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Chapter 5 – Seeing Eye To Eye – A Look At The Language Of The Eye The Room Encompassing Glance There’s no mystery in these eyes. The room encompassing glance is a sexual signal performed by women interested in being pursued. More specifically, it is done by women who are “checking out” potential suitors and it is done totally unconsciously as is most all other body language. It is very subtle and also very specific. The glance occurs by first casting her eyes around the room for five to ten seconds. If she spots someone she is interested in, she will take a second look. This second glance is not directed at the entire room, but rather in the direction of a specific man. It will be short, and she will rotate her head twenty-five to forty degrees to the side then look away, usually downward, within about three seconds. Women usually continue this behavior until they meet their target’s eyes. At this point, the target and the woman will hold a mutual gaze lasting about three seconds which is normally broken by the woman. It should be noted also that most men are fairly clueless in reading this signal and usually miss it. If women wish to make it more powerful and obvious they should add a slight smile. The light bulb usually goes off with this more overt signal. Chapter 5 – Seeing Eye To Eye – A Look At The Language Of The Eye Eye Blink Rate Eye Blink Rate, Extended Eye Blinking, Eye Blocking And The Double Wink Eye Blink Rate Studies have linked arousal with increased eye blink rate. When we blink we add moisture to the eye with the help of tears and oil secreted by small glands that line the inner edge of our eyelids. Researchers have theorized that an increased eye blink rate helps us moisten and clean our eyes in

preparation for action so we won’t miss a thing. Pronounced eye blinking can happen during sexual arousal and attraction, while under pressure, or any other time we feel particularly excited. A rapid series of eye blinks can also indicate an inner struggle or distress which may happen when we hear something we don’t particularly agree with, or when we can’t find the right words to express ourselves. Other times our eyes flutter when we’re troubled with our performance on an issue, befuddled, or simply struggling outright. Women that have thick, dark, long lashes can even use a high blink rate to seduce men. Applying mascara helps draw emphasis to a women’s eyes even further and when she “bat’s her eyes” can bring a grown man to his knees. We should also be careful not to jump to conclusions since a high blink rate can also be attributed to dry air, stress, having something trapped on the eye itself or any multitude of other reasons. Therefore, high eye blink rate is particularly context sensitive. Higher blink rate is also subject to mimicry. For example, speaking excitedly about a topic and increasing eye blink rate will induce others to follow and blink at similar rates. This can come in handy, not only in a dating situation, but also while pitching ideas because if people mimic a high blink rate, they will subconsciously perceive that they are excited, which can move them to action. Chapter 5 – Seeing Eye To Eye – A Look At The Language Of The Eye Extended Eye Blinking The opposite to the high blinker is the extended blinker, and whether by accident or by purpose, the extended blinker puts other’s off by showing disinterest and a smug attitude. A normal blink lasts only about a tenth of a second and at a rate of about six to eight blinks per minute. An extended blink can last from two to three seconds or even longer. Try one right now just as an experiment. Close your eyes at a normal rate but hold them closed momentarily and then quickly reopen them. Now try extending the time they remain closed. And finally, image this is done either while speaking or listening to someone else. Naturally, the longer the blink the more salient the message, with several seconds not being out of the question. The extended eye blink will be perceived by others as arrogant and pompous since it comes across as temporarily shutting out the outside world, especially the immediate company. The extended blinker is sending the message to others that what others are doing or saying isn’t worth their energy and thought. There are two main ways to thwart the extended blinker. The first is to reduce your blink rate or widen your eyes as if staring, and hold more eye contact to try to have them mirror you or put them on edge. The second method is a tiny bit underhanded, but sends a much stronger message. When your partner has their eyes closed, quickly jump to the right or left or move closer. This will have the effect of startling them as they reopen their eyes and found that you have slightly moved! If done well enough, you should expect to have achieved a fear response in them which will naturally create a need for them to hold better eye contact.

Chapter 5 – Seeing Eye To Eye – A Look At <strong>The</strong> <strong>Language</strong> Of <strong>The</strong> Eye<br />

<strong>The</strong> Room Encompassing Glance<br />

<strong>The</strong>re’s no mystery in these eyes.<br />

<strong>The</strong> room encompassing glance is a sexual signal performed by women interested in being pursued.<br />

More specifically, it is done by women who are “checking out” potential suitors and it is done totally<br />

unconsciously as is most all other body language. It is very subtle and also very specific. <strong>The</strong> glance<br />

occurs by first casting her eyes around the room for five to ten seconds. If she spots someone she is<br />

interested in, she will take a second look. This second glance is not directed at the entire room, but<br />

rather in the direction of a specific man. It will be short, and she will rotate her head twenty-five to<br />

forty degrees to the side then look away, usually downward, within about three seconds. Women<br />

usually continue this behavior until they meet their target’s eyes. At this point, the target and the<br />

woman will hold a mutual gaze lasting about three seconds which is normally broken by the woman. It<br />

should be noted also that most men are fairly clueless in reading this signal and usually miss it. If<br />

women wish to make it more powerful and obvious they should add a slight smile. <strong>The</strong> light bulb<br />

usually goes off with this more overt signal.<br />

Chapter 5 – Seeing Eye To Eye – A Look At <strong>The</strong> <strong>Language</strong> Of <strong>The</strong> Eye<br />

Eye Blink Rate<br />

Eye Blink Rate, Extended Eye Blinking, Eye Blocking And <strong>The</strong> Double Wink<br />

Eye Blink Rate<br />

Studies have linked arousal with increased eye blink rate. When we blink we add moisture to the eye<br />

with the help of tears and oil secreted by small glands that line the inner edge of our eyelids.<br />

Researchers have theorized that an increased eye blink rate helps us moisten and clean our eyes in

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