Avant-propos - Studia Moralia
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THE HEALING ROLE OF FRIENDSHIP 75<br />
Among such, indeed, we have no doubt that friendship can spring<br />
up and that by such it can be perfected. 34<br />
As far as human beings are concerned, “goodness,” for Aelred,<br />
resides in the firm resolution not to participate in wrongdoing of<br />
any kind. It does not mean that a person is perfect or that he or<br />
she has never committed sin or will not do so in the future. A<br />
“good person,” for Aelred, is someone who intends not to sin and<br />
who takes appropriate measures to keep himself or herself from<br />
being overcome by unruly passions.<br />
Friendships among “good persons” of this type are not rare<br />
in this life. As Aelred reminds his readers:<br />
… the Christian ought not to despair of acquiring any virtue since<br />
daily the divine voice from the Gospel re-echoes: “Ask and you<br />
shall receive….” It is no wonder, then, that pursuers of true virtue<br />
were rare among the pagans since they did not know the Lord, the<br />
Dispenser of virtue, of whom it is written: “The Lord of hosts, he<br />
is the King of glory.” Indeed, through faith in him they were prepared<br />
to die for one another – I do not say three or four, but I offer<br />
you thousands of pairs of friends – although the ancients declared<br />
or imagined the devotion of Pylades and Orestes a great<br />
marvel. Were they not, according to the definition of Tullius,<br />
strong in the virtue of true friendship, of whom it is written: “And<br />
the multitude of believers had but one heart and one soul; neither<br />
did anyone say that aught was his own, but all things were common<br />
unto them?” 35<br />
The highest expression of Christian love is to lay down one’s life<br />
for one’s friend. Those who did so, the thousands of pairs mentioned<br />
by Aelred in the above passage, were weak human beings<br />
who, like everyone else in this fallen world, were hounded by<br />
doubts and temptations of various kinds. To enter into a spiritual<br />
friendship, one needs to be good – not perfect. It is the<br />
34 DSA 2:43 [CCCM 1:310(283-89); SF 80].<br />
35 DSA 1:27-28 [CCCM 1:293-94(154-66); SF 56-57]. For the theology of<br />
the kiss in monastic theology, see LECLERCQ, The Love of Learning, 226-28.