The Ultimate Body Language Book

Turning the body away and taking a step amplifies disinterest.
Gestures are nonverbal rejection patterns that involved movement of the hands and arms. Interested
women perform palm displays, however, disinterested women will pocket their hands instead, or cross
their arms over their chest. To further disinterest, an increase in distance would occur by taking steps
backwards or using barriers to reduce closeness. Self grooming can also be used to show disinterest,
but not in a flirtatious way. Instead picking the nails, or teeth is used to turn men off and efficiently
display disinterest.
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Crossing the arms denies a man exposure to your torso – an unwelcome signal.
Posture patterns involve movement and positioning of the body. These are tied to closed body positions
and include such items as tightly crossing the legs, legs crossed at the ankles or hidden under a chair.
Other postures include a rigid upright torso and positions that avoided body contact and if contact was
initiated the women would pull away. Leaning back and turning the back to the man is also effective.
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Whatever cues you plan on using, be sure of your intent before emitting them. If you are serious about
rejecting someone it is important that you be deliberate, predictable and consistent. If you flip-flop
from positive to negative cues, he’ll just think that you are “moody” which will create a situation that
makes negative cues less effective in the future. It will also prolong pursuit because the positive cues
mixed into the interaction will provide him incentives to continue. Finally, be prepared to be called bad
names like “grumpy” and of course “bitch.” It is unfortunate for women that they aren’t given the same
latitude as men in terms of their ability to display negative emotions in an outward fashion, but this is
the world we live in and no amount of complaining will change it. The research tells us that women are
expected to smile even if unhappy, and be chipper when depressed, but when it comes to rejecting
someone, it’s best done quickly and without remorse. Afterall, when it comes to rejection, do you really
care what their opinion is of you?