The Ultimate Body Language Book

negative cue done to avoid harmful images or thoughts, and hit on eye flashes, eye widening and
flashbulb eyes all carrying their own unique nonverbal message.
We found that by tilting the head at forty five degrees and looking upwards women can display the
come-hither look invoking feelings of protectiveness in men. We also found that eye size was related to
attractiveness and this was measured through research. Next we looked at shifty eyes and how they can
predict stress, but not necessarily lying per se, looking askance to send “the look”, stealing looks and
what it means, and how to properly address an audience through eye contact. NLP, we saw, refers to
neuro-linguistic programming which is a system developed to induce behavioural changes and improve
communication and derives its value by reaching for defined positive outcomes through identifying the
roots by which thoughts affect images and sound or feelings. We then learned that NLP can help us
predict things. For example, we saw that for most right-handed people, eye movement up and to the left
is a signal of accessing a visual memory, movement up and right means that a person is trying to
construct a visual image. Eyes either right or left, but still level, indicate an auditory process such as
remembering sounds and words. Down and left indicate internal dialogue or self talk and down and
right indicate a tactile or visceral feeling. When the eyes are straight ahead, unfocused or dilated they
signal visual or any sensory information.
We also learned that there are three main ways in which people learn new information; auditory
(spoken words) twenty five percent, kinesthetic (touch) forty percent and visual (images) thirty five
percent. We also saw that eye direction has meaning where eyes focused straight ahead means passive
receiving of information and eyes down means emotionally concentrating. From there we hit on
appropriate eye contact during an interview and while communicating, the eyebrow and eye flash and
what they mean and how they can be used.