Blackout_ Remembering the Things I Drank to Forget
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I had this great idea: I should try antidepressants. And ano<strong>the</strong>r great idea: I should <strong>to</strong>ss <strong>the</strong><br />
antidepressants and join a gym. And ano<strong>the</strong>r great idea: What about a juice cleanse? And ano<strong>the</strong>r, and<br />
ano<strong>the</strong>r.<br />
My body was starting <strong>to</strong> break down. After an average bout of heavy drinking, I would wake up in<br />
<strong>the</strong> mornings feeling poisoned, needing <strong>to</strong> purge whatever was left in my s<strong>to</strong>mach. I would kneel at<br />
<strong>the</strong> <strong>to</strong>ilet, place two fingers down <strong>the</strong> back of my throat, and make myself vomit. Shower, go <strong>to</strong> work.<br />
I had <strong>to</strong> quit. I would try for a few days, but I never got fur<strong>the</strong>r than two weeks. I became paranoid<br />
I was going <strong>to</strong> lose my job. Whenever I sat down <strong>to</strong> write, <strong>the</strong> words wouldn’t come. The pressure<br />
and <strong>the</strong> doubt and <strong>the</strong> stress could no longer be sipped away. I was completely blocked.<br />
“I’m going <strong>to</strong> get fired,” I <strong>to</strong>ld my boss one afternoon, freaking out over a late deadline.<br />
“Look at me,” she said. “You are not going <strong>to</strong> lose your job.” And she was right.<br />
But she lost hers. The second layoff came a few weeks later, in August of 2009, and when <strong>the</strong> list<br />
of <strong>the</strong> damned was read, my boss’s name was on it, along with half <strong>the</strong> New York office. I couldn’t<br />
believe it. All those months I was convinced I’d be axed, and I was one of <strong>the</strong> only survivors.<br />
Why did <strong>the</strong>y keep me? I’ll never know. Maybe I was cheap. Maybe I was agreeable. Maybe my<br />
name never got pulled from <strong>the</strong> hat. I suspected my boss never let <strong>the</strong>m see how much I was<br />
floundering. She protected me, and she got <strong>the</strong> pink slip. I was left with my job, my fear, and my guilt.<br />
After work, I went straight <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> bar. I had built up a week of sobriety at that point. But no way I<br />
was staying sober for this bullshit.<br />
STEPHANIE WAS THE one who finally confronted me. She <strong>to</strong>ok me <strong>to</strong> dinner at a nice little Italian<br />
restaurant in Park Slope. She adjusted <strong>the</strong> napkin in her lap with pretty hands that displayed a<br />
gargantuan diamond.<br />
“I need <strong>to</strong> talk <strong>to</strong> you,” she said. The bugle call for a horrible conversation. She needed <strong>to</strong> talk <strong>to</strong><br />
me because, at a ga<strong>the</strong>ring at her place, I burst in<strong>to</strong> tears talking about <strong>the</strong> layoffs while we all<br />
smoked on <strong>the</strong> balcony. “You kind of freaked people out,” she said, which stung, because I thought<br />
everyone had bonded that night.<br />
She needed <strong>to</strong> talk <strong>to</strong> me because, at a recent dinner, I <strong>to</strong>ld <strong>the</strong> s<strong>to</strong>ry of a hideous romantic breakup<br />
with such heart-wrenching detail that one of Stephanie’s friends held my hand on <strong>the</strong> way back in <strong>the</strong><br />
cab. That’s how moved she’d been. Meanwhile, Stephanie diverted her sigh in<strong>to</strong> her hair. She’d<br />
heard <strong>the</strong> s<strong>to</strong>ry three times before.<br />
For <strong>the</strong> past few months, I had been hearing about girls’ dinners and group trips taken without me,<br />
and I thought, well, <strong>the</strong>y probably knew I couldn’t afford it. I tried not <strong>to</strong> get my feelings hurt. No<br />
biggie, it was cool.<br />
But sitting across from Stephanie, I began <strong>to</strong> realize it was not cool. Something was badly wrong<br />
between us. And it wasn’t some minor incident on <strong>the</strong> balcony, or a cab, but <strong>the</strong> long string of<br />
incidents that came before it. Discord is often an accumulation. A confrontation is like a cold bucket<br />
of water splashed on you at once, but what you might not realize is how long <strong>the</strong> bucket of water was<br />
building. Five drops, a hundred drops, each of <strong>the</strong>m adding <strong>to</strong> <strong>the</strong> next, until one day—<strong>the</strong> bucket tips.<br />
“I don’t know what you want,” she said. The words scraped her throat, which spooked me,<br />
because she was not a person whose composure faltered. “What do you want?”<br />
And I thought: I want fancy trips and a house in <strong>the</strong> Hamp<strong>to</strong>ns and long delicate hands that show