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What Parents Need to Know about Aussie Teenagers:<br />

10 ways to help your kids thrive<br />

4<br />

Pornography, peer pressure, perfectionism to<br />

conform to social media, split families, self-harm,<br />

parental pressure to succeed, cyber bullying<br />

and gaming are all concerns of teenagers today,<br />

according to the ABC 4Corners documentary Our<br />

Kids.<br />

In a telling episode, Australian kids from the age of 12<br />

year to 19 years shared a glimpse of their inner world and<br />

what their hopes, fears and dreams are for the future.<br />

While many of the concerns are not dissimilar to<br />

previous generation of teenagers, the explosion<br />

of social media has expanded the horizons of our<br />

teenagers and is having a dire impact on their selfimage,<br />

increased exposure to world events such as<br />

terrorism and over use of technology.<br />

Cyber bullying is wreaking havoc with teenage<br />

girls as well as the pressure to conform to the<br />

perfection that girls are seeing their friends on<br />

Instagram, Snapchat or Tumblr. A twelve year old<br />

girl in the program told of her need to belong to<br />

the ‘in group’ and used social media to compare<br />

herself to others – to make sure she had the latest<br />

white converse, the triangle bikini and Marc Jacob<br />

jeans and watch.<br />

Another concern for teenagers was the added<br />

pressure of parents wanting their kids to do well<br />

at school. These kids were concerned that their<br />

parents are putting huge, unnecessary pressure on<br />

kids to succeed at school as well as to participate<br />

in an ever increasing amount of extracurricular<br />

activities and tutoring. One girl talked about how<br />

she was in the top maths group but her mum<br />

doubted her. ‘I’m going to fail every test according<br />

to mum’.<br />

An alarming statistic in the program revealed that<br />

30 per cent of 11-17 year old boys spend up to<br />

3 hours a day gaming – more on weekends and<br />

it is affecting boys ability to use their time well.<br />

One boy said ‘I don’t have time for homework’.<br />

They are mostly playing the game ‘call of duty’<br />

against each other in virtual online worlds and<br />

while gaming can have positive ramifications to<br />

help kids think outside the box, problem solve<br />

and build a community, there needs to be strong<br />

boundaries and rules in place from the parents<br />

to balance it with other activities, including<br />

homework and sport.<br />

The major concern for this age group, especially<br />

among girls is the widespread use of self-harm.<br />

Self-harm is dubbed the ‘new anorexia’ and<br />

scarily enough this age group do not see it as<br />

dysfunctional because it is so rife. Around 135,000<br />

kids have self-harmed this past year. It is strongly<br />

related to poor mental health and can take its toll<br />

on all aspects of the teenager’s life.<br />

Mental health in our teenagers today is at an alltime<br />

low with one in four teens currently have<br />

a mental health condition (including anxiety,<br />

depression and substance abuse) and a quarter<br />

also saying they are unhappy with their lives.<br />

Access to pornography is altering the view boys<br />

have of girls. By the age of 10, every boy will have<br />

seen porn online and this is impacting on sexual<br />

relationships and intimacy between boys and girls.<br />

The common thread throughout the episode that<br />

relieved stresses and pressures in teenager’s lives<br />

was physical activity and strong relationships.<br />

So what role can parents play in the lives of their children<br />

to ensure they thrive though the teenage years?<br />

1. Start early<br />

By the time your child is a teenager, you have<br />

already sown the seeds of independence,<br />

love, trust, respect, good mental health,<br />

resilience, confidence, self-esteem and habits<br />

around technology. You have already built<br />

your relationship and while none of these are<br />

irreparable with a teenagers, they are easier to<br />

develop from the moment our children are born,<br />

than to suddenly input when your children are<br />

teenagers.<br />

2. Build a solid relationship from the start<br />

Extensive and widespread research shows that<br />

building a strong parent-child bond early is the<br />

number one factor to raising a resilient child.<br />

When a child feels loved, nurtured and a sense<br />

of significance and belonging from just one<br />

adult (ideally a parent or parent figure), they<br />

have stronger mechanisms to bounce back from<br />

adverse situations than their counterparts who<br />

have formed negative or no relationships with an<br />

adult and to make good decisions. The relationship<br />

starts the very moment you hold your child in your<br />

arms and it looks at you. Right from that moment,<br />

you are forming an important bond that will last<br />

a lifetime. Like any relationship, it needs to be<br />

nurtured and effort needs to be fed into it to make<br />

it work. One on one time is important, speaking<br />

respectfully, building the relationships on love and<br />

cuddles, creating micro moments of connection<br />

and acknowledging how special your child is<br />

to you, are all important in building a strong<br />

relationships.


3. Set clear boundaries and expectations<br />

Just like adults, children are creatures of habit and<br />

love to follow rules when they are young. If you<br />

can set clear boundaries and expectations early,<br />

they will know exactly where they stand with you<br />

and in their environment. You will help them make<br />

sense of the world around them, form good habits<br />

and ideally make good choices when faced with<br />

everyday problems. When you set the boundaries<br />

and expectations, be consistent. Follow through on<br />

what you say and let your child feel safe and secure<br />

in their environment with you.<br />

4. Be the role model<br />

As a parent, you are your child’s first role model.<br />

If you have watched your children closely for a<br />

few hours or listened to them speak, you will hear<br />

and see snippets of your most common sayings<br />

or mannerism come out in their play time or voice<br />

as they mimic you. Provide your child with an<br />

environment and role model that is upbeat and<br />

gives your child hope and a positive attitude to<br />

move through their day. Young children react to<br />

whatever mood or state of mind you are in. If you<br />

are always stressed and in a hurry, they will pick<br />

up the vibe and develop a similar habit. Take time<br />

to stop and be with your kids. Have fun with them<br />

at the park or at the beach. Take them on nature<br />

walks. Think of who you needed around you when<br />

you were a child and be that person.<br />

5. Meet children in the moment<br />

Children live in the moment so meet them there.<br />

Don’t overload them with your own stresses and<br />

worries we carry with us as adults, both past and<br />

present. A child’s biggest concern in their day are<br />

generally meeting their own basic needs – food,<br />

water, sleep, safety and love. Meet your kids there.<br />

6. Don’t over catastrophize the situation<br />

The part of the child’s brain that deals with<br />

emotions and rational decision making is<br />

underdeveloped. The prefrontal cortex doesn’t<br />

fully develop until the age of 22. However, as adults<br />

we already have a fully functioning rational brain.<br />

We need to use our skills to calm a situation down<br />

and don’t over catastrophize it. Because of an<br />

underdeveloped brain as a child, their response is<br />

irrational and so through words, actions and role<br />

modelling we can use our rational brain to invoke<br />

calm and coping strategies for certain situations<br />

that doesn’t result in a full blown catastrophe.<br />

7. Let children experience disappointment<br />

Our natural propensity as a parent is the ‘fix’.<br />

However, if we continue to fix every disappointment<br />

our child faces, they are not going to develop their<br />

own strategies to cope with the ups and downs<br />

of life and the disappointment that results from<br />

that. So ‘be’ with your child when they experience<br />

disappointment and tell them how much is sux that<br />

they didn’t get into the cricket team or the choir.<br />

Problem solve ways to help them get over it.<br />

8. Recognise emotions and strategies to deal with them<br />

By helping a child recognise their own emotions<br />

and develop strategies to deal with them, we are<br />

allowing them to again navigate the ups and downs<br />

of life. The big emotions that press parent’s buttons<br />

are anger, frustration and sadness that generally<br />

result in an emotional outburst in some form from<br />

our child. Let your child experience these emotions,<br />

name them and put strategies in place to deal with<br />

them. Assure your child it is OK if they feel these<br />

emotions as long as they know how to move on<br />

from them.<br />

9. Shape a positive inner critic<br />

For good mental health, we need to help our<br />

children develop a positive inner critic. They<br />

need to be self-confident and self-assured to<br />

back themselves in difficult situations and to<br />

make good choices. By teaching our children<br />

to love themselves and be kind to themselves,<br />

we are setting them up for being able to deal<br />

with setbacks, making mistakes and failure. To<br />

encourage self-confidence, our children need to<br />

feel a sense of significance. Let them perform that<br />

dance concert with bad dance moves and terrible<br />

music. Let them experience new things and take<br />

risks. Let them say no and assert themselves and<br />

learn from that experience. And use positive selftalk<br />

yourself – don’t criticize yourself in front of<br />

your children.<br />

10. Discipline with respect and love<br />

Every children will need discipline at some point<br />

and some more than others. When you are<br />

disciplining your child, remember it is the behaviour<br />

you are correcting – not the child. Don’t shame<br />

them or criticize them as a person. Speak to your<br />

child like you would talk to your best friend or your<br />

work colleague – with respect. Give lots of cuddles<br />

and use discipline as a teachable moment to learn<br />

from rather than a time to berate or shame.<br />

Anna Partridge is a Parent Education, School Teacher and Mother to<br />

3 kids. She is passionate about working with families to help them<br />

raise confident and resilient children.<br />

http://www.annapartridge.com<br />

About Anna:<br />

Anna Partridge is<br />

a certified Positive<br />

Discipline Parent<br />

Educator, a school<br />

teacher and a mother to<br />

three highly spirited, beautiful children. She<br />

loves nothing more than helping parents<br />

raise resilient and confident children, build<br />

strong and connected family relationships<br />

and strive for calm, fun and happy families.<br />

http: /annapartridge.com/


June was an exciting month (in more ways than one) for the band<br />

program. We had a band camp booked and an upcoming mid-year<br />

concert, which is the first real opportunity for parents to hear how our<br />

young musicians are progressing this year.<br />

The weekend of band camp, unfortunately, coincided with an extreme<br />

weather event and on Sunday 5 June, day 1 of band camp the bus set off<br />

for the venue in Chatswood, only to be turned back due to flood waters.<br />

So with some quick thinking, it was decided to bring the students back to<br />

the school hall and run the band camp at school for the 3 days.<br />

Special mention should be made of the terrific efforts of our conductor<br />

Megan Lipworth, the school staff (Susan Allen, Caroline Antoun and<br />

Michael Brown) for their support, guidance and ability to solve the many<br />

logistical problems we encountered over the three days.<br />

Also, in particular, there were some outstanding helpers in the band<br />

committee (GulerErdonmez, NageswariSivarajah, Samantha De Costa,<br />

Sarah Brill, Shilpi Joshi, Wanda Blum), for their support and generous help<br />

preparing meals for all the children attending the camp. And of course, a<br />

big thank you to all the parents for their patience, flexibility and support<br />

in accommodating the changed plans.<br />

The band camp was a huge success with our CPB learning three new<br />

pieces, that were refined with intensive tutorials and rehearsals over the<br />

three days. We are all looking forward to hearing the CPB perform at the<br />

upcoming mid-year concert in the school hall at 5pm on Saturday 18<br />

June, where the training band will also perform.<br />

6


Randwick Public School P&C<br />

Positions vacant<br />

Fundraising Coordinator and team<br />

The P&C fundraising coordinator works<br />

closely with senior school staff, the school<br />

community and P&C executive to organise<br />

and communicate fundraising and special<br />

events for the school. Each year we aim<br />

to raise approximately $50,000 - $70 000<br />

and the expenditure is allocated to various<br />

programs at the AGM. Over the past year,<br />

the P&C has paid for literacy and numeracy<br />

programs, student leadership programs,<br />

band expenditure, kitchen garden program,<br />

digital citizenship program and supported<br />

many other areas of our children’s education.<br />

We are looking for a P&C fundraising<br />

coordinator to commence from the next<br />

AGM (November <strong>2016</strong>). We are also<br />

looking for a small team of people to<br />

take on the following annual events and<br />

responsibilities:<br />

<strong>Term</strong> 1<br />

Back to school BBQ – organises logistics,<br />

communications/promotion materials and<br />

co-ordinates with the stall managers.<br />

Easter Raffle - organises ticket & prizes,<br />

communications/promotion materials and<br />

logistics. This event would suit a small<br />

team of parents.<br />

<strong>Term</strong> 2<br />

Olympathon (or similar) – school staff<br />

organise the logistics and we support<br />

them by finding volunteers and setting up<br />

flexischools to collect money.<br />

<strong>Term</strong> 3<br />

Artwork fundraiser – order and distribute<br />

the art paper templates to the teachers,<br />

distribute order forms to parents,<br />

communications/promotion, set up<br />

flexischools for payment.<br />

Trivia night – as this will be Adriana’s last<br />

year organising our fabulous Trivia night,<br />

we are forming a small team to manage<br />

the event. Please contact Lindy Walsh at<br />

lindywalsh@gmail.com if you are interested<br />

in joining the team or finding out more!<br />

<strong>Term</strong> 4<br />

End of year BBQ – as for Back to school<br />

BBQ but on a larger scale.<br />

Each event in itself is not a huge<br />

undertaking and you will be supported<br />

with a full handover and assistance<br />

from the fundraising coordinator where<br />

required. If you are interested in running<br />

one of the above events or would like<br />

to find out more about the fundraising<br />

coordinator’s role, please contact the<br />

following people:<br />

Sue Hammermaster/Leanne Bergan:<br />

randwick.pc.fundraising@gmail.com<br />

Terry Daley, P&C President:<br />

randwick.pc.president@gmail.com


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P&C<br />

President’s Report<br />

The new school accommodation plans<br />

The plans for the new school have been lodged with<br />

Randwick Council. We are very excited to be able<br />

to share one of the elevation drawings with you. If<br />

you want to see more you can go to the DA section<br />

of the Randwick Council website, and search for<br />

DA-338/<strong>2016</strong>.<br />

The construction is currently targeted to commence<br />

in September. We are currently in negotiation with<br />

the Education Department over the allocation of<br />

new playground space between Randwick Public<br />

and The Centennial School. We will report back on<br />

the outcome of those discussions.<br />

The P&C needs your help<br />

For the past three to four years the school has been<br />

incredibly fortunate to have the dedicated support<br />

of a core group of committee members. With how<br />

effortlessly this team has functioned, we have never<br />

been had to make a cry for help like this before.<br />

Unfortunately we are losing a large number of<br />

volunteers this year, and that is where you come in.<br />

We are desperately seeking some replacement<br />

volunteers to fill the following positions.<br />

• Fundraising coordinator: Sue Hammermaster has<br />

spent four very successful years as the heart of our<br />

successful fundraising. She is more than happy<br />

to work on a smooth transition to one or more<br />

replacements. This role is the very heart of our P&C.<br />

• P&C Secretary: Leanne Bergan has held the<br />

position of Secretary for three years, and as<br />

much as we want her to continue, the rules do<br />

not allow it. So we really need someone who<br />

can support the executive. Typing skills would<br />

be helpful.<br />

• Uniform Shop: For the past few years the<br />

uniform shop has never been in better shape.<br />

Mindy Alker has performed an amazing job as<br />

the uniform shop coordinator. She could not<br />

have done this without the help of the uniform<br />

shop committee members: Mike Faulkner,<br />

VickeyMoyes, Edwina Stratton, Liz O’Connell,<br />

and Aarti Daly. They have all decided that it is<br />

time to hand over the reigns. You do not have<br />

to commit to every week and you don’t need<br />

experience.<br />

If you were to ask them, each one of those wonderful<br />

volunteers would say how rewarding their stints in<br />

the P&C have been. It really allows you to become<br />

part of our very warm school community, and help<br />

your kids at the same time.<br />

I would encourage each of you to give some<br />

consideration to making a contribution in whatever<br />

capacity. We would love to hear from you. Please<br />

send your details to randwick.pc.secretary@gmail.<br />

com and we will happily discuss the options and<br />

what’s involved.<br />

Working Bee<br />

You may be aware, but the recent wet weather<br />

literally put a dampener on the planned Working<br />

Bee, so it has been re-scheduled for Sunday 24th of<br />

July. It would be great if you could come along to<br />

help keep the school in tip-top condition. Even one<br />

hour would be greatly appreciated.<br />

Terry Daly<br />

Randwick P&C<br />

President


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Kitchen Garden News<br />

Due to the recent wet and cold weather and with building works looming, we<br />

have organized respite on a farm for our goats, Thelma and Louise. While the<br />

goats have been a source of enjoyment for many of us we felt it was only fair to<br />

them to give them some peace and quiet for a while.<br />

I’d like to take this opportunity to thank everyone who has been involved in the<br />

care of our goats and to everyone else who enjoyed and supported having them<br />

at the school.<br />

We are hopeful that once building work is nearing completion we can look to<br />

organize better accommodation for them and consider bringing them back to<br />

the school.<br />

In the meantime we have plenty of chickens who are most interested in your<br />

scraps, a pond rehabilitation project marked for the next working bee, new seedlings<br />

growing in the greenhouse, and a steaming compost that is also willing to<br />

take your scraps should you wish to bring them in (and would never say no if you<br />

felt like a bit compost turning).


Take a back seat Hollywood,<br />

RPS’s very own cast of multitalented<br />

Stage 3 students<br />

have finally hit the STAGE<br />

and ……………WHAT AN<br />

EVENT IT WAS!<br />

HSM<br />

Comes to<br />

Randwick<br />

Public<br />

School<br />

Jocks, Brainiacs, Thespians and Skater<br />

Dudes find their cliques, recount their<br />

vacations and look forward to their<br />

new school year. Through twists and<br />

turns and many teenage challenges,<br />

the whole school comes together as<br />

winners on stage and on the court as<br />

the Wildcats win the championship<br />

game and Gabriella excels at the<br />

Decathalon. Troy and Gabriella (aka<br />

Will and Jessamy), emerge as true<br />

High School Musical sensations after<br />

stage darlings Sharpay and her overly<br />

helpful brother, Ryan (aka Millie and<br />

David) try to wreak havoc! And let’s<br />

not forget quirky Ms. Darbus (aka Mila)<br />

the matriarch of theatre and of course<br />

Coach ….’Getcha head in the Game’<br />

Bolton (aka Archie). 13


Why we should be worried about our kid’s mental health:<br />

Insights from Education and Parenting Leaders<br />

At the Sydney Positive Schools Conference on<br />

Thursday 9th June <strong>2016</strong>, well known parenting<br />

expert, psychologist and educator, Michael Carr-<br />

Gregg said that on average 8 kids in every class<br />

in Australian schools is currently experiencing a<br />

mental health issue. Alarm bells should be ringing.<br />

If that’s not enough, coupled with this statistic is the<br />

research that shows 41 per cent of Year 12 students<br />

experience some form of anxiety and 31 per cent<br />

have major depressive disorders. Australia is also<br />

experiencing it’s highest rate of suicide in 13 years.<br />

For girls aged between 16 and 19 years, suicide rates<br />

have doubled since 2008. Right now, 8 people every<br />

day in Australia are taking their own lives.<br />

‘Imagine if this was a skin eating virus in Sydney<br />

that was claiming 8 lives per day. Do you think the<br />

government might take it seriously then?’, Mr Carr-<br />

Gregg said.<br />

Michael Carr-Gregg went on to say that the major<br />

concerns affecting the mental health of our<br />

teenagers are coping with stress, schoolwork and<br />

body image. These concerns are not dissimilar to the<br />

concerns teenagers had 25 years ago.<br />

So why are these concerns having such a huge impact on<br />

our kids mental health in <strong>2016</strong>?<br />

The Positive Schools Conference was focused on<br />

the social and emotional wellbeing of our schoolaged<br />

children and was attended by more than 500<br />

educators, psychologists, counselors and parenting<br />

educators. As a summary of the two-day conference<br />

presentations, these are the reasons our kids are<br />

now suffering.<br />

Communities have dwindled. There is no longer the<br />

aunt, uncle, mother best, long-time friend for the<br />

kids to talk to. That lovely neighbour who knows<br />

the family who watched out for the kids is no longer<br />

there. There is no village raising our kids and so the<br />

crucial conversations are not taking place. There is<br />

peer-to-peer talk happening without guidance and<br />

reassurance.<br />

Kids are less exposed to risk. Being allowed to climb<br />

a tree, play in the creek or ride bikes around the<br />

neighbourhood are a thing of the past. When doing<br />

these activities there were valuable opportunities<br />

to learn to bounce back from adversity and develop<br />

intrinsic coping mechanisms. Now, our playgrounds<br />

are too safe. We are so concerned our kids might<br />

hurt themselves; we have built soft fall playgrounds<br />

everywhere and low monkey bars. There are no<br />

seesaws to smack you in the chin and no swings to<br />

go as high as you could.<br />

The pressure to be perfect is heightened. There is little<br />

opportunity for our kids to make mistakes and<br />

improve. We are so focused on how our kids are<br />

doing in NAPLAN that we forget to see how they<br />

are doing socially and emotionally. Our kids are<br />

conforming to perfection and not taking risks to<br />

fail and learn. When they are so focused on doing it<br />

right, they loose the drive to do it at all.<br />

We live in a ‘hurry up’ culture. The pace of our lives has<br />

increased. We are constantly on a treadmill from one<br />

place to the next. For kids, who naturally live in the<br />

moment, there is little time to play, learn and for us<br />

to teach. The number of children who can no longer<br />

tie their shoelace at the age of 6 is alarming. Parents<br />

have no time to teach their kids to tie shoelaces.<br />

More importantly, there is reduced time for the<br />

crucial conversations with our kids because we are<br />

running around so much. It is a rush to get the kids<br />

home, fed, bathed and into bed before we wake the<br />

next morning to start again on the treadmill.<br />

How can we as parents and teachers support our kids in<br />

this generation?<br />

Here are 8 insights from the leaders on education<br />

and parenting from the Conference.<br />

1. Build respectful relationships based on love and care<br />

Our kids thrive in environments where they feel<br />

significant and loved. They are more likely to have<br />

the crucial conversations with the people who<br />

make them feel special and loved. Well known<br />

Australian parent educator, Maggie Dent coined<br />

the term ‘micro moments of connection’ which are<br />

those special, little moments like a wink, high five,<br />

spontaneous dance in the kitchen or the ‘I love<br />

you’ symbol you make up with your kids are more<br />

important for building a relationship than scheduled<br />

one on one time once a month. It is not just the<br />

responsibility of parents and teachers to build these<br />

relationships; it is the responsibility of anyone who<br />

is in the lives of a child. Build these relationships to<br />

broaden their community of trusted people. Bring<br />

back the village.


2. Let kids experience risk<br />

The risk obviously needs to be age appropriate and<br />

calculated like climbing a tree at the age of 3 or 4<br />

or learning to surf at 7 or 8 years of age. When we<br />

are less fearful about the world, our kids will be. We<br />

need to let them go little by little so by the age of 18<br />

or 19, they are independent enough to leave home<br />

and make good choices.<br />

3. Give our kids mechanisms to cope<br />

Our kids have fewer mechanisms to cope than we<br />

did. Maybe it is because they don’t experience the<br />

risk to develop these mechanisms or maybe it is<br />

because we don’t teach it to them. Developing<br />

emotional intelligence and understanding and<br />

recognizing their own emotions in important. As<br />

is having strategies to deal with their emotions.<br />

Knowing how to get of the treadmill of our ‘hurry up’<br />

culture is a valuable mechanism to cope with stress<br />

and might be through mindfulness, meditation,<br />

guided visualization or something like using the<br />

‘Smiling Minds app’ regularly. By the age of 10, kids<br />

should have at least 5 strategies they can do to cope<br />

with stress. These strategies will change as they<br />

change their interest and circumstances.<br />

4. Find what your child loves and do it often<br />

This may change often but whatever it is they<br />

love, find it and do it often. Is it a sport, musical<br />

instrument, going to the beach to swim or reading<br />

a book? If a child loves something AND is good at<br />

it, this is what boosts their self-confidence and selfimage.<br />

5. Encourage mistakes<br />

Mistakes are a way to fail, bounce back and is<br />

where true learning happens. When children make<br />

mistakes, they build resilience, develop a have a<br />

go attitude and it encourages our children to really<br />

interact with the world without fear of failure. Get<br />

rid of erasers in the classroom and at home. Provide<br />

opportunities for kids to make mistakes and get<br />

back up again, like riding a bike.<br />

6. Encourage optimism.<br />

Having a positive outlook on life helps kids bounce<br />

back when they hit a hard time or have negative<br />

emotions. This is based on positive psychology<br />

where a positive mindset goes along way towards<br />

warding off depression. If we teach optimism, our<br />

kids will ultimately know that the world is a good<br />

place. This might be through keeping a gratitude<br />

diary together – my 11-year-old daughter and I<br />

write in ours each night and share it with each<br />

other. It might be having a ritual at the dinner<br />

table of sharing ‘My favourite part of the day is…’<br />

where everyone has a turn. It might be as simple as<br />

appreciating nature, seeing the rainbows, playing in<br />

the leaves in autumn, feeling the snow in winter or<br />

watching out for the new baby animals in spring. Or<br />

it might be playing inspirational songs in the car like<br />

‘What a wonderful world’ by Louis Armstrong and<br />

talking about what is good about life.<br />

7. Physical health is important.<br />

Kids need to eat well, sleep well and exercise daily.<br />

They need to see their parents doing the same.<br />

Doing all these things will help fight disease and<br />

illness and also is the beginning of a good habit for<br />

the rest of their lives.<br />

8. Life is meant to be fun!<br />

Using humour and having fun relies on positive<br />

psychology to help kids combat stress. Every time<br />

we laugh or achieve something good, we release<br />

a bit of the happy chemical, dopamine. This makes<br />

us feel good. It is important to have fun together as<br />

a family. Read joke books. Take brain breaks in the<br />

classroom that are fun and break up learning. Dance<br />

in the kitchen. Go on spontaneous outings to have<br />

fun. Plan holidays together that are fun for everyone.<br />

Laugh. Pull silly faces. Create time for fun.<br />

The main message from our leaders in education and<br />

parenting: now is the time we need to focus on the<br />

social and emotional wellbeing of our children and<br />

help them to develop the skills to navigate the ups and<br />

downs of life.<br />

Anna Partridge is a Parent Education, School Teacher and<br />

Mother to 3 kids. She is passionate about working with<br />

families to help them raise confident and resilient children.<br />

http://www.annapartridge.com<br />

About Anna:<br />

Anna Partridge is<br />

a certified Positive<br />

Discipline Parent<br />

Educator, a school<br />

teacher and a mother to<br />

three highly spirited, beautiful children. She<br />

loves nothing more than helping parents<br />

raise resilient and confident children, build<br />

strong and connected family relationships<br />

and strive for calm, fun and happy families.<br />

http: /annapartridge.com/<br />

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