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can take the emergency<br />
physician away from the<br />
surgeon but you can’t take<br />
the surgeon out of my father.<br />
When I had my first child, the<br />
day we came home from the<br />
hospital my father bought<br />
me a clothes dryer. He said<br />
that it would give me back<br />
some of the time in the day<br />
lost by having a child. Sitting<br />
in our back garden after he<br />
had installed it he told me<br />
that through all the years<br />
of working as a doctor one<br />
thing he knew for certain was<br />
that new mothers needed<br />
and deserved some amount<br />
of time, every day, on their<br />
own even – if only half an<br />
hour. He told me that this is<br />
what he said to every new<br />
mother he treated at the<br />
hospital. I learnt that being<br />
a doctor means seeing the<br />
humanity of your patient.<br />
I think I have always known<br />
how lucky I am to have Joe as<br />
my father. But over the years I<br />
have also learnt that everyone<br />
is entitled to be cared for<br />
by a doctor just like Joe.<br />
Advice about a work issue<br />
I checked my watch. 45 minutes before I need to<br />
leave, almost enough time for one question.<br />
‘Joe,’ I said.<br />
He turned around. I knew from the<br />
change in his breathing and posture<br />
that I had his complete attention.<br />
‘I’ve got this meeting tomorrow and …’<br />
I outlined the situation as I saw it.<br />
Half of his mouth smiled. I started<br />
to describe my solution.<br />
He interrupted. ‘Well …’ Or rather, it came<br />
out as a low grumbling drawl, ‘welllll’. I<br />
knew it was time to listen. I settled in.<br />
He covered corporate psychology, epistemology,<br />
heuristics and philosophy. I learnt about the<br />
one and the many, the difference between<br />
shame and guilt, and how the politics of<br />
scarcity breeds internecine warfare.<br />
In the end I had an answer. Not the answer I expected<br />
and not the answer to the original question, but<br />
the answer to the question I should have asked.<br />
‘Thanks Joe,’ I said.<br />
I checked my watch. I’ll only be a little bit late.<br />
Sandy Hopper | son-in-law and emergency physician<br />
Sarah <strong>Epstein</strong><br />
40 | A tribute to <strong>Joseph</strong> <strong>Epstein</strong>