May/June 2017 Shepherdess Voice
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ALICE: MY HUSBAND LETS PHONE CALLS DISTURB OUR DINNER<br />
DEAR<br />
FREQUENTLY. CAN YOU HELP ME?<br />
HOUR<br />
ASK ALICE<br />
Dear Concerned,<br />
Having a spouse on his cell phone must be very frustrating as it takes precious time away from your<br />
family and the quality conversations you would hope for during meal time. You are not alone in this<br />
frustration. In fact, it was reported in the US that 11.4 million tech devices such as smartphones, tablets,<br />
laptops and iPods are brought to family meals. Researchers at the Boston Medical Center went<br />
undercover at 15 local fast food restaurants to observe parents dining with their children. They found 40<br />
of the 55 families they observed to be absorbed with their devices continuously throughout their meal.<br />
Some children ate their meals in silence, others begged for their parents' attention, and others acted<br />
out.<br />
A parent talking on the phone during meals sets a negative example for his kids. When a parent checks<br />
cell phone texts or emails during family meals, family members agree it communicates to the them<br />
that the person on the phone is more important than they are. It can communicate a lack of respect.<br />
Many mentioned the offending party was being rude. With so little time to connect adequately with<br />
our family during the day because of crazy schedules, I would recommend agreeing to lay down our<br />
phones down during meal times.<br />
The best time to have a discussion regarding this is when you have private time together and not at the<br />
same time the offence is occurring. Set an appointment to talk before the next situation occurs. Create<br />
boundaries for these devices so meal times can be about family bonding, developing social skills, and<br />
sharing stories about that day. Enjoy just spending time with each other while participating in<br />
conversations regarding your kid's lives, their personal and spiritual interests, table etiquette and telling<br />
of your love for them. This is critical for your children's healthy development.