GLAMSQUAD MAGAZINE JULY 2017

Glamsquad 

Magazine 

Is 

Olamide’s 

Career 

Dying Or 

Fading 

Away? 

4 Modes 

That Could 

Kill Any 

MARRIAGE 

Summer 

Chic’s 

Wardrobe 

Essentials 

The Charisma 

Twins: 

Rebranding The Face Of Beauty 

5 Ways To 

Hide Your 

TUMMY

JULY 2017 

CONTENTS 

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From The 

Editor’s Desk 

A wise a man once said, “Life 

is not about how you survive 

the storm; it’s about how you 

dance in the rain”. We all 

go through life so seriously, 

forgetting that there’s always 

a tomorrow to live for and but 

little time to enjoy, so live in the 

moment every day. 

We dedicate this month’s 

edition to fun, life, family and 

passion. Embodying these 

qualities are two outstanding 

personalities who have made 

their mark in the cosmetic and 

beauty industry. ; gracing our 

July edition cover are Muka 

Nwokedi and her twin sister, 

Princess Nina Agwuna- also 

known as The Charisma Twins. 

Pages 3-11. Our Glamstyle 

page debunks the “Black don’t 

crack” saying, in an analytical 

breakdown on pages 12-13. Our 

fashion pages pay homage to 

summer as we share the tricks 

to looking good for summer: 

Pages,14-15. 

This month, PerspectEVe 

divulges the innate issues in a 

relationship which most people 

neglect, which is the issue of 

abuse: Page 20. To see all this 

and more, keep on going. But 

ensure you remember to share 

Glamsquad with your family 

and friends. 

Happy reading! 

FASHION 

14 

15 

ENTERTAINMENT 

16 

RELATIONSHIP 

20 

23 

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5 Ways To Hide Your 

TUMMY 

The 2017 Summer 

Chic’s Wardrobe 

Essentials 

Couple Goals 

in Nigeria’s 

Entertainment 

Industry 

PerspectEVE 

4 Mode That Could 

Kill Any MARRIAGE 

Pamela Echemunor 

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By Pamela Echemunor 

The Charisma 

Twins: 

Rebranding The Face Of Beauty 

Two of a kind and one 

of a mind, Princess 

Nina Agwuna and 

Muka Nwokedi are 

revolutionalizing the 

face of beauty and the 

business of beauty in 

Nigeria, thereby paving 

the way for aspiring 

women entrepreneurs 

everywhere. Nina and 

Muka, the Charisma 

twins as they are known 

took over their mother’s 

business after her passing 

and transformed it into 

an enviable beauty 

brand. Having won 

various awards locally 

and internationally, they 

are opening doors to 

young entrepreneurs with 

the aim of improving 

the standard of beauty 

home and abroad. In 

this interview, they talk 

about beauty, family 

and rebranding their 

business. 

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Princess 

Nina Agwuna 

Princess Nina Agwuna is 

a wife, philanthropist, 

entrepreneur and proud 

mother of three; she also is a 

graduate of Strayer University, 

Richmond Virginia USA; 

with a degree in Business 

Administration and Marketing. 

This versatile mother is 

relentless in her pursuit 

of success and passion for 

family, and she manages to 

juggle both seamlessly. In this 

interview, she describes her 

journey through motherhood 

and what she hopes to 

accomplish next. 

What was growing up like for you 

as a twin? 

I had a wonderful childhood, 

loving parents who were supportive 

although very strict at the same 

time; we used to be scared of our 

father as a male figure and an 

ex-military man even though our 

mother did most of the whooping. 

As children who were you drawn 

to most between your parents and 

why? 

Hmm, that is deep, as a mum 

I know I’m not meant to have 

favourites because it’s unfair, but 

I think we were closer to our dad 

because he was more receptive, but 

we had a very good relationship 

with our mum who was quite a 

tigress positively. We could always 

tell our dad personal things we 

couldn’t tell her. 

Who would you say is the more 

outspoken one? 

People say I am tough but, my 

sister is a little more withdrawn 

until she gets used to the person 

I would be the one acting as I met 

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you years ago. 

Did you play pranks on people 

especially in situations where one 

liked a guy but couldn’t approach 

him? 

Funny enough we never really 

played pranks, and people always 

wondered why we didn’t see how 

identical we are. The truth is that 

while growing up attraction to 

people (men especially) we differ, 

we sound alike on the phone and 

yes I have taking calls on her behalf 

Did you know you would 

eventually take over your 

mother’s business or did you 

always want to be in the skincare/ 

beauty industry? 

We have always been beauty 

inclined even though initially 

I wanted to study industrial 

design which deals basically with 

prototypes, but my parents weren’t 

certain as to what it entailed at 

the time. The fact is I never really 

thought either of us was going to 

take over her business. We were 

allowed to soar in our areas and to 

be exposed to other things, but at 

the end of the day after her passing, 

everything fell back on us, and the 

demand for the products inspired 

us to continue. 

Tell us about the wwwwCharisma 

cosmetics is an indigenous skin 

care line specially formulated for 

women of colour; we offer a wide 

range of quality skin care solutions 

which includes spa, health and 

wellness. With 14 products in the 

market made for different skin 

types and tones. Our products are 

rich in vitamins, proteins minerals 

and natural oils However men 

commonly use products such as our 

Double Moisture Lotion and Shea 

butter body oil and cream. 

How do you manage running this 

big brand and with family life? 

Well, it has been quite a task 

I have three children happily 

married, my first daughter is 20 

years old she is in the University 

studying International Politics 

and Law in Beijing China, my first 

son is a freshman in Louisburg 

University in the US, and I have a 

nine-year-old as well. It hasn’t been 

easy balancing business especially 

with the new brand coming up.I 

had no choice but to be aggressive, 

multitasking and focused on my 

work while making sure quality 

time is spent with my children to 

ensure they grow up with right 

values, also squeezing time for 

my private moments to cool off, 

basically trying to find a balance in 

the best way possible. 

Are your products affordable? 

With my experience affordability 

is relative. It all depends on what 

works, and opportunity cost comes 

into play. I’ve seen young girls walk 

into our shop and buy everything 

on the shelf and I’ve seen some real 

mature women come in asking for 

discounts, so basically because we 

deliver what our product claims 

people have to cut their budget 

sometimes to be able to buy them 

just like other international brands 

in the market. I think they are pretty 

affordable 

What does it take to get into the 

Charisma Academy? 

The Charisma Beauty Academy 

is an all esthetics school which 

cuts across all types of programs 

from entrepreneur leadership 

programs, makeup artistry to facial, 

skincare therapy, cosmetics and 

soap making, etc. tagged ‘Be your 

boss’.The program starts in the 

classroom to practical and then field 

work which runs for 3 to 6 months 

depending on how the student want 

their program fast-tracked before 

graduation. Our students are mostly 

O level and graduates who have 

not been able to secure jobs. All it 

takes is to be able to read and write 

to enrol; the tuition is spread to 

make it more affordable. However 

we have a charity arm that assists 

a student who can’t afford the 

program, we work it out, put them 

through and equip them.We are also 

poaching banks and private sectors 

to partner with to us enable us to 

help people especially women who 

are interested in the business of 

beauty and industry. 

What would you say you have 

done to improve or add more 

value to business since you took 

over? 

I have been taking short courses, 

trade fairs and travelling has 

enabled us to improve the quality 

and value of our products, working 

with Biochemists in the US and still 

in touch with our mum’s chemist 

in Germany to find out what works. 

In formulation and delivery system 

ingredients are key, and they can 

be very expensive. Our mum will 

always say “improve the quality 

and tweak the price’. Charisma 

cosmetics is registered with the 

Food and Drugs Administration in 

the United States so our products 

can be sold anywhere in the world, 

we have four major shops in Ikeja, 

Lekki, Dolphin, Surulere and 18 

major distributors nationwide. 

So you cater to only the black 

skinned woman? 

No .Charisma has a full range 

of products that goes beyond dark 

skinned which includes, Hispanic, 

Asian Caucasians, etc. Biologically 

the skin is the same, but dark 

skins have higher melanin levels 

than fairer skin people, and that is 

the product of skin colour called 

pigmentation. In other words, both 

can benefit from our range of skin 

builders, moisturisers, lotions, body 

wash, vitamin E oil and Shea butter 

which have a natural sunscreen 

base and is what they shop for. 

As a beauty expert, what is your 

take on the new trend of bleaching 

among young women? 

Who do we blame? Our men 

for giving our women that raves of 

wanting to be fairer, or our women 

for wishing it. The impression is 

that men seem to be more attracted 

to lighter skinned women, so a lot 

of women are doing drastic things 

to make they look fairer. My take 

on it is that at Charisma we don’t 

believe in bleaching. Our belief is 

in enhancing and giving the skin a 

flawless glow, ridding the skin of 

acne, roughness, removing dead 

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it brighter hue; this might include 

treatment at the spa for those who 

have already damaged their skin or 

products only 

What is the biggest risk women 

who bleach are bound to face 

There are many bleaching 

products in the market today with 

very harsh components and with 

the rave of getting whiter. In this 

process, a lot of women have lost 

their natural skin layers which 

have adverse effects such as skin 

thinning out, redness, blue veins, 

greenness around the necks, dark 

knuckles and feet. Then exposure to 

the sun which is a catalyst for burns 

which causes premature ageing 

and sometimes times this damages 

might be permanent. 

As a woman in business, how do 

you handle the pressure in this 

very tough economic climate? 

Just going with the flow, I 

won’t say it has been easy, with 

the epileptic nature of the foreign 

exchange and fact that 70% of 

our products manufactured in the 

U.S. But that hasn’t kept me from 

reinventing myself, looking for new 

projects and moving forward, etc. I 

wake up in the morning, and I’m at 

it, the best I can be.The economy is 

bad, but we won’t let it deter us. 

Asides from the products you 

produce, do you ever use products 

that aren’t made by your brand? 

Not at all, my brand cuts across 

everything I need. 

Is your beauty line into makeup 

production? 

Yes we have a makeup line on 

the way, but that will happen after 

the launch of the skin care line, they 

are exotic new fresh colours expect 

it after the Charisma Launch in 

August 2017 

Among your beauty products, 

what are your go-to items? 

I’m in love with the derma repair 

and the Vitamin E and mineral oil 

they are proactive skin builder, it 

nourishes rehydrates and helps 

reduce fine lines, the intense 

luminous glow plus range and the 

complex serum are the enhancers a 

night time cream that gives the skin 

a flawless skin tone 

What is your wake up beauty 

regimen? 

I drink 1 litre of water to 

start my day; I don’t think beauty 

when I wake I use Pore purifying 

moisturising face wash my face 

after taking a bath I moisturise 

with charisma double moisture a 

replenishing water based lotion 

then I look into home matters and 

head to the office.In the evenings 

when I get back from work I hit the 

bridge for a jog I do about 2 hours 

of different exercise regime which I 

do five times a week. At bedtime, I 

read a book, watch a movie to relax 

then use my Charisma night time 

beauty products and thank God for 

the day 

What would you say makes 

Charisma Cosmetics stand out 

Charisma skincare works, and it 

works, it stands out because people 

are getting their money’s worth, 

Charisma makes you go wow! 

People will always ask what you 

are using because you get results 

after a couple of days. The product 

works, and it delivers what it says 

and because we have a wide range, 

moisturisers and acne treatments 

men are tapping into the markets 

How would you describe your 

style? 

My style depends on my mood, 

but mostly I would describe it as 

elegant but comfortable, I’m not 

crazy on brands, presentation and 

how I step out in what I wear is key. 

Do you and your sister share the 

same ideology fashion wise? 

I won’t lie. My sister determines 

what we wear most of the time. I 

hate shopping; I hate trying clothes, 

etc. I take care of our hair, shoes and 

makeup it might be unbelievable 

I’m not intrigued am very simple at 

work even without makeup. 

Do you like dressing alike when 

attending events? 

Right from time dressing alike 

hasn’t been a thing that we liked, 

but our mother enjoyed doing that 

when we got older, we let her know 

she has to allow us to make our 

choices .we have the same taste 

but we do similar but different in 

colours and style. 

Would you say you are a trend 

follower and how has your style 

evolved over the years? 

As long as I can remember 

people have always followed 

what we do and that’s why 

society demands that one should 

be responsible and be a good 

influence on people looking up to 

you, especially in fashion and style 

overly exposure of body parts is 

not fashion. In essence, I would 

say when it comes to trends I 

don’t think my style has changed 

much, it has probably gotten more 

mature, but I’m still Nina, when you 

see a dress hanging in a store or 

wardrobe, you can say that’s Nina’s 

style. 

Do you intend to pass down the 

company to any of your kids 

someday and which of them? 

Well , I would say that when I 

started out college in the United 

States, nobody called me to say 

“Don’t forget you are coming to take 

over here”. The responsibility just 

fell into our laps when our mother 

passed on, we started to study the 

business, did extra courses and 

research to understand what the 

beauty industry was all about, 

and we have grown through the 

years. As for my children, I’m giving 

them the liberty to get their basic 

education even though they are all 

artistically inclined, my daughter 

and my youngest son showed some 

interest, my first son is more of a 

sports and businessman. I want to 

allow them to be who they want to 

be and see how it turns out when 

they graduate from university. 

What is the most insane skin 

regime some of your clients have 

told you about that they used 

during the consultation? 

I’ve heard people say they’ve 

used all kinds of mixtures, shampoo 

with bleach, salt with all sorts of 

things, etc. and some don’t have an 

idea of the contents of the products 

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they have used. Treatment will 

to put them off all products and 

then prescribe the use of vitamin 

E carrot and mineral oil for 7 

to 10 days, then come back for 

more treatments and then will 

recommend a proper skin care 

regimen that will help them achieve 

their beauty needs. 

What us the worse Skin problem 

you have come across? 

Running a Skincare clinic has 

been quite frustrating especially 

when faced with some irreversible 

conditions like I explained earlier, 

we have come across clients with 

deep spiral stretch marks and 

laceration of the dermal layer and 

some time scores. It’s shameful to 

see that some of these ladies who 

come to us with skin issues are 

single and you wonder how a man 

can appreciate them. My take on 

this is that using harsh chemicals to 

lighten or bleaching your skin can 

only give you a short-term result 

and a long term of regrets.Always 

make sure you have an idea of what 

you are using and who has used it 

before “If it hurts, stings or burns 

stop using it” when a product is 

giving you a burning sensation or 

stinging doesn’t mean it’s working 

it means it might be burning your 

skin. 

Do you have anyone you look up to 

style-wise? 

My mother Chief Mrs Patience 

Okpe, Jackie Onassis and Michelle 

Obama. 

What are your best selling 

products? 

That would be the skin 

enhances the luminous glow range, 

Derma repair, the pore purifying 

moisturising face wash perfect for 

greasy and humid temperature 

especially for those who use a lot of 

makeup, then the skin moisturiser 

and finally our shear butter. 

Among your products which 

would you prescribe mostly to 

older women? 

The Derma Repair, Double 

moisture and the mineral oil are 

recommended as a daily routine for 

mature women from the age of 35 

and up, among others. 

What plans do you have for the relaunch 

of the brand? 

The essence of the relaunch 

is to make Charisma Cosmetics a 

global brand; we intend to break a 

massive champagne and to achieve 

this we are going to use every media 

possible, i.e., print, electronic and 

social media and so on. 

What parts of the world are your 

target locations? 

Internationally United Kingdom/ 

Europe, USA, and other high-end 

stores around the world, most parts 

of Africa including Nigeria, Ghana 

and South Africa. 

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ukaosolu Nwokedi is a 

wife, proud mother of 

three, motivational speaker 

and entrepreneur. Like her 

sister, she attended the Strayer 

University, Richmond Virginia 

USA. She also holds a degree 

in Business Administration. 

With a keen eye for beauty 

and wellness, Muka strives 

alongside her sister to build 

their mother’s dream for the 

Charisma brand, above all to 

make it a noteworthy business 

on a global scale. 

What was growing up like for you 

as a twin? 

We had a very wonderful 

upbringing in the sense that we 

grew up in an environment where 

both parents were very loving to 

themselves and worked together. 

In Fact, if there was a marriage 

made in Heaven it was that of my 

dad and mum. Unfortunately, she 

didn’t leave very long she died at 

the age 44 at the time we were in 

college in the United States, we 

were opportune to travel all over 

the world because our father was 

the chief pilot Nigeria airways so as 

kids we had been to every route my 

dad flew. 

What would you say physically 

differentiates you from your 

sister? 

I think people typically decide 

what they feel is different. We 

both have the similarities, and 

differences like other siblings do 

have, I think her eyes a wider, she 

has a bigger upper body I mean 

her boobs and I are ampler shaped 

laughs, but all the same, I just 

feel we are built a bit structurally 

different. 

Did you know you would 

eventually take over your 

mother’s business or did 

you always want to be in the 

skincare/ beauty industry? 

I never really had a chance to 

explore my dreams I would say, 

I remember when I was growing 

up my mother was always cooking 

something up in the kitchen, or in 

her little factory, trying all sorts 

of creams and travelling a lot. I 

remember when we were in the 

University my mother wanted me 

to study pharmacy, and I didn’t 

understand it then but eventually, 

I studied Business Administration 

and after graduating, she was not 

there and unfortunately died very 

young, so there wasn’t a choice to 

make then. I initially wanted to go 

into clothing design which I am still 

part of my plan but this came first, 

and it’s on our plate right now. 

As children who were you drawn 

to most between your parents 

and why? 

Oh, my mother was very strict. 

At some point, I thought I hated her 

(Laughs) she was so strict so much 

so that I remember her cutting our 

hair once for going out without 

her permission as teenagers. We 

cried for weeks on end, and this 

was a contemporary woman who 

went to school in England and 

Switzerland, and my father was 

upset by it, but my mother coming 

from the old school background 

despite her intelligence felt that 

this was the way to raise children. 

She was showing us that she would 

go to any lengths to teach us not 

to be disobedient or to misbehave. 

So instead we were drawn more 

to our father having the fatherdaughter 

phenomenon, always 

crying on his shoulders and he 

would always fight for us. 

Tell us about your role as Co-CEO 

of Charisma Cosmetics. 

I work on overseeing all 

activities regarding management, 

one on one consultations with 

clients. Ensuring internal matters 

such as Customer services 

relations. Making sure that we 

are on target with delivery and 

sales in the four Charisma Spas 

in Ikeja, Surulere, Dolphin, and 

Lekki and outlets in Lagos and 

outside logos. Our business 

progress is dependent on customer 

interaction, so we are constantly on 

the phone communicating, talking 

answering Questions, sending 

messages with our team. 

How do you think you have 

impacted the company since you 

took over from your mother? 

The cosmetics industry 

is evolving, there is always 

something new in the works just 

like the fashion industry, from the 

ingredients to the cosmetology and 

aesthetics. We are more advanced 

now than in our mother’s time, 

we have been trained in a more 

modern sphere and have learnt 

more advanced techniques and 

technologies. There are so many 

new ingredients, formulation 

and techniques coming out every 

day that we have imbibed in our 

cosmetics. So we have been able 

to make differences and set new 

standards. 

What’s your take on the new 

trend of bleaching? 

I think it’s gone overboard 

and has become abused. It’s like 

abusing painkillers, sleeping aids 

or any pharmaceutical product. 

The meaning of toning or bleaching 

needs to be understood here; they 

need to understand that they are 

baring their skin and it is very 

damaging. It can age you, cause 

cancer, and there’s always a very 

harsh look that women who bleach 

tend to have, the process of taking 

away acne and skin pigmentation 

lightens one and could take you 

away from your natural skin hue. 

What is bound to happen to those 

who bleached in their youth when 

they get older? 

When you bleach, most times it 

burns the skin even to the second 

degree. The over exposure to UV 

Rays can cause cancer, and several 

kinds of skin decrease that are why 

you see people with patches and 

high pigmentation, sagging, etc. 

and worst is accelerated ageing. 

I highly recommend Charisma 

Dermal Repair high in vitamin and 

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the skin to its normal texture and 

balance. 

How are you managing the 

business with the current socioeconomic 

climate in Nigeria? 

As a manufacturer, the major 

issues we have is energy we are 

burning energy back to back. 

So going through the rigours 

and hardship of production 

and marketing hasn’t been so 

different especially trying to 

maintain a competitive price in 

the marketplace. Some of our 

ingredients are imported and 

now the dollar is so high it doesn’t 

help, all these factors affect our 

production and pricing as well. 

It’s affecting a lot of industries; 

banks aren’t willing to do so much 

either because they don’t believe in 

the system and economy. If there 

were more opportunities, then 

everybody is willing to pitch in to 

bring more industrialisation which 

is something of great importance if 

this economy will change. 

Among your beauty products, 

what are your go-to items? 

My go-to items include the 

Derma Repair, which we infuse 

with a high intensity of vitamin 

e, and Antioxidants called the 

tocopherol, it heals, rejuvenates 

and replenishes the skin. It soothes 

sunburns, takes away sunburns 

and stretch marks and gives skin 

clarity; I swear by it and use it 

every night before bed and also the 

Double Moisture a moisturising 

therapy that gives your skin so 

soothing and hydrated feeling 

that’s also my go-to Charisma 

beauty item. 

What kind of services do you offer 

at the Charisma beauty spa? 

Charisma cosmetics is a total 

head to toe well-being that offers 

a place of luxury, skincare, and 

Spa with the advantage of one one 

one consultation a place of total 

indulgence and serenity. Intensive 

and corrective facial treatments, 

skin polish, complexion treatment 

physiotherapy, different types 

of massage, waxing, make-up 

Artistry etc.services also include 

a steam room and more. We also 

run a school called Charisma 

Cosmetics Academy of Aesthetics 

and Cosmetology which offers 

certificate courses. 

How would you describe your 

style? 

Style for me is what makes me 

comfortable and suits me; I’m a 

Grace Kelly or Catherine Kullman 

kind of person. I like vintage 

clothing; I’m not a designer freak, 

but anything I touch abroad in 

the malls is always like expensive 

(laughs), I would describe my 

sense of style as basically diva 

calm, not too loud, subtle colours 

yet elegant at the same time and 

well put together. 

Would you say your mother had 

an influence on your taste style 

wise? 

My mother was one of the most 

stylish women that walked the face 

of the earth, in fact, most of our 

lifestyle patterns were emulated 

from her, she was always so put 

together; wearing things that 

accentuated her figure and she was 

far ahead of her time. 

Do you like dressing alike when 

attending events? 

When the demand calls for it, 

we do, for instance doing a shoot 

together or when our friends 

want us to dress the same to their 

parties, but typically we don’t dress 

alike on a normal day. 

How would you describe 

yourselves dramatic or romantic 

twin? 

(Laughs) To me what makes 

you dramatic is a circumstance, 

we have this dynamic and artist 

nature, we’re mavericks in the 

sense that we don’t look at style 

or trends, we own our craft. As 

a person I’m very emotional, my 

husband and children know that 

they know I pay great attention to 

people’s needs and feelings, I know 

I have to learn that you can’t die for 

a person or the world. 

Which of your children would 

you say takes after you or do you 

think is likely to take over your 

business? 

I have two girls and one boy, 

and I think I’m leaving it open 

because they’re still young and 

want to aspire to their interests. 

But by their character one can tell; 

my last born is nine years old, and 

she is very interested in what I’m 

doing, the other one is 19, and in 

the University in the United States, 

she has a lot of interest in makeup 

and working on the makeup brand. 

She tells me what is in and what I 

can do to improve it, the boy wants 

to be an engineer so anything 

can work. So while they and 

undergoing formal education, they 

keep on evolving. Heiresses and 

heirs were not created overnight, 

people have done the work for 

them and handed it over its just for 

them to follow it up. 

Would you say you are a trend 

follower and how has your style 

evolved over the years? 

This is 2017 so you have to 

move with the trend, the hip period 

where everybody is on Instagram, 

Facebook and all sorts of social 

media, this also applies to fashion 

and personal life, we change every 

day and follow the sounds of times. 

As a mother, what are the things 

you wouldn’t do in the name of 

fashion? 

I would NOT wear too short 

clothes, or compromise having an 

open cleavage, that is distasteful. 

What are the most endearing 

things you have done in the name 

of fashion and beauty? 

(Laughs) Going blonde on 

Vanguard Allure on your stylist’s 

demand is endearing laughs!!! I 

guess if it’s tastefully done one can 

pull it off (laughs). Wearing exotic 

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colours, makeup hair style is all 

about having the pizzazz to pull it 

off. My dress sense is elegant, and I 

haven’t broken bars in that one. 

What is the most insane beauty 

issue you have come across? 

I would say the bleaching 

thing; people need to learn about 

corrective techniques for skin 

issues and improvement. Detoxing 

and moisturising and staying away 

from skin damaging chemicals can 

have a good effect on your colour if 

you do a good detox. 

Aside from bleaching what is 

the most common skin issue you 

come across? 

Mostly major acne issues, 

skin diseases that require 

pharmaceutical techniques and we 

end up recommending treatment 

or referral. We also have issues 

with severe chemical damage and 

sunburns etc. some of which we 

have been able to treat. 

What plans do you have for the 

relaunch of the brand? 

Ok, you should expect an 

expansion and upscale in our 

new line coming from the United 

States.Our competitive strength 

is on the content and we have 

infused vitamins and minerals in 

our products which include A, C, 

D and E. Because of our unique 

ingredients and formulations our 

skin care products will provide a 

before and after satisfaction, skin 

clarity and radiance. People need 

to understand that the skin is an 

organ and it requires minerals 

and multivitamins for radiance. 

Our products have a blue chip 

ingredients that are fortified 

especially to improve the skin both 

the enhancers and the natural 

products, and we will be competing 

for the international brand as a 

product from Nigeria. 


BEAUTY & WELLNESS 

Maintaining the youthful essence of 

our looks is a subject that preoccupies 

most women and surprisingly these 

days men also. The beauty industry 

meanwhile pumps out expensive 

products supposedly designed and 

manufactured to delay the visible 

signs of ageing. 

With growing older, gravity takes its 

course and toll on our skin; the skin 

begins to lose its elasticity as a result 

of damage to the collagen and elastic 

fibres. Wrinkles will occur naturally 

during the process of ageing, and 

it is almost impossible to fight off 

wrinkles completely. However, 

lifestyle choices and way one cares for 

one’s skin can assist in delaying the 

signs of ageing. 

We mostly hear the slogan “black 

don’t crack”, a term used to refer 

to the belief that black skin ages 

finely and does not have to deal with 

showing signs of ageing early. Fact or 

fiction? 

This is the assertion that black 

people are less likely to get wrinkles 

as they age (because of their skin 

pigmentation providing protection 

from harmful radiation, amongst 

other factors) 

What are the visible signs of ageing? 

Can it be delayed? I intend to 

explore the facts behind this general 

assertion. It is a fact that all skin types 

will age prematurely if due care is not 

taken to nurture and restore natural 

skin balance. Lifestyle choices such 

GlamSTYLE 

with 

ADEBAYO JONES 

ANTI-AGEING & THE BROWN GIRL 

MYTH “BLACK DON’T CRACK.” 

HALLE BERRY 

STACEY DASH 

as smoking and excessive alcohol 

consumption etc. can also cause the 

skin to lose its elasticity faster.Loose 

skin is when many now begin to reach 

out to Botox or Restalyne to re-plump 

a sagging visage. 

Getting the desired results is however 

not mainly dependent on buying 

expensive products alone, but 

there are specialist clinics that are 

renowned for providing treatments 

that regress the visible signs of 

ageing. 

Harley Street in central London, 

for example, is filled with various 

professionals who offer beauty 

treatments to the aesthetics of 

surgical enhancements. This 

enhancement is done through 

different methods and advanced 

processes all in the bid to help the 

discerning client achieve what one 

could call youthful immortality. 

These days’ men also are becoming 

more aware of their looks and ageing 

concerns. Hundreds of products 

are launched into the market with 

the aim of capturing a huge chunk 

of the market. Men are becoming 

increasingly aware of preserving their 

looks or at best controlling the visible 

signs of ageing almost as much the 

women. 

Men’s grooming is now a multibillion 

dollar industry with the key 

players in the female beauty business 

cashing in with products designed for 

humanity male grooming. Companies 

like L’Oreal, Clarins, Clinic, Dove, all 

launch men’s grooming products 

regularly from shave creams, 

energising face wash, facial fuel, 

fatigue fighter, Vitalift to aid sagging 

skin, etc. encouraging people to care 

more about their skin and spend that 

extra minute in front of the mirror. 

Ideally, men’s skin should not be 

so different from the women’s as 

it’s still all skin, but I suppose the 

physiological makeup of people 

makes the demands and necessities 

of skin care to vary for each sex. 

Considering also that people will 

prefer their products packaged in 

a masculine way necessitates the 

visual packaging of men’s products 


BEAUTY & WELLNESS 

differently. 

In the past Botox injections used to 

be billed collectively as the no knife 

facelift. This procedure, however, 

was not without its concern. Most 

became concerned about what was 

later regularly called the frozen 

face syndrome. Celebrities and 

regular folks alike in some ways 

have used Botox treatments in the 

past to remove the appearance 

of wrinkles and dark lines in the 

forehead and around the eyes. The 

makers of Botox say that 11 million 

people have gone under the needle 

to experience wrinkle free skin. 

The process consists of injecting 

prescription medicine, made from a 

particular type of bacteria into the 

facial muscles to block the nerve 

impulses to those muscles. The 

results, however, are temporary but 

can take years off a face, and most 

of the people who use it do so as 

an alternative to having cosmetic 

intrusive plastic surgery. 

In place of needles now are lasers, 

skin peels, and radio frequency 

energy treatments. There are 

treatments now which stimulate 

the production collagen and elastin, 

the protein that makes the skin 

firm, plump and youthful. Do these 

alternative methods achieve the 

same results? Considering that the 

addictive use of Botox treatments is 

controversial with an array of high 

opinion to be found on the subject? 

If people are scared of ending with 

the frozen face syndrome, what are 

the alternative treatments available? 

I decided to investigate further and 

also even meditated and considered 

experiencing the Botox treatment 

myself to verify if the claims of 

smoothing out lines on the forehead 

as well as laughter lines on the cheeks 

are plausible. I also wanted to explore 

other alternative treatments available 

that can reduce the visible signs of 

ageing. My personal concern has not 

been with wrinkles and but with 

laughter lines, after all, one is not 

exempt from the quest of trying one’s 

best to look younger and radiant. 

BLAIR UNDERWOOD 

LENA HORNE 

A paper journal published in 2008 

European Academy of Dermatology 

reports that when wrinkles and 

lines were removed from an image, 

it is perceived as ten years younger. 

Remove pigmentation it is seen as 

16 years younger. 

People of all skin types I believe 

who are preoccupied mostly with 

containing visibility of ageing signs 

and are also after procedures that will 

offer ways of providing the process. 

How factual is the claim that black 

doesn’t crack? Is it a myth, fact or 

mixture of both? In the past, our 

grandparents when they were even as 

far as reaching the age of ninety were 

able to remain almost still wrinkle 

free without the aid of an armoury of 

all the beauty products that are now 

readily available now on the market. 

It is one of the oldest slogans in the 

books, and many sisters have in a way 

succumbed to the assertion that our 

skin is virtually age proof. 

Considering all the natural oils 

available to us and far greater levels 

of sun protective 

Melanin in our skin, our black skin 

may have the more significant edge of 

fighting off sun exposure. 

Brands which target women of colour 

with products which are supposed to 

offer multiple options for optimising 

skin and preserving its natural 

resilience are changing perceptions 

on how even as darker skinned 

people we ensure that the natural 

skin defence isn’t depleted. 

Whether black skin cracks or not, 

factual or myth, with technological 

advancement and innovation in 

the beauty industries, we are now 

forged with enough knowledge 

and products armoury, which were 

not available to our mothers and 

grandmothers. To begin the journey 

of total preservation so that healthy 

skin would not end up being a myth 

for one. 

Numerous black celebrities have aged 

gracefully over the years including 

singer-actress Lena Horne who died 

at the age of 92, 52 years of male 

actor Blair Underwood, 51-year-old 

actress Halle Berry and 50-year-old 

actress Stacy Dash still convincingly 

plays 20-30 something characters. 

Many black families have their 

personal stories of ageless beauty 

to tell, this leads one to ask the vital 

question, is this statement fact or 

fiction that black doesn’t crack? 


FASHION 

The 2017 Summer Chic’s 

Wardrobe Essentials 


The Mary-Jane 

The 1994 Mary-Jane shoes with 

the red sole is an all time favourite; 

nothing beats this comfy patent 

leather footwear, its easy to clean and 

can fit into any occasion, well almost 

any! 

The Tote bag 

The tote bag never disappoints, 

this big fashion piece is good for 

a sleepover, all you need are the 

essentials, and you’re good to go. 

A pair of white 

stilettos 

Set aside the nude pumps and 

go for a nice pair of leather red 

bottom stilettos. 

Tea Dress 

Sit pretty in the tea dress; it’s a 

fabulous look for the beach, a day on 

the golf course or a daytime soiree. 

The wide leg 

trouser 

The wide leg trouser is a seasonal 

favourite, this summer it’s trending 

in a more flowery and flowy look, 

using chiffon and satin. 

The Utility Skirt 

Sporty, free and very comfy, this 

1950’s inspired skirt works for all 

occasions, pair a khaki coloured utility 

skirt with white sneakers and a crop 

top for a day out in the sun. 


FASHION 

5 

WAY TO HIDE YOUR 

TUMMY 


T 

ummy bulge can 

always be an incredible 

inconvenience; it makes 

clothes look unflattering, makes 

one feel less attractive and not 

very confident. There are many 

ways to beat this physical flaw 

starting with a healthier lifestyle 

and good dieting, but while that is 

on your to-do list here are a few 

tricks on how to carry yourself 

fashionably and pridefully while 

sporting that extra bulge. 

Wear more vertical lines 

Opt for more vertical stripes, this 

pattern elongates the body shape 

and creates a taller midriff. 

Avoid clingy clothes (More 

drapes/ overlap) 

There’s nothing more annoying for 

someone who likes fitted clothing 

likes seeing an extra tire or bulge, 

the best thing to do is steer clear of 

these for a while and opt more for a 

slightly looser wardrobe collection 

of overlap and draped clothes, 

these do an excellent job of hiding 

the bulge and giving one a nice 

fitting. 

Opt for shape wear 

Most people don’t believe in the 

power of shapeware but its pure 

undiluted magic, not only does it 

tuck in the excess side sags, it also 

helps with the weight loss process, 

it’s time to invest in one. 

Go chic with skinnies and 

Classic big tops 

Skinny high waist tights or high 

waist denim pants hug all figures 

but when paired with a nice loose 

flowy classic big top voila! Instant 

magic! 

Wear dress accessories 

sparingly 

Belts and long necklaces sometimes 

accentuate a bulgy tummy, but if 

one must wear dress accessories 

ensure they do more accentuating 

than damaging. 


ENTERTAINMENT 

Couple Goals in 

Nigeria’s Entertainment 

Industry 


Finding love can be one of the most difficult things to do in a person’s life. And 

a ratio of 1:10 people find love and fall out of it more than a dozen times in 

their life time. Now finding love when one is in the spotlight is even trickier, 

because it’s difficult to decipher if it’s true love or infatuation. Many celebrities 

go through tremulous relationships and breakup eventually either because 

of their fame or other forms of pressure. Finding the right one is the first step, 

keeping the relationship going strong is the next and most important. The 

celebrities featured in this article have proven that no matter what turmoil 

you may encounter on your journey to finding true love, it all depends on 

what it is you are really looking for and willing to give to make it last. Here is 

to these phenomenal couples giving us serious couple goals. 

Damilola Adegbite 

& Chris Attoh 

Chris Attoh is a Ghanaian 

born actor, producer 

and OAP, he made his 

Nollywood debut in 

“Tinsel”, where he met his 

wife Damilola Adegbite 

who was his love interest 

in the movie. The two 

took it to another level 

and got married in a 

private ceremony in Accra 

Ghana and they have a son 

together Brian Adegbite. 

Damilola who is a Nigerian 

Actress and model, struck 

gold when she starred 

alongside her husband 

in “Tinsel” and has since 

feature in movies like 

“Flower Girl” and “Banana 

Island Ghost”. This sexy 

couple always leave a mark 

wherever they go together. 


ENTERTAINMENT 

Joke Silva & 

Olu Jacobs 

An iconic duo and the most 

seasoned actors ever to hit our 

TV screens, Olu Jacobs is a 

Nigerian born actor who took 

a chance on acting in the 70’s 

after seeing a theatre production 

by Hubert Ogunde, he also 

attended the Royal Academy 

of Dramatic Arts in London 

England and upon his return 

took it as a fulltime job. He 

has since made an indelible 

mark on the Nollywood film 

industry and is married to Joke 

Silva who is an actress and Co- 

Founder Lufodo Group, a film 

production company as well 

as a film academy. This couple 

has been married over three 

decades and is still standing 

strong despite their fame and 

success. This is one celebrity 

couple to look up to. 

Gbenro & Osas Ajibade 

Now these two came from completely different worlds, Gbenro 

started out as a struggling model and actor who got his big break 

on Mnet TV series “Tinsel”, while Osas is an American/Nigerian 

actress, humanitarian and TV host. They met and fell in love 

on the set of critically acclaimed “Tinsel ” and married shortly 

after, together they have a daughter Azariah Tiwatope Osarugue 

Ajibade. These two fabulous people made this list not just because 

of their achievements but because they make the red carpet bleed 

with envy. Glamsquad is watching… 


ENTERTAINMENT 

Banky Wellington & 

Adesua Etomi 

Banky W is a Nigerian / American Singer-songwriter 

and actor and also CEO of the Empire Mates 

Entertainment record label. He made his movie debut 

in the 2016 award winning movie “The Wedding 

Party”, where he is presumed to have fallen for 

Adesuwa Etomi who he is currently engaged to. 

Ironically the movie is about a couple who has to 

struggle with wedding day last minutes family issues 

and wedding planning, let’s hope they won’t have 

all that at their actual wedding. Adesuwa on the 

other hand is a Nigerian born actress of Igbo/Yoruba 

descent. She gained her way into the limelight after 

receiving the award for “Best actress in a Drama” 

at the 2016 Africa Magic Viewers’ Choice Awards. 

Banky finally shut the lips of people who had been 

tormenting him about following the footsteps of his 

friends in the industry who were married when he 

proposed to Adesuwa earlier this year. We wish this 

adorable couple the very best. 

Innocent & Annie 

Idibia 

Innocent Idibia aka Tu Face 

Idibia is no new name in the 

entertainment industry, and 

although this musical icon 

is popular for spreading his 

music as well as his seed, he 

remains loyal to his beloved 

Annie who has been with 

him since he first started his 

journey to fame. Annie who 

he featured on his “African 

Queen” music album, is an 

actress and mother to two of 

his children. Despite all the 

scandal and media banter, 

Annie stood and is still 

standing by her man. 


ENTERTAINMENT 

Is Olamide’s Career 

Dying Or Fading Away? 

Is the street king Baddosneh’s 

career coming to an end?! 

This is the question I have 

been asking myself lately following 

the recent drought that has hit 

Olamide’s career lately. I thought 

the day would never come when 

our dear Olamide BaddoSneh 

would be relegated from his 

position of revere in the industry 

to the lower ranks. But how he still 

manages to command that revere 

is what remains a-bewilder to 

some of us. 

I can beat my chest and make bold 

statements that if we were to draw 

up a list for top (hottest) male 

music sensations now, Olamide 

will fall short of even making 

the first-five count on that list. 

Although his formula for making, 

or delivering music now, hasn’t 

changed. The singles still come in 

like they were tidied up in a hushrush 

and he hasn’t missed out on 

any year since 2011, dropping 

albums. 

Could it be that we have finally 

woken up to the realization of the 

diminishing effect in his music 

since after Shakiti Bobo, which 

actually happened to be the last 

time he had a real hit on his 

hands? Do not get me wrong, Who 

You Epp, Owo Blow and Pepper 

Dem Gang all managed to cut 

across like music hits following 

certain strategic events that we 

experienced in the industry at 

their respective times. While 

Who You Epp rode on the wave of 

the competitive covers that later 

turned it into a viral sensation, 

Pepper Dem Gang thrived 

following the lack of good stuff to 

saturate the airwaves because of 

the dormant mood the beginning 

of the year took. 

Now that Runtown, Davido, 

P-Square, Tekno, Simi, 9ice 

and even Wizzy baby have 

returned back on the charts in 

their domination conquest, it 

has become quite apparent that 

Olamide is slacking. A statistical 

result from an online survey 

showed that much of the hits on 

his name, cannot even be tied to 

musical endeavors. Rather, they 

were mostly pulled from news 

stories. 

After The Glory album dropped, 

Olamide proceeded with the 

release of music video projects off 

the album. In his usual ‘done and 

dusted’ style, he moved on quickly 

after 3 videos to his first single of 

the 2017 year – Love No Go Die, 

which was received amidst plenty 

razzmatazz but soon died out with 

hardly any bang or buzz. The same 

eerie feel has crept into his life 

of features. Before now, Olamide 

would easily make the hottest 

contender for a category like the 

most featured artiste. But as it is 

almost mid-2017, Baddo can count 

the features he has done this year 

on all five fingers of one hand 

alone. 

With the latest wavy single out 

now, one must wonder if it is 

a song laden enough with the 

potential to tear up the charts. It 

also otherwise stems a pondering 

thought that further brews 

questions like… 

What exactly is happening – or 

has happened – with Olamide? 

Why isn’t he piping hot and 

popping like before? 

Could it be that his present ordeal 

is equally affecting the YBNL 

militia considering their music of 

late also suffers expressions from 

this dreary characteristic? 

Will Olamide ever make it back to 

his glory days of Bobo, Melo Melo, 

Awon Goons Mi, Durosoke, Voice 

of the Street, First of All and their 

unforgettable, widely celebrated 

likes? 


RELATIONSHIP 

NOT JUST THEIR PAIN, 

IT’S OUR PAIN 

Following the rise of reported domestic 

violence cases in Lagos, it is quite 

evident that this vice has found its 

way into the roots of the system and it is 

high time we took a firm and unchanging 

position about getting it out of our midst. 

Domestic violence usually occurs among 

people who have some sort of intimate 

relationships and most times, people 

who are the closest inflict the deepest 

kinds of pain. Beyond the physical pain 

inflicted by this evil is the fact that the 

victim cannot understand why people who 

are supposedly in the place of providing 

emotional and mental support are the ones 

who are actually predators. 

I would like to think domestic violence 

has been in existence for a very long time 

but it seems more prevalent now because 

of the pervasiveness of the new media and 

the viral nature of information on these 

media. Growing up, many years 

ago, our residence had five 

flats and my parents and 

other families in our 

compound at the time 

were probably the 

only families that did 

not raise any concern 

in this regard. Of the 

other three families in 

that compound, two of 

the men regularly beat 

their wives and the third 

family had a wife who often 

cursed her husband very loudly. 

These stories are probably not new 

to some of us, who have experienced these 

situations first hand. I walked into shop 

rite recently to get a few things and just as 

I was picking a basket to carry the things 

I would eventually buy, I saw a tall and 

handsome man who looked at the woman 

by his side and talked to her violently in 

hush tones. He said ‘’what you just did, 

do not ever try it here again else you 

know what I can do’’, the woman whom I 

assumed to be his girlfriend or wife looked 

on the ground in humiliation and fear, her 

expression helpless, the energy he exuded 

was pollute and insufferable. I gave him a 

cold hard stare and he understood that I 

saw what he meant to hide. Rounding off 

my shopping again, I saw the duo but this 

time, hand in hand. I passed by them he 

gave me that it –is- not- your- businessshe-is-mine-look, 

It was obvious. This was 

another case. 

The UN Women, an arm of the United 

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PerspectEVE 

Most 

times, abusers do 

not come as abusers else 

no one would be with them. 

But they project themselves 

to be very loving, caring, 

giving and nice. 

With Oludara Ogunbowale 

Nations Organisation from a research 

carried out recently have affirmed that 

there is truly a rise in domestic violence. 

I know that not only women are victims, 

even men are being abused and that is 

even harder to report because of the 

stereotypical positions of society that men 

have to be strong and indomitable so men 

that are being abused often do not have the 

courage or humility to own up and report 

such cases. When issues like these are 

being discussed, people laugh or treat it in 

such trivial manner that even the men who 

are victims would rather die than come 

out boldly to say they are being abused. 

Domestic violence is no respecter 

of persons, gender, class, 

nationality or religious 

affiliations. I listened 

to Leslie Morgan 

Steiner, an author 

and business woman 

who was invited to 

speak at TED, a nonprofit 

organisation 

that does a lot of 

knowledge sharing 

through powerful 

talks and she explained 

the tactics of predators 

or abusers in attracting or 

seducing their victims initially and the 

psychology behind why these victims later 

on find it hard to leave even in the face of 

death having being a victim herself. 

Most times, abusers do not come as 

abusers else no one would be with them. 

But they project themselves to be very 

loving, caring, giving and nice. Such that 

on the outside people are envious of the 

man or woman with whom they are in 

a relationship with not knowing that 

these people are going through mental 

and emotional stress and hell on earth. 

This goes to show that looks and acts of 

kindness could be deceptive. Knowing 

and studying people critically before 

committing to a relationship with them 

is very essential and could be lifesaving 

in the long run. Though women are more 

culpable when it comes to judging an 

‘ideal man’ by how they feel and how he 

treats them early on in the relationship, 

most abusers actually make their victims 

feel good in the beginning and that is 

why when they begin to show their true 

colours, the victim’s brain cannot put the 

two together. Abusers know they are 

abusers and they understand what they do. 

It is either they enjoy it or derive some sort 

of control from it while some of them use 

abuse as a means of revenge for long-held 

bitterness of some wrong done to them 

when they were young which must have 

left a hole in their own concept of self. 

Since this problem is no respecter of 

nationality, I assume that so many societies 

around the world are faced with this evil 

and I am very happy about the steps that 

the Lagos state government is taking to 

see to it that this evolving norm is stifled 

and not given any breathing space at all. 

But there is little that the government can 

do without the support of all citizens. The 

truth is that domestic violence affects all 

of us in one way or another and when we 

directly or indirectly keep quiet about 

it or act indifferently about it, we are 

inadvertently saying that it is okay and we 

all know that it is not okay. Your beloved 

daughter or son could be a potential 

domestic violence victim. Everyone is 

a dignified being irrespective of race or 

status and should be treated as such. We 

are our own brothers’ keepers so why then 

do we blame victims on social media when 

they come up to say their stories? These 

people are already down and there is no 

need hitting someone who is already down. 

The legal system in Nigeria is weak. This 

might be a statement that is audacious but 

true. Abusers who are released come out in 

the open without any remorse and go for 

the next victim with some show of victory 

and we believe that nature has to take its 

course. 

I stand with every victim of abuse 

reading this in one way or the other. You 

are valuable, you stand sure and what 

your partner or abuser does or does not 

do is separate from who you are. You do 

not deserve any of what you are going 

through and I am certain that you have 

it within you; the strength to say it is 

enough and also stand up for others going 

through same or similar situations. Report 

to relevant authorities and never allow 

your mind and your innermost core to be 

broken. Get help and know that whatever it 

is, this phase shall pass. 

Oludara 

Ogunbowale 

Oludara 

Ogunbowale is a 

young woman who 

is 

passionate about the 

the development of the society through 

bringing to the fore,issues that are of 

concern to the physical and mental 

well-being of every individual member 

of the society. She believes in having 

values that help drive the sanctity of 

life. She loves to read, write, talk and 

watch movies.....PerspectEve....the 

world as it should be...

RELATIONSHIP 

mimi adeyemi 

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I have always said that marriage is a 

team work. It can’t stand without the 

other pillar trust me. For any marriage 

to work or fail, it takes two people. We 

understand that these two people are 

completely from different backgrounds 

with different beliefs(not religion this 

time) so they must meet at a mid point 

to make the relationship work. 

Below are the 4 modes that could kill a 

marriage 

1. Flight Mode : This is when 

you flee the scene when you and your 

partner have a misunderstanding. Don’t 

ever avoid talking about issues in your 

marriage. Build the habit of talking about 

your relationship. Let out everything 

bothering you about the relationship. 

Don’t be afraid to discuss your issues. 

Don’t move away from your spouse. Don’t 

avoid the interaction between you and 

your spouse. If you do that, you are on a 

flight mode. 

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Modes That Could 

Kill Any MARRIAGE 

2. Fight Mode: This is when you get 

into an argument when you are trying 

to talk about an issue. Talking about an 

issue shouldn’t lead to a fight. When you 

talk about your relationship, you want to 

make it better. This mode comes up in an 

arguement and in a discussion. Fright 

mode is a result of fight mode and flight 

mode. When fight regularly, you tend to 

run away from discussions that will lead 

to a fight, then you are already in a fright 

mode. These two modes (fright and fight) 

are about fear. 

3. Right Mode: This is the mode 

where each party in a relationship believes 

he/she is right. It’s a refusal to be wrong. 

So when you think you are always right, 

you can never change. Until you are open 

to learning and changing your views 

about being right all the time, you are 

never going to change your ways. This 

is very dangerous for your relationship. 

The danger with the right mode is that 

you are unwilling to listen to the opinion 

of others. It shows your stubbornness. 

Relaxing your right mode is helping your 

process of effective communication with 

your spouse. 

4. Spite Mode: This is when you 

decide to show how much you are angry 

by throwing tantrums. It’s a mode of 

getting back at the other party. It’s about 

proving a point that hurts the other 

person. This mode is dangerous. It can 

keep you spinning around and around on 

a spot and not yielding a positive result. 

Having talked about the 4 modes that 

could kill a marriage, here are 2 modes 

that could keep your marriage for good. 

1. Sight Mode: This is about keeping 

a vision of where the relationship is 

headed. It keeps you out of where you 

are now and makes you fight for where 

you are headed. It keeps you out of your 

fears and takes you to a higher place. This 

mode makes you believe that something 

can change. This is a positive mode which 

can help build your marriage. 

2. Unite Mode: This mode brings the 

two of you together. It makes you a team. 

Marriage is not about two people with so 

much ego. It’s about two strong people 

willing to make things work regardless 

of the obstacles they encounter along the 

way. It’s about having each other’s back. It’s 

about being a team. You can overcome the 

killing modes by lowering your reactivity 

when issues come up. 

I pray that God will give you wisdom to 

manage your marriage appropriately IJN. 

Credit: Lee H.Baucom, Ph.D 

Mimi Adeyemi is a Sales & Marketing 

professional with over 10 years experience. 

She has good insight of shopper and 

consumer behaviour. She has been privileged 

to build and nurture new brands to 

achieving a sustainable growth. 

She is the CEO of Studio612, a full fledge 

Photograhy and videography studio located 

in Lekki, Lagos. She is also a blogger, writer 

and publisher of Family3ree Magazine. 

She holds a degree in Mass Communications 

and a diploma in Theatre Arts from 

University of Jos. She is an affiliate member 

of National Institute of Marketing, Nigeria. 

She is the brain behind Mimi Adeyemi's 

Blog, a relationship and Marriage blog.

GLAMSQUAD MAGAZINE JULY 2017

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