The Ultimate Body Language Book

dropper here and there with regards to ways women can avoid attention. The problem as women might
view it is that most of the tactics involved dropping cues, or ‘inaction’ rather than actionable body
language. Because there are times when women require the opposite result, I have devoted this section
to ways women can actively send rejection signals. It is far easier and less embarrassing to use
nonverbal language to send negative signals and they can be implemented earlier to reduce escalation
before it’s too late. Women far too often make the mistake of placating others to their own detriment.
When men are bored, they feel no pain, no discomfort, no desire to offer anything other than a barren
despondent look on their face. It might surprise you to hear me say to this, congratulations! Men who
show their true emotions have mastered, all-be-it passively, the use of effective body language and use
it to convey their boredom to others. When men are bored, they say “shape up or ship out”, women
should heed this and follow. So women, please pay careful attention to the tips that follow to avoid
unwanted approaches.
My conclusions are drawn in large part from the research of Dr. Monica Moore in 1998 who looked at
rejection patterns in women. She found seventeen main behaviours in her study that indicated rejection
of potential male partners. They included facial expressions such as yawning, frowning, sneering, gaze
avoidance, upward gaze, hair gaze (looking at one’s own hair), looking away, and staring, as well as
gestures such as negative head shaking, nail cleaning, teeth picking or pocketing hands, and finally,
posture patterns such as arm crossing, holding the trunk rigidly, closed legs, body contact avoidance or
pulling away. Here they are by category in a bit more detail.
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Avoiding eye contact shows men that we’re not interested in interacting.
Gaze avoidance happens when the woman refused to make eye contact with the man, despite him
looking directly at her. She will look at other people, make eye contact with someone else, or pretend to
be taken by something else in the room. This can and in fact, should be done while a man is currently
speaking. Buck up women, grow some and spell it out! Look at it this way, you’re saving him time by
being direct and upfront and in the long run, he might even thank you if it gives him the time to pursue
someone else. To display disinterest a women can also look upward by raising the chin only a quarter
inch or look at the ends of her hair which is a strong signal of boredom and detachment. Any
behaviours should include prolonged inattention, lasting at least ten seconds, but more is always better!
Staring is also used, in this case staring lasts multiple seconds or until the man looks away, but when he
does, don’t look him over, start a conversation with someone else or leave altogether without saying
anything. If none of these messages seem to be working, add frowns or sneers to your repertoire. The
sneer happens with furrowed brows and the mouth is compressed and turned downward. The sneer
happens when the mouth is twisted and the nose wrinkled. Next you can use head shaking and yawning
which shows negative thoughts rather than using more affirmative head movements such as nods.
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