CDM Issue 1

C O N T E N T S
Faith & heart
4 Spiritual Laws of dating
Preserving Values in Christian single dating
Counselling
7 Things your pastor didn’t tell you about dating
online Dating
Why Christian Dating sites are different from the others
Free Christian Dating Sites are they really free?
What you should know about Internet Dating Sites
relationship
Six things you should find out in a relationship
health & Wellbeing
3 Super Foods in the Bible for your Nutritional Diet
stepping out
Choosing the right meeting place for your first date
revieW -
Midnight Kiss: Simplifying Christian Dating
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editorial
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Faith & Heart
4 spiritual laws of dating
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There are four things any Christian should do if they are dating. I borrowed a name for the four
from the old mustard colored tract made so famous by Bill Bright’s organization, Campus Crusade for
Christ. I call them “The Four Spiritual Laws of Dating. Although they are pointed at Christians in general
I am sure they would work for anyone.
1. Keep All The Rules of The Scripture.
There are quite a few laws and rules set forth
in the scripture about dating. Keep them all.
Examples are, not having sex before marriage,
not being unequally yoked to unbelievers and
the study of the principles and examples of a
good marriage as set forth in the Bible. If you
don’t know what these things are then you
should be reading your Bible and seeking a
Pastor or good Christian counsellor to help you.
3. Take Your Time. Rome wasn’t built
in a day, but it is not Rome Satan is constantly
attacking. Marriage, especially good marriages
are under constant attack in today’s atmosphere
of throw away relationships. The breakup of the
established fabric of most societies is something
that prophecy predicts as one of the precursors
to a time of anarchy and the rule of the worlds
last dictator, the antichrist. Marriage is pretty
high on the list of things to destroy in Satan’s
agenda, don’t let him put yours on his list. Take
time to look to listen to weigh your choice, thus
giving God time to answer you back as you go.
2. Pray About Every Aspect of Your
Dating and Your Intention To Marry. This is
not simple or rudimentary advice it is absolute
bottom line essential advice. Miss this and you
have missed the boat. Pray about your potential
mate, pray with them and pray together with
others as well. God is always honoured when we
include him in all our intentions and decision.
To leave him out of such a major decision
(marriage) is ridiculous and could only be
insulting to God. Remember he is not just Jesus,
he is the Lord Jesus.
4. Ask Your Prospective Mate this All
Important Question. I wasn’t lucky enough to
have heard this advice when I was a young man.
I would have given a kingdom to acquire it and
I have never seen it fail anyone in many decades
of telling it to others. I originated this test but I
must say I was always sure it was God inspired.
You must pose the question within specific parameters for it to work. First you must be sure that
you tell your mate that this is a question that they might ask themselves if they were in a comfortable
place where they go to sit and meditate or pray. You are not asking the question, they are asking it of
themselves. No one accept the insane and fools would ever lie or try to deceive themselves. You would
ask them, if they were alone in a comfortable place, a place they liked to be in to think and pray, and if
they were to ask themselves one single question, what would their answer be, to themselves?
The question is. “If I could summarize in three sentences or less what I want out of life, what
would my answer be to myself.” Let them ponder this question, don’t rush the answer but take their
answer with utmost seriousness. People will rarely lie to themselves and the answer will be the truth

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almost without fail. If they say I just want to love and be loved, or I
just want some security in life, or I want to get the best things in life
or follow a career…those are the real and lasting answers, you can
count on it. If you should not marry that person but were to come
around to see them for a period of one or two or fifty years you would
see one thing, they would have found the things they told you they
wanted or they would still be looking for them.
What has all this got to do with anything? Only everything! By posing the question as outlined with
an honest person you will have boiled the forty gallons of sap it takes to make a quart of grade “A” maple
syrup. You can believe the answer; you can also be guided by the answer. That is, you can decide if the
answer conjuncts with your own answer to yourself about your own life.
Comparing all of the common likes and dislikes you have with your prospective mate or having
long intimate discussions is a good thing. But life is in motion; everyone has a direction real or perceived.
Find out what that direction is before marriage and you will not crash against it after you are married.
Whoso findeth a wife (mate) findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. Proverbs 18:22
*Taken from an original article by Bill Bright (Campus Crusade)
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Faith & Heart
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preserving values in Christian single dating
As Christians, we are used to being different
from those around us. We make different choices
about how we spend and prioritize our time. So it’s
no surprise that when it comes to Christian singles
dating, our choices are different as well. It can be
difficult to find partners, because of the differences
in values to non-Christian people. What a Christian
is looking for in a dating relationship is usually
different from what others are looking for.
The first c hallenge i n C hristian s ingles d ating is
finding the right person to date. Therefore, the first
place to look should be obviously in the church.
Ask around your congregation, and look in the
area for other congregations that you could visit.
Some may have single-specific a ctivities you
could attend.
Christian singles dating is made easier if you attend
Christian events outside the church. This certainly
doesn’t mean you give up your own church, but
you need to put yourself in places where you can
get acquainted with others that share your beliefs.
As one pastor said, you can’t marry someone you
never meet.
Another good way to meet others is to get
involved in service. There are lots of organizations
that serve. Some are connected to churches, but
others are community organizations. You’ll likely
find others who share your values and are interested
in Christian singles dating.
If the people you meet aren’t single, they will
likely have a Christian friend or relative who is
also single. The bible teaches us to ask and it shall
be given unto us. So, ask them if they know any
single they can recommend. Networking is the
way to get to know people. Just as it works for
business, it surely work for dating too.
it’s best to say so upfront. It will save hurt feelings
later.
Dating is the place to practice good
relationship skills. It’s important to look for the
best in a partner. Learn to compliment sincerely
and overlook minor difficulties.
However, dating is also the time to discover
exactly what you want in a partner. You may
discover your partner has different values and
commitments. It is good to identify those during
the dating process and decide if they are differences
you want to live with long term.
Christians should set limits on physical
contact. If you set limits up front, then you’ll find
you don’t have the physical desires cloud your
emotions and lead you to poor decisions you’ll
both regret.
Simple rules include always dating in public places
where lots of other people are around.
Prayer and meditation are also important
aspects to Christian singles dating. Ask about this
person and ask if the relationship is on track so you
can make great decisions about dating and life.
It’s important to let them know the kind
of relationship you are seeking. Many single
Christians want to find a life marriage partner. If
you are not interested in that kind of relationship,

8 ISSUE 1 2015 Counselling
7 things your pastor didn’t
tell you about dating
The problem of singleness in our churches is
getting to alarming rate. Many pastors and church
leaders have erroneously counselled and in some
instances preached against dating. Some pastors do
so in line with their church organisational
doctrine, while others are against it because
it a ‘worldly’ thing to do. Most single
members of churches where there are few spinsters
and bachelors feel
frustrated that they have limited
or no prospect of relationship and
marriage. The truth of the matter is
that as a Christian single, you have
an extended choice from the large
family of believers across your
town, city, and country.
In this article we’ll focus on
what I believe are the top seven points
that demystifies dating, that you may
never hear from the pulpit.
Dating is not Biblical
There are things floating around in the
church that have little or nothing to do with the
Bible. Dating is one of them. People didn’t date
in biblical times. Dating as a socially accepted
means of finding a mate has been around for less
than a century. Before then, the path to marriage
was strictly through the courtship route. Since
then, many erroneous information about dating
and Christianity has created a large churches full
of singles.
Of course, your head and your heart should
be in Scripture at all times, but you won’t find
specific guidelines for dating. However, there
are biblical principles that are essential in dating.
For example, there are biblical prescriptions for
gentleness, respect, sexual purity, and kindness
(Gal. 5:19; 23), you are bound to make much
better decisions in dating situations.
Dating is Fellowship
Dating is part of fellowship; the sharing of
aims and feeling of friendliness. In other words,
it is a big part of our Christianity as well as a
socialization process. Dating establishes social
confidence, helps people learn social skills like
manners, consideration for others, cooperation,
and conversation.
Dating involves learning about intimacy and
serves as an opportunity to establish a unique,
meaningful relationship with a person of the
opposite sex.
God created us to need interpersonal
relationships. In Genesis 2:18 it says, Then the
Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to
be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for
him.” As Adam and Eve demonstrate, no matter
how many friends we have, in order to fulfill our
deep need for love and affection, we need close
relationships with others, especially the opposite
sex.

Counselling
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Dating helps personality development and gender role play or trial
Personal identity is developed through
relationships with other people. The key
is successful relationships. When a dating
experience is successful it helps to build our
personality.
Men and women need to discover the kinds
of roles they find fulfilling in a close relationship.
This can only be accomplished in real-life
situations with the opposite sex. However, this
will only work if you do not allow the role play
enters into one too similar to marriage. The
Bible tells us to save sex for marriage (1Cor.
7:2). Premarital sex, obsessive discussions about
marriage, or too much time spent together can all
take the relationship to a level of intimacy that is
inappropriate for dating. If you go to these levels,
then your judgment of who the person is and what
the relationship is truly like will be clouded.
Dating can provide companionship and shared activities with the opposite sex
Loneliness is one of the worst of all
human conditions. It causes a person to feel
depressed, impatient, bored, self-depreciation,
and desperation as they feel panicked and
helpless. One of the best solutions to loneliness
is the establishment of meaningful relationships
with others. Why not consider group dates? You
can plan outings with friends, church groups, or
whatever there was, just to have more fun.
Doing things in groups can help you take
some of the pressure off, as well as reduce the
amount of expectations from you. With others
around, there would be plenty of great ideas for
having fun!
Dating helps you find the right mate
Dating can help you find a mate. If you
never date anyone, how can you know who is the
right one for you? Dating gives you the chance
to experience the opposite sex in at a closer
proximity, thereby allowing you to get to know
them better. Friendship and dating are are not the
same thing. There’s much more to it. The
emotional “heat” that occurs between people in
a romantic relationship can makes you feel
very happy and excited. It is however more
complicated than friendship.
You can use dating as a process of filtering
out or narrowing the field of eligible partners
down to a specific few and eventually to one
person who will be your mate for a lifetime.
You should get involved in other things
besides dating. You can enjoy yourself by being
involved in sports, gardening, etc. You can
always get involved with church, music groups,
writing, or any number of other fun activities.
Don’t just limit yourself to dating. This can
easily become more of a burden than a fun time.
This will allowed you to have something
other than a dating life, and perhaps something to
talk about when you eventually go on a date.
Dating can help prepare you for marriage
Dating is your opportunity to have a
relatively deep relationship with someone before
you commit to a lifetime of marriage. According
to developmental psychologist Dr. Erik
Erikson,romantic experiences (or dating) can play
an important role in helping you develop a personal
identity and intimacy. He felt dating likely helps
shape the course of future romantic relationships
and marriage. Dating can help couples acquire
and discover the needed knowledge and skills for
a successful marriage. For example, dating helps
to develop a better communication skills and
your ability to discuss and solve relational
problems. It can also increase your
understanding of each other’s attitudes and
behaviours.

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Dating can be fun!
Dating does not have to be scary,
intimidating, pressure packed, or anything else
but fun and enjoyable. What you have to do
is make an effort to make your dating years
enjoyable. It can be a source of enjoyment
and recreation. This is an end in itself because
couples want to relax and experience a form of
entertainment together.
Be careful about saying; I love you. As
a Christian, Jesus has helped us understand the
significance of love and how you don’t just want
to use it like it doesn’t mean anything.
When the word love is over-used, it can
become just another word and not actually
stand for anything significant anymore.
Don’t allow your dating life
to get so deep that the possible eventual break up
would be very unpleasant.
One aspect of your dating relationships
that you should not allow to get deep is the
physical nature of the relationship.. You should
never get pass first base, a s t hey say; i t will
help if eventually the dating ends. It makes the
breaking up easier and less messy.
The church has reached a difficult crossroads
when it comes to pre-marriage romance. God
promises that he will provide whenever we ask.
Rely on God’s love, wisdom, and
sustaining presence while you’re dating.
Though God won’t do the work for you, he’ll be
with you every step of the way.

Online Dating
Why Christian dating sites are
different from typical sites
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Who would have ever imagined that a great number of
Christian dating websites would be on the Internet? Even more
astounding; is the fact that they are still proliferating in great
numbers.
Mainstream society often, incorrectly, thinks of Christians
as people who are focused on religion and have little or no
interest in dating. However, Christians are human too. If you are
Christian, you know the stereotypes you have to face on a daily
basis. You also know the challenges involved in trying to find
someone special to date. Christian dating websites are
plentiful. Therefore, it is easier than ever
for you to find someone who has the same
beliefs, practices, and religious affiliations
as you do. If you are Christian and single
and would like to meet a special someone
with the characteristics mentioned above,
then you should seriously consider looking into some Christian dating websites.
When it comes to being Christian and dating, it is much easier to be in a relationship with someone
who shares the same devotion to God as you have. You’ll also find that most Christian dating websites
will not only help you to find a potential romantic interest, they will also allow you to make some terrific
friends and contacts. Christian dating websites can act as a gateway to find other Christians to network
and communicate with.
Nonetheless, it is still necessary that you choose the right Christian dating site with members that
are true Christians. There are lots of Christian dating websites on the net that are misleading, whether
intentional or accidental. That being said, you need to determine which ones are genuine and which ones
will give you the right kind of information, privacy, and security.
What factors should you consider when evaluating Christian dating websites? Here are a few suggestions:
- A good Christian dating site should have a declaration of faith. Since the site is supposed to be
dedicated to help Christians find other Christians for a possible date, a pronouncement of faith ensures
the site will live up to that purpose.
- A good Christian dating site has privacy guidelines. This ensures that your personal information
is kept in confidential and private.
- A good Christian dating site has an outlook of what a true Christian should be.
Even if the concept in its entirety is all about dating, the values and morals thought as a true.
Christian should always serve as a guiding principle for the benefit of the members and the overall look
and reputation of the site.
As a final point, Christian dating websites are created and designed for Christians, who want to
get acquainted with their fellow brothers and sisters. And hopefully, by becoming a member, find that
someone special to share their faith and life with.

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Free Christian dating sites:
are they really free?
There are thousands of online dating
services. But there are only a few of them which
fall under the category of Christian dating
services. While others can be costly, there are
some sites that provide services for free. Now
the common question to ask is: are these free
Christian dating services really free?
Yes, some free sites are true to their word.
They do not charge anything for their services.
There are others, though, which provide for free
trials for a particular period only, and any service
that they provide after that shall be for a fee.
While some sites clearly state that they charge
fees for subsequent services that they provide,
some sites can be deceiving. Take note of any
rider or clause that is included in the terms of
agreement that you assent to at the onset of
membership.
How do these dating services work?
First they ask you to register and be a member.
In doing so, you are asked to fill out an online
form, asking for some particulars about you.
Then they may provide you with a mailbox or
allow you to post a picture of yourself. Once
you are done with the registration process, you
become a member of these internet sites. You
now have access to their database. Here you
are able to browse through the profiles of other
members. If you find someone that interests you,
you may send an email or message to him or her.

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He or she then reads your message, checks your
profile, and may then respond to your email.
Once you’ve exchanged a couple of
correspondences, it is then your decision if you
want to be more personal with that person. You
may give other personal details or information
such as your address or phone number. But
remember to be careful always in giving out
information. Make sure that you get to know the
person first. Consider it a red flag if he seems to
avoid giving his own personal information.
You may then agree to meet in person.
This arrangement is now beyond the scope of
services that the websites provide. Again, be
cautious in meeting these people. Even if you’ve
exchanged emails or talked on the phone, it is
still impossible to know the person too well at
this stage.
The down side of these dating services is the
possibility of meeting scammers. While the
internet company may be diligent enough to
conduct background checks and interviews of
their members, some con artists can be very
professional that it would be difficult to spot
them. Some sites also include non-liability
clauses in the terms of agreement, so it would be
hard to make the service provider liable.
There are a couple of websites that provide
free Christian dating services in the internet.
Make sure you are able to distinguish which ones
are free and which ones are not. Surprisingly,
these free internet sites can actually provide for
the same services as those sites which charge
high rates. Keep in mind, though, that whatever
the site you choose, there is always the chance
of meeting con artists. In any case, always be
careful. As you trust your instincts, continue to
have an open mind. Your dream guy or girl can
be just a click of the mouse away.

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What you should know
about Internet dating sites
Internet dating or matchmaking services
give members the opportunity to look at all the
options and make a more informed decision
about whom they want to contact. Members of
these services are given the opportunity to take
the initiative and pursue the person he or she is
interested in meeting.
Most internet dating or matchmaking
web sites were created for people of any lifestyle,
however, many Christian singles realized that
meeting other eligible Christians could be quite
difficult. Christian Dating Sites emerged from
the need of Christian singles to contact other
Christian singles in their community. Like
other dating web sites, Christian dating sites
vary, depending on what the person is looking
for.
Some sites target a specific age
demographic, such as single Christians over 30
years old. Most sites, however, are for any age
and denomination. They vary in the way that
the questionnaire is set up and how people can
contact each other. Matchmaking and dating
services tend to work through questionnaires,
and they will ask both in-depth and general
questions.

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Some Christian dating sites are actual
matchmaking services that matches one
person’s profile with another. After the
person has filled out the questionnaire or
series of surveys, the site will match up the
person with a variety of potential dates
based on similar interests, demographics,
and psychographics.
This person can then peruse the list
of potential dates and decide whom to
contact. Most matchmaking sites like these
will also give members the opportunity
to perform their own searches based on
certain criteria. The site will then direct
them to the profiles of the other dating
service members that fulfill those criteria.
Other Christian dating sites do not match
profiles; rather, they encourage people to
register, post a profile, and browse other
members’ profiles.
The questions asked on these profile-building
pages are far more general than the
questionnaires on the matchmaking sites.
Anyone who is a member is able to contact
other members directly; either through a web
based email available through that service or
through other web-based tools.

Relationship
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Six things you should find out in a relationship
The early stage of relationship can
determine whether the two people involve would
be able to move close to marriage. Often, so
many singles just getting into a relationship rely
on the Online dating profile or friend’s word as
sufficient information to go by. It is important
to find out whether the person’s spiritual beliefs
as well as his or her view of life are compact-able
to your own. In any event, raising these issues
from the onset can help you know the general
condition of the other person’s Christian life.
1.Find out about how he or she received
Christ’s gift salvation.
In John 3:3 said Jesus; “Except a man be born
again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.”
Sharing and telling about your conversion is
perhaps one of the most important moment in a
true Christian’s life. It should be more significant
than even our birthday. So, ask the person to tell
you about his new-birth and you should get
ready to share too. If he or she can’t pinpoint
the time of conversion, or at least
the year in which it occurred, then it might not
have ever happened. Listen carefully when he
talks about his faith. Is he counting on his good
deeds, religious rituals, and winning smile to
get to heaven, or does he describe coming to the
point of recognizing his sinfulness, turning from
his own path in life, and receiving Christ as his
forgiver and leader?
2. Find out if he or she is spirit
controlled and self-controlled concerning the
future
Apostle Paul showed us how a purpose driven
believer should see life.. He said “Forgetting
what is behind and straining toward what is
ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the
prize for which God has called me heavenward
in Christ Jesus. So you should find out from
the person you are in relationship with If he or
she talk about seeking God’s direction for life
or is it all about him or her own will? Does he
or she have plans to serve God and the church in
some way? Is he or she focused on the
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or eternal significance? Does he or she want to
make a difference in the world for Christ?
3. Find out about immediate
gratification or satisfaction
Ask your date if he or she live out the
biblical teaching that sacrifice and struggle often
are necessary to achieve greater long-term goals?
Or does he or she pursue short-term pleasure at
the expense of long-term consequences? The
bible teaches us to forsake self-indulgent, selfcentered
living and to commit instead to purity,
love, giving, unselfishness, discipline, and
sometimes uncomfortable lifestyles. Only these
would bring us inner peace, fulfillment, and the
promise of better things to come in the future.”
4. Find out about interpersonal relationship
Our attitude toward other people can tell a lot
about us. Some people use others merely as
tools to get what they want. Find out if he or
she genuinely care about other people, whether
he or she is polite, good manners, and sincerely
respect others? How does he or she treat the less
fortunate in our society? Does he or she have a
sense of social justice to see the conditions for
the poor improved? Remember, the Bible says in
Proverbs 17:5, “He who mocks the poor, shows
contempt for their Maker”.
5. Find out if he or she exhibits the
traits of Jesus
We all know that nobody is perfect. Only Jesus as
a human lived a perfect sinless life on the earth.
As followers of Jesus Christ, we are required to
shows signs of becoming more like the master.
Therefore, a true Christian should not be known
to be miserly, spiteful, habitually unforgiving,
self-righteous, or arrogant. You should find out
if he or she forgives those who hurt him or her.
Is he or she generous toward others? Jesus spoke
out forcefully against pride, and Micah 6:8 says
that true spirituality involves walking humbly
with God. Humility is an attitude that is open to
new insights and has little concern about
inflating our ego. You should find out whether
the individual always have to be right? Does
he or she like to take credit or
praise, especially without acknowledging the
contributions of others? Does he or she constantly
put self first and think he or she knows better
than everyone else?
6. Find out about his mind
What a person feeds his or her mind is what the
person will eventually become. As Paul urged us;
“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind”.
Find out what kind of books he or she read, music
listen to, Internet sites visit, and movies watch?
The Bible in the Book of Proverbs, chapter
23, verse 7: say” As a man thinks in his
heart so is he”. The Bible also counsel us in
Mathew 12: 34; “out of the abundance of the
heart the mouth speaks” A true believer should
heed the advice of Paul to seek whatever is true,
whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is
pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable
- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think
about such things.
Finally, as we continually grow to become
more like Jesus, this is a process that varies
in pace from individual to individual and will
never be completed this side of heaven. Perhaps
these questions have even raised concerns
about some areas of your own life that you
need to address before God. As you seek
answers to these questions, be honest to
yourself, do not allow self-interest - such as
romantic feelings toward the other person fog an
otherwise clear thinking.

Health & Wellbeing
3 super Foods in the bible
for your nutritional Diet
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There are many foods in the Bible that has stood the test of time as very beneficial for our body.
God clearly wanted us to eat healthy and that is why he created these nutritious foods. In the Bible,
God made provision for all the foods He created from the very beginning: In Genesis 1:29-30
(Amplified version) God said, “See, I have given you every plant yielding seed that is on the face of
all the land and every tree with seed in its fruit; you shall have them for food”.
Here are three foods in the category of Fruits and Nuts from the bible and their proven nutritional benefits.
Almonds
Genesis 43:11 “And their father Israel
said unto them, If it must be so now, do this;
take of the best fruits in the land in your vessels,
and carry down the man a present, a little balm,
and a little honey, spices, and myrrh, nuts, and
almonds:”
Numbers 17:8 “And it came to pass, that on
the morrow Moses went into the tabernacle of
witness; and, behold, the rod of Aaron for the
house of Levi was budded, and brought forth
buds, and bloomed blossoms, and yielded
grapes
Genesis 40:10, 11 “And in the vine were
three branches: and it was as though it budded,
and her blossoms shot forth; and the clusters
thereof brought forth ripe grapes: And Pharaoh’s
cup was in my hand: and I took the grapes, and
pressed them into Pharaoh’s cup, and I gave the
cup into Pharaoh’s hand.”
Nehemiah 13:15 “In those days saw I in Judah
almonds.”
There any many goods reasons why
you should consider including almond in your
diet. The health benefits of almonds have been
documented for centuries and new research
is backing up many of the claims as a source
of minerals, vitamins, protein and fiber,
A handful of almonds, approximately one
ounce, contains one-eighth of our necessary daily
protein7. They are a source of vitamin E, copper,
magnesium, and high quality protein.
Almonds are the ingredients of several different
dishes. Almonds are available sliced, flaked,
slivered, as a flour, oil, butter, or as almond milk.
They may be eaten on their own, raw or toasted.
Almonds, along with nuts and seeds in general,
are often associated with improved levels of
blood lipids and good for reducing the risk of
heart disease
Recent developments on the health benefits
of almonds have shown that people who eat a
handful of nuts every day live longer than those
who do not eat them.

20 ISSUE 1 2015 Health & Wellbeing
some treading wine presses on the Sabbath,
and bringing in sheaves, and lading asses; as
also wine, grapes, and figs, a nd a ll m anner of
burdens, which they brought into Jerusalem on
the Sabbath day: and I testified against them
in the day wherein they sold victuals.”
The history of grapes goes back as far as
8,000 years, The potential health benefits
of consuming s this popular fruit are numerous.
Past studies have associated them with
prevention of cancer, heart disease, high
blood pressure and constipation. Other
studies have shown that increasing
consumption of plant foods like grapes
decreases the risk of obesity and overall
mortality. Grapes have earned its “super food”
Olives
status due to some special components that make
them even more essential to our health. Grapes
may slow or prevent many types of cancer,
including esophageal, lung, mouth, pharynx,
endometrial, pancreatic, prostate and colon.
The high polyphenol content in grapes may
also reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease
(CVD) Grapes are recommended to those with
high blood pressure to help negate the effects of
sodium in the body.
Eating foods like grapes, watermelon and
cantaloupe that are high in water content can
help to keep you hydrated and your bowel
movements regular. Grapes also contain fiber,
which is essential for minimizing constipation.
Judges 15:5 “And when he had set the
brands on fire, he let them go into the standing
corn of the Philistines, and burnt up both the
shocks, and also the standing corn, with the
vineyards and olives.”
Deuteronomy 6:11 “And houses full of all good
things, which thou filledst not, and wells digged,
which thou diggedst not, vineyards and olive
trees, which thou plantedst not; when thou shalt
have eaten and be full;”
Olives are one of the few foods of the world
that naturally contain four basic flavours: bitter,
sweet, salty and acidic. Olives taste delicious and
also have excellent nutritional qualities, They
are easy to digest due to their high fibre content
and contain plenty of minerals and nutrients. For
centuries, the fruits, and oil extracted from them,
have been part of important food sources for the
natives around Mediterranean Sea .
In addition to providing energy, they are compose
of significant amounts of plant-derived antioxidants,
minerals, phyto-sterols, and vitamins.
A good amount of vitamin E. 100 a powerful lipid
soluble antioxidant, found in Olives are required
for maintaining the integrity of cell membrane of
mucusa and skin by protecting it from harmful
oxygen-free radicals..
In addition, Olives contain good amounts of
minerals like calcium, copper, iron, manganese,
and zinc. They are equally small sources of
B-complex vitamins such as niacin, choline, and
pantothenic acid.
A large variety of foods for a healthy diet are
documented from the pages of God’s Word!
Find out more in the next issue.

Stepping out
ISSUE 1 2015
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Choosing the right meeting place
for your first date
A great first date starts with choosing the
right place to meet. This can be more challenging
because your date is more or less a complete
stranger. The right choice will win you a second
date before you even open your mouth to ask.
Therefore, there is nothing wrong with a little
strategy deployed with skill.
When deciding where to meet, consider
somewhere public as a good start!
Dates are about getting to know someone,
so movies are not usually the best choice. You can
suggest attending a fun church event together.
Choose activities like sports, hiking, amusement
parks, and museums. Keep it fun, casual and
simple.
Choose somewhere where you can
casually chat and feel comfortable, rather than a
rowdy environment.
Choosing a first-date restaurant is the most
stressful, high-stakes decision you’ll ever have
to make. There are some really fun places out
there with menus to enjoy.. Many modern pubs
offer a really extensive menu and great dining
experience.
The atmosphere of the restaurant you
choose would impact on the atmosphere of the
date, so make sure it’s comfortable or perhaps
a talking point in itself. Here are some simple
guides to help you know whether your choice of
meeting venue is an ideal first-date place.
You will know when:
1) The noise level isn’t too quiet or too
loud. No need to scream on a first date.
2) There’s no wait time if you are making
a reservation. This will help you avoid awkward
standing and waiting conversation.
3) The lighting is pleasant, not too bright
or too dark. Consider a venue that offers outdoor
seating
4) The restaurant offers variety of dishes
other than salads in their menu.
Always remember that the meeting place
you choose is the first thing this stranger will
learn about you getting it right and you can be
assured of another outing. However, if it goes
terribly wrong, no matter what you say or do
during the date, you should count the dating
unsuccessful.
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Book Review
Midnight Kiss: Simplifying Christian Dating
by Casey Moore
ISBN: 0984372636
Publisher: One Message, Inc.
Midnight Kiss is a practical observation about
the all-so-important area of dating and relationships.
In a world where singles are constantly bombarded
with lists of “how-to’s”, “do’s & don’ts” and advice
on finding a soul mate, it is easy to think that if you
are single you must be doing something wrong.
This book offers refreshing encouragement
for singles by helping to free them from false guilt
and reminds them that the focus really should be on
having a right relationship with God by living in the
“Yielded Zone”. One of the key elements the book is
the message of grace. It is obvious that two people
starting a relationship will both certainly have some
imperfections (past mistakes, high expectations,
etc.), but the real test of a true relationship is whether
they are growing together in Christ likeness.
The author, Casey Moore really bring Christian dating back to its roots with Midnight Kiss.
The biblical approach will help change the reader’s outlook on dating.
Moore put forward a well-developed explanation of the risks and dangers as well as presents
a strong case for a simplified dating approach that’s an extension of our relationship with God and
our spiritual lives. Although the book is a bit longer than many others in its genre, but it full of fun,
examples and stories that make it more real. Very helpful and refreshing read!

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Christian Dating resources
Conflict-Free Living: How to Build
Healthy Relationships for Life -
Slightly Imperfect
Is it possible to keep
conflict out of your
relationships---and your
thoughts, words, and
attitudes? Meyer believes the
answer is “yes”!
Discover how every area of
your life can be set free from
strife---even your morning
commute!---and learn to
pursue health, happiness, and
tranquillity.
Price:£9.99
By: Joyce Meyer
CHARISMA HOUSE PAPERBACK
ISBN: 1616386517 No. of Pages: 240
The Right One: How to
Successfully Date and Marry the
Right Person
Looking for Mr. or Mrs.
Right? Grab this trustworthy
guide! Offering nonsense
biblical advice, Evans and
Martin show you how to
set healthy and realistic
expectations; date with
purpose and intention;
recognize relational red flags;
communicate effectively;
overcome conflict; assess
compatibility; engage in open
and honest discussion; and
more.
Price: £14.70
By: Jimmy Evans, Frank Martin
HARDCOVER
ISBN: 0991482050 No. of Pages: 212
Boundaries in Dating
Dating scene got you down?
Try a new approach! Discover
how to take responsibility for
your life, behavior, and values
as God intended. Organized
by principles such as honesty,
freedom, and respect, this
guid e helps you develop selfcontrol
and intimacy in
healthy dating relationships
so you’re better able to find
and commit to a marriage
partner.
Price: £9.90
By: Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend
ZONDERVAN / 2000 / PAPERBACK
ISBN: 0310200342
The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating
“Am I the person my future
spouse is looking for?” “Are
the Bible’s teachings about
women relevant today?” “If
sex is only physical, why is
the pain of sexual sin so
deep?”
Offering straight-talking
answers to tough questions,
Stanley helps men and women
avoid relational self-sabotage
and prepare to say “I do” -
and mean it.
Price: £8.90
By: Andy Stanley
ZONDERVAN PAPERBACK
ISBN: 0310342198 No. of Pages: 207

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How to Ruin Your Dating Life: A
Christian’s Guide for Avoiding
[Almost] Every Mistake in the Book
Contemporary Christian
singles often answer the door
with the question, “Is this the
one?” With wit and wisdom,
Turner and Pomarolli show
anxious guys and gals how
to relax and simply enjoy an
evening out - without
simultaneous frantic prayers,
analysis of each other’s
behavior, marital status
worries, and other pitfalls!
Price: £8.99
By: Matthew Paul Turner, Kerri Pomarolli
NAVPRESS PAPERBACK
ISBN: 1600061397 No. of Pages: 208
Holding Hands, Holding Hearts:
Recovering a Biblical View of
Christian Dating
Geared toward single adults
rather than teenagers,
Recovering a Biblical View of
Christian Dating attempts to
answer the question, “What
does the Bible say about
dating?” The fact is that
dating is a twentieth-century
notion so the challenge is to
think biblically about a matter
on which there is no direct
teaching
Price:£7.90
By: Richard D. Phillips, Sharon L. Phillips
P & R PUBLISHING / PAPERBACK
ISBN: 0875525202
In Search of a Help Meet:
Finding the Right One
Choosing your life’s partner
is the most important and
life directing decision you
will ever make. Finding that
perfect woman is a difficult
art or maybe a far-out
gamble. Making a good
choice starts with
knowledge of what you
need. Do you know
yourself? Do you know what
to look for in the girl of your
dreams so she does not
become the source of your
nightmares? In Search of a
Help Meet offers a clear, focused plan for becoming a
man of honor, getting primed for marriage and guidance
in your search for the perfect mate.
price: £12.50
Michael Pearl
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isbn: 1616440503 no. of pages: 248
10 great Dates
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10 Great Dates Before You
Say “I DO” is a unique
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and engaged couples
strengthen their relationship.
Couples will soon discover
whether or not to go to the
next level of commitment, and
will spend quality time
together now while preparing
for a great marriage in the
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Price: £5.49
By: David Arp, Claudia Arp
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ISBN: 9780310316121
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14 Secrets to Better
Relationships: Powerful
Principles from the Bible
In 14 Secrets to Better
Relationships, author Dave
Earley distills wisdom from
the ancient book of
Ecclesiastes through the
New Testament letters of
Paul to help readers discover
secrets to improve their
interactions with others.
God’s Word provide divine
direction for good
relationships. It’s never too
late to learn!
Price: £6.40
By: Dave Earley
More in 14 Bible Secrets Series
BARBOUR / PAPERBACK
ISBN: 1620297140 No. of Pages: 254
Dating After Divorce: Preparing
for a New Relationship
Looking for Mr. or Mrs.
Right? Grab this trustworthy
guide! Offering nononsense
biblical advice, Evans and
Martin show you how to
set healthy and realistic
expectations; date with
purpose and intention;
recognize relational red flags;
communicate effectively;
overcome conflict; assess
compatibility; engage in open
and honest discussion; and
more.
Price: £9.49
By: David Frisbie, Lisa Frisbie
BEACON HILL PRESS / PAPERBACK
ISBN: 0834128829 No. of Pages: 192
True Love Dates: Your
Indispensable Guide to Finding
the Love of your Life
In True Love Dates, Debra
Fileta encourages singles not
to ‘kiss dating goodbye’ but
instead to experience a season
of dating as a way to find real
love. Grounded in Christian
spirituality, True Love Dates
delivers insight, direction, and
counsel that will help you
bypass unnecessary pain
while focusing on the things
that really matter in the world
of dating.
Price: £9.90
By: Debra Fileta
ZONDERVAN / 2013 / PAPERBACK
ISBN: 0310336791 No. of Pages: 224
Who Should I Date? Relationship
Advice for the Real World
Who should you date? You
might be drawn to someone
who is fun, good looking, and
interested in the same things
you are, but even more
important than what’s on the
surface is what someone is
like inside. This book will
lead to great conversations
about the most important
things in life-your faith and
how you express that faith in
your relationships with others.
Price: £23.50
By: William P. Smith
NEW GROWTH PRESS /PAPERBACK
ISBN: 1935273000 No. of Pages: 32
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Is This The One?: Insightful
Dates for Finding the Love of
Your Life
Want to avoid the pain and
ugliness of divorce? Then make
the decision to marry only after
following Steve Arterburn’s
spiritually based, yet streetsmart
plan outlined in Is This
the One? This “how to”
strategy for happier, stronger
marriages was developed to
help everyone - from casual
daters to marriage-bound
couples - clarify priorities and
expectations and choose a
partner who will go the
distance.
Price: £23.70
By: Steve Arterburn
ZONDERVAN / 2012 / PAPERBACK
ISBN: 031033571X No. of Pages: 240
Dating With Pure Passion
Devastated by a broken
relationship and longing
for a true and lasting love,
Rob Eager began an intense
search that led him to the
source of true fulfillment.
With his compelling personal
testimony and thoroughly
scriptural teaching, he
encourages readers to stop
chasing romance and sex and
to pursue their heart’s deepest
desire--the truly passionate
love of Jesus Christ.
Price: £9.90
By: Rob Eagar
HARVEST HOUSE / PAPERBACK
ISBN: 0736916709 No. of Pages: 250
Single Parent’s Guide to Love,
Dating, and Relationships:
Finding Love in all the Right Places
As a single mom raising
a son, author Shae Cooke
experiences the parent/child
struggle - as well as the
possibilities - every day.
With wit, humor, and
transparency, The Single
Parent’s Guide to Raising
Godly Children offers
practical, realistic, and
proactive suggestions and
resources to help relieve the
worry and guilt so
often associated with single
childrearing.
Price: £8.99
By: Shae Cooke
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ISBN: 076843663X
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The Ten Commandments of Dating:
Time-Tested Laws for Building
Successful Relationships
(revised and updated)
Who should you date? You
might be drawn to someone
who is fun, good looking, and
interested in the same things
you are, but even more
important than what’s on the
surface is what someone is
like inside. This book will
lead to great conversations
about the most important
things in life-your faith and
how you express that faith in
your relationships with others.
Price:£14.90
By: Ben Young, Dr. Samuel Adams
THOMAS NELSON / PAPERBACK
ISBN: 0785289380 No. of Pages: 209
God Is a Matchmaker: Seven
Biblical Principles for Finding
Your Mate, revised and expanded
In God Is a Matchmaker, Derek
and Ruth Prince share seven
biblical principles for finding
your mate. Sharing their own
real life love story and full
of inspiring testimonies from
others who followed these
principles and found their
perfect match, this book reveals
God’s pattern for marriage. The
book also offers special counsel
for parents, youth leaders,
pastors, and counsellors.
Price: £19.90
By: Derek Prince, Ruth Prince
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Dating In The Kingdom Of God: A
guide to Christian Dating
Relationships for Christian Singles
Waiting and Dating: A Sensible
Guide to a Fulfilling Love
Relationship
The foundation for a healthy,
Godly marriage begins while
dating. Our challenge is to
think biblically about an
activity that isn’t in the
bible…Our approach is to
take the biblical principles of
a healthy marriage and work
backwards to a healthy dating
relationship.
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Dating, Dr. Munroe offers a
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every believer who wants a
prosperous and fulfilling
marriage relationship.
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