The Ultimate Body Language Book

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A gestures that indicates anxiety rather than a targeted scratch. It is the job of the body language reader to decide which movements are motivated by a real physical purpose and which are motivated by an underlying emotional purpose. Usually stress release methods are person specific so once they are detected can be reliable as predictors in future encounters. Some might pull an ear lobe, rub one’s throat, pull on a collar or scratch the back of the hands. I will say that it’s usually pretty obvious when a gesture like scratching is real because it is targeted, quick, nonrepetitive and provides instant relief, but when it’s as a response to emotional trauma, it show opposite

characteristics. It is general in nature, perpetual, repetitive and provides no discernable relief (at least not instantaneously). The context, meaning high or low stress environment provides strong clues to the purpose of the adaptors. All proper body language reads should take context into consideration. As we see, movements or adaptors come in two forms. They either have hidden meaning, or they do not. Plenty of emphasis has been given by researchers on these subconscious clues on the grounds that they would unlock secrets. However, the importance placed on adaptors is probably overstated and oversimplified. The real goal of the body language reader is to decipher the difference between adaptors with no meaning and movements and gestures that have actual meaning. Adaptors in crosscultural meetings can also be potential landmines. For example, emblems, specifically because they are culturally engrained, are emitted without conscious thought. Many Arabic countries see the sole of the foot or the figure-four-leg cross as offensive and rude (an emblem of sorts to them) so they may classify a Westerner as something they intent not to be. It is clear to the Westerner that they wish only to take up a more comfortable seating position. The take-away message is to treat adaptors with the care they deserve instead of jumping to inaccurate, embarrassing or even disastrous conclusions.

characteristics. It is general in nature, perpetual, repetitive and provides no discernable relief (at least<br />

not instantaneously). <strong>The</strong> context, meaning high or low stress environment provides strong clues to the<br />

purpose of the adaptors. All proper body language reads should take context into consideration.<br />

As we see, movements or adaptors come in two forms. <strong>The</strong>y either have hidden meaning, or they do<br />

not. Plenty of emphasis has been given by researchers on these subconscious clues on the grounds that<br />

they would unlock secrets. However, the importance placed on adaptors is probably overstated and<br />

oversimplified. <strong>The</strong> real goal of the body language reader is to decipher the difference between<br />

adaptors with no meaning and movements and gestures that have actual meaning. Adaptors in crosscultural<br />

meetings can also be potential landmines. For example, emblems, specifically because they are<br />

culturally engrained, are emitted without conscious thought. Many Arabic countries see the sole of the<br />

foot or the figure-four-leg cross as offensive and rude (an emblem of sorts to them) so they may<br />

classify a Westerner as something they intent not to be. It is clear to the Westerner that they wish only<br />

to take up a more comfortable seating position. <strong>The</strong> take-away message is to treat adaptors with the<br />

care they deserve instead of jumping to inaccurate, embarrassing or even disastrous conclusions.

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