Sacral Intimacy Journal

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Sacral Intimacy Journal
This journal is a 2 week journey to help you align with the dance of intimacy, showing up to all the
pieces and parts, naked, vulnerable but powerful and strong in your choice to do so. It is incredibly
rewarding while also being incredibly challenging work. It will demand the facing of unconsciousness,
the heeding of our hero’s call, the facing of our nemesis, the standing in new and unfamiliar landscape
and calling it home.
Each day posts a passage to reflect and a question. Intended to guide
and help along the pathway into the sacral chakra and emerge as a new
and radiate light.

Cheryl G0mez
I have been practicing in the field of body and mind
science my whole life. I have a BS in Sports Science with
minors in Wellness and Nutrition, I’m an ordained
minister, a Reiki Master, licensed massage therapist,
Yoga Alliance registered educator teacher and a
cookbook author on food sensitivities. Ii practice
Ayurveda, Kundalini and meditation and incorporate
their wisdom in most of what I teach and do. Life is a
journey we’re all experiencing and we can grow our best
when we share and connect with one another. As I
continuously and consciously do my practices to
become more heart focused and empowered, I offer and
share my journey and insights so together we can create
dialogue and community, and find our way to shine ever
brighter.

We can always find those who encourage us­ but is it an
encouragement of our best or lowest self?? We can always
find others who support and validate what we're wanting
supported and validated, but take note of how difficult or easy
it is to find this support. Is it easy, prevalent , common? Or is
it rare and valuable? Are we being encouraged to be our best
or accepted for perpetuating tired , limiting fear based
beliefs? Is a path of growth and change being followed by our
supporters or mocked and nay said? It comes down to where
you want to go on your path and the kind of person you want
to be­ are you surrounding yourself with the right kind of
support to move towards your desired destination­ or do you
need to look elsewhere? This journey brings us many people
who come and go­ and perhaps come again into our livesdepending
upon where each of us is at any particular
moment on our path and the support we each need to
receive or give. May we each seek and give the support we
need to grow into the fullness of who we are being called to
be.

Getting smashed, tossed, broken apart­ allows us to decide
which pieces we choose to rebuild with. Hopefully stronger,
with intent/purpose; who do we choose to be moving
forward? Leaving behind the pieces which were the past
but no longer part of our future­ love them, thank them, let
them go.

Hold fast, hold fast­ to the knowing that you have meaning,
purpose­ that you are not random or accidental! You, me­ we
matter. Hold fast to the hope, the knowing, the truth which supports
us when that which is around us seems to make no sense. We
matter. When we are threatened to be overwhelmed­ breath inhold
fast­ open your heart. Choose to be open, full of possibilitieschoose
not to shut down, close off­ it will be the hardest choice you
make­ but the only real choice ­if we are desiring a life of meaning,
of purpose..
May we each find, know ­ some degree­ however fleeting, of peace
within..
Namaste

Doing healing work I've had to learn the huge lesson of letting go of
thinking I can 'fix' anyone. No one is broken­ we may be
challenged­and in need of assistance and support­ but if we refuse
to accept that there is little one can 'do'. I believe being our
brother's keeper means to bear witness ­ to hold the space ­ of
connection, and be present with love. Unless we are asked or
allowed to do more ­ that is our role. A rather huge role­ we all need
to know we're not alone. We each have our individual lessons and
path. Our mere presence and silent good wishes do more than we
know!
Love and blessings to all of us on our journeys.

Intimacy is our need to connect at a heart/soul level­ to be
unveiled/revealed and accepted in our essence. We need to seek
intimacy with ourselves and from that space we can seek to
connect to others. To accept all of ourselves is the work of the
warrior­ requiring strength and humbleness to accept the
challenges we'll inevitably face. But the reward , the ultimate
reward, is love, acceptance and connection from our heart essence
to the heart of the ALL.

Things end­ run their course. Sometimes we see and know it's
coming so we feel prepared to let it go. Other times it hits us out of
the dark, hammers us and we feel sad, resistant, astounded,
wounded. If we can take a step back from our murky pool of
emotions­ a pause in our processing ­ we might be able to see ­
with hindsight­that the ending was a natural progression; that in
order for a new beginning to occur ­ something needed to end. To
be where we need to go, to do what we need to do..
Trust yourself, your intuition and sometime in the future your
hindsight will allow you to see with clarity what now may still appear
murky.
May our light lead the way.

9.
Forgiveness­ so much easier said than practiced! How does one
get there when an eye for an eye/action/even the score is what is
commonly touted and practiced? Anger drives the action so we can
feel like we've 'done' something­ even if it's just venting. But in
doing so many can relate so we feel supported in our choice of
actions. Or maybe our default action is to withdraw into self blame,
isolation, sadness which can shift into the dark hole of depression.
Self blame or blame of others= same spectrum­ opposite
expressions. Maybe practicing in the middle is the way. I know it's
physically much healthier for me­ sad and mad literally make me
start to become sick­ sore throat­ from speaking unkindly, malaise
etc. Body speak for 'this isn't good for me! Do something different!'
So I have connected to the vast energy field which is Sourceasking
to feel connected ­ to have its highest expression as love fill
me, wash over and thru me­ washing away the lower frequencies
which can no longer remain present in the presence of love. I feel
myself returning to me and thus become able to offer out that which
I just received. Forgiveness. The wish for others to experience
themselves as one with the love and light. All we need to do is
desire something different than our current unsatisfactory state of
being and ask and surrender to the pull of a higher frequencyallowing
it to take us to where we're meant to be. Connected and
loving.

How challenging it is to embrace, acknowledge, own the shadows
and light within ourselves. Growing is learning to recognize the
habits, patterns, thoughts and resistance we encounter when we
approach some of this unexplored terrain and choosing to meet it
with openness and curiosity vs censor and judgment. Oftentimes
embracing our darkness is easier than seeing our light­ and how
powerful it truly is. We can not know peace or be truly accepting
when in relationship w others until we accept and love all within
ourselves. It's all part of the lessons we're here to learn and grow
from. Instead of denying or wishing away aspects of ourself which
we don't think measure up or fit in­ we can try to embrace them w
gratitude­ softening in order to open so we may hear what it is we
need to be fully integrated into all that we are.
Embrace your warts and heart for both are equally necessary on
our journey as evolving human beings.

An open yet protected heart?! How do we accomplish this balance
without closing heart? Our heart is our most precious commodity
and as such it does require some protection. It can be damaged
and harmed by those who would squander or take the gift for
granted or who don't understand it. As a child we may have been
one to freely give our hearts away­ embracing strangers and telling
them we loved them. For some who were on the receiving end ­
this may have brought them to tears and shifted their day/life as a
result of receiving that unconditional love. For others the response
may have been quite nasty­ a shove, a yell , a rebuke which
brought the child to tears and heartache. Enough of these negative
encounters and a child could become guarded, reluctant to offer up
their love and perhaps even completely closed off to protect
themselves from harm.
There is a middle way. We can do quiet offerings of love from our
mind and heart. But even then we may have some individuals in
our lives we need to limit our engagement with­ either from a
distance or up close­ as they may take more from us than we have
or desire to give. We need to be mindful of maintaining our own
balance. We may see the light within another­ even though it may
be quite hidden away­ but we need to also see who they are in this
physical world. What is possible vs what is being expressed. We
honor the one while protecting ourselves from the other by being
neutral. Neutral does not =numb. Neutral is letting go of
expectations and attachments of how we desire another to be or
act. It is being a good keeper of the heart and tending to its light
and being mindful of what might dim it. Protected ,open heartedneutral.
Quite a practice!!
Namaste❤

We like to think we know how to communicate with others­but more
than likely what we're doing is just interacting or dialoguing with
them. When we interact we are usually acting and reacting to
various stimuli which influence our responses. With dialogue there
is an exchange of words­ a telling of 'our story'. True
communication, however, is a form of communion­ of connection.
We can only connect when we are fully present, in our heart spaceopening
and holding that space for another ­ so they can be feel
safe enough to speak from their heart space and be heard because
someone is truly listening ­ without an agenda or judgment.
How many of us do this for one another or have it done for us? I'm
pretty sure it's a rare practice..
To be able to hold this kind of space and step into it­ we need to be
doing our own work­ of connecting to the sacred space within
ourselves so we can bring our practice and work into the world.
This is a supreme act of bravery. But there is so much value in truly
seeing, hearing, opening ,being present for another­ because we
are connecting to something much bigger­ we are connecting to
that sacred presence within each one of us­ the energy which fuels
and created all that is.
One act of true communication today from each of us can shift us,
shift others and create a ripple shift around us. May we begin a
revolutionary practice of truly practicing communication as it's
meant to be practiced

Body, mind, spirit­ we are all 3­ all the time­ the question is­ how
well do we remember and act upon that remembrance in our lives?
It is a challenge to live integrated lives of body, mind and heart
when our world likes to isolate, separate, label the parts instead of
honoring the whole. We've been taught there are appropriate
places ,times, people , circumstances for an aspect or some
combination of the 3­but rarely is bringing all onboard endorsed.
Not only is it not supported­ it is very challenging to own and be
comfortable enough with ourselves that we are willing to share the
whole. Rejection is easier for part than all! (Or so we think!) to let
go of our fear of judgment from others requires we first begin to
ease up on ourselves and our self judgments, insecurities and self
doubts. As we practice accepting the whole of ourselves it becomes
easier to see and accept the whole of others. The reflections
coming back to us become kinder, more connected, more loving.
As we can own and embrace and share the whole of our being we
step into our power ­ we become empowered!

Self identity­ how do you describe/see yourself? Human nature is
such that we are defined outside ourselves­ by our relationshipswith
everything! With others, with our environment, with our mindhow
we perceive things, with our body. But I AM is our true
definition­ the relationship within ourselves with all that's possibleunlimited,
all encompassing.
We define and describe ourselves based upon the known and thus
limit ourselves to all that we are capable of being. Descriptions can
help with understanding or they can be boxes we choose to step
into. We can choose to venture into the realm of the possible ­ of
the as yet unknown, uncharted ­and go on a journey to discover
what I AM is! And oh what a journey it can be! Be brave! Be
curious! Be true to yourself! Be amazing! Be the All ­complete, all
in, no holding back in fear or limitation­ You!

26.
Forgiveness and trust­ don't necessarily go hand in hand.
Forgiveness is a choice to allow and expand our heart's capacity to
hold more love. It is a choice and a practice and a gift of grace we
open ourselves up to. It comes from within ourselves. Trust is
dependent upon another's choices and actions­ over which only they
have control. Trust is earned from accountability, follow thru,
repeated pattern of beneficial choices. Forgiveness of another can't
harm us, trusting one who hasn't chosen to make choices worthy of
earning that trust ­ can. Balancing a forgiving heart with kindness and
openness ­ our choice­ while being mindful of others being free to
make their own choices ­to learn their own lessons ­ which may come
at a toll to others ­is a challenge. Open yet protected heart. Is our
trust coming from our hopes and expectations of another­ or from
their actual choices? We can hold the space for possibilities with
kindness , open heartedness­and see if it becomes a garden in which
trust can grow.