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<strong>November</strong> <strong>16</strong>, 2017<br />
A mother’s personal story of<br />
raising twins with autism<br />
JON HOUZET<br />
AFTER lying in a drawer for 30<br />
years, a great-grandmother’s<br />
true-life story of her immense<br />
challenge raising twins with autism<br />
has finally been published.<br />
Enid Mary Stanton, 81, currently<br />
lives at Diaz Old Age Home in<br />
Alexandria, but still calls her<br />
Bloemfontein smallholding home. Her<br />
daughter, Felicity McNamara, lives on<br />
an Alexandria farm and after years of<br />
persuading her mother to have her<br />
book published, was finally able to get<br />
it done when Stanton had a nasty fall<br />
and needed special care.<br />
She is recovering well and was in<br />
good spirits when TotT interviewed her<br />
at Diaz Home last weekend.<br />
She titled her book Through a Glass,<br />
Darkly – taken from the scripture in 1<br />
Corinthians 13:11-12.<br />
Felicity was the first-born of her<br />
siblings, and was two years old when<br />
her mother gave birth to twins Kevin<br />
and Steven. Stanton’s overwhelming<br />
joy was soon clouded by the<br />
realisation that her boys were not<br />
normal. What follows is a story of a<br />
m ot h e r ’s fierce love and sheer<br />
determination to do the best she can<br />
to get the most out of life for her boys.<br />
With all the visits the family made<br />
to doctors to see how the twins could<br />
be treated, Stanton began keeping a<br />
diary of what was happening in the<br />
boys’ lives.<br />
“It was easier than explaining things<br />
over and over to the doctors,” she said.<br />
At first, the family did not know<br />
what was wrong with the twins as<br />
autism was not commonly known. As<br />
babies they seemed apathetic and<br />
reluctant to feed properly. Of the two,<br />
Kevin was worse off and a neurologist<br />
confirmed a brain haemorrhage<br />
occurred at birth.<br />
At the age of two, the boys started<br />
attending a school for cerebral palsied<br />
children. Steven began to show a<br />
violent temper. The twins were<br />
hospitalised to have extensive brain<br />
tests done.<br />
“It was only later, at Martin du<br />
Plessis School in Bloemfontein when<br />
the inspector came around and said<br />
he thinks it’s autism. They were about<br />
four then,” Stanton said.<br />
“We went to Red Cross Children’s<br />
Hospital in Cape Town where there<br />
was a doctor who was the only<br />
authority on autism in the country.”<br />
Amid Kevin’s destructiveness and<br />
Steven’s bad temper, the family found<br />
that Steven had an aptitude for music<br />
and art. There seemed to be no hope<br />
for Kevin, as the school said his<br />
mental disability was too great.<br />
A heart-wrenching decision was<br />
made when the principal at Steven’s<br />
school insisted that Kevin should be<br />
institutionalised to give Steven a better<br />
chance in life. Kevin was placed in a<br />
mental institution at the age of six.<br />
“We put Steven in a special school<br />
in Pretoria, Unica. He was very happy<br />
there and was allowed to stay until he<br />
was 23. I dedicated the book to<br />
Unica,” Stanton said.<br />
She continued writing about the<br />
t wins’ journey until they were 23.<br />
Currently Steven lives in a sheltered<br />
workshop in Bloemfontein and visits<br />
his mother every weekend when she<br />
is up there. Stanton also visits Kevin<br />
in the mental institution, but less<br />
frequently now as she has gotten<br />
older and more frail.<br />
There is a deep melancholy in<br />
Stanton’s story, but it is not all sad.<br />
The book is also balanced with<br />
funny anecdotes and gives a<br />
glimpse into life on the<br />
smallholdings near Bloemfontein<br />
during the years the<br />
twins were growing up.<br />
Originally a handwritten<br />
collection of diary notes, a<br />
friend of Stanton’s typed it up<br />
for her on an old typewriter<br />
about 30 years ago. Then it<br />
was put on floppy disc,<br />
which since corroded.<br />
Fortunately the typed<br />
version was still lying in<br />
a drawer at her smallholding,<br />
and as things<br />
worked out, her daughter was<br />
finally able to get the<br />
manuscript and put it in<br />
digital form. The book is<br />
self-published in hardcover,<br />
and the first batch already<br />
sold out. A second batch is<br />
being printed in softcover.<br />
It will be available at<br />
Fogar t y’s and Exclusive<br />
Books in Port Elizabeth.<br />
“Autism is still a mystery,”<br />
Stanton said. “I don’t know all<br />
the answers.”<br />
LIFE STORY:<br />
Enid Mary<br />
Stanton, 81,<br />
has finally had<br />
her true-life<br />
story of<br />
raising twins<br />
with autism<br />
published<br />
Picture: JON<br />
HOUZET<br />
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sacrifice. For those who came<br />
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said.<br />
“We face our own wars in life<br />
which require courage and<br />
bravery. We might think we can’t<br />
overcome them, but with God<br />
nothing is impossible.”<br />
Spenceley quoted one of King<br />
George VI’s inspiring messages<br />
to the soldiers about to go to war<br />
against Nazi Germany, and<br />
ended with two poems about<br />
soldiers.<br />
Hymns were sung and the<br />
wreath laying ceremony followed<br />
at which a bugler played the Last<br />
Post and Reveille, and a piper<br />
played while members of the<br />
Moths, SA Legion, SA Air Force<br />
Association, First City Regiment<br />
and councillor Ray Schenk<br />
representing Ndlambe<br />
Municipality, laid wreaths in<br />
honour of fallen soldiers.<br />
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Robert Laurence Binyon’s poem,<br />
For the Fallen, was read: “They<br />
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