L&R January 2018 (2)

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January 2018
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Freelance Writers
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Screamer
MONA EBERHARDT
Raven Shadowborne
Truth or fiction?
First of all, here’s the
disclaimer: I have no
credentials to write about
BDSM except I’ve been a
SL & RL submissive and
owned by both SL and RL
Dominants. I have real life
experience so I can claim a
broader perspective. I have
a healthy respect for the SL
platform because it shields
and protects with anonymity
and allows for more uninhibited exploration of one’s desires
and kinks, however, it can be just as emotionally damaging as
any relationship in real life. We share our real selves and real
feelings.
Dominants and submissives should ask questions of each
other to follow safe, sane and consensual practices. Beware those that profess to "know it
all" as i suspect there is a lot of information that could not be corroborated.
I periodically get quite rant worthy about this month's subject the notion that only a small
percent of the online community monitor and teach the rest of us, with the possibility that
those online may not even be active RL have experience RL, knowledge or safety at the
fore when they endeavour to "Teach" those new and experienced the subtle and not so
subtle "How, why and what for's".
Because D/s is a value system. It’s so much more than ball gags and butt plugs. It’s an
organisational concept, a system of gains and losses, of protocols and discipline. It
seems more than a little dangerous to me not to have those concepts in place or over
simplify the complex and sometimes challenging emotions that both sides of the equation
can go through.
So why do we seek to "Learn" from those online?
How do we vet them?
How do we know they are safe?
What gives them the right to educate?
Those are oft some of the questions that pop into my mind when i see the constant
stream of "Expert" advice given at discussions. I often ask myself why are we afraid to
touch on the believable and believability aspect, if you have no frame of reference for

interactions, implements or pain, we are likely to believe anything we are told. Which
pretty much leaves us with two types of people.
1. People who actually engage in power exchange relationships, scenes or play in their
local area or local lifestyle away from the keyboard. Reality based exchanges.
2. Those that fulfil fantasy, connect, RP the lifestyle within the SL/online medium only.
I’ve made mistakes on my side of the leash. But in order to navigate this sometimes wild,
uncharted and confusing side of our sexual and human psyche, intuition can really help.
The first thing you do instinctually is ask yourself the questions and see how it sits with
your natural responses, your gut reaction… which can be a very powerful.
Secondary and tertiary, follow the feelings, thoughts, perceptions and intellectual mind
processing the question.
We are so complex and multi-layered in our psyche as a species that sometimes we
need to wade through a whole pile of “stuff” just to understand one aspect of ourselves. If
you take nothing else away from this minor rant of mine......
"DO NOT believe everything you are told"
and
"DO ask for the credentials" of those "Experts".
Happy reading!
Flame x

In this Issue….
Contents
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Articles
Offline/online BDSM
Safety
By Screamer
D/shion
Our Introduction to second life
fashion D/s photography.
Dominant vs Master,
Dominatrix vs Mistress
by Madame Steele
For the Dom's; The
importance of Consent
in BDSM
by Sean Lind
Whats on in second life
Our VIP section. This section will
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enjoy in second life. Also some of the
educational groups you can join for
quality lifestyle and community
information
BDSM: Types of
relationship
By Raven
Shadowborne
Kinky Kitchen
Amazing recipe’s by Sir
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For the Doms: The Importance of
Consent in BDSM
by Sean Lind | Aug 5, 2016

The basic concept of consent is simple, and most men think they understand it, but as
a Dom chances are you may not be taking it far enough.
Somewhat shockingly, basic consent is still a topic which needs to be brought up,
talked about, and taught. Go to any club in any part of America and you will find
someone being touched in a way they didn’t invite or want.
The basic concept of consent is really dead-simple: before you do anything physical
(or even intimately emotional) with another person, they need to understand your
intentions fully, and agree it’s something they want from you at that time.
The Dating Kiss Paradox
The idea starts to get a little fuzzy in the dating world, especially the vanilla dating
world. If you are on a great date with a girl who is sitting there waiting desperately for
you to kiss her, chances are she doesn’t want you to ask her before you do.
This is about the only type of scenario where the ideas of consent blur slightly. It’s still
never acceptable to attempt to do something unwanted to another person, but it’s rare
times like this where it’s your job to get a reasonable expectation of that consent
before attempting to act. In the pickup world this is talking about IOI’s, indicators of
interest. And still, you don’t bulldog your way into forcing a kiss. Move in with clear
intent, and wait for them to commit to the act. You move 3/4 of the way and wait for
them to move the final 1/4.
Most men confident enough to consider themselves dominant understand this, and are
adept at understanding the situations, acting appropriately. The problem comes when
we move into the BDSM world.
Implied Consent
There is absolutely such a thing as implied consent. For example, many people in
relationships feel no need to consider asking their partner for permission to touch or
kiss them at their discretion. This comes from many discussions and interactions
where this ongoing implied consent has been explicitly given.
The misunderstanding comes from assuming previous consent to be implied consent.
Assuming the consent given yesterday is applicable today with a casual partner is a
mistake, and can effectively cripple your ability to be a great dom.
The Thrill of Choosing

While the details of your kinks and relationships will all differ, the one constant across
all Dominant/submissive relationships is the power-exchange. For the submissive the
biggest thrill, and the most important moment of all is making the choice to give away
her control, hand you the power over her.
If you want to be a great Dom, your primary focus should always be on giving your
subs the absolute best experience you can give them, every single time they choose to
kneel for you. A massive part of this experience is affording them the ability to make
that choice, to choose to be yours.
This means you have to lose the ego, and presumption. It means you need to
understand that, even though she had a great time playing with you last night, perhaps
tonight she wants something different. You need to be confident enough to make her
choose.
The BDSM world is full of paradoxes, this one being at the forefront. Asking the sub to
choose to submit, rather than taking it at your discretion will actually improve your
perception as a confident Dom. More importantly, it will give others a clear signal that
you’re a good man who will make the well-being and respect for their sub a priority in
your play.
If you want subs to choose to play with you, you need to present yourself as a man
worthy of their trust.
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Offline/online BDSM Safety
Offline/Online BDSM Safety
by, Screamer
For as long as I've been into BDSM, Safety has been one of my biggest issues and
concerns. Rather that was being a safe call for someone, or simply passing out safety
info to new people, I worked rather long and hard at it. When it got to be too much for
me, I sat down and wrote four separate safety 'posts' or 'classes', that I distributed, and
continue to distribute online. These postings have been passed down from person to
person since I wrote them last year, so you may have seen them before. But even if
you have, please re-read them.
Safety 101
Class #1 - Online D/s - AOL or IRC, ( Second Life - etc. )
Even in our little online world, there is danger.
For all new Doms and subs alike, here are a few standard rules to make your transition
into online D/s a safer, happier one.
1. You do not have to answer ever private messages that you get. Should you get one
that is vulgar, rude or harassing, simply use the cancel button. Even if you are a new
sub and the IM is from an "online Dominant", no one has to take abuse.
2. Do some reading ! The fact that you're here is a good start ! But there are many
good books about D/s on the market. Doing your homework can really pay off.
3. When you make your first few forays into the chat rooms, don't announce in the
open channel or room who you are and what you're looking for. That is a magnet for
anyone out there looking for quick and easy cyber-sex. If you're seriously looking for
friends, contacts and possible partners, be discreet. Read profiles, if they are available,
or do a "who is" on IRC. Message respectfully to people who interest you. Make polite
conversation in the channel/room. Show respect, and you'll earn it in kind.
4. There are lots of rooms and channels in which to find like minded people. On IRC,
rooms that contain the words "Dom", "sub", or "Chateau" are good places to start. On
AOL, you'll find "Le Chateau", "Le Chateau Dungeon", or any rooms that contain

"Dungeon" or "Chateau". Each of these channels/rooms has a different personality. Try
them all, and see which one fits you best.
5. NEVER give your real name, phone number, credit card information to any other
personal information to ANYONE you've just begun to talk to online. Get to know
someone over time before revealing anything of importance !! First names are
sufficient in the beginning.
6. When approached by a potential partner, ask questions !! Get to know the person as
well as online will allow, and then very discreetly, ask around for references about that
person. Please heed any warnings you may receive about an individual, but be sure
you ask for more than one opinion. If you cannot find anyone online who will vouch for
this potential partner either way, please proceed very slowly. Remember that online is
no different than real life. Make them earn your trust.
7. Always be aware that this forum of communication harbours unsavoury characters,
just as any other. And also be aware that people may not always be who they appear,
or claim to be. If you proceed at a cautious rate, you'll save yourself some possible
heartache down the road.
8. PHONE CALLS: If someone wishes to speak with you, and you aren't entirely
trusting of the yet, offer to call them instead of giving your number out. You can disable
any possible Called-ID function they have by punching in the disable code (check your
phone book information pages, or call your phone company). Keep your first
conversation brief and friendly. If you still harbour doubts at the end of this, continue to
call them. Never go against your instincts - they are your most valuable resource. If
they demand your number and you've respectfully and repeatedly told them no,
perhaps it's time to close that particular door.
9. Even if you live close to someone you meet online, it's not a good idea to move into
meeting them too quickly. Take your time in getting to know them, speak several times
on the phone, and if you do agree to meet, set it up at a public place, and take a friend
along. A serious potential partner won't mind.
Class #2 - First Time Meetings
There are many ways to meet potential D/s partners. AOL, The Internet, and classified
ads are only two of these ways.
First time meetings always require a little extra security and safety. Here are some
simple rules for those awkward first encounters.

1. Always set the meeting up well in advance, so that you have time to arrange a
sufficient safety net. (This goes for Doms and subs alike.) If you are traveling, make
reservations at a motel, but do NOT let the person you're meeting know where you'll
be staying.
2. Arrange to meet for the first time during the daylight hours in a public place, such as
a mall or a restaurant. Always park your car a distance away, so that if the meeting
goes badly, you cannot be followed away. Another good idea is to take a cab to this
first meeting.
3. Do not plan to play during your initial meeting. You should have plenty to discuss,
without sex or D/s play entering into the equation.
4. Think about taking along a friend. A serious potential partner won't feel intimidated.
5. SAFE CALLS: There are many ideas out there about how safe calls should be done,
but I'll only offer you my humble opinion, and what has worked for me in the past. Let 2
friends, preferably local to where you'll be meeting, know your complete schedule.
Give them the full name of the person you'll be meeting, their phone number and a
brief physical description. You can even go so far as to give them the make, model and
plate number of the car your date' will be driving. Make sure that your friends have an
accurate description of you, as well, and the phone number of the local police. Arrange
to call these 2 friends immediately after you've met your date'. Give them a key word'
beforehand, that you can say if you need to get away from your date' - for example,
you could say that everything is great' if you need help, or that everything is wonderful'
if you're okay. Your safe calls should arrange to come get you, or give you some sort of
out' if you use your keyword. If you'll be spending more than a few hours with your
date', it's a good idea to call your safe calls every few hours, at least at first.
6. Be honest with your date. If you feel, after this first meeting, that this person is not
someone you want to be involved with, be honest and up-front about that. It's not
necessarily a good idea to do this at your first meeting. Go home, sleep on it. And then
arrange to speak to this person the next day. Remember, your instincts are your most
valuable resource.
7. Have a good time. Be yourself. But most importantly, be SAFE and be HONEST -
with your date, and with yourself.
Class #3 will be in next month's issue, if you would like to read this article in world, the
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Dominant??....
A Dominant is a person with a
dominant aspect in their
personality.Those just entering
the BDSM world will find the
abundant usage of both of these
words by members of the online
community.

Dominant vs Master
Dominatrix vs Mistress
Those just entering the BDSM world will find the abundant usage of both of these
words by members of the online community. This is primarily due to the rapid growth of
access and the restrained attainability of quality texts to correctly interpret what these
words mean within the community itself. Up to a few years ago the BDSM world was a
tightly closed and almost secret society. Memberships this society was kept totally
private and hidden with significant effort.Entree into the community was by referral and
accompaniment only. Protocols or rules of conduct were strict and strongly enforced,
not from some control standpoint but because those rules emerged from bitterly hard
lessons in survival.
A Dominant is a person with a dominant aspect in their personality.
A Master is a Dominant with significant real life BDSM experience.
They are not the same. It can be fairly said that all Master/Mistress's are Dominant. It
cannot be said that all Dominant's have earned the title of Master/Mistress.The
Dominant person will range from lightly, moderately and heavily dominant.They may
desire to engage in a relationship which is infrequent and strictly limited by rules,
boundaries and limitations. These light Dominant's will generally have a very limited
desire to have a significant D/s relationship,this is sometimes due to conflicting life
events and other times due to being 'barely dominant'.
There is a second group of light Dominant's or persons with a desire to control without
the adequate understanding or tools to do so. I sometimes call these person'slow level
Dominant's. Their range or sphere (their world) is small, they can be poorly educated,
relatively low paying jobs, somewhat narrow minded and may be subject to 'dominant
bursts', or short term barely or uncontrolled violent outburst's. These low level
Dominant's are often abusive and were generally bully's or victims of abuse as
children. They may be full of justifications for their 'actions' often assigning 'blame' or
directing by means of fear,intimidation or threat of pain. They are often without honour,
courage an veracity as individual's and when encountered in the BDSM world should
be avoided or not sought out to be in a relationship with.

The moderate Dominant is the most common Dominant and will characteristically
interested in a 'relationship', though often they may not desire a full time relationship
when they are fairly new to the community. They tend to have a broader range and
more committed style than the light Dominant and the submissive will find them to be
more stable. They will tend to be decently educated, interested in their outer world,
midrange job. They may tend to control through a blending of thought and the
accentuating of traditional type disciplines. They are most likely to have 'sides', wishing
and desiring their submissive to 'share' in decision making choices.
The heavy Dominant can be distinguished primarily by a clear, strong and compelling
desire to live in a 24/7 relationship with one submissive. This Dominant will generally
have been in the community for a long time or be seasoned, will have explored the
'abundance' of many D/s events, meetings, scenes and partners.They can be more
tolerant and more strict than any other Dominant. A high percentage of heavy
Dominant's will have spent some portion of their BDSM life as a submissive, learning
from the inside. These Dominant's often allow few limits and believe that their
submissive must trust in them to direct them in a safe, sane manner. They are
generally well rounded and quite stable. Holding to simple, firm rules with a strong
desire to maintain the health and well-being of their chosen mate.
One of the most significant traits which identifies or distinguishes a member of this
community is the basic 'desire to serve for the pleasure of another'. This aspect trait is
shared by both Dominant and submissive though manifested in entirely different ways.
When 'in scene' the Dominant is 'serving' the needs of the submissive by giving and/or
directing that submissive in a manner which is pleasurable to the core being of the
submissive. In those terms the Dominant is the giver, the submissive the receiver. In a
good or well rounded relationship this flows back and forth between both Dominant
and submissive. The submissive is 'giving' obedience and consent to the Dominant,
the Dominant is 'giving' direction and control to the submissive.
Additionally you have those who go by the name of Top. This person is generally an
individual who enjoys scening from the Top position. S/he may or may not have a
strong dominant aspect. Many Top's will openly indicate that they do not consider
themselves to be a Dominant, they generally have little desire to being a controlling
position of another person's life.

Many see themselves in dual roles and may identify themselves as switches, or having
the ability to switch from Top to bottom role. I also need to mention the Sadist here. A
Sadist mayor may not be a Dominant, in much the same way as a Top. Often a true
Sadist will openly identify themselves as a Sadist. They scene because the inflicting of
pain upon another being brings them pleasure. In many cases the Sadist has no desire
to live in a controlling position over another person. Also the trueSadist is very attuned
to 'scene limits', they can and may be a stickler for very precise identification of what is
permissible and what is not. In general terms they are not oriented toward 'serving the
pleasure' of the person they scene with though often they are very skilled, very
intelligent and very careful.
A Dominant may be sadistic and will often have a strong sadistic side which allows
them the ability or range to interact with the submissive in an intense sensory
stimulation way
A multiple partner Dominant can be any of those above mentioned. The individual's
stability can best be judged by the duration of those poly-relationships. Also there are
those that take on or desire to take on 'stables' of submissives. In most cases this is a
fantasy wish fulfilment type of ego stroking. Functionally, the more people within a
relationship the harder it is to manage. It is quite difficult to manage a single
relationship well, every division of time, energy and focus reduces the overall quality to
everyone.
THE MASTER ~ MISTRESS
The Master/Mistress is beyond the last level of the Dominant. They are generally well
experienced, often having lived as a full time slave for up to several years as part of
their training. This title used to be given within the local communities in a ceremonial
way when the individual had earned this title by the estimation of a majority consensus
agreement of the Dominant's within that local community. It was considered to be a
high honor and carried with it a measure of instant respect by all those so encountering
it. In addition there is a further title of GrandMaster/Mistress. This title is awarded even
more rarely and should you encounter any individual with this title, you should offer
extreme respect and understand that this title was awarded for demonstrable and long
term consistent actions

One final thing to really confuse you. There is a category that I call the
AlphaDominant. (aka High-Level Dominant) (aka Natural Dominant). This individual
appears to have been born Dominant. They often 'emerge' at a young age,
(sometimes at puberty), they have natural skills, are highly imaginative and creative,
flexible, energetic and intense. They have no need to 'prove' themselves to any other
standards or measures. They may have no abuse whatsoever in their background.
They are generally highly motivated, precise, detail oriented, aggressive, charming
and capable of literally anything.
The vast majority of Dominants 'emerge' in their mid-thirties. A full emergence often
takes as long as seven years as they work through and integrate all the conflicting
information inside of themselves (this is identical for the submissive also - though
many female sub's emerge in their late 20's). During this 'emergence' process they
can be somewhat unstable, moving from person to person and sometimes from
orientation to orientation as they seek to understand what is happening to them and
who they really are.
A few other misconceptions to address. The term 'Lady' is often seen. Lady can be an
indicator of both Dominant or submissive. Many Alpha or number one submissives
are called 'Ladies'. Usage of this term as it applies to a Dominant Female is
somewhat unclear though it 'may' indicate that the Dominant is or has been a switch. I
should note that many of the Dominant's are former submissives who carry forth their
education and training quite proudly. The term Lord is also commonly seen here and
is often used as in 'Lord and Master'. Being called a'Lord' does not mean that the
individual is a Master but appears to be a term of endearment given by the
submissive to that Dominant. Sir and Ma'am also fall into the category of endearment
honorific title terms. Many Dominant's have no desire to assume the identity of a
Master and require their submissives to call them Sir to be used as the reverent title
of choice. This also holds true for Ma'am though I should note here that 'Madame' can
be interpreted as a slur due to it's association with prostitution.
Madam Steele

BDSM:Types of
relationship

BDSM: Types of relationship
by, Raven Shadowborne
Within BDSM, there are many different types of relationships. Each one is important to
those who live them. As well, each one is defined by the people involved. This often
makes things difficult for people who are new to the lifestyle. Here are my definitions of
the different types of relationships found in BDSM. None of them are better than any
other, in my opinion. I give this information simply to show how varied things are and to
aid those who are just learning in having at least a general idea of what can be found.
Bedroom D/s: These are the relationships in which the power exchange takes place
only during a set time frame. It usually coincides with sex or b/d & s/m play. There is no
power exchange outside of these scenes. Often, this is used as a way to spice up an
existing relationship by including b/d and s/m play. Some times, this kind of relationship
can grow into another type. It is, in my opinion, a part of BDSM because a power
exchange does take place, no matter how briefly. For many, this type of relationship is
the first step into BDSM and can be an ideal way for newbies to start out. Often, this is
a love based relationship or play partner arrangement.
D/s: (Domination/submission) Be it a live in 24/7 relationship or a long distance one, a
d/s relationship is one where the power exchange exists outside the bedroom or prearranged
scenes. The power exchange encompasses more than just sexual acts.
Such a relationship may or may not include love. It may or may not include limits on
play activities, which were imposed by the submissive. For me, the deciding factor that
makes a relationship a d/s one is the answer to the question "Who has final say in the
majority of daily life?". If the answer is "The dominant" " my master" or such, that
shows a power exchange outside of the bedroom and therefor a d/s relationship. In
these relationships the focus is not on just play, but also on the mental aspects of the
power exchange and service by the submissive. The power exchange is not always
obvious, but each person involved knows their place whether play has occurred
recently or not. In this kind of relationship, one finds rules of behaviour, expectations,
and tasks put on the submissive. The majority of mainstream BDSM relationships fall
into this category.
M/s (Master/slave): This is a rare type of relationship. One that is often misunderstood
and ostracised. Nevertheless, it is a valid and very real type of BDSM relationship. In
such a relationship there is a total giving of power from the slave to the dominant. It is,
in fact, a total power exchange (TPE). Like the d/s relationship, the power exchange is
present outside of sexual encounters. Unlike the d/s relationship, the slave can not and

does not set any limits on the dominant and usually does not have a safe word. As in
the d/s relationship you will find rules of behaviour, expectations and tasks placed on
the slave. Unlike some d/s relationships, these rules can cover a lot more area, such
as tone of voice, body movements, sleeping and eating habits, poise and more. The
main focus in such a relationship is the service of the slave, not sexual gratification.
For those involved in such relationships, it is the service of the slave that is the most
satisfying and is a driving force behind the relationship. Those involved in an M/s
relationship, do so because they need to serve or be served.. The slave wants to
relinquish all control to the dominant and is happiest when he/she finds the right
dominant for them to which they can fully submit. However, this does not mean a slave
is incapable of caring for themselves or a doormat, quite the opposite in fact. A slave,
like a submissive, must be capable and reliable. Many slaves have extensive
responsibilities that they must take care of on a daily basis, and those who can't care
for themselves or think for themselves, would not succeed as a slave or submissive.
The M/s relationship seems to be more of a mental one than the d/s relationship. The
mindsets of those involved are different. In a d/s relationship many submissives think
they can just leave if they had to. In an m/s relationship, most slaves would not
consider doing so even in the event of their life being endangered. A slave gives
blanket consent to the dominant upon taking the collar. Whereas, many d/s
relationships seem to require repeated consent from the submissive. An m/s
relationship need not have love, and is usually not based on love.
There is a fourth type of relationship. I have yet to see anyone name it or clearly define
it, but it does exist. I will give a general description of such a relationship here. It
comes between a d/s relationship and an m/s one. It is a relationship that has traits of
both types. It focuses more on service and mental aspects than a standard d/s
relationship, yet still has a bit more focus on the physical aspects than the m/s
relationship. In such a relationship, the submissive exhibits and is happiest with quite a
few attributes of the m/s relationship. For example, blanket consent, no safe words,
and no limits. SUch a relationship can grow into an m/s one or revert to a d/s one,
depending on what the participants want.
Each of these types have variances within them from the mildest occasional hand
spankers, to the extreme edge players. Or from the mildest power exchange of a
weekend encounter, to the day to day living of complete submission in an absolute m/s
relationship. And, everything in between! But, they all have one thing in common.
Consent is the common denominator. Those involved consented to the relationship as
it is.

Because of the many variances it is a good idea to have at least a general inkling of
the different relationships out there. Armed with such information, it becomes easier to
avoid finding oneself in a relationship that they either can't handle or just are not happy
in. It is extremely important that prospective partners discuss what they want in a
relationship and honestly evaluate if their desired relationships match.
BDSM is NOT a competition. There is no magic level that makes one a "real" or "Not
real". To view it as such is to set yourself up for disaster. No relationship is easy and a
BDSM on has challenges all it's own. To make those challenges worse by placing
yourself into a relationship you can not handle, is not a very smart idea. Be honest to
yourself and others about what you want in a relationship and what you can handle.
But, do not rule out growth and change as time goes on. A relationship can indeed
grow into one of the other types over time. So keep that in mind, but do not strive to be
something you are not because of a false belief that only those live a certain way are
"real" BDSM. The main point behind BDSM is for those involved to be satisfied and
happy overall with their relationship's dynamics. Not to see who can reach TPE first.

Thrown to the floor
Dominant Traits and musings by Sir Arithon
Happy New Year. Well this
month sees a sizzler of a
topic that is bound to
promote a mixed reaction.
Let’s hope we get some
solid feedback here. So,
come on and get your
opinion to us at Liberty &
Restraint in world or direct
mail. You can also contact
us through Facebook if you
want to follow us there. We
certainly want to hear from
you and don’t worry that
your views will not see you
at the end of angry villager
pitchforks because we love
the debate.
Ok so I will continue this
convo in the podcast but
essentially, I wanted to raise
a question or two that have
been on my mind for a few
years now. What I am dying
to know is this. Why at
second life discussions are
the loudest voices always
the submissive side and why
is there a burning desire to
agree with whomever is
talking.
Seriously! The number of
times you go along to a C.Q
and R based discussion to
hear that the next 5 C’s are
prefixed with “I just wanted
to say I agree with what
P o l l y j u s t s a i d 1 0 0 % ”
followed by “done” I mean
can there be any more
useless response to the
burning question of the day.
Where too are the Dominant
voices in all this because
they are so rarely heard
pretty much all the ones that
do speak are all hired as
facilitators. Once you do
become a facilitator of
course be warned. The
baying submissive crowd
will pick up those forks and
come at you if you should
dare to express an opinion.
Id love to hear your answers
to this but I have come up
with a working theory on
some of it. Having been
around in SL a fair bit I can
say with some experience
that the major venues are
like private members clubs.
They are all fighting for the
same audience, so I guess
you can understand their
drive to “capture” the
notable voices of the day for
their discussions. These are
in many cases brilliant,

So what is the rub here? I guess it’s the word discussion. I think that context is at best
badly labelled. The format is much more like a university lecture where the resident
lecturer puts out there the content and the audience absorbs it. It is not a debate where
challenging views are examined and most of all there may be conclusions that come out
of these discussions but there do not seem to be any actions relating to the topics
discussed. Just a polite thank you until the next round.
Perhaps the community is simply content to cycle through all these critical issues with
their ultimate caveat that “what works for you is fine” honestly, I would love to debate
these issues but have as yet not found a forum that is open to open debate about these
and many other issues facing the online community.
Perhaps over time there will be an appetite for a forum like this and thus will be born a
credible alternative to the CQ and R that offers real challenge and debate. I would love to
hear your views on the subject so get in touch.
Sir Arithon

D/shion
by A.Sands
Our Introduction to second life fashion
& D/s photography.

Round of Jewels
Really often there is nothing better to complete an outfit that the correct piece of
jewellery. It does not matter if it is high carats, pearls or gems, or it is done of wood and
leather. A correct jewel turns a good outfit into outstanding. In second life jewels are
really affordable and allow us to create looks like this, not wearing anything else but
jewellery. Love doesn't grow on trees is one of the pieces I treasure from years ago.
Mine is dated on 2012, and is still perfect for some occasions. Today I wanted to show
how you can build a subbie look built just with jewels.

Credits:
CHOP ZUEY Sweet Kamikaze - Cuff Rt
FINESMITH SHINOBU MUSE BODY JEWELRY
F I N E S M I T H beautiful sadness- love doesn't grow on trees.
Finesmith pieces are now just found in the marketplace.

Kinky Kitchen
.

Monthly recipe section by
the talented Sir Cheflew,
with theme driven, topical
writing on health issues.

A year gone by and i still love making this Chilli during the holidays. Great for warming
up you and yours on a cold day.
Read recipe first as it has been somewhat adapted for modern kitchens over the years.
White Chicken Chilli
Ingredients
2 (14.5-ounce) cans white beans, rinsed and drained
4 Cups of chicken broth, divided
1 tablespoon olive oil or oil of your preference.
1 large white onion, diced 1/4 inch cubes
1 jalapeño pepper, seeded and minced - recommend saving the seeds to add to end o
cooking if you like spicy hot
2 medium poblano peppers, seeded and diced - recommend saving the seeds to add to
end o cooking if you like spicy hot
4 garlic cloves, minced
1 tablespoon ground cumin
1-1/2 teaspoons ground coriander
1 teaspoon ancho chilli powder
Sea Salt
1 roasted/baked chicken, skin removed and shredded (about 4 cups)
3/4 cup white sweet corn
1/4 cup fresh chopped cilantro
1 tablespoon fresh lime juice, from one lime, plus more to taste
In a Food processor, blend 1/2 of the beans (1 can) with 1 cup of the chicken broth. Set
aside both the puréed beans and the remaining whole beans.

Add the vegetable oil to a large pot heat it over
medium heat. Add the onion, jalapeño pepper and
poblano peppers and saute until soft, about 4 minutes.
Add the garlic and saute for one minute more. Add the
cumin, coriander and ancho chilli powder and continue
to cook, stirring frequently, for 1 minute more to toast
the spices. Add the chicken stock, pureed beans and
1/2 teaspoon of sea salt; bring to a boil. Reduce the
heat to low and simmer, uncovered, for 20 minutes.
Stir in the shredded roasted chicken, reserved whole
beans, corn, cilantro and lime juice; bring back to a simmer and cook until everything is
heated through, about 5 minutes. Taste and adjust seasoning with more salt and lime
juice, if necessary. (The broth will be somewhat soupy -- that's how it is supposed to be.
It thickens the longer it sits;) Serve the chili in individual bowls with a dollop of sour
cream or heavy cream, crushed tortilla chips, and lime wedges.

Monthly recipe section by
the talented Sir Cheflew,
with theme driven, topical
writing on health issues.

Shivers down my spine…

Valedictorian
byDawi©
Though she would never had admitted it to anyone, Laura knew that she was probably
not the smartest or prettiest girl in the Franklin Roosevelt High school.
Close, sure, definitely top 10, but not the top. The title of smartest girl may well have
gone to the girl in the back seat though, Emily Ratner, and that was what tonight was all
about, her big juicy brain and how it was standing in Laura's way. She would never sell
her sell herself short of course. She was a dangerous combination of beauty, brains, and
a ruthless understanding of how to use both to get what she wanted wrapped up in a tall,
lithe, raven haired girl.
When all these traits combined into a woman entering the home stretch of her senior
year of school, well - don't get between her and what she wants. Nothing else need be
said. And sometimes what you want can take a fairly circuitous rout, she reflected idly.
Like being on a date with a guy you have no interest in, for instance. A date that was
going nowhere fast, or according to plan, depending on who you asked.
While her date was on the phone outside the car she stole a glance in the rear-view
mirror and checked out the competition. The contrast between Laura and Emily couldn't
have been more exaggerated. Emily was fair, curvy, and looked completely innocent as
she nestled against her boyfriend Robert's chest, engrossed in the movie. Her glasses
and ill-fitting vintage chic clothing down played her feminine charms, but there was no
hiding what a natural beauty Emily was.
Laura wasn't entirely sure what movie they had actually come to see. She thought it was
probably one of those super hero movies that were all the rage these days, but it didn't
matter, she wasn't here for the film. She was here because Emily was, and that's all that
mattered.
It had taken a lot of work for Laura to set this up, she thought as she looked outside and
watched her date pace while talking on his cellphone. She'd had to find a friend of
Emily's boyfriend who had a car and a job, which in this case turned out to be a loser
named Jeff.
Once she'd found the right date, shed had to practically wear a sign, providing enough
excuses to be around him and signals for a blind man until he worked up the courage to
ask her out. And all of that so that when she told him her parents wouldn't allow them to
go to the drive-in unless it was a double date. She was sure he would go to Robert and
beg him to bring Emily. That was the great thing about Jeff - Robert was his only friend
with a girl - it would have spoiled the whole night if he had brought someone else.

She stifled a laugh at the thought of her parents. Her mom wouldn't give a shit where she
was as long as she was home before midnight, and who knew which country her father
was for work this week. As long as she brought home A's, and they never actually saw
her drunk or high, they didn't give a shit what she did with her time.
Sadly though, even after all that work Jeff still wouldn't be getting his dick wet. Sure, she
knew she seemed like a sure thing, and truth be told, she usually was, but once the date
had been locked in, Laura had seduced his assistant manager with some topless
pictures and the promise of a hand job to call Jeff
up and make him come into work for an emergency
shortly after the date started. Laura had really
rubbed in this injustice too, by leaving a hickey on
Jeff's neck between kisses and letting him feel how
wet her panties were underneath her skirt. She
wasn't wet for Jeff though, she was excited about
what was going to happen after he had to leave.
When she saw him hang up, head hung in
resignation, she knew she had won. A moment later
he popped back into the car.
"Work called," he started, as he turned down the
movie soundtrack on the radio, "and they are really
slammed, so I'm going to need to go help them
out."
Laura tried to maintain a disappointed look, but with
her sense of victory shining through it came out
somewhat sardonic.
"Aww, Jeff, that's too bad," she started.
"But I want you three to stay and have a good time." Jeff interrupted, trying to preserve
his dignity and hopes for a second date. It wouldn't work. Laura would block his number
by the end of the night if everything went well. "Robert, just drive my car to your place
after you drop the girls off and I'll pick it up at the end of the night."
"How late do you need to stay, bro" Robert asked, trying to be a good friend, "We could
pick you up after this and go chill somewhere."

"They're going to need me to close," Jeff said with a heavy sigh.
"That sucks," Emily said sympathetically. Laura echoed her words somewhat more
hollowly. "Yeah, totally"
"Let me at least walk you to the gate," Laura said opening her door as she shrugged on
her coat. "I need to use the ladies room any way."
Jeff wasn't about to protest that, and soon enough they were walking arm in arm as
Laura kept up the charade. Jeff wasn't a bad guy she reflected, he just lacked ambition.
He probably deserved better than this, but all is fair in love and war.
After she left Jeff with one last kiss for the road, Laura walked back slowly. She made a
brief stop at the lady's room to remove her panties, and then strolled through the
darkened drive-in lot observing the other patrons, or more specifically, their cars. The
movie was approaching the half way point, so many of the cars that weren't exactly there
for the movie had started to reveal their true motivations for showing up. Whether it was
the slight bounce of suspensions, or fogged up windows, about half the cars she passed
showed the subtle signs of passion taking place in their darkened interiors. At first
glance, Jeff's used Prius wouldn't have revealed anything similar, to the casual observer.
Its windows were clean, and its chassis was immobile, but there was just one subtle
problem that made
Laura smile her Cheshire smile: you could only see one head in the window, and judging
from the height, that would-be Robert.
Laura smirked as she thought about sweet little Emily giving head to the man she loved
in the back seat. She had hoped they would try to use this little window of time to explore
their passions, it would have been much more challenging if Emily had maintained a prim
and proper demeanour. As long as the couple in the front seat was making out every bit
as much as the couple in the backseat, but now that she was the third wheel, it would
become a drag pretty quick. Well, normally it would.
Laura strode over to the car with all the confidence in the world and casually opened the
rear passenger door on Robert's side.
"Okay guys, here's the... Well, hello," Laura said, feigning surprise. As suspected she
had caught them both red handed.
Emily had lost her glasses at some point, and had found herself a dick instead. When the
car door burst open and the dome light came on she froze with one hand wrapped

around the base of Robert's not unimpressive cock and its head still deep in her mouth.
The smell of sex and aroused cunt wafted out almost immediately, even though they had
only been at it for a few minutes at most. How were they expecting to hide that when
Laura had gotten back, she wondered?
Emily's expression of horror was marred by her mouth being full. If she'd wanted
blackmail this would have been the moment to laugh and snap a few pictures, but since
she was after somewhat bigger game, she smiled wickedly and hopped into the back
seat before they could protest, and shut the door behind her.
Obviously, the young couple was pretty surprised by that turn of events, so Laura
decided to press her advantage by kissing Robert deeply before he could protest. At first
his mouth was slack against hers, but within moments his tongue was writhing against
hers. He was a good kisser. Laura could see what Emily saw in him.
"Ahhem," Emily said, as she stopped inhaling her boyfriend's dick long enough to object
to what was happening, or more precisely what was getting ready to. "Laura, what do
you think you're..."
This was the critical moment, Laura thought as she broke off the kiss long enough to
meet Emily's eye. Her level gaze, lusty and intense, made Emily trail off, and for a
moment, there was silence. Laura broke the silence by reaching out to wrap her hand
around Emily's. The hand that was still wrapped around her boyfriend's dick. Emily's
eyes flashed down for a moment, and she flushed bright red for a moment as she took in
the erotic sight in the half light of the distant movie screen. When she brought her eyes
back up to meet
Laura's, she licked her lips unconsciously, and in that moment, Laura knew that she had
her.
Laura closed her eyes and leaned in to kiss Emily, and Emily just let it happen. This
wasn't the first girl that Laura ever kissed, and it certainly wouldn't be the last, but the
same couldn't be said for poor innocent Emily. Robert was the only the second boy she
had ever kissed and the only one she had gone further than that with. Her studies
and religious upbringing didn't allow for anything more than that, so when she
tasted this forbidden fruit she melted completely into it. She didn't put up a fight
either when Laura started running her hand up and down her boyfriend's spit slick cock
for her either.
Once Emily's hand was keeping Robert happy and engaged, she used both hands to fish
around under Emily's sweater and undo the clasp to her straining bra. To say that her
shapeless clothes were hiding her beauty would be an understatement. Laura knew that

she had pretty big tits, but had not been expecting the double D's she found. She groped
both of the orbs gently before finding the nipples and tweaking them hard, making Emily
moan into her mouth. Emily may be able to breeze through AP calculus and English lit
effortlessly, but Laura could read people in their weaknesses with equal ease.
Laura pulled back from the kiss for a moment to pull off her shirt - she hadn't bother to
wear a bra, and her nipples had been obvious in the cold for most of the evening. She
was a well-proportioned B cup, but she looked flat next to Emily.
"Well," Laura asked expectantly, "Aren't you going to show us what you got?"
Emily paused a moment, biting her lip before reaching down the hem of her shirt and
pulling it over her head. Laura took that moment to straddle Robert's lap, presumably to
get closer to Emily. He took the opportunity to suck greedily on Laura's left nipple as she
took the opportunity to pull Emily to her in another kiss. Neither of them realized the real
purpose was to get Laura closer to Roberts cock until Laura rested her full weight on his
lap, pushing her hot wet slit against his dick.
Laura could tell that he felt it too by the way he bucked his hips involuntarily. At this angle
that wouldn't do anything but slide his dick up and down her lips, which while exquisite,
was not her primary goal. While Laura's hands and mouth roamed Emily's body,
distracting her entirely from everything else going on, she raised her hips and twisted her
pelvis forward, and the next time Robert bucked, his cock slid up and the head lodged in
her pussy without effort.
As Laura sank down on his cock, she used her left hand to hold his head to her breast so
he couldn't object or give Emily any indication of what was going on. She had to admit it
to herself, Emily had chosen a good man here. Though not quite seven inches, she could
feel the girth stretch her slightly leaving her pussy eager, and aching to be fucked. She
probably wouldn't get that tonight though. When she had been working out this plan, she
had heard through the grapevine that Robert and Emily had had sex a couple times, but
only with condoms, so Laura doubted he would last more than a minute or so in her tight,
raw, little pussy.
If she needed some relief after all this, Laura thought, she could always swing by Mr.
Anderson's for some extra credit on the way home, she noted wistfully. His wife worked
nights at the hospital, and he was never one to refuse a student in need of personal
tutoring in the middle of the night.
As Robert started to get the confidence to saw his dick in and out of her in slow, clit
grinding, rocking motions, Laura reached into Emily's waistband to see how she was

enjoying tonight's unexpected events. It was no surprise that she was practically
dripping, soaking her cotton panties to uselessness. Emily sighed into Laura's mouth
again as soon as Laura touched her, and once she got started on her clit in earnest,
Emily buried her face into Laura's breast and let out a series of breathy mewling sounds
that quickly escalated into low moans.
Robert's thrusts were coming faster now, and his breathing was getting more laboured.
He definitely had a nice dick, but he didn't have enough practice with it in a real horny girl
to be much good with it yet, all the same it scratched the itch, as much as it incited it, and
made Laura work to suppress the moans that were starting to rise from deep within her.
When she felt his motions get shorter and more desperate, Laura turned and kissed him
hard, meeting his gaze with intensity. As soon as he met her gaze, his whole body
stiffened as he came in a real woman instead of a plastic-coated pussy for the first time
in his life. When the moment was over, Laura turned to Emily, who she had kept finger
fucking throughout her boyfriend's orgasm. She was entirely oblivious as wave after
wave of sinful and forbidden pleasure washed over her.
When Laura took her hands out of Emily's pants before she had a chance to cum, Emily
finally opened her eyes, somewhat disappointed. When Laura started to tug at Emily's
waist band though, it took a few moments for the idea that Laura wanted her to take
them off to penetrate the fog of lust she had generated in Emily's normally sharp mind,
and Laura could see the hesitation in her pretty but dazed face, but her well-practiced
pout was more than enough to change her mind.
Well Emily wriggled out of her hand me down jeans and her white cotton panties, Laura
turned her attention back to Robert. The lust warring with worry was plain on his face,
though she couldn't be sure if he was worried that he had just fucked another woman in
front of Emily and she might find out or he might have just knocked her up and ruined his
life. Laura lifted her ass to hover over Robert's cock as she leaned forward to kiss him.
She immediately missed the feeling of fullness as his semi-soft cock slipped out of her.
"Don't worry big boy she said," pausing to kiss him deeply, "everyone here is having a
great time."
"I'm not complaining Laura, but what's gotten into you tonight?" he asked, not noticing his
double entendre. 'You did, silly' was the obvious answer, but it would spoil the game.
"I just came her to watch the movie Robert," she said in a playful tone, as she felt his
sperm slowly drip out of her and on to his cock.

"You and you and your sexy girlfriend are the ones who upped the ante in all this."
"Emily," Laura said, turning to face the girlfriend who was entirely clueless about the
subtext of the conversation up until now. "I think your man is jealous of all the attention
I've been paying to you," she slid off of Robert's lap on the centre seat, and back onto
her own side of the car. "Why don't you make he feel wanted and needed?"
She didn't have to be told twice. She was on his lap straddling his legs in no time locking
lips with her one true love. Laura had to admit that they made a cute couple. If anything,
what she was doing was going to keep them together. Laura noticed that Emily was
grinding her bare pussy against Roberts rapidly hardening cock. She also noticed that
Emily was careful not to let it go inside of her as Laura had, and that Robert was careful
not to tell her about all of the sperm she was currently grinding against.
That suited Laura just find as she reached down to finger her own pussy while she
adjusted her position to better help Emily out. To the casual observer this might have
looked like she was just enjoying the show of two passionate young lovers, recently
come of age. What she was really doing though was making sure she had as much of
Robert's slick sperm as possible on her slender fingers before she reached between the
two lovers and started to finger Emily.
Robert opened his eyes briefly to give Laura a look, and for a moment she thought he
might spoil everything, but teenage hormones won out, and he stuck to kissing instead of
talking. For her part, Emily never missed a bit, rutting and grinding harder than ever as
Laura slipped two fingers inside her needy little cunt. She was close to cumming and
starting to get louder - the couple in the next car over probably could have told you that.
That was too bad for her - every orgasm she had tonight upped the chances that she
would conceive little Robert or Emily jr whether she wanted to or not. Emily thought of
herself as careful, sure, but at this point her pussy was wet with the sexual fluids of
everyone in this car, and there had to be a few hundred thousand swimmers searching
for her egg even now. To be fair, there were a few million still in
Laura's pussy too, but they were unlikely to be successful.
Careful research ahead of time both through the gossip grape vine and observation in
gym class had revealed that not only was Emily not on birth control but that tonight was
her most fertile time of her cycle. Laura by contrast had a diaphragm and had just
finished her period.

It was a bad time to take chances - Laura wouldn't have made the same decision of
course, she was a thoughtful and deliberate woman.
Robert was likely to knock up one of them tonight, just not the one he was expecting.
As Laura mused about all this, her fingers flew on auto pilot, playing with Emily's clit and
scooping up sperm to finger into her by turns, bringing the young girl to one wracking
orgasm after another. Before long Laura could see that Emily was so turned on that
Robert could have fucked her if he had wanted to, condom be damned. Whether it was
because he was too inexperienced to notice, or he had a desire to do the right thing the
moment passed, and as the credits started to roll, Emily's frantic bucking subsided, as
she looked down soulfully at her partner.
"Aww, poor boy, Laura and I have had all the fun and here you are just waiting," She
looked mischievously at Laura as she dismounted her man and his cock once again
stood at attention. "I'll be the two of us can figure out something to help you. With that
Emily bent down to suck his cock once again, and Laura saw no reason not to follow suit.
Together they didn't suck his dick so much as French kiss around it, while it was in both
their mouths. Even Laura had to admit it was incredibly hot - after all this she would need
someone to fuck her right later - her pussy was steaming with need after this strange
three-way, and the taste of all their aroused juices mixed together like this was definitely
an aphrodisiac.
Even though he had already cum once this evening, Robert didn't last long. After just
over a minute of this intense double oral action, he exploded, fountaining his sperm into
both their mouths. If Emily noticed that the taste was a familiar one, present since they
had started sucking his cock, she said nothing.
After that there was only the sound of heavy breathing, so Laura wiped away some of the
condensation from the closest window, and saw an empty lot, and a dark screen to go
with the silent radio.
"Umm, guys, I think we're the last ones here," she said, trying to sound nervous as she
attempted to wind up the evening on this high note. It wasn't a tone Laura was good at.
She was rarely nervous. "I think we should get out of here before someone comes out to
check to make sure we are okay." That last line set off a small flurry of activity as
everyone suddenly rushed to get dressed before driving home.

Simply online….
Separating the wheat from the chaff
among Dominants
NOTICE: The article below deals with adult and fetish-related topics and fantasies. If you
are offended by this sort of material and/or are not a legal adult, I suggest you leave this
instant.
In a now-deleted post about the “loving dominant”, which was inspired from and based
on Inara Pey’s post of the same title, I negotiated what makes a good Dominant: the one
that’s called “the loving Dominant”. One would think this topic has been covered to death,
but it seems the misconceptions are a veritable Lernaean Hydra, and I’m sure shoddy
depictions of the D/s scene by such films as The Secretary and such books as Fifty
Shades of Grey and Histoire d’O have played a significant role to this.
I won’t hide: I’ve come to the point where I actively avoid the D/s and fetish scene in
Second Life, even though I have adopted a very kinky look as my main, even though I
define myself as a submissive. Why’s that? Because I’ve found out I have too little in
common with the vast majority of the people populating that scene. Typically, the erotic
roleplay is shallow and vapid; far too many submissives only want some instant
gratification without any emotional connection to the other party / parties involved; and,
finally, far too many “Dominants” are actually poseurs full of contempt for submissives,
using their “Dominant” identity as an excuse to hurt others.
The audacious and aggressive tone with which I, a submissive, write this post might
shock Dominants who read this post, but I do think we all need a rude awakening,
because there are simply far too many domineering poseurs. Any halfwit out there can
dress the part, adopt an authoritative-sounding title, hang a bull whip from their belt,
wave a crop like a feather duster and start barking orders left right and centre, trying to
out-dominate other Dominants, demand “respect” and bully submissives into deferring to
them simply because they identify themselves as a “Dominant”. That doesn’t make them
a Dominant. Not by a long shot.

Time to clarify a few things.
You are only a Dominant within the relationship between you and the submissives who
have agreed to submit to you;
A submissive who is not your submissive has no obligation whatsoever to defer to you;
If you act in a condescending, insulting, humiliating, hurtful, spiteful manner to any
submissive (including yours), you don’t deserve to be called a Dominant; instead, you
are a domineering poseur; a wannabe; a mockery of a Dominant.
Real Dominants exhibit self-control; they respect, understand, and nurture their
submissives. They don’t demand respect; they inspire and earn it with their
consideration, kindness, empathy, sympathy, tenderness, warmth, and love.
Domineering poseurs demand respect simply because they identify themselves as
“Dominants”, lack any kind of self-discipline and self-control, and, in the name of their
“authority”, they insult, humiliate and hurt submissives (and not only submissives…).
And make no mistake: If you’re involved with a person like that, they’ll hurt you when
they get a chance, because that’s how they roll; they enjoy mistreating others, so be
aware that you’re next – the question isn’t if your turn to be hurt by them will come. It’s
when. Such poseurs need to be removed from the D/s scene like the cancer growth they
are, because they only exist to hurt others. The wheat needs to be separated from the
chaff.
See also:
Lernaean Hydra – Wikipedia
.
Shortlink: http://wp.me/p2pUmX-JK
https://monaeberhardt.wordpress.com/2013/08/14/the-drop-the-pinnacle-of-bullshit-in-dsrelationships/

Lyrical Passions….

Sleeping
your softly breathing sleep
allows me to muse on times of love
of how you care to devise for me
such pleasures that I know not of
with softly tested link of chain
that holds me to your loving bed
to know that you are there to
shield me with your tender bonds
before slumber claims my eyes
I want to feel your hand in mine
That I may know that you
Lie close by for all our night.
I need to feel the tight confine
Of my captive self that lies within
full knowing that I am
your slave at every sunrise wake
to do your bidding here by morn
and seek your use of me in ways
that have not yet seen light of day
so you shall know me as your own
but dare I risk your wrath by want
of something in this darkest hour,
and think of all you did to me
that brought me to my frenzy here?
my fingers stray and find such wet
as you in passion full create
with desire for you now so intense
that I cannot but divide myself
and guide with care your sleeping hand
where I can ride it in my thrall
and pillow-stifle screams of need
at thoughts of being used again
your touch though sleeping forces me
into that driving ecstasy
that has become my life with you

with no other than this torment wild
that makes me use myself like this
shameless as your wanton bitch
needing all you do to me
in ways that you need me to be
....Francesca Anderssen 2016
From the Francesca Anderssen collection of 101 BDSM Verses (Amazon)

Submissive.
So he said to me one night
Submissive is not what's right
He said to me one day
You've to command and make your way
You cannot be quiet
You cant be a riot
You have to be you
And not let destroy'it
He calls me his friend
Say, when will this end?
He says he don't care
It goes beyond repair
He says I mean nothing
Without the slightest grieve
"You are my closest"
Oh, I wouldn't like to believe
But I've known better
And not made up a pile
Fed it to the skies
Never failed to smile
I've grown as a human
I've grown as a friend
He's been a pillar
The crave will never end
He's helped me in ways
Helped find my forte
He's helped me mature
Never enough to sway
But now that he's changed
I'm hit by numbing rain
Now that all's deranged
Major bouts will reign.
Written by A.

VIP section!
This section will introduce
you to some of the
wonderful places you can
visit and enjoy in second
life. Also some of the
educational groups you can
join for quality lifestyle and
community information

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Extremely excited to announce the opening of a new Venue for SL.
"Venus" - (Group name Venus Provocation)
Offering several different areas in one unique exclusive club experience.
Promoting like minded conversations and experiences to meet new and
old friends to socialise.
Main house to gather and relax and chat with a private Burlesque room
as well as a greedy table.
Venus Secret garden for that alone time with pleasant cuddle areas for
that one on one relaxing experience.
Venus Dance area for gathering and social events and in the planning
future demonstrations by various vendors. DJ/live events by some of
the best DJ's in SL.
Sky-box for you Ds/BDSM pleasure
During the month of December no fee to join group.
During the month of January 100L (50%)
February to normal cost to join 200L
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If Y/you're looking for a place to call home, then
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Fallen Angels BDSM Club is all-inclusive, so no
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%20Cove%20II/104/146/3923

http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Beyond
%20Vanilla/195/202/22

Beyond Vanilla - The D/s and BDSM Sim
Beyond Vanilla is an adult D/s and BDSM sim that has been built by people who have
been involved with D/s and BDSM for a long time in Real Time and has different areas
that will appeal to many lifers. The underlying theme throughout the sim and associated
areas, though, is D/s and BDSM. The owners are from the United States and England.
We cater to both these time zones.
We hope you have as much fun here as we have in building it.
The Warehouse
The big old ramshackle building that’s on site? Yes.. but inside it's tastefully decorated as
a D/s and BDSM club. The ground floor has bars and a stage where we will be having
some “interesting” revues. The 1st floor is totally made over to a play area with some
great devices that will stretch a submissive and make a dominant smile, no charge to use
them at all so if you want to try out some Shibari or just display a submissive and then flog
them - then feel free to use anything there. The 2nd floor is a comfy relaxing area for
meetings and discussions that will be held and is available for groups to use as well as a
special event area as well.. If interested in renting this area please see the Owner's.
Auction Area: What self-respecting D/s and BDSM place would be without an auction
house? Well, we have "The Auction House" here. It is staffed and run by knowledgeable
people who will assist potential bidders with their choice and help the auctionee find their
Dominant. The management is a mixture of new and old hands at auctioning. We want
to bring respect back into the auction process, it’s not a meat market. If you, are like most
subs/slaves and have that burning desire to be owned, come by and ask us for an
application. There is no charge to be sold. and we pay the auctionee a very favourable %
when their term is completed satisfactorily. Here at The Auction House, Dominants will
only be sold in charity events.
Dance Club: Yes, we have one, Whips End. It is a good one as well with a TIS Hybrid
System fully loaded with all sorts of the latest dances AND a TIS T1000 Dance Floor as
well with some seriously good effects. We also have some great DJ’s on our roster who
will play a multitude of genres to make your time enjoyable here. Our lifestyle isn’t all strict
Dominant and submissive you have to let your hair down sometime.

http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Harmony%20Glen/191/186/22

♠♥♂♀∞♥♥♛ღ.¸¸.•✦RED ROOM SOCIETY✦•.¸¸.!♛♥♥♀♂∞♀♠
We are a new BDSM sim who is looking for all staffing positions. for all
time zones. We are a classy ,fun, friendly establishment and sometimes
crazy *smiles*. Please take the ride and click on the box that is pertaining
to your interest for dancers,dj's and host or just grab an app fro above
and then please send your applications to safiya silversmith or
hotskorpion charisma ..Thank you
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Ohukai/202/139/1995
Red Room Society

Bored Babygirls Entertainment Hangout & Sentano's B.B.N.
Sentano's B.B.N. club where everyone is welcome!! electro music, pop
music, hard core techno music, drum and base, trap music free Style
music! dance music
100% tips and a wage
pro dj 500L per fixed set during 12 till 8pm
hoby dj 300L per fixed set during 12 till 8pm
host 200L per fixed set during 12 till 8pm
come take a look and talk with myself sentano resident
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Imagine all the tales of old you grew up loving.
King Arthur, The Knights of the Round Table, Avalon, Sherwood Forest & Robin Hood.
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Vampires, Werewolves, Dragons & More......
Oh what a land this is, Beautiful & Terrible. Blessed & Cursed. So many stories have
made it, so many more will shape what it will become.
The Highland Crescent Watch is looking for warm, compassionate people to join our
growing family.
Looking for a home?
Help learning Immortals?
Fun and high quality RP?
Visit the sim or the website for details
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Personality more important than experience.
http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Goldrush%20land/186/194/37
Refuge of Lost Wanderer's
Home to Highland Crescent
Watch

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If you would like to
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Useful Links
like the web? Follow these crumbs for fun and
information.
Blogs:
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http://www.pdrelate.co.uk
http://www.pdrelate.com
ACES Group Joiner URL (copy & paste into local chat then click from chat history to
JOIN ACES) :
secondlife:///app/group/827673f4-77d0-1536-7b07-106556047025/about
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ACES Google calendar:
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ACES in FetLife:
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ACES Youtube channel:
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D/s Discussions Group;
Link to the group: secondlife:///app/group/c938f093-2dcb-dfd5-26c9-44db5ea70985/
about
Have a link you want to share, drop a NC in at the
magazine office!

Gallery
Editor’s Picks
Nothing is more
evocative or inspiring to
me than art. I often find
one of the most
satisfying parts of editing
this magazine is finding
the art that brings life to
the heartbeat of the
words.
Join me as i present
some of the most
wonderful imagery
available, from the most
sensual of minds.
Amazing art by a myriad of talent.

Coming up…
February
February
February Magazine
Topic!!
why do we get jealous?
when does it happen?
How is envy different from
jealousy?
How do Dominants handle
jealousy in a dynamic?
Magazine Podcast.
Varied topics and guest
speakers. Unique way to
educate and learn. Visit
the venue to hear it
stream or download from
n e x t m o n t h i n o u r
magazine.
February
Thrown to the floor
Articles by Sir Arithon,
delivered in his unique
Dominant style.
D/shion
Another look into the D/s
world of fashion with
A.sands
Editor’s Picks
A trip into the naughty
mind of flame and her
choice of erotic art.
February
VIP Venue’s
Information and
advertisement for venues
and Shops online
Simply Online
Specific content for those
of the lifestyle who only
practice in Second life or
other online platforms.

Produced by
Flame Jie, Editor in Chief
& Sir Arithon, Associate Editor
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To contribute to the
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