Get Out! GAY Magazine – Issue 302 – February 8, 2017

Tips
To Attract Cupid’s
Arrow This
Valentine’s Day
By Hugo Lefferson
Thanks to apps, your smartphone can be
the ultimate wingman.
Sure, the world of online dating apps
can be a tricky, overwhelming place
to navigate with plenty of guys using
“alternative facts” in their profiles. Also,
let’s be real: most guys on apps are
looking for quick hook-ups over anything
more substantial. But there are plenty of
guys who have found love, marriage, and
LTR on apps.
In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, we enlisted
the dating and relationship experts at
Jack’d to explain the do’s and don’ts of
finding true love online. Here are their
top ten tips.
1. Put Your Best Face Forward
“First impressions are everything,” says
Alon Rivel, Brand Manager at Jack’d. “A
simple headshot is ideal and gets the
most responses because guys can see
who you really are. If you are looking for
a serious relationship and connection, it is
important to lead with how you want to be
perceived. Leading with a cute and playful
headshot helps attract the right kind of
audience to your profile.”
2. Mo’ Photos, Mo’ Photos
“Include as many additional photos as
are allowed,” he continues. “Use each
image to show a different side to who you
are. One can be you on the weekend with
friends, one can be you in a suit on your
way to work, and another can be you on
vacation on the beach showing some skin.
Diversifying the photos is ideal.”
3. Keep It Classy
According to Phil Henricks, VP at Jack’d,
“The biggest mistake guys make on apps
that sabotages the possibility of finding
true love is leading with their sexual
images.” It should go without say that
sending inappropriate pictures before
even introducing yourself first is not they
key to LTR.
4. Choose a Name
Henricks adds, “The profiles that get the
best results for finding love are those that
use real names with emojis. The real name
attracts serious-minded men and the emoji
adds a touch of personality to the profile.
Names that look like screen names or are
overly sexual will get responses but not
necessarily the best results for love.”
5. Things Not To Say
“Sup?”, “Nudes?”, and “DTF?” are some
of the most overused phrases out there.
Guys like to be approached in a way that
grabs their attention without turning them
into a piece of meat. “Avoid saying these
overused phrases at all cost,” warns Rivel.
6. Consider Instead
When reaching out to a guy for the first
time, Rivel says, “The best intro line is
simply ‘Hey, what are you up to today?’.
Also, ‘How is your day going?’ works well
as it starts a positive conversation that can
lead to something more serious.”
7. Be Real
Guys tend to fib on their profiles,
especially when it comes to their weight
and height. Don’t do it. Also, be truthful
about what you’re looking for. A lot of
guys are scared to admit they want real
intimacy. “Own that you want an
authentic relationship,” suggests Henricks.
“Saying you are open to a hook up but
secretly hoping for more will lead to
disappointment.”
8. Make Sure He Is Real
There is always the potential for a catfish
situation. The way to avoid them is to
make sure the guy you are talking with has
multiple photos and can verify who he is
by sending you more photos when you
chat.
9. Look Outside The Box
“You should consider giving guys who
aren’t your usual type a chance because
trying something new can lead to growth
and potential connections,” says Rivel.
He may be on to something. Look, you
are still single so there’s a chance the
guys you have been seeking are not
exactly right for you.
10. Be Online During Peak Times
Interestingly, there is an actual time that
most men are on the apps. For Jack’d,
7 p.m. is the sweet spot—so you might
want to be on the app around then. Also,
enable push notifications so that you are
aware when a guy in your area has swiped
on you or sent a message.

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This Land Is My Land
BY IAN-MICHAEL BERGERON
@ianmichaelinwonderland
I remember a lot of
things about the last
eight years.
I remember the day gay
marriage became legal
in Iowa and waking
up Satchel, the gay
freshman who
lived in the dorm
next to mine. “Do
you wanna get
married?” I asked
him excitedly. “No,”
he replied flatly.
“Well,” I went on,
“we could if we
wanted to!”
I remember that
summer, moving to
Minnesota to live
with a boy I’d fallen in
love with. One night,
before I went back to
school, he took me for
a walk on the Stone
Arch Bridge. We snuck
through barricades
to get underneath
the bridge, and he
proposed to me.
I remember when The
Ex Fiance left me (the
first time). I remember
sitting on the couch,
catty-corner from him in
the loveseat. I took off
my diamond Tiffany ring
and put it on the coffee
table, a sign of defeat,
that we had failed.
I remember my
senior year of
college, meeting
a man with
a traveling
theater group
who noticed
my “Gay:
Fine By Me”
emblazoned
t-shirt. I was
co-president
of the Gay-
Straight
Alliance, and
we gave the
t-shirts out
for free at
the yearly
Drag Show. I
remember his
smile when
listening
to my
explanation,
and him
saying, “I
wish we had
something
like that
when I was in
college.”
I remember
my first Gay
Pride in New
York City - it
was so much
bigger than I
expected, much
more so than
anything I’d ever
experienced
in Iowa. I had
brunch with 20
fellow homos, new friends
and old friends alike
(and unlimited drinks, of
course); we went to the
parade, and we were
totally, unashamedly
ourselves.
I remember when gay
marriage was legalized
for the entire USA. I felt a
tinge of pain, memories
of my first engagement
lingering, but I knew we
were moving forward. We
were being recognized
as equal human beings
across all 50 states. My
face hurt from smiling the
whole day through.
I remember where I’ve
been. I remember who I’ve
been, and how it’s shaped
who I am today, and who
I’m going to become. I
remember the good, I
remember the bad—and
in the end, it’s all made me
a better person, in its own
way. I wouldn’t take any of
it back, not for the world.
A lot of people refer to the
next four years as “Trump’s
America,” but I don’t think
of it that way. As long as I
am still here, and as long
as I am still fighting for
what I know is right, this
is My America. This is our
America. No matter what
happens, we cannot forget
that.
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