The Ultimate Body Language Book

The higher the grip, the more frustration is present and the more self control is expressing. Clenching
and gripping postures occur anytime stress and anger is present, such as waiting to see a doctor or
dentist, awaiting bad news, or during conflict.
Another form of clenching that shows emotional restraint happens with the hands in a raised position
instead of being hidden behind the back. This form of clenching appears as if the hands are being rung
out by each other, as we would a wet article of clothing. Smiling does not negate the gesture either, and
even alludes to a greater than normal tension. Smiles when accompanied by wringing, are called “stress
smiles” or grimacing. The hands can be held in front of the face, resting on the desk or lap or when
standing, in front of the crotch, but once again, the higher the clenching appears the more prevalent and
obvious is the tension.
Hand wringing allows us to ‘control’ our pain and discomfort – it gives us an outlet.
The hands and feet are key places to verify anxiety and will be the usual suspects in betraying
emotions. They move easily and freely from the rest of the body and can be used to burn energy and
release stress anxiety without requiring the body to move large distances. Because they can be moved
independent of the body, they also tend to leak information more readily. Therefore, to read anxiety
carefully watch for tapping toes or fingers, or feet that move frequently or never seem to find a
comfortable position as well as any other repetitive behaviours. Foot movements will show more
restraint than hand movements especially if someone is trying to hide their fears from others.
Jaw clenching.