The Ultimate Body Language Book
Does he really want to leave? In most cases, negative body language is truthful, but he’s playing a game – hard-to-get! One negative body language technique involves talking over a shoulder so as to show some but not total interest in someone. If done correctly it, the body language teases woman and forces them to display stronger signals of interest to keep the man’s attention. That is if she’s been given enough cues to feel compelled to compete for your attention. Using negative body language in this way is especially attractive to women who habitually have men fawning all over them. Far too often men use body language that is open an accepting in all cases and situations even though women don’t fully and sometimes not even partially deserve it. Negative body language shows rejection, which a lot of women are not accustomed to so it brings out their competitive spirit. Above: Playing hard to get can sometimes put you back in the driver’s seat with women. For example, you could display a carefree attitude by slouching lower in a seat, opening up your posture, and taking up more space than necessary to demonstrate dominance. This may excite certain women since you are displaying as a typical alpha male, but if you go overboard, it will turn women off.
Chapter 13 - Courtship Signals Tonality Advice For Men Communication patterns are often a make-it or break-it moment. As we have seen in a pervious chapter, tonality plays a big part in the meaning and intent of the message being delivered. Speaking in a soft voice can be construed as nervous, especially if words are so quiet they are misheard. When in groups containing new people, it is very common to speak quietly to direct your conversation to specific people you are more familiar with, however this can and will alienate others and serve to isolate you further. While in a group, therefore, don’t be afraid to address everyone and save private conversations for later. Whispering, which is an entirely different ballgame can actually bring women closer and create sparks, so is fair technique to explore. As tonality pertains to dating and attraction, it is important to hold a strong voice and use projection to carry it to your audience. Speaking too loudly can come across as forceful and arrogant though, so try to balance your speech to your location and audience, as well as the surrounding noise. As mentioned earlier, women find men with voices that are deep sexy and it is possible to lower the breadth of your voice with practice. Even keeping it monotone will make it seem deeper and sexier, although a lack of enthusiasm will likely out-weight the benefits. Calming and slowing the voice can also deepen it and these techniques can be perfected when practiced. Naturally each one of the techniques for voice lowering can appear forced and awkward, and in most cases, the voice can only be lowered by a few degrees, but this might be all that is required to bring a high pitched voice down to an acceptable medium. Another aspect of voice is projection. In nightclubs where talking is often difficult at best, you might consider extending the length of words and phrases, so they are better heard. Men should never pass up an opportunity for closeness, and as mentioned, whispering is a great tool to accomplish this. A “hey, let’s get out of here, it’s too loud to talk” makes for a good exit strategy once a connection is formed. Regardless of the situation, a well projected voice communicates strength and confidence. Men should also be mindful of nervous laughing and long bouts of monotone speech, which can be a
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Chapter 13 - Courtship Signals<br />
Tonality Advice For Men<br />
Communication patterns are often a make-it or break-it moment.<br />
As we have seen in a pervious chapter, tonality plays a big part in the meaning and intent of the<br />
message being delivered. Speaking in a soft voice can be construed as nervous, especially if words are<br />
so quiet they are misheard. When in groups containing new people, it is very common to speak quietly<br />
to direct your conversation to specific people you are more familiar with, however this can and will<br />
alienate others and serve to isolate you further. While in a group, therefore, don’t be afraid to address<br />
everyone and save private conversations for later. Whispering, which is an entirely different ballgame<br />
can actually bring women closer and create sparks, so is fair technique to explore. As tonality pertains<br />
to dating and attraction, it is important to hold a strong voice and use projection to carry it to your<br />
audience. Speaking too loudly can come across as forceful and arrogant though, so try to balance your<br />
speech to your location and audience, as well as the surrounding noise.<br />
As mentioned earlier, women find men with voices that are deep sexy and it is possible to lower the<br />
breadth of your voice with practice. Even keeping it monotone will make it seem deeper and sexier,<br />
although a lack of enthusiasm will likely out-weight the benefits. Calming and slowing the voice can<br />
also deepen it and these techniques can be perfected when practiced. Naturally each one of the<br />
techniques for voice lowering can appear forced and awkward, and in most cases, the voice can only be<br />
lowered by a few degrees, but this might be all that is required to bring a high pitched voice down to an<br />
acceptable medium.<br />
Another aspect of voice is projection. In nightclubs where talking is often difficult at best, you might<br />
consider extending the length of words and phrases, so they are better heard. Men should never pass up<br />
an opportunity for closeness, and as mentioned, whispering is a great tool to accomplish this. A “hey,<br />
let’s get out of here, it’s too loud to talk” makes for a good exit strategy once a connection is formed.<br />
Regardless of the situation, a well projected voice communicates strength and confidence.<br />
Men should also be mindful of nervous laughing and long bouts of monotone speech, which can be a