The Ultimate Body Language Book

travel over the face including the lips.
[C] Hand touches hand. Light touching of the hand, or hand-holding is often the first way distance is
breeched. The hand is intimate, yet risk-free, unlike say the breasts or the genitals! Other acceptable
first touches include incidental touches such as an elbow, forearm or task directed actions such as
helping to put on a coat.
[D] Hand touches shoulder. This form of touching is risky because it implies
some from of connection. If absent, can still be rebuffed with minimal damage and embarrassment, but
still breaches personal space boundaries.
[E] Arm encircles waist. In this step, the arm is lowered closer to the genitals so is more intimate. This
form of touching, since it requires permission and attraction, which may or may not be present, is
highly risky and can spell disaster if not welcomed. However, if it is accepted, it can be used as a test to
move quickly to the following step.
[F] Mouth touches mouth. This step is fairly self explanatory but is a huge milestone in a relationship.
Most women remember their first kiss long after men do, but even if men forget the exact details after
some time, they will always recall their conquest! When two people kiss they exchange a lot more than
just spit. Chemicals in the saliva are linked to taste and if things don’t jive at this moment, everything
can unravel, and quickly. Women are often heard saying “things weren’t right” or that “he was a bad
kisser” and it usually has to do with pheromones they find unattractive, rather than his lack of skill.
Women will let men they find attractive kiss sloppily, but mediocre men need to perform at a higher
level while kissing! It has been postulated by researchers that if the unique chemical signature of men
and women is too closely alike, attraction fails to materialize, most probably due to a desire to avoid
inbreeding. Family members carry similar genes and therefore give off similar odors signatures and so
kissing is one way to test things out before getting too heavy.
[G] Hand touches head. The head is a vulnerable part of the body so we only allow those we really trust
to get close enough to play with our hair or ears or whatever. Touching and stroking the hair, plays an
intimate and important role in kissing, especially the good kind of kissing.
[H] Hand touches body. Having passed all the tests listed above, couples will permit each other to
explore various parts of their body, at the exclusion of the breasts and crotch and usually touching
happens over the clothes. Sometimes brief forays may be permitted, but this sort of intimacy still
requires caution. Touching includes stroking, fondling, tickling, caressing and are precursors to sexual
intimacy. If all goes well, both bodies will become aroused to the point of no return, pushing them into
the next step.
[J] Mouth touches body. Included in this step is hand under clothing. Usually either mouth or hands are
permitted to touch the body. This step opens up fondling of the breasts under the clothes, and usually
even permits the touching of the genitals over the clothes.
[K] Hand caresses genitals and genitals touches genitals. From steps H onward, body language lacks a
visual component and so people usually dim the lights, turn them out altogether or close their eyes so
they can eliminate distraction and shift their focus onto their sense of touch and smell. Intercourse is a
primal activity so requires just the right ingredients in just the right ratios to work. If something isn’t
quite right, then the sequence can be broken at any one stage, even at the last minute, or so I’m told!