems like such a simple concept – being OK<br />
and knowing it. Yet this simple concept is really<br />
the core of the successful child and, ultimately, the<br />
successful adult. No external measure of success for<br />
adults or children, be it fame, fortune, good grades<br />
or musical talent, for example, is as accurate as that<br />
internal sense of “I’m OK.” In addition, no external appearances<br />
of success can convince the unconfident<br />
person that she is OK.<br />
As you think about the self-confidence of your<br />
middle-years multiples, it’s important to distinguish<br />
between an insecure or unconfident child and one<br />
with a retiring personality. It’s easy to confuse these<br />
two things because of our cultural definition of a<br />
confident person. Most people would say that a<br />
person who has confidence is, for example, one who<br />
stands up for herself, speaks up and says what is on her<br />
mind, exhibits leadership qualities, is talkative and vivacious,<br />
has numerous friends, and is involved in many<br />
activities. In fact, though, these are descriptions of<br />
personality traits rather than confidence. It is quite<br />
possible for a confident person to be reticent, quiet<br />
and calm; be involved in few activities; and have only<br />
a few close friends.<br />
EVALUATING YOUR CHILDREN’S SELF-CONFIDENCE<br />
What can you look for when you are trying to assess<br />
your children’s self-confidence? Begin by consid-<br />
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ering each of your children’s general attitudes about<br />
themselves. You can usually do this by watching for<br />
three specific behavior patterns:<br />
• How she ‘walks through her world’<br />
• What she says about herself<br />
• How she interacts with others<br />
How she ‘walks through her world’ — As a therapist,<br />
I learn a great deal about a child’s self-confidence by<br />
watching her enter the play therapy room, or ‘walk<br />
through her world.’ Of course, if it’s her first visit, she will<br />
be somewhat cautious as she enters, which is appropriate.<br />
Even the most self-confident people need to be<br />
cautious when they enter new situations; they need to<br />
be prepared to protect themselves if necessary.<br />
However, despite her caution, the self-confident child<br />
walks directly into the room rather than lingering in the<br />
hall, peeking in or resisting being brought in. She looks<br />
around her to see where she is and to find out what is in<br />
the room. If she sees something that she finds interesting,<br />
she moves nearer to it to view it more closely. She<br />
also stands straight rather than hunched in on herself.<br />
She makes no attempt to hide behind or under furniture,<br />
though she may stay fairly close to the wall or immediately<br />
sit in a chair. She walks looks and behaves like<br />
someone who feels OK about herself.<br />
What she says about herself — A younger unconfident<br />
child is often quite straightforward about describing<br />
how she feels about herself. She is likely to say things<br />
such as, “Oh! I’m always flubbing things up,” “I’m such a<br />
dummy because I only got 75% on my spelling test” or<br />
“They won’t want me to go. I can’t swim very well, and<br />
they know it.”<br />
By the middle years, though, especially the later<br />
middle years, the unconfident child may have stopped<br />
saying these things out loud, even though she still feels<br />
them inside. A middle-years child is more likely to say,<br />
“Everyone always accuses me of flubbing up,” “Spelling<br />
tests are stupid; no one needs to know all those words<br />
anyway” or “I hate swimming, so I don’t want to go.”<br />
How she interacts with others — A self-confident child<br />
can play happily with other children at least some of the<br />
time. She can, most of the time, resist pressure to do<br />
things she knows are wrong, and she can often defend<br />
herself and others against bullying. Her relationships<br />
are not necessarily always happy; she can get angry and<br />
fight when she feels put upon.<br />
Even if her personality is more retiring and she tends<br />
to follow rather than lead, she will not usually follow<br />
others into trouble or be led to be “bad”. She may enjoy<br />
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solitary activities, but she will have close friends and<br />
enjoy spending time with them. She does not act upset<br />
if left out of an activity, though she may need some help<br />
in restoring relationships every now and then.<br />
THE EBB AND FLOW OF SELF-CONFIDENCE<br />
It is important to remember that just as your own level<br />
of self-confidence may vary depending upon your mood<br />
and the situation, so will each of your children’s. A child<br />
who shows every sign of feeling OK about her own self<br />
this week may suddenly withdraw, talk down about herself<br />
and walk around looking unhappy next week.<br />
Your careful and supportive questioning of your child<br />
can often help you discover if there is a real problem<br />
that your child feels is too difficult for her to handle;<br />
in many cases, that feeling may be undermining her<br />
self-confidence. In addition, a bully, an unexpected low<br />
grade on a test, a teacher whose standards are unrealistic<br />
for a child or a parent who is tense and irritable<br />
because of problems at work can temporarily affect a<br />
child’s self-confidence. When assessing each of your<br />
children’s level of self-confidence, consider whether your<br />
child displays self-confidence more often than not.<br />
THE TWIN FACTOR<br />
As you consider the self-confidence of your middle-years<br />
twins, you may discover that one of them displays more<br />
self-confidence than the other. As you may have observed,<br />
it is not uncommon for one child to assume the<br />
leadership role in a twinship. For the most part, this kind<br />
of difference between co-twins seems to reflect personality<br />
differences more than it reflects their levels of<br />
self-confidence.<br />
However, it is possible for one twin to have developed<br />
more self-confidence than her co-twin, perhaps<br />
because of her leadership ability. When one twin always<br />
leads, it is possible for her co-twin to think to herself, “I<br />
can’t do that. It’s a good thing she can.”<br />
If you notice that your twins’ natural leader/follower<br />
roles are affecting their selfconfidence, it is important to<br />
try to make some changes. For example, you may need<br />
to create ways for the follower to have more opportunities<br />
to lead or to have some successes on her own so<br />
that they can’t be ascribed to her co-twin.<br />
You may also notice that your twins have different<br />
ways in which they express their self-confidence. Your<br />
child who gets things accomplished quietly and steadily<br />
may be just as confident as her co-twin who accomplishes<br />
tasks in a loud and somewhat cocky manner. In fact,<br />
it’s quite possible that a child’s display of cockiness may<br />
actually be a cover-up for his lack of confidence. A<br />
<strong>February</strong> <strong>2018</strong> 25
Using<br />
stories<br />
to teach your<br />
twins<br />
by Aria Gunman<br />
Teaching children is not an easy task, and<br />
when you have twins the struggle is doubled.<br />
If your twins are anything like mine,<br />
conventional learning methods were often<br />
tuned out when their impish behavior took<br />
over. They could read my “mom’s got a lesson<br />
for us” face, and would do whatever it took to<br />
get back to having fun.<br />
More often than not, my lessons turned into<br />
a nagging session as I pleaded with my twins<br />
to listen to me.<br />
Teaching your kids to be safe is one of the<br />
most important responsibilities you hold as a<br />
parent. It doesn’t have to painful. In fact, it can<br />
even be fun and easily incorporated into your<br />
regular routine. I was reading to my twins every<br />
night anyway, so extending these sessions<br />
with some simple questions ensured that they<br />
learned and remembered important lessons<br />
each day. And the best part? I didn’t have to<br />
nag them to listen. They were almost always<br />
engaged and eager to learn, even though they<br />
had always hated my boring lectures before.<br />
Here are the top five reasons why using<br />
stories can be an effective way to teach your<br />
twins:<br />
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1<br />
The child doesn’t feel threatened. It’s not<br />
another lecture.<br />
When we read to our children, we are able to<br />
address a situation in a non-threatening way. What do<br />
I mean by threatening? Let’s take a look at some examples<br />
of habitual phrases we tend to use when “teaching<br />
our lesson”:<br />
• “You shouldn’t lie.”<br />
• “You are so messy.”<br />
• “You shouldn’t be scared. You are just being silly.”<br />
• “You are not listening to me.”<br />
Usually this is done in a blaming or angry tone of<br />
voice. When we finger point and use the word “you”,<br />
children hear negative and the situation becomes<br />
tense. Some may even become defensive. Put yourselves<br />
in their shoes. If someone were to start attacking<br />
you with words, would you be in a teachable mood? I<br />
would think not. Rather than focusing on the solutions<br />
to the problems, children are focusing on their feelings<br />
of anger, hurt or fear that they are experiencing at that<br />
moment.<br />
Using stories to teach, we take out the blame and<br />
place less emphasis on the problem. We talk and<br />
discuss solutions and speak positively. So instead of a<br />
lecture, we now have a healthy discussion.<br />
2<br />
Working on “prevention” and “cure”.<br />
When we use stories to teach, we can help<br />
our children work through situations they are<br />
currently experiencing. It also allows us to mentally<br />
prepare them for situations that may arise. Children<br />
gain experience vicariously through the stories we read.<br />
Children are able to learn from vicarious experience just<br />
as well as they learn from real ones. The only difference<br />
is that this kind of learning takes place in the safety of<br />
your home. For example, you could use a book about<br />
being bullied to teach your child what to do if and<br />
when they face such a situation.<br />
3<br />
The child has a model to follow. They identify<br />
with the characters in the book.<br />
Children make connections with the characters<br />
of the stories you relate. You can help them further<br />
by asking questions such as:<br />
• Is there anyone in the book who reminds you of<br />
yourself?<br />
• How is that character like you?<br />
• Which character would you like to be?<br />
• Why would you want to be that character?<br />
Relate the lesson to their own lives and experiences:<br />
Like the little pig who built a house of bricks, what<br />
would you do make your house strong?<br />
After reading the story of The Little Engine That Could,<br />
my daughter began to identify herself with the Little<br />
Blue Engine who said “I think I can, I think I can, I think<br />
I can.” It served to be a good model for her to follow at<br />
times when she felt inadequate.<br />
4<br />
Children remember stories better than<br />
they remember reprimands. It’s a good<br />
way to catch their attention.<br />
In Making Connections: Teaching and the Human<br />
Brain (Addison-Wesley, 1994), Renate and Geoffrey<br />
Caine states, “There is strong reason to believe that<br />
organization of information in story form is a natural<br />
brain process... In a nutshell, neuroscience is discovering<br />
that the brain is wired to organize, retain and access<br />
information through story. If that is true, then teaching<br />
through story means that students will be able to<br />
remember what is taught, access that information, and<br />
apply it more readily.”<br />
Maybe this is why children can rattle off dialog from<br />
their favorite shows but can’t remember what mom said<br />
about picking up their toys.<br />
5<br />
It allows for critical thinking.<br />
Stories are a safe way for children to explore<br />
emotions and behaviors. A book like Jane Simmons’<br />
Come Along, Daisy, encourages children to think<br />
about the importance of keeping close to parents when<br />
out and about. Use thought provoking questions that<br />
will lead them to identify problems and feelings such<br />
as “How did Daisy get separated from her mother?” and<br />
“What was Daisy feeling when she found her mother<br />
missing?”<br />
The best kind of teaching you can employ is to teach<br />
our children to be authors of solutions. Ask leading<br />
questions that will underscore the point of the story<br />
such as “How can Daisy avoid getting lost in the future?”<br />
What a boost it will be to your children to know they<br />
can come up with such genius solutions.<br />
Reading and sharing stories with your children can<br />
help you become a better parent. It opens the channel<br />
of communication and strengthens the parent-child<br />
bond. The magic of stories can be a powerful influence<br />
for good. Does that magic exist in your home? If not,<br />
start reading to your twins today. A<br />
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Twins<br />
&<br />
Kitchen Safety<br />
by Shane Borrowman<br />
Elizabeth and I have twins who began walking<br />
well before their first birthday—and immediately<br />
walked into trouble, particularly in the kitchen.<br />
Because I cook the majority of our meals and my wife<br />
bakes frequently, the kitchen is a hub of activity. John<br />
and Samantha want to be near us, and being near us<br />
in the kitchen puts them in harm’s way. We took all the<br />
usual precautions covered in baby safety articles: a latch<br />
on the oven door, clips that hold drawers and cupboards<br />
closed, covers on the electrical outlets. It wasn’t<br />
enough. The accident happened when my wife was<br />
baking cookies.<br />
Our son, who’d only learned to walk days before, saw<br />
the open oven door and rushed it. Before we could react,<br />
his tiny hand slapped flat onto the pre-heated surface. He<br />
began to scream and to howl. I don’t panic easily. I panic<br />
spectacularly.<br />
Gathering John up in my arms, I ran for the bathroom,<br />
enacting a half-formed plan to get his hand under cold<br />
running water. Logically, it would have been both easier and<br />
quicker to use the kitchen sink, and not running headlong<br />
through the house might have kept him from panicking,<br />
too. It certainly would have added less drama to this unfolding<br />
trauma. Ah, hindsight. Instead of reacting logically,<br />
I grabbed, ran, and generally made a bad situation terrible.<br />
Worse, I have no memory of where Sam (John’s twin sister)<br />
was during any of this. I’d been lying on the living room<br />
floor, lifting her above me and tickling her belly, when John<br />
screamed in pain. I guess I set her down,<br />
ran to the kitchen, etc. I guess. Presumably,<br />
she sat on the floor<br />
where I’d left her, not<br />
crying and not panicking while me (and my wife) did both.<br />
Urgent Care dealt with the burn, while Tylenol handled<br />
the lingering pain. I dealt with the guilt, shame, and horror<br />
of what had happened by turning John’s hand into a<br />
bandage-wrapped club— as if extra layers of dressing could<br />
undo his first trauma (our first as parents). Before I could<br />
trust the kitchen again, changes had to be made. None of<br />
them major. All of them significant.<br />
Scribble on This<br />
During graduate school I once rented an apartment where<br />
the bathroom walls had been covered by not wallpaper but<br />
contact paper—it was a gray granite sort of pattern. This<br />
paper had been applied over the original plaster—lumpy<br />
and crumbling—leaving the walls with a through-the-looking-glass<br />
sort of unevenness. Since living in this apartment, I<br />
have carried an irrational dislike of contact paper—a dislike<br />
now erased by its usefulness in my kitchen. Specifically,<br />
after John’s injury, I looked for ways to keep small hands<br />
busy and safe while keeping them close to me. I found contact<br />
paper that doubles as a chalkboard. At the end of my<br />
kitchen cupboards and on the far side of the island, I pasted<br />
two sheets of this rough black paper. I bought sidewalk<br />
chalk—its size perfect for toddler hands and also slightly<br />
less likely to snap under pressure—and kept it in a tiny<br />
bucket in the nearest cupboard (see below). For less than<br />
$10.00, I kept John and Sam occupied at a safe distance<br />
from the stove. We’re still working on coloring only on the<br />
paper and not on the walls, floor, dog, or each other.<br />
No Latches Here<br />
No toddler can remain focused upon a single<br />
activity for long, and twins are no exception<br />
to this rule. The contact paper chalkboard<br />
worked as a place to start, but writing<br />
on a chalkboard is a single activity<br />
that grows stale in isolation. To keep<br />
things less monotonous, I emptied<br />
out the nearest cupboard—the furthest<br />
from the stove—and loaded it<br />
with toys. Noisy toys. The cupboard<br />
acts as a safe place to store the<br />
chalk, but, like a simple cardboard<br />
box; its own lure<br />
is irresistible. So it’s<br />
a safe place to store<br />
the twins, too.<br />
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When not coloring with chalk or playing with those<br />
noisy toys—the bells and whistles help me keep track of the<br />
kids’ location even with my back turned—John and Sam<br />
often crawl into the cupboard and close the door behind<br />
them. The door cracks open occasionally as I cook or wash<br />
dishes, mostly to emit a burst of dad-can’t-find-us giggles.<br />
There’s not much storage in my kitchen, and the loss of a<br />
cupboard is hard to bear. But there are worse things to lose<br />
than cupboard space.<br />
Don’t Cross that Line<br />
When I work around the home, I always buy more supplies<br />
than I need, assuming on some level that the extra material<br />
will come in handy later. As John and Sam colored on their<br />
chalkboard and played in their cupboard, I looked for a<br />
clear, visual cue to tell them where not to be while I cook. I<br />
needed a safety zone around the stove and between the<br />
stove and sink—the high-traffic cooking space.<br />
The kitchen floor is a virtually unbroken, seamless<br />
expanse of linoleum, and the layout provides no obvious<br />
spatial divisions. Chalk lines rub off too easily, while inked<br />
lines don’t rub off easily enough; colored masking tape<br />
leaves glue splotches that must be peeled up. But the blue<br />
tape that remained from my last painting project solved this<br />
dilemma nicely. As John and Sam watched, I stretched tape<br />
across the kitchen, “walling” off the most dangerous spaces<br />
and visibly separating them from the safe play region.<br />
Sitting cross-legged on the floor, I explained the Blue<br />
Line to them, repeatedly talking about cooking and kitchen<br />
safety and unwanted trips to the ER—all couched in terms<br />
such as “hot, hot” and “no, no.” Sam gave me a dubious<br />
look (not the first she’s ever offered when one of my plans<br />
is explained to her). John studiously crinkled his brows,<br />
possibly wondering if my absurdity, like my dimples, is genetic.<br />
When the chalkboard gets boring and the cupboard<br />
isn’t interesting, the Blue Line saves me. It took a surprisingly<br />
small number of “hot, hot” and “no, no” discussions<br />
for remaining outside the Line during meal preparation to<br />
become a habit.<br />
Now I just need to give ‘the look’ or the ‘dramatic but<br />
silent finger point’ to send an errant toddler scuttling back<br />
across the line to safety. Generally there’s giggling, as it’s<br />
become a contest to see who can cross the line in the tiniest<br />
way. Thus far, John’s pinky finger extended just slightly beyond<br />
the tape is the record holder. The look and the point,<br />
like the giggling and scuttling, are preferable to burns and<br />
panic and visits to the hospital.<br />
There are pictures of John with his hand bandaged, and<br />
he’s smiling in all of them. I smile now, too, as he and Sam<br />
help me cook—their help generally causing every kitchen-based<br />
activity to take three times longer. But the memory<br />
of a tiny hand slapped onto a hot oven door, the memory<br />
of a tiny scream, erases my smile still and makes my heart<br />
pound—not because of what happened but because of<br />
what could have happened. So many things other than a<br />
little hand could have touched that oven door.<br />
My kitchen is still a hub of activity, from auto races<br />
on the linoleum to epic GI Joe versus Spiderman grudge<br />
matches on the table. My kitchen is a safer place than ever<br />
before, as John and Sam color with chalk, crawl in and out<br />
of their cupboard, and stay safely behind the blue line. A<br />
Run-of-the-Mill Safety Stuff<br />
The Oven Door<br />
If your oven is like mine, then the oven latch it already has (for the<br />
self-cleaning cycle) cannot be used during normal baking. While<br />
there are several varieties of latch available, none of them seem to<br />
have an adhesive attachment that can long survive normal wearand-tear.<br />
To keep my latch in place, I used Gorilla Glue. This latch<br />
may now be a permanent part of the oven.<br />
Knobs on the Stove<br />
Generally, these slip over the peg on which the temperature control<br />
knobs for the stovetop rotate. They snap shut and can’t be opened by<br />
little hands. But these same little hands can pull the entire apparatus<br />
off the stove, knob and cover combined. Use these until something<br />
better comes along. Then stop using them.<br />
Drawer & Cupboard Latches<br />
While there are many varieties of latches to hold drawers and<br />
cupboard doors shut, all of them are of a kind: one piece that<br />
connects to the wooden frame, another which connects to the door<br />
or drawer. Pull on the door/drawer and the latch engages; pull just<br />
a little and then reach in to push down on the latch and the latch<br />
doesn’t engage. This simple safety measure works well to keep<br />
toddlers out of the knife drawer or cleanser storage cupboard. It<br />
takes a good amount of finger strength to push down on the latch. Of<br />
course, this means that elderly visitors, like my wife’s grandparents,<br />
are also barred from grabbing a knife or a bottle of Windex.<br />
First Aid Kit<br />
Burns and cuts. These are the likely kitchen injuries, and the smaller,<br />
less severe of them can be handled with a bit of disinfectant cream,<br />
some kind of covering, and a kiss. Daddy kisses, however, are 27%<br />
less effective than Mommy kisses.<br />
Vigilance<br />
No latch or line on the floor substitutes for vigilance and good<br />
judgment. Use the burners on the back of the stove instead of always<br />
using the front. Don’t run the TV or music if it means you’ll pay less<br />
attention to the children. “Accidents happen,” John often tells me<br />
when we discuss potty training issues. And accidents do happen, but<br />
some accidents can be avoided.<br />
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It’s cold<br />
and flu<br />
season:<br />
are you<br />
ready?<br />
7 Fever Myths<br />
by Steven J. Sainsbury, M.D.<br />
Parental concerns about fevers are a<br />
common reason for midnight visits to<br />
the emergency room. With the bewildering<br />
assortment of oral, rectal, skin and ear<br />
thermometers, along with dozens of varieties<br />
of fever-reducing medicines, a whole<br />
fever-phobia has developed in our culture.<br />
Fever should certainly be respected, but it<br />
should not be feared. Lets’ dispel some of<br />
the myths surrounding this symptom, and<br />
hopefully your life will be a little less stressful<br />
when your twin’s internal furnaces are working<br />
overtime.<br />
MytH #1: Fevers cause brain damage<br />
This is perhaps the most commonly held fever<br />
myth, and one that I have to discuss almost every<br />
night in the ER with worried parents. Fevers that<br />
are due to infection, even those reaching heights<br />
of 105F, will not cause brain damage. It is true that<br />
aches and pains can accompany high fevers, and<br />
the fever can even produce some nonsensical or<br />
babbling behavior, but high fevers will not permanently<br />
injure your child. (Brain damage will occur<br />
in body temperatures over 108F, which only results<br />
from environmental conditions—a child left in a<br />
closed car in hot weather, for example.)<br />
MytH #2: Fever seizures are harmful<br />
There is nothing quite so frightening as to observe<br />
your precious child seizing in front of you. Fortunately,<br />
fever seizures rarely last more than a few<br />
minutes and do no permanent harm. Thankfully,<br />
children who have had febrile seizures are not at<br />
increased risk for learning disabilities, developmental<br />
delays, or epilepsy.<br />
MytH #3: all fevers need to be treated<br />
Fever does not have to be treated. Why? Because<br />
treating the fever will not help combat the underlying<br />
disease process. However, because fevers<br />
above 102F can sometimes cause discomfort, it<br />
is reasonable to treat these fevers with acetaminophen<br />
or ibuprofen liquid. A few words of caution:<br />
It is not necessary to soak or sponge your<br />
child with cold-water baths---this only reduces the<br />
fever for a few minutes. And never use rubbing<br />
alcohol to cool your feverish child. Alcohol is toxic<br />
to infants, and will be absorbed through the skin.<br />
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MytH #4: Without treatment, fevers<br />
will just keep getting higher<br />
Our brains have a wonderful internal thermostat<br />
that will stop a fever from getting higher thatn<br />
105-106F—whether you treat the fever or not.<br />
MytH #5: With treatment, fevers<br />
should return to normal<br />
Aggressive fever treatment may not always<br />
work. It may only lower the fever a degree or<br />
two, or may only keep the temperature down<br />
for an hour or two. Knowing this, be careful not<br />
to get frustrated and over-treat a feverish child,<br />
risking an overdose. Remember: the fever is not<br />
the real problem.<br />
MytH #6: the higher the fever, the<br />
more dangerous the illness<br />
This can be a dangerous myth. A child can be<br />
quite ill, with a serious infection like pneumonia<br />
or meningitis, and yet have a low-grade fever or<br />
no fever at all. Conversely, benign viral infections,<br />
that do no harm, can cause high fevers<br />
that are unresponsive to fever-lowering medicines.<br />
How your child appears (does he look<br />
sick?) is far more important than how high his<br />
fever may be.<br />
MytH #7: any temperature higher<br />
than 98.6 is considered a fever<br />
A normal person’s temperature changes<br />
throughout the day. Furthermore, the range of<br />
“normal” temperatures can vary several degrees.<br />
Most pediatricians define a fever as any rectal<br />
temperature above 100.5F. In summary, fever<br />
is simply a warning sign that an infection may<br />
be present. Think of it like a subtle grinding<br />
sound that suddenly appears from your car’s<br />
engine. Upon hearing such a noise, would you<br />
wrap your engine in soundproofing material<br />
and start wearing earplugs so that you could no<br />
longer hear the grinding? Or would you have a<br />
mechanic investigate its source? Likewise, relax<br />
about the heat, while you begin a search for the<br />
flame. A<br />
sooThIng coMMon sore<br />
ThroaT roUgh sPoTs<br />
Don’t some people become carriers of strep?<br />
Yes, they can. Carriers are those people who have strep<br />
bacteria in their throats but have no symptoms of the<br />
disease. However, they may be a source of infection<br />
in other family members. If a carrier state is detected,<br />
treatment with a single course of antibiotics is recommended.<br />
Remember, however, that most carriers have<br />
no symptoms or complications, and become culture-negative<br />
after a few weeks. If strep keeps recurring<br />
in different family members, your physician may elect to<br />
treat the entire family at the same time, hopefully eradicating<br />
the bug from the household at least for a while.<br />
What if my child is allergic to penicillin?<br />
Other antibiotics that are effective against strep include<br />
ampicillin, amoxicillin and crythromycin.<br />
Can’t viruses cause complications also?<br />
Yes, they can, but the complications are very uncommon<br />
and rarely dangerous.<br />
What is the cause of laryngitis?<br />
Laryngitis is almost always due to the same viruses that<br />
cause sore throats. The inflammation tends to travel<br />
downward from the throat to the vocal cords. Hoarseness<br />
is the result. As many of us know, laryngitis is<br />
often painless, and like most viral infections goes away<br />
without treatment.<br />
If most sore throats are due to viruses, why<br />
do they get better with penicillin?<br />
They aren’t getting better because of the penicillin.<br />
Study after study has shown that antibiotics have no<br />
effect on the speed in which the infection resolves.<br />
Besides the complications of strep, are there<br />
any other dangerous complications of sore<br />
throats?<br />
Absolutely, many types of bacteria can cause sore<br />
throats, and complications with each can occur. Probably<br />
the most dangerous is an infection called epiglottitis.<br />
In this illness, the flap of tissue that lies deep in<br />
the throat becomes inflamed and swollen, blocking<br />
the airway. This is a true emergency, characterized by<br />
a child who has a sore throat, fever, often refuses to<br />
swallow even her own saliva, and can be seen learning<br />
forward to breathe. Should you have even the slightest<br />
suspicion of this problem, seek immediate care. A<br />
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Are your twins<br />
active enough?<br />
5 Parenting Tips To Help<br />
Them Get More Exercise<br />
I<br />
dream about the idea of parenting in a world<br />
where streets are safe and parents can let their<br />
children run freely through the neighborhood,<br />
their bodies naturally challenged with the exercise<br />
of play. Instead today, before the slam of the car<br />
door fades and the backpack drops on the floor, the<br />
TV is switched on and the last few hours of daylight<br />
disappear in a haze of video games and over processed<br />
snack foods.<br />
Even the concerned, well-meaning parent can<br />
often stand helpless, wondering how to compete<br />
against marketing genius and instant gratification.<br />
Exercise and carrot sticks have a hard time competing<br />
with Xboxes, Netflix and potato chips.<br />
The proof is all around us. According to the<br />
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the<br />
health of too many North Americans is in danger<br />
because of unhealthy lifestyles.<br />
The latest data from the National Center for<br />
Health Statistics show that 30 percent of U.S. adults<br />
20 years of age and older - over 60 million people<br />
- are obese. The CDC reports the percentage of<br />
by Aria Gunman<br />
young people who are overweight has more than<br />
tripled since 1980.<br />
But my twins aren’t obese - why should I be<br />
concerned?<br />
Your twins are normal, right? You are parenting<br />
just fine. But in a world where walking is limited,<br />
school P.E. programs are being cut, and cars, elevators<br />
and buses eliminate our chance to exercise<br />
naturally, we need to make a concerted effort to<br />
make physical activity part of our day and our<br />
children’s days.<br />
Despite all the benefits of being<br />
physically active, a worrying amount of<br />
Americans are sedentary. Inactive<br />
children are more likely to<br />
become inactive adults,<br />
so as parents how<br />
can we get our<br />
kids moving?<br />
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The American Heart Association recommends<br />
that children and adolescents participate in at least<br />
60 minutes of moderate to vigorous physical activity<br />
every day. The great news is exercise comes in<br />
many forms and can be a lot of fun! With a little creativity<br />
you can easily add some fun physical activity<br />
into your parenting style.<br />
1. Lead the<br />
way<br />
You need to set<br />
a good example.<br />
Kids, especially<br />
younger<br />
children, naturally<br />
follow<br />
their parents.<br />
So make sure you<br />
are looking after<br />
your own health<br />
and making<br />
physical activity<br />
a priority in your<br />
life.<br />
2. Do it together<br />
In today’s overscheduled<br />
world, we need<br />
to make sure we are<br />
spending quality<br />
time with our<br />
children. What<br />
better way<br />
than to be active<br />
together.<br />
Since kids can’t<br />
be alone<br />
roaming the neighborhood, parents need to play<br />
with them.<br />
3. Make it fun<br />
Put on some music and dance. Play tag. Roller<br />
blade. Basically just play. Provide them with toys<br />
and equipment that encourage them to be active<br />
while having fun.<br />
Bikes, scooters, hockey sticks and baseball bats<br />
will get your kids moving and active. For preschool<br />
children, ride on toys that get them exercising like<br />
pedal cars, big wheels and tricycles are always a<br />
great parenting decision.<br />
4. Cheer them on<br />
Create positive reinforcements with encouragement<br />
and support. Help them find sports and<br />
activities that build their self-esteem. Attend their<br />
sporting events and let them know you are their<br />
biggest fan whether they win or lose.<br />
5. Turn it off<br />
Of course, we need to limit the time our kids watch<br />
TV and play video games. But make sure you do<br />
it in a positive way. If they are angry that you just<br />
turned off their favorite show, they might not be<br />
too excited about going out rollerblading with you.<br />
Allow screen time during designated hours, preferably<br />
after homework is done and when physical<br />
activity is finished, like in the evening or on Saturday<br />
morning when tired parents might need to<br />
catch a few extra minutes of sleep.<br />
Adding more physical activity into your family’s<br />
routine will help you all feel better and get you<br />
having more fun together. Most importantly, as<br />
you model a healthy lifestyle you will help instill in<br />
your children lifelong habits and healthy attitudes<br />
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12. Mason & Wilson<br />
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22. Cooper & Conner<br />
23. Paige & Payton<br />
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32. Dario & Dante<br />
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46. Leonardo & Luna<br />
47. Chad & Caroline<br />
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52. Madison & Samantha<br />
53. Smith & Malcolm<br />
54. Jordan & Alex<br />
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56. Lillie & Paizley<br />
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