The Ultimate Body Language Book

effectively to attract his attention, she won’t find this signals attractive when done by men. To her,
nervousness signals that he is a lesser man; a beta man.
Beta male characteristics includes but is not limited to fidgeting, slouching, putting hands in pockets,
crossing arms, wringing the hands, talking with a hand hiding the mouth, and touching or scratching
the face or neck without purpose. Men who exhibit these gestures might signal nonverbally their
attraction to a woman, but the signals won’t be found to be a turn-on to women. In other words, men
should drop this cue altogether because it doesn’t help their cause. Rather, they should use the
dominant body language listed below to create arousal in women and thereby elicit sexual body
language from them. Beta men by definition are those that come second to dominant or alpha men,
both in daily life and in dating.
In the dating world, because beta men come second to alpha men are left choosing what alpha men
deem less valuable. In other words, beta males get second pick (or are chosen by women second,
however you want to look at things) and also miss out on dates more often than alpha males. Being beta
in life, isn’t necessarily a bad thing, in fact, most people are second in lead, or worse, to someone at
any one time or another throughout the day. However, in dating, it is important to be alpha to at least
one woman in life! We can also add that not every woman is alpha worthy either, and this is part of the
natural order or hierarchy of things. Everything balances out in the end, even if we just act out our
normal selves, as there are more than enough variations of people to pair up with. The issue stems from
trying to reach higher into the hierarchy and this requires behavioural modifications and work. Chances
are good though, that if you are reading this book, you have a desire to improve your success in life
which is why we move forward.
In closing this point, what is important in terms of beta male body language, is to refrain from showing
that the weight of the world is upon us forcing our shoulders to slouch, or that life has run amuck with
our self esteem, by carrying awkward postures. Having our shoulders up and back shows that we can
effectively carry the weight of our predicaments, no matter what that is.
Some beta male postures:
Touching the face indicates insecurity.
Hand to mouth gestures should be avoided as it is a sign of low confidence and sometimes lying.