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Dr Toks
Onabanjo
The theme “God First, Others
Second and I’m Third” have
helped many young men and
women by the actions of a
fighter pilot in Vietnam. As
stated in his eulogy. His plane
was spiraling down after being
shot; he fought hard so the craft
won’t plunge into a village
avoiding the death of many
villagers. He was successful, he
died alone. He got an award
from the US Air-force. They
found the “I’m third” creed
written in his pocket.
This creed of “I’m Third” was said by Christ in Matthew 20:
27, whoever wants to be the first must serve others. As
husbands and wives, a marriage would be a thing of joy, if we
imbibe this wonderful principle of “God first, my family
second and I’m third” philosophy in our decision making.
Meaning before we make any decision, we first seek if that
decision would honor God, then how that decision would
affect our husband or wife, the children and then ourselves.
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BE FRIENDS NOT ENEMIES
Conflicts in marriage are inevitable, in my opinion if dealt with
properly they help the marriage grow. Without good conflict
resolution policy to guide the home, it is very easy for couples
to see each others as enemies.
Knowing that conflicts and conflict resolution is part of life.
Couples should NEVER see their spouse as an enemy in a
battle, rather as a friend who is showing tough love or does
not know how to speak the truth in love. With different
personalities and diverse family of origin, we are bound to
look at life differently. Some women might be more
competitive than others, while some men might be more
dominating than necessary, that don’t mean they want to kill
their husband or wife.
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