The Ultimate Body Language Book

women and there are a variety of methods to do so. Fashion is one aspect of status and it includes
expensive watches and suites, polished shoes and being well groomed. Status also comes across
through body language. Open postures, legs spread apart, arms uncrossed and keeping the hands away
from the face. Alpha men display alpha traits because life has treated them well. Good posture also
shows that life hasn’t taken advantage of him and the weight of the world isn’t holding him down.
The torso’s of dominant men is firm and still, they will use their arms to punctuate points, but keep
them relatively inactive. Dominant men only rarely raise their arms above the level of their belt.
Speaking slowly with a calm voice also shows dominance. The fewer words used, the more emphasis is
placed on what words are used. Instead of rambling on, men should use more pauses and allow their
minds to catch up. Alpha men speak slowly, almost carefully. They choose their words wisely and
avoid fillers such as “ummm” and “ahhh.” Taking up space is also part of dominant body language.
Having the arms spread wide while on a sofa and the legs apart gives the impression that men are
relaxed and also larger than they actually are.
Chapter 13 - Courtship Signals
The Dominant Male Stance
An alpha posture takes up space as if he’s in his own living room.
Whenever not in motion, men should keep both feet flat on the ground with their arms to their sides and
their weight even across both feet. Men should do their best to avoid placing their hands in their
pockets as it comes across as dishonest as though they have something to hide. The hips should be
forced forward slight, with the legs just wider than shoulder width. Men might also wish to extend a
foot in the direction of the woman of interest to give her a subtle cue of interest.
It is paramount that men avoid leaning up against objects or walls and using them as a crutch.
Confident men will appear relaxed, calm and grounded, without the help of chairs, walls or other
crutch-like-objects to fiddle with and occupy their hands. Men should also avoid standing or sitting in