The Ultimate Body Language Book

publish it through the www.BodyLanguageProject.com and named it Body Language Project: Dating,
Attraction and Sexual Body Language. Body language stuck with me throughout the years because
once I had the basics I was always able to read people and throughout life, it really helped me. Every so
often I would point out the body language of the people around me, such as my wife and friends, just to
make them a little bit more aware of what they are really revealing about themselves. Other times I
would read an employer, or read politicians on television, or just regular people walking about on the
streets. You will see, like I did, that body language is something that once learned will stick with you
for a lifetime. Most of us already have some sort of intuitive ability to read people but this book will
help spell it all out for you in plain English with no need for interpretation or guesswork. Next time you
read someone, you’ll be right, you won’t be guessing.
Knowing body language will be helpful while presenting to an audience, for example, since it can tell
you when it’s time to make your conversation more lively, when people are truly interested, or even
when it’s time to wrap it up and move on. Body language is the “intuition” that separates decent
speakers from amazing ones. Good speakers will read the degree of ‘head tilt’ in their audience, which
shows interest, and then know that they are onto something, or conversely watch for arm crossing, leg
crossing, or both, showing withdrawal to indicating that it’s time to switch topics, switch tactics or get
the audience involved. Body language can also help around the office to read your boss or if you are a
boss to read your employees. Even as a parent, body language will help in reading your children and if
you are married, help read your spouses hidden meaning before words set off flames.
If you have ever heard a voice recording playback, absent of video, you know how important body
language is in communication and how much meaning is added through the visual channel. Monotone
words strung together with no inflection showing no emotion whatsoever makes the meaning of the
sentence lost and confusing. Electronic mail or instant messaging, are two wonderful examples of all
that can go wrong with communication absent of body language. Text messages become confused,
misinterpreted and misread, and as we all know, often end badly, sometimes so badly, it’s irreversible.
Message boards also suffer in this way, often resorting to massive infighting simply because the
intended meaning is lost. Emotional icons (emoticons) such as ‘smiley faces’ and ‘winks’ we now dot
our messages with are good indication of the importance nonverbal cues.
Speech takes meaning from our actions and body positions, not just from resonance, frequencies and
pitch carried through air molecules. When people speak, we can tell their emotions by how they use
their hands, which words they emphasize, and where they pause in speech. On the other hand, to
become more effective speakers we also need to be better at delivering proper body language so again
we need to understand the nonverbal channel. This book is a good start on your way to learning body
language, but certainly not the finish line. You will still be required to advance a significant effort
independent of this book to become proficient at both reading and delivering nonverbal messages, not
the least of which will happen by seeing it in real life and in real time.
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