Avant-propos - Studia Moralia
Avant-propos - Studia Moralia
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76 DENNIS J. BILLY<br />
friendship itself which, rooted in Christ’s grace, leads a person<br />
along the way of purgation, illumination, and ultimate union<br />
with God.<br />
Application Two: The Three Kisses<br />
Aelred uses the metaphor of a kiss to point out what the<br />
process of growth in friendship precisely entails: “…in a kiss two<br />
breaths meet, and are mingled, and are united. As a result, a certain<br />
sweetness of mind is born, which rouses and binds together<br />
the affection of those who embrace.” 36 He extends the<br />
metaphor to demonstrate the different types of friendship that<br />
can be forged: “There is, then, a corporeal kiss, a spiritual kiss,<br />
and an intellectual kiss. The corporeal kiss is made by the impression<br />
of the lips; the spiritual kiss by the union of spirits; the<br />
intellectual kiss through the Spirit of God, by the infusion of<br />
grace.” 37<br />
Although the carnal kiss is supposed to be offered or received<br />
for definite and worthy reasons (e.g., as a sign of reconciliation<br />
or a mark of peace), Aelred points out that it can be<br />
misused for perverse and lustful ends. 38 The spiritual kiss, by<br />
way of contrast, is “…the kiss of friends who are bound by one<br />
law of friendship; for it is not made by contact with the mouth<br />
but by the affection of the heart.” 39 According to Aelred, Christ<br />
is already present in this friendship. His presence is not directly<br />
experienced, however, but mediated through another person: “I<br />
would call this the kiss of Christ, yet he himself does not offer it<br />
from his own mouth, but from the mouth of another, breathing<br />
upon his lovers that most sacred affection so that there seems to<br />
them to be, as it were, one spirit in many bodies.” 40 As the soul<br />
becomes accustomed to this kind of friendship, it tastes the<br />
sweetness that comes from Christ and eventually yearns for<br />
36 DSA 2:23 [CCCM 1:307(162-65); SF 75].<br />
37 DSA 2:24 [CCCM 1:307(165-68); SF 76].<br />
38 DSA 2:25 [CCCM 1:307(177-85); SF 76].<br />
39 DSA 2:26 [CCCM 1:307(185-87); SF 76].<br />
40 DSA 2:26 [CCCM 1:307-8(190-94); SF 76].