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Wisdom Magazine. A Christian Publication with Practical help for daily living
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Dr Toks<br />
Onabanjo<br />
The theme “God First, Others<br />
Second and I’m Third” have<br />
helped many young men and<br />
women by the actions of a<br />
fighter pilot in Vietnam. As<br />
stated in his eulogy. His plane<br />
was spiraling down after being<br />
shot; he fought hard so the craft<br />
won’t plunge into a village<br />
avoiding the death of many<br />
villagers. He was successful, he<br />
died alone. He got an award<br />
from the US Air-force. They<br />
found the “I’m third” creed<br />
written in his pocket.<br />
This creed of “I’m Third” was said by Christ in Matthew 20:<br />
27, whoever wants to be the first must serve others. As<br />
husbands and wives, a marriage would be a thing of joy, if we<br />
imbibe this wonderful principle of “God first, my family<br />
second and I’m third” philosophy in our decision making.<br />
Meaning before we make any decision, we first seek if that<br />
decision would honor God, then how that decision would<br />
affect our husband or wife, the children and then ourselves.<br />
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BE FRIENDS NOT ENEMIES<br />
Conflicts in marriage are inevitable, in my opinion if dealt with<br />
properly they help the marriage grow. Without good conflict<br />
resolution policy to guide the home, it is very easy for couples<br />
to see each others as enemies.<br />
Knowing that conflicts and conflict resolution is part of life.<br />
Couples should NEVER see their spouse as an enemy in a<br />
battle, rather as a friend who is showing tough love or does<br />
not know how to speak the truth in love. With different<br />
personalities and diverse family of origin, we are bound to<br />
look at life differently. Some women might be more<br />
competitive than others, while some men might be more<br />
dominating than necessary, that don’t mean they want to kill<br />
their husband or wife.<br />
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